Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee - BITESIZE | 3 Steps to Unlock Your Full Potential and Become Limitless | Jim Kwik #437

Episode Date: March 22, 2024

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life, unable to break free from limiting beliefs and habits?  Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests.   Today’s clip is from episode 380 of the podcast with globally renowned brain coach Jim Kwik. In this clip Jim explains how the 3Ms of Mindset, Motivation and Method can keep you stuck in limiting beliefs but also liberate you from them. Thanks to our sponsor https://www.drinkag1.com/livemore Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com. Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/380 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk   DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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have. They want to have a perfect body. They want to have, you know, lots of money or whatever, right. Or even when people win the lottery, right? And you know all the stats when people have and what happens over the next X amount of years, they lose all that and more, right? Those jackpot winners because they jumped to the, maybe do have, they jumped to the have point,

but they were never being a millionaire. So they weren't doing the things that wealthy people would do to have the things that they would have, right? So I think all behavior is belief-driven. People at these events, they'll come to me and like, Jim, I'm so glad you're here. I know you're a memory coach.

I have a horrible memory or our senior moments are coming too early or I'm just not smart enough, right? And then I'll say, stop. If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them. If you fight for your limits,'re yours right and um and so i really feel like you know everything starts at that being level i i think the nature of what we do you and i and others it's about transcending it's about ending the trance this mass hypnosis

whether it's through marketing or media or from our parents or from wherever those thoughts kind of came from, you know, and those impressions, those expectations that somehow told us we were broken, that we're not enough. Some of that hypnosis is not just coming from marketing or media or fear-based thing. It's coming from ourselves. It's like internal, you know, belief and internal doubt and even our internal self-talk. belief and internal doubt and even our internal self-talk. Our brains are like this incredible supercomputer and our self-talk and our beliefs are the programs

it will run. If people truly understood how powerful their minds are, they probably wouldn't say or think something they didn't want to be true. And that's not to say you have one negative thought and it ruins your life any more than eating just some of that candy or that donut will ruin your life. But if you did it consistently every single day, multiple times a

day, it will, it will show up in your life. And so for me, you know, when we're thinking about planning our day, it's not so much about time management. I'm thinking about more mind management. I'm trying to think about priority management. For me, it's about controlling the controllables, right? And it's about the most important thing is to keep the most important things, the most important things. And for me, the most important thing, three things are the three things that we control.

And we could turn this into a masterclass. So Limitless, which is the title of my book, it's not about being perfect. Limitless is about advancing and progressing beyond what you currently believe is possible for yourself or what you're demonstrating for yourself. Think about an area of your life where you feel stuck. Okay, I'm talking to the listeners right now. Take a moment. Is it your health? Are you not advancing in your health, your impact, your income, your wealth, your level of happiness? Where do you feel like you're not growing and you kind of feel stagnant and stuck? Where do you feel like you're trapped in a box? Now, by definition, that cube is three-dimensional, right? And so there's three forces that contain

that box. And these are the same three forces that will liberate you out of that box. that contain that box. And these are the same three forces that will liberate you out of that box. So when I'm coaching a client, what I'm listening for as I'm going through like this intake and this discovery is where, which dimension is keeping them stuck? Where's the bottleneck? So if you think about a Venn diagram, like three intersecting circles, like maybe Mickey Mouse, two ears that are intersecting and a face. These are the three forces, the dimensions, if you will, that keep you stuck and will make you limitless.

They're three Ms. Those are the methods. So you've mentioned that as a medical professional, doing the work that you do, people know what to do, but they don't do what they know, right? Because common sense is not common practice. How many times do we need to hear about the benefits of cold therapy, you know, saunas, you know, breathing, you know,

meditation, you know, reading and exercising and, you know, zone two, like we hear the same things. So those are the methods. And the methods can be upgraded over time as we learn more and more, and research is done and we get that feedback. But a lot of people want to know what to do, but they don't do what they know because you're right. Knowledge is not power. It's potential power. It becomes power when we apply it.

What's keeping people from doing what they should do consistently? Because that's the only evidence that people are committed is that they consistently act. So the first circle, the first M is your mindset. Mindset for me, functionally, how I'm looking at it, I've defined mindset as a set of assumptions and attitudes you have about something. What's your assumptions and attitudes about money? What are your assumptions and attitudes about health? What's your attitudes, assumptions about love or relationships? So I'm just always thinking about mindset. And the three things I would think about mindset for everybody is not just your attitudes and assumptions about money.

Because if your attitudes and assumptions about money is money is the root of all evil or you don't get rich if you're hurting people, whatever, you won't use the methods. That keeps people inconsistent. Because that's why people self-sabotage is because of mindset. They take one step forward and two steps back. They buy one of your five best-selling books, right? And it just sits on their shelf unread and become shelf help, not self-help, right? Because their mindset is, it's just like, oh, the mindset is, oh, if I have the book, then my life is better. And that's absolutely not true, right? And even if you read the book and then apply it, your life is

no better than somebody who's illiterate, right? So the mindset's a little bit different. I would also say that in this mindset, it's not just your set of assumptions about health and relationships and love that will keep you from doing the methods. They're your attitude assumptions about yourself. So there are three things that I would focus on in mindset. Number one, what I believe is possible. Because if you don't believe it's possible, you're not going to do it, right? And that's the other second thing is what I believe I'm capable of. Because you could believe it's possible for someone else to heal or someone else to have a great relationship or someone else to be happy, but you might not believe it's possible

for yourself, right? So what I believe is possible, what I believe I'm capable of. And then the third one, what I believe I deserve, right? Because that's kind of a thermoset setting that if you feel like we don't deserve that income or deserve that relationship or deserve that level of intelligence, that impact, whatever, then we're always going to be mitigated in that box because that dimension is holding strong. So that's mindset. And the last part of it, the third dimension that starts with M is motivation. So you're only going to be stuck in that box if you have the right methods to get out of that box, if you have the right mindset that allows that box to expand, and if you have the motivation to even get out of that box, right?

To be able to practice and play at the edge of what you perceive are your limits. And I believe that motivation is a very straightforward thing for me. And I believe that motivation is a very straightforward thing for me. In order to motivate yourself or to motivate someone else, your kids, your team, or someone to buy your product or someone to invest, there are three factors. The formula is three parts to get limitless motivation is just P, the letter P times E times S3. P times E times S3. So really, let's just use an example. Let's say, you know, you listen to one of our podcasts and you hear all these experts talk about exercising, and it's good for your brain, right?

As your body moves, your brain grooves. You get brain-derived neurotropic factors, but you're not exercising. You're not moving daily, right? Because the first part is P, is purpose. A lot of people, they think purpose is something cognitive, I'm pointing to my head, but really I think it's more the heart. It's a feeling. It's something that you feel. You feel purpose. And if you don't have a reason, you won't get the result. Even when people forget people's names, right? So if I ask an audience of a thousand people,

I say, who has trouble remembering names? 95%, 99% of people raise their hand, right? If they're honest. And then I said, okay, what if we gave you a suitcase full of millions of wealth, right? Currency. If you just remember the name of the next stranger you meet outside,

who's going to remember that name now? And then those same people raise their hand, right? And then so as a coach, I'm saying, okay, how did you all become memory experts all of a sudden, right? You just said you couldn't do this and now you can do this. So I'm calling you on your BS,

your belief systems, right? It's not true that you can't remember. So I'm calling you on your BS, your belief systems, right? It's not true that you can't remember names. You're just not motivated, right? Because we don't remember all names, but we don't forget all names either, right? So that's the power of purpose. Are people trying to jump the gun? Are they trying to get to just, Jim, give me the method, give me the hack, tell me how to learn. But you're like, no, no, back up a minute. Let's go upstream. What's your reason? Without the reason, forget it. And that's the thing because I truly, and I get goosebumps. You zoom in here and there's goosebumps because I get so passionate about this. I don't know who I'm talking to right now, but I expect that you listening to this right now,

you probably have forgotten more about health and personal growth and self-actualization and anything that you've heard on this podcast more than most people will learn, more than most of your family and friends have learned. You're like, your friends are probably asking you, why are you listening to another podcast, watching another YouTube, right?

And it's hard to change people. Like just think about how hard it is to change ourselves, right? And I would say also, how much are you putting that into play? Because common sense is not common practice, right? My book Limitless, when I was first submitting it to my publisher, it was all methodology. And then before I hit send on, you know, in the email, I was like, will 100% of the people who read this book get the results they're hoping for? And I was like, there's just no way. Because a lot of people know what to do, but they don't do what they know. So what's missing?

Mindset. Mindset. And motivation. Yeah. So the things to do is always there, right? But do you have the mentality to do it and do you have the motivation? So the first thing is purpose. And I'll give you a hard illustration that I had recently. I was going out and about and I saw someone,

I thought I recognized. You ever see that? You're like, do I know that person? They call me by name. I was like, oh, that's the person. But I didn't recognize them. It's not that I don't have a great memory. They look totally different. Because the backstory is this person was very, very unhealthy when I knew this person. I mean, extremely unhealthy or very overweight and lethargic. And the friends, we were just, he's not a close friend, but we would just kind of coach him. Just like, why don't you stop smoking that and doing this and drinking that and trying this, you know?

And he would take pride in being unhealthy, right? And I see him years later and I don't even recognize him. He looks younger and he younger, and he's fit, and he's got this kind of glow. And I was like, I need to know, because Genius Leaps Coo is like, what happened? He starts telling me all the things he's doing. And I'm like, well, yeah, we've been telling you

about that for years. He was like, yeah, but he's like, a little while ago, I was off on a business trip, killing myself. I came back, and my daughter was crying hysterically and had a nightmare that I had died. And she was like, she was broken and she was just like clinging on him.

And that was purpose for him. Because of that, he had a reason and he got a result. So I'm just saying the P times E times S3, you start with purpose. If you don't have purpose in reading that book, you're not going to remember what you read in that book. And most people just read a page in a book, get to the end and just forgot what they just read

because they didn't have purpose. The second thing though, is someone could have a limitless purpose to work out or to read or to start a business and still not do it. Because the E is you need energy. Somebody who is exhausted is not going to be very motivated to work out

or to study that day or to make those calls they need to make, right? And so if you had a big process, let's say we're going back to working out or reading, like you committed to reading 30 minutes a day and you're not doing it. If you had a big process meal, maybe that's why because you're in a food coma, right?

So the energy, you're saying, so you've got the purpose, you've got the desire, you've got the motivation, but because of maybe your lifestyle behaviors, you've got no energy to kind of act on that purpose. You have a purpose to drive somewhere, but you don't have the gas, the fuel to get you from here to there because you're in a food coma. Maybe you have a newborn child and you haven't slept in three, the fuel to get you from here to there because you're in a food coma, maybe you have a newborn child and you haven't slept in three days, you're not very motivated to go to the gym that day. So I would just say a lot of what you and I talk about in our books and podcasts is how to get energy, how to manage stress,

because stress depletes a lot of energy. How to create a positive peer group, because energy vampires can steal. I think some people are batteries included, they're born with it, but some people are batteries not included and they're just stealing everybody else's energy, right? Or foods, you're being allowed processed foods and high levels of sugars and not the best brain foods. You're not, or sleep. Can we talk about, you know, like sleep? So if you're not getting that, then you're not going to be, an exhausted person is not going to be motivated, right? And so exhaustion will make a coward out of anybody. You know, we're not going to be motivated, right? And so exhaustion will make a coward out of anybody. We're not

going to boldly go and do what we need to do. And then finally, you could have limitless purpose to do whatever you're trying to achieve to get out of that box, the money, the relationship, whatever. You could have unlimited amount of energy and still not be motivated because you need S3, small, simple steps. It's been my experience that sometimes when people set goals, I want to make the next unicorn. I want to find my romantic partner, live happily ever after, my soulmate. I want to make a million, whatever it is. I want to have the six pack. It's way too big for somebody who hasn't been close to that. And how do you break that down in a small, simple step? Meaning maybe working out, you haven't done it

and you've been on your to-do list and you're not doing it, that's too big. A small, simple step, put on your running shoes, right? If you can't get your kids to floss their teeth, get them to floss one tooth, right? Because little by little, nobody's gonna stop at one tooth. Maybe reading is too hard.

Opening up a book is not hard. Reading one line is not hard, right? So I think that how I get my small simple step is I ask myself this key question and I would invite everyone to write this down. What is the tiniest action that I could take right now that will give me progress towards this goal where I can't fail?

And so you get your small simple step because little by little, a little becomes a whole lot. So when I'm working and coaching somebody or I want to be able to get them to do something that's going to be empowering, I want to say, is this their mindset? Do they not believe it's possible? Do they not believe they're capable of doing it?

Do they believe they deserve it? And then you know where the intervention is, right? Or in motivation, do they not feel purpose? Do they know it intellectually, but they're not feeling the purpose? Do they not have enough energy, right? So they have to generate more energy. Maybe we have to check their stress or their sleep, you know, or their diet.

And maybe they're just confused because a confused mind won't do anything, right? And so maybe we have to break it down into small, clear, simple steps. And then finally, the last M are your methods. And then those are the methodologies, right? How to lose weight, right? How to be able to sleep better, whatever the method, how to invest and how to do something with AI,

whatever it happens to be. The reason I just put it last is if you don't have the mindset or the motivation, you're going to be stuck in that box. And so my message to anybody, if you're going to sum this up, is I think out of the past few years, people feel a lot of fear. And when people feel fear, they're looking for safety. Fear, they're not looking to grow because that's uncertain, right? And that could be unknown and that could be very threatening.

dreams to meet the current situation, maybe we should be thinking the opposite. Maybe instead of downgrading our dreams to meet this situation, maybe we should think about how do we upgrade our mindset? How do we upgrade our motivation? How do we upgrade our methods that we're using to be able to meet those incredible dreams? Hope you enjoyed that Bite Size clip. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. And I'll be back next week with my long-form conversational Wednesday and the latest episode of Bite Science next Friday.