Dr. Mario Alonso Puig - Cuando te sientas solo, recuerda esto

Episode Date: April 28, 2026

¿Te has sentido solo alguna vez incluso estando rodeado de gente?Es una experiencia más frecuente de lo que parece. Y, sin embargo, pocas veces nos detenemos a comprender qué hay realmente detrás de esa sensación.En esta conversación con Laura, reflexionamos sobre la soledad no elegida. Esa que no tiene que ver con la ausencia de personas, sino con la ausencia de conexión, de comprensión, de esa sensación profunda de ser visto y reconocido.Muchas veces, cuando nos sentimos así, nuestra tendencia natural es aislarnos. Sin embargo, ese impulso, aunque comprensible, suele intensificar aún más la sensación de soledad.A lo largo de este encuentro con Laura, compartimos algunas ideas que pueden ayudarte a entender qué está ocurriendo en tu interior en esos momentos, y por qué, en ocasiones, un pequeño gesto hacia otra persona puede tener un impacto mucho mayor del que imaginamos.Ojalá estas reflexiones te inviten a comprender mejor lo que sientes y a abrir nuevas formas de conexión contigo mismo y con los demás.🎟️ Si estas reflexiones han resonado en ti, te invito a profundizar en ellas en la gira "Haz lo imposible". Será un espacio donde poder explorar juntos cómo transformar esos momentos de desconexión interna en oportunidades para comprenderte mejor y abrir nuevas posibilidades.Más información y entradas: https://marioalonsopuig.com/gira-2026…¡Suscríbete!MÁS INFORMACIÓN Y RECURSOS ÚTILES:📖 ⁠Libros⁠🎧 ⁠Accede a mi audionewsletter gratis⁠PÁGINA WEB Y REDES SOCIALES OFICIALES:🌐⁠⁠⁠Página Web⁠⁠⁠📷⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠▶️⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠📲⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💼⁠LinkedIn⁠𝕏 ⁠Twitter

The major part of the times, the things, the only that we're is to be our own and the form initial

of sentiret caret is that someone. Not that you resolve to your problems, but that you're so

important that you pay attention? Because you don't presteries attention to

nothing that you considerate valios. Because in the moment in the you do

do you do To reduce the soledadown no-elected of other person, automatically, as if we're basos communicants, is reducing your own soledity. How can we help to the people to create group,

groups where they're sent an authentic, that can maintain their essence and that pertinence, that cessation of pertinence. How do we do, Mario? How do you? I am a person that the authenticity, I really, I'm very much.

So when I'm, I'm extrovertida, so I'm a little that facility, that's a ability social, that I like the people, me to get a certain, me to know and to understand. So, well, first I am I line with what are my interests, what I like, what I want to learn, of what I want to know more,

and then, contact people, groups, I'm parted metas, and I think that so is how I'm that connection. So, is how

I do do you do you do the of the thing? You have the sense of

that you do you know that not is possible to do you. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ., in, in, in the that person is to be putting a barrier, no? So, I'm trying to ask

questions, abertas, I'm going to that a realtor that is the coaching, and I'm that there are persons that

that they not they'd like, it's obvious, it's evident, that it could pass. But normally,

no I'm sure that I'm that rechazz. You imagine that there people that seeent that rechazz,

and that are are alled as other people and a and a past of that they're

very solas. How you think you that are living those people

because because maybe in some you have seen in that you have been extrovertida

of that you're extraordinarily sympathetic that maybe there have been

situations in your life that we don't have to get in

in you to where you you really really solely

that that that soled not of of the absence of presence physical,

but of the absence of a presence emotional, absence of comprehension, of course of course of

that's that's a certainia and that's so in moments difficult. You have

seen a situation? Yes, and how is experimented that? Well, it's

experiment with a a vacuum, a PACEO Interior, that sensation of me has felt

to talk or communicate with someone without not being just getting that I'm that I'm

to have to have to be a situation dolorous. And I have seen my

own in my proper and, and, well, it's something difficult.

I mean, we're to have to accept, accept, not I mean, it means to say, resignar, it's to say, I'm a day, I go to the

day I'm resign, and it's, it's you're saying, is assume that there's days that's all, there's that you know, it's part of the life, no? The first thing we have to assume is that the sensation of soledadad. The soledity not-elected,

no, we refer we're, because in English, is solitude loneliness, but in Spanish, it no, one is the difference, no? One is the that you eligees, because you need to, of some manner

to distance you of the the entorn and start with

the soled no elected. The first we have to

know when we're when we experiment this is the

thing is what we do that this and

this I think is a message that is important

to transmit first what not to do is

to you have a great advantage a that, that not implica that,

that even so, that's it, that's a lot of things difficult, but if it's a advantage that you're extrovertida.

So, your tendency natural, your personality is much more at the encounter than the alhement, that's

but there's a tendency more introvertida and they cost a much more. So the first message is

that when a person is a single, the ultimate that has to do is to do it is to

be a Islars. And the reason is the next. It's a reason, fiftate, that is a

little mundana, because it's like tremendously physical, we're in a

very beautiful, so it's the world of the emotions to a place a

place, a place, when a person is a single,

it's active no clos cerebral that they're in that

people, So, and danger, , danger, and those parts of the brain are

invitae they're in an isolation because if you're in an environment not

you're to be to explore, what you have to do you do the contrary.

What we have to do is to do. What we do is to do

is to be to any person that in your environment that

you're a certain point of a certain point of comprehension, not for that you

know, simply to not to not get a present that's that I'm that I'm

that I'm very counterintuitive and it is a effort. In second place, assume that

are moments difficult. When one accept a situation, in the way to try to

try to attack because I don't me tend to feel like a chico favor,

because in the In the the front of, it's re-forcing the difficulty, is getting even more stress, because on, on, you know, you're still, you're still, and you're still as you're more,

and on, you see not you're a bit of pressure on, you addes more. Dime, what is, from your point of the relation between being authentic and to find the

persons to those that it's that it's worth a in the life. There, there are many, many persons in the We've got in that we don't we can't

we don't we can't like to us because if we pretend we to get us to get to us, we're going to us to get to ourselves. But what is, what is the

connection that you say, what is the connection that's to be who is, now I'm a great thing I'm not

don't have to be my tristencea. Now I'm still I'm not I'm don't know what

may be to live to who I'm to give to What do you think is the connection of that is a being the to find the persons adequate? I think the point

that you mentioned the only-ed-elected as a tool for to know-se, understanderce, fundamental. Point number one. One way that has

passed for that tramite, as, as, as you know, you're not you get in the caparazone, sal. And at the

hour of to get to connect with those people, you know who you know who is and what you also have to have a mind very open. Not we're strictos

so, so is how I am I like I want the things because then probably not going to functionar because all we're humans with qualities and qualities marvellousas. But to be also

that curiosity when you're going to know a group of people and a group of persons and this I would like that all, collectively, we'd apply us a little

more, it's a bit more, that mirrored curious, so I'm going to know a I'm going to

know a group, try to understand to understand to hear, who are the people, what are

the questions, what is the objective of the life, the mission that they have because there's

people who are very clear and they comment, oh, how we can find synergies

to do this thing together together? I, like Laura and you like the person.

It's a little the vision. knowcete and then then you know, and then be conscious of that

the vulnerability is something that not to us not even it's an introvertido introvertido

you have to accept that there there's a situation where you want to be able to

you're being authentic and you know the connections are doing those connections of my connections

of carino also when when someone and you know it, you know, not only with that

mirro with that not only that's a person, he's a person human that's

that's that's that he has that he and that look with that

that passive. It's very beautiful what you what you're

that's you're when a person when a person is a situation of

a little bit when it's more egocentric the stress us convictive in persons egocentrists,

because we're sent us in danger. So, the most important is protect us. Fulgare, you what you're what you're doing is just the contrary. There are people that, that, even are made sureddened, can't be able incomprehendous. Why not you're going to look at?

Why not transcends? You're going to, you're more than that egocentrism, of that self-protection? In other than to say, I need to I need to understand someone.

How we're to understand if we're with the oregers of the egotcentrism? No, I want

that person me entienda exactly how I want to be to know to this person.

I want to establish a vincal with this person. Although this vinkul

dur a minute or do a hours, I want to know to this person

so in this moment you go with that that is a a mirabre, curious,

interested, carente of the judge and naturally that the other person it's not we're perfectly,

but perfectly that there's two types of conversation. You and I we're just these two types of

conversation. One, we're conscious that I'm with Laura, I know perfectly

what you're saying, but there something of what I don't see the

communication implicit or no Our two hemispheres of the hemispheres of the humanist are conversing they're

synchronizing a level affective they're vibrating together are dancing they're

dancing is that dance is a if there is a if I'm I'm trying

to analyze you if I'm trying to judgeart if I'm

trying but if I want to know if I want to explore, if I want to be sentient to communicate, that dance is to produce.

What interesting, because, look, the major part of the places, the beings, the only that we're going is to be loved. And the form initial of sentire to feel you cared, is that someone to pay attention. Not that you resolve to your problems, but that's so that's so important

that's because you don't present attention to nothing to not considerate value. If I mean

not me interested a book, no he presteed attention because because I consider valios

if I don't know so if the book would be a conscience I'd I'm

I'm sure I'm so this this is important because you fiftate how

you're you're from your own experience and your own capacity

to discover things, how you're transforming what you see onlyly like a problem in an opportunity? How that soledadale that not is a greatable

never to send you make connect with the soled of other people and you do the resources to say, I can reduce that sentiment of soledat

if me I'm acerco to those persons with a mirada appreciative, with a a mirrored empathic, with a look at a impassive,

that not it's not to connect with the other. If I generate that

vincul. What curious, because the investigation has shown the when you

you you you look from that that that that that

that that you do you that, you your body

starts to liberate oxytocena. The A body of the other person, the body and at level cerebral, for the supposed,

also, it's a liberate oxytocina. If there's someone who is seeing, his own his own his own a new thing.

The oxytocina produces various things, and other things is a protector natural of the heart.

In second the second the back, reduced, even anulah the stress

chronical. Fifate, the soled generates stress chronical. the decision to transcend,

to go more to that to do that to reduce the soledity or simply to create a un-vincor

is a is a matter, is that the world, because in the moment in that you do you do

something, to reduce the soled the soled of other person, automatically as if

were us communicants, is you're reducing your own your own soledat. Fidate what

thing that's talking to how you does the world to a situation in base to a decision. Because at the final, the people really libees, not are the people that actuan in base to their sentiments. If I'm not in that moment

me I'm feeling little, to me not be able to talk with nobody. I'd be to go to a rinkoan to get to a position fetal, lamenting me of what whatever

but if I decide to be a ser free then I'm a victim

of my emotions but I'm an artific of my decisions I'm so I'm

so now I'd I'd I'm you have you have some example

concrete in that with the level of detail with you

with you in that you doing that you transcending a

moment of soledat and yending with that mirab appreciative,

has produced a change in a certain situation? Well, I'm

a vote of a situation that me came in an car was a

moment of my life in the I was a time for the

time I was a 70% of a soled you're doing , you

work, he's only, many times with clients, but there's a solidity

implicit in that way, and I'm passed to be in an car and I know a thing that's

a moment that I'm also that I'm a little little doing introspection I was with me with

me and I was very nervous, I'm very nervous there was very nervous, there was there in the

past, being a canary that is a fact we have to be normally

normally in the I had a moment of my life where I had I had a lot of and I was very sad because gestionable, that sobid of cortisol that pegged in the airon, he was gesturated very well.

And I remember to see that that sheena, really not me apetecis much entablar a conversation, but I sent the necessity to help her,

I had the place to the side the right, I was like, and I said, I'm looking at the man on the arm.

He said, all is all all right, respirate, are just turbulences, all is all over

control. All right. With that she was a relationship. We were talking the rest of the

world, she was that I would be that the little gesture, to talk to

the armory, and to say, she rompio to cry, I gave a smile, she me sonri-o, and established

a connection that until the day of today of today, of today, that's a person, that she said,

that she said, that in a moment of an high stress for her, I'd to rompire that barrera and

he said, all right, I'm going to this moment, we're going to go ahead. It's an

example that me came. Well, I think it's an example precious because a person

it can pass very bad in the turbulence of an avion. We know that today is the

things more more things that's what the reason us say and other thing is

what one what one is what one is curious because you did something

that not not enter into the camp of the logic but

in the country and the you sentiste a a

a a what you'd be what you're what you thinking in you were that recogimient that tranquillity you're always tranquil because you've been a lot of much and you know that the turbulence are the major part of the

major part of the years and but you sent this call to do something for other human that was going to frankly man and in the other word of saying well but I know that no

doesn't know, because I have experience, you veas that if you were going to another person. You did you one thing that from the point of view of exterior,

it seems that's not a much but from the point of view interior has all the relevance. Tantto that's create

a vincal of amistat that probably probably still still still still. So, I do

because many times we don't make our intuctions. Many times The intuition is a

call of the profound. The intuition is a a connection, a synonization. It's a connectar

with the feeling of another person. But in a lot of many times are egocentric, and it's

well, but no, no, me convoyne or what they're going to think the

people, or he's going to have to be to be to be that's

that one that's a guide of the intuition fundamentally because you

see a someone that is a question, it's a good that's not that's

normally they're surprisingly well because that that that has that had

that first that that that's that that tension is in form of

and and in second other he grew a a very great-gratitude. You notast

that when you apart about to you, because you were you were the introspection? You, you've got the sensation that

after that experience, you're even more closer to you? No, because he

would be the other person, no important the little that you're doing, or the much that

you're doing, when you have been a impact positive in someone, that, Mario,

is all. That's all. That's all. I don't I don't know who was I don't know who was angels with a one solar, we need to

have to be another person to so it's curious because many of we're usually in the introspection. I'm going to in a cuba,

I'm going to and I'm going to to be to go to go to over-volar the problems of day-a-day and the fact is that the other other has another

you what you did was to to have to that person and, and Well, that's that's transformed the world, of a

vueling to a bollosos, of a relation initially inexistent, to a relation

probably permanent, and this is a message fundamental because many

times, Laura, we have the sensation that the circumstances are the only

that are that it and it's how we don't we we're that that circumstance,

it, all. You have done hundreds, for not to say, millions of the world.

Probably the 99. 9% of them have forgotten. But this no it's

not you have been in quite the question. Why not you have

forgotten? Because he has done a record unborrabble in

your heart? And why why has a record in your question?

Because you have seen the guide of the not the guide of the CREA of the

CREASTA. Much people that in the process of introspection in the front, no, it's

more than a trap because they're, no, no, first I have to

be good, I'm when I can't, you know, it's very well, that you

do you know, but many times never you'll never you're all the

good you can't do the thing, it's does

sense for you? It's all the I've seen Mario,

and also I would like to take this opportunity to thank you to do that

all the life that in a long in a situation they've had been to be

and I'm made, and I'm made, that's all all right, I'm

here, count with me because that those people that have

had been that I'm who I am who who difficult, difficult. And, well, I I'm gladysk, now that me

have been in the mind many people, that those people rompired in the answer to say, to get to his zone of comfort, at the more, and say, oh, yeah, Laura, all right, all right, here I'm, or I'm going, I, I'm going, I'm going,

I'm going to be, how you're going to be a movie Avatar, which is a movie that I'm perhaps extraordinary, for the at least in his, in his level of innovation. One of the things

most impressionate is in the series is when they're they're I, see.

How people people that they see them simply that see that and not that are

like as a one that's as a see to you, I'm you appreciate, it's

I mean, I'm I'm saying, I'm saying, I'm you're at your side, is I'm

how many things related with the anxiety, with the depression, with the loss of

the life, with the angustia, how many things can't be the

really that were that I'm, for me you're a person relevant,

you've you've you've used, you've You've seen a person that was suffering. Sentiste the call. Many people see the same the same.

But, no does nothing. No, they're not. You know, you know, the thing of the science I'm perugue that not me pierced to not to not pervert the dimension of the spirit

but is very curious, that's the gesture that you did to put the man on that many many, there are so many that I think,

not that they, that's that That gesture active a part of the system nervio, is the name the nerve-vago-antterior, is the nerve of the encounter, is the nerve of the connection. It makes that the heart can be a rhythm

between what's called coerence cardiac, and this has demonstrated that has all type of benefits in the body. It's just, you have said, when, once,

you were, you were, you had that liberation of cortisol, of adrenaline, etc., when one not has been habituated. In that moment, that woman was having that liberation,

well, I've always had all the time with those ciphrasal, that we know that damage the tissue the body. With that gesture that you did, of sercania, to put in the manner, of that tone, suave, agradable, confiado, secure,

all is all right. In that moment, there was an activation, for about solo at the level physical of the nerve-vago anterior. The consequence of that is a caida immediate of cortisol. Caida immediate of cortisol.

Because when a person is a company if not she's santa, confia more. If confia more, why will have to have more fear? Tendra less fear. I do because many times there are people who are

doing something for the And they're that only can do something from the other from the medicine, from the camp of the

psychology, of the camp of the psychotherapy, from other other. No, no, it's a

can do you do a lot for the other in any moment. When your heart,

those those are connected capt a signal. It's you know, you know,

you know, the call of a person and in the other to

do to what you says the reason, not you not you don't, you

don't know, you're to say, because you put you to put your side, he's

to think, you know, you're you're saying, you're more value to that that's

a good, and if in a moment I've terminated, that person you've said,

I'm going, I'm still, I'm even, even, even, your own your own

your, and you, to be some way, reject that and continue maintaining that

a sonrisa, oh, well, if in some moment, I'm to be the help that I'm in the

field of that's. Only that you're doing. Because there many people that, of some

people who think, or we're doing, that we demonstrate that one is a gesture of a good,

is a gesture of humanity. And in that moment, can alzance these

barriers of what do you that I'm not used that I'm not we're not we take as an agression

not we don't we take us a desprecue to take us simply as a barrier

of protection that in that person put in marcha that we we don't we have

to just to resisters and to say that this is that that is

a great impact. Correct. Recordemes that all in the life, or is an expression of a more or a petition of but not all the

times we we're just we're our people, we're at the final of this session with

a woman marivosa, with Laura, that I think that has a message

very relevant, the message that when we see that when we

see that that we're in two things. First, that is normal, that is human, that to all us pass in determinates moments. Second, a point that I want to reinforce, no we're conforming with isolars, with

retirons of the world. Buske us, seeing the guide of Laura, buske us with that mirada, interested, curious, that mirada, that a mirablerable, how connect to other people, because

none of what is going what is what is a person human in every moment. Much

thanks, thank you, Laura. Thank you, Mario.