Culture Apothecary with Alex Clark - God’s Solution For Anxiety & Biblical vs Christian Counseling | Jonny Ardavanis

Episode Date: September 9, 2025

How do you actually fix your anxiety issues? Ever wondered if therapy is wrecking more marriages than it’s repairing? 🙏👀Pastor Jonny Ardavanis, host of Dial In Ministries, joins me to challeng...e everything you’ve been told about psychology, trauma, medication, and mental health. From whether schizophrenia could be demonic to discussing the cure for anxiety—you’ll learn so many new things!Thank you to our sponsors!ZEBRA — Use code ALEX for 10% off any order.MASA CHIPS — Use code REALALEXCLARK for 25% off.GEVITI — Use code ALEX for 20% off your first purchase.COZY EARTH — Use code ALEX for 40% off.CALIFORNIA MOBILE ACUPUNCTURE — Main — or their Scottsdale location Get $50 OFF your first in-home treatment when you mention Alex Clark at booking!PRIMALLY PURE — Use code ALEXCLARK for 15% off.Our Guest:Jonny ArdavanisJonny's Links:YouTubeWebsiteInstagramConsider the Lilies (Book)👗 Get Alex’s freshest fashion picks and exclusive guest recommendations—delivered straight to your inbox!Sign up for the newsletter HERE:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEEKLY NEWSLETTER SIGNUP⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FOLLOW ALEX:Instagram |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @realalexclark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @cultureapothecary⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @realalexclark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @yoalexrapz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @RealAlexClark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Culture Apothecary with Alex Clark ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcast |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Culture Apothecary with Alex Clark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Cuteservatives Facebook group to connect with likeminded friends who love America and all things health and wellness!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the CUTEservative Facebook Group!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to ‘Culture Apothecary’ on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. New episodes drop 6pm PST/ 9pm EST every Monday and Thursday.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 There are now thousands of people who are going to go to bed healthy that will wake up sick. Because you have thousands upon thousands of people that are being given meds for just the everyday worries and stresses of life. When God interacts with the anxious, he doesn't explain their circumstances or their situations. He mounts the divine pulpit and he proclaims his character. The Bible's prescription for anxiety is never just to cut it out. Stop it. Be done with that. It's always to replace our anxiety with an active trust in who God is. Modern psychology tells people that their anxiety.
Starting point is 00:00:30 is the fruit of thinking too much. Jesus says it is the fruit of thinking too little about the character of God. Is therapy ruining more marriages than it's saving? Are anxiety and ADHD actually medical disorders? Or have we just baptized secular psychology into the church? Today we're sitting down with Pastor Johnny Artivantis, host of Dialin Ministries and former director of student life at the Masters University, to talk about what no one in Christian culture seems willing to say.
Starting point is 00:01:20 Like the difference between a biblical, biblical counselor and a Christian counselor. Yes, there is one. Whether schizophrenia could be demonic and why labeling your kid neurodivergent might be the worst parenting move you could make? I don't know, we're going to find out. Johnny pulls no punches when it comes to psychology, marriage, trauma, medication, and what the Bible actually says about depression, fear, and mental health. If you're tired of vague answers, therapeutic cliches and spiritual bypassing, this conversation will challenge what you believe in how you live. This is not a safe conversation,
Starting point is 00:01:53 but it is a biblical one. Watch this episode on the real Alex Clark YouTube channel or Culture Apothecary on Spotify, which offers video. This is a spicy conversation. Even Christians may disagree. Please have those conversations in the Kut Servatives Facebook group.
Starting point is 00:02:07 That is what it's there for and leave a five-star review for us if you're grateful to have a podcast that isn't scared to dip its toe into some taboo waters. Please welcome Pastor Johnny Artivanis to Culture Apothecary. You say that the mind and the brain
Starting point is 00:02:22 and the brain are not the same thing. And that traditional psychology and therapy kind of blurs that line. What do you mean by that? Your brain is an organ and your mind is immaterial, meaning hypothetically when the Bible says set your minds on things above, it's not saying you're going to place your brain on the table. When it says love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, so mind and strength, it's not saying you're loving the Lord and you're flexing your mind. It means the contemplation. It's the seed of emotions in the Bible. That is your mind. Your brain is an organ. So if someone is to be diagnosed with Alzheimer's or dementia, that's actually a test of your brain where there's empirical data that proves that something is happening in your brain. What's happening in modern psychology is that no test of the brain is actually taking place. Much of the diagnoses that are taking place are based on a verbal assessment of symptoms. And so they're saying this is a mind issue or a brain issue. Those things are becoming conflated when there's no actual testing of your brain that is occurring when the majority of those diagnosis are being given. Do you think psychology is unscientific?
Starting point is 00:03:24 First of all, I think from a preface perspective, you always got to be careful. You know, I would want to be careful in the sense of the immediate rebuttal from people would be, you know, you're a tinfoil guy and you don't believe in modern science. I would say that science is based on data typically. If you're just going to look at the DSM, which the DSM is the gold standard for diagnosing, it's the diagnostic statistical manual for mental illness. If you're just going to look at that, and the DSM-5, which was recently updated, about a decade ago. The way that they're diagnosing it isn't scientific. It's asking questions and then you're gleaning answers. And I told you before we hopped on that I could hop on a Google interview right now. I could type in, I am depressed, a sponsor to that would appear. They'd ask me a
Starting point is 00:04:07 couple questions. I'd say I'd been having frequent mood swings. And within 30 minutes, they would be able to prescribe me psychotropic drugs. They haven't taken a blood test. They haven't checked out my brain. That is different in the sense of if I was going to go to the doctor and have a cancer screening or they were going to measure my lungs or monitor my lungs or say that I have bronchitis or pneumonia. So there is no empirical data. I think that's the main idea for the majority of mental health diagnosis that are occurring in the modern day. Do most mental health diagnoses lack verifiable medical evidence? Well, yes. Yes. There's no evidence in the DSN that this stuff is actually happening inside the brain.
Starting point is 00:04:49 So let's just take an example. If someone is OCD, right, I'm not going to say these things don't exist. And that's not what we're saying. When we talk about ADHD, OCD, defiant disorder, which is just, I don't like authority. That's now a disorder, which is an illness. Okay, so OCD, like, you come to me and Alex says, I can't stop washing my hands, right? I would say, hey, there might be actually something happening, right? You might have something going on.
Starting point is 00:05:16 You might have worry, a control compulsion. But there's no way for me to diagnose it as an. illness, whereas I'm taking a test or evaluation of your brain or your body and saying, yeah, you're sick as in you had cancer. That's what I think at the beginning you were saying people have conflated. So it's not that there's no evidence at all. It's just that the evidence isn't scientific or people talk about chemical imbalance, but those chemical imbalances are based on a survey, not an empirical data. Well, and we know the whole, you know, depression is caused by a chemical and balance in the brain. That was all, it's all marketing garbage made up by Big Pharma.
Starting point is 00:05:53 It's not, there's, it's not even real. Which is why that data continues to be distorted, meaning at the University of Michigan said that the ages, between the ages of 12 and 24, a 66% increase than 10 years ago. That's not because people are actually scientifically more depressed. It's just that more people are saying, I have mood swings and stuff like that. If there's no evidence that various mental health disorders are a medical issue, what are we taking meds for? I think that's the question. And I think from, you know, I'm a pastor. I work with students and part of the heart behind this is going like when I was working in the camping ministry, just from a story perspective, I used to work with thousands of teenagers every single week. And over time, you begin to see just the increase in those drugs. Because when they come to camp, they have to turn those in and then we distribute them at night. So just even within a five-year span, I'm just seeing those things climb. It became like a couple hour, you know, objective at the end of every evening to pass out these things. different medications for depressants, antidepressants, anti-anxieties, all that different things.
Starting point is 00:06:54 So you would say that it's a symptom repression. So if you wake up and you have a headache, I'd say, hey, take an Advil, right? So it's masking symptoms. It's not addressing the root cause. And most of these things, and this goes back to the conflation of the mind and the brain, it's addressing symptoms because that's how you were diagnosed in the first place. You were articulating your symptoms. They give you medications based on your symptoms. And so those things maybe take you to a neurological playing field. And we can talk about this even more as what does the Bible say about this? Because medicine's not bad.
Starting point is 00:07:25 I want to tell everyone, hey, get off your meds. Doctors are an exhibition of the grace of God, right? Yeah, you're not a Christian scientist. No, yeah. There's a real element where I'm going, hey, if you have, if you're super depressed, like postpartum is real. Like there's moms that deeply struggle with depression. Right.
Starting point is 00:07:40 Say, hey, go talk to your doctor, right? There's a real element there. But that's never going to take you. And this is probably where the crux. of my writing is and my work as a pastor into an active trust in the Lord. But those things can, for a moment, level out the neurological playing field, but their symptom suppression, not healing any sort of, I think, key word here is an illness because it's not illness because it's never been empirically verified. And even the guy, Francis Allen, Francis Allen was the godfather in a sense
Starting point is 00:08:10 of the DSM, which again is the diagnostic and statistical manual for mental illness. He is a chair of psychiatry at Duke. He did the DSM 3, which was like the version in the 80s and then the 90s. But then he's actively opposed, not a Christian guy, to the DSM 5, which was released 10 years ago. And he said that there are now thousands of people who are going to go to bed healthy that will wake up sick. Wow. Because you have thousands upon thousands of people that are being given meds for just the everyday worries and stresses of life. So that's an unbeliever, not a Christian. He's just a professor at Duke and he's saying, hey, I once led the charge on the DSM. Now I'm looking at it and saying, hey, this is, this is ridiculous. And he gave a lecture, I think, in 2012, just acknowledging
Starting point is 00:08:56 that, hey, the world in which we're living is just aggressively pushing issues on people. So the statistics, I mean, I think there's 20 million children now, three to 17, that are given meds for ADHD. and if you said, hey, same thing here. Like, if I didn't sit straight when I was a kid in first grade and Wheaton, Illinois, someone has said, hey, Johnny has ants in his pants. Now that kid has ADHD. He is his disease and he will be on meds the rest of his life. So in many cases, not all cases.
Starting point is 00:09:28 So you have there not treating a real illness. It's just a suppression of symptom. It's to kind of level amount. So it's a good question. I think that's why there should be a level of healthy skepticism, the industry in general, not that you look at every single doctor and physician and cross your fingers and call them demonic. Well, here's what I thought was completely shocking. 23% of American adults are in traditional secular therapy. Yet mental health issues are rising 5% every year.
Starting point is 00:09:57 Yeah. What's going on here? We live in the first generation where you're processing tragedy, not at a morning by morning basis because you had to use to read the newspaper. Now all you have to do is refresh your phone and you're confronted with tragedy. You're confronted with, with, you know, this kid's getting bullied and you watch it on your phone, then this tragedy's happening and the world is falling apart. And so you're, first of all, inundated. And Jonathan Haidt talks about that a lot. You're inundated with the depravity and the darkness of this world at a constant
Starting point is 00:10:22 levels. The average person, you and I spend seven hours a day looking at her screen. Abigail talks about that just in regards to the rampant use of phone and technology. Abigail Shrier. Yeah. And there's other elements, you know, like there's a lot of studies in a secular perspective of the rise of pornography consumption and anxiety. So you could say, hey, look at that.
Starting point is 00:10:41 94% of, I think it's 14-year-olds have been exposed to pornography. The average 11-year-old has seen pornography. 90% of men look at it on an active basis. And so that, even in an unbelieving element, when I talk about like a non-Christian environment that has, there's a shared element there, that link. And then you just have to say, well, what's happening there is people are giving labels to what is everyday stresses pressures and concerns of life. So the battle for bread is a good
Starting point is 00:11:11 thing, meaning like, hey, I as a father, I want to wake up and work hard for my family. I get worried about it sometimes. I'm concerned about it. People would say, you know, your general anxiety disorder, 78 million of Americans. But see, this is where I am like, we have gone off the rails here. There is a certain level of feeling sad that is healthy, of allowing yourself to feel anxious when you're getting ready to, you know, give a speech or, yeah, you're worried about, like, providing for your family. And we're trying to medicate every single aspect of human emotion. We need to feel the full scales of human emotion, I think. And that's what sad is, is, you know, speaking of sad, that's what sad is that most teenagers today, they don't ever say the word sad. They say depressed.
Starting point is 00:11:55 Yeah. They don't even say that because they've just been trained to medicate everything and that, you know, you should never feel high highs or low lows. You should always be kind of one note. And that's what they're inundated with at the school level as well. So I mean, you go into a school and people are having trouble, you know, and this is fostered, meaning it's cultivated, it's teased out of people like, hey, are you having a bad day? Do you have bad days consistently? Do you feel like you struggle with your identity or whatever it is? This is true of the sexual revolution in regards to like, hey, have you ever thought someone else? If you're a girl, have you ever thought another girl is pretty? Oh, you're a lesbian, right? There's ways in which we are
Starting point is 00:12:30 we're extrapolating things and we're creating issues that aren't issues at all. So to your point, meaning like, yeah, someone could be sad. PTSD, we're not saying it's not real. We are saying, hey, grief is a real issue, right? And so there's a spectrum there, meaning like my friend tells the story of saying he came back from the military, he had grief. And they said, just say it's PTSD and you'll be on disability the rest of your life. Meaning that, so he's inside, I don't think I have PTSD. But there's other people that you go, hey, we're not saying it's not real. We're just saying the way that it's diagnosed as no empirical data, it's symptom-based. And so those symptoms could be PTSD, it could be depression, it could be anxiety, it could be panic attacks,
Starting point is 00:13:08 could be whatever. Does scripture alone have sufficient answers for anxiety and depression? Yes. If that is true, though, then how do you explain so many identifying Christians suffering from anxiety and depression? Well, when I say that scripture alone has the answers, you know, I would also say that scripture alone provides us with allowance, 1 Timothy 5, to be able to use the remedies in God's world appropriately. So I think that's why you need a healthy level of discernment on when and how you take medication, meaning that God's will for your life isn't just to remove anxiety, it's to replace your anxiety with trust, trust in the Lord, Proverbs 3 5,
Starting point is 00:13:43 with all of your heart, lean not under your understanding. So scripture alone, that's called the sufficiency of scripture. We talked a little bit beforehand on the distinction between maybe what's Christian counseling and biblical counseling. Biblical counseling is based on the underlying assumption, the underlying conviction that God's word is sufficient for all that we need pertaining to life and godliness. That's 2 Peter 1, meaning that God, through his word and through his spirit, tells us how we can live and how we can obey him. I think probably just to go back to a degree when you're saying, hey, why is the world so anxious? It's only rational in the world that we live to be crippled by
Starting point is 00:14:16 anxiety. When I meet someone that doesn't know the Lord Jesus Christ, and they tell me they're anxious, I say, of course you are. And this is probably where we're going into the lane where I would feel the most comfortable going, of course you're anxious, right? That's why Paul describes peace in Philippians for as something that is supernatural. He says, the peace of God,
Starting point is 00:14:34 which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds of Christ Jesus. What does it mean that peace that surpasses all understanding? It just means the peace that a Christian has is nonsensical to the world in which we live. Meaning if someone doesn't know God, you rob God from the picture, you take out a sovereign God
Starting point is 00:14:48 who loves you and is infinitely wise, watching and living in a world where cancer thrives, there's unemployment, there's political tension, there's nuclear weapons being launched into the ocean, and someone says you're anxious, and they're anxious. And I would say, of course you're anxious. That's why peace is so unnatural. And the answers and I would say the basis upon which someone has that piece is derived from the truth that is found in God's word. And the Bible, I think, and we can talk more about this, the Bible has a lot to say about anxiety. There's a lot of examples of anxious people. And there is a consistent, prevalent theme in the way that God responds to those people.
Starting point is 00:15:25 So I had never realized that there was a difference between biblical counseling and Christian counseling. What is the difference between those two things? I think I summarize it briefly. And I think there's different people, people say things like it's just semantics. And I never, I don't really subscribe to that type of a statement because semantics are everything. Words matter. I think just in general, biblical counseling, in comparison with other forms of counseling, maybe including Christian counseling, has as their basis and their foundation, what does the Bible say and approaches it, you know, up until 100 years ago that when someone was struggling with anxiety or depression, the first person that would meet with
Starting point is 00:15:59 them is a pastor, right? Richard Baxter talks a lot about this. And not saying that there's no room for medical professionals, I'm not swinging from one spectrum to another. It just means that the basis for which you immediately consult someone and talk to them if they're depressed or anxious is the authority of God's word. You're examining their heart. You're asking if there's any sin in their life asking if there's anything else what are you afraid about could it be that you lack a trust in god's goodness and control that's why one of the first questions i ask when i ask someone if they're when they tell me they're anxious is i ask me hey is there anything you're harboring if they're depressed i say is there any sin you're harboring why well because psalm 32 says when david kept
Starting point is 00:16:35 silent about his sin with bashiba he says his body was wasting away and he felt as if he was being drained by the fever heat of summer because he was crippled with anxiety and depression he says i didn't want to move he felt like a raisin in the sun so often i'll i'll ask these questions and I'll say okay there's nothing here nothing here nothing here maybe at that point it's good to go check with your physician I would say a lot of Christian psychology begins with psychology and then there's maybe a Bible verse that could be sprinkled on top of it I'm not trying to be unfair here I just think that biblical counseling makes as it staunch claim and conviction we start with God's word we're not denying God's grace commons grace in medical professionals but we want to
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Starting point is 00:20:31 I think Jonathan Fields is a guy that has that type of a ministry. He's associated with Alistair Begg. So I think they make it very known. So I would just say, how are they evaluating the symptoms and what are they, what questions are they asking and what prescription are they providing? Are biblical counselors truly equipped? to handle severe trauma? Yeah, I think in many cases.
Starting point is 00:20:52 And then there's other cases where, like, I, there's this guy that I'm friends with Dr. Greg Gifford. He wrote a book called Lies My Therapist Told Me, which is probably the more fluent, articulate answer to some of these questions because he's in the biblical counseling world. And he would say, I began to answer those questions. He was in the military.
Starting point is 00:21:09 He's who I mentioned. He would say, yeah, I've dealt with people with trauma. I navigate that. Sometimes I'm saying, what fear, where's your mind going? And this is really where the Bible speaks prevalently, meaning if there's not anything happening that's measurable on the brain, where are you setting your mind? Because sometimes people would say, well, panic attack is involuntary response. And then he would begin to ask questions and unravel. Okay, what are you thinking about? What are you thinking about? There's a reason why the Bible says, set your mind on things above. Ephesians 423, be renewed in the spirit of your mind. Romans 12, do not be conformed to this role, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. So a lot of these questions have to go with, what are you thinking about? And he'll meet with people. to answer your question regarding trauma, there might be some elements neurologically playing.
Starting point is 00:21:52 He might say, hey, go visit a doctor. Go visit a physician. And if there's nothing happening there, there's no empirical data to suggest that something's happening there, then maybe we just come back and we do believe that God's word is sufficient, not meaning like it's not just one of many tools
Starting point is 00:22:09 or, hey, we might memorize a Bible verse. It's sufficient for life and godliness. That's not saying we hate doctors. We appreciate doctors. My brother's a doctor. But yeah, in many cases, I would say it's sufficient to be able to handle trauma. Do you think that most secular therapists are predatory? Define predatory.
Starting point is 00:22:26 More likely to break up a marriage than try to save it. In some cases, you know, there's a term where you're basically creating more harm than helping, right? In the sense of when a kid that is bullied at school hypothetically goes to visit a therapist, he ends up harboring all of his anger and he ends up becoming angry and bittered, more than he would have been if he just was like, you know, I'm going to get a new group of friends or something like that. And bullying is obviously awful. Regarding marriage, I think that it can be more harmful than helpful. I think it depends on the therapist that you're visiting. But a lot of these therapists are not addressing the problem of the human heart.
Starting point is 00:23:08 So they're going to pin the problem on the spouse. So let's say if I'm meeting with a guy and he says my wife is a real jerk, Okay, and I'm just going to put this in my language. I'm going to say, well, according to the Bible, the Bible says you're to wash her with the word of God. The Bible says you're to love her as Christ loved the church. You're thinking about yourself too much. This is all about how she's treating you.
Starting point is 00:23:30 You're not mentioning anything about the way that you're treating her. Well, I'm trying to be selfless. Well, even there, I can tell that you're developing bitterness and your heart towards her. And it says in Hebrews, let no root of bitterness spring up within you that many be defiled. You're actually, your heart is becoming calcified and corrupted by the level of bitterness that you have against her. Right?
Starting point is 00:23:45 I'm going to say, this is a you problem. I'm going to say, yeah, she might be sinful, but make sure your heart's right. And you're to pray for her. You're to win her over. You're to wash her in the word of God. You're, you know, so I would approach that differently in saying God hates divorce too. God hates divorce, except for the unchastity, Jesus says. And you would say maybe neglect. He hates divorce. So if I'm talking to a couple or if I'm talking to a man that's married to another woman, that's not even on the table. So I think when you're talking to a therapist, you know, I don't know what the stats is, but it's no better in the church than it is in the secular world. But half of marriages ended in divorce. So they are probably initially even approaching the conversation as if that is an option. Modern psychology is often rooted in humanism. So I guess my question would be, should Christians even engage with a field that is built on fundamentally anti-God presuppositions? I think that, you know, Jesus says to be shrew to serpents, innocent as doves, right? So I read and engage on that so that I can exercise a healthy level of discernment so I know how to talk to people. I would also say that this has creeped into the Christian church as well,
Starting point is 00:24:48 meaning like there are guys that I respect that would maybe lean towards more into the psychological element of things than I would. And so I want to be careful too, like because I think there's there is a spectrum, you know, meaning like let's just all approach it. We'll just slap a psychotropic drug to it. Then there's like, okay, well, I don't think that's the exclusive answer, but we're a little bit over here. We start over here and then we also sprinkle a Bible verse. There's people that are like, and this is your, in a way, an answer to your question of, is the Bible sufficient?
Starting point is 00:25:17 There are also people that are, hey, only scripture, don't ever see a doctor or you're not trusting the Lord. It's a sin problem, right? When a mom might be really battling with postpartum depression and she might actually need something to level out the neurological playing field. So there's an element where Martin Lloyd-Jones talks about how we are embodied beings. We are body, soul, and mind, and even I'll talk about this as the conversation unfolds. But when God comes to Elijah, who's deeply depressed, he proclaiming,
Starting point is 00:25:41 names his character, but he also gives him a nap and a snack. And I think there's an... Of that. He's a, yeah, come on. He's mindful of our frame that says in Psalm 103. He knows that we're bodies, right? And there's emotions and stuff like that. So as far as your question, should we even be engaged or should we be informed? I think that you'd have to approach it. My big idea here would be with a healthy level of skepticism in regards to how things are being diagnosed and then the prescriptions that are being provided based on that diagnosis. And the lion's share of what I've, I would say I speak to or I, you know, when I pastor and when I counsel, is your everyday worry about my son, my daughter, my finances, my future, my relationships. But sadly, much of that,
Starting point is 00:26:27 just what's under that general banner, I'm single, I want to get married, will I ever get married? If you have that thought as you go to bed at night, general anxiety disorder, here's a pill. And that's what even Francis Allen, who I mentioned, who is not a believer, who's a professor at Duke said, hey, that's just an everyday worry, but now you're giving a psychotropic drug for it. Where does scripture actually address anxiety, depression, fear, and how should that shape our view of mental health? You know, what's one of my favorite questions? Because I think people that struggle with anxiety and depression, there's this underlying guilt as they even talk about it. And I would just say, hey, listen, let's just use some examples. And I don't want a tangent for a moment.
Starting point is 00:27:02 But if you think about Moses, you know, R.C. Sproll used to say he is the most important person in the Old Testament. He gives the law. God commissions Moses to go to Pharaoh. And when he commissions Moses, Moses says, I can't go, send someone else. He's crippled by anxiety. He has a speech impediment according to his own testimony. I can't talk good. Send someone else.
Starting point is 00:27:20 So he's crippled with anxiety. and that's a guy that stands shoulder to shoulder with Jesus Christ at the Mount of Transfiguration. So that's Moses. Job, there's 15 times in the Old Testament, the Hebrew word Tom is used. That word means blameless. Only once is it referred to a man. If you know the story of Job, and Job 1 and 2, his life is destroyed by Sabians, Chaldeans, wind and fire, he's left there childless. His livestock is dead. His servants are dead. And he's sitting in a pile of dirt scraping his boils with a shard of pottery. his wife tells him the curse God and die.
Starting point is 00:27:53 And at the beginning of the book that bears his name, he says, naked I have come from my mother's womb, naked I will return, blessed be the name of the Lord. But by the middle of the book, he's saying that his whole life has been tuned to the sound of mourning. He's a companion of jackals. When do jackals hang out at night? He's just saying, I'm an insomniac and I'm depressed. And my whole life has been tuned to the sound of mourning. And he's asking God, where are you?
Starting point is 00:28:17 Where are you? I'm depressed. He's in the muck in the muck and the mire. Elijah, I mentioned, the greatest prophet in the Old Testament. Moses and Elijah stand shoulder to shoulder with Jesus at the Mount of Transfiguration. Elijah in 1st Kings 18 calls down fire from heaven. And I just sometimes, especially if people have grown up hearing Bible stories are like, yeah, yeah. No, just, hey, there's only, there's a rare event in history when a guy calls down fire from heaven and says,
Starting point is 00:28:41 Yahweh is the only true God. He defeats 850 false prophets, slaughters them. And then in the next chapter, he finds out that Jezebel is wanting to kill him. and he runs for his life, sits down under a tree, is so suicidal, he begs God to kill him because he's so depressed and fearful. And I'm mentioning these guys, and I'll get to the theme, David would be my last example.
Starting point is 00:29:00 There are 42 kings in the Old Testament. Only one of them is referred to as a man after God's on heart. That guy's name is David. And David is a man's man. We'll put it that way. It is sung of David. That guy has slain his 10,000s. I mean, not a song that's ever going to be sung of me,
Starting point is 00:29:18 but he is a man's man and he writes great truth about the Psalms but in the Psalms he also articulates his lament 33% of the Psalms are lament which is people pouring out their heart to God saying where are you tears right and David writes every single night I make my bed swim with my own tears
Starting point is 00:29:33 where are you God? Why are you so downcast on my soul? I mentioned those four examples in the Old Testament and we'll get to the new but that's David Job Elijah and Moses because those are four of the godliest characters in human history You name your sons after those characters.
Starting point is 00:29:50 And they're deeply depressed to the point with a couple of them that they're suicidal. Now, one of the ways in which God responds, well, the way God responds routinely, as he does with Job, God responds to Job and he doesn't say, let me tell you why this is happening. He responds to Job by saying, let me tell you who I am. When God interacts with the anxious, he doesn't explain their circumstances or their situations, he mounts to the divine pulpit and he proclaims his character. that is the routine prescription that the great physician God himself gives to those who are anxious. To Moses, when Moses says, I can't talk, God responds and says, who made man's mouth? Is it not I, the Lord?
Starting point is 00:30:28 I'll be with you. When Elijah is anxious, God proclaims his character. Yes, he gives him a nap and a snack first, but he proclaims his character. To Job, God comes out of the whirlwind, and you think Job has gone through it, right? His kids are dead. His livestock, his servants are dead. His house is destroyed, and he's sitting in a pile of dirt. scraping his boils. God comes out of the whirlwind in Job 38 and says, Job, gird your loins, literally. And then God goes on a four-chapter manifesto proclaiming his sovereignty, his love, his control, his wisdom, and his mercy. And he begins to ask Job questions, where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth? Have you ever in your life commanded the morning? Does the lightning tap you on the shoulder and ask you where to strike? God responds to the anxious routinely this way.
Starting point is 00:31:13 Same thing with David. When David is anxious, God responds by proclaiming us, character. Now, I've mentioned that's the Old Testament and people say, oh, that's the old testament. What about the new? Well, because God is the same yesterday, today, and forever, right? So is the prescription that he is the great physician provides. And I think going back to your original question, I used to tell students this. And I remember one time I was preaching on this at a camp and a guy stood up and said, how dare you? But I told students, if Jesus, you know, we're sitting here in a studio, if you were going to be interviewing Jesus of Nazareth, 2005, he's sitting here in a chair, he'd have nothing new to say that was not already in his perfect, inspired, and sufficient word.
Starting point is 00:31:56 He wouldn't be saying, you know, I have read this new book. I've written a book on anxiety. I wrote, considered the lilies, but it's about God's character. But he wouldn't be saying, read this. He's saying, it's already been revealed here. I've already given you the truth. And so, when Jesus shows up on the scene in Matthew 6, he's addressing a multitude of people who are very anxious. And we always say, well, they were farmers with pitchforks and we're dealing with nuclear warfare. I just, I always want to bring people's mind back to the reality of what the people of God, those, the Jewish people were under at that point when Jesus came. They were under the ruthless regime of Rome. It was literally in that same context, the greatest prophet
Starting point is 00:32:34 that had arisen in 400 years, John the Baptist, he was literally beheaded by Herod. chopped off his head because he didn't like what he had to say. Rome used to crucify men, women, and children for 40 miles leading up into a city, signifying, you do not mess with Rome. And this was the oppressive regime that was ruling over the people. The thought of how am I going to provide for my family, my relationships, and my future was a very real thought. And Jesus doesn't go up and down the line saying, all right, this is why I think even, I would want to couch even some of the answers I say in an element we're going,
Starting point is 00:33:04 what if Jesus talking, the way that I answer on a podcast that's going to seem by a lot of people is a lot different than the way that I would answer if I'm sitting down with you and you're crippled by anxiety because I'm a pastor and I love people. But Jesus doesn't go up and down a line and legitimize or delegitimize people's anxiety. He takes everyone's anxiety and says, do not worry.
Starting point is 00:33:25 That Greek word is Meramnao. It comes from a compound Greek word Marizzo, which means the terror, divide, an nuis, the mind. It means a divided mind. Do not worry. And then he doesn't just stop there. And I think this is really important. The Bible's prescription for anxiety
Starting point is 00:33:38 is never just to cut it out, stop it, be done with that. It's always to replace our anxiety with an active trust in who God is. And that's why Jesus argues from the lesser than to the greater than and says, hey, look at the birds of the air. Do the birds elect captains of food acquisition? Do they have chief supply chain officers? No, and then I care for them. Look at the lilies at the field. And so he draws their attention.
Starting point is 00:34:00 Then he's going to say, and if God cares and provides and loves the lilies, how much more does he care, provide, and love those who are made in his image? He wants them to think, and this goes back to modern psychology. Modern psychology tells people that their anxiety is the fruit of thinking too much. Jesus says it is the fruit of thinking too little about the character of God. So modern psychology says stop thinking. Jesus says start thinking about who God is as your father. Now, I don't want a filibuster here and I want you to intervene. If Jesus says that the antidote to our anxiety are worry,
Starting point is 00:34:32 the everyday stresses pressures and concerns of life, is not fixing our gaze on God because faith is not a thing. Faith is an exercise, meaning people say things like, I placed my faith in God. That's different than in every day we walk by faith.
Starting point is 00:34:47 If the antidote to our anxiety is gazing at God, fixing our faith on Him, then what we need to do as Christians is to ground our faith and deepen our faith in who God is because people say things
Starting point is 00:34:58 like trust God and it seems like an empty cliche, a Christian platitude when you don't know God's character. For somebody who has really never heard this before or they're like, oh, I'm a lifelong Christian, but I guess listening to Pastor Johnny, I'm realizing maybe I don't know the character of God as well as I should, where is the best place to start to really deepen your understanding of the character of God? Well, in God's Word.
Starting point is 00:35:20 So where would you tell them? Like, read this first. You know, it's a great question. But a lot of people ask me, what's your favorite memory verse or something like that? I would say, well, God's truth isn't given to us in just little snippets. It's given to us as a story. So there's a story in God's Word. And this is why I love the Bible. I love to preach the Bible. I believe that God's answers are given in God's word. So I would say it's the entirety of who he is. So as an example, in my book, Consider the Lilies, I take seven stories or seven attributes of God as that are fundamental to our experiencing of peace in God's world, meaning an attribute to God. God's love, God's sovereignty, which means that he rules and reigns, his wisdom, his omniscience,
Starting point is 00:35:59 that's taken from the Latin word onuscansia, all knowing. that he hears us, that he hears our prayers, that he's with us. God is a refuge, Psalm 46. So I begin to look at a lot of the Psalms, right? Because a lot of this truth is found in the Psalms, but it's found elsewhere as well. Take Psalm 46, for example, that's written against the backdrop of the nation of Assyria is encroaching in on Israel. And they're saying, we're going to destroy you, we're going to wipe everyone out. And then God sends out the angel of the Lord and wipes out 186,000 Assyrians. That's a story in the Bible. Psalm 46 begins with these words. God is a refuge. He's a defense for us and our strength. I like to pause in those words
Starting point is 00:36:38 because God's not only there for us when we're depleted of strength and we run to him, he's our strength, he's our refuge in, but he's also our strength. He's our defense and our offense. And it says an ever-present help in times of trouble. The literal rendering in Hebrew is that he is as near as your next breath. You don't have to travel to God. And then it says, therefore we will not fear. But I take a chapter just in that, this is just, and this is what I was preaching throughout my church going like hey I hope this is helpful developing the conscious awareness that I am with God at all times David was on the run for an example from King Saul for a decade of his life and Psalm 139 is one of the greatest of Psalms he says oh Lord you have searched me and you know me you know when I sit when I rise
Starting point is 00:37:20 you perceive my thoughts from afar and he says where can I go from your spirit where can I flee from your presence if I go to the heavens you're there if I make my bed in the depths you're there he's just saying wherever I go, God, you're with me. Even if I make my bed and shield, if I go down to the darkest, darkest place, you're there with me. So God's presence then becomes something that buoys his anxious heart, God's love. So you could go on and on and on. You can't look at God's character as pieces of a pie. And I talk about this, I think, a lot, but meaning that God's not 20% love, 20% just. He's all of his attributes all of the time, which means A.W. Tozer says it takes a whole Bible to make a whole Christian. And I love that line because a lot of people take a certain idea about
Starting point is 00:37:57 God, like, let's just meditate on his love. But if you meditate on his love at the expense of meditating on his sovereignty, you're going to view God only as a father without viewing him as a king. If you view him only as a king and his sovereignty without viewing him as a loving father, you're going to view him as this authoritative figure that's capriciously pulling strings. Let's give this guy a bad day because, you know, I remember when my friend's mom died, someone came up and slapped him on the back and said, God's in control. There's truth in that, but I never want to separate God's control from his wisdom and his love and his perfect plan for your life as a father. And so when you say what's the best place to start, I would say, well, you need to develop a deep understanding of the comprehensive
Starting point is 00:38:35 nature of who God is. Yes, that starts in one place, meaning like you don't start as a theologian, but every Christian should have that, right? Should want to know God more. That's our greatest privilege in life. Philippians 4-6 says, be anxious for nothing, meaning God doesn't want you to be anxious. He says, but by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God. Then it says, and the peace of God, which surpasses all, you know, all understanding will guard your hearts and minds. That word for guard is like a double-walled city. So I sometimes ask people, do you want your heart and mind guarded like a double-walled city from anxiety? Well, that's what Paul says. And then what's the answer? Well, it says in Philippians 4-8, then whatever is pure, excellent,
Starting point is 00:39:17 noble dwell on these things. We're dwelling on the character of God as revealed. in his word, which is vast and amazing. It's not just a memory verse here and there. It's a deep exposure and meditation. And I think meditation is maybe worth talking about to who God is. Why is it a huge mistake for parents to allow their children to grow up identifying with a diagnosis? Well, because it becomes the conception of who they are, right? So, for instance, you know, like my friend was telling me about, you know, their kid, couldn't pay attention in school after COVID. Greg Gifford talks about this in his book, Lies. My therapist told me. what he said after COVID.
Starting point is 00:39:53 My son had been homeschooled for two years. They said they wasn't sitting still. They wanted to give him pills for ADHD because first of all, it makes the teacher's life easier. And again, he says that this used to be just called ants in your pants. And they wanted to be able to give him a tutor. But in order to give him a tutor, they had to give him the diagnosis. But then this kid is going to grow up his entire life saying, I have ADHD. And he's like six years old.
Starting point is 00:40:16 So you become your diagnosis to your point. Carl Truman talks about this a little bit in the rise of the modern self, the rise and fall of the modern self. That's based on, you know, even in the sexual realm, people say, I am my sexual identity. Sexual expression used to be a behavior, but now it's an identity. Same thing with diagnosis. It's not just an exhibition of who I am or what I'm feeling emotionally. I am OCD. I am ADHD.
Starting point is 00:40:43 And so it allows the culture or a survey-based test to define your identity. identity rather than God in this word because you're not your diagnosis. You're a child of God. So how should a parent respond if their kid is given some kind of label like that? I would say with a level of discernment. This is right where like if I'm talking with a parent, I would say like, hey, I would make sure that you're walking with your child, making sure that they're not overly leaning into that type of understanding of their diagnosis, that they know who they are, that as a child of God, that they're loved by God. Because the world's going to definitely feed them a certain agenda. So I would just make sure that they're protecting their child,
Starting point is 00:41:22 bottom line, protecting their child from themselves, right? Because people say, like, I want my children to just, I want them to be free. I want them to live with an open mind. No, no, no, that's the problem with the world. You want to close their mind, guard their minds. That's why it says over and over again in the scripture, guard their minds. Proverbs 423, watch over your heart, the seat of your emotions. It could be interchangeably with your mind with all diligence for from it flow the springs of life, meaning you don't want your kid to grow up thinking what the world feeds them. You want to feed them the truth of God's word and for their understanding of their identity to be rooted in what God says, not their teacher or their psychologist says. There's an element where,
Starting point is 00:41:59 yeah, I think sometimes those tools and those resources and those medical professionals can be helpful, but you just don't want them to become their diagnosis. What do you think the biblical response is to so many kids being labeled neurodivergent? When you say neurodivergent, what do you mean by that? You scroll through TikTok and it's like every kid who has any sort of cork difference. Yeah. They're somehow on the spectrum, right? And I mean, you have the very obvious kids who are being diagnosed with autism that are headbanging and nonverbal, whatever. That's obvious.
Starting point is 00:42:35 But then it almost seems like any little like, oh, I'm obsessed with stamp collecting. Well, you're autistic. It's like kind of this overarching, like we're just giving everybody this label because it's better to be perceived as any sort of different than it is to just be normal. It's almost like it's a crime to be normal. There's a study done and I don't want to butcher the information, but it was based on a few years ago when everyone was saying they had Tourette's. So it became like a theme on social media and one of the Tourette's leading doctors came out and said there's no evidence that this is Tourette's. It's a social media phenomenon. Social contagion.
Starting point is 00:43:11 Yeah, yeah. Tarets is real, but then everyone was like, I also like to just shout expletives randomly, so I must have Tourette's as well. You know, I went to the doctor when I was 20 because I couldn't sleep at night. I had a hard time. I was a double major accounting and finance. I went to the doctor and did a sleep study. They told me I had Asperger's.
Starting point is 00:43:30 And, you know, it's one of those things where I'm like, I don't know if I have Asperger's, but it was just based on me telling them I don't sleep well. And it's everybody's on the spectrum, right, to a certain degree. But they asked me like, why can't you sleep at night? And I said, hey, you know, I said, sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night. And I just, I forget how many career rebounds Charles Barkley had. And I have to know the answer. And I'll freak out until I have, you know, so I'll wake up and I'll Google my phone.
Starting point is 00:43:51 And within three minutes, they said, you have Asperger's. And it was one of those things where you're going, hey, I still to this day, it's like a joke. I don't know if I, you know, but then there's people I grew up with that are definitely artistic. It's a real thing. Yeah. But it just goes to the ease of which people say like it's, it's diagnosable in the sense of, you know, neurodivergent there.
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Starting point is 00:46:59 Is traditional secular therapy ruining more marriages than saving them? I think to a degree it can be more harmful than helpful. And we've talked about this a little bit, but I do think that. sin. There's sin is ruining marriages. So you'd have to say that, you mean like you can't blame your therapist for ruining a marriage. Marriage is, it's not a cultural construct. It's, it's God made and God ordained for human joy and human flourishing. So God makes marriage. And people go into marriage thinking that it's something that they can get out of when it's not working out. So a flawed view, I would say, I wouldn't blame therapy necessarily or psychology. I would go into, I would start the
Starting point is 00:47:38 conversation by saying a flawed view of marriage is why so many marriages fail. People go into marriage, not understanding what it is, biblically speaking. It's God's gift to mankind. It is the central metaphor in the Bible. The Bible starts with a marriage. It ends with a marriage and the central metaphor of the Bible is Jesus and his bride, which is the local church. And so I think when you distort, or I would just say bare minimum diminish the construct of marriage. It's being culturally redefined. It can be anything you want. People, you know, you know celebrities that have been married five times. I don't know that's because they've gone to therapy. It's because they've entered marriage with a wrong view of what it is. And the ripple effect of that is massive. And that includes counselors and
Starting point is 00:48:18 therapists and psychologists saying, this is a marriage you should get out of. When you're talking about marriage and how it is supposed to be built around the biblical definition of love, how would you describe that? Well, it's not my definition. It's God's definition of love is synonymous with sacrifice, right? That's Ephesians, right? Like husbands love your wives and then it says, as Christ loved the church.
Starting point is 00:48:44 Ephesians 522 says, Wives be subject to your own husband to ask to the Lord for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. So people get on their heels about this. Okay, are you saying that I have to listen and submit to my husband?
Starting point is 00:48:56 But then it says here, well, the husband you're submitting to, 525, husbands love your wives, just as Christ also love the church and gave himself up for her. So what is that love? Well, it's sacrifice, it's humility, it's service, it's others-mindedness. You know, we talk about love in a contemporary sense.
Starting point is 00:49:15 We're often talking about infatuation and attraction. And attraction is not a bad thing. There should be a level of attraction. Genesis 24 is the longest chapter in Genesis. It's all about Isaac and Rebecca and how he thought she was beautiful. So there's nothing wrong with that. But it just in the sense of biblical love is you're going into it, not saying, what is she going to offer me?
Starting point is 00:49:33 but what can I offer and how can I love her and vice versa? And so it's not 50-50. And I remember my dad saying this at my wedding when he married me. It's 100 to 100 year to love each other. As Christ loved the church, well, how did Jesus love me? Paul just says it. He gave his life for me. Has therapy contributed to the feminization of marriage?
Starting point is 00:49:52 So encouraging this emotionality, which is typically seen as a more female trait over the man leading and having responsibility for the relationship. relationship, et cetera. I think that therapy could have an influence on it. I think the feminist movement has a big influence on it. I think the Christian world has conflated, you know, gender roles and just categorically in a sense. Do you think more women are leading their marriages than men today?
Starting point is 00:50:18 Sadly, yeah. I think there's a reason why in Genesis, again, not my, not my idea. But when sin enters the world, it says in Genesis 315, I will put M.A. God says it's between you and the woman, meaning the first thing that happens, the first thing that is affected as the fall of man is the relationship between the man and the woman. He says, in verse 16, to the woman, he said, I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, and pain you will bring forth children, yet your desire will be for your husband. Meaning one of the first ramifications of sin entering the world is that you're going to want
Starting point is 00:50:54 the authority that God gave to the man. And that's something you see on page three of your Bible, and it's something that you've seen throughout human history for the last 6,000 years. I think part of the command is given for husbands to lead their wives is because the sin of Adam in the garden was passivity, meaning we talk about, you know, it was Eve that gave it to Adam, but Adam, man's default position is passivity. And then women, it says here, are going to want what they cannot have, which is leadership and ruling over their husband. So yes, but I would say that's part of what you see just from like a hardwiring of sin. And because men, by nature, for the most
Starting point is 00:51:33 part, not saying there's no masculine men and there's no guys that really want to lead. I'm saying by nature, one of the default positions, the sinful positions of men is to be passive. And one of the default positions of women, at times it says here in Genesis, is going to be to rule. When men in marriage are constantly told to be more vulnerable, be more emotionally attuned, is that biblical or is that therapeutic fluff? People grew up in different, there's different spectrums, meaning like, I've never seen my dad cry once in my life, once. I don't even know if he's ever been sad. The sad, the saddest have ever seen him is when Kobe tore is Achilles or something like that. Like I think I've never seen him truly sad or emotional.
Starting point is 00:52:10 I think to be more vulnerable, I think guys are known for being a little bit more stoic and thinking that's manly, meaning like if I suppress my emotions, then that's the true testament of a man. I would say that is unbiblical actually because you could look at David. And I mentioned David. David is a guy who literally slaughters giants. And he's writing, he's saying things in the. the Psalms that I want to feel comfortable saying like, God, I'm so sorrowful all the day long.
Starting point is 00:52:38 I'm sitting here in my tears and where are you God? And it's like, man, I can't imagine saying that to my wife. But there's biblical precedent for a man's man, a dude, a dude, a straight up dude saying, I'm sad, you know, over and over and over again. I don't think guys feel very comfortable doing that. So I think there's probably an element where a lot of it has to do with therapeutic fluff, but a lot of it has to do with this cultural pressure. I think there's a truth in the cultural pressure of masculinity means that you suppress all emotion. Biblically, we see that Jesus wept bitterly, right? And I was preaching on this a couple months ago in my church. John 1135 means when it says that Jesus wept, it wasn't like he had a tear going down his cheek. It was profuse weeping at the
Starting point is 00:53:17 grave of a friend. And whatever your idea is of Jesus, you have to include the category that he wept, big time tears at the grave of Lazarus. And for me, that was like convicting because my wife has never seen me cry. I don't think it's because I'm suppressing vulnerability. I think I think it's just, I think it's part of my personality. There are other people that cry and feel guilty about it or less manly about it. And I would just say, hey, the Lord Jesus Christ, who upholds the universe by the word of his power, wept, straight up, wept. And so it's not a bad thing. I think when you say vulnerability, I would say one of the things that needs to happen more amongst men and women in marriage is transparency.
Starting point is 00:53:52 Meaning like, I struggle with this. I'm anxious about this. I'm thinking about this. And that's what facilitates and cultivates a real relationship. Right. where it's a partnership in marriage because when God provides Eve to Adam, it's a helpmate. And some guys don't let their wives in at all thinking that they just have to bear it on their shoulders where one of the things I'm growing in, even with my own relationship with my wife,
Starting point is 00:54:14 Katie, who's the best, is just saying, you can pray for me this way. That's not me being emotional. It's just me actually utilizing the greatest gift that God has given to me outside of the Lord Jesus Christ, which is my wife. If a Christian couple is on the brink of divorce, how is a biblical counsel? are going to help them differently than a secular therapist? Well, I would say a biblical counselor is going to say, has there been any infidelity here?
Starting point is 00:54:38 Right? Because Jesus is clear in Matthew. Divorce is not an option except for infidelity. So bottom line, that's going to be the first question out of my mouth is, okay, did someone cheat on someone? Now, here's my question for you. Do you think infidelity only means literal penetration, or could infidelity mean I cheat on her with alcohol?
Starting point is 00:55:00 cheat on her with video games. I cheat on her with gambling. Like, how do you think the Bible defines infidelity? There's a guy named Steve Schwartz that talks about this a little bit. He's more, he's a biblical counselor, and he kind of draws also some elements of abuse into this under the banner of neglect as seen in Corinthians. So like abuse situations, neglect, which would be like, there's no presence in that marriage. And so I think there can be broader scopes of it. But that is the category given by the Lord Jesus Christ. So you have to start there, meaning like, okay, what's going on? And I met with someone recently and they said, they're just not the one. And I said, well, they are the one because you married them, right?
Starting point is 00:55:39 And what God is united, like, low man, terror, thunder, like, this is a covenant you made before God and these witnesses. I, I marry people on a, I don't know, a monthly basis. And I say, hey, listen here, as you make these vows, they are not only vows made to one another. These are vows made to God. And marriage is important. So I start there by just saying, hey, you already committed. So if someone says, and I get that often, they're just not the one. It's just not working out. That's 70% of them, right? Then you'd say, well, did someone have infidelity? You mentioned video games. And I'd be like, okay, well, dude, get off the video games. That is different than maybe, let's use, I would say, deep-seated pornography. I would say that is a valid,
Starting point is 00:56:20 legitimate reasoning behind divorce. Because I would say, well, you do think that's a valid reason for divorce. Yeah, like if you're addicted to pornography, webcam, chat, girls, yeah, I think that there's groundings there for divorce. If that's a habitual pattern of sin. And 1 Corinthians 6, you know, says, you know, people always say that sexual sin is just like any other sin. You know, like I struggle with pornography or this person struggles with gossip. What's the difference?
Starting point is 00:56:46 Well, the difference is actually massive because the Bible says in 1st Corinthians 6, every other sin is committed outside the body. But the immoral man sins against his own body. All sin separates us from God. All sin is offensive to God, but sexual sin is. is unique in particular in the sense that if you're a Christian, your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and you're bringing the Holy Spirit into something
Starting point is 00:57:07 that Jesus Christ came to die for. And the Bible itself says this is unlike any other sin. So pornography would be different than video games or even gambling. But I think that there's an element where the biblical counselor in contrast to maybe a therapist, and I don't wanna be unfair to the therapist because I think it's like, that's a huge term.
Starting point is 00:57:24 There might be people under the banner of therapy that probably practice more what biblical counselors practice, but they just still call them self-therapist, marriage and family therapist or whatever. But where you begin has to be the word of God. What does God say about this marriage and what does God say about divorce and is there groundings here for divorce? There are people at my church that want to get remarried and I want to make sure, hey, was your divorce before you wanted to get remarried? Was it legitimate? So I have to
Starting point is 00:57:49 track down pastors at the churches they came from and sometimes I'm confused. This is a good question. Because, okay, so I'm single, want to be married, hasn't happened yet. And so I'm 32. So now I'm getting into this age range where so many people are like, well, would you be open to dating a man who's been divorced or has children? And I'm like, almost probably no, because how many of these divorces are actually biblical divorces? So how would you define then who is somebody that would biblically be okay to remarry and who isn't? There's maybe a slight difference on if that happened before they knew the Lord, right? So there might be an element where, hey, I I got divorced and I didn't know the Lord. We both didn't know the Lord. And this is something I've repented of. But then would they have to either stay single for the rest of their lives or only remarry their spouse that they had gotten divorced from?
Starting point is 00:58:44 I would say there's mixed opinions there. Yeah. We were actually navigating this about a month ago, one of the guys, the pastors that I work with, we were talking about the same situation. Yeah, it's very interesting. It is an interesting thing. I think if it's a believer, you're going, Paul is pretty clear. Like there are people that are available to be remarried, meaning,
Starting point is 00:59:00 one of the first questions I asked someone that was divorced and wants to marry someone else that was divorced. I say, are they available to be married? Is that even an option? Do you mean emotionally? No, like biblically speaking. Okay. So what is that? So I do ask that question. Was there biblical grounds? And there have been times where I've said, hey, I'm not going to marry you. Well, that happened recently. I'm not going to marry you because you broke up with this person because they said they weren't the one. And you broke up with this person because they said they weren't the one. Was their infidelity? No, they're a great person. They loved the Lord. It just wasn't a right fit. You were married for, you know, 17 years. It just wasn't the right fit. I would say they
Starting point is 00:59:34 don't have biblical grounds for remarriage. That might be different if you're saying, hey, you met a, let's call him Jake. Jake's awesome. He's 34. His wife left him because she went off with another guy and he divorced her because she was unfaithful. He is legitimately available to get remarried. And I would pray that Jake does get remarried, especially for the sake of, let's call it, his three little kids. What should you do if your marriage is crumbling and you want to seek out biblical counseling, but your spouse doesn't. Am I the woman or the man? At this point, I'm a guy.
Starting point is 01:00:04 I would say for my audience, put your shoes in the woman, because mostly it's going to be women listening. Well, it says in Corinthians, you're to pray for your husband. I would say before you're trying to get help from the outside, make sure you're asking the power of God's Holy Spirit to help you, to navigate this with you. It says to win him over without even a word. So there's a place for that. You can't just deny that because it's written in the scripture that you could win
Starting point is 01:00:29 him over, meaning that your love for God and the transformation that he's bringing about in your life is so obvious, it becomes a question in the mind of your husband, what's really happening with this individual. Let's say this, if that guy's an unbeliever, I would say, and claims to be an unbeliever, that's kind of what your options are. You're to pray for him. Like, he might not want to go see your pastor because he doesn't believe in pastors or churches or God's word or anything. That might be different than a guy that, let's go back to my guy, Jake and Molly, they go to church together and they shake people's hands and they serve in children's together and at home they are just a disaster. They don't get along.
Starting point is 01:01:07 Molly really wants to go see a pastor or a biblical counselor. Jake says that would be an embarrassment. I don't want people to know about it. I think at that point, as a woman, you can confide in the people in your church. You could confide in one of women or your pastor and just saying, we need to meet. This happened a couple weeks ago at our church. We called the guy and say, hey, we'd love to meet with you. want to talk and we want to be a friend to you and a resource to you and nothing to be ashamed of.
Starting point is 01:01:35 And I think to therapies, it has its own, you know, that connotations. Counseling has its own connotations. That's why I would say as a pastor, I counsel. Right. But I'm not a counselor. How do you counsel a couple who has been told by therapists? You just need to communicate better. And you know as a pastor, this is a heart change issue.
Starting point is 01:01:53 A lot of times it's a heart change issue on one of the parties at least. And I always know, hey, God. God's will for your life is to be unified, right? As a married couple, God's will for this marriage is not to be bitter, it's not to be tearing each other down. That's just explicit in the scripture, meaning that you're to forgive one another, just as God in Christ is forgiven you.
Starting point is 01:02:14 Sometimes this guy might be legitimately wrong, and she is still not forgiving him, right? So this goes back to the thing about bitterness. Well, all I would tell her, he's never gonna be able to succeed as long as you're still bitter at him. And she would say, well, he never said you're sorry. And I would say, well, Christ forgave you, you know, like you've never apologized for everything God has forgiven you of.
Starting point is 01:02:33 So I think even in the counseling world, I would say going back to the biblical counseling, there used to be even this thought in biblical counseling that I can't forgive someone if they haven't apologized. And I would not agree with that, meaning there's no reconciliation without repentance. I would say, well, listen, you're harboring bitterness, which the Bible says is a corrosive in your soul. And you, you're being prideful. The Bible says that you're to love your wife as Christ love the church. And so sometimes it goes back and forth. And when you say like it's a communication issue, a lot of times it's a heart issue, right? Because even out of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Starting point is 01:03:06 So what's not being communicated or what is being communicated is a derivative and a product of what's happening at the heart level, which is a reflection of where our own hearts are individually before the Lord. And then oftentimes they have two different relationships with God, whereas biblically in Ephesians 5, the husband is to lead his family in the Lord and to wash his wife in the Word. And I think a lot of women want this. They want their husbands to lead them in the Lord. And then they become bitter that he's not. And so I think it would just be assessing the situation,
Starting point is 01:03:35 but it could be any number of things. It could be guys can work very hard occupationally and be very lazy familially. Meaning like a guy could say, I'm a hard worker and I come home. And she says, he gives me my leftovers, basically. He works all day and talks to everyone. But when he comes home, he just turns on the teeth.
Starting point is 01:03:55 and he disengages. I would tell that guy, listen, this is this is job number one. My friend, my friend Harry says, if you fail at home, you fail everywhere, right? Because this is your greatest ministry. This is your greatest priority. This is your greatest legacy. Well, and I think some high achieving men, too, can kind of get mixed up that the way that you would lead a team at work or manage a team at work or speak to those other men, you know, employees of yours is it looks differently how you would talk to your wife or your future wife you know how you deal with her how you relate to her how you you tackle problems and to be candid that's like one of the things i have to work on with my wife meaning like i'm not like i'm not god's answer to marriage you know i mean like my wife and i
Starting point is 01:04:38 we have been married for six years so we're not like rookies but we're not definitely not seasoned vets one of things i asked my wife the other day what would you want me to work on what's one thing you see in my life and i want to ask for these questions we went out to dinner it was in her anniversary. I said, what's one thing you want me to work on? And one of the themes that she's told me is I want you to, you know, I want you to be more proactive and asking me these questions. We do a lot of ministry together, you know, which may be unique to us, meaning like we're together a lot, but that's not necessarily intentional time. And so sometimes I can view her as a partner, but not treat her as my wife and my spouse and prioritize that
Starting point is 01:05:22 romantic relationship or whatever that might be. So I'm growing, right? And part of that is communication room being like, but it's also the humility to respond where if my wife says, I want to go out more because I'm always with people as a pastor. I'm out and about. I speak. I travel. I'm with my church. When I come home, I kind of want to be home. I've become more introverted. My wife is with three babies all day long. She wants to get out and she says, I'd love to spend more time and do that. And so part of the way I love her is by going, okay, let's do that. Let's make that a priority. Let's get a babysitter or whatever. And because I'm commanded in scripture by God to love my wife, one of the ways I practically love her is by accommodating her desires that are very legitimate,
Starting point is 01:06:03 which is I want to spend time. I think it just, it comes from going like, first of all, I'm a working process and in progress and so is she. And we both respond to each other. And humility, we pray for each other. It's to a degree, it's not that complicated, you know. People really overcomplicate it. being and people also set it up for failure in the sense of i remember when we were getting married people are like get ready for your first year of marriage it's going to be like a a knockdown drag out brawl you know you're like man my goodness what am i hearing up for and i think there's elements where you're getting to know someone that's that's different than you
Starting point is 01:06:36 i remember my dad just saying johnny like your marriage is a death to self and not in the sense we're like oh man i'm married i got to die to myself today it's just being like by nature My dad told me this when I was single. The longer you're single, because I got married at 27, the longer you're single, the more you are going to get into a rut of being self-minded. 100%. Right. So you have to consciously develop a system of thought where you're thinking about others' needs
Starting point is 01:07:07 and not your own because when you get married and then you have kids, your whole life is going to be about other people. I used to think that was true three years ago and then I had three more babies. and right like so like now my life is it's about others like if life was about johnnie or divanus my marriage would be really hard yeah and i mean i've said that too in past relationships of like look like i'm coming into this with you know 30 plus years of learn behaviors and patterns you're coming into this with 30 plus years of learned behaviors and patterns i need grace i need patience that i am i am learning for the first time in my life how to relate and keep in mind someone else's
Starting point is 01:07:48 needs and, you know, other than my own, like, I've never had to do that before. And you're the same. So I have to extend that grace to you. You know, it's not like I'm just going to know how to do this. I won't know how to be a wife upon being a wife. You're not going to know how to be a husband immediately upon being a husband. It's a process. It's like it's something that we have to do together and have grace. And so, yeah, that's like you saying that as something that's been definitely on my heart and mind. And for Christian, I would say too, like my goal in my marriage is not just to be a better husband, it's to be a better Christ follower. Right. God's will for my life is to love the Lord, God with all my hearts,
Starting point is 01:08:25 will mind and strength. As I grow in my love for the Lord, you'll learn how to be able to love and serve my wife. So I think sometimes people put the cart before the horse and they're like, I want to stop this in my marriage or start this in my marriage. But there's reason why they're called the fruits of the spirit in Galatians because those are expressions of what God's spirit is doing in you, love, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, right? Those are traits I want in my marriage. Gentleness and self-control. Well, those aren't things I pursue individually. I'm not pursuing gentleness as an end. I'm pursuing to be more like Christ, to be filled with the spirit. And as I'm filled with the spirit, gentleness is an expression in my marriage.
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Starting point is 01:11:31 with church discipline? For sure. And I think a lot of people miss this in regards to the mind. And I mentioned this before. The sum and substance of the Christian life is the mind. Proverbs 237 says, as a man thinks so he is. Meaning everything in our life is the product of, you mentioned like the renewing of our mind, meaning like that's something that we have to prioritize. So we can say I am something, meaning like I am the defiant disorder, right? That's like a real thing that teens are getting diagnosed with opposition defiance disorder or something like that, meaning like they don't respond well to authority and they call it a disorder or an illness. I would maybe just say, well, that might be a pride problem. It might be a self-control problem.
Starting point is 01:12:11 Proverbs says like a city without walls as a man without self-control. That's an expression we just talked about as the fruit of the spirit. So some of these things are legitimate sin. that are being masqueraded as illnesses to your point. And the Bible, all of our growth into the image of Christ is the product of our mind. And I think this is super important. And I don't think you can have a conversation about anxiety or depression or fear without talking about the mind. When Jesus is engaging as followers, he is wanting them to think.
Starting point is 01:12:39 He's wanting to engage their minds. That's the great physician's remedy. He's drawing their attention, as we mentioned, from the lesser than to the greater than he's saying, look at the birds, look at the sparrows. He's drawing them to think. I mentioned Ephesians 4 and being renewed in the spirit of your mind. Romans 12, it says that prior to coming to Christ, we are in Ephesians hostile in mind. It says we're darkened in mind in Corinthians and in Titus.
Starting point is 01:13:05 So everything that happens in Colossians, we're to set our minds. Every growth into the image of Christ, every growth in our trust is a product of the mind. And so I think that therapy becomes a crutch where it can. It becomes a crutch where people don't necessarily think. about their great duty of fixing their minds on the Lord Jesus Christ, his character, and asking God to renew our minds. Because if you ask me, I want to grow in my trust in the Lord and want to become more like him, I would say, well, how do you do that? You don't just pray, you know, God help me. Saying, God take away my anxiety is a lot different than the prayer. God is a feast
Starting point is 01:13:41 my mind on the precious truth of your word. Would you please permeate my thoughts, my reflections, my considerations so that even in the moment of my mental wondering, I'm reminded of your sovereignty as seen in Psalm 103 that the Lord has established his throne in the heavens and his sovereignty rules overall. I'm reminded of your love. And you're meditating on those realities, meditating being a key word.
Starting point is 01:14:04 That's how the Psalms begin. How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked nor stand in the path of sinners nor sit in this he discovers. But his delight is in the law of the Lord. And he meditates on this day and night. Day and night is a merrism, which just means all the time. And so I think that priority has been dismissed from a lot of churches and a lot of Christians
Starting point is 01:14:22 so that they kind of sprinkle truth here and there. But they don't become people that feast on the Word of God as a habit. And that's what David says, who is deeply anxious, was the only thing that buoyed as hard amidst the despairs and anxieties of life. What is your take on people who believe schizophrenia is a form of demonic possession? I would say people need to understand demons, first of all. I would hesitate to say that it's always that and never. that, right? So for an example, you can kind of throw demons onto any label, you know, meaning like,
Starting point is 01:14:53 I remember when I was in a camp setting, there was a kid that was going around and he was going up to people, he was going, he was going up to young men saying, you have the demon of pornography. And the guys would say, yeah. And he said, well, meet me at the lake tonight. I'm going to cast out that demon. And all these young men, hundreds of them were gathering like at midnight in the middle of the, you know, at the lake and they were having like an exorcism ceremony because he was saying you've been possessed by a demon now that was wacky and wrong and weird and the guy was a kook with that said i think there is definitely a demonic influence in the rampant nature that there is a brothel in the pocket of every 12 year old on planet earth right especially in a western context you don't have to
Starting point is 01:15:38 walk into a strip club you can just go on social media now um so i think that is demonically influenced because one of the things David Helm says is the way Satan operates is to make sin seem normal and righteousness seems strange. That is demonically influenced. Satan is a master strategist. Jesus secured the victory at the cross, but it says that Satan prowls like a roaring lion seeking to destroy people, and he does that in a myriad of different ways. So I think that the demonic world, Satan is real and powerful.
Starting point is 01:16:08 I think when people say schizophrenia is a form of demonic oppression or possession, I would say yeah in some cases that that might be true it says but one of the main ways that satan works in second corinthians is that he blinds the minds of the unbelieving from seeing the light of the glory of christ meaning satan's main strategy is in blinding corrupting deceiving and polluting minds that's not my take that's the bible's explicit reality satan works by blinding minds that's why he's called the god of this world the prince of the air that's why he that's what he does is pollute minds schizophrenia would be an example so i would say yeah maybe i would say for sure that that's a reality. Not always, not never, it's reality, but you could say the same thing
Starting point is 01:16:48 about anything in regards to demonic oppression. Satan isn't necessarily just running brothels. He's running churches, right? Because he's articulating. And I think MacArthur said that at one point in the sense of he's sneaky as well. And so when you look at a Shutter Island and you go, well, that's demonic. You'd go, yeah, there's truth in that. But Satan is operating also in an Ivy League context, getting you to doubt the validity of truth and making people addicted to their smartphones and just inundating their life with noise. So he's a strategist and he's a schemer and he lurks in different ways. What is the role of the church body supposed to be when it comes to helping members overcome mental health struggles? I think overcome is the key word, right? So you just
Starting point is 01:17:30 said what's mental health struggles. I think first of all defining mental health. That's your emotional and behavioral and social well-being, right? So that's, it's also a nebulous term. I've mentioned this just briefly, but the Bible uses that same word merrimnao to describe both a good and godly concern and a sinful anxiety and worry. So Paul talks about Timothy and Philippians and he says, I'm going to send Timothy to you for there is no one else that is concerned for your welfare. That word for concern there is merrimnao. In that context, it is a good and godly thing. then three chapters later he says be merrimnao for anything don't be anxious about anything it's the same word merrimnao so you have to ask the question when does a good and godly concern become a sinful
Starting point is 01:18:15 worry and anxiety because the church's role is to help people understand god's word and to understand how even very legitimate cares and concerns can turn into a sinful anxiety when we do not first peter five seven cast those cares and concerns about onto God and trust in him. So I think overcome is the key word because a lot of all the things we're talking about with medication are typically to manage the issue and not to overcome them. And that's the word you used. So I think first of all understanding that, hey, I'd want to know what are you worried about. I'm worried about X, Y, and Z.
Starting point is 01:18:52 Well, hey, that's a legitimate thing. Providing for your family, food on the table. Yeah, I mean, provision is an element. And it says in Timothy that if I don't provide for my family, I'm worse than an unbeliever. So like the battle for bread is good. But when that care and concern maybe is, I use the analogy in my book, pooled rather than channeled to God, that becomes a sinful habit. And I would say, well, stress and pressure, if that's driving you to go knock on doors and get a job and be diligent and all those things, that's good. But now that's become so crippling and paralyzing.
Starting point is 01:19:23 Corey Timbun used to say that worry is like racing an engine without letting in the clutch. energy and you go nowhere. You're not doing anything about it. You're just dwelling on the stresses and pressures of life or rather than on the character of God and his promise to provide for you. This is actual functional atheism. God is promised to love you. He's promised to care for you. He's done all these things as revealed in his word. Has he ever not been faithful? No. We sing, great is thy faithfulness. You're actually, this is an offense to God's character because you're saying, God, you're not who you say you are. And I would want people to understand that to a degree. And then I would say dwell on these elements of God's character.
Starting point is 01:19:57 Yes, and if needed to consult a physician, all those things. But I've said it already, but God's goal for your life is not just to remove anxiety or fear. It's to replace that anxiety and fear with trust and peace. And that's God's, that's what Paul calls supernatural. He says the peace of God would surpasses all understanding. So there's also an element in all of this, where if I'm talking to someone who's anxious, I want to make sure that they've been reconciled to God through faith in Jesus Christ. because also if someone's trying to earn their salvation,
Starting point is 01:20:30 if they're banking on anything they've done, they can never receive the perfect peace of God. So the gospel, Jesus dying for our sin, being resurrected from the grave, finishing the work that is necessary for him and I to have a right standing. That understanding, I mean, when you talk about the church, the church is very confused about what the gospel is.
Starting point is 01:20:53 And so it's also no wonder why people are so anxious, meaning that if people aren't sure about their greatest need in life being met, that is the fountain and foundation of all true peace. Where is there confusion amongst the church of what the gospel is? Well, Ligeneer did the state of theology thing a few years ago, and it was like a true false question. I could be wrong on the statistic, but it was like, I'm saved by grace, but I also contribute to my salvation, true or false. And I think it was like 60% in the evangelical church said true. Whoa. Yeah, it was alarming statistic. And I could be off.
Starting point is 01:21:26 You'll have to check it out. But Ligeneer released it. And Lifeway and Barnah does other stats in that regard. But meaning like, if you're talking to anybody and they're explaining the gospel, I do this with membership meetings at our church. I say articulate to me when you got saved. And people say things like, well, I did this and I did this. That's just the way people talk. We've removed sin in our communication of the gospel.
Starting point is 01:21:47 I would say by and large as a culture, meaning you just throw out the gospel. And it's like, hey, if you want someone that loves you, come to. of Jesus. But there's no mention of God's justice. There's no mention of God's holiness. There's no mention of the wrath that Jesus bore for you so that you can be reconciled to God. And that's all underneath the banner in guise of let's just tell them that God's a love. But then people still are depressed as an example following that commitment to Christ because they still get guilty about their sin. They still feel depressed about the things in their life or things in their past or their present because no one's ever said, yes, God does hate sin. He is a righteous
Starting point is 01:22:22 judge. He has indignation. Psalm 711 towards the wicked every single day. And one of the things that Jesus did on the cross, why he says, Father, let this cup pass is because the cup that he bore at the cross was the full measure of God's wrath towards your sin. Eric Tana said, my friend, if you believe, Satan wins, if you believe that God has paid for 99.9%
Starting point is 01:22:38 of your sin. And the full measure of God's wrath was poured out on Jesus. And that's what he bore for you because he loves you. And he's removed your sin as far as the east is from the west. And he's made your slate clean, but not just clean. It says in 2 Corinthians 5, he's given you his righteousness. I think people's
Starting point is 01:22:54 understanding of the gospel is so shallow typically. Not in saying all churches are bad. I'm just saying, when I ask someone on an elevator, I say if all you had in the gospel was the forgiveness of your sin, would you go to heaven? Because people say, you know, God forgave me my sin, and they would say, yeah. And I say, no, a million
Starting point is 01:23:10 times no. Because it says in Hebrews, without holiness, no man shall see the Lord. And it's in the gospel what God accomplishes is not just the removal of our sin, but the transference or theologically the imputation of his righteousness. and even that idea that now God looks at you as if you had lived the
Starting point is 01:23:26 righteous life of Jesus Christ. It says in John 17, he loves you as much as he loves as one and only son Jesus. All of these doctrinal truths, which doctrinal is sometimes seen as like a boogeyman word, those are things that give me peace and stability. And I think the church,
Starting point is 01:23:42 going back to your original question, how do they help him overcome? Well, it is, again, a whole Bible, takes a whole Bible to make a whole Christian. And if I want someone to be deeply rooted, Going back to Psalm 1, he shall be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water. Sometimes I just ask people, are you a sapling? Are you blown in the wind?
Starting point is 01:24:01 Are you moving to and fro? Do you want to be an oak? Do you want to be firmly planted? Well, you're going to need to know God's word as revealed in the pages of scripture. Understand who the gospel is. That's why even in my book considered the lilies finding perfect peace in the character of God. It felt out of place, but I began after the diagnosis of anxiety. And I talked through physical roots of anxiety, spiritual roots of anxiety.
Starting point is 01:24:21 but then just to begin by doing a chapter on the gospel because you can't circumvent that and a lot of people do. They're looking for answers to their anxiety without ever addressing that. And I'm not saying that you won't struggle with anxiety if you're a genuine believer and know the gospel. I'm just saying that's a place
Starting point is 01:24:37 where definitely churches should start. If you had 30 seconds to talk to a parent who's considering putting their teenager who's struggling in secular therapy, what would you tell them? They're not going to provide an answer. You know, it's just going to be endless in the sense of you're signing them up
Starting point is 01:24:51 for a journey with no end. You're putting them on, there's a cruise line that markets their cruise line by saying it's a cruise to nowhere. You get on board. So true. You get on board. You pack your bags. It starts at a port and you have no idea where you're going.
Starting point is 01:25:08 Why are so many people saying, oh, I've been in therapy since I was in middle school. Like it never ends, literally. It doesn't end. And I think I'd want people to know that. One of the things tough. That's tough too is just the whole environment. You're talking about a son, you know, like, it's hard to, I'm not trying to get on like a hobby horse. When you're sending kids away, you know, the kids in my neighborhood get picked up by a bus and then dropped off by a bus.
Starting point is 01:25:33 They're gone 11 hours a day. Like, it's a long time to be outside of like someone that really, really loves and cares for them and is willing to be patient with them. I have three daughters. One of them is different from the other. She is, doesn't sit down. She's nuts. Like, she likes to climb. She does things.
Starting point is 01:25:50 like there would be an element where I'm like, hey, we want to be extra intentional with her. We want to spend more time with her, but often, not always. The system which those kids would be plugged into and the world would be, they're a problem, they're a nuisance. They must be treated. And I'm not saying there aren't awesome teachers. One of the things that I tell my church is, hey, one of the greatest mission fields you can go into is a public school.
Starting point is 01:26:15 Like, go be a literature teacher and shine for Christ. But you're telling the adults that, not the kids. The kids don't have to take on that burden of being the salt and life. No, no, yeah, I don't. I think that just in the general, like, I wouldn't want to sign them up for a cruise line going nowhere. I think there's probably other things that might be present. There might just be a personality thing. It might be just different than you.
Starting point is 01:26:35 They might have a lot of energy. And, too, I'd want to make sure that they're understanding certain truth. And it's such a broad thing when you're saying therapy. It could be behavioral. It could be rebellion. It could be spiritual. Like if an 11-year-old, talk back to their mom. The Bible says that's disobedience.
Starting point is 01:26:51 You are called to honor your father and mother. And one of the things I teach my daughters is God is the authority in the universe. And God has delegated his authority to your dad. And I say, that's why you are to honor me. And I say, what are you sorry for? I'm sorry for dishonoring you. And I'm not trying to be ruthless. I love my daughters.
Starting point is 01:27:15 They're the best. But in an unbelieving context, if, you know, one of my daughters said, no, they would say, oh, that might be opposition defiance disorder. She doesn't like to listen to authority. No one likes to listen to authority. Right. Like, I mean, truly speaking, there's, in the heart of man, there's always that defiance. If you could offer one remedy to heal a sick culture, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, what would it be?
Starting point is 01:27:40 Well, I don't want to be like the cliche pastor. I would say come to a saving relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ and deeply meditate upon the character of our God as revealed. is word. Where can people buy your book? I think just anywhere books are sold, Amazon or Barnes and Noble, it's called Consider the Lilies Finding Perfect Peace in the Character of God. It was published by Zondervin last year and I was grateful for the opportunity to write because I think it's worth mentioning that I don't write from the highbrow tower of expertise and arrival, meaning I'm a dad, I'm a man, I have things that I worry about. Sometimes that worry is mass as ambition or stress or pressure. But this was a process and a conversation. You know,
Starting point is 01:28:18 know, like I never want to seem like I'm God's gift to any one subject because the Lord is stretching and growing me, both meridally and my marriage with my family as a pastor. But thankful for the opportunity to write, but everything good in my book owes its origin to what's already in God's. If people are living in the Nashville area and looking for a new church, what's the name of your church? Stonebridge Bible Church. We're just on the Franklin Brentwood border.
Starting point is 01:28:42 But yeah, Stonebridge Bible Church. And it's pretty simple. I just teach the Bible and thankful that the Lord has brought people to. through the door and it's a rich privilege. And a lot of the language and anything I would say, I mentioned it already, is different in this environment than it would be sitting down with someone at my church. And so I always want, even when I mention statistics,
Starting point is 01:29:01 Carl Truman says that we need to remind herself that statistics are actually compromised of individuals made in the image of God. And sometimes it's easy to look at the data and say the data. And I would just wanna say, no, those are real people that God loves and pastoring is helpful in that regard.
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