Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - Storytime - Hey Nixalina, You're the Slut of Singapore, Right???

Episode Date: March 15, 2021

I just can't even deal with this storytime. I just can't.  For more content, head over to: http://sexandsingaporecity.com/ Or come say Haiiiiii Nixxxx on Instagram: @nixalina

This podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships, sex and love. It may not be suitable for younger listeners. This is the Sex in Singapore City podcast, and I am Nick Salina. Hello, it's me. Welcome back to my podcast and happy Monday evening, everyone. I have another story time for y'all. And it's fucking ridiculous. I can't even believe this crap goes on in my life. But it's actually got some undertone moral meaning, which is why I wanted to talk to you about it. And I actually

spoke to recently to the guy involved, which you'll understand later. And he was like, yeah, totally. Like you should definitely talk about it. So here I am. This is story time. Hey, nick selena you're the slut of singapore right yeah i'm the slut of singapore hi hi everyone i'm nick selena watson i have green hair and i am the slut of singapore what so i matched with this guy on tinder bumble and hinge i think right good looking guy oh okay yeah it's okay we message She's like, we were talking about going on a date, but then I kept deleting my apps because, honestly, they're, like, sucking my soul, if I'm totally honest. And then he was like, then I go back on, then he matched again, and then he was like, you know, let's go on a date before you disappear again. I gave him my number, and then I changed my number.

God, yeah. This was, so this was the end of last year. Then I changed my number, and I didn't give him my new one. now I understand why I don't date because um if I don't give him my new number then no funny enough he actually then added me on Facebook like a month after that and I was like what so bless him obviously probably tried to text me didn't get anywhere and then found me on Facebook But anyway, I add him. I'm like, yo, okay, like I'm in a better place.

Let's definitely now actually finally go for a drink. So we made a date. Like, yep, Saturday, cool, let's go for dinner. He texts me on the Friday, the day before. He says, question, I need to ask you something before I meet you tomorrow. I'm like, what? How come people know that I'm meeting up with you? I said, sorry. And he was like, can I call you or let me know when you're free? I said, well, I'm at work so you can WhatsApp me. Yeah, you've been telling people that we're going to meet up. I'm like, I'm really sorry, bro. No, I haven't. I don't know you. I've never met you.

um i mean obviously i didn't say this but like i didn't even give him my new number so awkward i'm not actually running around town saying hey i'm going on this date with this guy like i literally have better things to do good looking guy though you know i'm not gonna shit on him he is he's a looker but i don't know just something i wasn't feeling it wasn't vibing anyway so he gets really shitty and was like um i can categorically say that that's not true you have been saying that you're gonna go on a date with me or something and I just thought what the fuck is your problem like okay I haven't because what's pissing me off already is he's telling me I'm lying and also if we are going on a date why are you so fucking bent out of shape

if someone seems to know about it it just nothing made sense to me at all right but I'm like now and like the first sign of drama bye I just stopped texting he then goes do you know what all good we can talk about it tomorrow I said no thank you to be honest I think you've been fucking rude to me today so no he says okay and that's that as far as I'm concerned that's it done dodged a bullet weirdly aggressive about going on a date with me or someone knowing something i had no idea what's going on didn't really care too much drama for a man i've not met bye anyway about a week later he pops up in my whatsapp again like yo so i ignore him and he says okay i get that you don't want to chat but i thought i should tell you what that was all about

so i go okay fire away he then says well i was talking to this girl tells me her name for argument's sake let's call her Tracy who says yeah I was talking to this girl Tracy and she seemed to know that you and I were going to go on a date and she seemed to know that you and I were talking and she basically said that you were the slut of Singapore and that you had fucked her ex and she like every time I met up with her she had nothing but bad things to say about you I'm like who the fuck is this Tracy I don't know who she is he then sends me a photo this is what she looks like I said I don't know this person he then is like look I'm sorry basically it turns out he said you know she's a psycho which opinion it's nothing to do with me

i don't know her and i'm not saying she is or she isn't a psycho this is just a conversation we had which i'm relaying he she's a psycho which i've realized but yeah i thought you deserve to know what people are saying about you i thought you deserve to know why like you know that that happened last week i'm like mate let me tell you the truth i haven't slept with anyone since my ex since 2016 and he's like well you don't have to explain yourself to me and i'm thinking well i fucking do now because you're telling me that i'm the slut of singapore how can i be the slut of singapore ladies and gentlemen when i haven't even fucking had sex that makes me the worst slut going like i'd like to think if i was the slut of singapore

i would do that title justice you know i would embrace that i'd like to think i would really go all out to live up to the name. Yeah, no, no. I haven't had sex. In fact, now we're going to go down this route because, you know, my sex life and romantic relationship life is public knowledge, so I'm rolling with it. I met my ex and we got together September 2016. I moved to Singapore 2017. We did long distance for two and a half years. He then moves here right in that long distance i didn't go around becoming slut singapore i was loyal i was loyal don't know if he was back in the uk but that's another story so then he moves here so now i have a partner here still just being loyal we split up october 2020

still haven't had sex with anyone what what yeah still haven't had sex with anyone the last time I had sex with my ex was Christmas day 2020 right what are we in March okay how the fuck can I have been the slut of Singapore when I've only slept with one man since 2016 and I haven't slept with a single guy except my partner in Singapore it's fucking madness right so I thought okay what what can I okay this chick says she fucked my ex right well maybe she slept with my ex-boyfriend then well no because that's her fucking my ex not the other way around that can't be it then it dawned on me what guy in my life what man in my life would probably have this kind of woman getting this kind of levels of jealous over a woman me that she doesn't know spreading fake

rumors about me that she doesn't know clearly there's something going on here she seems is she insecure about me? Is she jealous? Who does she think that I fucked? Then I realised. So I text him, babe, don't suppose you know a girl called Tracy, do you? She looks like this. This is her photo. He goes, oh my God. I was like, right, right. So here is the resolve it's a guy that I've like I'm super close to I'm not with and clearly this woman is someone of his past who has been probably watching our social media I don't know I don't know how she knows about me I assume it's from Instagram I have no idea how she knew I was gonna go on a date with this tinder guy because I said like I certainly haven't posted that anywhere maybe she was

watching his Facebook because he added me on Facebook I don't know right but what I do know is she's been with a boy mate of mine and somehow that has transpired to me becoming the slut of Singapore because quite frankly his business is his business her business is her business this tinder guy you're aggressive bro but that's your business what I'm concerned about is the gossip and the lies and the rumors and the damaging of reputation about people you don't know right so for me this whole story is like what the fuck I have been branded the slut of Singapore when I have stayed loyal to one man for over four years loyal to the point that even during our breakup he started fucking someone immediately because he's got no soul I'm still I'm still

loyal like even now I still haven't slept with anyone it's been five months I still haven't slept with anyone because I am not the slut of Singapore I'm quite the opposite and actually I've gone through such a detrimental bad low point since the separation the last thing that I needed or deserved was some girl I don't know claiming that I've had sex with someone I haven't bitching about me to a man I don't know and saying I'm the slut of Singapore which is categorically the opposite of what I actually am and so the moral I want to take everyone listening for this story is don't brand someone that you don't fucking know with something that you've got no proof has happened I mean like okay so someone shares a story oh my god what if we were out to

dinner together yeah okay cool does that mean that I went home with him and sucked his dick no it fucking doesn't it means I had dinner I just so over this kind of surface interpretation of people and especially for the likes of me who run sex in Singapore city I understand how that would give immediate connotations of like I'm sexually promiscuous or I'm sleeping about but that's just a surface brand name that has no reflection on me as a person and I feel like in this mundane age especially social media we're all so quick to judge we're all so quick to make assumptions, right? And often kind of nowhere near the truth. So this person, this Tracy girl, right? The only thing I can think of is she's very bitter or insecure in herself.

I mean, do you know what I did? Ironically, when the guy sent me the photo of her, I just said, oh, she's really pretty. I don't understand why she would have insecurities to the point she's bitching about someone she doesn't know because she's really cute she's really pretty and then that's when this guy's like oh yeah i know she's a psycho well okay bro not my drama but yeah i i genuinely thought she was cute and i just didn't really understand why someone would be going on dates with a guy fucking bitching about me and my sex life that the sex life is non-existent honestly at this point kind of wish i was the slightest thing i bought my vagina has closed up people closed up it's been that long and the reason it's been that long it's not because i

don't have offers of course i have offers it's because i am emotionally led as a woman and because i was loyal to my ex and i loved my ex and the love just doesn't go away and regardless of the fact that he's literally sleeping his way around the island or at least sleeping his way around his workplace bless his little tidy soul i say soul it's a stretch but just because he's doing all that that doesn't mean i have to lower my morals my respect for myself it doesn't mean i have to find my own validation in fucking other people i have had offers i've turned them down i have one really strong male person in my life um that's it who and like he is just a fucking treasure at this point like just a treasure but I'm cool with that like it's okay what I don't

fucking need is people running around the island saying that I'm shagging my way around the island when actually, I've had the hardest, hardest, lowest point in my life. Like, you really don't understand what people go through behind closed doors. And I think this is a really important point to highlight. Like, you don't know what someone's struggling with. You might think, oh, I'm looking on my social media. Oh, look at her. She's great. She's got like, actually, I couldn't get out of fucking bed for like a month. I couldn't sleep. I didn't eat. I lost nine kg in a month and a half not because I was on a strict diet because I felt so physically sick I couldn't put food in and it was just like going all the way through me straight away because I was

in so much pain because of my ex's actions and what he was doing and how he discarded me like an old pair of fucking jeans as if our four years never happened I was in hell just because I don't Well, to be fair, I do talk about that quite a lot. So, bitch, please, you should tune into my podcast. Then you might understand. But just because people don't vocalise what they're going through doesn't mean they're not going through something really bad. And I feel like everyone can try and actually be a little bit kinder to other people.

Stop making assumptions and judgements about someone you don't know. Honestly, if you've got nothing nice to say, don't fucking say anything. Really, it comes down to that. this girl, I'm sure she's lovely. I've got nothing bad against her. I don't appreciate her going around saying I'm the slut of Singapore. I don't understand why you would talk about another woman that you don't know on a date anyway. Like, I don't talk about women on my dates. I don't care. But, but bless her. There's obviously so, for me, it doesn't affect my life. It's very much her shit she's working through. And I totally respect and get that. But I just want to take

this example to make other people realize that we can't make assumptions. We can't make judgments. You don't really know what someone's going through. And actually, if we're kinder to each other, we'd probably all live in a little happier, more positive space, wouldn't we? So to sum up, Nick, Selena, are you the slut of Singapore? No, I am not. I have no desire to be this a lot of Singapore. I have no idea when I will have sex again. I'm sure I'll keep you all updated when it happens. The guy listening, you were really aggressive, you know, like didn't like your vibe. I didn't really understand what you're about. If the girl's listening, come on, sweetheart. And if my bromance listening, oh, you're my treasure. That's all I have to say.

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