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Episode Date: March 15, 2024

Before diving into listener questions, let's chat a bit about integrity and the value of taking responsibility for our actions. We all make mistakes, it is actually very easy to address them, which allows you to learn and grow. 1. The Digital Dilemma in Parenting: A listener raises an important issue often overlooked – the impact of social media and technology on parenting. As the first generation of parents navigating the iPhone and social media era, how does this consumption affect our children and contribute to societal issues?  2. Finding Footing After Divorce: This two-part question delves into the process of handling separation with fairness and respect, and later, the fears and hopes tied to finding love again post-divorce. 3. Security Concerns and Global Perspectives: Our final question brings an international viewpoint on immigration and security, questioning why the potential for terrorism isn't a more prominent concern amidst current discussions focused on issues like drug trafficking.  Wolf 21- Check out what they have to offer for the best sleep of your life:  https://www.thewolf21.com Use Code: "clearedhot" for 30% off of your 1st order The Speed of War Comic Series: https://www.thespeedofwar.com/ Check out the newest Cleared Hot Gear here: https://shop.clearedhotpodcast.com/  

Hello, people of Earth. It's Friday. We're going to Q&A. We're going to discuss a recent podcast appearance that I had on somebody else's show. And actually in the reversed order. We'll do the podcast first and then the Q&A. So largely normally scheduled programming. Shall we get into it? Let's get into it. Okay, Kathy. West of the smoke. I'm looking at danger close now. All right, everybody. We are. back. If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen, it's funny what you see and what you don't see on people that you follow. I wonder how that algorithm actually works. Regardless, you may have seen, I made a video discussing my appearance on the Patrick Bet David for future reference. I'm going to say PBD podcast that I was on last week. It streamed the same day

and I think they do what everybody else does, leave it up on the platforms beyond that as well. At the tail end of that show, Patrick brought up a video of Sean Strickland essentially saying, I'm tired of hearing about how tough seals are, come and train with me for a week, which I take as him challenging somebody to come and train in an MMA style for that week. and at the end of that video, there's that video from Sean who puts that up. The video that PBD pulled up was one where Sean was speaking, and then a former SEAL Jimmy Watson had a response to it. So PBD pulls this up and he asked me what my thoughts were.

And I responded to him that I did not think that Jimmy's response was a good reflection of the SEAL community. And before I say anything else, let me say this. Jimmy and I have been in direct communication. we've actually had a phone call or exchanges on our phone first and then a phone call. And at all of this, I'm actually glad that we are directly connected. Because at the end of this, what I hope is going to end up happening, and I think it will is we're going to end up sitting across from this table talking to each other. And what I can tell you right now is we probably are not going to agree on this particular video.

And I'm so okay with that. It is exactly what I value when I was going to say the most in this country. I'm not even going to rack and stack what I value the most. But it is one of the things that I value the most in this country is the ability to sit down with somebody and openly discuss ideas. And you can either grab onto those ideas. You can let them go. You could change your mind. You could keep your opinion. And at the end of it, you're not an enemy. Your neighbors and people who don't believe exactly what you believe should not be your enemy. So it's going to terminate, I think, in that, which is going to be fantastic. So I don't think that what he said, was the best representation of the seal community. And if we have the ability to sit down and talk about that, it'll be fantastic. And I don't expect him to change my mind. And I don't expect to change his mind, but we can both lay out where we're coming from and where we arrived at those opinions. Towards the tail end of that, I absolutely made a mistake. What I should have said is this. What I should have said is I don't agree with his answer and how it represented the seal community,

in my opinion, and make sure everybody checks their sources of information. Boom, lockstock smoking barrel. I should have left it at that, but I didn't. Because sometimes I'm an idiot. And the phrase that most accurately described what happened is, my mouth got ahead of my brain, which happens to us all from time to time. So instead of saying clearly and concisely and shortly what I had previously just said, what I said I should have said, I said, I was under the impression that Jimmy had gone to prison. I don't know if I used the term jail or prison, regardless. He had gone to prison for fraud. And he didn't.

And he hadn't. And I shouldn't have said that. I got that information based off an article I had seen previously. And by scene, that is the most apt description. I saw it. I briefly looked at it. Did I read into it as deeply as I should have? No, of course I didn't.

Otherwise, I would have said something differently. But my mouth got out in front of my head. And if you've ever watched this show or listened to it, I've hosted a lot of people who are having their first time sitting down for an interview for a podcast. Or there's a potentially contentious topic and they're worried about saying something that might come back to bite them in the ass. And I always say the same thing. What the guest says is their responsibility. Anything that comes out of my mouth is my responsibility.

And that doesn't change if you go on to somebody else's show. The host can say what they want to say. Anything that comes out of my mouth is my responsibility. So the things that I said, I am responsible for, and I'm also responsible for correcting that. And the video I put up on Instagram, and I did that earlier than the Friday episode, because dealing with or putting that information out in real time or as close to real time as I could, is important. It was a mistake. Mistakes don't get better if you give them more time, right?

It's not like this fruit you put on a tree, and the longer that it sits on the tree, the more ripe it becomes. It actually gets more and more rotten. So that was kind of an attempt at least a real time. I don't even want to say explanation. Apology. That's the only word for it. A real time apology and clarification of what I should have said and what I shouldn't have said. And then today I can actually dissect that a little bit further. Yeah, if you go on somebody else's show, the rules never change. You know, I'm responsible for what I say. So just as I had said on the Instagram video. Jimmy is 100% do an apology from me. And Mr. Watson, you absolutely have it. I am sorry for taking it to that level. I shouldn't have. It's completely on me. I'm not going to

try to justify it in any way because that would just be an excuse on my part. And that's it. I'm going to try to learn from that lesson. And I know what I was going to say before. It shocks me. I put that video up. The response of people, you know, this is good on you. for doing this and this is such a lost thing in our society. And that blows my mind. Making mistakes is really easy to do. I don't think I have a day in my life where I haven't made a mistake in some way, shape or form. And I've certainly fallen short of the individual that I want to be at many times in my life. So it's easy to make mistakes. It shouldn't be hard or much harder to own those mistakes. making that video and saying what I did was not difficult for me. I don't think other people can be

perfect, so I try not to view myself through a lens of perfection. And what I expect of other people is that if they make a mistake, just acknowledge it. And what I would hope, I can't do anything for anybody else, but what I would hope is if you recognize a mistake and you take the time to acknowledge it, you can learn from it. And it can improve or change your behavior going forward. And that's kind of how you evolve as a person, at least in my opinion. And that's the exact same thing that I'm looking at when it comes to this. Providing an apology to Jimmy, not hard. It's 100% the right thing to do.

It's not difficult to make that video. And I'm also not against or afraid or worried about what people may or how people may view me by admitting to making an error. I actually think our society, culture, world would be a lot better if people got comfortable doing that. It's not that hard to correct a mistake that you have made, especially if you do it early and often. If I had waited a year or a month or whatever, some arbitrary period of time in the future, like I said, the fruit on that tree is not getting any riper. It's just getting more rotten. So there's a couple other things beyond the apology that I want to focus on because I bet you most people are defined by their similarities, not their differences. I bet you that I bet you that

almost everybody out there who's going to listen to this has made a mistake in their life. And I also bet that there are people out there to include myself that when they make a mistake, they go down the wrong path. They double down. Instead of just taking a moment to take a breath and realize, man, this sucks. But what I need to do, especially if I want to maintain any semblance of integrity and trust with the people that are in my circle, it's just stand up in front of this and admit that I'm human and I made a mistake and tried to be better from it. So, Jimmy, had originally reached out to me, and this is the beauty of the internet. We had never had a, we still had never had a face-to-face interaction, but we had an electronic interaction. He reached out

to me, and I don't want to go back into the message just because it would take me a while to find it, but essentially was like, hey man, this is Jimmy Watson, and what you said was fucked up. And I'm paraphrasing, not reading exactly what he said. So this is just broad strokes, painting with a broom here. Hey man, what you said was fucked up and you need to go back and you need to correct it. Now, I think the most likely response for most people when you get a response or a message like that. To include myself is this. What? Fuck you. I wasn't wrong. I was right. You get to this place where you feel challenged, maybe pushed into a corner, or confronted with something that you maybe already knew that you didn't say or do something that was exactly correct. And my advice to you,

anybody out there, and the advice that I also followed is, if you get yourself into that position where you're feeling like that, sit with that feeling as opposed to doing something with it. I was thinking this morning, I'm trying to think of how many things in life are truly an emergency that require reaction right now. Like if I don't do something, the world is going to fall apart or my world is going to fall apart. Very few things. If you're getting shot at, you might want to deal with that. If you wake up in the middle of the night and your house is on fire, you should probably take action. Come across a scene where somebody needs medical help and you're qualified to do so.

Probably won't want to provide that in a manner that is expedient. Business decisions, though, there are some that are time sensitive, but are they ever an emergency? A lot of interpersonal conflicts, say, with the conversation with your significant other. How many of them are truly time sensitive, critical emergencies? If you don't have a response, right, boom, now, things are going to fall apart. Almost none, if not none. Point being is this, there's not a lot of upside to responding in that moment where you're having an emotional response. But the downside can be pretty big.

So we went back and forth electronically, which ended up with us talking on the phone. And the cool thing about this is, is it gave, I can only speak for me, and maybe when we have the opportunity to sit down, he can talk about it from his perspective. It gave me more time to think. And the more that I thought, the more I realized he was right. And that's the value of not taking action in that moment where you feel like you need to jump right back at somebody. Because for whatever reason, they put you into a place where I feel like I have to defend myself and just blah. And you want to just take that feeling and launch. Don't do it.

Sit with it. Don't do anything with it. At least, let's say it happens on your phone. Do this. Recognize it's happening. Put your phone down. push it away and give it like a minute, right? I'm not saying you have to address this a month from now. Go for a walk. It would be a short walk, I guess, if you only went for a minute. That would be a walk around your house.

Go for a walk around the block. Whatever it is and come back to that, pick up your phone again and then put it back down and go for another walk. Give it time. The time that I had to think more about it was beneficial to me. And what we ended up doing is having a very cordial conversation over the phone. I explained to him what I wanted to do or what I thought would be or what I could do, actually, you know, because I have social media, I have the podcast, what I could do to correct my mistake. And we ended it. Again, cordial conversation from beginning to end. Contentious topic, potentially for sure. But we didn't discuss it in a potential manner. It was a very straightforward conversation. So, and I basically said, hey, let's get through this Friday episode. I can dig a little bit deeper into what happened. And, the lessons that I learned from it. And then we'll try to find a podcast date going forward in the future. And that's, I think, the value of a situation like this. A lot of people view success. They look at people and they say, okay, that guy has been successful. He has success. I want to mirror and match those things. And I want to talk to him about his successes or how did he do this or how did he get to that level. There's huge value in being around those people and having

people who are mentors who are wildly successful, don't discount the information and value and evolution that you can find by spending time in the trenches. You know, peaks are what we see a lot of the time on social media. The valleys in between those peaks, they're not highlighted that much. And in the grand scheme of my life, I'm not saying this is a huge valley. This is just a really good opportunity for me to reflect on myself, which is not always the easiest thing to do. And what I will say for people is this.

if you have an issue or a personality trait that you have a hard time reflecting on, maybe it makes you a little bit uncomfortable, I would say double or triple your time in that area. Reflecting on the things that you think that you're good at, I'm not saying you shouldn't do that, but spend less time on those than you can or would on the areas where you think you have growth and improvement. And we all do to include myself. So let's see. I talked about the not doing something in that moment, talked about the value of time, you know, waiting and not making emotional decisions. Again, a lot of lessons. And at the end of the day, again, I really look forward to actually sitting down. I'll save the other portion of the conversation that I think that we will have because I want him to be

able to tell that story in his life and the impact that it had when we sit down face to face. But at the end of the day, maybe this is the message I'll leave people with. We all fuck up. don't fuck up more by not acknowledging it. And this is actually what I would challenge everybody listening to this podcast to do. I guarantee you that if you think back on the totality of your interactions and experiences in life with other people, that you can think of one where you fell short of the person that you wanted to be. My advice to you would be this, as small or trite or as minuscule as you may think this is, take five minutes out of your day to think about one of those interactions, reach out to that person

and just say you're sorry. Don't load up a bunch of excuses as to the why. Just say, hey, you know what? So and so, this is fill in the blank. That's where you put your name. You know what? I was thinking back about an interaction or a conversation that we had and, you know, I actually acted like an asshole. Or I wish I wouldn't have acted the way that I did. Or I wish I wouldn't have said the thing that I said. And I'm sorry. And I hope that we can learn from this and actually grow closer together. Now, obviously, change the vernacular to whatever you would want to be. But that's a pretty good template.

Every single person has somebody in their life that they could do that to. Or four, I guess it would be not two, but four. Imagine how much better your life would be if you were able to close the loop on those things. And hopefully these things haven't happened a long time ago because, like I said, the fruit spoils. It doesn't get riper. But just think about that. And that's, it's not hard to do. The number of people who reached out in the messages saying, I can't, you know, good on you for doing that.

And, you know, takes a bravery. And like, it doesn't take any bravery at all. You just sit there and you realize you made a mistake and you own your shit. It's not that hard unless you make it hard. So don't make it hard. And on that note, Q&A, anyone? Oh, here we go. All right.

So I have three for today. Did my best to grab some different topics. but let's get into the first one. Love the podcast. There is a lot of talk about the negative effects of social media and tech on our youth. No one is talking about how parenting has been affected by it as well. I would agree with you on that. A lot of the times social media, the conversations around the addictive nature of social media is focused on the younger generations because they are growing up with it in their hand.

A lot of parents now are the first generation introduced to the iPhone, social media, and tech the way we have it today. I fall into that category. is a part of the social or societal problems we face now with our youth, partly because parents are also consumed by the same platforms and technology. I would love to hear an episode discussing how it's not just kids being affected by these things, but how exposure to parents contributes to it as well. Is it a part of the societal problem we face now with our youth because of the parents and their behavior? Yes.

Of course it is. Where do children look to for their example? who do they more often than not model with their speech, behavior, activities, anything from that role model perspective. They are a sponge. And anybody who has kids can tell you this. They hear more than you would ever want them to hear. They see more than you would ever want them to see.

And those little bastards will repeat behavior that you would not want to have repeated. I swear to God my kids can grab onto my poor behavior and model that. I'm like, did you not pay attention to the times when I did it slightly right? Can we please have an example of that? But I guess maybe that's the way of parenting. I actually believe that the only reason that kids exist is to slowly consume and drive their parents nuts. It's rewarding, but also like being eaten an inch at a time. And if you're a parent, I think you know what I mean.

So the answer to this one is simple, though. It absolutely has to do with the parents as much as it does the youth. And all you need to do, and I'm as guilty of this as anybody else, and it's something I've actively been trying to monitor and manage for a good amount of time now. Go to any restaurant and watch a family of four or whatever number it may be sitting at the table. And what you're going to see most of the time. And it sucks to see this. And actually, you go to any public setting. An airport, a restaurant, a school activity, a school sport, anywhere out in public. But I'll use the restaurant example, because oftentimes families are there together.

Kids' faces are buried in the phone. And it's so easy to sit there and say, oh, man, it's just the younger generation and, you know, they're addicted. And you look one chair over and the parents are doing exactly the same thing. So how as a parent can you critique your children's usage of social media and electronic devices when you are struggling with and probably losing the addiction battle with the same thing? The answer to that is you can't. And I actually think parents can exacerbate this problem.

As a parent, if you are spending time on this anxiety rectangle and you are having outbursts, or you are modeling to your kids' behavior that you see something on this device and you either need to get into an argument online or an argument with somebody in real life, or it changes your behavior for a negative, or if it changes your behavior at all, you are indirectly teaching your children to have the same level of tie and buy into this device that you do. I mean, maybe the younger generation will actually be able to tolerate it better because they grew up with it in their hands. I distinctly remember my first computer class in high school, and I think it was in 1996 or 1995. We're talking dial-up internet with, like, vacuum tube monitors, and it was so limited.

I remember the first cell phone that I got. It was a flip phone. I bought it in San Diego at the mall. And it was one of the ones where you had to bite with your teeth and pulled a little like four inch antenna out. And the first month, I didn't make any phone calls because I think my plan was 60 minutes. And you could roll the minutes over. And I swear, I don't even remember that I don't even think they had texting on it. But I didn't make any calls because I needed more time.

I wanted to have more time on my cell phone plan. And I remember getting my first iPhone and this smartphone and then this bolus of potential information at you. Maybe an argument can be made that our time. children, because they are evolving with it, can adapt to it better than we can. But it is very true that adults are as stuck to these devices as children. You know, one of the things, and I just talked about this on the episode with Bert, where post-surgery in December, really trying to look at and dial in health and wellness and longevity for the rest of the time that I have left on earth. Nobody knows how much time or sand is in the top of the hourglass. So I just want to

optimize what I have. One of the things I am doing is managing my time on my phone, especially at night. I have read some research. You know, it's just screen time. And Huberman is such an asshole. He tells me not to do everything that I want to do. And it drives me nuts because I know he's right, but I just like to do the things that I like to do. One of the easy ones, though, is turn your phone off or not off. But I put it away from me before I go to bed. I silence all of my alerts on my phone. And I've, I tightly manage how much time I am spending on it during the day. But I have switched my evening time activity to reading versus reading on my phone. And it's made a difference in my sleep. And that's actually why I'm wearing this watch. Oh, and a bunch of people have asked me about this watch. This is a Garmin Epic with an X, I think at the end, Epic 2. And I got it just for the biometric measuring ability. I've tried Apple watches.

And I know you can turn off notifications on Apple watches, but this is not hooked to my phone in any way. I get no notifications. I've been tracking my sleep. I've been wearing a chest strap monitor when I do jujitsu to manage or not manage, but monitor my daily activity throughout the day so then I can manage my, you know, perceived caloric intake, output, and rest and recovery. And it's been interesting and beneficial for me up to this point. I won't wear it forever just because I just can't seem to tolerate wearing watches forever

over long periods of time. But that's why I'm wearing it. But I have to manage this device. and if you can't manage the device as a parent, it's just like anything else. If you can't manage your usage of alcohol in front of your kids and your behavior that you model is being shit-faced all the time, or you have a gambling issue,

or you refuse to have a conversation with a significant other that doesn't become emotional and end up in yelling and screaming, and you're modeling a poor relationship environment or parenting environment. All of those things have an impact. these devices are exactly the same. So I think that the responsibility lies on both. And I do think that the kids might be better suited for it. But it's not something that should be left out of the conversation. And I think people should view these devices and their usage of them just like any other behavior. What do you want to see modeled or what do you want to see? What model do you want to set an example?

Do you want to set for your kid? Because what behavior do you want to see modeled in them? And that's a tough one because what does that do? It brings the accountability and responsibility back on you. And so you got to monitor and manage your own shit before you start talking about somebody else's, not the easiest cookie to eat sometimes. All right. Question two. Here we go.

Back into my wheelhouse relationships. 29 years old and currently being divorced by my 25-year-old wife of just over one year, with four years of dating and living together before that. I find myself lost and rudderless like I imagine most folks. are when they are blindsided by a divorce. I'm not innocent. We both had our successes and failures, but she initiated the separation, and I did not see it coming. I am sober and leaning heavily on friends and family that have given me the go ahead to lean on them as much as I need. I am also in therapy and was only suicidal the first night because I slept in our bed as if

things were normal. Rookie move. I'm glad you're past that. My question has two parts. Part one. You often say it's not fair to discuss your divorce without your ex-wife present. That has been a big inspiration to me, and I'm trying to handle this in a way that I can look back on later with dignity and self-respect. How did you start to handle the divorce in this respectful and fair manner? It's commendable, and there are times I fall short into grief and self-loathing. Okay, let's be clear on this. Just because I am unwilling to talk about my ex-wife or the divorce doesn't mean that I always lived up to an honorable standard. during the divorce process, that I didn't lose my shit, not only on myself and on other people,

or feel like I was lost, or feel like it was unwinnable, or communicate in a way that I wish that I hadn't, or said things that I wish that I didn't, or texted things that I wish that I didn't. That is the difference between when I choose to hit record on the podcast or anything that I put up on social media and the reality of real life. I am glad that I don't have a microscope on me at all times every day throughout my life, especially during this process, because I am not a perfect person and I fell short of who I wanted to be and I got consumed by emotions. Probably the primary emotion at times was anger. The beauty of that is, if there is, well, that's a great sentence. There is no beauty in it. I guess the benefit, no, that's not the

right word either. Fortunately, those were private conversations as opposed to anything public facing. I have a podcast, my ex-wife does not. I have a platform, my ex-wife does not. She doesn't have the ability to answer questions like this, like I have the ability to. And it would not be fair for me to just sit here and blast and blast and blast and promote my message in my narrative, absent her having an equal voice. And that doesn't exist. So that is a hard line in the sand that I draw for a couple of reasons. The first one is at some point my kids will probably come back and listen to these episodes. And maybe it's after I'm long gone. And maybe they wanted to get a different understanding of who their father was. What I don't want

this podcast to be is a written history of me being a piece of shit and dragging somebody else through the mud without them having the ability to defend themselves. I don't want it to be that in general, but that's one of the things that I think about when it comes to publicly talking about this. The second thing and the one that has helped me, and you don't have this because of your situation, but this has helped me is regardless of how I feel about my ex-wife, regardless of how I feel about the divorce that we went through, she will be the mother of our children for the remainder of her life, just like I will be the father to my children for the remainder of our life. It doesn't matter how we feel about each other. It matters how we care for our kids.

And I would not describe our co-parenting as being effective, if I'm being totally honest. And that's due to very limited and strained communication of which I'm going to put no fault anywhere. I'm just going to say that is what it is. But again, if this is a record of who I am as a person, and my kids will come back at some point in time and listen to these. Do they need to hear me saying anything negative about their mom? No, they don't. And I do my best, even in personal interactions, to remember that. There is no benefit in me living my life in the rearview mirror. Everything that has happened post-divorce, that has all happened by looking at the windshield. And that's where I'm trying to focus my time. Second part of your question here. You seem to have an amazing relationship with an amazing woman.

not Glover, but the BJJ badass known as Leah. Did you have any fear or trepidation with marrying Leah after how your first marriage ended? Fortunately, I do not have this to consider. But the idea of remarrying scares the shit out of me and I'm excited to be single for a number of years. I have not given up on love and hope to eventually love a woman again. Did I have any fear or trepidation? Yeah, a lot of it. And if I hadn't been able to get to know Leah and who she is as a person,

and the podcast episode I did with her like scratches the surface on how amazing of a woman that she is. I love the way that her brain works. And I love the care that she has for people. and I am just in awe of the effort that she will put into others to help them achieve the best version of themselves. There are so many things that I absolutely aspire to be able to mirror when it comes to being a human being in her. If I hadn't been able, if Chance had not allowed us to meet each other, I do not think I would have gotten remarried. meeting her redefined for me

what love is not that and again this is in no way shape or form an attempt to say anything negative about my ex-wife the people in the equation were different

or at least one person in the equation was different I was at a different time in my life way younger also known as the galactically stupid age of any time for an adult male I'd say all the way up to 40 years old

and then even then, you know, used with caution. Totally different situation. What I feel love is now, the love that I feel now, is a different language than what it was before. Had I not been able to find that, I would not have gotten remarried. My fear in trepidation in marrying Leah was very simple. I was worried that I was not a good enough person for her.

And I still have those worries. She deserves the absolute, best that a human being can give her. And I mean, fuck, I opened the podcast today with a mistake that I made recently. I'm not perfect. And again, I don't expect her to be perfect either. But she deserves the absolute best that I can be as a person. And my fear and trepidation was whether or not I would be able to do that based off of the failure of my previous two-decade relationship. That is a pill that's about the size of a battleship to swallow when something like that falls apart,

at least in my own experience. Then we talked about those things. And there's also, marrying me means you're marrying into my family of having three kids as well. And Leah doesn't have any kids. And we've talked about it. She doesn't have any desire to have kids.

And if anybody does want to have kids, let me loan you mine for a weekend and you'll never have sex again because they'll grind you into dust. It's the best form of birth. control you could ever have. Go borrow somebody else's kids for a weekend. So there's a lot. You know, I was in a phase of my life after the divorce where, from a financial perspective, COVID had just hit. I had been doing a lot of public speaking. All of that. Three years of public speaking

fell off the charts in 72 hours. That was fun. Obviously, coming off a failed divorce, super low sense of who I was from a self-confidence perspective, from just a self-worth perspective. I didn't know if I could be the person that I know that she deserves. And that's where the fear intrepidation came from. So it absolutely existed, but it is because of her that I was even willing to consider that again. And I am so fucking thankful that I did because from a love perspective and a feeling of having a partner, I have never been more fulfilled in my life. And I hope that everybody finds that at some point in time. You know, you're younger, you're single, you're looking forward to being single. Go out and be single. You know, live whatever life you want to

live when you find the right person, you will know it. And I'm not talking about lust, right? We all can experience that. There's no need. You know, it's actually an interesting tie-in when I was talking about the situation with PBD and talking about rushing into things because you feel them emotionally. There's also no upside to rushing into a relationship. And I mean, what I mean by that is getting over the front of your skis and doing too much too soon. it's not an emergency. There's nothing to be lost by taking your time and getting to know somebody and developing that trust. And how much is knowledge and integrity in the relationship and love and respect for who they are?

That takes time. And I don't think you can short circuit that. So, you know, enjoy your time being single. But at the same time, if you find somebody and they're the right person for you, my advice is don't be afraid to cannibal back into the pool. Actually, I take that back. Don't cannibal into the pool. Like put a toe in and then slowly walk your way back in the pool.

All right, last question. I have a question. I watch you and a lot of other veterans. I'm an Australian. Good day, mate. And my question is, why is no one saying that all of these immigrants coming across the border is a security issue and could lead to another 9-11? I understand the fentanyl issue is bad, but wouldn't the government be more worried about

terrorism? I'm not saying that no one is saying what I am. It's just most of the things I've seen and heard on yours and a lot of other veteran podcasts is about fentanyl. From over here, and my view is terrorism should be what makes the government get off their ass and close your borders. As an Australian and the way I look at the USA is very much alike, and I don't like the way the world is going with China and Russia. I don't want to speak Chinese. That shit looks hard. I agree with you on that one. I don't think nobody is saying that. Perhaps it's just a quieter message. 9-11 involved zero illegal immigration. It was people who came to the United States and took

advantage of our visa system. And I don't mean negatively. They just took advantage of the visa system. I am not, I would have to go back in research and I don't want to do this in real time. I think some of them might have overstayed regardless of so. They entered the United States via aircraft. information to me is as dangerous, maybe in a long-term capacity than people coming across the border. Look at the San Bernardino terrorists. It was a husband and wife who never traveled outside of the border, never actually interfaced with somebody with their radical Islamic beliefs that they became attached to. It all happened over the Internet. So is it a risk that people are coming across the border?

Yes. I think the reason you're hearing more about fentanyl is. that it's tangible and you can count the weight or the number of pills. I don't think it's to minimize the risk of terrorism, but the reality is there is a risk there. It's really hard to quantify. There's a lot of people who have said, oh, it's, you know, the military age males are the vast majority of people who are coming across the border. It's not an easy journey, and those are actually the age demographic of people who are most able to do that. So, yeah, you're not going to see a lot of octogenarians coming across the border. And you're seeing younger people, often assisted by those military age individuals. So I put, there is weight and emphasis there for me, but also I understand why it is that age demographic. The risk of terrorism of people getting into the United States, there certainly is a risk of people coming in from an undocumented perspective or infiltrating our country in that way. But we kind of have the same risk. And again, I'll be. I'll

I'll point you back at 9-11. They entered the country legally, planned for and executed 9-11 inside of the United States without really touching any border policy. So I understand where you're coming from. My personal assessment of the border is that it is an absolute shit show right now. I don't think most people realize how many people are coming across the border and what happens to them, whether it's the godaways or people getting noticed to a peers that are now into the 2030s and the percentage of people that are not arriving at those and where they're going and

the government giving them a check and a cell phone and let them go and live their life. Like to me, we absolutely need to clean up our border. I hope it is one of the main issues of the 2024 election. And there's an additional hope on top of that. Whatever the hell they say leading up to the election, I really hope they actually do that. US politics has a history of perhaps not always doing that. do your own research. It is an issue.

I just think fentanyl is easier from a quantifiable perspective. There are people who are paying attention to it. There is a potential risk and threat there. But I think until we start even telling the truth about the volume of people coming across the border and how many of them are allowed into this country, it's impossible to even quantify the threat to terrorism. And then you catch somebody with a backpack of fentanyl. course is going to lead. The news. It's going to lead the news.

That's it for this Friday. Different questions. What else? That's all I got. See you guys on Monday.