Can't Keep My Mouth Shut - There is NO SHAME in Self-Pleasure & Masturbation

Episode Date: January 18, 2021

Let's normalize self-pleasure shall we? Allow me to explain, my lovely ladies, why there are so many benefits to masturbation and discovering your own body. For more content, head over to: http://sexandsingaporecity.com/ Or come say Haiiiiii Nixxxx on Instagram: @nixalina

this podcast contains strong language and discussions about relationships sex and love it may not be suitable for younger listeners this is the sex in singapore city podcast and i am nick selena hi everyone welcome back to another monday evening of my podcast yo how are you all doing Did you have a good weekend? Are we ready for the working week? I've got way too much energy from Monday evening, haven't I? This episode, well, maybe you'll see why I got the energy. This episode is about masturbation. It's called There Is No Shame, capital letters, in self-pleasure and masturbation. Did you hear that? There's no shame. So I am so bloody fed up

of this. I don't know if it's a traditional mindset or I don't know, but this mindset about people giving themselves self-pleasure. I grew up with it. I know most of my friends grew up with it whereas there's a there's some sort of shame attached to wanting to give yourself orgasms for wanting to explore yourself um explore sex toys for yourself you know explore yourself with your fingers guys explore yourself with your hands there seems to be some kind of shame I mean kind of pisses me off. Actually, it doesn't just kind of, it really pisses me off because actually it's normal, it's healthy, it's fucking good and it's the most least shameful thing ever in my opinion. And I just want to try and change slightly, I guess, the mindset towards

masturbation. So I've obviously done my research and got some pointers on why actually masturbation is pretty fucking good and you shouldn't be shameful on any level about wanting to do it. So let's fire away, shall we, with all the pointers on why you should masturbate. point one the main point reduces stress and releases tension so orgasms induce an endorphin release and that's all you feel good or your neurotransmitters all of you oh my oh oh oh and when you have an orgasm and it releases the endorphins obviously you feel better but it also shifts the focus away from anything that is stressing you out so you're having your endorphins it's going through your body you you you've almost meditated I guess into it you're lying down you're

relaxed your mind is not focused on you know what happened in the day your mind is focused on the pleasure whatever fantasy is going through your head at the time you know like it reduces stress and it releases physical and mental tension. Ain't that a reason enough alone to have a fucking play? Number two, it can enhance your sleep quality. Yes, your sleep. As we all know, there's a sexual response cycle. Well, I say as we all know, you might not know, but there is a sexual response cycle. And obviously when you go into sex, you've got everything building up and you know like you're you're getting turned on and your body's like going into that sexual mode and then when you have an orgasm and you climax you have muscle spasms your blood

pressure your heart rate your breathing is always highest you know and you're going through that orgasm and you are unleashing a lot of pent-up energy and tension in your body then it stops obviously because you have orgasmed and then everything is just relaxed and it naturally puts you into quite a meditative state after which is why when you make love to your partner or you have a fucking good time with some guy you're seeing or girl you're seeing or whatever judgment-free zone and you orgasm together or have sex and you orgasm then there's always that like, oh, I just want to fall asleep. So that orgasm and that wanting to fall asleep can happen, obviously, when you masturbate and make yourself orgasm. So if you do this

before bed or in the shower or in the bath, you're actually letting your body get into that like pre-sleep state. I mean, if you think about it, it makes sense, right? Number three, it just in general can elevate your mood. This kind of ties in 2.1, but because of the endorphins release, you actually do feel better after you've orgasmed. This isn't just about release of stress. I just mean in general, you feel like, you know, if maybe you're a bit sad before or, you know, like you're angry, if you're full of rage, whenever you have an orgasm, it actually enhances the mood you're in, which is nothing but a positive, right? Because no one wants to be sad or angry or pent up rage. Like everyone wants to be happy as fuck. So masturbate

and you'll live your best life. Number four, it can actually help alleviate pain, especially for women with menstrual cramps. I mean, if you don't believe me, Google it. But orgasms and the climax is actually a natural painkiller and what it does is it actually helps release your body with the pain and so like say take take period cramps for example and all the muscles are tightened and spasming when you're having the cramps and then after your orgasm um and you climax all the endorphins are released and then everything starts to relax and the muscles start to open up and relax as well um it like it's been proven as much as it can be proven i mean how on earth do you prove that but it can be proven that orgasms can can be a natural painkiller for your body

let's just say they are to give us another reason to flick ourselves off number five they can help improve your sex so when you masturbate and you orgasm on your own it helps increase your own libido, your own sex drive, and it helps you discover what turns you on so you can actually guide your partner. So you know how to get yourself off. I think you can fucking tell them how to get you off. It also makes you more sexually active by yourself, right? So you're learning how to orgasm maybe quicker, maybe faster, maybe slower. You're teaching your body how to get into those orgasms. And the more you have, the more you like it, the more you have, the more you want, rah, rah, rah. And then it all spirals so that your sex, you can orgasm

better. You can show your partner like, no, here, this is what turns me on. Then you get sex is going to get better and then you're going to want more of it. And it's an upward spiral of sexual fun. So yes, masturbation, orgasms, climax can also improve your sex life like tenfold. Number six. Masturbation is safe, easy, and free. Ain't no STDs coming from that vibrator or your fingers. You're STD free, babe. I mean, as long as you are. But this is safe. This is a safe space. You can do it when the fuck you want. You don't have to go out for dinner five times with someone before you get yourself off you don't oh fuck me I just saved my money and fuck me literally it's great safe easy and free like how is that not a positive

number seven your butt thigh and pelvic floor muscles get a workout obviously tightening up your pelvic muscles and that whole area is great especially in the future when you want to have children and you want your body to like bounce back having strong pelvic floor muscles is a really good thing having bum and thigh workouts is a really good thing and if you get into the right position or you know like you're pulsating or whatever you like you're going to be working those sets of muscles which is fantastic number eight it actually helps you improve your body image because I'm like yo girl you're feeling sexual now am I right am I right you just made yourself come and you're feeling super fucking sexy like you almost want to take a lingerie

shot of how hot you are and send it to a guy or a couple of guys or yeah whoever you want to send it to a whatsapp group chat I'm kidding but you're feeling fucking sexy you're like oh my god I just made myself calm and that was brilliant. And, you know, I did it in a couple of minutes or I held out or whatever it is. You are improving your own body image with yourself. And guess fucking what? The best relationship you're ever going to have is the one with yourself, with your mind and your own body. So you better get that shit on lockdown first and start off with yourself. And then when you're like, yo, I am awesome, then obviously other people can come in and make it even better and finally number nine with masturbation you can use

sex toys so me being a single lady I fucking love my vibrators I always to be fair I always have even in a relationship like I would come with my vibrator I am not shy about sex toys at all but then you know I have been in a sex blogger for for like nearly 15 years so yeah there's no shame here but I absolutely bloody love my vibrator right I've been I've tried a few like at one point I was testing rampant rabbits in in London for a job oh my god yep we'll leave that story there so I've tried a few there are certain different ones you can try that you know you will need to find the one style you like I am very much about clit stimulation obviously vibrators can go inside as well then you get the ones with the rabbit ears for the outside for the

clit you've got suckers now oh my god the suckers the one that suck I swear to god I feel like it was a molly orgasm at one point because it was ridiculous I was like there's no way a guy will ever make me feel this way ever but there's loads out there if you struggle or you don't know which one's going to suit you literally you are talking to a sex toy expert by this point so please holler at me as always you can anonymously email or you can drop me a dm on insta I will never share your information and I will always try and help but sex toys are what helped me learn how to orgasm by myself like I couldn't do it with a guy and fingering did me fuck all I was like dude you're boring me like is this is this how orgasms work because then I'm like a fucking baron forever

then I found vibrators and I was like yo shit fucking love this yes to sex toys so get sex toys involved masturbate by yourself live your best life and do not attach any shame to this whatsoever you deserve pleasure you deserve to pleasure yourself you deserve to know what turns you on explore your own body before you let anyone else explore it for you so get involved do what you gotta do bloody love it let me know let me know let me know how your masturbation goes and one final point before I sod off and you go and have a play because I can tell you're getting ready aren't you as a single woman if I still felt shame attached to my body or shame attached to masturbation I wouldn't have fucking come for like five months no way it was much longer than

most of the time I made myself cum a year year and a half two years if I didn't have my vibrators if I didn't explore my own body yeah I wouldn't have an orgasm and that just fucking sucks like why should I as a single woman be deprived of that for me that's like one of the most significant things is why masturbation should be normalized why there's zero zero shame in self-pleasure um if you're single and you don't want to date a fucking turd just for the sake of having some dick or vice versa if you're a single guy then yeah masturbate climax by yourself and live your best self-pleasure life see you guys next week thanks for listening to the sex and singapore city podcast this episode was produced and hosted by me

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