Dr. Mario Alonso Puig - Aprender a poner límites (sin intentar cambiar a los demás)

Episode Date: March 24, 2026

En este nuevo episodio de Conversaciones abordamos un tema de enorme importancia, la familia, las relaciones y el sufrimiento que aparece cuando alguien a quien amamos se aísla, se pierde o entra en dinámicas que generan dolor.A lo largo de este encuentro reflexionamos sobre cuestiones que nos afectan: Cómo acompañar a un ser querido sin invadirle, cómo poner límites sin dejar de amar, y cómo comprender que, detrás de muchas conductas que nos hieren, con frecuencia hay miedo, sufrimiento y una profunda desconexión.En esta conversación exploramos una distinción esencial:  una cosa es ver a una persona como tóxica, y otra muy distinta es comprender que puede haber toxicidad en su manera de actuar. Cuando aprendemos a distinguir, se abre la posibilidad de la corrección, de la firmeza y también de la compasión.Ojalá esta conversación no solo te invite a pensar, sino también a mirar con más profundidad aquello que estás viviendo, ya sea en tu familia, en tu pareja o en una relación importante para ti.Déjame saber en comentarios qué reflexión te ha resonado más.Si esta conversación puede ayudar a alguien cercano a ti,  te invito a compartirlo.🌿 Descarga gratis 3 meditaciones transformadoras y regálate tiempo de calma, cuidado y presencia¡Suscríbete!MÁS INFORMACIÓN Y RECURSOS ÚTILES: 📖 Libros🎧 Accede a mi audionewsletter gratis🎟️⁠ Entradas a la nueva conferencia 2026PÁGINA WEB Y REDES SOCIALES OFICIALES:🌐⁠⁠Página Web⁠⁠📷⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠▶️⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠📲⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💼LinkedIn𝕏 Twitter

You'll go to give a We'll go a because what I'm to say has the capacity to

reventing much of our system of creancies. That toxicity can can rastraar also,

is that I have to care me to put a limit. Me can't,

I think reflections about some of the things that have obtained?

No, no. No. And I think you don't you're to

get to have been. Well, tell me, because. To the question that now profundize, not is par to the person toxic

but to the toxicity of the person. From the point of view that is absurd. We have evidence

direct that that that's real. Dear friends, well, welcome to this new episode

of conversations and to to try of an theme of exceptional importance

and today relations family matrimonio and have been dear

people of different places of and we we have

the fortune to count to also an Eric

Eric has five years and he and he

and he's to courses in those that the theme of the of the cresimient personal and, for that is a person more than authorised to be here

between adults, because, sure that all, starting for me, we can learn much of him. Well, then, the tone,

it's going to a tone of a conversation, where the reality, the response were in

the conversation. We're going to a series of questions that are relevant in our life and we're going to to play with what you're going to to find something that

us help not simply to know, but know to do, to superar those limits that many times we put into, without, of course, to that we're going to, to,

to open to, to open to a space of new possibilities and opportunities in our life. Benveni- who want to do the first

question about a topic that he important, that he that's that's a well,

not only interesting, but relevant. Well, if you want, Mario, for

favor, today is a doctor. I'm a doctorate. I'm a companyer of

and the other we're going, to what we're the family, the relations, that are

those great indicators of the quality and of the people.

What I want here in the group is I'm I'm conscientious that in the family is where it's

where you're amplification the signals. It's to have problems with someone that's by the

way, but in the family is where we're going amplification when you don't you have been

you know, you know, you know, that's what more really. So, when you have

a relation with a person to you want to and you and you and you see that

you're in a pozo, what you do, what you do? accept the situation you intend to help you're doing

but you'll see it's all possible to help you see that's that's the question well this is a this is a question

that I think that has a important that we're where we're we're seeing we're we're

how in many there's there a profound disorientation and an enormous desanimo

so we're going to we're to look a question a question that not is easy and that logically who experimented this situation

suffer enormously because no know how to help. So, we're going to start to the language, not because the language not because the language we're going to point to where is the solution.

So, not the experience of the caminor in the the luna, it's the deado that that the luna to be that Without necessity to enter in things in those that you can't

feel you incommod, Mario, describe us that pozo. When you say, one person is entering in a pozo, how is that pozo for you? It's is to see, how do you? But you see, that person

who you want, and you adoras, uh, poco, so, and you're going to be isolating, so, and you're going to

see, you're going to be getting solo, solo, and onceima opta for romper relations with the rest of the family. Very well. It's,

is that one of the indications in this case of that one person is the tendency to isolation. Aisolment totally and, and more,

be submitted by the influx of another person that is doing a labor very negative. That's

that entry in the pozo not is only consequence of something of something that is something

in that person, if not is an information that, in a reason, that's what kind of of information

could favor of that somebody to get to to meet to that person in concrete is a

person, with a person, with a exclusive with her only, nothing more. The rest

of the family has got got to isolate completely. She has no relations with the

friends, nor have relations with his hermases, neither with the

parents, nor have relation to the time, and have gotten to that person invidious

celos, has got to be got to get a family. The first, is the

first, is sure, to that, that has been been being

we're saying, we're saying, we're saying, we're talking, in the in this case, in this case

perhaps that one of the person he says to the other to the other person, of that what is the relation

with the family and with the friends, no, he has to putt a amount, and, for that has to cut it churgicomently.

Exactly. That's, I would have defined it better. Well, then, now,

me permitting that reflections about some of the things that you've done? Well, that's

how you've described to the person that has been having that influx,

that negative in that other person to cut out like... Celsa and invidious. Celosa? Envidious?

Could you add to add another more? Well, with much a lot. Celosa, envidiosa

and with much fear. The opponent the only of human is the fear.

The fear is in different versions. The ira, the

attack, the violence, the the warrens, the resentiment, the envyia, the celos, the prepotency, etc. So, we're going to explore that fear.

To what could have a person? To all, for what I know to all, it's a fear to that's, I'm going to the other, the other, the other of the other, the last, yeah, not let her do

do nothing, to do a marid, equal, and in the end, in fact, it's fear to almost all in this world. A fear that their children have more relation with his

abelos, that have, in the end of the same. The sensation, obviously, is what is what's called a theory to the

mind, is it. We think we can't we're not so, but we're going to suppose that,

the sensation that is that this person has a fear that if your partner is a

family, is the If his his children are more with the abuelos she

will be the power that's the power. Exactly. Well, I'm to ask

that we're a point because what I'm going to say has the capacity to

have to even of our system of creencies and

Mario, I'm to if if me permitting to

interact to feel in the responses in the measure in the

way you consider that you You know, how does that person that is causing that damage to his

a family, to that's that's his, his kids have a connection with the abelos,

having the importance of the abelos? As a my man, I don't think I don't think

resentment to her, no, no, no, no, it's, what I'm my his son,

is my he's getting in that potso. I don't have a resentment contrary. Simply what I

would I would say is to be that we are your enemies. All the contrary.

Well, I don't I see with with an no, I know with that I would be

to be rather. I'd even like to help them more, that's, you know, I'm, you're, I'm, you're, in, in-, I'm

you know, celosa and envisiosa. That no is incompatible with that no sentiment, the best celosa and

you know you know what are the vases communicants, a case? A-knotice? For those

who don't know it's a series of tubits connected, so what you put in one one side,

imagine that you you're you're a toxic in a one of the tubes,

get to the toxic to all the tubes. If I if I would be if I

would of the other tubes. Although not it had chowed there the toxic I'm

intoxicary. I'm intoxicary. I want to know to the possibility that in the plan

physical we're all the other person is there and the other person is there.

We're in the point of the possibility of that your feelings your form of

a person to be a person to be that person. For absolutely absurd that could be of the point of

of view of the sense, the point of of view of physical, we are we in the plan metaphysical. What would be? If in the other than to try to play to the

game of the reason, you're intents explain, intents, you're, you're, intents,

uh, you know, and you've been that it's not function, decide to decide to play to

the game infinite. The A game infinite, never is the game physical, is the

game metaphysical. I used to call it the horizon vertical. The plan horizontal is the plan

in which we are the form, the material, the time, the space, the

plan vertical is a plan metaphysical. Is what would be what

you would if you start to transform the perception that

you have of that person what would What would you if you'd

if you start to visualize it other way to mandar it and to

sentiments of love of illusion that you super

the possible fear that in your that there's that

you that you discover that you that you that no there

no there that the only reality profound is the

love, what would you say you say you're going to say that's that's a absurd. We have evidence directs of that that's a plan metaphysical is real. I'll put an example. I was in Bhutan and

I was a time in Bhutan studying the theme of the Frisia and there was a Hindu that was in Bhutan, Bhutan is in India, Nepal and the Tibet. This woman had had 10 years that not she had been about

with his brother. A difference You and Mario This woman If you're She was full of resentment You don't You're not

You're in a resentment This woman She was just He was in a resentment So one day Hez-clic And he's Planteau

And he He was To play To play To play Infinite Ten years With

Relations Rottas He in Bombay She in Bhutane And He has an

Eger The Cere The Mett With In The Loving Kindness Meditation, the meditation on the Mood Inconditional, and

it's in the eyes, and first starts, with the image of a person that she wanted much, that, for supposed, not her brother. So, then he starts to know the sensations of that. And, she imagina that his heart is open and he

manda sentiments of peace, of love, of health, et cetera. Then, then, then, after that exercise, he's trying other person that he was indifferent.

I mean, he's funny, I mean, he's a pener know, and he's to do the

same. Fidate, not sentia the same, that I had a person,

but actua as it was it. And finally she brought the

image of his woman. Logically she not she didn't

that that that that was, but in the interior

He said to desire that has a health, that's a good, that you're going to see a and he imagined how

his heart was a ray of light blank, he'd a image of his his brother

his his brother sonraised he had he his heart and he

in the plan physical all the world said this woman has

this is absurd not has no tis sense. He said Albert Einstein that in the life or all is a miracle or nothing is a miracle.

At the day next, what coincidence more grand. At the day the day the next

there's, that 10 years, without to be the day next to the name's a

one of Mumbai. Imagine you know, the surprise incredible this woman.

How is that you know you? I've seen the need to the need to I think

that our relation we have to have done not the only case I know so many

of us we're we're we're we're we're that we're that

they're because more affect something something something emotionally

emotional we we we're we know we're we're

we're with our good a volunted, we'll not do not a problem,

we're not our resentiments, and our rencores and we're just we're trying, but we're trapped in the

Juvenito. I'm all the nights, that you're you're doing what to imagine

totally. Ah, very well, and if that is so, Mario, describe me,

for favor, now, that person, from the position of the game infinite and, for

that can't use in that game, words like zealos and envisodes or me. Well, I see like a a little bit

a needer a man, like a little bit a little bit that has been what a little bit of a person

innocent, that's to have to get to get to the dark, for the side of the

life, but I feel vulnerable, a person in his Well, let me that I'll

let me that I want to you're going to do you're doing this well some months what's about a few

what result you've still no and I think you don't you're

not because that's because that is the game because that's the

game of the empathy and the compassion is that's that

that has served and much to not have resentiments and rencores. The comprehension of that is what you

evita just to judgear it. Declararer culpable and castigar with your rencourt, your resentment. You don't do why?

Because you're doing that you're that's doing that behind that's a human, no, no maldard

but there's a suffering no processed we're not the whole infinite is the level more

of the final of the game finito. Because I think that's the level

more the problem that is you know you're not a person

not a person and deserous of a that's a

great is a extraordinary because because because because other

other not the health does more does the

pain in the anger than the fear a minute of the

system immune six hours with a with a

functionment very very very this not this is not the truth this is

a good good to do the honor good for the whole do you do you're much of

the same people we're we're we're we're we're we're

obvious I'm I'm good people this well it's a

good infinite the game infinite is totally different the the

thing is that you you when you when you when

you see in you a a being a a ser of

a a is a you're you're you're a mind

a look the Michael Bonarote me me in that

metaphor because is brutal Michelangelo he was the Paul

Julio 2 the Papa Julio 2 should be

a popular and Michel Angelo had a temperament

well he he did he he did make

he Bonarotti, he d'OXORRourn in Italy, that stills could visit, that were in that were in the effect.

Oh, but maybe to see, he fastii-a not. But we know that we'd get them to

resentiment. No, he was cargave of a rencour. What which about that this man,

that facet the view to work like you, he could have said, the desgraciao,

that I'm that's the best, I'm the first sculptor of renacimence, no, he's not

he doesn't But where was Michael Angelo playing the Jolla Infinite? That he I was more than the manches, of the fractures of the block, of the imperfections of the block and he saw the sculpture.

No. if you've had a opportunity to see a Michelangelo, Bonarote, you've seen. I've been. I've been direct. Vivo and direct. You know that that is something.

It's a thing, well, that's a thing. Well, that's out of a block of marble, full of effects. What is the game infinite? The joy infinite is that you see in that person the sculpture dormita. It's that

is a ser of light. Claro that has passed for a bad moment. Clearly that has been a part of the game finito. That's not it helps to start. You help to you to not cargarten to ir. And

then I'm that you imagine as a being of light, like a ser radiant, like a, not that's not that's a situation, but that see a

sense, alegre, happy, partying his alighing his light

for there. It's a so a quantum, for that has the

effect that has. I tell, Mario, that if you, the

same you, you have been a result extraordinary, because not

is normal with the suffering that a person carrea, no accumulates a resentment to who is that causing that suffering. So in that moment is liberate to her of that suffering.

How can you liberate? Vyingdala as really is. Not with the personality that has forged and that we've been forged and the experience we've been. But the experience we've been.

But the experience we've been. It's a sense. is, it's a serre of light. This is this is to a bit a

a shot quantical. What what is that when you do you do you know,

you're in the plan of metaphysical. Yeah, and it's that's that's

that's that's that's you're to be to be to be and

even in the many interactions that that you don't vomited a

resentment or that don't omites a recor is it's

to not to not to be to your Mario, I would you I would probably

I'm trying to give you do you know, the same that's been doing this exercise of empathy and of compassion

in the place of the judgment and in a place of a question in your mind with resentment that's

that's done fabulously well, I'm I'm going to do a salt quantico

and as a salt quantico in the salt to the love no

know distance and there and and transform It's a new, and transform. I'd you'd be to

I'd like, as a time of much importance, and of the, also, it's a incredible apprenticeship, that

during, some minutes a day, maybe in 15 minutes, because it's not long, when you

you'll visualize that person like a person like a person, like a person that irradiate something,

like a being a thing, a being a a person of a profound

serenity and the sculpture dormied in the block of marmol because

that that person also that person she be a you look you she'll

be a a trap in his histories personal in his heridas in his

defects as as we're We have we all in this life, of one or other type. What is that for this, you have to have to be able to the possibility of that there is a reality

more profound than what our senses or our little bit of a reason is capable of comprehend. And my proposal is that not you take

to there, because at that level of profundity is possible that you start Notar resistances.

Why resistances? Because in the moment in the moment in that you start to see a person as a person as a man, inevitablyly you'll start to see to be to be a self.

A great. Why? Because we're basals communicants. The toxicity that I accumulow with my form of a person even I don't it's being captured

by levels inconscientes of the other person the light that I put in one of the

basos communicants will be the evidence those that you'll you know the phrase

not is the miracle the that does the cliente the world absolutely thank you

thank you thank you Thank you, because, you'll, it's about about about about conceptuals, of the themes superficials, that is meta,

that is the world metaphysical. That is very easy to do. That's what we can do all. But, to have the courage, to have the

grandeza to talk of things personal that dole that dole with the only objective to contribute to

to help other persons that can be passing for moments similar. That is an enormous regal. That is a immense grandeza. I mean, that's said, nothing of this conversation had been able to succeed if you,

not us would have done that regal. Because we'd have been in the world, yes, we're going to talk about the metaphysical, but here is a, a tryer-to-the-tire-to-the-the-thierra. For that's called Horizon vertical,

because it's the game infinite to the world and the form and what happens that it transforms much. Thank you.

Thank you very. Well, I want to ask you. I want to ask you to how, how to learn to put limits

to, to be those to be little. I mean, you're saying, you're trying to try to help,

but it's a moment that at the maybe, for example, boning the example of that, that toxicity can't rastrar also, it's saying,

I'm to care, I'm to put a limit, and, of course, it's something difficult, to put an limit to a man, a a partner, a man, a a partner, a man, a man, a brother. How, how learn to gestionar, too?

Well, first, that the toxicity exists, all know. So, the same that there's toxicity environmental, there are persons that with his comments, with his actions, with his critiques,

frankly, what we're not something else a freshnesser, but generate toxicity. What we have to have much of care. It's in ver to the people as toxic. Because consider that a person

is toxic, means that in your essence, the toxicity, it's a characterizes. And no there is a human that in his essence be toxic. This is what important.

The theme is how lidier with the toxicity of some and how set up limits. We'll

see that we have to put limits to the conducts is obvious. There are conducts that are

inappropriate and not parrars generate a lot of suffering in one and the

other but the objective for the question that to be profundize we're not is

parer to a person toxic but to not the toxicity of the person this is

important because it's a distinction very subtle but in the moment in the I see a

person as toxic although us perhaps mean in a plan

subtle I I want I see I'm like a person

with a person with toxicity I don't want castigue, I'm in the

case about what you you're in the moment you're you're

presented like a person a person with a person with a suffering

and for so you what you was the not the vengeance the

vengeance is the resentment or rencour you you're you're the

thing there is there there there for that

for that function that to go to go

We're going to to profundize about your because it's true, there are people that transgreden

the limits, there are people that dominated by the hunger, the anxia, of power,

of someter, they're like a Tila that said that was that was going to

we're going to because the language not us the solution, but if it's

the door that at the are the subduients. Let's talk about that. More than people toxic, me refer to situations toxic. For example,

not is my case, but for putting you a example, a child, who has addictions, to drugs, for example, a mother, that a little bit, well, the child, you can't be all the nights, calling him to the door,

piddlingle a dinner, a mother has to, at the final, say, no I can, and I have to to par to my my son, into this situation that's a matter of this situation that's a lot of

now. Now, Guadalupe, no there's no doubt that that's a question, a question of normal call out and in absolute I want to hear of her. What I want to

let me let's do you know, that's your case, something, something that is a

experience your. Well, similar to the topic of the topic of that's but,

well, logically with my mother, that at a more there a situation

complicated, she constantly comes to me, piding me me help, and at final

gets to say, is that you yeah not you can't help more,

because you know that you know, to say, after here, I'm

to be to be me go to me go to me so, we're

going to whatever, a mother, a one, a man, a a man,

a man, so this is a very, very, very, very very habitual. Okay, now let's explain a thing. You, how do you feel when to your mother or other person, let's in this case, to your mother,

you just, I don't do anything, how do you feel? I'm like I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, how much you're doing? Well, I'm, I'm, I'm going to say, me feel, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm sorry, No, I'm not I feel culpable,

no, I don't I can't, that, that's, that's, that's, my, my,

capacity to help me, yeah, has, got to a, but I'm really to

not to be able to satisfy their expectations. And you do you feel in peace or

without her? I, I, I, I, I'm, I, feel in part of me, that's, you

We have to look, the same that a brucula oriental the north, and we know that the north is the north and the north not is the south, nor the east, in the west, we have to know what we're orienta to have the experience and what we do is correct. The first is to put us always on the side of the love. Okay? Poners the

side of the love not only is to puters on the other person

is to get to the love of you myself no I'm

I'm not that's that not is impossible it's the

true love is a person so I'm am

I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm I'm first

the love of the love no that you disposition is

clear. Your disposition to put to the love of the love of the love of love, but another of the references is the path interior. When one no has a power interior, even

at the hour of doing something that is a hard, we have to investigate what is not that is that it's that is

you that is you think that evita that exists that peace and there can be there There is ira and peace interior.

No could have fear and peace interior. No could have guilt and peace interior. But, there is trestice and peace interior. I know people extraordinary, friends my. That has perished a kid. This is, Duro, no. Probably the most d'Uro.

Tresteza and peace interior. Tristece and peace interior. So, the tresticea is a sentiment logical, you'd like to do more and do you

have to we're going to have been there's a us that's interfering in that

that's you think you is that? I think that's the fact when you're

a when you're a father and a mom know the care

and to love and a lot of that that that

the fact that's that's being that's also how, how

explain it? Like, not they're, not they're doing, it's being a lot of it's being

an incomprehendida and they they're like, or things so. So, it's going

about the vision, maybe it that's not that I'm that's we've been to me.

We're going, we're going to get them to the thing, the part and you will be

to make your words, with the mine, what that quita the path is the the fear. The fear to that

if not I'm at the altitude that they're going to defraudar and if we're more profound, no me going to care. This is a very important because

we've played with the love in a form quite torpe. And we have converted the love in a trueke. If you not you portas well, Papa not

to care, Moma no to be able to be or what is still more terrible, God, God, not you're going to

mean. So, what I mean? That's what is a trueke? I'm porto well, I'm a

altitude of what it's supposed to that I do do and I want. But no

I'm not I want to want. And the human only looks two

things. Sentire has been and carer. So, if you see that the true no depends

of what you do you do you do you that's, that's, or not at the altitude,

not affect to the true and if affect to that that love has

to be something, that is interest, that is true that is very important

because in first place, us understand the fragility human,

that we want to a form very imperfect and you, without, you, you can't

love to a way to make to a form perfect? Searles amando even,

even they don't do the same way. In that moment, and

to keep to you, even, even, although you you know, you have to do resolve that?

It's just, not only is that you you, you see that you see that you defraudas. That's, that's that you keep a path.

So in that moment, when you amas, independently of what you have done, and you amas,

independently where you have been you've put into the moment, you have a power,

and when you metes the love without conditions, because that's without

it's not conditioned by how you're or you're to be it's when you when you

metes in the equation that that you're you're in the

world you're in mind. Tener in mind that one thing is what we're

what we're what we really is total but what we really actually and that

it's that that's where is where is the solution of many of the things. So, it's

sense to this for you? Much. So, how you going to do you

to love to them and I'm to me? Amandem to me? It's to be,

amartes in your vulnerability and say, maybe is a propu

to say, Guadalupe, you've done what you've seen, what you've seen

what you have seen, and there are things that you have seen that you I'm profoundly so you

you're if you use that you're using you're you're you're and you

you'll use that you until you start you start to start you're to change

the because when the when the thinking when the thinking a level in the inconscientate

it's in that moment to start to change your perception. It will be to change how you see. Empezzar to be to change how you see. And it's very interesting, because

the mirada is also a a look at. The mirada appreciative, now is a mirada, under commies, assustada.

When a mirada is a mirab, what you call you is to the fear and to when your mirada is

a mirrored appreciative what you you know, it's an Amor. So, the mirada is a call. So when you

start to you're going to your disposition to look at that form and you you're looking and you

with your imagination, you'll start to see a other way and then you have a sense

for you? So it's a, it's a practice it, it's like when I started

to get a bicycle, it would have the age of you're a Eric, and you're sure you're sure you're

sure you're a bit more I was a little bit more rune'nes and I'm and I'm and I'm

the way the end of the other the other and that me came and when me quit

those ruddines but when when I did click the balance I did I did

make that things can be can be that can't be and at where where

And where sito can go to? And at what I imagine? I was, I would have to be used to the Redine. For me, well, the Redine was that. So, it's to make a click. But when you do that click, is that all can be. So, it's defiant.

So, I, I'm, in the other than the question, how to me go to cost, I, I'm to ask, to where can get? Until where you can get? So, you imagineate if this

you do you integras in your life. This is can apply horizontally to all. Relations more as in the case of familiar, relations more professionals, but imagine what is this.

To be emitting in that frequency of vibration. So what can pass is extraordinary. Well, I think we've got to at the time of this session and give us the thanks,

for your courage, for your grandeza, for your desire, contribute, trallying the things to the earth. And at final is that. It's a equation simple. Mets the fear in the equation, all suffer us. Mets in the amor, all we're going to.