Emonthebrain - The Neuroscience of Success: My Top 3 Secrets

Episode Date: December 1, 2025

In this episode of Planet Em, Emily breaks down her top three science-backed secrets to success—your environment, your identity, and your core beliefs. She explains how everything you consume rewires your brain, why the people around you shape your nervous system, and how your physical surroundings, media, music, and daily habits become mental anchors that either hold you back or help you grow. Emily also dives into identity shifting, the default mode network, and why your brain works to keep you consistent with who you believe you are. She shares personal examples from her own life, including moving cities, leveling up in her business, writing her book, and how she uses confidence work, affirmations, and evidence-building to rewire her self-concept. Finally, she breaks down the “success mindset trilogy”: belief in yourself, belief in your worthiness, and belief in the possibility—explaining how each one changes your motivation, dopamine, resilience, and the direction of your life.

Hello everyone and welcome back to Planet M. This episode is all about my top three science-backed secrets to success, what they are, the neuroscience behind them, and how to apply them to your own life, of course. And I'll probably be sharing a lot of different examples of how I've applied them in my own life and how I've come to realize that these things really are so important. It's a culmination of all of the different lessons that I've learned to get to. to where I am today, whether it be in school, in business, with social media, or with my mental health and my physical health and my happiness just in general. Because an important note that I need to make here is that success does not have to mean any certain one thing. It doesn't have

to be material success. It doesn't have to mean that you are making a certain amount of money or have a certain number of followers. It can mean whatever it is that you wanted to mean. and I say that because it really is very important to get super clear on what success means to you. Otherwise, you will allow society to make you feel not good enough or unsuccessful or behind when actually you have all of the things that you really want and care about now. So that would be my first little tip before we even dive into this episode is really to take a moment and get clear on what success looks like to you. What does success mean to you?

What does it mean physically, mentally, emotionally, financially? What does success mean to you? Because success means something different to every single one of us. And I know personally for me, success looks like love, having love and joy in my life. Success looks like growth. I've come to realize and recognize in my own life that I could be going, you know, I could be going super viral or doing great in my business or in my coaching. and with all these different things that certain people might say are successful.

From the outside, you might look in and be like, oh, she's so successful because of this. But I know personally from my own experience that those specific things don't necessarily make me feel successful. What makes me feel successful is love, having love and having joy and feeling like I'm growing and expanding and feeling like I'm accomplishing new things, moving outside of my comfort zone and growing and healing in myself. and then also growing in my life, growing in my business, growing in all the different realms, right? So having that growth and then, of course, also making an impact and helping others. To me, those three things, those three categories really are the things that if I have all three of those, then I can consider myself successful. So I highly encourage you to sit down and think to yourself, what are the things that

if I have them or I do them or I embody these things, I feel successful. And I actually have, I've personally done an exercise with a coach that I work with, and I have an exercise in my own, in Minecraft, in my program that helps people go through the process of all of these different possible things that they could possibly want and need in their life and why those things are important to them. And it helps them get very clear on what exactly it is that makes them feel successful. But I do want to take one moment to share some announcements with all of you guys. So if you are interested in coaching, if you are interested, in being involved in a community of like-minded people, or if you're interested in attending a live class with me where I sit down and break down all of the different steps that I've taken to get to where I am today and the top kind of most important categories that I feel are the most important for rewiring your brain that I highly, highly recommend and encourage you to attend one of my free classes. And I hold them every so often. So make sure to check the link in my social media on my website and we host I host a free live class that will kind of help you go through

the entire process and then at the end if you resonate if you are interested in coaching if you are interested in learning more about Minecraft I talk all about that in my live free class so make sure to check that out and so without further ado let's get into my top three science-backed secrets to success secret number one is that your environment is rewiring your brain What you consume, you become. Now, this is super straightforward when you think about food, right? Let's use the analogy of food as an example. When you eat food, that food becomes a part of you.

Your body uses the nutrients from the food to create and build your body and to fuel your body, right? And so it's really simple to think about food and how what you consume into your body is actually being used to build you. What you consume, you become. But I think it's a little more ambiguous and maybe a little less obvious when it comes to the content that we consume. When it comes to the visual stimuli that we consume. I don't think many people really think about the fact that everything that you look at, right,

if you watch the episode on the fact that your brain constructs your entire experience of reality and you've learned that you don't see the world with your eyes, right? You see the world with your brain. Your brain constructs everything that you see. And so if your brain is constructing everything that you see, then that means everything that you look at and everything that you see is being simulated inside of your brain. And so your environment is mirrored in your brain. Now, over time, that does rewire your brain. And you can dive so deep into the neuroscience here about this.

Like, for example, colors, like certain rooms, they've shown and seen in studies that blue, for example, if you have blue walls, then you're more likely to be calm in that room, versus a room with red walls, right? Now, all of that has to do with the associations that your brain has with those colors and probably cultural differences. But the fact of the matter here is that your environment, the objects in your environment, even the cleanliness of your environment, right?

Like, how organized is your environment? All of that is being mirrored in your brain. Your brain has to construct the image of what you're looking at in order for you to see it. And so the image of it is being constructed in your brain, the sound of it, the emotional experience that you are having when you watch it, it's so much deeper. And this is why, you know, I am super, super careful about the content that I consume on social media and also about it on TV, right, when it comes to like the news.

Like, I personally don't watch the news. And some people might be like, oh, but then how am I going to know what's going on? Trust that you will know what's going on. There are so many people that talk about what's going on. Like there's no way that you won't know what's going on. And remember, what you consume, you become, is what I'm consuming, right now, if I were to become this, would I be happy? Like, would I, would I like that? And that's a great way, that's a great question to ask yourself. Like, I love doing social media cleanouts and just unfollowing tons of accounts. Like, go through your accounts and ask yourself, what I want my brain to be rewired by this content. And this is also true, of course, for the music that you listen.

It activates so many different areas in the brain. It is such a brain activator. I love music for that reason. It's so incredible. And music, honestly, like, I could do a whole podcast episode about music alone, just how different frequencies. And actually, and that's kind of how I actually started to blow up on TikTok way back in the day when I was first starting out with content creation. I was making videos about the neuroscience of frequencies and different frequencies of music and how they impact your brain, how they can impact your brain activity, how they can impact your mood, your emotions, your mood, your focus. And it's also such an emotional activator. Like music, it really does activate your emotions and your mood. Of course. Like you've noticed that. Like when you listen to music,

if you're listening to sad music, you tend to feel more sad. If you listen to hype music, like for example, at the gym, you tend to feel more hype. I remember when I first kind of was on my journey and I remember back when I was in my like temple days when I went like completely sober and I was hardcore. I was probably the most hardcore I've ever been. about brain rewiring and energy and all that, I kind of stopped listening to music for a bit just because I was so careful about the lyrics and the, just the messages that are in a lot of music these days. And now I'm a big music fan. I love music. One of the last pieces that I want to share when it comes to this secret and how important this is is really people. People rewires.

your brain, the people in your life, and you know the saying, like, you become like the people that you surround yourself with. There's so much neuroscience to back that up. And so this secret is all about how your environment rewires your brain, right? Like secret number one, your environment is rewiring your brain. Everything that you consume, you become. And this is true for the people in your environment as well. People are a part of your environment. And in case you didn't know this, your brain actually sinks up with the people that you communicate with. Your brain waves, your brain activity actually syncs up with the people that you communicate with. This is called brainwave synchronization or neural synchronization. And now there's actually levels to brainwave synchronization,

right? So whenever you are communicating with your best friend, your guys' brainwaves will be synced up the most because you have the most context, the most knowledge of each other. If you're communicating with a stranger, your brainwaves will sync up the least. You don't know this person very well. So the level to which you know somebody, and understand somebody is sort of a determining factor in the level to which your brainwaves will actually sink up. And this is why it's so important. It's really brainwave synchronization and being careful about this is really important when you are thinking about the people you spend the most time with, the people that you communicate the most with. Now, this doesn't necessarily

mean that these are the people that you're even choosing to be around, right? Like if you go to work and there's a whole bunch of negative people around you that you have to talk to all the time, like, yeah, that's why, you know, if you ever have a communicate, if you have a communicate, if you ever have a conversation with someone that's super negative and complaining and pessimistic, all the things, you walk away from those conversations feeling drained, right? Well, your brain just got done syncing up with that energy. Like, it quite literally syncs up with their energy, with their thought processes, their brain activity, right? This is so important, and there are so many different ways to apply all of this information, right? And so I told you, I wanted to tell you about

the neuroscience and I wanted to tell you about sort of all the different ways that your brain is kind of rewired by your environment. Of course, there are so many more. But now I want to tell you just a few kind of examples of this and how I've used this in my own life. Now, when I think of environment and how important it is, I always think of just my love for moving. I love moving. And I, in the past three, four years, I've moved to Miami. Well, I went from Arizona to Miami to Fort Waterdale to Arizona, and then now I just moved to a different place in Arizona. So I've moved four times in the past two years, two and a half years. That might seem like a lot to people, but what I have found is that it is impossible to not

completely change your life when you move. And the thing about moving is that your brain actually creates associations with your environment, right? So that's why, and there's so many cool ways to use this information. But this is why, you know, for example, you go to a coffee shop or you go to a library, and it's way easier to focus at a coffee shop or a library because your brain has an association with the library for work, an association of work and focus with these environments, right? Now, if you go to, if I'm going to like, if you're, I don't even go to the club,

but if you're going to the club, it's going to be really hard to lock in and focus there, from me because my brain doesn't have an association of work with, you know, a bar. So your brain creates associations with your environment, right? And when you move, when you move to a new home, a new apartment, a new state, a new country, your brain has no prior associations with this environment. And so you are starting with a complete blank slate. It is so easy to start completely new. Your brain has no rules yet, right? Your brain hasn't learned any rules. And it's a It hasn't learned who you are in this new environment. It doesn't know who you are yet. And so it's why it's so easy to create new beliefs, build a new mindset, build a new identity, build new habits

in new environments. This is why rehabilitation facilities for people who are struggling with drug addiction, this is why they are so helpful, right? Going off to a new environment where their brain doesn't have this prior association with their old habits, right? And so there are so many different ways to use this. That is just one of them. And then when I think of people, I'm the type of person that if you know me personally in my life, you know that I do not struggle at all with removing people. With cutting people off, I always say I'm very swift with the scissors. And that's because I care a lot about, one, my energy to my mental health and my brain. The people that you surround yourself with, your brain sinks up with them, right? And so now,

I have this thing where I tell people, you know, like, you don't have to completely cut people out of your life, out of your life, but you can love them from afar. And so that's something that I end up sharing with a lot of my students in Minecraft and I've had to do in my own life. Like, it is okay to remove yourself or create some distance and have boundaries. I always say like, boundaries are sexy too. It's okay to put boundaries and create distance if that is what's needed and it is okay to love people from afar. It doesn't mean that you have to completely cut people out of your life, right? But being super aware and like something that I always said and something that I would say to like my best friend when I first started the PhD and she would ask me certain things,

like the piece of advice that I would give her is pay attention to how you feel after you have interactions with people. When you go to hang out with somebody or when you have lunch or you have a conversation with someone and you walk away, pay attention, and tune into how you feel. How do you feel mentally? How do you feel emotionally, physically, and energetically? How do you feel? And that is going to be one of the greatest signs for you in how this person is impacting your nervous system. And it's super important to think about that because it might feel all fine and dandy and seem fine from the outside, but, you know, your nervous system doesn't lie. And it will be very obvious how this person is impacting you. And I remember my best friend calling me up and being like, you were right.

Like, I walk away from this person and I always just feel so drained. I thought they were a good friend, but I've started to realize. And then over time, you know, if you don't listen to the small signs, the big signs will come and smack you in the face. So, so yeah, that's just one of my tips for kind of getting a gauge on how people are affecting you and whether or not you should keep them close to you. And, you know, obviously there are times when, you know, somebody, your friend's going to be sad and maybe you don't walk away from that conversation feeling great. And so it's on average, right? It's not just like a one-time thing. And, you know, I always like to use the game of life analogy. I always think of life as a game. Like life is a game. We are here to play the game of being

human in this life. And when you are playing a game, you move through levels, right? And sometimes characters move through levels with you. And sometimes those characters are meant to stay on the level that you met them at. You can't force a character to level up with you if they're not meant to level up with you at that time or in that place with you, you have to give them their own freedom, the same freedom that you have. And so I have gone through that in my life of, you know, I'm upset. I love leveling up. I love learning new things and making my brain better and making my life better. I love growing and leveling up. And when I first kind of discovered all of this information and I first was really leveling up in my life, I really wanted to take

the people around me with me. Like I wanted my friends and I wanted certain people in my life to, you know, know this and do this and level up with me. And the truth is that you cannot make anybody level up if it's not their time to level up. Some people aren't meant to. And in a video game when you are playing, some characters are meant to stay at the level that they're at. And I say this because if you try to hold on to them, and you try to stay best friends with them, you will keep yourself on that old level. Because your environment,

and this is one of the key takeaways that I want you to remember from the secret, your environment anchors your brain. It's an anchor for your brain. So the content you consume, the habits you have, the people around you, it all serves as an anchor for your brain and for your mind, for your energy.

It's really simple when you think about this from a video game perspective, right? Like if it's time for you to level up in a video game and you're trying to hang on to the house that you're living in on the old level, you're trying to hang on to the characters that you played the old level at. You're trying to hang on to the habits or the thoughts or the beliefs that that you had at the old level. You're going to stay at the old level. And so you have to be willing to let go in order to level up. You've got to be willing to lose it all to level up. doing it with trust and surrendering in the knowing that if the people, if the places, if the things are meant to be in your life, they will level up at some point. And I have, I've gone through times when, you know, one of my best friends, she, you know, wasn't really on the same page as me. I didn't ever call her out for it or judge her or criticize her for it.

I just took a little bit, I just took a little bit of a step back. And, you know, I was like, you know, we're on different pages right now. That's okay. I'm on a different level in this game than her, and that's okay. She's navigating this other level in her own time. And now she's back, and she's leveled up. And for a second, she was leveling, she's on a different level than me. She's leveling up. And then she was motivating me to go even harder. So we all move at our own pace in this life. And so just recognizing and giving people the grace to do that, but also allowing yourself to do that and not needing to hang on to certain things because they will block your blessings. People, places, things, things.

habits, beliefs that are not aligned with where you're trying to go will block your blessings. Let's move on to secret number two, which is that your identity is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your identity determines your reality and your identity determines your destiny. When you think of a hero in a movie and you think of them achieving success, there's always the heroes two journeys. There's a journey to external success, an external achievement. They're on this journey to achieving this goal, but then there's also the inner journey. And there's this inner journey that you watch the character go on and you watch them develop into the character that achieves that end goal. And so it's not all about the physical goal or the physical success, that material

achievement, it's about who they became along the way. Life is like that. You achieving your goals is like that. And you achieving the success that you desire is like that. I always say this. The goals that you have were planted within you for a reason because you were meant to fulfill them, because you are meant to become the version of you that achieves them. Right. So the goals that you have are planted within you so that you will grow and evolve and do the things necessary to achieve that goal. And so it's not all about achieving the material goal. And this is why I always say, it's not bad to want to make more money. It's not bad to want to have more social media followers. It's not bad to want to be an author or a business person or whatever, a famous music artist,

whatever your dreams are, a vet, a doctor. It's not bad to want to be any of the material things. it's not bad because those material goals and those material kind of dreams that we have, they are the ones that motivate us to grow into a better version of ourselves. And I know personally for me, every single time I have a new goal, that is an immediate light bulb moment to look inward and say, how can I become the version of myself who achieves this goal? And that is the entire point of this secret. It's the entire point of why I'm sharing with you this secret that your identity is a self-fulfilling

prophecy. It is your destiny and it creates your reality because you can try all day long to achieve whatever it is that you're wanting to achieve. But as long as you are still the same old version of you, you will never feel the way that you want to feel and you will never have what you want to have and feel that level of fulfillment that you're really after. Because you don't really want the things that you want. You want the feeling that you believe the thing that you want is going to bring you. What we're really after is the feeling. What we're really after is who that goal is going to make us become. For example, if you want to be a millionaire, you don't want to be a millionaire for just being a millionaire. You want to be a millionaire for who that's going to make you. You want to, if you want to meet your soulmate, you don't just want to meet your soulmate to have a partner. You want to meet your soulmate because of how that's going to make you feel. because of who that's going to make you, because how you're going to feel about yourself when you do that. So the trick here is to identify who that person is, how that person feels, how they act, how they move through life, what are their beliefs, what is their mindset, and then work on becoming that.

And then everything that you want becomes inevitable. Now, of course, I'll share with you a little bit of the neuroscience behind this, because I'm sure you've heard before, I need to embody the version of me who already has it all. I need to be it before I can see it. I'm sure you've heard that before. But when I think about this sort of science-backed secret to success, I think of the default mode network is super important for writing your story and coming up with your sense of identity and who you are or who you think that you are. The default mode network is really important for writing that story, writing the story of who you think that you are. It's also really important and it's very appropriately named. And it's very appropriately named. And the default mode network because it's really important and responsible for your default mode of behavior the way that you think, feel, act, and believe when you're not really trying to do anything. It's the sort of mind-wandering network. It's been linked to that as well. For all intensive purposes, the default mode network is really important for your sense of identity and it's also really important for your default mode of behavior. And so your identity and your default mode of behavior,

are really held within this network. Why is this important? This is important because your brain is always going to work to keep you consistent with who you think you are. It's going to try to keep your behaviors, your thoughts, your habits, your beliefs. It's going to try to keep everything very consistent with your sense of identity and who you think you are. This is why I said when you shift how you think, how you feel, how you act, how you believe, how you shift your identity. You shift your identity, you shift who you think you are, when you shift that, your success becomes inevitable, because when you shift that, when you shift your identity, you shift your default mode. And when you shift your default mode, you completely change your entire life. Because your life is just a culmination

of all of your habits and what you're doing all the time. I use this to start writing my book. When I first began writing my book, I wasn't really beginning. I was actually just procrastinating. I was like, why is it so hard for me to sit down and write this book? And then I took my own advice. and I was like, okay, I need to just identify as the version of me who is an author. I need to identify as an author. Period. It's that simple. I need to identify as an author.

I am an author. Okay, now that I've decided that I'm an author, now my brain's like, okay, we need to keep you consistent with that new identity. Let's sit down and write. It was really that simple. And now there's simple things like that that you can do. Like, for example, I was on the phone with somebody that I work with and he was going into a business meeting and I was talking to him about this.

And I was like, well, what type of meeting is this? And he was like, something with investors. I was like, okay, well, then I want you to walk in there and know that you are the most bad-ass business investor man that has ever walked this earth. That's your identity as you walk in. And he was like, hell yeah, I'm going to walk in as that. And so you can use it for simple situations like that.

You can use it to identify as really so many different things. I've read in a book once that, you know, there was someone who was trying to become a drummer. And he really wanted to become a drummer and he decided to identify as a drummer. And that helped him actually start practicing drumming every single day. And so there are simple examples like that. But then there are also the bigger dreams. Like for me, for example, within Minecraft and within my business, I really wanted to scale

the business. I wanted to grow it. And I had this certain number of how many students I wanted to join in a month. And I had this dream was born. and I was like, okay, how am I going to do this? I was on the phone with my manager, and I was talking to him, and I was like, I think I can actually grow Bindcraft, and I can have this many students, and I can coach this many students. And I remember telling him that and just kind of being a little bit, feeling expanded and being

like, whoa, like, can I really do that? Can I really coach this many students? And I decided, yeah, I can. What do I need to do to achieve that goal, to achieve this new level of impact, right? because I shared with you guys in the very beginning. One of my metrics for success is impact and growth. And so I was like, how am I going to do this? And so I sat down and I said, who is the version of me that has this many students in

her program? Like, who is this version of me that is coaching and helping transform this many students' lives? And I said, okay, well, she is definitely really happy. She is, I said, what is the mindset like, right? What is her energy like? What is she doing? What does she act like? And I was like, well, she's getting up every day.

and she is priming her brain and she is starting her day right, priming her mind right, right? And she is really happy. She's dancing all around. Whenever I do my identity shifting visualizations and I visualize who that version of me is that has it all, I'm big on visualization. I'm really, really big on identity shifting visualization and visualizing who that version of me is that has whatever it is that I want. And I've found that that is so much more helpful for me than just,

visualizing having the thing, but visualizing having the thing and seeing who that version of me is and then embodying that. And so I was like, she is, she's dancing around. She's listening to high vibe music. She is, I think it was actually Chris and Teeb that I was listening to, which they're a great artist, highly recommend check them out. But yeah, so I was listening to that. I was like, she believes in herself. She's super confident. She knows that she is limitless and that she can help people and she's confident in her abilities. And I just went on all this list of like, who is this version of me that does this, that achieves this goal that I have? And then I simply just stepped into that. I just decided this is how I'm going to act. And within 48 hours, I had the amount of

students that I had set the goal to have within 48 hours. I think it was actually less than that. And it was like a little over 24 hours. So that for me was the moment when I realized, whoa, this identity shifting thing is real. And it really works. And of course, yes, the default mode network and the different areas of your brain and all of that, it really does help you act in a different way. And that is mirrored in people's brains also. Remember, remember the first secret.

And so how you act, how you feel, how you believe, how you move. people register that. Whether they consciously are aware of it or not, it's mirrored in their brain via mirror neurons. It is really difficult to outperform an identity that you currently hold. It's really difficult to outperform your current identity. So as long as you say, and this is why I always say, be so careful of the labels that you identify with. Be so careful. The labels that you choose to identify yourself with are instructions to your brain. Instructions on how to act, how to think, how to feel, how to move. You would be surprised sitting down and thinking of the different things that you think about yourself. Like, for example, like, oh, like, I'm always the late or I always

do this. Like, what are the stories that you tell yourself? Those stories are instructions. I think my tips, I mean, this has been very informational secret number two, But I would say the first step is always clarity. So becoming aware of what are the labels, what are the stories, how do you see yourself? And then becoming clear, right? And like, what are your goals? What do you want? What is it that you want?

And who is that version of you that has it? And this tip, this secret is so important. It's how I got into the PhD program in the first place. I would not be where I am today without this. Like getting super clear and really reprogramming my brain to be the version of myself that has the thing that I want. And that includes your beliefs, right? And you do get to choose your beliefs.

A lot of people don't realize that. Like, yes, yes, your beliefs are formed by your memories and your past experiences and all that. But if it's not helping you move into the future and step into a new version of you, you can choose new ones. And it might feel like a lie at first, but something I said actually recently on a Minecraft call was a lot of your beliefs are lies anyway because a lot of your thoughts aren't actually even objectively true.

And they might even just be subjective stories or experiences. And a lot of them, you know, there are people out there that have the opposite experience. And I always say, if you have a belief that you're trying to change, just look for evidence of the opposite. Look out into the world. look for evidence of the opposite, because if there is somebody out there experiencing the opposite, then your belief is simply just the belief and not a fact, and that means you can change it.

Ooh, I didn't even realize that I had bridged myself into secret number three so perfectly. But secret number three is that you must rewire your three core beliefs. The Success Mindset Trilogy. All success is built on three neurological beliefs. success. These three beliefs are the foundation for everything that you are going to do for the rest of your life. And if you have these three things, you will be unstoppable. And I'm going to tell you what they are. And then we'll break them down, of course. So the first is belief in yourself. Science shows that belief in yourself is a bigger predictor of success than intelligence than talent. Like belief in yourself

will take you very far. It builds resilience. It'll keep you going when times get hard. It also boosts performance, like simply believing in yourself. It will help you be more bold in your ability to set and achieve your goals. Because if you don't believe in yourself, believe in yourself, you are never going to set any sort of big delusional goal. So number two is belief in your worthiness. You can believe that you will, you have the ability to achieve something all day long. But if you don't believe that you're worthy of it, your brain will subconsciously sabotage you from getting it. Or if you do get it, you'll feel guilty. for getting it or having it, which takes all the enjoyment out of it and kind of ruins the whole point.

And number three is belief in the possibility. So belief in yourself, belief in your worthiness, and belief in the possibility. You need to believe that it's possible. If you don't believe in it's possible, then everything else kind of just goes out the window because you're not even going to go for it. There will be no dopamine release in your brain, nothing to motivate you to go for it because you don't believe that it's possible to even get it or achieve it. So why would your brain even want to help you do that?

So let's talk about belief in yourself. So belief in yourself rewires through repetition and through evidence and also through knowing. Now, I have a sort of hot take when it comes to competence and belief in yourself that you don't necessarily have to have achievements. You don't have to have all of these wins stacked up in order to be confident and believe in yourself. you simply just need to know who you are. True confidence and belief in yourself comes from knowing who you are. Knowing that you are divine life force energy in a human body, therefore you are capable of way more than you could ever imagine.

My belief in myself back in my beginning of my journey really started to build when I recognized my own divine nature. When I recognize that I'm not a human, not, I'm not at this, body or this brain. I'm divine life force energy in a human body and I will go on beyond this earthly human life. And that knowing alone will make you extremely confident. And then there are of course some other ways to do it, right? So that's kind of my fun one. And then the one that you can rewire through repetition is of course affirmations, positive self-talk and really being super intentional about rewiring your self-concept. And I've done this through sleep hypnosis tracks.

I've done this through hypnosis sessions. I've done this through affirmations. Do not sleep on the power of an affirmation track. I used to kind of look at them and judge them a little bit. Old version of me was like, that's so woo-woo. I would never do that. I don't get why people are doing that. But now I understand that, no, actually they are extremely powerful. And they do rewire your brain because what you repeat gets stronger, right? So every time you activate a pathway in your brain, that pathway gets stronger. That's Hebs Law, neurons that fire together, wire together. If you don't have good self-talk, if you don't talk to yourself like your best friend and biggest cheerleader, I would start. And if it's not natural at first, that's fine, but affirmations are like practice. You

wouldn't expect to get good at a sport if you never practiced. And so why are you expecting to be competent and believe in yourself and talk to yourself kindly and supportively if you don't practice. You need a practice and affirmations help you practice. You can listen to tracks. You can write them down. You can write them on your mirror. You can say them out loud. Whatever floats your boat, whatever works for you. I had this one student actually who really struggled to kind of like get into it with affirmations and they didn't really spark that dopamine. They weren't activating because they've been shown to activate the reward centers in the brain and boost dopamine. Of course, strengthen pathways in your brain to help you think differently, feel differently,

think differently about life, about yourself, about whatever it is that you want. But I actually have my own tracks on Spotify, Apple Music, wherever you listen to tracks. And they're actually fire, just to give myself a quick shout out. But actually, my student, he really struggled. And then I said, well, combine them with something fun, something that gets you into that flow. And he actually fixed up an old jet ski and started jet skiing around while listening to Affirmation Tracks. and he said it completely changed the game for him, changed his life. So that's just a fun tip.

If you struggle to listen to affirmations, you don't feel like they help you feel better about yourself or you struggle to believe the tracks or believe the words that you're hearing, try combining them with something that helps you feel like you're having more fun, feel more positive. It'll really be a game changer for you. All right.

And so repetition is huge. Watch yourself talk. Practice your affirmations. make sure you are scripting and being very clear on who it is that you want to be and who you are, just who you're deciding to be. And then the other part of this is evidence. Evidence is so important. All right. So I'm going to say, I've been sitting here, I'm telling you, like, you don't really need to have evidence. You don't need to have all these accomplishments, all these wins, all these reasons to feel confident, but it helps. It helps.

I actually had a student in Minecraft who printed out her resume and she would look at her resume every morning when she got up in the morning because it helps her feel like a boss-ass woman. And why wouldn't you do that if it helps to remind you of everything that you are capable of, everything that you've already done? And so I actually have this practice called confidence work where I sit down and I write down all of the things that I have ever accomplished in my entire life, like all the reasons that I have to be confident. Right. And because this is also important and it helps you with the identity shifting piece because if you think about it, the version of you who achieves all the things that you want, that version of you is probably

more confident and probably believes in themselves a little bit more. And I have found that every time I want to level up in life, I need to get down and do some confidence work. So I sit down and I write out a list of all of the reasons I have to be confident, all the things that I've ever accomplished, everything that I've ever done to be confident, to feel more accomplished, right? And taking the time to write down that list, it just serves as a reminder to your brain like, oh, right. Like, I've accomplished so many things. I'm capable of so much. I can do so much more. And so that's a helpful piece. And then the other piece that I've found that's really helpful for this is to think about what are some things that I can do moving forward to help me feel more confident, to help me

believe in myself even more. And for me, like working out, going to the gym is a huge confidence booster for me. That's just one example. So sit down and think to yourself, what are some things that I can do to help me myself, believe in myself more. And then last piece of this is to keep track of your small wins, keep track of the growth, keep track of all the things that you are doing throughout your day. It is so easy to allow the little things, the little accomplishments, the little successes, to allow them to go unnoticed. It's so easy, especially with ourselves, right?

We look at our friends and we look at the people we love and they are achieving all these things and we're hyping them up and we're congratulating them, but how often do we do that for ourselves? And so I highly recommend once a week, if not daily, sit down and get in your notes app and your phone and write out. Like, what did I do today? That was good. What are my three wins?

What is my win of the day or my three wins of the day? And it doesn't have to be some big, huge accomplishment. It can be something small like I made it to the gym or I hit my nutrition goals for the day. I had all my, I took my, I had all my greens or whatever it is, Really, whatever it is, it can be so simple. And for me, you know, I've written, I've had days where I've felt like shit and I've felt like I just didn't do anything and I felt so unproductive.

And then I sit down and I write my three wins of the day and I'm like, oh, I took my dog for a walk today and it was such a beautiful moment of connection. And that helped me feel, oh yeah, like today was a good day. Oh, yeah, I did do something positive for myself. And so it's super important to do that. Now let's talk about belief in worthiness, belief in your worthiness. For this piece, I really need you to ask yourself, if not me, then who? If not me, then who?

Because if you don't go after it, somebody else will. If you don't achieve it, somebody else will. If you don't make the money, somebody else will. You really are worthy of all that you desire. You are worthy of all of the different things that you want. You are worthy. You are worthy of it, and it goes back to knowing who you are, and knowing that you are innately worthy. Like, just because of who and what you are, because you are that divine life force energy in a human body.

You are innately worthy of having the things that you want. And that, again, comes also from self-love. And if you don't feel worthy of achieving what you want or having what you want, or having what you want, then I need you to one, rewire your brain and write out, we'll talk about this more in future episodes, but sit down and write out all of the reasons why you are worthy. Like, I am worthy because I am X, Y, Z. When I was deciding that I wanted to level up in my business on social media, I realized that I didn't have this super strong sense of worthiness, that I was worthy of achieving what I wanted, that I was worthy of

receiving what I wanted, and I almost felt like guilty, like, who am I to ask for these things? And then I had to take a moment like, oh, you know what? No, I deserve to be compensated for the work that I do. I deserve to thrive. I deserve, and literally just affirming that to myself and wiring that into my brain. No, I deserve to achieve my goals. and I deserve to be compensated. I deserve to be rewarded for the work that I am doing. I deserve to have the love that I desire, right? Like, I deserve that. So that's that second piece. And then number three, belief in the possibility. We're going to keep this one super short and sweet. Belief in the possibility is really all about recognizing that you have no idea what is possible

and what is not possible for you in this life. You have no idea. And, In fact, what is possible and what is not possible is not up to you. All that's up to you is simply to strive for what you want. You don't get to decide what's possible in this universe. You don't get to decide that. And what I've found in my own life experience is that actually a lot more is possible than you will ever realize. I've set goals for myself.

I remember in the beginning of this year, I set a goal for myself and I completely blew it out of the water just a few months into the year. And so I want you to recognize that the possibilities are unimaginable for you when you are moving and working in alignment with who you are, with what you desire, with your true success, right? Like your true and real metrics of success. When you are working in alignment with that, with your authentic self, and you have the belief in yourself, and you have that belief in your worthiness, the possibilities are unimaginable. there are an infinite different, like, I am living a life beyond what I ever could have just

dreamt up and chosen for myself. And so I would never have just written down this goal as being possible for me. You know what I mean? Like, I, whenever I was affirming my growth for social media years ago, like two years ago, I was not writing down, I have a million followers on Instagram. I was actually terrified of that and I didn't even know that was possible. So what is possible and not possible is simply just not up to you. So stop telling yourself, oh, I want this, but I don't think that's possible. Oh, no, no, because actually you don't get to decide that. You don't get to decide what is possible and what is not possible for you. All that you get to decide is what you want and then to go after that and then let life show you how good it can get.

And so these are my three science-backed secrets to success. I hope you enjoyed them. I hope one of them, if not all of them, resonated with you. And I cannot wait. to hear and see how you use these to level up your life. And remember, when you have a goal or a dream, it is not an if it will happen. It is a when it will happen. Okay? I always say that. It's not an if. It's a when. Okay? I'll see you guys next time. I'm sending you all so much love. Until next time. Bye.