Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee - How To Reconnect With Your Intuition & Learn To Trust Yourself Again with Dr Tara Swart #604

Episode Date: December 17, 2025

What is intuition? What happens when we die? And, how does trauma get stored in our bodies? These are just a few of the fascinating themes I explore in today’s episode with returning guest, Dr Tara Swart. Tara is a neuroscientist, a former medical doctor & psychiatrist, a lecturer at MIT, an executive coach and author of 2 books, including her very latest The Signs: The New Science of How to Trust Your Instincts.   In this episode, Tara shares her own personal story about love, loss, and learning to trust herself again, after the death of her husband, Robin. This life changing experience left her questioning her deepest beliefs as a scientist, when in the midst of her grief, she started noticing unusual signs that she felt - she was unable to ignore. At first, she was sceptical, but these moments gradually helped her reconnect with her intuition in ways she never expected.   In our conversation, we explore: What intuition really is and how to start accessing it again The gut-brain connection, and how emotions, trauma, and even grief can be stored (and released) in the body. The practical tools and techniques that helped Tara - and can help you - rediscover your own intuition, including journaling, creative practices and nature How to gently challenge your beliefs and open yourself to possibility (even if, like Tara, you’re sceptical at first). Reflections on what science can and can’t explain - and why sometimes, believing in something greater (be it love, the universe, or connection itself) can be a healing force. How to help your children (or yourself!) grow up with a stronger trust in their inner wisdom, without fear or ridicule. We also talk about the disconnection that many of us feel in the modern world, the transformative power of nature and the many different ways in which humans try to make sense of death.   This is a raw, honest and thought-provoking conversation that I’m certain will leave you feeling inspired and eager to rediscover your own inner wisdom.   Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.   Thanks to our sponsors: https://join.whoop.com/livemore https://www.boncharge.com/livemore https://www.calm.com/livemore https://thriva.co/   Show notes https://drchatterjee.com/604   DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

85% of people in the world have a religious belief. As you were speaking, I was thinking, what's the thing that I believe in that's greater? It's love. And it's made me quite upset, but you've really just made it land for me that all of this, the thing that I believe in that's greater is love. And that's beautiful. Hey guys, how you doing?

I hope you're having a good week so far. My name is Dr. Rongan Chatterjee, and this is my podcast, Feel Better, Live More. What exactly is intuition? What happens when we die? And how does trauma get stored in our bodies? Well, these are just a few of the fascinating themes that I explore in today's episode with returning guest Dr. Tara Swat. Tara is a neuroscientist, a former medical doctor and psychiatrist, a lecturer at MIT, an executive coach, an author of two books, including her very latest The Science, the New Science of How to Trust Your Instincts.

In today's episode, Tara shares her own personal story about love, loss, and learning to trust herself again after the death of her husband Robin. This life-changing experience left her questioning her deepest beliefs as a scientist when, in the midst of her grief, she started noticing unusual signs that she felt she was unable to ignore. At first, she was skeptical, but these moments gradually helped her reconnect with her intuition in ways she never expected. In our conversation, we explore what intuition really is, why so many of us feel cut off from it, and crucially, what practical steps

you can take to start accessing your own. We also talk about the disconnection that many of us feel in the modern worlds, the transformative and healing power of nature, and the many different ways in which humans try to make sense of death. This is a raw, honest, and thought-provoking conversation that I'm certain will leave you feeling inspired and eager to rediscover your own inner wisdom. It's pretty clear that modern life is disconnecting us from so many truly important things. One of the things that's disconnected us from is our intuition. So I wanted to start up by asking you what is intuition and what are some signs that we can look out for in our own life that might

indicate we're disconnected from our own. Okay, so intuition, I've come to call it hidden wisdom because you can't recall everything you've experienced in your life, but you pick up life lessons and you lay down patterns of behaviour and pattern recognition from those memories that you're not sort of conscious of. And I think I would have said to you before that through the process called Hebbian learning, these patterns get pushed deeper and deeper into the brain into the limbic system, the brain stem, the spinal cord, and even into the gut neurons. And that's why it's often called gut instinct, right? But there's new evidence through the serotonin hypothesis that shows that trauma doesn't only exist in the PTSD.

of the brain, through the action of serotonin, your blood products, your plasma and your blood, the capillaries are constricted or dilated by the serotonin, and that changes the nature of nutrients and oxygen going into the tissues of your muscles, your fascia. And so the hypothesis says that that's one way that trauma is stored in the body. You know, Bessel van der Kolk's work, the body keeps the score. So the new hypothesis is that hidden wisdom or intuition is also stored in patterns that are held in the tissues of your body. So it's a bit like saying, you know, your mind isn't just in your brain, it's embodied, it's everywhere. And for example, if you practice yoga, you would understand that really well. So yeah, just like trauma can be

stored in the body, intuition can be stored in the mind, the brain and the body. And in terms of the things that we can look out for in our own life that might indicate, we're not accessing our intuition as much as we might want to are there any things that we can look out for to go actually I struggle to make a decision I'm constantly stressed or whatever it might be what would you say are signs

that people can use themselves to try and sort of figure that out? So I think there's a few ways I could approach this one is if you keep repeating the same kind of patterns in your decision making and your behaviour in your relationship dynamics, then you're probably not evolving your intuition

and learning from potential mistakes. I think another thing, because I talked about yoga being the union of the mind and the body, is that we're very cut off at the neck and we very much separate our mind and our body. So if you're overthinking, if you're anxious,

if you're very, you know, rigid in your thinking, if you rely way too much on logic and rationality when it, you know, feels wrong in your gut kind of thing. I think those are really good signs. And you mentioned stress. So, of course, because of the gut-brain connection, if our gut microbiome isn't in good condition, that can actually cloud access to our intuition

and lead to what's called brain fog, and that's like a two-way thing. Yeah. When I think about stress and I think about intuition, I think about a relationship that perhaps goes both ways. So when you're chronically stressed, of course, it's very hard to look inwards, and access that deep wisdom.

And at the same time, if you're not accessing your inner wisdom enough, it's probably going to lead to more stress in your life. I think it leads to like a lack of direction and sense of purpose. So, for example, I always kind of prided myself on my intuition and I would make my biggest life decisions based on my intuition. But up until a few years ago, still very much something that I thought was only in my head. It was only after my husband

passed away that I really felt like I couldn't trust myself. I couldn't trust my decision making. I didn't have access to that voice anymore. That I had to find like a different way of operating. And, you know, the first thing that it wasn't a choice, it just happened is that, you know, I'm very lucky with the amount of support I have. So I got the psychological safety that I needed from my community. But I started spending a lot of time and nature. And I believe that that's the way I reconnected with my intuition and realized that it's not just a mental thing. It's a physical thing too. So any kind of physical activity like walking, yoga. And you know how I love to go back to ancient wisdom about everything.

I was literally googling things like how did humans rely on their instincts in Paleolithic times and is art what makes us humans. So I enjoyed that part of the research. And so our ancestors they didn't have spare resources for doing things for fun they had to use all of their resources for survival so basically food shelter and reproduction so why did they drum dance hum make cave paintings there must be something about that that's crucial to to our survival and in some ancient cultures like in ancient Greeks when they bury their dead they wail and beat their chests. So I'm assuming that's actually a good way of dealing with grief, because one of the things I realized as well with grief is I had amazing talking therapy, but it's only when I started having body realignment therapy and craniosacral therapy that it accelerated my healing. Yeah. It's so interesting. You mentioned ancient wisdom. And earlier on, right at the start of this conversation, you said the new hypothesis is.

And I thought, okay, I'm going to come back to that. Because is it truly a new hypothesis or is science just trying its very best to explain what all of our ancestors have known for tens of thousands of years? I mean, I can just give one word answer to that. Yeah, but do you know what I mean? What's your take on how I frame this? that because there's some beautiful things in the start of the book. This point really deeply,

deeply resonates with me and how I see the world. You put here, it also made me question whether only things that can be proven scientifically are important as part of the human experience. Yeah. Well, that's given me goosebumps, because I'll tell you where that came from. So, within the first couple of weeks of Robin dying, I had a neighbour who had lost his partner five years previously and we didn't really talk about it much but obviously I was searching so I said is it okay to ask you something about you know death and grief and he said sure um and I said do you think it's possible to get communication with them after they've passed and he got quite agitated and said absolutely not and then said if it were everyone would be talking about it and I think

even though I was in acute grief at the time I remember thinking well I can't accept that it's it's not possible just because everyone's not talking about it. That doesn't make sense to me. And so then I mentioned it to a few people. And everyone that I spoke to had some kind of experience of sensing a presence or, you know, receiving a sign from a lost loved one. So I just thought that was interesting at first. And then as I went on my journey of receiving signs, I was able to step back as a neuroscientist and kind of watch what was happening to me. thinking, this is quite interesting. I wonder if I'll find something that could actually help other people. Because I had no intention of ever sharing my private story. It was only if I felt like I learned something with the benefit of hindsight that could help.

And then, of course, what has happened is because I'm known for being a scientist and a doctor, and it's such a human and primal experience and questioning the nature of life, death and birth. that it's had this phenomenal reaction. Yeah. Just for people who've perhaps not heard some of those other conversations, when you say signs, can you just elaborate what you mean when you say you've been asking for signs?

Yeah, so my husband's name was Robin, but for many people, seeing a Robin is often a sign from a lost loved one, white feathers, repeating numbers, different things for different people. But I, basically

out of desperation consulted a couple of mediums after my husband died and I was very skeptical and anything that I thought could have been researched on the internet or social media I was sort of

I wouldn't give them the credit for but then it just occurred to me that if it's possible to have you know open this channel of communication with someone that's passed away that I should be able to do it myself because this was my person

and because I had a few friends who said that they'd received signs from lost loved ones. I obviously wanted to receive signs. And at first, you know, I think I was overthinking it and I was, you know, just hoping for things and looking and but, you know, not really getting them. I did see a lot of Robbins. And then there was just a point where I realised

that it would make sense for him to communicate with me through numbers because he wrote like a mathematical report and he was very, very obsessed with the Fibonacci sequence. So then the sorts of, you know, number signs that I would get became more frequent, more timely, more exact. And now I don't ask for specific things anymore. I just, I notice things and I think, oh, that was from him.

If I just zoom out for a moment, Tara, We're talking about you being able to communicate or receive communication from your husband, Robin, who has died. So there's going to be some people I imagine listening going, wait a minute, hold on. Like, you've got a medical degree, you've got a neuroscience degree, you know how the brain. works and you're also trying to tell me that you're getting signs from your husband. For the skeptic who's listening, what would you say to them? That even though I'm a neuroscientist and a medical doctor, I'm a human being that's been through a life-changing experience that I obviously needed to make sense of and I wanted to

fully heal and not be feel bitter and you know sort of let grief for all the rest of my life um and like i said i did step back as a neuroscientist and watch the journey that i went on but the number of stories i have many of which are in the book is it's it's too much for me to explain away by coincidence and there's a lot of stuff that we don't know you know again the ancient believed in souls or the afterlife or reincarnation and ancestor worship and communication from their ancestors and things. So I think I was just like, why not try this and see what happens and see if it makes sense for you? And at first it brought me comfort, you know, in the early days. Later, it brought me guidance, but you could say that was me accessing my own intuition

and that's okay too. And now it actually like brings me happiness. So, and, you know, it's not harming me or anyone else. And in fact, I've been overwhelmed by how much it's helped so many people. That, you know, of course there'll be skeptics and that's fine. You know, it was a huge risk for me to write this book and go out on podcasts and say that I receive signs from my dead husband. But, you know, I am a risk taker. That's one of the things he said he liked about me.

But I'm, I was so, like, so not worried about putting this book out there because I'm so connected to myself and I trust myself and my instincts and my intuition so much that I just, I just did it. And I thought, you know, it could have had a really bad response, but it's been more than I could have dreamed in a good way. there's a key point there for me which it even goes beyond the message in this book you said that because you're so connected to yourself and your desires and who you are and how you want to live the response to the book actually doesn't matter I get that more than you could possibly believe right it's a realisation I've come to over the last years it's okay if people think differently to me. Yeah.

There's 8 billion people on the planet. How arrogant would it be of me to believe that everyone else on the planet is going to see the world in the same way as me? It's like, no, no, no, okay, cool, you see it differently. No problem. Totally. I mean, I actually got a message, an open comment on my Instagram the other day from someone saying, I used to really respect her because she's a doctor, but I think this road that she's gone down is, I think they used the word quack or something like that and said,

I'm now nervously watching her career and I mean I literally laughed out loud I'm like I'm not nervous about my career at all yeah and it's quite interested to to demonstrate that going forward if I think about the message in this book

and then I try and compare it or draw parallels with the message in the source which came out pre-covert what, 2018? 2019. I guess one of the key message you've been talking about for years,

which you're also right about and the science is this idea that the brain, there's so many inputs around us all the time, right? So our brain has to filter out. Like we couldn't possibly be aware of everything that's going on around us or we'd just be overwhelmed, right?

So if we practice or what we want our brain to focus on, we're going to start seeing that more. You've come on this show many times before and spoken about why you're a big fan of journaling and a practice of gratitude. You know, focus on the good that say you're going to start to see more good.

Focus on the negatives. You're going to see negatives everywhere, right? But that, of course, as you've also acknowledged when you say confirmation bias, could be what people are also, not sceptically saying, but saying, yeah, okay, Tara, but if you now are putting your attention on looking for Robbins, just as when you, you know, just as when you look for the red car in the garage

and you pump quite a bored, suddenly you're seeing red cars everywhere, because you've primed that part of the brain to start looking for that. If, of course, your husband's called Robin and Robbins are the symbol that many people say, you know, when someone's not here, they're They come and see you as Robbins. I guess some people will think that, weren't they? They will think that, yeah, but if now you're putting your attention and looking for Robbins, you weren't doing that before Robin died. So perhaps now you're naturally going to see more Robbins because that's where you're putting your attention.

Yeah, someone did make a comment like that. And it's actually not true because I was always fond of Robbins because of his name. So it's, you know, if they're there, you'll see them. But I've literally got my friend Massimiliano said to me the other day, I distinctly remember that last time we were together sitting at, you know, outdoors at a restaurant. And the Robin flew right under our table whilst we were speaking. I mean, that Robin's not meant to be there. But I'm not saying, well, for a while at the time that he died, I did see a lot of robins,

both in London and the countryside but I've noticed them before and now I think I see them a normal amount but I think probably an important point to make here is that this journey took me to a point where I had a choice at one point to really go down a rabbit hole and become kind of obsessed with this

but I made the decision to think this is enough I've had the comfort and the guidance and the joy that I needed for you to get through these few years, the real gift that my husband has given me is to re-engage with life, to start working again, to write this book,

to spend time with the people that I love, to start travelling again. Because, you know, for a while I was like, well, I'm on my own, so I can't travel. You know, getting over things like that. So that's where I'm really at, which is that it's given me, and in a similar way to how near-death experiences often do,

it's given me such an appreciation for life. I'm so grateful that I'm alive, that I'm healthy. That's not to be taken for granted. And that, you know, whether it's as a scientist or an author or whatever it is, that I have something to offer and I want to try and help people. So, yeah.

You mentioned near-death experiences there and you reference, I think, is it Bruce Grayson in the book? The doctor who's spent years actually researching them. documenting them. Yeah, it's incredible. And I think you shared some of his research in the book where he basically was saying that, and this is where whether you believe in near-death experiences or not, it doesn't really matter because he's saying that people who've had near-death experiences, they live their life with a sense of freedom and calm. And they're happy to take risk. They're not as scared to fail anymore because they see the world differently. Their perception has changed. And would you say that that's what these signs have done for you? It's changed the way you relate to life. It absolutely has.

And I think what's really interesting about near-death experiences is that simply by learning about them, you can get some of the same benefits that people get from having had that experience themselves. And that's, you know, a big part of the reason I wanted to write the book, that if it's just the stories of other people that I've shared in the book or my own story, that, people read or listen to and that helps them to see the world maybe from a slightly different

perspective maybe you know notice and appreciate beauty and nature more um connect more with people then absolutely yeah that's um how i feel and how i'd love people to feel i really like the chapter on community and tribes towards the end of the book and i'd love to talk a little bit about that there's so many element you cover in that. One thing you write about is the collective unconscious. What is the collective unconscious and how does it relate to what we're talking about? Are you looking for the perfect gift this festive season? Then look no further than Whoop. Now, Woop is the only wearable that turns your health and fitness data into personalized guidance, designed to be worn 24-7, no screens means no distractions, and with over 14 days of battery life, you will never

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there are some shared constructs that we will all experience, namely birth, life and death. And because of that, that there are inherited brain structures and genes that we all have the same type. of and that that potentially means that there's a sort of cosmic soup or force, you know, where things that we're all aware of exist and that, you know, we're all tapped into that in a way. And he created archetypes to try to explain that. So, I mean, I think he was completely visionary. You know, he talked about synchronicities as meaningful coincidence And these are just some of the conversations that I'm sort of trying to start up again and revisit. And maybe now that science has progressed so much, there might be, you know, other ways of looking at that.

And at the moment, the research on near-death experiences, terminal lucidity and dark retreats are the closest that we can get to that. So I think as a doctor, terminal lucidity's like super interesting. That's basically when somebody whose brain is irreversibly damaged as far as we understand. standard and modern science are like dementia as a classic example, suddenly becomes completely lucid towards the end of their life. So it goes from not recognizing their own children to having a completely like they used to before conversation with their children. It usually means the person's about to pass away. There are theories that say, you know, is this a surge of neurotransmitters? But the circuitry in the brain isn't supposed to be working at that time. So we don't know.

but things like that and near-death experiences show that when the brain is under duress like at the border of life and death that the mind or psyche or soul potentially can operate independently of physical matter and that's also connected to the collective unconscious I mean it's

it's amazing when you hear about something like terminal lucidity and you know we know those cases and we put it through the lens of many things we've been talking about today this idea that the brain's not working anymore. You know, we can give you all these mechanisms. You know, there's a beta amyloid is accumulating,

there's tau protein there. You know, we can tell you why someone's brain, or we can give a version of why we think someone's brain is not working and suddenly it seems to spark on. I would hope that that, in general, there's a feeling of awe in most people. For me, I hear that go, wow, what's actually going on there? Yeah.

And, you know, if it's not provoking your curiosity, then I guess the alternative is that all that you see materially is what life is and you just go through that life. I don't want to live like that. No, and I think that's one of the reasons why people struggle with death so much, I think at least, is, if your life is just what you think it is

right and you're here you're this body all you're concerned about is how do you get ahead in life how do you make enough money and then you suddenly die it is hard to make sense off do you know what I mean

it's kind of interesting I'm drawn back to and it's sad and it's sad I'm drawn back to a conversation I had with Brony Ware a few years ago the Pallies of Care Nurse who wrote the book five regrets of the diet

And in that conversation, I asked her, because she goes through the five regrets and we go through what they can all signify and how we can use those regrets to help us change the way that we live today. I said, hey, Bonnie, does everyone on their deathbed have those regrets? Oh, she said, no, no, not at all. I said, oh, did you see any similarities in the people who you cared for who did not have those regrets on their deathbed? She said, yeah, I did. One of the things, there were three things that she noted, but one of the things was a belief in something greater than themselves. Isn't that interesting? Yeah. Yeah. Because what is it we want out of life, right? Whether we can explain it or not, I think most of us

want a sort of happy, meaningful life where at the end, we're not sitting there like wishing things were different, wishing we'd done something different. So tying that back to what you're talking about, if someone has a near-death experience and whether you believe it or not, and they use that to live, feeling that they're connected to something greater, why does it matter? If you believe, and I'm, just to be clear, I'm not at all being skeptical here, right? No. I'm just saying for the listener, if you believe that actually you're able to get signs from your husband, and it's helping you believe in something greater and helps you make sense of his death and your existence, why does it matter?

That and also, as you said that, I was thinking for a lot of people that believe in something greater is God, right? Yeah. 85% of people in the world have a religious belief. As you were speaking, I was thinking, what's the thing that I believe in that's greater? It's not actually signs, is it? It's love. and it's made me quite upset but you know if if that means that I believe that the love that my husband had for me never dies

and I love the people who are in my life and I you know I've always said that I want to live a life that's guided by love and but you've really just made it land for me that all of this the thing that I believe in that's greater is love and that's beautiful Yeah, it is

This collective unconscious I think there's many ways that I think about it So I love music I've been a musician my entire life I'm obsessed with music and songwriting and lyrics and all kinds of things and some of the best songwriters, of all time,

will tell you that these are not my songs. The songs came through me. The songs were out of there. I was just playing and it came through me. Even I'm pretty sure, I mean, you know, we've just had the summer of oasis in the UK and around the world, right? So Noel Gallagher is regarded by many people

as one of Britain's greatest songwriters. Back in the late 90s, when Noel was writing hit after hit for Oasis, so much so that they would just shove out these amazing hits like Acquies and the Mass Band on B-sides, because, well, we've released the album, they just, you know, he said in interviews that they were just falling out the sky.

I wasn't doing anything. The songs were just falling out of the sky. And look, I don't know Noel Gallagher. I don't know if he's spiritual or not. I guess a lot of people would perceive that he perhaps he's not, But perhaps he is. Perhaps he never talks about it in those terms. But if you believe that actually these are not my songs,

I'm just here playing my guitar, I'm showing up every day, and there's stuff out there that's coming through me, it's pretty interesting, isn't it? Yeah, very, very. And, I mean, this is really going out there now, but I have had some times, I'll give you a concrete example of watching myself on a podcast that I was on

where I wasn't thinking about what I was saying it was just you know I'm even cautious about using the word channeling but that's what it felt like so yeah

and I just think that's because I've got an expanded openness to what you know what could be how the mind can work so I'm more able to use that word or think about it in that way.

But I can tell you for sure, there have been times on podcasts when what I was saying was happening without me thinking about it. Yeah. This idea that there are ideas out there in the ether, which suddenly I'll start talking about, a podcaster in Canada will start talking about, a podcaster. It's like we don't all read the same books, we don't all consume the same material, but there's something going on. Yeah.

I don't know. This podcast, literally, you've come and stay talking about this stuff. Four days ago, Mo Gowda was here. Mo, I didn't plan to talk to Mo about this. No. Mo ends up saying that you can prove with physics and maths that death is not the end. I know.

I mean, I was like, well, I actually don't believe death is the end, but I don't know how to prove it with maths and physics. No. And then literally a few weeks before that, I spoke to the Zen. master, Henry Shookman, about non-duality for the very first time on the show. I'm like, so literally in the last few weeks, I'm not saying this is the collective unconscious, but something's happening when people are rocking up in this studio and we're talking about

similar themes. So I think there is a zeitgeist around this topic at the moment. And my my publishers actually said that there are a few other books on similar themes that are coming out this autumn as well and laura lynn jackson the medium who wrote the book signs um i i love her work and that book and have always felt it should have got much you know greater recognition than it did well finally after years this summer it reached a new york times best seller list wow yeah i started off this conversation by asking you, or by stating that the modern world seems to have disconnected us in many ways from so many things that are truly important. One of those things, of course, being intuition. What is it do you think about the modern world, in particular,

that has started to disconnect us from ourselves? Let me start by saying what I think some of those forms of connection are. I think of them as connection to yourself, which is your intuition, connection to others, which is community, and connection to the planet or the universe, which is, you know, something to do with understanding that the environment is very important and that we are, you know, contributors to that both positively and negatively. And then probably, you know, sort of newer thing for me to say is connection to something greater. And that could be God, it could be the universe source, whatever, you know, lost loved ones, whatever, you know, people believe in. And so one of the things I believe is that nature is a really important way to

connect back to all of those things because humans have existed in the palette of nature for all time. And we see in some marginalised communities like in the first Americans that when they were displaced from their land and their food sources like the kinds of plants and animals that owned there, that broke them as people. And in the modern world, I think we've massively broken our own connection to nature. So like you said, the modern Western world, urbanized rise of technology, obviously, but that's really second only to the rise of the importance of logic and rationality over everything else. When you spend a lot of time in nature and you experience wonder and awe, it gives you a connection to the,

environment, the planet, there's something greater. You know, when you spend time with people and you actually put your phone away and you actually look them in the eye and they care about you and you care about them, that connects you to something, you know. And then I think this loss of sense of purpose to me is connected to trusting yourself and your intuition. So, you know, having a purpose, feeling like you've got some kind of, you know, direction that you're aware of and for that purpose to be something that transcends just yourself as well. They're all ways of reconnecting. Yeah.

Reading that chapter on nature in your latest book, you were describing how after Robin had died, you would go and walk in nature. Okay? And I think from recollection, you would build up the time that you spent. Initially, it was you didn't want to do anything, you didn't want to do much, but you started, and then you built up.

And just to be clear, I'm absolutely not comparing a spouse dying to a parent dying, I think two completely different things. But just as you were talking there and relating it to purpose, I was drawn back to my own experience after my father died back in 2013. Because until then, I'd never really turned inwards. Everything was outwards in my life. and I remember in the months after dad had died I would go walking a lot in nature I probably wasn't thinking about intuition or anything I was just trying to deal with something I was finding

incredibly difficult at the time and what's really interesting is dad dying for me was the very first time I asked myself the question whose life are you actually living And I mean, I could give you a two-hour sort of explanation or the simplistic explanation, which is, I'm pretty sure that what I do today in terms of this podcast, my books, what I try and advocate for in terms of health and happiness, I think you can directly relate, certainly with hindsight, back to those walks in nature I took after dad died, which gave me the clarity for me. me to start following my hearts. Yeah. Yeah, I got goosebumps whilst you were saying that. And isn't it? So it's interesting. Obviously, our instincts were working because they do us both to nature.

Yeah. What did it do for you, those walks in nature? Well, like you said, at first I would do a 30-minute walk because I thought, like, good enough for your physical health. And then because I sort of thought, well, I don't really have that much else to do, I could walk for longer. I very quickly noticed that it made an impact on my mental health. And interestingly for me, because I was then living somewhere very remote. So generally I would stick to paths that I knew because I've got a really, really bad sense of direction. And in that place, I could walk for an hour or more and not pass anyone that could help me,

you know, to point me in the right direction. But I started going down paths that I'd never been down before. And that felt like some kind of analogy. for me in my brain of the neuroplasticity of navigating grief. And I remember thinking, I hope I don't get lost, but then just having this deep sense of knowing that either someone was guiding me or I had been in this place before, like in a spiritual sense, and that I would find my way.

So I think, but I think that was really about me finding my way. in life, not getting lost in the woods kind of thing. And just on that point, I wanted to say that I started just looking at trees and leaves and fields and views and just being just gobsmacked by how stunning they were. So I think I started noticing more than sometimes you just go for a walk and you don't really, you know, you're a bit head down. So that would have been stimulating my senses in many ways.

Yeah. So there's a section in the book where you, talk about the fact that humans have more than five senses? So obviously because you and I have been to medical school, we knew that there were more than five senses. But I didn't know there were 34 when I started doing the research for the book. I first found a journal paper that said humans have 22 to 33 senses. And then I did a full literature review.

And there's a table in the book of the 34. So for example, taste is actually subdivided into five. So sweet, sour, salty, bitter and umami. But umami was only discovered in the 1980s. So it's our knowledge of them that's growing and evolving. And the latest one that's actually been classified physiologically as a sense is the immune system. So, you know, and there's appetite and waste senses, there's balance, all sorts of others, I'm sure absolutely make sense when people read them, but they're not things that we consciously go around, you know, thinking about and therefore, probably not tapping into. They decided that we have 34 sentences. I guess when I hear that, and I'm sure you would agree

with this, it's like, what we're saying is that so far, we have words to describe 34. It may be then in 100 years, we've got words to describe 100 senses. So it's fascinating, isn't it? Yeah, yeah. And you're just, the way that you put that made me think, taking Umami, for example, in the 1980s, before that was discovered, does that mean it didn't exist? Yeah. I mean, there's so much stuff like that. You were saying about being in L.A. with our mutual friend Drew, well, I went in a driverless car with him. I mean, that was science fiction when we were growing up. So, you know, there's all sorts of things that we didn't know before, that we know now. So why can't we can't, we? we accept that things that we don't know yet might be true. Yeah, why do you think that is? Why do humans struggle to accept that? I've sort of started saying to a few people, have you

ever thought about a day in the life of Homo erectus or what he like, you know, thought or cared about or believed about how the world worked? I feel like we're so arrogant to think that we are the most evolved and the last type of human that's ever going to exist. We too are just going to be a blip in in history at some point. I don't know if it's a survival mechanism. I'd love to hear your theory on it. I just think there's a level of just thinking that we're the latest and greatest

and we know more than all other humans that have existed before. Yeah, I've been thinking a lot about this too, right? I'm currently just writing a new section for my, not my last book before, Happy Mind, Happy Life, which is coming out in a new format in January. So I'm just writing a new section

for it, update. my views on it. And one thing I've been writing about is, you know, in that book, there are these three ingredients to happiness, alignment, contentment, and control. And I think what you're talking about and what we're talking about at the moment

is to do with our need for a sense of control. So I think fundamentally the world is uncontrollable. Okay, so the world is going to do what the world is going to do, despite what you might want it to do. But I think humans tend to feel better when they have a sense of control. And it's interesting talking to a fellow doctor

about this stuff, right? I know you don't practice anymore and you move to neuroscientist and coaching and writing and all that kind of stuff, but you practice for many years, right? And I feel within our profession and frankly, within the public, you could say there's open,

minded people and closed-minded people. I would say much, not all, but much of our profession can come across as being closed-minded. Yeah, I agree. Which is why so many patients get frustrated that they know something, that they're feeling a certain way, they come in and the doctor will often try and put them into a box that they learn to medicate. Which, which pigeonhole does this patient's symptoms fall into? Yeah. And if they don't, if, if, if you don't, if, if, if, you can't quite put that collection of census into this diagnosis or that diagnosis. I think a lot of doctors, particularly if people are junior, they don't know what to do with that.

So they try and force it in. And the patient's thinking, no, no, that's what makes sense about. I don't have depression. So I think some of it comes down to a human's need for certainty and a sense of control. I agree. And I think there's sort of an additional danger, particularly in the medical profession of having to be right all the time.

Again, when I was doing research for the book, I was reading a little bit about the biopsychosocial model for healthcare. And interestingly, in the last 10 years or so, there has been some research talking about the biopsychosocial spiritual model, particularly for care of the elderly and end of life. And that obviously shows a more holistic view of someone's, beliefs and life. So I'm glad to see that's theoretically happening, but I don't feel like it's actually happening in the healthcare system, that spiritual element. Yeah, it's, it's, like I said,

I think it's quite dangerous when you feel like you have to be right all the time. And that's, that's actually what's driving your decisions. Well, that need to be right, whether it's a new profession or in your relationships, it doesn't do you any good. It's a very fragile place to be in. You have written about near-death experiences quite a lot in the signs, which is super fascinating. I'm really interested. What has the feedback been? Yes, from the public, but also from healthcare professionals. Yeah, it's really interesting. So I really, I had no idea of how much this would help people. And interestingly, I have received DMs from doctors and clinical psychologists and psychotherapists

as well, saying that they have similar beliefs to me, but they don't talk about it because it's not accepted, you know, in those sorts of communities. Yeah. Let's just go about intuition a minute, right? Because we've sort of, we started there. We've gone down a few different paths, which is great. How much do you think? think intuition plays a role and adopts its ability to help their patients heal? Oh, I think

it's massive. And like I said, I've been intuitive for a long time, but quite early on in my career, I would have gut feelings that something wasn't what it looked like. I'll give you one example. I was in my second job, so I'd done my surgery six months. I was in medicine in London. And a guy came in overnight, and the A&E registrar said that he was having a heart attack, and he should get treated for that. I had struggled so much to read ECGs that show that someone's having a pulmonary embolism. But I looked at this ECG and I was like, Like, I don't think he's having a heart attack. I think he's having a PE.

And so we should send him for a scan. And they said, if you ask for a scan, at this time of night, you're going to wake up the consultant. So I thought, I think I have to. So I called my consultant and said, I want to send this guy for a chess CT. But the A&E registrar is saying that unless, you know, you give permission, they're not going to wake up the radiologist. So he said, yeah, go and send him for the scan. So I then went to bed And when I woke up for Wardrand in the morning

I was like, what happened about that guy that You know, I had to call you up about for the scan And my consultant went Let me tell you the story of the junior doctor Who correctly diagnosed a man That the A&E registrar had misdiagnosed Yeah, well done Yeah, and actually after that

I knew I wanted to do psychiatry But my registrar sort of said Please, please consider staying in medicine because, like, you know, well, he said something like, because, you know, you're so good at it or something like that. And I was like, look, I want to go and do psychiatry, but I also want to know why you're saying this to me. And he said, your judgment is really, really good.

And for me, that's intuition. It's, of course, it's everything that we learned and its experience. But I feel like I've always had that radar for, like, something that might not make sense on paper. Yeah. When you were relaying that story, you said, I think you said something like, I'm really intuitive, which got me thinking, are we not all really intuitive if we don't allow other things to get in the way? Yes. So I think the correct way to have said what I meant was I rely on my intuition very strongly and I trust it. And so I've had, you know, that comment. from my registrar, but also my first husband. My first husband really trusted my intuition too. And we were the same age, both doctors. So, you know, I don't know why particularly if I said that's our destiny. He was fine with it. But that obviously gave me confidence as well.

You know, a lot of my friends will say things like follow your heart, follow your gut. You know, so I think I've had a good experience of trusting that. And taking the chance when logic and intuition didn't match up and saying, I'm going to go with my intuition. and see what happens. But for me, also, you know, another part of that is saying, whatever happens, I will roll my sleeves up and I will make it work. So that also helps you to trust your intuition, because the what if it goes wrong question is the reason that will hold a lot of people back from that. Yeah. It's kind of interesting hearing that. We're talking about intuition, but there's also a inner confidence that's there. You had the inner confidence to

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And then in the next low risk sort of situation, go with your intuition, even if your logic tells you not to and see what happens and journal about that and let that pan out. Keep doing that for at least six months, I would say probably a year ideally, and read over your entries to see where you're repeating patterns that aren't serving you and to show yourself that sometimes when you take a risk, it really works out for you. There's also an exercise in the book that I really love to help people try to align that sort of head, heart and gut. It's called the unfurling exercise and it's basically you have a question in your mind or a decision to make and you take five deep breaths, put your hands on your head and ask your logic to give you the answer. Then you take five deep breaths, put your hands on your heart and ask your emotions to give you your answer. and then you take five deep breaths put your hand on your belly

and ask your gut or your intuition to give you the answer now if they're all aligned that's great isn't it but if they're not again journaling and learning from that and then I think one of the reasons that people struggle with this

is because when you're in your own situation emotionally it's very hard to get perspective so sometimes I say what would you say to your brother or your best friend because it's you're all great at giving advice to our friends but you know I can't give it to ourselves but one exercise I do that can you know feel very emotional I've often cried when I've done it and I've shared it with a few friends who've said they cried as well is myself in seven years time so you know I'd be sitting here

and I'd say I'm Tara this is how old I am this is what I'm wearing this is the thing I'm struggling with give me some advice and then I would stand up walk seven steps forward and turn around and say I'm now Tara seven years old than I am describe what I'm wearing and then ask that Tara the question and then just like go with the first thing that comes to your mind and the reason that that's quite an emotional thing is because that's actually come from you

but you know if you didn't step outside of yourself in that way you wouldn't trust that you actually know the answer yeah just a simple way of getting out of your head or putting you in a different well quite literally different physical space. You're actually moving away from where you are. Yeah. That's quite powerful, isn't it? There's another exercise that's similar that also works, which is, I think it's in the source, and I called it creative mentoring, which is that you think of three people that you admire and trust. They could be people that you know, they could be historical characters or

people that, you know, have passed on. And you ask them each to answer your dilemma. And you, you know, you go into a great deal of depth and say, like, you know, you describe that. You know, you describe the person and their name and their age and what they're like. And then you say, okay, I'm asking you, like Winston Churchill or whatever. And then you, you know, you go through that process of describing the other person so that you're kind of, you're more like in their. Yeah. Yeah. So you've been a fan of journaling for years. And it's quite interesting that when you're describing one of the ways in which we can start to figure out how to trust ourselves more is to basically, I guess, build up that evidence for ourselves, right? Just write down what you're doing

in life, write down how it pans out, and then, you know, look back and go, oh, when I did it that way, this is what I'm, when I did it that way, and over time, build up some sort of evidence that, oh, wow, when I trust my gut, things go well, or it might be the other way. When I trust my guts, maybe they don't go well, right? At least you're starting to tune into that and take it out of your mind and getting it out onto paper. Yeah. At the same time, you do touch on this in the book, actually, which was the potential limitations of journaling,

in the sense that journaling is from the mind. Yeah. Okay? Yeah. It's quite interesting. This is what I've realized in my own practice over the last years is that currently what I do is I will meditate first and then I'll journal because I sort of feel the meditation

and sometimes some movement first brings things up and those insights I can then crystallize in the journal. But just trying to help people start to tap into this inner wisdom if, for example, they've been traumatized, right? Or they've had, I guess, you know, lots of adversity in their life that they haven't done anything with

and their fascia is loaded with all these emotions. and trauma and their posture might have changed or they're stuck a certain way. Do you think doing it with the mind at that point can help? Or do you think this is where, you know, somatic practices, yoga, hands-on therapy from osteopaths or whatever it might be? Like, speak to that a little bit as well, if you will. Thanks. I wanted to go there because people are also so disembodied in the modern world and the

Western world. And what does that mean? Because a lot of people, we hear that term. I don't think everyone understands that. What does disembodied mean? Like not connected to your body, not receiving messages from your body, not listening to your body.

Because what? We're on screens, we're sat down, we're sedentary, we sit on the sofa, we're not, I don't know, moving our bodies. And you mentioned dancing rituals before

from our ancestors, you know, different ways in which they would move. Yeah, and so, well, because, I mean, they were, obviously, they lived in a very physicality was a big part of the way that they lived.

because they were like hunting and gathering and So they had to be in tune with their bodies Yes, they were very in tune with their bodies and but creative things like art and dance and drumming and you know sort of creating that vibration and the body was part of that So what I say to people in the modern day when they kind of say

I don't know what you mean by listening to my body I don't know how to listen to my body is I say have you ever had a visceral reaction to something So have you heard a piece of news, good or bad, and had a chill go down your spine or your hair stand up on end? And so that's the kind, most people will have had that. So that makes it, I think, understandable for people. And then you want to just notice that more. Like it's a very common phrase in my friendship group to say, that gave me goosebumps or that gave me chills.

And it's, I think that's us affirming each other that we trust each other's intuition or we had a strong, you know, emotional agreement with whatever they've said. But that kind of, sorry, on the goosebumps thing, right? Like, all of us can really tune into that. You know, we've all been in situations before where someone has said something or something has happened and we felt goosebumps, right? You can't really explain that easily with a rational mind, right?

There's something happened and on a deep level, your body reacted, right? That's, I mean, I don't know, that's quite awe-inspiring as well to think about that. Exactly. And, you know, why are there even phrases like, a chill ran down my spine,

or, you know, I mean, because their analogies to remind us that actually everything that we're experiencing is happening to us physically, not just mentally. I mean, as part of the research, I actually asked the question, is art what makes us human?

And what I found out that I thought was so interesting is that generally we think that cave paintings were made about 40,000 years ago and that was the beginning of art for humans. But actually, 20,000 years before that, in southern Africa, people were making carvings into ostrich eggshells. 50,000 years before that, they were making necklaces out of shelves and wearing them and crumbling ochre and, you know, rubbing it on their face and their body to adorn themselves.

And 500,000 years ago, we were making tools that were more beautiful and symmetrical than they had to be to do the job they were necessary for. So this awe, this appreciation of beauty, this like, you know, really like inhabiting your body and understanding that it's a two-way thing, what you feel and what you think, is, as well as the connection with nature, which I talked about much earlier, those are really important things for us. to reconnect, to truly be human, to be connected to ourselves, as well as, you know, others and the whole thing. Yeah. It's thought that one of the reasons why exercise is so good for us as humans is because it helps enhance our interceptive abilities.

It helps us tune into our sensation. So we know suddenly, you know, if you run regularly, you know what an elevated heart rate feels like. Because if you don't, someone has an elevated heart rate can make you feel like you're anxious, right? But you, so it's the same signal, but you know how to interpret it because you have that physicality. It's kind of interesting. I was, actually this morning, I was, I saw this wonderful osteopath who I've been seen for years. and I told him you were coming in today and we were just talking about this idea of trauma being stored in the body

and what he has found, you know, he's in his 60s now he's been doing this for decades and what he can actually feel in people's bodies and we were also talking about this idea that a lot of ancestral cultures like you say have all the of these kind of, either they're physical anyway in terms of how they live, but they have all

these practices like drum beating or, you know, dancing in particular ways, but uninhibited dancing. Do you know what I mean? So if there was trauma sort of locked in somewhere, it's almost going to be released through those three-dimensional movements. And we were just hypothesizing in this idea that perhaps one of the costs of civilization is that we have

suppressed our emotions and trauma into our fascia because there are certain things that are acceptable to do in the world, aren't there? We're allowed to do this, we're not allowed to do that,

okay? Oh, you know, I don't like that. I'm not going to say anything that's not the right thing to do to say anything or whatever. So by not saying anything, you suppress that, you lock it in within you. So, I don't know, it's quite an interesting thought. Maybe the cost of civilization is by not doing certain things in public,

it means that we've kind of suppressed those things down into our being. Does that make sense? Yeah. And I'm just remembering that in March 2020, when we did the podcast remotely, because it was during the pandemic, I said to you, I'm really concerned there's going to be a mental health crisis. and I also said but it could be an opportunity

for a spiritual revolution and the fact that we're having this kind of conversation now is it's been a really interesting journey with you doing these podcasts and seeing like how different the conversations have become yeah

and actually that theme because I can see what a risk you have taken and writing this book or a perceived risk, at least. Because what you've written about in this book is not the sort of thing that neuroscientists and psychiatrists write about, okay? But if we just all have a bit more humility and go,

we are living in an age that is literally unbelievable to people who were born 100 years ago. Literally, I mean, yeah, planes existed, but even the fact, you know, I still am in am amazed at want to get in a plane. Like, I still don't understand how the hell this works. I know. I'm like, we've got all these people, the 300 people in here, we've all got bags and suitcases.

How has this thing got off, right? I don't know you can explain it with physics, but part of me is in awe every time I'm on a plane. I'm like, this is nuts. Yeah. Okay. But even if you think about smart phones, right, I imagine if when my mom was a kid, if someone said to her, look, later on in your life, there's going to be these things, right? It's going to be a tiny thing.

You can have in your pocket. And you're going to be able to communicate with anyone in the world, not just on text, which you probably wouldn't know what text is back then, but on video. Yeah. Or you're going to carry something in your pocket where you can literally stream any film that's ever been made in the last 50 years. People would think you're mad 80 years ago, I think.

Do you know what I mean? Totally. What does that teach us? It teaches us that there are things that we are living. through right now that would have been deemed ridiculous for the vast majority of our revolution but now we accept them as normal yeah it's kind of nuts isn't it it's nuts and it makes me feel like you know when you said writing this book was a perceived risk it makes me really realize and again thank you because some things have really landed for me in this conversation that

the biggest risk of my life would have been not coming out with this story for my life for my soul for my, you know, belief in love, if I'd thought, oh, I better not do that because, you know, companies might not want to hire me, that would have been like such a, such a shame. Yeah. It's so powerful that. You would have been playing it safe rather than, you know, rather than being authentic, right? Which is what so many of us do.

You know, I want your take on something, which I was getting to before, mind and body, okay? And I'm really fascinated by your take on this because you've written about fashion in the book and, you know, this idea that our emotions and a lot of our experiences are stored in our fashion, which I also believe. But I have this thing I always think about,

like how is it that we change and evolve? So, if we think my intuition and this ability to access are in a wisdom, let's say. But if we're stuck in certain patterns because of trauma, so our fascist tights, our postures change, you know, you're a psychiatrist of years. There's a certain posture sometimes you will see

in people who are struggling with their mental health, right? It's not open-hearted, open-chesters, standing up tall, right? It's a lot more enclosed and sort of maybe bent over, hunched over at the shoulders or whatever it might be, right? So, whilst I think a lot of my improvements personally have come from cognitive reframing, I've also worked on my body for 12, 13 years, you know, improving my movement patterns, seeing therapists to regularly sort of work on my body as well. So I guess, I guess, I just want to your take on that.

You know, can you do it all from the mind? Can you do it off in the body? or do you need a bit of both? I think the both takes it to the next level. Yeah. I'm just trying to think of the two options like, can you do it just with your body?

No, I think it's got to be like cognitively placed as well. And we know from all of Bessel van der Kolk's research that just talking therapy is no way as effective as yoga or art therapy and think for PTSD. Because actually the part

of the brain that's to do with speaking, the Brockers area, actually gets shut down by PTSD, and that's why people say things like I'm dumbfounded or I don't have words for this. And that's where the bodywork comes in. But the combination is that's where the magic is. Yeah. Yeah.

I think you referenced a trial. Is it firefighters who use creativity as a way of helping them with trauma? Yeah, it's actually a charity called Ashes to Art, where firefighters that go into a really traumatic scene, as soon as they exit it, they immediately have to paint what they saw and it shows a massive reduction

in a number of people getting PTSD from these things. Wow. I'm a parent, R.M., okay? You've met my children on multiple occasions. If I would like them to grow up with as much access to this hidden wisdom as possible, what are the kinds of things that you would recommend I do with them? So I'm going to actually start answering this with a bit of a counter.

So I think often the reason that people are not able to trust their intuition is because they were ridiculed as children. So, you know, if they had like a feeling about something that they wanted and people, like exactly what you're saying, like, don't say that, no, we don't do that, you know, that kind of thing. It all gets schooled out of you and parenting. out of you and um so i would say using making sure you're saying like how do you feel about that as much as you say what do you think of that um yeah i like that yeah maybe using phrases like

you know what does your heart say or what does your gut say you know just to like introduce that language but also obviously to do like physical stuff exercise with them um yeah just really demonstrating when you use your gut to do something but just really getting them to tap into that what do you feel is the right thing to do what you feel is the best thing to do what does your heart want to do

yeah and then also teaching them to you know run that by logic you know I think you can then say does that make sense to do that sort of thing and you know encouraging them to have those conversations with their friends as well and to see different perspectives Yeah. This idea of hidden wisdom, you can even look at it really simply where if you go into a room where there has just been an argument, right, but you didn't witness the arguments, but there's tension between the two people in there. You can feel it. Yeah. That we all know that. Yeah. And that's kind of interesting, is it? Because sometimes it's easy to go, hidden wisdom, what you're talking about? You know, there's the way things aren't. There's the way things aren't, right? But hold on a minute. If you really start to ask yourself those questions, you go, yeah.

We've all been in a situation where something fell off, or we could feel that, oh, something's just gone down in here. There's clearly we do have an ability to pick up on something. Yeah. You're a very private person, yet over the past few months, you've been a lot of interviews talking about Robin. How has that been for you? it's actually been such a relief um you know i waited till i was ready to speak about it and that's been almost four years so it was a long time so i kept things private whilst i needed to grieve um but as you as you mentioned you know i i really like to be authentic um even like when i present

on social media and podcasts and so i think i didn't feel inauthentic because i i've you know chose to protect my privacy and that's my right obviously But I just, yeah, I feel relieved that that, you know, that part of my life is now out there. It probably explains like some of the decisions that I've made professionally in the last few years. And yeah, it just like feels like a massive weight off my shoulder. And also, you know, a big part of grieving, as I'm sure you'll agree, is that you want that person to be remembered. And so, you know, I just, I feel like yesterday was his birthday because that date is written in the book, people messaged me.

And, you know, it's just so lovely. Yeah. It's interesting how our relationship with grief can change over time. time. It's 12, 13 years, it's my dad died. And it's kind of really interesting to, for me, on a personal level, to kind of reflect on how my relationship with dad dying has changed. Because now when I think back to dads, I just smile. You know, I, you know, everyone's experience of is individual and they're entitled to it and they're entitled to frame it however they want. I now frame my dad's death as a gift to me.

Oh. Like I really do. And I asked myself, you know, it's easy to go, yeah, I wish Dad was still here. Of course, on many levels I do, but do why? Because it's really interesting. Again, I'll be thinking about this while screening your book in the lead-up to you coming into the studio today. I was thinking, yeah, but dad's gift to me was his death. It was the lessons that I learned through his death.

If my dad was still alive, I wouldn't be the person who I am today. I wouldn't be doing what I am today. I wouldn't know the things. I wouldn't have that experience to draw upon. Yeah. So how we relate to death changes over time, doesn't it? Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. And I think it's so beautiful that you could say that. And I feel, you know, I understand it and maybe like not there yet. I couldn't four years then. No. But that's what he would have wanted. He wouldn't have wanted you to be, you know, bitter and feel like life treated you unfairly and not be the best version of yourself that you could be. So that's a really beautiful choice. And I think you're right. It does take quite a lot of time. But also, I, so I believe that the soul lives on, okay, that's always brought up, but as I get older and more, and more as I tune in to me and what I think, I think, yeah, it doesn't make sense to me that that's it. So the funny thing is, so I don't think, well, maybe I've not been looking, right? right? I can't say, honestly, oh, I've had signs from my dads, right? I can't. That would not be true because I, or certainly that's not the language I would have used or would use now. Like, I don't think I've been looking for them. I don't think I've been asking for them. But I still feel my dad's around. And even if it's just simplistically, this idea that, well, I spent all those years with dads, Like, his ethos and who he is as a person is ingrained and infused within me. You know, people see so many similarities with me and my dad. You know, our manner, how we make jokes, right?

Of course, you know, I would have learned a lot of that from dad just growing up and being around him, right? So you absorb that when you're a little kid. Yeah. Right. So whether I can go around and see my dad now and touch his skin or not, which I can't, the kind of weird thing is, over the last few years, I feel more. more and more that dad is around, that he is a part of me in everything that I do. Yeah.

So I guess that's, I've, I haven't looked at my dad's death through the lens of signs, yet I still feel my dad is around me. Yeah. But you are, your relationship with Robin has evolved, I guess, in a different way, right? Yeah. So, well, I wanted to ask you, do you have conversations with him in your head? no i don't think i do because that's part of my my journey as well and um a lot of other people say they sense a presence i have had that but it's not a big part of my journey a lot of people

say that their loved ones visit them in their dreams i've had a couple but that's not a major thing for me and robin although he often goes into my a few of my close friends um often say that they had a dream about him and tell me what the message was and stuff. So I think it's a bit of a spectrum or kaleidoscope. I don't know how to describe it of, you know, various ways in which you can experience that that person hasn't disappeared altogether. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I guess we've all got the right to experience grief in the way that we want to and anything that we can individually do to make sense of that in our own lives has value. Yeah. Oh, Tara, we've covered so many different areas. We haven't scratched the surface. I don't think of what's in your book,

The Signs, which is a riveting read. Is it something we haven't spoken about yet that is a key message that you would love to share with my audience? Yeah, and it's a bit of a challenge to you, but also to the audience, which is, could you just try this little exercise? So think of a really fond memory of your dad or like you said about jokes, a joke that you two had that only like you two knew about or would get, and then choose a symbol that represents that memory or that joke and ask for a sign and then tell me what happens. Okay. All right. Challenge accepts it. Okay. So let's let's see what happens. If anything. I mean, I have an open mind. So yeah, okay. I like that. Tara, right at the end of this conversation, I'm sure that at various times throughout this, people may have got light bulb moments in their own life. I certainly think that many people experience what you have experienced

and I've seen the comments I've spoken to you I can see how validating it is for so many people to hear someone like you with your prominence talk about this so I think you're doing a lot of people a huge service simply by talking about your experience and they can really

resonate with you through that for someone who's been listening and it's kind of leaning in going yeah I'm totally disconnected from this inner wisdom, right? I don't know what I think. I've had a difficult life.

Fear is what was behind all my decision-making. I don't know if something's coming from my heart or from my trauma, but I want to move forward in my life. I want to start trusting myself again. I want to start tuning in again, but I don't know where to start. What would you say to them?

I'm going to go right back to pretty much where we started this conversation. and talk about that time in nature that we were both drawn to at difficult times, you've made me realise even more today how, not just crucial, but sort of how much of a boost it gives people. And I really, you know, want to sort of,

obviously I love people to listen to podcasts, but not doing anything else when you're doing that walking in nature, that will give you the key to your inner wisdom. Spending time with yourself in nature. Yeah. And you'll start to realize stuff about yourself.

You didn't know before. Yeah. Tara, thank you for coming back on the show. Thanks. Thank you for writing the signs. I'm delighted to see what a positive reception is getting. And I look forward to the next time you come back. Thank you.

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