BITESIZE | The Powerful Daily Habit to Break Unconscious Patterns & Create Lasting Change | Dr Joe Dispenza #599
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01:38Today's clip is from episode 549 of the podcast with best-selling author, speaker and researcher, Dr. Joe Dispenter.Dr. Joe has spent decades studying neuroscience, meditation, and a powerful impact our thoughts have on our health.and well-being. And in this clip, he shares how we can begin breaking free from the unconsciouspatterns that can keep us feeling stuck and why your morning routine could be the most importantplace to start. You mentioned earlier on what we practice we get good at. So for many people,the first thing they do in the morning is they practice stress.They get up, whether it's the news or emails or social media.They, in what I consider to be a very important time of the day,
02:39they allow the environment to start conditioning their mindand that conditions their body.So that's the way I see it.So how important to you is the first part of the daywhen someone has woken up,is that a critical part of the daywhere people have to be very intentionalor can they do some of the work
03:01that you promote later on?Or do you think first thing in the morningis a very important part of the day?I want to be really careful about this.I think there's two timesthe door to the subconscious mind opens up.Okay.When we wake up in the morning
03:16and we go to bed at nightand it's simple brain chemistryand simple physiology.We have a circadian rhythmAs soon as there's light, our body has been pretty much programmedthat we begin to release serotonin,different chemicals that kind of wake us up.So our brain waves go from delta to theta to alpha to beta.
03:36And you kind of slide up this wayand then you're back to conscious awareness,local and space and time.When you go to bed at night, you go from beta to alphato theta and you slide down.Now, if you're stressed, you can't stopthinking, you stay in beta and you're thinking actually is arousing the body because you're thinkingabout your problems, you can't slide down, right? So when we're in alpha, our analytical
04:05facilities are suppressed, we're in theta, we're in a hypnotic state. And the door betweenthe conscious mind and the subconscious mind is wide open. What separates the conscious mind fromthe subconscious mind is the analytical mind. So as you suppress analytical facilities,you can program anybody to do anything.So then what really happens for most peoplebefore they even reach for their cell phone,and by the way, the statistics are 86% of the people in the Western world.First thing they do is they reach for the cell phone
04:36and they connect to everything that's known.And why is that a problem?Well, I would never tell people how to think,but I would give them information to cause them to think.So the device is reminding them of things that are known.And every person, every object, everything, every place is mapped neurologically in our brainbecause we've experienced it.And then we have an emotion associated with our coworker, with our boss, with our ex,
05:04with our whoever.And so the moment we start responding, now we start feeling the same way.So now the environment is actually controlling,the person's feelings and thoughts.And anything that controls the way we feel and the way we think, we're victims to.So something's programming us to think and feel a certain way.There's nothing wrong with that.You should check your text and do whatever you need to do.
05:32But the first thing in the morning, if the door between the conscious mind and the subconsciousmind is open, why don't we program a new behavior?Why don't we rehearse a different way of being with our children, with our spouse, in ourZoom meetings, when we're alone, when we're in traffic, is there a better way to evolve ourexperience? So if you're truly in the game of evolution, you're truly in the game, like onelifetime one day, what am I working on today? Can I respond a different way to this person?Can I think this way instead of that way? Let me be conscious of my unconscious thoughts.Let me not be in a habit. Let me stay away from certain emotions. Let me practice feeling these
06:11emotions and see if I can maintain it. Now you're in the game. You're out of the bleachers.you're on the playing field.So it actually happens even before the cell phone.Because what most people do is they wake upand the first thing they do is the brainis a record of the past.They think of their problems.And those problems are just memories
06:28that are etched in the brainthat are connected to certain peopleand objects at certain times and places.The moment they think of their problemsare thinking in the past.Then when they think about their problemsand they feel unhappy, now their body's in the past.And if you believe that your thoughts
06:39have something to do with your destiny,wow.And then the emotion that's associated to itis now the body's in the pastbecause thoughts of the language of the brainand feelings are the language of the bodyand how we think and how we feelcreates our state of being.
06:51Now here's the problem.If you can't thinkgreater than how you feeland you believe that your thoughtshave something to do with your destinyand you understand that feelings and emotionsare a wrecker of the pastthen you're thinking in the past
07:05and your life will stay the same.Yeah.So I've always been a fan of morning routines personally.For me, I've discovered when I have some intentional time to myself in the morningand when I don't, I'm a different person.I show up differently.My productivity, the way I am with my wife or my kids is completely different.So I know mornings are very important for me.
07:29And I feel first in the morning I'm priming myself to be a certain way for that day.It's this idea that you spoke about last time, mental rehearsal.You know, we have no problem.thinking about athletes rehearsing how they're going to perform.We have no problem thinking that, of course, an actor,if they want to play a part a certain way,they're going to rehearse.They're going to keep rehearsing until they're able to do it.
07:55Yet, most of us don't really apply that on our own life.We don't think, yeah, I need to be rehearsingfor the person I want to be in my own life.The game of life.The game of life, the most important game.Yeah, the most important game.Well, 95% of who we are,as a set of memorized behaviors, automatic, emotional,
08:13responses, unconscious, have as hardwired attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions that are runningpretty much like a computer program. They're automatic, right? So you can think positively all you want.You can say, I'm healthy, I'm healthy, I'm wealthy, I'm wealthy, I'm free, I'm free, I'm worthy andworthy. And your body's saying, no, you're not, you're miserable, right? So it makes sense thatthere's got to be an unlearning process. And we've got to stay conscious of our unconscious thoughtsthat slip by our awareness unnoticed.We've got to watch how we speak.We've got to observe how we act.
08:47We got to pay attention to the way we're feelingand we have to become so consciousof those unconscious states of mind and bodythat we don't go unconscious in our waking daybecause how you think, how you actand how you feel is your personalityand your personality creates your personal reality.So if you're thinking the same way,
09:04you're acting the same way and you're feeling the same way,nothing's going to change in your life.Right.So then the unlearning process is,as valuable as the re-learning process.The breaking the habit of the old selfhas to happen before you reinvent a new self.You got to prune synaptic connections
09:22before you sprout new connections.You got to unfire and unwirebefore you refire and re-wire.You got to deprogram and then reprogram.So how do you unlearn?I get you can meditate.You can feel that elevated emotionwith a very, very high degree of emotional intensity.
09:39but how do you go about becoming consciousand unlearning those previous patterns?It's trial and error.You've got to go out into life and try it out, okay?I've changed my internal state.You could have a great meditation.You can connect, your heart could open.This happened to me.
09:55You could open your heart.You'd be amazing.You feel like the day is invincible.And you get up, and then the rest of your day,you're unconscious, the 15 hours of your day.So you're going to weigh one hour of being in a different state of beingagainst 15 hours of you being unhappyand rushing it in a program.
10:13So then how many times do we have to forgetuntil we stop forgetting and start remembering?That's called change.How many times do we have to go unconsciousto the point where we no longer go unconsciousand we stay conscious?That's the moment of change.Now, if you're truly out of the bleachers
10:33and you're on the playing field,and this happens to a lot of people in our work,They say, I had to start really watching myself in my life,how I was emotionally responding to my ex,how I was emotionally responding to my financial problems.I had to really, really pay attention that,and that takes an enormous amount of energyand an enormous amount of awareness
10:57to stop the program, right?So you forget and you go, damn, I went unconscious to that.Now, you didn't lose, you didn't fail, you just became conscious.Now, if you keep becoming so conscious of your unconscious states, you're outside the program.You're only in the program when you're unconscious.The moment you're conscious, you can objectify your subjective self.So you can see yourself through the eyes of someone else.So, okay, how am I in my waking day?
11:25The moment you begin to ask that question, you turn on the frontal lobe, and the frontal lobe is the seat of your conscience.Now, the moment you start looking at at the end of your day, how did I do?this is such an important question.How did I do today?Did I fall from grace?When did I lose it?And who did I lose it with?If I had another opportunity, how would I do it differently?
11:44The learning process comes from the mistake.The brain learns by mistakes and surprises.I've made enough of them in my life.It's just whether you're going to do it again.You want to do it again, you're back in the habit, back in the routine.Now, if you're just doing your meditation, just because you want to please God or do the right thingor feel good about yourself, that's going to get stale after.after a while because it's just gonna become
12:07another routine between your coffee and your showerand your emails and your drive to workand people aren't present, right?So the familiar past, conditioning is based on the past,that thought and the feeling, but habituation is the programmingto predictable future, that's the known.So if you teach a person how to find the present moment,that's where the unknown exists.
12:28And that takes a lot of energy and a lot of awarenessand yet if you practice it,the body literally will beginto respond to the mind. It's like training an animal. It finally relaxes. And when that occurs,your response to people and circumstances in your life will be different because you overcameyourself at the beginning of the day. So I'm an early morning guy just like you. I get up really early.Why? Because nobody bothers me. What time?4.30-ish somewhere around there. And then what do you do?
12:58I get in my think box.What's a think box? Okay, what am I doing today? But I'm not going to sit down and just jump into a meditation.And what thoughts before I go into this meditation, am I going to stay away from?Well, what circumstances, what things I can think about later that aren't that important?I mean, what emotions, what memories, am I going to stay away from?If I go there, I know what that's going to do.Why am I doing this meditation?What am I going to be doing?
13:20What am I going to be doing?Just like anybody who does anything really well, you get in your think box and youorganize what you're going to do.You're doing this in bed or you're having coffee first?I just get up, move around a little bit, you know, do a few things, maybe write some notes down.Because then I can assign meaning to the act.I can stay conscious when I'm in it.So you do all this before your meditation.
13:40Always.But then when I get in my play box, there's no thinking.I did all my thinking in my think box.You did all your thinking in your think box.Is that also when sometimes we wake upand there's these kind of thoughts that are just popping up,is you writing down a few things?As you processing them, a way of sort of quietening down the noise
13:58so that you can drop into meditation?So let's say I have 10 Zoom meetings in one day.I look at my calendar and I go,So, okay, none of that, I'm going to get to all of that.This is not my time to think about the known.I know all this stuff is going to work out.I know how the Zoom meetings are going to go.Okay, but let me just make sure when I'm in these certain Zoom meetings that I'm leading
14:18with my heart and I'm being the person that I want to be as an example for my team.I want to make sure I'm communicating really clearly.I'll make time for this.Okay, I get all that out of the way.That's all the known stuff.But when I come to execute now, what am I going to do to open my heart today?Like, what am I really going to do?When I do the breath to bring energy to my brain, what am I bringing?
14:38Like, where am I going to go to that?What do I want to experience?How do I do that?Let me just review that.Okay, then I'm going to open my focus.I'm going to go deep into nothing.I'm going to go as far as I can.And then when I get to that point, then I'm going to create.
14:50And when I create, this is what I'm going to create.So I'm not thinking when I'm there, what should I create.I've already got that all worked out.I'm rehearsing, I'm getting clear on what I'm going to do.I'm getting clear on what I'm not going to do.I'm going to clear on how my last meditation was.and how I want to evolve my next meditation.So then when I get to my playbox,
15:07I'm not analyzing and thinking because I'm analyzing and thinking.I can't do it, right?So I get that worked out.If it takes me half an hour, I allow for two hours for myself.If it takes me half an hour to get very clear.And sometimes there's disturbing things that I have to get throughbecause there's meetings and stuff like that.But I just go, that is all always going to work out.
15:25This is you, this is your time.It's interesting, Dr. Joe, that for many of us,for many people, meditation is almost like your pre-day ritual, right? So you meditate to prime yourselffor your day, how you're going to be. But when you talk about your morning routine, you have a pre-meditationritual, which I find really, really interesting. Because I want to get into it. I want to assignmeaning to what I'm doing. When you assign meaning to the act, you turn on your prefrontal cortex. And theprefrontal cortex says, quiet, everybody that's not involved in this intention, settle down.So the frontal lobe will actually lower the volumes of the circuits in the brain that are disturbance.
16:12So when you assign meaning to something, you get more value from it.So I just learn that if I just get in and just do my meditation, sometimes they're wonderfulbecause I've done it enough times.But if I just drop in, it just doesn't have any meaning.If it doesn't have any meaning, then it just becomes another routine.You're doing your meditation, but you're thinking about your coffee.You're drinking your coffee.You're already thinking about your emails.
16:34Your brain's an anticipation machine, and we lose our free will to that kind of programming.So after I, when I get my think box really clear, it's just like when I used to golf.I would just kind of look at where I was going to hit the ball.I was thinking about the club I was going to use, how I was going to swing, and how it was going to feel.I work it all out in my think box.When I get my play box, I've done all my thinking.Now I'm just going to execute, right?So we've found that when people do that,
17:03we do this in our week-long events.I'll always say to the audience, all right,after we come back from the break.So turn to someone now,and I want you to have a conversationabout what you love about yourself,that you did really well in that last meditation.What did you stick?
17:18What felt right for you?What did you execute really well?I want you to articulate thatand remind yourself,reproduce that same level of mind,install the neurological hardware by firing and wiringso you can step into that footprintand do that again in the next meditation.
17:34Then I say to them,now let's light a match in the dark place.If you had another opportunity to do another meditation,what would you bring?What would you work on improving?What would you become aware of that you don't want to dothat you did in that last meditation?Let's get really clear about what you're not going to do.
17:53And if you had another opportunity, what you would do.and somehow that kind ofshapes the brainfor the next experiencefor them to evolve their experiencebecause they're in the experiencenow they're like oh yeah I'm not going downthe I'm not getting off the exit of my job
18:09I'm not getting off the exit of my exI'm going to go straightI'm going to just keep so you can make those turnsin the beginning it's normalbut you start making those turnsand then all of a sudden you're realizingI'm not going to make those turnsand you drive right past the exit
18:21I drive right past them too oldI drive right past them too out of shapeI drive right past, I'm the night's season going to go away.There's something wrong with me.You just keep driving past those.The next thing, you know, you run into something big.So it's trial and error, you know?I mean, this is like, if I rehearse how I'm going to be mentally,
18:39I'm going to install the hardware in my brain.If I keep doing it, it's going to become a software program.I'm going to start acting that way.Okay, if I say I can't, it's too hard, I'm too tired, I don't feel good.Those are the things that stop me.Okay.But what if I just start saying anything is possible?I believe in synchronicities.
18:54What if I, with my intention and attention, just really get clear on that.Would that be the new voice in my head?So now, if you're truly in the game of change, then you would be rehearsing how youwere going to be in the next Zoom meeting if you were really off in the last one.The next time I have that opportunity, if I'm truly in the game of evolution, let's seeif I can stay in my heart and the whole time I'm not going to react.That would be a victory for me.That would be a victory.
19:20So at the end of your day, you go, I can actually kind of love myself.I actually got my behaviors to match my intentions.I got my actions equal to my thoughts.I had a new experience in it.It actually felt good.Hey, I'm going to do that again.And you start doing it with your children.You start doing it, opening the door for the person who's walking out of the office building.
19:39You start letting people go ahead of you in traffic.You're just cool.You're no longer in that vigilant state.Now, get enough people doing that.All of a sudden, you start noticing your wife a little bit differently.or Rangan's all of a sudden starting to smile a little bit more.He seems way more relaxed and chilled.People are going to start getting relaxed and chilled around you because mirror neurons in the
20:03tribes say, hey, there's somebody doing something that I'd like to do.I just need evidence to be able to do it.And all of a sudden, you start developing a community of people that start behavingdifferently.What's the significance of that?That's called emergence.An emergent consciousness is that everybody's behaving differently.And that is what's going to change the world, you know?
20:22You know, one of the core ideas I get from your work is that we all have a choice.We can practice the way that we want to feel so that we actually start feeling it every day.For someone who is watching this or listening and is intrigued, and they go, okay, I understand, I've got a choice.I can practice feeling an elevated emotion.They also hear you saying that this can take time if you spent 10 years in stress,it ain't going to happen overnight.And sometimes it does.But sometimes it can do.
20:57For that person who's watching now and listeningand says, hey,hey, Doc, I understand what you're saying.I get it.But I don't have time.My life is busy.I don't have time to meditate.What would you say to them?
21:14I would say you can learn and changein a state of pain and sufferingor you can learn and changein a state of joy and inspiration.I mean, if you don't have time now,make time when you can. But for the most part, I mean, I want to inspire people to not wait forthat crisis or that trauma or that disease or that loss to really change. I want them to beinspired to try it out. It's an experiment. The hardest part about all of this, Ronkin,
21:40is actually making the time to do. That's the hardest part about all of this. When we make timefor our precious selves, when we invest in ourselves, we invest in our future. And, and,order for us to believe in ourselves, we have to believe in possibility. And when we believe inpossibility, we believe in ourselves. So it doesn't even have to be a long amount of time. Do a littleexperiment and say, I'm not going to think these thoughts. I'll write them down. I'm not going toact this way or speak this way. And today I'm going to work on just staying conscious of thesefeelings. That's what I'm going to do. I'm just going to close my eyes for a few moments andremember that I'm not going to do these things. If that's the start,
22:22you just demystified meditation because meditation means to become familiar with.To become familiar with, that symbol is familiarization,to become so familiar with yourself that you can become familiar with a new selfand not default back to the old person.We all default.We all react.That's not the question.The question is, how long are you going to react?
22:46How long are you going to do that for?And so we have a choice.Try it out as an experiment.little time, just a little time.If you don't have the time,how people say, well, I don't know the time.You know, and I say, well, we'll get up earlier.And they say, well, I'm tired.
23:01I say, well, go to bed earlier.What am I going to say?You know, when do you want to do it?If you don't want to do it and you don't have the time, don't do it.If it inspires you to do it, I want you to do it.Only do it if you're inspired.Don't do it because you have to.And so the act of making time, you show up to do the work
23:18because you want to believe in your future more than you believe in yourand there's some people that do this workthat get up and believe less in their pastbecause they didn't overcome themselves.And then there's people who do it every dayand they get up and they believe more in their future every day.And the side effect of thatare all these wonderful changes
23:39that begin to happen in a person's life.And they say what everybody says,I knew it was the truth.I just had to prove it to myself.Hope you enjoyed that bite-side.clip, do spread the love by sharing this episode with your friends and family. And if you wantmore, why not go back and listen to the original full conversation with my guest? If youenjoyed this episode, I think you will really enjoy my bite-sized Friday email. It's called
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