Dr. Mario Alonso Puig - Convertir nuestras sombras en un superpoder

Episode Date: May 27, 2025

¿Cuántas veces has escondido esa parte de ti que no quieres ni mirar? En esta conversación con Dolores Pasman, nos sumergimos en ese territorio donde habitan la culpa, el autosabotaje y las “zonas oscuras” que preferimos no mirar.Conversamos sobre la sombra como puerta de crecimiento, la metáfora japonesa del kintsugi, y la forma en que un amor incondicional puede sellar nuestras fracturas más profundas.Aterrizamos las ideas en práctica: la postura del “guerrero sereno” para frenar la reacción automática, la respiración abdominal que aquieta la ira y el pequeño acto de guardar silencio antes de responder. Estrategias sencillas que, repetidas a diario, van disolviendo el miedo y devolviendo el timón a la conciencia.Ojalá esta conversación te anime a mirar tus propias sombras con ojos de aceptación. Cuando las abrazas esa misma oscuridad se transforma en luz y en energía creadora para tu camino.Página Web:  https://marioalonsopuig.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marioalonsopuig/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MarioAlonsoPuigOficialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarioAlonsoPuigOficialEntradas a la nueva conferencia 2025: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://marioalonsopuig.com/gira-2025/⁠Nuevo curso presencial de Mindfulness en Madrid: ⁠https://marioalonsopuig.com/mindfulness-jornada-presencial-rrss/

The love is the only that really can sanar at that level of profundity. Because all the eras emotional, serious that we are not

in the moment I'm terminated, for the reason that were, we're not we're not we're not

we're not this. This is a podcast for all those people that want

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much more much more very much. Bienvenito. How you've got with your zones

oscuras? But that's a great question. It's a amist a different

of what is the sentiment. It's difficult that one has certain

that one that's not to say that one's carino for the parts of one that's that's in the same

myself. So, not only not only you're not you're not you want to

you're not you're and you and you and you know, and you know,

to know, so when you're to connect with the sombras, with those parts

oscura and you know how you're to you're to you,

those sombra is a turn in a point that you permit aspect extraordinary

of a that after that not you have that's you can really evolution

the proper Jung said that what is resist I resist no I want

I want to know what I want to do you think he's also

what he says he says when I when I encountered with my sombras

and me has produced much a to see them. In the other to feel a in the

place of a place of what I have seen was a part, the

truth of the thing that not had seen and the other part the the

the the that that one one that was that

I was to how I do what not I'm not

I'm not a question and the of the

and and a and a a legia, because you have seen,

you can transform it. And this has generated many points of inflexion marvellous

in my life. I've helped to make to make sure things that if if

not had seen, would continue commet the same error

one and that we're to all all, because just this to

about the sombras in reality is an incentive

to that all us abrasem, no? Because really is the first path in the way of the transformation.

Yes. I have a metaphor that I've thought many times in metaphors to try to put images in things that are

concepts that are quite scurridisos. So I use, I've used, I've used, many time

I've had a story Japanese about some tazas of terrotas that are that are

connected with with a resin of an ore pure. So you see those tazas and are really precious.

So, we're all our fractures, our microtrauma or macrotrauma, our injuries internal, and not

we want to us to think we're that they would a vasis rota, who wants

a vasic defectuos in a world that seems that is the perfection has to the

thing, So when you You're You're a more That's a A more

That's a word that Amore that simply da Is that you're You're

you're And then you're a rome And at the final And it's a Maraville

these pieces because are un- Unique There no one There's all that

They're with some species of the little connected

and you're what more What's what So that when

we're when we we're we We're In other than to rejects these fractures

those we're in the love, us abrassamos and we are the that's true. And for that

really can be sanar at that level of profound because all the areas serious that

are you are in the moment I've terminated for the reason

that we're not we not we don't know we're we're a lot

we're a person sympathetic, I you're if you're you're if you're not, but we're accustomed to an

love to do that, that no he's per nothing, that no exige nothing, that's

a true generosity, and that that's a more and that's and it's and it

does it does make. Mario, I want to talk of the thing of how you

define you the how you the thing? The I define the

I define as a state It's a state of serenity, of calm, in such a way that the events exterior, not is that not you impact. It's that no te rompena. It's just, you know, you're a good news?

Sure, that you impact, but not for that you think you're more than the other. You're a thing in your life that you dole? Sure, that's dole, but not you rompess. It's like a stabilizer. a sensation of being protected,

to be sure, of that the universe not is hostile, of that there are

that even you know that if you do you care and that for that you can't

that you can't it's a is a man, you're you're a

sometimes there's there mayos a few there there but

you you're you can you never But there are factors that contribute to the felicity?

Yes. What my experience most contribute to the is your capacity to love. Quanto major capacity you have to love,

more happy you will be able to use a example that is the study more that's the world about because I

would be that the people who are not thinking that this is simply something something

something is effective. The study of Harvard. The study of the study of Harvard that

that the people more felicit are the people that have the major number of connections emotional. And, you, why

you have many many connections emotional? Because you do you do you? Because you

do you do care? If you don't you have many people, it's that you're doing.

And, you know, all we be cairone in the Faculty of Medicine in Innsbruk

in the hospital university in Austria with Professor Otto Rose, a wonderful of being a man, a man of the world, in his camp. And, uh, there coincid him, medicos of different countries. And, well, the relation that I did with them was a suitant,

marvellous. We were, we're going to, all parts. We're trying to beern us, despite of the work that we had each one into the hospital university. It was, I know, no, I know, not because we did we seem a vinculous, but we're not all we're occupies of

all. And I remember, coming down for Marieterns-Straze, that's a place that's a place that is just to the Alpes. It's a thing incredible because it's a paris and are the Alpes,

I remember looking at that is the city most beautiful. This is the the city more beautiful. And I was

convinced that. But I was the last that's went to Innsbruck. All my friends were before.

I'm the last for the time of the time of the time. And I remember

perfectly like if it was, if it was, to go to Marieternes-Estraze, the same case, for the same way, for the way I've gone to

the way, I'm changed the case. I mean, I remember, parading me to the house that was spectacular,

it was spectacular when I was with my friends. Yeah, no it was. And then I was

so I'm what has changed, but is what has been my friends? It's like when you

when you travel solo. Right, that's what So that's what What is what we're in the people of Dolores? If it's that

we're doing the same, love and be what happens is that we don't know we put them to difficult

simply that we plantem us if we're really we're we're not, we're we're

we're we're we're we're we're many times under our

but why we do we we're well that's that's That is another

question and the question that I would do is the next. We're castigamos

because the image that we have we're the correct. What is can do?

Well, well, you imagine that you have a person who has done a lot.

Objectively is not. It's has been here and has got one of

the cameras to do that's a car and it

has you have I've been a little. Imagine that you have that person that's a person ahead. You can't see her in two ways different. Of two. First way, it's

a matter. It's mal. And if it's mal that you have to do, it's to castigarra. Or you can say, it's a bad. She's not why it's not. A lot of the more, he learned to robber since, or he was a little, or he'll be it. A little bit,

I know, I'm not justifying. Simply I'm saying that's not. If I think that's bad, I don't I'm going to castigar

her, I'm going to correct what? What is? If we're in our conversation

interior, not we are looking correct us but we know when is that is because

we're not we're not because if we're not we don't we say we're we're

we're so we that's our problem that we look, and we're we're we're that we're most. And as we're we're almost,

then we'recement be able to beapeutes, no menexie. Boycoteamos, much to say our efforts to be felices. If someone else stupend, we're saying, if we know me,

if me know, the syndrome the imposter, so generalized, but how can you think of me, if I knew how is in reality, we've seen as well- we're not we're

not, we're good. What what occurs is that sometimes we're we're not and when we're doing we're doing things bad.

Well, then what we have to do we're to do you have to correct us. And this

that seems a thing so that is the key of the whole the process educative.

You intend to castigar a and not he will accumular resentment

for so there's many so many there in this interior. Busca

correct someone is He will be able to do you is correct. And why me want to correct?

Because me to help. And why me care? Because he important. And why

he important? Because me be like a person good that is doing something

that's not that's that's a kind of complete in the

mirate. When you you can be the mind you see, you're

your form of seeing, you can't your form of your form of your

actions. And in the day-a-day, what practices you can do for just to revert this? One of the practices is the part of parades when someone says something or something that's something that you alter, and in-segird and then they're the gaspionar.

Because, I know, imagineate that I've He's arrived today today to this plateau, and, well, and I never even me disculpo. What, how, Dolores? Oh, you, have arrived, you. You've got to be it. Well, so, in a moment, you know,

to get a reaction. So, the first that I invite is to guard a silence, because in that moment, we're a volcano in eruption. But I was always. No, I'd have any problem. I was super-religated. Sure, but in that moment, fiftate with what

we're going to be to be super-relached to be alteration. So, that alteration, I what I'm going to is to, in the book The Camio, the Despertaire,

I'm what we do to do, which is what is the name the guerrero. What you have to do you do you know,

you can't permit that the person be to get the body is incoge, or that's what they're called, the What we have to do is maintain a position

recta, have to be because you are you making a message to the Cerebrose to recover the respiration

abdominal, because the respiration is profoundly alterated in the model reactive. When one's it, it's a

time, the physical, the brain and the brain, and you're a

important, you, guard a silence and you have to that simply that that's

a present generate a change. Generer a change. What change? Well, I'm

better, I'm I'm going, I'm not a question, that I never have said that

I'm not you're you you're to realize to you know, so the

most important is to get from the model that's see how easy,

the problem is that is that is that is a even pre-judge with what we're doing it's a

way of we're doing to explore, ask, and then simply say us what is what I'm

I'm I'm doing that I'm now being you're about the mind, to me

me preoccupied this of the things, what we do we do those things

that we're we abruman and we we're They are going to the mind and not we do not we're doing. Well, the error is fundamentally in the

abordage. Much of people who want to to watch those pensions. What we have to be down is that is that is alimenting those pensions. What is what that those pensions negative? It's your attention.

When you, you, you know, to those are engording, those

you are empodern and you you and for you, and for you to do

so what you say, my attention not to not I'm not going to to you, because

luched to you is so that the moment in that those pensamients perturbators not

not receive attention, they're going to go disvancing. And when they're disbeneces in the pensions, it's something

that's much more important than the thing, is the awareness in English. You start

you're going to start you know, a grand patinada of yellow North American in a

movement, in a tournament, in a piruetta that not very complicated that,

it was and, and, and, I think the champion of the world,

I remember very very but it was a important then then I interviewed

I remember in the time, the interviewer and they asked a question they that's a

catnator that's a piruetta of these and think what he said she me coel

a think it me colo a she me colo in the here and in the hour,

funded or integrated completely with the piece of yellow was the no mind what did

the no meant not, it's completely in the awareness, in the attention, she's a cluel a

question, and it's what what's the we're doing, to be the things, this is the normal, no,

this is the normal. What the is that we have been normalized and for so there's

many times there's a confusion, and a problem, and it's

for the cacophonia in Spain, the the ruid mental incestant,

that no we can I'll just a moment of peace. Mario, and now, to start because

lamentably the time we're going to be a good I'd give you give us

a good for us you know, we know, we know, we're we're

we're we're we're and we always we give the thing a measure

no? What advice you can give to be more more

more more the context adverse in the that we're we're accustomed to live.

Look, Dolores, I don't am a question to do you, I go what I

would say is my experience with you're not how you're my

experience with you. I'm I'm profoundly happy with you

so so without you do you do things over the

long, you've been a lot a people a people

full of capacities full of virtues. The problem is, from the point of of view, in two points and that

only depends only of that you in the Argentina or that's in other country.

The first thing is that many many times we we don't

we're those are the good a country that extraordinary a country

that great with a lot with a country that is called to florecern.

And number two, we're constantly, much a few times, rivalizing. To able to to provide the great opportunities that the

life does, we need to build build pundits, not to build us. We have to be able

to give more value to what we need to what we're well, I'd

say that that that, that recognize that you can't that you

can't potential, not only a level individual, but at level collective and common nation, and that you're unidos, you can get to

sitios absolutely exemplars in those that other nations could look and say, oh, we're, we're also, we're doing. Oh, ha,

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