Emonthebrain - Science Shows Lack of Discipline Makes You Unattractive | How to Fix

Episode Date: April 20, 2026

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Neuroscience shows that lack of discipline makes you unattractive, and I don't just mean physically. I mean energetically, biologically, and neurologically. And I'm going to tell you the neuroscience behind why that is. But first, I want to explain to you a little bit about what discipline really is, at least from my perspective and from the nervous system perspective. Because most people think that discipline is about forcing yourself to do more. It is about control. It is about rigidity. And And I bring this up because a lot of people that I coach, they assume automatically that discipline means you need to have this rigid, super duper structured life. But that's not at all what it is.
Starting point is 00:00:38 Biologically, discipline is nervous system regulation. Discipline is control over the one thing that you have control over in this life, which is you. And discipline is really so important for more than just getting things done. Discipline helps to build self-trust. The brain craves predictability and stability. I want you to think about this for a moment. If you had a friend who was kind of all over the place would always tell you they were going to do one thing and then did another, you would make plans with them all the time and then they kind of just backed out at the last moment.
Starting point is 00:01:11 How would you feel around that friend? Would you really feel like you could trust your plans? Would you really feel like you could trust that you're going to meet up at that time? What do you even really actually planned to really meet up at the time you guys said you were going to? if they were always backing out last minute, no, you'd probably have a plan B. And that's exactly how your brain looks at you when you don't follow through on your word. Discipline, build self-trust. And self-trust makes you more confident.
Starting point is 00:01:35 When you can trust yourself, you can be more confident in yourself. Competence is what's attractive. But I'll tell you what else discipline does. Discipline, as I said, is a form of nervous system regulation because your brain craves predictability and safety. If you're in a relationship or in a friendship with someone who, again, acted that same way, would, like, would you really be really seeking out more to spending more time with that person? Maybe not. Would you really feel like you could trust that person? Probably
Starting point is 00:02:02 not. You're probably going to have to be on a swivel with that person. If you are surrounded by a whole bunch of people that you don't really trust, you're going to, your head would be on a swivel. You probably always be braced, head on a swivel, making sure you know what's going on around you, right? When you are undisciplined and you don't follow through on your word and you consistently go against, what you say you're going to do, your brain is on a swivel with you. Now your brain doesn't trust you. That's dysregulating. And just to take this one step further, right? When you're disciplined, then you can actually have a little bit more structure in your life. Then you can have those morning routines that keep your nervous system regulated and keep you calm, keep you grounded.
Starting point is 00:02:39 You can actually be focused, be more mindful. If you're just all over the place, leaf in the wind and you're not doing the things you say you're going to do, it's more likely that your nervous system will be dysregulated. And other people can feel the state of your nervous system. I'm sure you've felt this in your life. If you are with a friend or with someone that you know and you're sitting next to someone and they're super anxious, you can feel that. We don't operate in isolation.
Starting point is 00:03:04 This is actually called nervous system co-regulation. We co-regulate with other people, not just with people, also with the trees, right? This is why forest bathing is so helpful. And it really does affect our nervous system. but we co-regulate with others. We can feel others' energy. You can probably feel mine through the phone. Like, I say through the phone because I'm just sitting here on my phone.
Starting point is 00:03:25 But you can probably feel mine through the screen, right? Because I'm so hyped up to share with you what I want to share with you in this video. Because in this video, I want to talk about the science behind, you know, this, which we're doing right now. But I also want to give you some real life tools that you can use to be more disciplined, to regulate your nervous system. so that you can not just be more physically attractive, but also more mentally attractive, more energetically attractive, more spiritually attractive, more biologically attractive, because people can feel the state of your nervous system. And I will tell you this, I wouldn't ever say I was ugly.
Starting point is 00:04:02 But I have 1,000% blown up on my journey of regulating my nervous system and rewiring my brain and changing my mindset. But it didn't just work for me because I have clients in my program. I have a specific student that I'm thinking of actually right now that when she ended her six-month journey inside of Mindcraft, which is my program, she started very anxious, by the way. She started my program and she was very anxious. She couldn't even get through the material, actually. She was so stressed, so anxious, so dysregulated. I told her just go do the nervous system regulation stress and anxiety content first.
Starting point is 00:04:34 Like, go do that first. Then you can get into that state where now you can go through the rest of the content. So that's what she did. Three, four months later, she gets back on and I hadn't seen her in a while. Like, where have you been? She's like, oh, I just regulated my nervous system with that content, went through the entire course. Now I have two businesses, a thriving relationship, and she looks different. I was like, you're glowing.
Starting point is 00:04:53 And she's like, oh, yeah, well, I just got my hair done. I was like, no, no, no, this is not just the new hairdo. You look physically different. She's like, yeah, well, I feel different. And that's what it is. When you feel different, you carry yourself differently. You look different physically. I get asked all the time.
Starting point is 00:05:08 How are you glowing in your content? Like, it's not any sort of special skincare. It's literally just glowing from the inside out, which is what you do when you have the right mindset, when you actually believe in yourself, when you follow through on your word and you trust yourself and your nervous system is regulated. And before I dive into the tools about how to be more disciplined, I really do just want to make one more point, one more little neuroscience fun fact. And it is that your brain actually treats stagnation as a threat. I'm sure there has been a time in your life, maybe not. maybe you're just abundantly less, and you never felt stuck ever in your life. I know I have.
Starting point is 00:05:43 I know I've definitely felt stuck in my life. And I've definitely had, you know, phases in my life where I've felt stuck. And I felt like I just wasn't making the progress that I really wanted to make. And, you know, it really usually does all come down to lack of discipline. Because if I'm being 100% honest, when I am on my routines, when I am doing the things that I know I need to do to get my energy right, when I am waking up every single morning, doing my morning pages. If you haven't read the artist's way, morning pages are chef's kiss, change your life, absolutely incredible. Get up every single morning and just stream of consciousness, brain dump everything out of your head onto a piece of paper without filtering, without judging, without judging,
Starting point is 00:06:19 without criticizing, without any sort of plan, just stream of consciousness, dump it all out, then I move my body afterward, just in case. If something comes up, the reason why I do it in this order is because if something comes up in my morning pages that maybe something comes up that I'm needing to work through. Maybe there's something that makes me feel a little anxious, a little triggered, whatever it is. Moving my body always recenters me and gets my energy back to feeling great. So I do that in that order. When I do my morning pages, move my body, and then meditate, my day goes completely different. And when your days go different, your life goes different.
Starting point is 00:06:55 And your reality is a reflection of your habits and what you do every day and how you're showing up. Because the reality probably is there's no secret sauce. There's no real secret besides just showing up every single day and doing your best that you can do. That's the secret. And being consistent, that's the secret. I remember because of a coach that I was working with, they had me reach out to different friends and family. And they were like, you know, ask your strengths and weaknesses. It was really funny, actually, because my fiance didn't want to tell me my weaknesses.
Starting point is 00:07:23 He was like, I don't want to get in trouble. It was funny. I made him do it. But my brother actually, one thing that he said that kind of surprised me is he said, you're so consistent. You've been doing this and you've been at this for so long. You're so consistent. And I had never really reflected on that before. To me, it's just, yeah, you got to keep going. You got to keep pushing and you can't get discouraged because there are going to be times when the results aren't what you want. There are going to be times when it doesn't go your way. I was speaking at UCLA last night and I was doing, you know, we were doing a little panel for a social media club at UCLA.
Starting point is 00:07:58 I had a few students come up to me and asked me a similar question, which is, how do you push through when the result isn't what you want? If I'm creating content on social media and my videos aren't going, you know, they're not getting a lot of views. Like, how do I keep going? I told them a number of things. I gave them a number of pieces of advice. But one of the things that I said was don't make performance a goal. Don't make something outside of your control, a goal. Don't make virality a goal. Make consistency the goal. Make getting your energy right and showing up as the best version of yourself every single day, make that the goal. Because when that's the goal, that's something you have complete control over and you can achieve that goal. That is fully
Starting point is 00:08:36 within your power to achieve that goal. And when you do that and you make consistency the goal and you show up every single day, well, by default, at one point, you're going to win. I was just thinking earlier to myself today. I can't wait till that next super pop rocket chip opportunity or thing happens, right? Because when you're consistent, it just happens. I was talking a friend of mine who's a content creator and also a businesswoman and she creates content pretty much solely to promote her work and her business and I was talking to her and she was like yeah I mean she posts every single day which I've never done in my life for the years that I've created content never done that and she said to me she said about once every 30 days I get a video that hits 18
Starting point is 00:09:15 million views I'm like I love that I love that she knows that as long as she continues to show up consistently, one's going to pop. And if I have that mindset of just like, I can't wait for that next pop. I'm super excited for it. I'm moving like it's already mine because I know it's going to happen. So that was another piece of advice that I had given to a student at UCLA. I said, ignore reality, move like it's already yours. It's something that I have been doing for years. When I graduated early from the PhD program with my master's in neuroscience to move across the country to pursue having my own business and create content, I had 30,000 Instagram followers. I had no reason to believe. I was going to have two million Instagram followers.
Starting point is 00:09:54 But I moved like it was already mine. I packed up my Jeep, moved across the country to Miami Beach. I have no idea what's going to happen, but I believe in myself. And you already know I had videos that were not popping off. Like I had videos that did not get go super viral. But for me, that wasn't necessarily the goal at the time. The goal was just to be consistent. Because the thing is, is that I have a vision that's so much bigger than having one video go viral.
Starting point is 00:10:17 And that's the thing is that if you want longevity, which I think that you do, right? Like we don't want to be one-hit wonders. That's not the goal to be a one-hit wonder. We want longevity here. And so the game that we're playing is not to pop off one time. The game that we're playing is a game of consistency. That was my long tangent. Just to say that the brain treats stagnation as a threat.
Starting point is 00:10:36 And so, again, if you're stuck, if you're not doing anything to move forward, you're living in that dysregulated state and that sucks. And I'm sure you already not ought to tell you that. It doesn't feel good. I've been there. It doesn't feel good. Discipline has been shown in studies, actually. to reduce cortisol, reduce stress hormones, and improve emotional regulation. So it makes us
Starting point is 00:10:56 better at regulating our emotions. It makes us less stress. It helps us be more regulated human beings. And again, our regulated nervous system is an attractive nervous system. We know this intuitively. Like we are generally attracted to people that, you know, give the vibe of like, oh, wow, like they know what they're doing. They know what they're doing. They seem to know what they've got going on, right? They seem to have it all figured out. Nobody has it all figured out. by the way, like newsflash. We're all just living in this experiment that is life. We're just playing the game and to see what buttons do what. And that's really how we're all living. Just just so you know. I'm even like you watching me, maybe you're, you found me through social media
Starting point is 00:11:33 or maybe not. Maybe this is the first time you've ever seen me before. I'm playing the game just like you. And I'm taking it one step at a time just like you. There's a saying that I love and I actually kind of came up with this when I was in my PhD living in Tucson. I would go hiking in the mountains and I would practice something called intuitive hiking where I would go hiking and I would purposely go off trail, get quote unquote lost. My Google Maps always worked, so I never really was really in danger. But I would go off trail and get lost and then I would see if I could find my way back to my car without using the maps. And the first few times I did it, I would get somewhat close and then I would question myself and I would check the maps to see if I was
Starting point is 00:12:16 close. Every single time, I realized I was on the right path if I would have just kept going. I didn't need to check it. And then over time, I stopped checking and I learned to trust my intuition. But the moral of the story here is what I really learned was that you don't need to know how to get to the top of the mountain from the bottom. You don't need to know how to get to the car from where you're at. All you need to know is the next right step. You don't need to know how to get to the top of the mountain. You don't need to know how to achieve your dreams. And I think one of the kind of biggest hindrances is, And I think, you know, one of the biggest things that stops people from achieving their goals is they try to figure everything out before they even start. Even last night at UCLA, I had a student ask me a question about getting the right equipment.
Starting point is 00:12:56 Like, I'm filming this on my iPhone. We don't need to have everything figured out before we even start. All we need to do is start and then learn as we go. That's the moral of the story for that story. You don't need to know how to get to the top of the mountain. You don't need to know how to achieve your dreams. You don't. All you need to know is the next step.
Starting point is 00:13:13 And if you don't know what the next step is, make a list of all of the possible steps you could take and then choose the one that excites you the most. That's what I did when I first started out. Literally, I had a whiteboard on Miami Beach in the apartment I was sub-leasing. I had a whiteboard of all the possible things that I could do. And I chose and I was like, which one's going to work the best? I just don't know. And the woman that I consulted for, she said, stop trying to figure out which one's going to work the best and choose the one that excites you the most because that's the one you're going to make work the best. So let's talk about some tools to be more disciplined.
Starting point is 00:13:43 that doesn't motivate you enough to get started. I really want to start actually with a mindset shift rather than a specific tool. And it is that discipline is actually one of the greatest forms of self-love. I have a friend who is allergic to gluten and she microdose of gluten. She says she knows how much she can handle and she eats it and she gets rashes. And I was on the phone with her one day and she had this rash. I don't remember where it was. And she's just like, oh no, I usually know my limits.
Starting point is 00:14:11 And you know what I told her? I said, you need to love yourself more. You need to love yourself more. Every single cell in your body is a living being that works night and day for you. Who are you to treat it badly? Who are you to treat your body and these little cells that are working nonstop for you no matter what you put into your body, no matter what you do, whether you exercise or not? No matter what you do, who are you to turn around and stab your cells in the back? I didn't quite say it like that. But that's what What's the gist? And it's funny because I said that and then, you know, the conversation shifted to something else, whatever. About a week later, about two weeks later, maybe. She calls me and she's like, I haven't eaten gluten in two weeks. And I went out with my friends and I told them, I said, you know, I'm not eating gluten now. And they actually respected that. And they actually went out of their way to make sure that they had food that she could eat. And she said, you were right. Like I realized I needed to love myself better. I need to treat myself better. Discipline is a form of self-love.
Starting point is 00:15:11 Discipline is a form of self-love. When I was in my PhD, another one of my friends, we'd go to the grocery store and she is a mad sweet tooth. We'd go to the grocery store and we would be walking down the aisle and she would be like, I just don't know how you're so disciplined. Like, how come you don't want these sweets or these chips or whatever? And I remember telling to her, I was just like, well, I'm looking out for future Emily. I'm looking out for future me.
Starting point is 00:15:36 What would my future self thank me for? And here's the reason why I really like that question. Discipline is not always about forcing yourself to work harder, do more. It's not about that. And this is where I disagree with a lot of the, I've seen out there, you know, ignore your feelings, just, you know, do whatever. I don't necessarily ride on that bandwagon because I think that there are times when your future self would thank you for rest. There are times when your future self would thank you for taking a pause. the other day I was, you know, needing to make content and trying to push and I just kind of realize I don't feel excited to make a video. I just don't feel excited. I just don't feel excited. And I know
Starting point is 00:16:19 if I'm not feeling excited or motivated to do what I know I need to do in that moment, it was because it was a dopamine problem. It was a dopamine problem. I was so overstimulated. I had been working all day long and like for days straight, no days off. And I had been on social media and I realized I just need to put the phone away, get off social media for the rest of the day, go out into nature and go for a jog, go out into nature, and just give myself a little reset. Went out to nature. The next morning, I got up, did not go on my phone, went to a workout class. After that workout class, I felt like a brand new person. I probably spent a little less than 24 hours in this little reset mode resting up. and after that felt so much energy to go again. And so that's an example of where what would my future self think me for is not always push
Starting point is 00:17:11 harder, work harder. It's not always forcing more. It's about checking in with what you actually need. But don't take that and let it be an excuse to not do what you said that you were going to do. Because if you haven't made it a habit of showing up consistently, at first it's going to feel bad. It's not going to feel easy and it might not feel fun, but repetition makes it easier, right? Because that's when you start to wire it into your brain. Let's think about it this way.
Starting point is 00:17:39 If you're trying to do something that you've never done before, you are going to need to be activating pathways in your brain that maybe you've never activated before. It's like working out a new muscle group, literally. And when you work out a new muscle group, I don't know about you, but when I first did Pilates afterward, I was my body was crying the next day because I had never worked those muscles before. I didn't even know I had these muscles. My body was screaming. And this works the same way.
Starting point is 00:18:04 If you're trying to do things that you've never done before, it might be painful at first. But over time, Pilates has become a lot easier for me. And now I seek out the instructors that are harder because I want it to be harder. It works the same way with working toward your dreams. When I first started, it took me so long to create content. And even these videos, it would take me so long and I would have to pause between everything that I was saying. I would have to restart a bunch. but through repetition, you get better.
Starting point is 00:18:30 So struggle through that difficulty period, and depending on what you're doing, it can be a few days, it can be a few weeks, it can be a few months. But I'm telling you this, when you make it a game of consistency and you make the goal consistency and you take kind of the, you reward that. I think that's very important as well because when you want to teach your dog a new trick, you give them a treat when they do it. So reward consistency. Don't over hype and celebrate when you do like you get the outcome. For example, content creation. Video goes viral. Oh, I'm going to celebrate my video going viral.
Starting point is 00:19:07 Well, now you're teaching your brain that the video going viral was the goal. So celebrate consistency. Train your brain. The consistency is the goal. Reward consistency. And I'm telling you the first few days, the first few weeks might be a little hard. But over time with reps, it becomes easier. and you strengthen those pathways in your brain.
Starting point is 00:19:28 But again, look out for future you. Look out for future you. What would future you think you for? Before I get into this next tool here, let's just take a moment because we're in Malibu. I've been singing that. It's beautiful, huh? Love that. Love that.
Starting point is 00:19:42 I just wanted to show you the view because it's really beautiful. Very regulated. Number two is follow through on your word. Do what you say you are going to do. Teach your brain to trust you. Again, start small. Start small. Don't tell yourself you're going to get up every day and do a two-hour workout. Let's be honest. Be honest with yourself about what you can commit to because the goal here is to build self-trust. The goal here is to build consistency. So ball through on your word and don't
Starting point is 00:20:13 over-promise to yourself or to others. This is something that I started doing maybe when I was in undergrad and I would have assignments or exams to study for. I would kind of plan ahead. and over plan, I would kind of pretend like things were going to take me longer than I thought that they might, just to give myself extra time. Under promise and over-deliver. That's what I do with myself. So if you're trying to get into the practice of following through on your word, under-promise to yourself and over-deliver.
Starting point is 00:20:44 If it's meditation, I'm going to meditate one minute a day. Under-promise, and then maybe after that minute, you might feel like doing two minutes. over-deliver. Now you're going to feel extra good about yourself. Don't make the under-promise too small, right? Make it something good, something consistent, something that you want to be doing. But I find that that's a really good way to get into the practice of following through on your word is to not over-promote, make too many promises to yourself that you can't keep, right? I mean, it works the same way with other people. You're not going to tell somebody else that you can do this, that, and the other if you don't have time or energy, right? And if you constantly did that to someone, what would they think? They would
Starting point is 00:21:21 think, oh, like, they must not care about me. They don't ever do the things that they said that they were going to do. They're not keeping the promises they made to me. And how would you feel if that person was always telling you they were going to do something and they never did it for you? So don't do that to yourself? Because that's what you're doing to yourself when you tell yourself you're going to do things and you don't do them. Would that make you feel loved by somebody else if they were always doing that to you? No, you probably wouldn't feel loved by them. And so right now, subconsciously, if you're constantly telling yourself you're going to do things and you don't do them, you might not feel loved by you. And self-love is so important. It's so important. I'm sure you've heard
Starting point is 00:21:58 before, like, love yourself, love yourself, but it really, I was actually driving in the car. This is a funny and just little dumb, random example. I was driving the car yesterday and I was holding my hands on a steering wheel. And I was looking at my arms and I was like, I love my arm hairs. So random. So random. I don't think I've ever had that thought before. But I was like, well, yeah, my arm hairs are so cute. but really kind of showing up for yourself and taking care of yourself like that is so important and discipline is a huge way to do that it is so important it is so important i think you know we we know this to be true when it comes to other people which is why i like to use the other people example like if somebody else was always making promises to you and not keeping them would you
Starting point is 00:22:42 feel loved by them that's why i like those examples because it's like obviously not But we tend not to treat ourselves the same way. We tend not to give ourselves that same curtsy. What's that all about? I don't know. So the next tool I want to talk about, it's a signature phrase that you're going to hear from me today and you'll probably hear from me until the end of time, but it is called start small and send it.
Starting point is 00:23:06 If you've got big dreams, if you have things that you know you want to do, if you want to work out, if you want to meditate, whatever it is, start small. Make the task as tiny as possible. lower the barrier to entry for yourself. If it's working out, tell yourself you're going to go work out for 20 minutes. I mean, it depends on the day. For me, if I am lacking motivation and not really feeling a lot of energy that day, I'm like, okay, I'm just going to literally exercise, move my body for 10 minutes.
Starting point is 00:23:31 Like, start small. Just a little neuroscience side note here. This is actually how I start to combat effort discounting. And effort discounting is something that happens in the brain when the perceived effort of something outweighs the perceived reward that you're going to get for doing it, and therefore your brain doesn't motivate you to do it. And I think this happens all the time. And I actually really got to know this well when I was writing my book. The way that I did it was there are a few things, right? Because start small and send it is a huge way to do this. So effort discounting is like this.
Starting point is 00:24:03 Imagine I put a snack right in front of your face and your favorite snack and you were a little hungry. I said, go ahead, take a bite. If you were a little hungry and it was your favorite snack, you'd probably take a bite. But what if I put a bite of your favorite snack on top of a mile high mountain and said you got to hike up there to get it? All of a sudden you might be like, I'm not that hungry. That snack's not that good, right? Because now the perceived effort outweighs the reward. That mountain is the perceived effort. And that's what we do to a lot of the things we say we're going to do is we make the mountains in our minds. And so make that mountain a tiny little step. Put it right in front your face. That's where start small and send it comes in. How can you make the task as tiny as possible
Starting point is 00:24:44 so that it's easier to actually go and do? How can you make the mountain small? A few other ways to actually do the things that you say you're going to do is to make the task more fun, right? If you're, if that, you know, mission is to climb up that mountain, how can you make climbing the mountain more fun? They've shown in studies that when you are with someone that you love, perceived pain lowers. So perceived effort lowers. Maybe that might be that. mountain isn't so hard to climb now with my best friend, with somebody that I love. It's so true. It's so true. And so how can you, but it doesn't have to just be with someone that you love. Like, how can you make it more fun? Maybe you can play your favorite music when you need to do the task, you know? If it's exercise
Starting point is 00:25:24 and you really don't enjoy exercising, it can be exercising with a friend. It can be, maybe you're going to only allow yourself to listen to your favorite music or your favorite show or your favorite podcast while you're exercising, right? Like, how can you make it more? You're fun. When I was writing my book, I made it as simple as I got a pink keyboard. A pink keyboard. It made it so much more fun to write. Just little things, the simple things, right? And the third way, actually, to combat effort discounting and climb to the top of that mountain is to make the reward at the top greater. So how can you reward yourself for doing the things that you say you're going to do? Reward yourself. If I say I'm going to go and exercise tomorrow morning and I wake up and I'm just
Starting point is 00:26:05 really not feeling it, I'm like, you know what? I can have a matcha from this special place when I'm done. Or maybe I even give it to myself before to like really make it more fun and rewarding, right? So just a few little tips there. How can you make it more fun? How can you reward yourself for doing it? And maybe make it as small as possible. Another tip or tool that I want to share with you when it comes to discipline. And this also really helps with consistency. This will really help you be more consistent. And if you didn't get it by now, consistency is definitely a super useful tool when it comes to being disciplined. Be consistent. Don't take more than two days off. Don't take too long and breaks. I remember there was a while back when I was being super consistent. I was growing so
Starting point is 00:26:49 much. I think I grew like 500,000 followers in a month on Instagram and something like that. Don't quote me. But I was growing so much. And then I had a family trip with my fiance's family. And it completely ruined my consistency. And I completely got thrown off of my routines. And that's on me. There's no one to blame but myself. But it really threw me off. And it halted my, it stunted the growth that I was experiencing. And so consistency is so, so important. Like, yes, of course, like take that day off. Take that take, but don't take more than two off of being consistent. It's going to be really difficult to get back to it. If you repeatedly, of course, like every once in a while, like take that vacation, take that trip, like put the phone away for a week, a week,
Starting point is 00:27:30 whatever. I'm not talking about that. But if you repeatedly skip more than two days, It's just going to make it a lot more difficult to get back on track. But I will say if it's a part of your identity and it's something that you've been doing for a while, it just becomes naturally a habit or a behavior of yours and it's naturally something that you do, then it is easier to get back on track, which I will say. We haven't talked about identity here in this video, but make it a part of who you are. You are consistent. That's the type of person that you are.
Starting point is 00:27:58 That's the type of person you are. You're consistent. You reward your goal is consistency. You show up every day. That's just who you are, right? that's who you are. That's just the type of person that you are. I don't know about those other people, but that's who you are. And so this other tool, though, that I wanted to explain is practicing imperfectionism. Allow it to be imperfect. I got a question. I just mentioned this about, you know,
Starting point is 00:28:21 oh, do I need camera? Do I need lighting? It's like, no, you're just using that as an excuse to not start. And this was something that I really struggled with years ago was really needing it to be perfect. And even now, like, it creeps in every once in a while. Like, I'm not perfect. I definitely follow all of this advice myself and need it all. That's why I give it because I'm like, this is exactly the stuff that I need to hear and then I just share it with you. Everything that I'm doing personally to make my life better and to grow my business and everything that I'm doing, that's like where I get all this information from. It's just information that I needed to hear that I had to wire into my brain. And I'm like,
Starting point is 00:28:54 okay, if I needed it, then maybe you needed it too. Maybe you didn't. Maybe you're better than me. But let it be imperfect. Let it have flaws. There's a quote. And I think it's by because Tasso and he says art is never truly finished only abandoned and I'm paraphrasing that's not how it perfectly goes and I don't have Wi-Fi right now so I can't look it up and see exactly the wording but essentially it's that art is never finished only abandoned the artist just walks away and you have to choose when to walk away like how long are you going to spend perfecting this one thing that you're doing and like when are you finally going to just put it out and walk away and allow yourself to do the next thing practice imperfectionism let it be perfect when I was starting to
Starting point is 00:29:34 my business, I had no idea if it was good enough. Like, I had no idea if the product was good enough. I didn't know, you know, if it was going to be able to help people. I didn't know. And I remember I had a phone call with my brother and I asked him. I said, do you think this is good enough? And he said, M, you're not going to know whether it works or not. You're not going to know whether it's good enough or not until you do it and learn through experience. So let it be imperfect. Just put it out there and see what happens and be consistent and show up every single day and do it. And do it. whatever you can do to be the best version of yourself because that's really what's going to get you places. A winning mindset will get you further than most people because most people won't get the
Starting point is 00:30:13 results they want and then they'll stop and then they'll never get to where they want to be. I see people, so many people in my life and people just around me that I, you know, have talked to before that, you know, they'll start something and then maybe it doesn't work immediately and then they stop. I have had conversations with so many people that will start something and then it doesn't work immediately and then they'll stop. They'll just give up. And then a couple months later, they'll remember that that's a goal they really want to achieve. And then they'll start again. And then they stop again. It's like, imagine if you were just consistent. Imagine if you just never stopped where you'd be. I am sending you so much love. You got this. And if you want to
Starting point is 00:30:53 learn more about coaching with me, my program, my community, everything that you need will be in the description or in the show notes, whatever it's called. The link. And information and the website and all that will be down there. So I'm sending you so much love. You got this. I believe in you. I'm rooting for you and I can't wait to see you win. Till the next video. Bye.

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