Dr. Mario Alonso Puig - ¿Educar en positivo? Descubramos por qué es clave para el futuro de tus hijos

Episode Date: January 31, 2025

En esta conversación junto a Laura Peraita, jefa de ABC Familia, exploramos el papel fundamental de la familia en la educación y el desarrollo emocional de los hijos. Hablamos sobre la importancia del vínculo afectivo en la infancia, cómo la ternura y el amor pueden influir en la salud y el bienestar, y por qué la crianza consciente es clave para el futuro de nuestros hijos. Abordamos cómo la autoexigencia y la comparación pueden afectar el desarrollo de los niños, y reflexionamos sobre la necesidad de educar desde el amor y no solo desde el rendimiento académico. Además, reflexionamos cómo los padres pueden motivar a sus hijos sin caer en la presión del éxito y la importancia de fortalecer su autoestima, incluso en los momentos difíciles. Ojalá este episodio te acompañe y pueda convertirse en una inspiración a la hora de despertar y florecer tu verdadero potencial. Página Web:  ⁠⁠https://marioalonsopuig.com/ ⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/marioalonsopuig/⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@MarioAlonsoPuigOficial⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/MarioAlonsoPuigOficial⁠⁠ Entradas a la nueva conferencia 2025: ⁠⁠https://marioalonsopuig.com/gira-2025/⁠⁠

We have to be conscientious of that our function is the raises to grow and alas to volar. And that's how do we do. That's how we do, that we do, to do that the results that they're getting,

are good or malos, no reflect on who are and always to help us to have a good concept and a good auto-esteem, to be a-quere-a-euvre, to say, to care-se, to be able to-do-a-querre when

cometeen the errors, to not accusation, never, to not judgearse, never, to not condemnation, and to be a-to- and to-cestigars.

Not only to care in the acciartes, not only to care to be the part, but to know-as-mere-a-comprehendar to be to be. This is a podcast for all those

people who want in-grand. and feel in great and live in great I'm the doctor Maria Lonsopuch I'm invited to to live with me

this adventure of discovery and that only maybe I'm maybe I'm but we're together

much more less very much more the institution family is the institution most entire so sure

but you're you're with the few years there are many of the schools to teach how

educate to the children. What is the in the middle of the second? Really, we need to that information for something

that is very basic like the child of the big a great a challenge I think in the child

it is something is a very complex it's a really complex because the children

and that better, not are the same that we plan to our fathers. They're in a context different,

have influences different, and a few people get them dis-colocated. We know very well what we

can do to help and for that all that is a guide a good funded,

to help to help to know to know to their needs and sentiments

and I think is a good What is what is this is a labor of the society in their whole. The family has an

important in the in the march of an social, and in the march adequate of a so it's not only to protect to the family,

it's also to help to how can grow, how can can puttenciar those vincal how can

help us mutuament for that that that's a family, out of a lot is the vincule affective? What importance

has really in this unidad familiar? Well, look, the vinkul affective is of the elements more important in the health biologic. Fifacte, it's impressive. For example,

even in animals, very simple, as can be the roeders, the fault of affectivity is associated to problems, for example, like a lack of of the development of the Cerebrough

for learning things new, man, very poor of situations stress-a-in-in-the-human not only this is exactly exactly, but, also, the affect has been most with investigations

very punteras that affect even the longevity of a person, the time of a person. There are some structures called telomeres

that are predictors of the longevity and that they are There are some levels of an enzyme called telomerasa. Precisely, the levels of telomeraza are very influenced by the world affective of a person. It's a is a single in the human.

The human is a certain of an encounter, as a manorabiously the professor Lopez-Quintas, is a certain of a certain of encounter. It's a bit, we're saying, well, is that the, the human is the animal that needs more assistance during all of his life, until that can be envelopes.

And it's, very, from the point of of view, but no there's that we need is that we need to feel that

form a group that's interested really for us. Because in some case, even I've heard to

say that the amor, the turnour, he, can't cure us and can't cure the

of the how is this? How is this? Let's see, we have, we have a dimension

in the system nervous, that's a system nervous parasimpatic, and that regular the function of visceral. The system nervouso parasympathic, disposed of a section that's called the parasympathic

supra-diopharmatical or vago anterior or vaguely cardiac. This is a, is a group of fibras nervous that are tremendously inter-elazas with what is the sensation of

effect. When a person is a person who seems cared. The vago anterior functioned in a way much better. And this is not only in a function cardiac more san, more adequate, but in the

whole, in the organism. For other part, when a person is a person that's appreciated, she is a point, there's a liberation of a hormona, of the I've been

many years, that is the oxytocina. The oxytocina is the hormone of the encouentro. The oxytocina not only protect the but it's clave in the vincolus. Fidate, Laura, what important is this,

because the reptiles, that if they have a cerebr emotional, no produce oxytocina. For that the reptiles not generate vincolos. In fact, the mammiferous, all generate our vincolus.

Well, the ser human that is, in the scale more elevated, within the world animal, how not is to benefit of that of this is going to benefit of that sensation of being

forming part of a unidad in fact mario you think we're that we're sufficiently the two

words the two fathers to the kids and the children and the parents well I think that never said sufficiently

the I'm but over all I think we're we're we're in express

to the because that te I'm you can express with a mirada appreciative

that that that can be to demonstrate with a man that you help to you've got

to have that's quite express when not you're you're you're understanding his process,

that's that is when you has an act of generosity that that that

can be express of many many ways, because there's a tequire that is I'm I'm going to

what I'm what I'm if really if really you I would. Yes, of all.

And you think is that actually the parents are more in in care to their children? Well, this is a point

very important because not only that only the system educative in their community. I think that

a person is that a person that is that the other other if she's

really cared for the professor and for his alumni, for his companions of class, without

academically functioner a much more. If a a little not a person is sufficiently cared

sufficiently arroped or appreciated, his rendiment academic will to descend

to a form very significant and this is for a reason that you

the neurociencia affective. The Cerebro emotional your affectors, your world of sentiments

and your world intellectual, your reason, your capacity to understand the capacity to process your information, your capacity to learn,

are two realities that can distinguish like the palm and the hand, but not they can separate. When you

you to talk the world emotional, you're talking the world intellectual. If in the world emotional

what you generate is the world is you the world intellectual, you're you're you're

the spirit the world of the idea of the world emotional you know, when you're from the enthusiasm

from the illusion, from the effect, the world intellectual is able to see we're we're doing

that the most important is to get to the heart. Because what the is the

heart wants to feel, the mind is the mind. The best of the world in

the center school, no, maybe the people are

so in the activity sportive that's correct, that we're that the children are

the children or we're submitting to a pressure that even is a producient for them.

Simum Freud was a person very peculiar with great lights and too

from the point of many some but he took some some

people of some great he he described the

super-you what is the super-o the super- super-o. The super- super-o is that expectation, inalcanceable,

of perfection that the society impone to a person for that create that if not that's not anyone in the life. So, what is that what is the society, in the that we form part of all, lands that image, and each one of us goes, taking that image and doing the same. So, when I be a tal,

I'm a person valiosa, important, be a person to the caran. When I be a tal, I'm a felix, when I, that's a, and that's a, and that's a level of hyper-exigency, that not only is antinatural,

but that's fronted to the reality. How can we maintain socially that level of hyper-exigency that abrumator? By the middle of the comparison, By the comparison, Pedro has 11 years,

has a set for him is a triumph, a 7 in mathematics, but it'sulta his friend Alberto has a 9,

and I don't appreciate it. So, we have to know that the success in the life

not is the result of the hyper-exigency. It's the result of connect with some values, to

potential, desplegando it and help them to flourish. And that can happen from the hyper-exigency.

Because the hyper-exigency is unied to fear, to terror, to the fracos. If not

I don't do this, I'll be nobody in the life. If not I'm

that the tension affect a directly to the function of the corteza

cerebral. In that that person, that has a potential occult, and

that is that is the potential to be that's completely blocked by a situation emotional, of terror to not be sufficient. How do you motivate, then, those parents, ante this child,

of 11 years that has sacaged how motivate him for that he can't in this luchy daily, for to get his retos? I think that the parents, we have to be

conscientious, of that our function is the roots to grow and alas to volar. And that's how do we do. That's what we do, we do, to do to help that the results that they're getting, are good or not reflect who are.

Albert Einstein, had very bad results academic. I don't know, because I've had access to the legate of Einstein. When I went to Boston, I was and, and, and,

the potential not was reflected in his performance. So, what we don't do we must to our ones,

the bad notes, represent how much or the they're what what they're and always to to help

to help us to have a good auto-concepto and a good auto-estime, to care to to when commeteen

the errors. not only to care-a-in-lars in the accierts, not only to care-a-one-quare-a-me-missue when the things do I go well, me-to-me-missue when I'm-saint-a-mattimatic, or a nine-a-one-one-kire-a-one. Precisely is when more you have to care. How can you care one?

What is what the parents need to teach us, to our children? To not accusers, never. A no judgarses, never, to be a no condemnation and to castigars, but to know

to know better, to understand to understand to be a model completely different.

It's a problem that today function, because we're too, we're too in the world

visible, the not in the world invisible, which is where is where is the difference

for me between a professor and a master. The professor only is just in the performance.

The master But, so, he's in the potential, and he'll that potential. And so we're the case of this young, Penn Carson, a absolutely disastrous in the college with all type of problems,

with all type of difficulties, despreciated for many reasons, and that, in fact, his mother and his first professor of sciences, they've got inspired in him that faith in his possibilities. And this kid, that was abocked to have to

probably in a place in a place tremendous because he has to develop a temperament violent, it's transformed in the the neuro-cirulhan,

pediatric in the history, the professor is very important that we are conscious of that we are

the the form in that you your life in the way in that you to do you to do you

with your family, the form in that you you're with your company, is

it's talking to the responsibility that does this. So, we're going to

to talk a future that's illusionant, that's a genera of possibilities. How to talk a future so? How you help a person to develop that? When you think that there's a grandee independently in the results. And then in the moment in a person that's, that's

independently the results, that will independently in the notes, that person is capable of a power of a energy, a capacity, an intelligence absolutely abrumator. But, is that

educate in positive is complicated. Why not it's a complicated? Because we've not been educated in

positive. If we're we've been been the most natural of the world. It would be the most natural

of the world. But as we have been educated in based to how

we've learned. We're not we're not we don't know we're a way

we're that we're that we're in learning, in to discover, in reconnoisse our point of part-of-beenely, that, many times is a profound an alphabitism emotional,

no, pasa nothing, we're not we're culpable if we're responsible to change it. So, this is the theme. So at the final, the education of our children, also is the education of the parents. And, also is the education of the professors. All we need to be educated.

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