Dr. Mario Alonso Puig - ¿Por qué me afecta todo tanto y cómo puedo cambiarlo

Episode Date: April 7, 2026

En este nuevo episodio de Conversaciones abordamos un tema de enorme profundidad como es la alta sensibilidad, el sufrimiento que puede surgir cuando no se comprende, y la posibilidad de descubrir en ella una forma especialmente valiosa de estar en el mundo.A lo largo de este encuentro con Ara, reflexionamos sobre cuestiones que tocan de cerca a muchas personas.Cuando aprendemos a mirar la alta sensibilidad desde una nueva perspectiva, se abre la posibilidad del equilibrio, del autocuidado y de una relación más amable con nosotros mismos.Ojalá esta conversación no solo te invite a reflexionar, sino también a mirar con más amabilidad aquello que estás viviendo, especialmente si alguna vez has sentido que ser sensible era un peso, cuando quizá puede ser una de las expresiones más hermosas de tu fortaleza.Te comparto tres meditaciones para cuidar tu mente, tu corazón y tu descanso, creadas con todo mi cariño, para que puedas escucharlas en distintos momentos del día:🌿 ⁠Descárgalas gratis aquí⁠¡Suscríbete!MÁS INFORMACIÓN Y RECURSOS ÚTILES:📖 ⁠Libros⁠🎧 ⁠Accede a mi audionewsletter gratis⁠🎟️⁠ ⁠Entradas a la nueva conferencia 2026⁠PÁGINA WEB Y REDES SOCIALES OFICIALES:🌐⁠⁠⁠Página Web⁠⁠⁠📷⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠▶️⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠📲⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💼⁠LinkedIn⁠𝕏 ⁠Twitter

The major The major the for a person that has this gift, this don, of the

high sensibility, the major is gestioning the situations of stress.

Situations of stress especially intense when when you see that the entorn

not not a don, as a talent if it is a thing,

what you do you do You are a human. For more that you have the don of the high-sensibility, you're a human. And you need to

discard that world emotional. The 20% of the population has a high-sensibility, and much of those people think that can get to be a laster and a crux in his

life for for etiquette or they're like a person fragile, a person devil, a person a young,

a person blandita and poor, no, poor. So, there's some

possibility to find that a lot of and to say, there's

there's something in my profound sensibility for I don't I am I'm the rara.

No, I'm sorry, I'm, I'm sensible. You, think, you're,

you're, you're you're of Cordova, and all those who have

been in In Cordoba, we admire the beauty of the city and the quality of your people. If you're

in Seville, you're going to you're in different, but also there's an enormous beauty in the city and a

great thing. That's also can be to pass in San Sebastian, you can be going to be in

in Salamanca, in Zaragoza, in Madrid, in any city of Spain. You can't you imagine

a country where all we're just exactly exactly those representations artistic are not

something about not would be a bit? No, it's the question is why we have that tendency

to etiquette us to others and to consider that the perfect the ideal what we have to be always

is always the same that I'm, that's a me that's a person because I have to say, you have to

get a castellano how she has been in a certain a situation. Why? If I see, a accent marvellousal.

I think it he adds musicality. So, in a way we pass something with those

people who are saying something that is a that's a lot not a problem.

This is very important that the people know because with our tendency

to put the etiquette we can think that is a pathology.

What, disgrace, I have a great sensitivity. It's a a rastor it.

It's a personality. The same is a not a not a not a person,

a not a person, be a part of or a but it's

a personal so that's this rassgo of the personality has a particular

that's fascinating. What makes that that a a

lastre a a don. And I'm to to sustain because it's a don.

And although a word grandiosa, I think that we're going to put to the name. It's a don't for the

second. You, if you have the sensation that our that our society has been a

very insensible? No, it's not that we're a different to the suffering

human? No, it perhaps that we need we need some chutes

tremendous of dopamine to be a little content in the life. It's a casuality that precisely

the people that have that's a extraordinary of the sensibility, you know, you know,

for that vibrates more, resonas, more with what one person is experimenting more, you know,

and then the moments intense, bonitos, of the life, so you're people that

when you go to the natural of the nature of the nature, you can't get it in the natural what is happening in the naturalness. What curious, that,

for example, the practice meditative, the practice of mindfulness buska precisely to augment the sensibility. For example, meta, the meditation of the called Loving Kinds Meditation, the meditation

of the love and the compassion, is a meditation that what is to make us to sensible to the suffering of the other person. We also to be more generous in to share the spirit. And curiously, in this society,

that every way is more d'Ura, result that persons that have this don, this talent, they're like that not encahant. And me came to the memory, the movie, some movies of Superman, the man of acero,

where this young, when was a new, not encahava because he was able to feel

more than the rest of the people were as a rarro and it was a superman.

So this is the first. I think we have to put the things

things in the situation and the high sensitivity is

the high capacity to to capture and this

is fundamental because if someone you say that

you you reinterpreted, and you say, what grand sensibility I've, that change in the words, you know, has a change in how you live that talent that you have. So, the

that the major part of the people do not mean that what they are that is the correct. A lot of the many years, the major part of the medical,

generate or had sanguies in the patients for that they were the more part of the medical.

It was the correct, no, it was that the majority, the 80% of the people can't think that a person that a person that is a person fragile, no, I mean that is in the truth. And, the investigation mustra that not is so. Dime, if what I'm going to do is

of some help or no? Yes. Yes, it's because for me, during many years, has been, well, that's, a laster, in the sense of why I have to feel who has

to get to the button to feel so the when I go, me can't so much

I'm so I've been a living thinking that I'm going to find nothing positive

and, well, for circumstances of my life, if I think,

I think, if I know, I was the medicine that I wanted to do

was because the life me to try other other to to get

to get to that he to find that he a point of a little a house

a grillo in my head in my head to no you know

you see that you see you know and I

know I know it's curious you you know you know

I'm so you know my formation in surgery pediatic

what How difficult is for a surgeon, operate a a new? What difficult is?

Because the level of sensibility augmenta. You see a person a

fragile. And resulta that you that you have a sensibility

you, you're dedicating since three years, all the days a

time important to start with children in a hospital

very recognized internationally childrenally, children who are in processes oncological, perecate tumors malign,

and some of them go from this plan, and, so, you are with this is very important for all those who you

are going to be a fragile a person that has has been how his how his high sensibility, his capacity to empathize,

his capacity to experimented compassion, he has led to the place probably more than the most due to be able to be in the point of view of view of medical, in the oncology pediatrics. If it is certain that many children, unfortunately, are in advance, others not stand in the end. And, of actually,

you have been with children that not have gone to do that. So it is fundamental for that nobody that recognize in-s-s-simis-missue, or in-simisness, this high-sensibility, consider that we're talking of fragility.

And when someone he says, what fragile are or what you're or what-jorn-er- or what-jorn-er-ers, not you're not you're

against the other person, because what is expressing not is mald- is ignorance, and not I don't know

at the point of the point of the point of the disprece, is that really, and for these conversations

what they want to help to expand the a reality. A see what I'm going to to say has a sense for

you, the major the major a question for a person that has this gift,

this don, of the high sensibility, the major the major is gestioner

the situations of stress. Situations of stress especially intense when you know

that the environment not know is a don't as a don

like a talent, if it's a little bit like a laster. This is true or no? Yes, it's true. It's really that I said

that I went to the people who want, the people of my family, my around, obviously, you know what they're like

in the children, but it was like very contradictory. How is possible that you are so sensible and

you're so that blandita, let me call them as you, you can't entererer because at final you

do you coges carino you see how you guys, but at the day next they're not so you're thinking it's thinking now,

you know, you know, you're going to back to this is very very true, the this is a

very to, to your life? You know, to be to be to be and not

only only I found the benefit but I found without without any any

kind of of disinteres and I'm the world to do and I

get and me I've got more gratitude than the from the that I do. So I think

that is very contradictory. I'm a very that I'm sometimes. But, of the

really can. And many times when there are many problems outside of that's that

I'm going, all that all that all this force that I have to the hospital and

to my life, and I'm I'm Who can you know between the hospital the Su and the

Retiro. There's a pass of peatones and I think, the retreat is full of light,

of naturalness, the new people who's doing, of people doing people doing people, eating to get

to pay to the patos. And you pass a pass on a petton and you

and you find you something something something something it's like the

two parts and only there there's there there's a there

there's a So, I mean, I'm a lot of all the whole people have

to pass for that path to put up to put in the importance to what there's

that's that that's equilibriar the problems that is saying, mother me

I'm going to be to this when there problems so, so,

so, so much is my problem, but there are to relativiziz there,

there are there are there, there are parents that are a little I mean, I mean,

I don't, I can't even just go to literally. Well, you know, I'm

not quite. So, I'm so I'm know this family. No, I know

this family. But there is a thing that you know did you in medicine,

but that empathy you to be to give to a mother.

And, certainly you will get that response. And me has

got many many many that I've been in my house, I've had been in my

house. Let's see. The think paradoxical is the thing that really

it's a matter of the thing that is what it is what is the one or the other and

no, the other. So the first that result fascinating in your story

of your story of that I'm that's that you don't have to blocker, anulner,

your old sensibility entering in the place, in the space, in the hospital where it was what was what was over the upper high sensitivity? Well, no, you know,

you do you do those abrazos, it's important, maybe, to make a little paradita and explain what you're when you

do you do when you do not from the courtesy of the education, but from the desire to to accompany

to a mother that will to a child, a father who will to lose a his son, or the time that that's a brazo

produces various things. It's important that you know that you know, for you are so necessary in this world, we're able to in our ignorance to understand it or no. And why, although you don't study this medicine, you're

acting as an extraordinary doctora? You'll be to tell you. The moment in that you does that brazo, the person that receives that that is a brazo, that's under those levels of stress

indescriptible, under a tension brutal. In that moment, biochemically experimented

a liberation of oxytocina. The oxytocina, the hormona of the amor, produces immediately a disconnection

of the age of stress. That means that you are doing to the health of

that mother, to comfort of that mother or of that father and to that in the relation with his child, it's a a relation much more calida and much

less full of tension, not because he wants to express that tension, but because for the inside is in pure evolution. Number two, with that

you're starting what you're called the nerve vago anterior of the other person. The nerve vago anterior

is the nerve more important in the recuperation of an organism. It is that you you just

you just are helping that mother to recoverers. And as we're going to spejors, that mother, that father, when they're with their son, they're saying

something that's that's helping to that he's doing. He's a longer the life, that is possible that but if,

but if you get to a way different, look at what paradoxical, I, that resulta that you

wanted to have studied medicine and not studied medicine, and you are exercising the medicine

more beautiful, that is the medicine of the love. Because when it's a matter, in the practice, the medicine, not is it's not doing, veradal medicine. It's not doing something technical, something scientific, but it's a quality of human.

For other side, fichate, your high sensibility you have done a level very elevated of the same.

You're a woman very young, you are in the 30 years, and you You've done a level of sabbrious, you've done that you've

done a simple pass of natural, you know, and a place and a place of suffering. And you've

seen the two dimensions of the life, the dimension gozosa and the dimension dolorousa.

And you you know, that the life is so. There are many that not have

high sensibility, they're very list and they are very d'n't very

solid, they're not they're as they're like if were more and they're, and they

do the beautiful the Retiro Madrid-Madrieneo the sun the and the sun,

the paratito and the arboles and when when the part difficult of the

life, the the disease, the beheat, the poverty, the poverty, they're unded. You know, you've unded? How will be

a single? A person that's unste, how will be a fragile? Is that we're saying fragile to what

a solidness like the acer. We're calling to the man of a-sir- Superman, a

man fragile. A woman of a-o-o- a-oh-a-much- This is important-simportantism because it helps to see the other perspective. Dichael, what's going to be

when you captas much? It's like a sponge. A sponge is a lot. So, you're you're jenas of emotions. What occurs when you do you're ines of emotions? That you're a human. For more that you've got

the don of the alt-sensibility, you're a man. And you You need to discargar that world emotional. Necesses moments of the descanso, you need to

take you passos for that Retireean or for the precious parks that are in Korda or for any

park beautiful that in all the cities Spanual. So, you need to give

those passos, need you you need to make and time, moments to

start with you moment's for to recordart that what you is a laster is a don't moments

to record that because you are you are in this world there people are people who

are people who are that you are you you're able to distinguish

the two dimensions of the life and accept them and both knowing

that there's there's a simple pass of zebra that no

there a distance, a embergadour gigantesque, there's a simple pass of zebra, one can't

one can't one can't. So, all this is important very much, because if not,

as the sponge, it's a water, you're you're you're of emotions,

and if not you liberas for your dimension human, for our dimension

human, there, there can produce a level of stress that you get

You have to be to be you need to be because not only for you myself, but because you're taking a case a

work a function very important in the life. I have to say, Mario, that me has been a

long of the years to find the part positive. Yes, me has costed much.

I've had to think to say, because I have to think so I'm going to feel with

that's a amount, and then when I I'm, I'm very very strong. I mean,

I can keep able to get to keep in that way, I'm costed much to find that

positive. And I think there's many people that we're seeing that is going to say, Joling,

I'm I'm going to find a positive because it is a right, because it's a

rachgo. To me me, I'm I'm a word, to me, I'm

a lot, to me, oh' a part positive. A me has costed many years,

much, much, many, I'm going to know, but it has been and what

has been in a group, I still have been my sensibility, but I

have seen a brilli and that brilli is the that's the that's the people

there's there's that I think that can get to to hear to hear

to be a question. And I'm that still uses words, as my cruz,

like, et cetera, and so you still, you're experimenting that's a that's a

thing, it's been, it's been, a way a way of, of, of saying,

something to have to get to get to to me not me, no, no,

no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

let me take one a question, if you If the the entorno in the

you had created that can be great a great we're

focusing in the time of the environment you you you have

you in the college in the family and your high

sensibility you have said that are that that

great don that put in this level of empathy that

that can that this capacity to have this capacity of alexia to make and not

amortiguar the the that I'm going to put a lot, you think that you

have been you know, I've been a have been a family marvellousous and I

have a great, but it is really that after X year, the term

of the term of the non he was not, it was not

not he had before the termed, then I, so, if I had heard

I've heard is that is very sensible and in instead of to hear of I've heard of it's

that's a I'm not I'm not not because my family not you're not doing I'm

I'm adored but I heard more that's that wholing what don can get to get to

to get a not a high sensibility with is capable to is able

to put in the place no not it not it was not

so I'm So I've heard a term of to say, well, I'm the rarer, well, I've seen the, I've seen

a, you know, a, you know, a, it's not, I'm not, nobody,

no, he's not, but at it's more, it's more, it's more about, you know,

about us that's your family. Yes. No, we're talking, for so I do, we're

doing, we're just exactly, in the mark of, the reaction of the person,

against another man that has a self-sensibility and this is very important that we'll presteen

attention to us. We're spectres front to see a spejo

a spejo to a spejo that means that we're we're we're

saying if I me me they're that I'm not that they're

that they're to say me myself that Blandito I'm, that Blandito I'm going to Blandito I'm going to be a

normal power to activate images, to activate sensations, to activate sentiments, to activate emotions. Well, the first, very important, it was I said,

Ortega and Gazette, Jose Ortegey Gassett, I am I in my circumstances. It's very important that we all we have the sensibility

and people that have this don't of the high sensibility of not to not to not use words,

like you're blandita, you're fragile, that you're a lot of because it's a sensation that's a

person to be a little bit is what it's a thing. Dichio that's a said that

we don't depend to all to that the environment to change for that we're

I'm my circumstances is not I'm only my circumstance so this is

very important that you really values what you have. Valories that is a don and that all don't have a challenge. Recurrected that Superman not was accepted by the

other, because it was different. And then result that he saved the most of the movie. Sin him, the earth would have disappeared. Utilizing this as a metaphor, or like an analogy, is the same. It's all of, I mean, all has a

one side that it's a more luminous and another that does that your side more luminous is that that has that

level of empathy that much people that has that level to enjoy that people desire to

have to have it. The side is that you gestiones that that's a

world affective and that you can get a a mind

a part of some people that are some that some

a lack of the knowledge of the is the high sensitivity they're

in this disconciviet not is a matter of mald it's a problem of

a non- so if you do you do you then you'll

you the equilibrium not is in saying I'm

to be more sympathetic I'm to connect less

with the suffering and I have to connect

less with the I have to have to have to have to that's the

equilibrium there is a good that's a thing artificial is a makey

that's not that the point of view they're saying I'm I'm

this this enormous don I'm doing to people

in moments that so super difficult I'm I'm when

a person is passing it while although with

the words I say is saying that phenomenal

is gritty with his language no verbal, I need help, even with his words, say, to give to

you know, and for that you can be there when more he needs, and also you have

a challenge. The challenge is that you have to know, gestionar

what you do you do you know, know, to do you also, you also

you need to have that's that you need to keep a distance emotional,

that also you need to put limits, that you can't do you for complete to all, at all hours, because also

you need to be a act of egoism, it's an act of intelligence. Quantto more you're more you're more you're more

you're to enjoy the moments bonit and more you're to help in the moments difficult.

As well, it says, pardon me that you have cuted, as well, there's a part that, a person altamently sensible, is a lot of so-saint-a-saint-gri-o, is it a lot of she-miss-mim. And it makes, always there's like a voice-cita

that you're like, but you were like, but you were, of crystal, but you, but you, but easy, easy, easy, and it's a, it's a dialogue constantly

the thing you have to do with that little little that that's kind of there. And the hospital, my children, me have served like to

confront me to that voice and say, is that, look, in the the way, in the

road in the that I'm that I'm putting me a maskary, and I'm doing to the, I've crossed, then I'm

that's a voice, and that cruises this pass of peatone, both to the thing, that is the retiro, as the most dolorous.

So, many times dole much to have that that's a great-sensibility because I hear

much that that that need to you know, I need to be you know, I need,

because I'm because I'm gotated, I need, Mary, there was a thing that I

had I was I met in the camera and I said, I mean, I'll get

the night the night dure much many hours of the because when I was a ray of the

house for my house the means to confront me to know to the other

24 hours of day another 24 hours of that that that's I was

in the camera and I said for favor for favor that the night would be

that the night I was a lot of in fact that I'm saying thanks for another day new,

it was another time I'm many hours for the time. And I'm a pain, I'd

say it, me'd be a pain, but, well, I think that that I'm a little

more. Look, very important what you are saying, when you cruzas from the

hospital the child, the child, the to the retiro, you you, paris in a moment I've terminated, in the

pass of Cedar and you're going to to say to the coaches, paren the motors, no pittin. Has done that ever? No, because

I'm atropelling. No, exactly. Very well, said, because you're atropelling. The strategy with the voice interior that you're using

is profoundly contraproducente. It's, if you go to the Retire. Your focus has to

be in the Retiree. In the park, the retiro. No, in to say to

the conductors that can't. What do? You don't have to do you have to

that voice interior. You don't have to that cacophonia. You

don't have to be that the root because if they say, if you

say, parens and whatever, at the one despist you

get to get the Resist, persist. So, you what you have to do, at least in what I know, is enfocke your attention, not in contraresting that voice, in intent to convince that voice of how strong that is now and that you're not fragile in absolute, because you're not being agorndo,

you're trying to eat. Paradoxically, is so. your focus is to do the things that you're and that voice

and that having to receive your attention will start to call yourself for that's

so it's so important that you practice the meditation because the meditation what

is to help to not to not to not to to let's

to give it to something when you go to that cross that pass of Cobra

of the of the New Jesus to the Park of Retire to the Park of Retire to the I'm going to I'm trying to that's atent to cross the PASA

not that someone despised not you see but not you're not the the the road of the motors

of the the coaches not you don't if one pita if one one goes to another

other is a coach another coach you you go to you go to the is the

meditation you what what does is to to focus in what you interest in your

body, in your in your respiration in your sensations and not in the

rudimental so many people that to transform that to make that you

have to have to have to get to to someone. It's like you want

to that the high in those children, in that park, in retina, in that and that caret, and that's caret, and that whatever that hea, yeah, with your form of being, have received the best explanation.

And, he'll say, oh yeah, this woman that has all the world for delante, dedic a time of his life, something so defiant as to help to families in moments of

of such difficulties and is capable of that have that sabred to understand that a simple pass of Cepra mark the difference between the gozo and the suffering. I want to be like

she. That is the difference. No, we have to explain that they can permit that they can how they're to be if

our energy is going to the explication and not to the vivance of that don't natural that you

that is very important. So your new in the inner is a much better than what you are much better than what you

think your your inner interior is celebrating that the woman that is who is your your new

is doing a party a year because A. A past of your great

youth a woman because Aara is of a life of a person fragile and blandita. He's living the life of a woman that is of acer.

Recordemes that the acer is elastic. Not as the yerro that is a goodefficient of elasticity. And then, that's, that is a new is celebrating the woman that is. What is the other says,

you have to repair a little bit to repair that that she has to repair that that she has to be a So what you can do So what you can do is to do what you're doing

being what you're and not to and not to that cacophonia absurd that is the integration of a series of voices disfunctional and

that they're still to that the way to to liberate us to let us to show what we have to

do you to not present attention. No you're you're not you can't You're going to be you You're taking the attention

where you interest, your park, the retiro to do you do that's wonderful, the hospital to

start with the people in the moments most doloros and that's you're simply to

recover to to renavart to renavartes as a human, for the very it.

You know? I'm very good. Careidos, oh'al this conversation has been of value,

for me it has been much No one many occasions in the life of encounter persons as extraordinary as as Aara, that they can

teach them too. I can't share things, fruit of my study a long of the years. Ara has trailed a lot more valuable, that is a

conocimient based on the experience. Much thanks, Aara. And a brother for all.