Deep Questions with Cal Newport - Ep. 283: How To Organize Your Life

Episode Date: January 15, 2024

What is the correct first step in transforming your life into something deeper? Traditional advice says to start with a clear vision of what you value. Cal has been arguing that it’s instead more im...portant to develop a foundation of discipline. In this episode, he explores a more specific variation of this idea: perhaps the best way to prepare to pursue the big is to first learn how to control the small.Below are the questions covered in today's episode (with their timestamps). Get your questions answered by Cal! Here’s the link: bit.ly/3U3sTvoVideo from today’s episode:  youtube.com/calnewportmediaDeep Dive: How to organize your life [2:31]- How do I “stay deep” when facing major changes? [36:37]- How do I relax when I’m always so busy? [39:13]- What is the difference between rituals and routines? [43:09]- Can playing video games be part of a deep life? [51:27]- Can deep life buckets connect to strategic plans? [57:39]- CALL: Juggling multiple priorities to live a deep life [1:01:39]CASE STUDY: Becoming organized to prevent overwhelm [1:07:32]CAL REACTS:  How many books did you read in 2023? [1:13:47]Links:https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2024/01/05/how-many-books-did-you-read-2023-see-how-you-stack-up/FREE download for “Slow Productivity”: calnewport.com/slowThanks to our Sponsors: drinklmnt.com/deepmintmobile.com/deepcozyearth.com (promo code CAL)mybodytutor.com  Thanks to Jesse Miller for production, Jay Kerstens for the intro music, Kieron Rees for slow productivity music, and Mark Miles for mastering. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Starting point is 00:00:10 I'm Cal Newport, and this is Deep Questions, the show about living and working deeply in a distracted world. So if you're new to this strange little world, we enjoy here, I'm a computer science professor at Georgetown University and a digital theorist who writes about the way technology impacts how we live, how we work, and how we relate to each other. On this show, I give concrete advice about the ideas I tackle in my writing. I'm here in my deep work HQ, joined as always by my producer, Jesse. Jesse, I want to point out something that gives me hope for the more quick internet age generations out there. You know, as a semi-public figure, I get a fair amount of hate mail that makes its way to me. There's a lot of people who sort of just sit there really mad and just think if I could just get this person. Well, anyways, I had an interesting hate mail message the other day that gave me some hope.
Starting point is 00:01:19 It was a mean message, you're terrible, blah, blah, blah. But he signed it with a very creative salutation. You know, at the end you would put like sincerely or best, he signed it with malice and then his name. I thought that was pretty clever. You know, he has a formality for the game of being mean to someone, that you at least you respect. Good communication skill. So I enjoy that. I want to sign more letters that way.
Starting point is 00:01:47 So you read the whole message? Well, I skimmed it. Yeah. You know, these days, people, it's all in an age of text message.
Starting point is 00:01:55 It's all caps, locks, incoherent. So it's really nice to have a, a well-trained, grammatically correct hater. Like, it's a good throwback with malice.
Starting point is 00:02:08 Lord Wimsy the Fourth. I enjoyed that. Anyways, of that nonsense, Let's get rolling. We've got a good show today, good deep dive. We got some questions to relate to the deep dive. I've got a final segment where I'm going to react to an article that I think you, my listeners, are going to enjoy.
Starting point is 00:02:24 So, you know, let's get our sound effects panel loaded up, Jesse, because it's time now for the deep dive. So I got a lot of strong responses to my recent episode in which I interviewed Arthur Brooks about his book, Build the Life You Want. there clearly is a real hunger out there for transforming your life into something more intentional and more deep. I think this holds whether you're starting from a place of chaos and misery that you want to escape, or if you're a generally successful, happy person, but are craving something more noteworthy with your life, the key question for anyone who's interested in this path is what is the first step. So traditional advice here is real clear. Figure yourself out.
Starting point is 00:03:10 Look down at that nasal, gaze at it, figure out your deepest passion, your values, and let that motivate everything that happens. On my show, I tend to argue, no, no, start with discipline first. Establish a self-identity as a disciplined person before you do any of the big think or take any of the radical steps. So today I want to experiment with a closer, more specific look at this idea of starting the path to a deep life. with discipline because I want to get specific about this. I'm going to argue in particular for the notion that the very first thing you should do on this path to depth is organize your life outside of work. So get organized about your family life, your personal life, the stuff you do outside of your job, to be in control of your schedule, to feel on top
Starting point is 00:04:03 of your obligations, to be able to consistently make time for the things that matter in your life outside of work. Of course, being organized in your job is important, too, but that's a very complicated thing. We go into detail about that on the show. Knowledge work is confusing and overwhelming. You essentially need a doctorate in organizational psychology to stay on top of email and chat and meetings. And that's a whole other issue. And it's much more difficult in a longer term project. But what I want to argue is you start with your life outside of work, what you can completely control, get organized there. And this will be the first step towards constructing a more meaningful life. So here's how I want to do this today. I'll start by expanding on my case for why this
Starting point is 00:04:45 should be your target for the first step. And then I'll give you a crash course. I got three ideas. Do one, followed by two, followed by three, that can get you a lot closer to feeling on top of all the stuff that's going on in your life. So let's start with this why question. Why start with non-professional organization on your quest for depth? Well, as you've heard, if you've listened or seen my show before, I do think it's important to get a practice with discipline as one of the first things you do. and you're going to get that by organizing your life. So it's compatible with that idea. It is a particular discipline pursuit that you could follow.
Starting point is 00:05:27 So everything I'm saying here is compatible with my old discussions. This is something to do to organize your life that is going to require discipline. But why this particular activity among all of the other experiments you could do to get more used to discipline? Why organization instead of exercise or fitness or reading more books to learning to play the guitar? Well, there's a few specific advantages I think this particular step towards discipline actually has. Number one, it reduces the background hum of stress that makes aspiration and ambition difficult to grow. So if in your life outside of work, you have this chaotic feeling of my car needs to go get its omission. inspection, and I know my gutters are in a terrible shape, and I haven't dealt with my flooded
Starting point is 00:06:15 basement, and I haven't decorated the walls in this room, and I haven't called my sister in a while. Like, you have all these things swirling around just in your head. You have this sense of stress and chaos and reactivity in this time that should otherwise be yours to control. That is not fertile soil for ambition to grow. That is not fertile soil for aspiration to grow. It's not further soil for you to develop a clear vision for what you want in your life. So it's a discipline pursuit that's also making your subjective context more hospitable
Starting point is 00:06:48 that everything else for everything else that's going to follow in the quest for more depth. It's also going to give you more mental peace and free time for reflection. So once you're on control of your obligation, so you've reduced the background hum of stress, you then are able to take control of your time and now can regularly make time for the self-reflective activities, the regular long walks through the woods, the meditation,
Starting point is 00:07:18 whatever it might be, in which you're going to start to have insights about what matters to you. When you have control over your schedule, this is where you're going to start making time for things like reading good books or exposing yourselves to interesting movies or series that themselves are going to have moments of resonance.
Starting point is 00:07:34 is, ooh, wait a second. Something in this is really speaking to me. There's an insight. Let me pluck that out. My image of what I want in my life is now clicking a couple more degrees towards being in focus. So you're going to have more time and space for the type of activities. They're going to help you get clarity about how to move forward from here. It will support then, it's my third advantage, any of the other disciplined pursuits that you might later put in the place.
Starting point is 00:08:04 as part of your quest for a deeper life. So as that vision comes into focus, if you have control of your obligations and your time, your free time, you're now much more easily able to enact the plans you might come up with as you get more specific about where you want your life to go. And finally, it's going to give you pragmatic insight into what's already going on in your life. And we'll see this as I get more specific in the second half of the deep dive here. But as you actually confront your schedule and your time and your obligations, you confront where are you spending your time? And when you confront how you're spending your time, you get a sense of do I like what I'm doing here or there. It gives you a really, I would say, objective snapshot of what's actually going on in my life right now.
Starting point is 00:08:53 And it allows you to make some better decisions about, wow, I'm really spending a lot of time on my phone or watching dumb shows or, you know, getting blasted with my friends every night. you have to confront that reality if you're going to try to gain control of your time outside of work. So I really think in general, starting with discipline, yes, I still agree that's the first step towards the deep life, not with deep vision. But if you're going to choose something
Starting point is 00:09:16 that's going to help you get more discipline, do this one. This can be my argument. Organize your life. Take control of your reins because you're going to kill a lot of birds with the same stone. All right, so how do you do this? We talk a lot on this show about organizing your work life, as I mentioned before, and that's its own complicated beast.
Starting point is 00:09:33 In some sense, the whole art of modern-day digital-enhanced knowledge work is figuring out your system that can ebb and flow with the influx and tame it. It's like your job. You're a lion tamer, but instead of lions as emails, and it's a whole complicated thing. Your life outside of work is a lot different. You still have the same issues of overload and keeping track of things just in your head, the tension between reactivity, and proactivity in terms of your schedule, the tendency to be pulled into the simple and passive as opposed to the rewarding but difficult and active.
Starting point is 00:10:11 All that's still there, but it's at a much slower pace. And you have a lot more autonomy and flexibility about how you deal with your life outside of work. So it's an easier environment for organization. So I'm going to pitch you a much simpler to implement system here that is streamlined for exactly this context of life outside of work.
Starting point is 00:10:30 So what I'm going to do is start by describing a dead simple system for life organization. Once I've explained that system, I have two additional steps about what comes next after this system is in place. So here's a basic system to get started. It's going to have three components, a calendar, file storage, and a mail sorter. See if I have that right. Mail sort or calendar file storage. All right. That's all you're going to need.
Starting point is 00:11:03 It's much simpler than work. Let's go through this. The particular order I want to go through this in is let's start with file storage. And what I mean here is a dual solution, a physical and a digital place that you can store things. The physical is a filing cabinet. We're talking manila folders in a filing cabinet. If you don't want to buy a cabinet for your apartment, just get a file box, get on Amazon $9. It's like a cardboard box with two metal rods where you can hang hanging file folders in it, right?
Starting point is 00:11:34 So no matter where you are, you can have one of these. Digital, whatever, Google Drive, Dropbox, just a place where you can have digital files all stored. Now, what are we going to do with the physical storage? This is where you store anything that is a physical piece of paper you need to hold on to. You have a place to put it. So we're talking receipts. We're talking, I don't know, tax forms, warranty cards, etc. This sounds obvious, but most people don't have this, and it creates a lot of stress.
Starting point is 00:12:02 You need a place where I need to hold on to this piece of paper. I know where to put it. I know where to find it. It'll take you five minutes to set this up, but it is going to continually give you rewards in terms of less stress, just knowing where that thing is. Your digital storage, then, is where you do the same thing for digital artifacts that you know you need to hold on to. Now, here's a tip.
Starting point is 00:12:25 Often the thing you need to hold on to might come to you in the form of, of an email or a web page. You filled out your estimated tax payment for your state and online, and there's a page that says, hey, you've done that. You could print all of this stuff out and store it. Or a little known tip, but I think a useful one, when you go to print, you can select, oh, what I want to print to is a PDF. And anything you could normally print to your printer, you can print to a PDF file,
Starting point is 00:12:52 which you can then drop in your Google Drive, drop in your Dropbox, right? So digital things that you need, here's a record, here's the email saying that you're confirmed for this house reservation, digital, throw it in. So you've got two places, digital, physical stuff goes in there that you know you need to keep track of. That's going to be the easiest of our three components of the basic system. Now let's move on to the second calendar. I'm going to suggest a digital calendar. And I'm going to suggest when it comes to your life outside of work that you make your calendar, the engine of your organization.
Starting point is 00:13:31 You were going to run your life outside of work from your digital calendar. So this calendar is going to have, of course, meetings or appointments. I'm supposed to go to the doctor, where, you know, going over to the cousin's house for dinner. Sure.
Starting point is 00:13:48 But you should also use it for one-time tasks and regular occurring activity. So where are your workouts? you have them on your calendar. This is when I do them. It's on the calendar. Let's say you have a one-time task. I got to change the tires on my car.
Starting point is 00:14:04 I'm kind of sliding around a little bit. Don't put on a to-do list. I'm going to suggest calendar. Specific day, specific time. This is when I am going to change the tires on my car. I got to fill out paperwork for my kid's summer camp, for example. If you don't want to choose a specific time for it, choose a specific day and add that as an all-day event
Starting point is 00:14:23 at the top of the column, corresponding to that day in your digital calendar. So what I'm suggesting here is quite different than what I suggest in the world of work. I am not going to suggest when you're new to personal life organization, I'm not going to suggest complicated to-do list. Everything lives on your calendar. You live off your calendar. What's going on today?
Starting point is 00:14:44 I'm at work, but outside of, I see on the way to work, I'm doing this. And during work at some point today, I got failed at this paperwork. And then I'm leaving work early because I see from four to five, I'm stopping by, whatever, the party supply store, it's on your calendar. The things need to do. Now, here's the key. Everything's there. Anything you need to remember to do exist on a day, so it's not in your head.
Starting point is 00:15:09 Now you're able to get a little bit of peace. You just trust your calendar. You see what you're supposed to do on a particular day. Things will get done. You don't have to remember it. You don't have to look in a personal inbox on your email and see someone bothering you about something, you know it's being taken care of. Now, of course, if you have a very complicated life, you can move on and use a business-style to-do list. But for a lot of people,
Starting point is 00:15:32 this is enough. Now, here's the secret advantage, the sort of beneficial side effect of using the calendar to drive your personal life, is you now have control over optional important things, because you're just used to this idea of what's on my calendar for today outside of work. Okay, that's what I'm doing. Those things can be unmissable appointments like your dentist, but it can also be things that you have optionally decided are important. Yeah, I'm going to the gym and this is when I'm doing it. I'm going for a long walk because I want to have a period each week to be more meditative. And I work from home and I do this in the afternoon on Friday because we don't usually have meetings.
Starting point is 00:16:12 Then it's something that's optional but important. It's on your calendar. You treat it the same as the dentist appointment. So now you have the ability to mix and match optional high-based. value activities into your day. So you've gained more control over how your time is being invested in a way that you wouldn't have if you do what the default chaotic approach is, which is you get home from work and say, what do I want to do next? I'm not in the mood, the walk. And oh, my God, this thing is due. My kids' camp forms are late. I just got an
Starting point is 00:16:42 email about it. So let me like stay up late and desperately do it. When you're just, hey, what do I want to do tonight? You don't have a lot of control. When you have everything on your calendar in advance, you gain a lot more control. Now, what you want to do with details for these activities. So, you know, you're meeting someone and where are they going to be and what's the instructions for getting to their building? Or, you know, you need to go to the mechanic and you have some notes about what the problem is and what, you know, you want to look for. On your digital calendar, you just add this to the event. You click on the event at any digital calendar.
Starting point is 00:17:18 You have a big info thing, details that's usually called. You just paste any information right in there. So not only do you know when I get to something on the calendar, when I need to do something, I'll get to it on my calendar. You also know that the details I need for doing that thing will be right there in the event. We're getting clarity. We're getting peace here. Now, what if it's a lot of paperwork or something that's too voluminous to actually have connected to a calendar event? Well, then that thing will be in your file storage system that we talked about in part one.
Starting point is 00:17:48 It'll be a PDF and a Google Drive or it'll be printed papers in your filing cabinet. you would just put a pointer to that in the event. Yes, all the paperwork for summer camp is in the filing cabinet under summer camp 2024 and the paperwork's there. So what we're going for here is you know where everything is, everything has taken care of, is accounted for in your schedule. You simply just run your day off of what's there on your calendar. This is how you're going to start to get mental peace.
Starting point is 00:18:14 This is how you're going to start to escape the sense of chaos. All right, the final piece of the system is what I'm calling the mail. Sorter. And I'm going to get traditional here. And by traditional, I mean straight out of our gospel of David Allen, author of getting things done, have a physical mail sorter. The mail sorter is just a open box. Three sides of the box, no top, no front. Or sometimes it's just one big open box. It traditionally was where you would actually put mail into it before that came in before you would actually sort through it. We are going to use a physical mail. Sorter that is at your house, and I suppose if you work at a different office, you could have a
Starting point is 00:18:57 mail sorter related to your personal life there as well. This is going to be the incoming filter for everything that shows up during your day, relevant to your life outside of work that you need to handle at some point. Now, this is straight up David Allen. Put it in the mail sorter and we'll deal with it at regular intervals. In my business productivity, my professional productivity advice, one of my core arguments is the mail sorter, as David Allen talks about and getting things done, can't keep up with digital professional life. If I'm getting 150 emails a day, a mail sorter, but this is not really relevant anymore. But it is still appropriate for most people's personal life, where A, you're still dealing with a lot of physical paper. I got mailed
Starting point is 00:19:43 something from the IRS or a bill from my doctor. I got mailed it I need to deal with. Put it in the mail sorter. My kid brought home some paperwork from school I have to fill out. Put it in the mail sorter, right? So you get more, you have more physical artifacts corresponding to your obligations in your personal life. So as things show up in the day, you put them in your mail sorter. What if something comes to mind that doesn't have a physical artifact? Maybe you notice something. I got to get a landscaping team to come and whatever. I just noticed it when I walked in and our bushes are crazy and I don't know how to trim them. or someone tells you something on the street.
Starting point is 00:20:22 Like, hey, you know it's like back to school nights coming up or something like this. So you don't have a physical artifact. Well, next to your mail sorter, have a stack of paper or a stack of index cards and a pen. And this is pure David Allen. Jot it on the thing, throw it in the mail sorter. It becomes a physical thing. Same thing with emails that come in in your personal email address. Oh, here's like the complicated instructions for your kids spirit week or something like that.
Starting point is 00:20:46 print it put in the mail sorter or jot down a note. You can put that in your digital filing cabinet, jot down a note, make a plan for a spirit week. So everything that shows up of, oh my God, I got to take care of this in my life, goes into this one box. And then on a semi-regular basis, you process this box and you go through and you got to put aside time for this, but you go through. And I would suggest having enough time when you sort through this box that you can actually deal with the short-durricular. obligations right there. I'll just pay this Dr. Bill. Let me just fill out this paperwork. Now, you can do the short things real quick. And some things you might come to and say, this is actually not relevant or let me just file this away. And for the bigger things that require more time,
Starting point is 00:21:30 goes on your calendar. Well, let me find a time when I am going to call the landscaping company to have them come out. I'll put this on my calendar over here. Let me find time when I'm going to do the camp paperwork. This is more complicated. All right, I'm going to add this. to this sort of task block I have on my calendar for, you know, an upcoming Sunday. And you make your way through, either doing it or scheduling it on your calendar. Now you may ask, well, how do I know to go through the mail sorter? That, too, is scheduled on your calendar. See how everything kind of connects together here?
Starting point is 00:22:02 So you're driving your life on your calendar. So one of the regular things you have on there once or twice a week, go through the mail order and you give yourself 30 to 45 minutes on your calendar. So all of these things connect together. and now you can handle stuff is coming at you from all directions. It gets collected. It gets processed. It gets executed with all the information needed, you know, clear where it is when it comes time to execute it.
Starting point is 00:22:26 For most people's personal lives, this basic system is enough to keep up with what's going on, to give you the peace of mind of stuff that needs to get done, gets handled. I'm not feeling chaotic. I'm not forgetting or losing things. So start with that basic system if you don't already have any system in your personal life. All right. Now I have two more steps about how to build on top of the foundation of this system. Step two, now we're going to get a little more advanced, automate what's important.
Starting point is 00:22:59 So now we're going to, now that we're living our life on this calendar, we're going to take more advantage of this. So what you need to do is set up automatic schedules on your calendar for things that are important. happen more than once, right? So this might mean household stuff that happened semi-annually. This is when I need to clean my gutters. Let me have a note on my calendar recurring for those three times a year or two times a year I do it. So it'll just show up when I get there, call and set up gutter cleaning. Put the information right there in the reminder. Okay, here it is. Here's the number for the gutter cleaning people that we like. Car maintenance. It just shows up. This is when I do it.
Starting point is 00:23:40 This is when I go in to get my car looked at and my oil changed. Now, if you're doing something for the first time, I just bought a car. It's fine to just put the first car maintenance on there. And then when you get there, that task is to require you to find a mechanic and figure out what needs to be done. But then you can update that information for all future occurrences of that task. So the information in these recurring tasks can get richer as you learn more. Exercise. Make this regular.
Starting point is 00:24:07 It should just show up regularly on your calendar when you, you want to do it. Think about things like time outdoors. I need that time to help me unwind from the chaos of the digital urban world. Make that regular. Friday morning, I go and do this. After I drop off the kids, I start my workday a little late, I walk this path. It's on my calendar.
Starting point is 00:24:28 It happens regularly. So you want to spend more time with friends. Here's what I'm going to do. Two evenings a week are always blocked off. So I don't schedule anything else during those evenings from like six to maybe Thursday and Friday. And my plan is at the beginning of every week, just try to invite someone.
Starting point is 00:24:45 Whoever I kind of run into early in the week, say, hey, do you want to grab something Thursday night or Friday night? Because you know those days are always free. You always have time held aside for doing something with friends. And now you just have to have the heuristic of, okay, when I next friend I run into, if I don't yet have plans for this week, I say, let's just do X, Y, and Z.
Starting point is 00:25:03 I have the time free. This time is being regularly protected. You're automating what's important. to you. Don't worry about getting a perfect set of activities to automate. What's the complete set of things I need to remember to do? What's the complete set of things that I want to do that's going to make my life deeper? You'll get better at that as you advance through the process that follows of making your life deeper. All this will be refined. Just get in the habit now of automating what's important. If you're going to live your life off the calendar, get all the stuff that you want or
Starting point is 00:25:34 have to do on there. All right. Step three, and this is sort of the secret software. that is really going to set you up for building a deep life. Reduce what's not important. One of the key side effects of living your personal life off your calendar is that you will get a very clear understanding of where your time goes. Because you are putting these things on your calendar. You are seeing what you don't have time for or when you don't have time for something, what parts of the week, and why you don't have time for it?
Starting point is 00:26:05 What is it that's getting in the way? Is there a particular activity that's eating up a lot of time and not leaving much left? Is it your work? You know, now that I'm being honest, like, I have to usually work a couple hours in the evening. I don't have enough time to do almost anything else. That's an incredibly important realization to have and confront if that's true. Maybe your energy is not there. You find, like, I schedule this ambitious 90-minute cross-fit workout every evening at 7 because in my mind on paper,
Starting point is 00:26:37 That's an open time, but I never really have the energy to do it. That's clear feedback. That's not the right time of your day to be doing this. So you can now go through and reconfigure and reduce what's in your life based on your knowledge. So you should be doing this maybe a month into running this system. Give yourself a month to get a sense of what's going on. And you come through and say, no more of this. I'm going to stop doing this activity.
Starting point is 00:27:01 My plan here is not working, so I'm going to reconfigure it. You have fitness actually. Here's what I need to do. I need to do this first thing in the morning. Let me change how I do my work. Let me have no meetings before 10. I'm going to reconfigure and I'm going to reduce. So this is where now you get in and start monkeying around with your life to make it work better.
Starting point is 00:27:22 And this is where you begin to really get that exposure of crafting and cultivating intentionally what your life to be. None of this is possible if you don't yet have this foundation of the basic system where things are captured and sketched. You run your life on your calendar. The important stuff shows up regularly. If you don't already have that foundation, it's hard to monkey with your life. You're like, I want to go to the gym more. And why is this not working? I signed up for this thing.
Starting point is 00:27:47 And it's sporadic and it's haphazard and something stick and some things don't. You get to this step three about a month into what I'm suggesting here. It's going to be a completely different picture. You will feel like you're firmly at the wheel of the car that is your life and can actually aim it in different ways. and have a good sense of what's happening on the road if we're going to stretch that metaphor. So all three steps of these together, that should get control. So yes, generally speaking, organizing your life in this way will give you exposure to discipline. And you'll feel more efficacious.
Starting point is 00:28:22 So anything else you want to take on, you'll have a more disciplined self-identity. Yeah, I can actually do stuff that's hard. But more importantly, you have the concrete tools in place that directly affect how you spend your time. and it's from there that almost everything else is going to seem possible. So anyways, this is experimental. I'm trying to get specific here. I'm toying with this idea of being specific about organization, getting control of your life as being the first step towards depth, the first layer, details for the first layer of the deep life stack. But let me know what you think about it as well.
Starting point is 00:28:58 I'm interested in feedback here in case studies. You can always send that to jessie at calnewport.com. but I think we're on to something here, Jesse. I think someone feeling organized, how could you not then be better prepared to make changes? And on the flip side of that, if your life is chaotic, that's difficult. I mean, you can do things and fits of inspiration, but what's going to stick? Yeah. Do you find that you still use your physical filing system as much as you did in the past now that so much stuff is digital?
Starting point is 00:29:29 We have, yeah, we do. we do in fact our problem is it's on my task list so if i was using this basic system it would be on my calendar and i'm probably going to go back i've merged too much of my task management in life outside of work with my work system which is this like very complicated system i might go back to the calendar system because like for example one of the things i need to do is i have to have to clean out our filing cabinet's full and i have to go through and clean out stuff we don't need because now we're having a hard time we mean to my wife and I, just being able to like, oh, fit the folder in because there's so many things in there.
Starting point is 00:30:04 I definitely have learned this as we get older, as we've had a whole mess of kids. There's a lot of physical filing. Yeah. There's a lot of physical filing. I mean, a lot of it's financial, you know, too. It's just like taxes and receipts, but there's paperwork. The kids generate a lot of paperwork. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:30:22 That makes sense. I don't use my physical one as much as I used to it with the past because. Are you doing more digital? Do you have a set place you like to store your digital artifacts? Yeah, for the most part. Yeah. Yeah. I use an external hard drive and then some stuff in the cloud.
Starting point is 00:30:37 Yeah, okay. Smart. So anyways, we got a bunch of questions coming up that all kind of roughly are going to orbit this general topic of constructing the first steps or the steps involved in constructing a deep life. But first, let's hear from some sponsors. So I want to talk about our friends at Cozy Earth. It's absolutely a true story, Jesse. So our house cleaner came yesterday. And as I went up to get in bed last night, yesterday night, I called out, oh, no.
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Starting point is 00:36:30 All right, Jesse, let's get moving with some questions. All right, who do we have first today? First questions from Gonzalo. How can I maintain a deeper life when I'm about to experience major changes in my personal and professional life? I'm going back to school, changing countries with a different language and culture. How can I maintain a deep life without being overwhelmed? We've got to talk about the definition of deep here.
Starting point is 00:36:58 So I think if I'm reading your question properly, you're using a specific definition of deep that corresponds to maybe simplicity or corresponds to a very aggressive, carefully constructed leisure schedule. you know, I've built out this life where I'm doing this reading and this exercising and have these important hobbies. And so it's either simplicity or that. You think this is all going to get broken up. It's going to be chaotic. So how can I have this really carefully constructed set of activities or how can I enjoy like a deep simplicity when I have all the chaos of moving and having the extra work of school and trying to learn a different language? But I want to step back and say, let's use a different definition for deep here and have it mean intentional. So live a deep life means you're being very intentional about how you live.
Starting point is 00:37:48 So during a period of transition, your intentions might be different than during a period of stability. So you have to ask, what am I trying to focus on or preserve or get out of this transitional period? And it might be about immersing myself in this new culture and in the academic program that I'm following and find meaning in that and not just have it be like a chore that I'm trying to over. overdue. Your intention might be trying to avoid a sense of overload or stress and be able to just have gratitude for where you are and not overdo it. You clarify your intentions and you figure out how to structure your life around those intentions. And it might then look very different during this period than it might otherwise look during another stage of life. So I think if you you think about this, depth is intention. Intentions have to match what's going on in your life.
Starting point is 00:38:43 you have a big thing happening. It's a cool thing happening. But what you have to worry about during this time might be very different to what you have to worry about before. So clarify your vision for this period. Make it realistic. Make it values aligned. But also go easy on yourself. Don't put too much on your plate.
Starting point is 00:39:01 This is not the time to pick up seven extra hobbies and train for the triathlon. Make your intentional plan and then go after it. All right. What do we got next, Jesse? Next question is from Megan. I work full time as a teacher, but I find it hard to balance personal and work obligations. There's never enough time. I work all week and then spend Sundays trying to catch up on all the needs that need to be done at home.
Starting point is 00:39:25 I want to relax, but often can't because I feel overwhelmed. Well, let's see here. You're overwhelmed. So if I'm reading this correctly, your work is taking up a lot of time, which is common for teachers. It's one of the only jobs where nowadays you still have a lot of the reactivity that a normal knowledge worker has, emails and things you have to do, but you're given no time to actually do it during the workday because you're in the classroom. And then you have to figure out how to get that done. So how do you find relaxation when you're always so busy? I'm going to move your focus away from time and I'm going to move it towards psychology.
Starting point is 00:40:04 So having an organizational system really tuned up for your professional life with caps. and obligation list and the way you keep track of things. So nothing is in your head. Your multi-scale planning. You're in control of your time. Nothing's being held in your head. Having a tip-top organizational system is going to be important. Not because it's going to find a way to fit all of your work into less time and you're going to have all this more free time.
Starting point is 00:40:32 But because of the psychological benefit of you not having to bring home the stress of your work. The sense of control over your job makes it much easier to step away from your job when you have the chance. The second thing that I'm going to add, and this is related, is lean into your shutdown ritual. When your work is done, and it might be later than you would hope it to be, you have a clear shutdown ritual, which when working in conjunction with your system during work, which means I actually trust that I'm on top of things, your mind can trust shutting down. So the shutdown ritual is basically going to train your mind. It's okay to let go. The organizational system is going to make that even feasible. But just being organized and having your systems tip-top shape for your work is not enough by itself for you to be able to clear your mind because there's just a psychological nag of I don't trust myself.
Starting point is 00:41:25 So that's where the shutdown ritual then helps. You put these two things together and you get the psychological benefit of separation. Regardless of what you do with that free time or how much free time you have. it's much more restorative because it's not being shared with work. And when those things remain blended throughout all of your waking hours, that's where the burnout enters the scene. Clear separation makes this a lot easier. At that point, then, you might want to have a more careful approach about how you think of your life outside of work. Look at the system we talked about in the deep dive.
Starting point is 00:42:02 My three component system, storage calendar, sorter, get that going, do some automation. All that's going to be important. Just be completely honest with yourself that there's not much you might be able to fit in on a regular basis and be completely okay with that. Maybe really lean into that third step of reduction or taking things out of your life. And you're going to have to get a lot out of a little. A lot out of on, you know, Friday you don't work on lesson plans. You go right from the school and go for this 45-minute hike, and that's how you reset your mind every week. It's the before you do the household tasks on Sunday, you go to the coffee shop with your book and spend an hour reading it.
Starting point is 00:42:44 You have these really intentional things once you control your life. You might have to get a lot out of a little. The goal here is not to fit in a Herculean amount of things outside of work, but just to give you to get your hands on the wheel. Okay, I can navigate this. I might not be able to drive as fast as I want, but I can navigate this as not just haphazard. You put those two things in the place, I think you're going to feel a lot better. All right. Let's move on.
Starting point is 00:43:08 What do we got next? Next question is from Alice. I like the concept of the Deep Life Stack, but I did get a bit stuck on defining my rituals and routines. Could you elaborate on the differences between these two? All right, Jesse, I think I'm going to choose this question as this week's slow productivity corner. So as long-time listeners know, each week we designate. 81 question is the slow productivity corner question because it deals with a theme that will also be in my upcoming book slow productivity which is coming out on march 5th if you want to get a free excerpt from that book actually it's the introduction of the books you can actually read the whole summary of what slow productivity is and where it came from go to calnewport.com slash slow to find out more so why is this question about rituals and routines and how they fit into the quest for the deep life. Why is this my slow productivity corner? I talk about rituals and routines in the book.
Starting point is 00:44:14 And in particular, I talk about them in the chapter that captures the second principle of slow productivity, which is work at a natural pace. The elaborated definition of that principle, so there's a sort of the call-out box, here is the second principle where I give a more detailed definition of the principle, has a second component. Work at a natural place. a pace in settings conducive to brilliance. So you got two parts going on to the second principle. The pace part says don't just do full intensity, eight hours a day, five days a week, 50 weeks a year.
Starting point is 00:44:52 You want ups and downs at all sorts of different timescales. Take longer on things that are important. Don't rush things. Offset really intense periods with relaxing periods is what we're wired to do. But then the location piece matters as well. That's the settings conducive to brilliance. One of the things I talk about in the book is leveraging rituals and routines
Starting point is 00:45:14 to extract more out of your work sessions, out of the settings where you work. I also talk about these in our discussion of the Deep Life Stack here on the show, so let's dive into the difference. What is the difference between a ritual and routine? Well, rituals, roughly speaking, I think of them as activities you do
Starting point is 00:45:34 with the specific goal of changing your mind set in the moment or reminding you of something that's important to you. So it's entirely self-reflective or psychology shifting. A routine, on the other hand, might be something about how you structure or spend your time that impacts how you actually do things that have real output, real outcome. So let me make this a little bit more specific. One of the context in which I talk about rituals and routines is when we talk about deep work. This is one of the main context in my book. I talk about rituals and routines around working on things that are important to you. So in the context of deep work, a ritual might be, for example, I walk around my property once before I sit down to do deep work because it helps put my mind into a state conducive for thinking.
Starting point is 00:46:28 Or, you know, in my home office, I clear the desks and I turn off most of the lights but just a bright desk spot. and it's a ritual that tells my mind it's time to concentrate. A routine relevant to deep work, by contrast, might be something like I do deep work the first two hours of every day. This is my routine I've built up to support deep work so I know when to expect the work to happen and it's a time that's going to be most effective for me. Or it's the writer who goes to their writing cabin on Friday mornings to write overnight and then. come back on Saturday. It's a routine. It's shaping the schedule or structure of your work in an intentional way. Another place in the deep life stack where we talk about rituals and routines is in the context of the values layer where you're trying to build up some sort of
Starting point is 00:47:23 deep foundation of values from which you can further direct your life. And I often talk about there briefly, use rituals and routines to support your values. So there, of course, rituals is going to be things you do just to sort of directly reconnect you with the things that you value. So, for example, we might find these pretty commonly in the religious context. So if you're Muslim, it might be the five daily prayers. It's something you do specifically to reconnect you to your conception of the divine. If you're Jewish, it might be wearing the Talit. You have the four-cornered garment that has the precise numbers of tassel. with knots.
Starting point is 00:48:05 This is meant to remind you of the divine. There's some complexity. I was reading about the Talit recently. I don't know all the details, but somehow the number of the fringes that hang off of this, if you multiply them or add them to the number of knots in some sort of complicated ways, it equals the total number of mitzvoh in the Torah, so the total number of commandments in the Torah for how to live. So by seeing it that you're wearing it, it keeps reminding you to, you know, puts me in the mindset of follow Torah, right? In a secular context, this might be walking meditation outside, you know.
Starting point is 00:48:43 I'm just going to walk and observe the seasons and the weather around me. It's just a way to like reconnect. I used to do this actually. I don't know if I've told this story before. My nature walking meditation. I don't know if I've talked about this, Jesse, when I was a postdoc at MIT. Post-Talk at MIT and was reading some John Cabot-Zinn. So John Cabot-Zinn brought this famous book, Full Catastrophe Living.
Starting point is 00:49:09 Here's one of the early big supporters of using mindfulness meditation in medical context. So, okay, you have pain from an injury, you have extreme trauma or stress. Let's bring in mindfulness meditation into psychological practices, medical practices. And I read this book, so I went through a phase where I was sort of really into it. And so I started doing, and this was actually really effective. I used to walk to campus from Beacon Hill to MIT. I'd walk across the Longfellow Bridge, which is the old stone bridge. It looks like big salt shakers.
Starting point is 00:49:47 Walk across that. And I just had this routine of as I turned off a Charles Street onto the bridge until I got to across the bridge and turned to course. and turned a corner towards the status center at MIT, walking meditation. All I was allowed to do was notice. And the only thing to notice was the plants and the snow and the, okay, hey, there's some buds coming now or the snow is built up this high. Look what's happening with the ice. Because I was also reading Thoreau at this time. So all this stuff was coming together.
Starting point is 00:50:15 Classic sort of, you know, New England, Transcendentalist sort of identity stuff. It was really great, actually. It would be cold as sin, basically. But you just, this is like what you're done. I'm focusing on. and the seasons are changing. I was really connected to what was going on. But it's a ritual.
Starting point is 00:50:31 It's not directly structuring other stuff I do. It's done just to put me in a particular mindset that in this case would keep me true to my values. A routine in these case would be something that you do regularly that reinforces or is informed by your values. So, you know, maybe you wear the delete to remember the mitzvil of the Torah, but the routine might be I volunteer at the soup kitchen. So I'm going to do a thing regularly that is aligned with my values. So it's not just reconnecting me mentally with my values, but now there's a specific activity I'm doing. So rituals and routines, it's a porous border. That's the best way I could break it up.
Starting point is 00:51:13 All right. So that's our slow productivity corner. All right. Let's keep rocking rolling. Who do we got next? Next question's from Victor. Do you think playing video games can be part of a deep life? In another episode, you said that video games are fine.
Starting point is 00:51:34 is a distraction if they're not played online. Does that mean that you should focus on other activities instead in order to cultivate a deep life? Do you do video games, Jesse? No. I played like when I was like eight for like a year. Yeah. See, I think it's generational. Like you and I grew up with 8-bit Nintendo, which was like, this is kind of fun.
Starting point is 00:51:57 People played it a lot, though. People played it a lot. But a lot of people, the reaction was like certain people at caught, like, like, I got a beat like speed run Mario. Like for most people like you or I were, you know, it's weird that the graphics aren't great and it's these beeps and boops and you're like, this is, you know, it's okay, but whatever. Matt and football came out when we were young and that was big. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:52:20 We're a little older though, right? Because that was more like Sega Genesis. Was there a Nintendo? Yeah, I had a Sega too. Yeah. But we were a little older by then. See, we were a little older by then. It's like in our impressionable years, we had Super Tecmo and Tecmo Bowl.
Starting point is 00:52:34 where my memory was, what was the player? I think it was Bo Jackson. The game was out of balance. Remember TechMobile? So if you just chose Bo Jackson, you could just score a touchdown, like endlessly. But yeah, then I remember Madden. I had Joe Montana football for the Sega.
Starting point is 00:52:52 And the key there, it turned out, was just do punt block. That's the only defensive scheme you had to do was just punt block because it just overwhelmed the, overwhelmed the quarterback almost every time. Anyways, our point is, I think our generation was exposed to video. games and we're like,
Starting point is 00:53:05 yeah, this is okay. So only people who had a real affinity got into it. Younger generations are being exposed to much better
Starting point is 00:53:12 video games. I think that's part of the problem. Like, their games are awesome, you know. And so I think especially young men are more likely to have a problem
Starting point is 00:53:21 with these are better than my life. Like, this is a lot of fun. It's hyper realistic. I feel that human instinct we all have for getting better at things
Starting point is 00:53:34 and mastery that we have that wired into us to try to push us, evolutionarily speaking, to become leaders within our tribe so that we could spread our genes better. This just subverts that. You're like, yeah, man. In redemption, I don't know what these games are called or whatever, Call of Duty.
Starting point is 00:53:51 Like, I'm getting better and better, and so it kind of subverts those drives and the games are hyper-realistic and they're really fun. No one in 1989 was going to say the world of Super Mario Bros. is better than to real life. It's these little graphics and it's weird and there's a plumber going down these tubes
Starting point is 00:54:07 and this weird sound, right? It was a very specific thing to be into, but now video games can be ready than life. So I think you and I, our generation doesn't really have a problem with that, but the generation before us, you know, we really do have an issue where you get exposed to these games as kids
Starting point is 00:54:21 and now you're 26, 27, 30 years old. You're playing a lot of video games. And your energy and your self-worth is coming out of those instead of what you probably should be doing at that age, which is like getting your act together as a man and building up your economic autonomy, building up, you know, your, your position of prominence inside your relevant tribes. It's like, none of this is happening because you're like, hey, I'm, you know,
Starting point is 00:54:48 level 37 now. I don't know the games, but whatever. I'm level 37 now in Wizard Quest or whatever, how it goes. So we have to be careful about video games if they become an alternative world in which you're living. No. Is it a part? problem is abstractly, if there's a video game you like to play and it's just like one of your hobbies, one of the things you do? No. I mean, a deep life, what? It's something that's lived with intention and aims towards something remarkable. There's nothing wrong with having leisure activities in it that are fun. You know, for some people, it's fishing. For other people, it might be, you know, playing a video game. That's fun. But the thing to be wary about,
Starting point is 00:55:21 again, is the game itself becoming an objective in your life. The game itself, notably crowding out other things that are important. And I think there's big portions of our audience, women, men over a certain age, etc. They're saying, what are you talking about? But for a particular group, this is a real fear, that this is how I'm going to satisfy my urge to make something of myself to get better to have standing. Because you know what? I have standing in this game. I cast a bunch of spells. That was hard. And I get respect in this world. But that's not a real friction. It's a simulation of the friction of getting better. It's not the same of actually dealing with things in the real world, with real actual competitive structures and building up prominence in measurably, objectively difficult ways.
Starting point is 00:56:11 It's not the same. When you play in a video game, all the rough edges have been sanded off. When you play in a video game, it is set up to make sure that you keep making progress because it's pressing that button. Or in the real world, progress is not guaranteed. It requires that you actually go after something harder than other people, that you feel the dissatisfactions in the moment, the discomforts of deliberate practice. It's not the same thing. It's a simulation of the same thing. It's the difference between having a mate and pornography.
Starting point is 00:56:40 It's the difference between a drug and actually feeling really good about something that you accomplished or a real compliment. It's a low fidelity simulation that satisfies that itch enough that if you're not careful, it keeps you completely away from the real thing. So, Victor, I'm not against video game. completely. I'm against video games becoming a totem or an idol in your life
Starting point is 00:57:09 that brings a lot of your attention and subverts a lot of your potential energy. So just be really honest about it and what role it plays. Especially if you're above a certain age,
Starting point is 00:57:18 just be wary. Right? No one's going to yell at a 37-year-old who plays scrabble on their phone or something. But the 37-year-old has spent seven hours
Starting point is 00:57:28 in World of Warcraft, those eyebrows are going to start raising pretty high. All right. Let's do, we got more time. Let's do another question. Who else do we have here? Next question is from Phil.
Starting point is 00:57:42 Do you contemplate how each deep life bucket supports your strategic plans? For example, a well-functioning constitution bucket would support both professional and personal activities. Or do the strategic plan support the deep life buckets? For example, maybe a personal strategic plan would be all those activities that are devoted to the constitution, community, and conduct. completion buckets while the professional strategic plan contain exclusively craft-related items. Well, there's a key question here.
Starting point is 00:58:09 Now, let's put aside for now the specific discussion of buckets and these particular names like Kraft and Constitution because I talk about the pursuit of the deep life with multiple different metaphors. I talk about it with buckets. I talk about with stacks. So let's put aside the specific metaphors and just talk about these two general topics, which we often touch on this show. On one hand, the pursuit of a deep life.
Starting point is 00:58:35 On the other hand, systems for organizing what's going on in your life in a world of distraction. What is the relationship between these two things? This is the real question Phil has. Are they separated or are they related? The answer is they're completely related. The tools that we talk about for organizing your life professionally and personally, including the whole system I laid out during the deep dive portion of this episode, including the complex systems we've discussed for organizing your professional life in a world of knowledge work. These are deeply intertwined with your overall goal of living a deeper life.
Starting point is 00:59:15 Your job, for example, plays a very big role in your life, so any conception of a deep life has to have a really clear understanding of your job. So whatever systems you're using to planning and direct your energy for your professional life needs to be completely aware of your big plans for your vision for your life, your vision for a path towards something deeper. So, for example, when we get to the technical side of things, I often talk about multi-scale planning where you have a strategic plan or a semester plan or a quarterly plan, whatever you want to call it, that informs a weekly plan that informs a daily time block plan. on my strategic plan from my work at the very top of that plan is the vision where I want my work to go as part of my conception of the deep life. And the way I do it is I break out five properties. So I'm saying here's what I want to get to in my world of work. I want these five properties and I have a little explanation about what I mean for each of them. That's at the top of my strategic plan that I update every semester.
Starting point is 01:00:14 So when I'm updating, what do I want to focus on this semester as I'm at this higher level of altitude, making plans for where I want to spend my energy, I have to confront my vision of the deep life and how it overlaps my job so that I can say in whatever plan I come up with for the semester, I want to make sure I'm making progress on that vision. The personal organizational type systems, like I talked about earlier in this show, I mean, that's directly controlling how you spend your time and attention. in your life outside of work, that's completely informed by the efforts you have to understand what's important to you. So as you go through these different parts of your life and figure out how to make them deeper, it is in your personal organizational systems
Starting point is 01:00:57 and the nitty gritties of your calendars and file storage systems and mail sorters that you actually put these ideas in the practice. So these two topics, these two magistaria of deep questions discourse, are not as they might be as Stephen Gould might say they're not distinct.
Starting point is 01:01:18 They should actually be mixed together. The highly technical organizational talk needs to be connected to the highly abstract philosophical thoughts about where your life should be. All this comes together in pursuing the central goal of the show, which is trying to live deeply in a world that is distracted. All right, let's do a call. Let's hear someone's voice. Do we have a call?
Starting point is 01:01:42 Yeah. All right. Here we go. Let's listen. Hey, Cal and Jesse. First off, thanks for all that you guys do. Big fan of your work. I recently quit my job as a product manager in tech
Starting point is 01:01:56 to find more meaning in my work and really just become self-employed. I have a few main areas that I want to grow in and would like to know how you suggest balancing efforts on a macro and micro scale. Just for context, the three areas are, first off, my main project is a website for runners, training plans and such.
Starting point is 01:02:17 I have one business partner, and we plan to launch it soon. I've been working on that for about a year. Secondly, I'm taking a course to build out a skill set as a UI designer. I want to do UI design for my own projects and perhaps freelance someday. And then thirdly, I just want to create more online, blogging, videos, using social to connect with others, and really just make useful content around my interests. Speaking of my interests, I'm just a super curious person,
Starting point is 01:02:45 have a lot of hobbies as it is. So guitar, action sports, music making, photo video, and all of these interests pull for my time and attention as well. I have tried to do day-theming and use systematic time blocking, really to attack all these different areas and interests, but it just felt too rigid and formulaic to me. So, yeah, my key question is, how do you suggest I focus on a macro and micro scale to have progress in these multiple areas, which all feel important to me? Thanks, guys. Well, it's a good question. I like the framing you have, micro and macro.
Starting point is 01:03:22 So on the microscale, I'm going to suggest that you have what I would think about as a foundation of depth. Commitments that you do and track every day, every week, that make sure that for the key things in your life and your conception of the life well lived are actually getting efforts, right? So this is different for different people. but it might be just to give you a case study here. It might be, okay, I have this aggressive fitness health routine. I'm reading a certain amount every day, which is like a lot more than I would do if I didn't actually have this plan. I, you know, call one person every single day. Maybe if you're religious or philosophical, there's some sort of prayer or reflection or something else you're doing there.
Starting point is 01:04:09 You have a foundation. Okay, this is stuff I just do. I never not do this. And this makes sure that I always have this foundation of depth that aligns me with the things I care about. At the macro scale, you have the bigger projects. These are going to change over time. You can't necessarily work on a lot of these at the same time, right? So when we're thinking about your discretionary time, we have macro micro.
Starting point is 01:04:31 I want to suggest an idea here that coincidentally, I was just discussing on email earlier today, earlier the day that we're recording this. And I don't think he'll mind me discussing this, but I was emailing back and forth with the writer's Stephen Johnson. And he mentioned, he said, you know, back in, I think the book was maybe where good ideas come from, which is this really important book that I talk about at length in my book, so good they can't ignore you. And if it's not this book, Stephen, I apologize. But he said, hey, there's this concept from that book that reminds me of your new
Starting point is 01:05:06 book, Slow Productivity. And I don't know if this is the exact words he used to call it. This might be the name I added. But I think he might have actually used these exact words. He called it slow multitasking. which he had identified studying people that produce cool ideas, he had identified as a really important strategy. He said, what slow multitasking is about is multitasking,
Starting point is 01:05:29 but at the scale of months. And what it means is I spend the next six weeks working on this big project. And then, so it's like the back and forth context, what you do to a normal day, slow down. and then I spend four weeks really focusing on this project. And then I go back to that other project, give it two months. So you're tackling one big thing is getting your focus at a time, at the end of which it just maybe is doing a little bit of bookkeeping
Starting point is 01:06:01 or background work to keep it running. So you're multitasking multiple things, but each thing gets your focus for a while before you switch to something else. That's a classic slow productivity type of move here. I talk about this a lot in my own book, productivity, less things it wants. So you're slowing down the time frame at which you're actually making progress on these projects, but you're always working on something important.
Starting point is 01:06:25 And you're able to give it a lot of time and attention and have gratitude for what it's giving to you in your life and what you're giving back. And when you zoom out to the 10-year period, you look back and are like, hey, my running website, the project thing I was working over here, like all these things ended up in interesting places where they're really useful. In the moment, it feels like, oh, my God, I'm letting this thing languish. but when you zoom out, they're all getting time. So the slow multitasking approach,
Starting point is 01:06:49 I'm sort of going from one project to another and then back again in increments of multiple weeks, if not multiple months. It takes some realigning of your definition of productivity to be comfortable with this because it's not boom, boom, boom. I touched on everything today. But it's a more effective way to work on things and a more sustainable way.
Starting point is 01:07:08 You don't feel so up against it. You really can get lost in something and really learn about it. it just requires that the scale at which you evaluate your productivity, it just needs to be expanded. So maybe give that a try. Foundation of the micro habits you do every day, things that remind you of what's important to you,
Starting point is 01:07:28 slow multitasking on the big. Right, before we get to our final segment, I also want to do a case study. It's where we read a account sent in by one of my listeners about them putting the things we talk about here on the show in the practice. so we can see what this stuff looks like out in the wild. Today's case study comes from Alex. Alex says, I've been listening to the podcast since 2021.
Starting point is 01:07:52 I used to be very disorganized, always late, and overwhelmed. Over the past few years, I've listened to the podcast and done my best to implement the ideas and live deeply. As a spiritual leader, I'm always trying to do my best to live a meaningful life. I'm not always super consistent with everything and don't feel that I plan as well as I could. On the scale of days and weeks, it can be easy to feel like I'm not doing as well as I could, be, but looking back on the scale of a few years, I realize that things are much better than the week before, or they were before. I'm much more consistent now, and people trust that I'll get back to them and deliver
Starting point is 01:08:22 my promises. Over this time, I've developed habits, kept the task list, and started each day with intention. This year, I've read more than 30 books. I don't use social media and have a deep and fulfilled life. Slow productivity works. I would encourage everyone to commit to a deep life for the long haul and not focus on hacks and tricks. It may not always be perfect, but you will look back in three years and realize how far you've come.
Starting point is 01:08:49 Well, Alex, I appreciate that case study. That is perfectly distilled slow productivity. It's not about trying to get everything done all the time, being busy all the time, trying to alchemize freneticism into impressiveness. Instead says slow down, first things first, take care of the things that are important, make progress on the big optional things that are going to leave your legacy, and trust that, even if you don't feel super busy or exhausted today, you will look back in a couple years and say, hey, I'm pretty proud of what I did. I mean, it's really is just a fundamental rewiring of how we think about accomplishment. So it's a great case study.
Starting point is 01:09:32 I wish I had heard this before. I wrote my book. I could have put it in there. If you want to read another case study of this mindset in action, the excerpt you can get at calnewport.com slash slow tells the story of John McPhee. So it gives a fantastic case study of slow productivity and action from the life of John McPhee. So if you want to read that, grab that excerpt over at calnewport.com slash slow.
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Starting point is 01:13:43 All right, Jesse, let's go to our final segment. This is where I react to something going on in the world that I think is interesting. Today I want to talk about an article from the Washington Post. For those who are watching instead of listening, you'll see this on the screen here. this article is titled, How Many Books Did You Read in 2023?
Starting point is 01:14:06 Are You in the Top 1%. This was written by Andrew von Dom. So this is based off of survey research of 1,500 Americans that was asking, among other things, about reading habits. In particular, how many books did you read in the last year? There's a chart here I'm going to load up. that connects your answer to this question to what percentile of Americans that put you in. If you read two books a year, you are already in the 51st percentile.
Starting point is 01:14:41 If you read just one book a year, you're in a 46th percentile. That means 46 percent of respondents had read zero books over the entire preceding year. This is the type of number that gives nightmares to professional writers by me. by the time you get to somewhere between 20 or 30 books, you're going to hit the 90th percentile. I read five books a month, so that puts me over 50 plus books, so in the 99th percentile. Here's what I want to point out here.
Starting point is 01:15:14 You should read. Reading is like a superpower. If you're in that 46 percent, it doesn't read any books, change that and start reading. Why is it like a superpower? Well, there's two things you're going to get out of it. One is mind reading. To read a nonfiction book is to be able to read the mind of an expert on a topic
Starting point is 01:15:37 who spent years thinking about and shaping their thoughts on the topic, and you get to take that complicated hard-won structure and transplant it to your own mind. It's a mind-meld that gets you fantastic knowledge. If you're reading fiction, you get to bring a complicated experience of a different person in different circumstances and understand it. No better source of empathy than reading novels. So books can give you that superpower. The second thing books give you is sharper thinking.
Starting point is 01:16:08 When you're exposed to structured information, your own thinking becomes more structured. You get used to organizing information in a stronger, more intentional manner. So if you read a lot, you become a better thinker. So books really are one of the best cognitive medicines you can take in the 21st century. It gives you this huge advantage.
Starting point is 01:16:39 So how do you read more if you're not a big reader? Well, there's some simple things you can do. One, select books, especially early on in a reading habit, select books that you just are super excited about. Don't worry about being smart. don't worry about, I want to cover the most complicated nonfiction topics, or I want to read the fiction that's winning all the awards. Get things that you are excited to read and are easy to read.
Starting point is 01:17:05 Next, put in some reading habits into your day. So the easiest thing you can do is lunch and breakfast. You read instead of using your phone. Second, have a regular reading block every afternoon or evening. Okay, I spend 20 minutes and I sit and I read. Just do those two things. a little bit of breakfast reading, a little bit of lunch reading
Starting point is 01:17:25 instead of going on your phone, and one reading block per night, you will start getting through books. After books you really love, you'll probably start reading about one book per week or two. So if I'm looking at this chart here, that will already get you to the 80 plus percentile.
Starting point is 01:17:43 So you're getting more of the reading advantages than 80 percent of your peers if you just start with books you love, breakfast lunch, one reading block. So if you're not a reader, if you're in that 46%, don't even think twice about it. This is not a major lift. This is not going to be unpleasant. This is not going to require huge amounts of time out of your day.
Starting point is 01:18:02 But the benefits will add up. Transition towards a reading habit. And if you're already a reader, think about how do I join that 99%? How do I make reading a much more regular part of my life? How do I get an hour plus per day aggregate reading? That'll get you to that 99% place. the higher you go up this chart, the more of those benefits in terms of the mind reading, the empathy and the clear thinking, the more of those benefits you're going to get.
Starting point is 01:18:30 So basically, I'm using this article to be a PSA. It's an entirely biased PSA because I make a living of people buying books. But hey, who are you going to trust when it comes to reading? Who are you going to trust more than someone who makes a living trying to get other people to read? All right, Jesse, that's all the time we have for today. Thank you, everyone who watched or listen. then if you're listening to want to see today's episode, this is episode 283, go to the deeplife.com slash listen. Look for episode 283. The video will be at the bottom. We'll be back next week with a new
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