Good Life Project - Build your Good Life Roadmap | New Beginnings Pt 1
Episode Date: January 2, 2025Unlock the path to your best year yet with this powerful "good life buckets" framework. Learn how to design a personalized roadmap that fills your vitality, connection, and contribution buckets for ex...traordinary fulfillment in 2025. Jonathan Fields guides you through insightful exercises to set intentional focuses, build meaningful habits, and vividly envision an abundant life - paving the way for more joy, deeper relationships, and purposeful impact.Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode:You can find the 1-page worksheet HERE.Find all of the New Beginnings: Redesigning Your Life in 2025 episodes.Listen to Jonathan's What to Do in the Next 2 Years to Set Up Your Next 20 | The 2×20 Project™Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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So here's my question for you. What would it take to make this year amazing? Even if you think
that is totally impossible. A number of years ago, I found myself sitting at my desk. It was
January 1st. And in front of me was a blank journal page. Actually, to be honest, it was a
blank page in my notes app. And in my heart, a mix of excitement and also,
if I'm really being honest, overwhelm started to flood in. I just wanted this year to be,
quote, the year. The year I felt more alive, more connected, more aligned, big things happening.
But as I stared at that empty notes page, I had no idea where to start. Even though
I had a lot of things happening and in the mix, I didn't know where to begin. I had been here before
setting lofty goals that oftentimes faded by March or letting time slip by without direction and
having multiple projects
that just kept compounding and compounding and overlapping
and all of a sudden,
nothing that I really wanted to happen
was happening at least in the way and in the time
that I wanted it to happen.
So maybe that sounds familiar to you.
That was the moment I realized
I didn't need to figure everything out all at once.
I just needed a basic framework
to guide me. And today I want to share that framework with you. So welcome to this January
series. It's a special series on Good Life Project that we're calling New Beginnings,
Redesigning Your Life in 2025. And each week this month, we're going to explore together
how to create a fresh, meaningful start one step at a time. Today, we're focusing on designing
what I would call your personal roadmap for the year ahead based on a model, really simple model,
but a really cool and powerful model that we call the good life buckets. And this isn't about overhauling your life overnight or chasing perfection. It's about
creating clarity. It's about filling your buckets, your vitality bucket, your connection bucket,
your contribution bucket. We'll get into what those are, by the way. And it's about making
small intentional choices along with some bigger visions, that really
just align with the life you want to live.
And by the end of this episode, and then the five-part series, they'll have a clear, actionable
plan to guide you through 2025.
So if you're ready, I am so excited to dive in and share this with you.
I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project. It's also the thinnest Apple Watch ever, making it even more comfortable on your wrist, whether you're running, swimming, or sleeping.
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So, before we start looking forward let's take a few moments to reflect on the year that we have
just lived it has been quite a year for so many of us and reflection is so powerful because
it reveals patterns what fills our buckets what drains them and what really matters to us
now in a moment i'm going to ask you to us. Now, in a moment, I'm going
to ask you to grab a notebook or open a notes app on your phone, whatever is really the easiest way
for you to just jot down some thoughts. And I'm going to guide you through a short reflection
exercise. And you'll have time to do this fully after this episode. But for now, just listen and
let these prompts kind of sink in. But before we get there, let's take a few minutes to talk about a simple yet powerful
model for a good life that I call the good life bucket.
So think of your life as being made up of three different buckets, your vitality bucket,
your connection bucket, and your contribution bucket.
Now, your vitality bucket, that's all about the state of your mind and body.
It's about optimizing them, not around perfection, by the way, but just as good as they can be,
as good as they can get, as high as they can be filled, giving your unique life circumstances,
your history, and possibilities. Now, your connection bucket,
this is all about the depth and quality of your relationships. And we know through research
that this is maybe the single most important factor in a life well lived. It's about deep
and meaningful connection with friends, with family, with chosen family. But it doesn't
stop there. It could also be about lovers or romantic partners. But it's also important to
note that the lack of these does not exclude you from filling your connection bucket. It's also
about connection to any and all beings. Now, that could include dogs, cats, llamas, horses, bugs, really anything that makes you
feel connected in a way that nourishes you.
It can also mean your sense of connection to environments, to nature, to trees, earth,
wind, water, fire.
And if it's a part of your belief system, a connection to something larger than you,
whether you call that a field, universe, God, or any other identifier, that's less the issue.
It's more about just that felt sense of being connected to something bigger. And finally,
filling your connection bucket is about being connected to yourself. Something that so many of us have
forgotten along the way. Knowing who you are, knowing what matters to you, knowing what is
true for you and to you. And then finally, that brings us to your contribution bucket.
Now, many people equate this bucket with work. They kind of call it the work bucket.
And when they say that, they often mean, well, it's the thing I get paid to do, you know,
my job.
But it's really bigger than that.
It's about how to contribute to the world, to those people, to those communities, cultures,
environments, and experiences all around you and within you.
So sure, you may spend much of your time doing this through the vehicle of your job or your
own practice or your own endeavor or business, if that's your bent. But it could also be a devotion,
like being a primary caretaker, a companion, or a volunteer, or anything else.
Bigger picture, it's about investing effort in a way that makes you feel truly alive.
And filling this bucket, it's about doing things that give you a sense of meaning and purpose,
a sense of energy and excitement, ease and flow, and that feeling like you're leveraging all that you have to offer,
your full potential. There's nothing being left off to the side. And now here's the deal.
When all three buckets are full, your life is good, like really good. When those buckets are
topped off, your life is pretty amazing. When any one of your three good life buckets runs low, you start to feel the
pain, maybe even start to suffer. When any two of your good life buckets run low, the pain worsens,
the suffering broadens and deepens. And when all three run low, life in general just feels stunningly hard.
And if all three entirely run out, then honestly, so do you.
Now this is important to know because all three buckets, they actually leak.
It's just the way it is. It's not a good thing or a bad thing.
It's the nature of your good life buckets.
They leak.
So over time, if you don't keep doing a little something to fill them
on a regular basis, the natural process is for them to run dry. They don't just automatically
refill themselves. And one other thing to know, all three good luck buckets,
they kind of speak to each other. They influence each other. And in fact, on any given moment,
the height of your least full bucket
will limit the capacity of your other two buckets.
And this makes a lot of sense.
I'll give you an example.
If your vitality bucket, let's say, is a five out of 10,
it's half full or half empty,
depending on whether you're an optimist or a pessimist,
you probably won't have
the energy or the focus or the mindset to be able to effectively then turn around and really fill
your contribution bucket. You just won't have the wellspring of vitality to draw upon. So it will
always be capped and just never feel like you can contribute at the level that you want. Not because there's something wrong with what you're doing, but because you don't have the vitality to make it happen.
Similarly, it'll make it harder probably to show up fully in your relationships and keep you from filling your connection bucket too. So the moral here is that you can't ignore a new one bucket for too long or let it get too low
because it'll take down all of the buckets, not just that one. And along with them, the very life
you want to live. So it's not about saying, I'm just going to pour myself into work for the next
decade of my life or for this year, I'm going to make 2025 the big contribution year and I'll deal with the other two with vitality and relationships
and connections. I can take care of that later. It doesn't work that way. You can't just let the
other buckets go. It's a practice of filling them all regularly. So the practice is to regularly check in with each bucket. I often do
this once a week. Assess where it is, how full or empty. You can give it a score if you want.
I often literally give it a score from one to 10. And then based on what you're seeing,
do a little something to keep topping off the buckets that are lower than you'd like.
So those are the good life buckets. Now let's drop back into that reflection exercise for 2024
so we can wrap up that year and start focusing on the new beginnings and build that roadmap for 2025 to be as effective and honest as possible.
So take a moment now, and I want you to consider a few prompts. And again, you can just listen to
this for now. And what we'll do also with each episode in this series is we will include a little
downloadable cheat sheet. You can find a link to be able to just download that for free
in the show notes.
So you can listen along and then know
that you'll have kind of like a little mini cheat sheet
for this episode.
You don't have to write all this stuff down
that you can reflect on after we're done
for all the prompts.
So here we start.
At this moment,
what is the level of each of your three good life buckets? Give them a score from one, which is basically empty, to 10, which is totally full, brimming over. No shame, by the way, no matter what your scores are, just remember, we can change it. This is just a snapshot. It's a moment in time and we can change
it dramatically, often in a relatively short amount of time when you really start caring about it.
It's just about being honest about where we're beginning so we can see change over time.
Great. Now let's move on to some of the other prompts. So starting with your vitality bucket, what were the biggest
wins in your vitality bucket in your physical and mental wellbeing in 2024, in the year that
we've just closed the books on? Take a moment and just close your eyes and kind of reflect back.
You can literally go month by month, if that helps, kind of flipping through your calendar,
or you can go season by
season, or if just things immediately jump out to you and pop out and say, oh, I know right away,
that's totally cool too. Let's move on to the next prompt. What about your connection bucket?
What about the relationships that brought you joy or growth? So note those, what were those? What
were the biggest wins in the context of the
relationships, the connections that brought you joy or growth and filled that connection bucket
the most in the year behind us? And finally, the last prompt here, your contribution bucket,
work or activities that made you feel alive, purposeful, and aligned, right? Think about what were the big
ones? What were the big bucket fillers in the year behind you for your contribution bucket?
Now, it's all fun and games to kind of think about, like, what were the big wins here? The
big bucket fillers, the things that just filled them and made me feel just so alive and connected
and vital. That's important to note.
But we also want to address the other side of this, the drainers. Now, think about where you
felt drained or unfulfilled in each one of these three buckets too. What were the significant
things that maybe led a little bit out of your vitality bucket and then do the same thing for your connection bucket,
same thing for your contribution bucket.
Maybe in your vitality bucket,
there was something going on with your state of mind
or something happening in your health.
It doesn't matter whether this was in your control
or not right now.
We just want to kind of identify it.
Maybe in your connection bucket,
there's a friendship that kind of just fell away. It wasn't intentional, but you notice that if you're
really thinking about it, this friendship really mattered to you. When it's being fed, it truly
does help fill your connection bucket. And you just didn't pay as much attention to it, or maybe
just kind of organically fell away. Maybe in your contribution, you found yourself drifting
from the type of work that truly nourishes you. So think about this in the context, what were the
things, the significant things that drained each one of these buckets in the year behind us?
And then one final question here, as we just reflect on that year,
what do you wish had been different? What do you wish had been different? What would you have made different had you been intentional and had the agency to do
so in the moment?
So take a moment to absorb what's coming up for you.
This reflection, it's not about judging yourself.
It's just about learning.
Once you've identified what's worked and what didn't, you can start making intentional
changes. And that lets us
turn the page now and step into our new beginnings roadmapping process for this year to come.
And we want to start out by setting intentions for 2025. So now that we've reflected, let's set
an intention for the year ahead. Now, intentions are kind of like a compass.
They guide your actions and help you stay aligned with what truly matters.
And there are a lot of different ways to set intentions or explore them,
but here's how we're going to do this.
For each of your three good life buckets,
now you see why I wanted to lay out the buckets right up front,
because we're going to use these as a powerful model for everything that we're doing here today.
For each of your good life buckets, write one simple sentence that captures what you want to
prioritize in the context of that bucket in 2025. So I'll give you some examples here. For example, in your vitality bucket,
your intention might be, I will nurture my energy and resilience by prioritizing rest and regular
movement. Or maybe it's just one of those. For your connection bucket, maybe your intention is,
I will reconnect to my closest friend by spending more meaningful time with them.
Maybe for your contribution bucket, I will focus on work that truly fuels my creativity and joy.
So don't overthink it too much. We tend to default to the analytical when we think about
things like these. Like, let me make a list of pros and cons. And let me like, let me really, let me think my way through this.
Let me rationalize my way through this.
And that's helpful.
But honestly, once we start doing that,
we tend to drift into, you know,
like the domain of what we think our intentions should be.
What is socially appropriate?
What are we supposed to actually have as intentions
for our connections, for our vitality and our contribution,
rather than just taking a breath, getting a little bit quiet, pausing, forgetting about what anyone
else wants for you or you think you should be intending for the year to come. Closing your eyes if you want,
so you can tune up everyone else.
And just sitting with and seeing what comes up for you
in the context of my vitality bucket.
What is my intention?
What is my intention?
In the context of my connection bucket,
what is my intention? Intuitively, what is coming up for me? What do I really, really want? And for my contribution bucket, same thing. This isn't about anybody else. that are anyone but yours, the entire process falls apart. Because then again, we are spending
the next year living into the expectations of somebody other than ourselves. And so many of
us have spent so much of our lives already doing that. Isn't it time to just leave that behind
and step into the domain of you living into your own expectations and intentions.
So take a beat.
If you want, you can literally hit pause and do this right now.
Or you can just circle back to it.
You can download that little cheat sheet
and walk through this after this particular episode.
So when you're ready, we'll move on to then building on this to start thinking about building
your roadmap.
And we're going to break it down by each of the three buckets.
We'll take them one at a time.
So now that you have a clear sense of what you want to prioritize intention-wise, let's
take this one bucket at a time, starting with vitality. Because if your mind and body aren't functioning
in an optimal way, everything else becomes harder. And I think we have all experienced that. I know
I have, especially probably over the last five years or so. There have been significant moments
where my mind and my body, and sometimes both together,
and we know, by the way, now that there is no separate mind and body. It's a seamless feedback
mechanism that there have been times where they've gone a little bit off the rails and it has really
taken a hit on me. So we're going to start there with your vitality bucket. Now remember, your vitality bucket, it's all about how you care for your physical and mental
self, your energy if you want.
Imagine what it would feel like to just wake up every morning with a sense of strength
and calm, a sense of ease, a sense of peace of mind, of being able to actually energetically, physically, psychologically,
emotionally, spiritually, if that's part of your belief system, move into your days feeling
completely dialed in, ready to take on the day. This is what your vitality bucket is about. So here's what I want you to do. Pick one small
habit to build in the first quarter of 2025. Maybe it's going for a 10-minute walk after lunch or
drinking a glass of water when you wake up, turning off your devices 30 minutes before bed.
Really can be simple. And by the way, in part four of this
five-part series, we're going to talk in detail about creating life-changing habits and how to
actually do this. So be sure you follow Good Life Project so you're not going to miss any of those
key episodes in this five-part series, right? Maybe you're going to schedule weekly renewal time for activities that recharge
you like yoga or reading or a nature walk. Protect this time as sacred. So we want to just think
about this, you know, and really consider what would it be for me if I think about the first
quarter of 2025, and we're not even going to plan out the whole year right now because oftentimes I think
that feels so intangible and impossible.
In a world where it feels like things are changing so rapidly, it feels like a year
can be a timeline that almost nobody can actually effectively anticipate or make happen.
So we're going to focus on quarters here, at least for now.
In the rest of the series, by the way, we've got really cool insights on goal achievement, on habits, on confidence, and
not forsaking the moments and the days as we move into and make this roadmap happen.
So another example, let's say when we're focusing on the vitality bucket here.
I remember someone once telling me about how they started their mornings with five minutes of stretching and deep breathing. And that tiny
habit, tiny little habit, literally five minutes, you think to yourself, how could five minutes make
a difference? That tiny habit transformed the energy and it led them to build more positive
habits over time, what's called often habit stacking. Because once you do one little
thing, then over time, you start to see yourself as I'm the type of person who does X, right?
And it starts to shift not your behavior, but your sense of identity. And once that identity
starts to shift, then all these other habits start to become much more native to us. And we'll talk about that a lot more
in our habits episode. Small shifts create big changes. So for me, one of the things this year
was, or last year actually, I want to spend more time in nature, hiking. I am just stunningly
fortunate to, for the last four years now, live in Boulder, Colorado, where I have incredible access to nature, to trails,
literally minutes out my front door. Interestingly enough, in the early days, especially here,
I wasn't taking advantage of it nearly as much as I could have. And you would think,
but it's literally right there. Dude, what is wrong with you? I mean, you live in a place where
it's stunningly beautiful. You have incredible access to nature. People literally travel from around the world to
come and do nature where you are. And you're sitting at your desk in your studio, just kind
of like jamming. And I started to ask myself the exact same question. I was like, this is a little
bit nutty. And especially because I love nature.
But I had to remind myself of that and how important it was and how it made me feel.
So last year, one of my intentions and one of my sort of like Q1 things that became something that
continued through the whole year was to simply spend more time in nature last year. And that
showed up as a commitment to hiking. And the commitment was to hiking at least three days a week.
Now, for me, that ended up,
when I tracked this on some of my various apps,
I ended up hiking and almost doubling my steps in nature
across not just the first quarter.
By the way, the first quarter of the year
is winter here in the mountains. So there's often a lot of snow, but I was still getting out there and just
loving it and enjoying it. So again, we'll talk a lot more about how to actually create these
changes in different ways throughout the month, large and small over the course of this series.
So be sure you're following Good Life Project so you don't miss any of those episodes in the series.
But this is really just about,
we're doing the roadmapping exercise here.
We're thinking about the first quarter of 2025
and breaking it down in terms of the buckets
and simple behaviors that we want to make happen.
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So let's move on then to the second bucket, your connection bucket.
This is all about nurturing your relationships.
Our relationships are literally the heart of a good life. We have had so many folks
on the podcast over the last, I can't believe this is going on 14 years now that we have been doing
this good life project thing. And researchers, scientists who have gone deep into the science
of flourishing and living a good life. And so many of them have shown that the data tells us that relationships,
and it doesn't have to be tons of relationships,
but genuine, deep, honest relationships
are such a critical part of a life well lived.
So how can you either begin new ones
or deepen the ones that matter most in 2025?
That's what we're going to look at in terms of
starting to do things in the first quarter of 2025 that fill your connection bucket.
So create a little bit of a connection calendar for Q1. Q1 being, you know, like this talk for
the first quarter of 2025, right? So January to March.
And here's what I invite you to do. Schedule one action each week to nurture one relationship.
Maybe it's a phone call. Maybe it's a handwritten note or a coffee date. Maybe it's literally just
a text saying, hey, I was thinking about you. How are you?
When you're with folks, focus on active listening.
Choose one person you want to show up for more fully in the first quarter of this year to come.
When you're with them, practice asking open-ended questions
and reflecting back what they say, right?
So it's a matter of first, every week,
schedule one way to connect
with someone that you care about.
It can be reconnecting with somebody
who is already in your orbit
or maybe attending a dinner to meet somebody new.
But it's basically one simple connection practice
on a weekly basis.
So that's over a three-month period.
We're talking about just 12 times,
literally 12 moments of connection over three months.
You can do that.
I can do that.
We can all do that, right?
There's kind of no excuse not to be able to do that.
And when you do it, don't just tag them and say,
okay, connected, got my like, check that box. I got
one out of 12 and now two out of 12 and now three out of 12. Actually set aside the time and your
attention, what we call exquisite attention to be deeply present for that other person during the
time that you're with them. That may just be 10 minutes and that's fine. But make that 10 minutes, 10 minutes where you're truly there. You're invested in the conversation, in the interaction,
in the person. Listen, ask questions and be there for them. So I remember somebody once sharing
how they created a family game night as a way to actually do this. And it was a really fun tradition.
And literally like once a week,
they started just having their family sit down. It was after dinner. And oftentimes dinner doesn't happen as a family these days for so many people because life is just like crazy busy.
But they did it in a way where they said, okay, so literally one night a week, this is our
commitment. We're going to do this. And they had a family game night and different people could pick the game and it was transformative. That simple act
became a pillar of joy and togetherness. For me, over the last year, we have instituted a couple
of different mechanisms for this. I'll give you some more examples to just kind of seed some ideas for you
as you're thinking about,
okay, so what are some of the things
I might do for my connection bucket?
We started doing Sunday morning check-ins
with my wife, Stephanie, and I,
where we would literally use the good life buckets
as a check-in mechanism for each of us
where we basically sit there
and we have a cup of coffee with us
and we say, okay, so tell me about your vitality bucket.
How's it been this week? And then we'd each share. And then tell me about your connection bucket.
How's it been this week? And we'd each share. And your contribution bucket, how we'd each share.
It was a beautiful moment of connection. Sometimes it would end up going hours because we had a lot
to talk about. And it was so incredible to be able to actually create that time to do it.
Sometimes it was just a few minutes. There just wasn't a whole lot going on. Things were pretty
okay. But it was the regular mechanism, knowing that we were going to do this once a week,
that has become so powerful for both of us. So I also have my own thing that I've been doing
pretty regularly, which is committing to just seeing a friend in person on a weekly basis.
I find that being in person with people, it's just a very different experience.
I love to be physically present with my good friends, my chosen family, right?
It makes a real difference for me.
And I find that it makes a much bigger difference than
being in contact by you know like a video call or by phone i still do that on a regular basis
and i love it especially because a lot of my friends are all over the world these days
but being physically present with somebody and where i am it's often over coffee more often it's
actually hiking in the mountains so literally being physically present with a good friend
in nature as we're
moving our bodies for anywhere from an hour and a half to a couple of hours is just a beautiful way
to both fill our vitality buckets and connection buckets simultaneously. And that brings us to
the contribution bucket, right? So remember, what we're doing here is we set just really, really basic core
intentions for each of the three buckets. And now we're going bucket by bucket and we're thinking
about, okay, so for the first quarter of 2025, what are some simple things that we can do on a
repeated basis to fill this bucket, right? And we're talking about pretty simple, straightforward
things right here. In upcoming episodes in this series, by the way, we're talking about pretty simple, straightforward things right here.
In upcoming episodes in this series, by the way, we're going to talk about some really cool big things that are potentially going to take the better part of a year also and build a different
aspect of this road map. But here we're just kind of, we're keeping it simple to get you going
because I don't want this to feel overwhelming to you in any way. We're talking
about things that anybody can do using this simple model of the good life buckets because
it just kind of helps create clarity around where we're investing our energy.
Okay, so the contribution bucket. This is about aligning your work with your purpose and work
defined really broadly. Contribution is about doing work or activities
on investing yourself and your energy
in a way that lights you up.
So what would it look like
to end the first quarter of this year
and eventually the entire year
feeling proud of what you built
or how you've showed up more fully,
how you've said yes to
more activities that let the real you take the lead or contribute to the lives of people or
communities, environments that you genuinely care about. So we found over time that one of the single
most powerful ways to do this is through the vehicle of what we call the sparkotypes. This is a different body
of work that we've been developing for about six or seven years now, where we've identified a set
of fundamental impulses that exist for all people, where when you invest effort or energy
in alignment with these impulses, it gives you the feeling of meaningfulness and purpose and
energy and excitement and losing time to flow and feeling like you're being fully expressed.
And in 2018, we actually developed and released an assessment called the Sparketype Assessment
that you can take. We'll drop a link to that if you want to take it in the show notes.
That will tell you what your sparkotype is or your sparkotype profile.
You get three different elements of your sparkotype and it can be incredibly helpful in
understanding how to fill your contribution bucket because it helps you understand how do I invest
myself? How do I exert energy and effort in a way that doesn't just make a difference for others, but gives me that feeling
that I so deeply want to feel, meaning, purpose, mattering, joy, possibility, energy, excitement,
all those things. So if you haven't taken the assessment yet, by the way, go ahead and click
the link. You don't have to do it right now, but at least at the end of this episode, please go do
that. It's available online. Anybody can do it. And you will discover your sparkotype assessment. And for a lot of people, the response is it's
somewhere between profound validation and a revelation. And I think it'll be incredibly
helpful for you in understanding what actions to take to fill your contribution bucket,
not just for the first quarter of 2025, but the second and
third, and then literally your entire life after that. So let's talk about some action steps,
some prompts here. What I'd love you to do, again, opening move here, take the sparkotype assessment,
discover your sparkotype profile if you haven't yet done that. After that,
take a couple of moments and see if you can identify one meaningful project for the first quarter or the first half of the year that's more realistic for you. Something that aligns with your
sparkotype and lets you center that type of work in what you're doing. Then take a little bit more time and see if you can map out
the skills or resources that you'll need to create a plan to access these, whether it's taking a
class or connecting with a mentor. And maybe these are skills that you already have. We actually have
a name for this. When you actually have a certain set of skills that are well aligned with your sparkotype, that sort of like you're really good at something that also
makes you come alive, we call these your spark super skills. So see if you can tease those out.
And if you feel like you actually don't have a ton of skills in domains that would be well aligned
with your sparketype, that
may be an incredible sign to, or an invitation for you to say, huh, like, I wonder what it
would be like to explore acquiring some of these skills, to actually start to do some
work to get good at the type of thing that makes me come alive.
Because maybe your job isn't actually that thing or it's
not giving it to you. But you'd like to find yourself transitioning into something that is
much more enlivening and you want to feel confident and competent and good at it. So
explore these ideas along the way as you're doing this, as you're exploring, right? Identifying
something that might be a meaningful project for the first half of the year that aligns well with
your spark types that lets you center them and invest yourself that way and maybe build
skills and competence around it.
Also, don't forget, celebrate the small wins.
So what I want you to do is think about what is a really simple reward system for hitting
milestones like finishing a project or learning
a new skill. By the way, in next week's New Beginnings episode, it will be the second
episode in this series, we're going to give you an astonishingly powerful framework to do just that
for goal achievement, large and small. That's pretty unique and really designed to fit real life.
So I remember somebody actually coming to me not too long ago who felt really stuck in their
corporate job, started carving out literally just 20 minutes a day to write because they felt like
their sparkotype actually was the maker, which is all about making ideas manifest, which happens to be my primary sparkotype as well. And they had a real bent in doing that through the vehicle of writing, but it just wasn't a meaningful part of their lives, whether it ever was the thing they got paid to do or not. They just knew that it gave them a feeling that was so good that they wanted to be doing it on
a regular basis. So they literally just decided to carve out 20 minutes a day to write. By the
end of the year, it actually launched an entire website that eventually became something much more substantial, you know, and it deeply aligned
with who they were. For me, last year was a really interesting year in this context,
in the contribution bucket context. You know, I started something that I call my two by 20.
So I hit 58 the year before actually, and spitting distance from 60.
And I had this sense that when I had that big milestone birthday a couple of years in the future, that I was going to want to transition into a next season of contribution.
And I started looking at what I was doing.
And I started saying to myself, really assessing and saying, okay, some of this I love. Some of it, it's fine, but not so much. And I started asking
myself, what do I want to bring forward? What do I want to leave behind? But maybe also what do I
want to keep but change in some meaningful way? And what might I want to start or build that is
entirely new that might
help define this next substantial season of contribution, which I kind of look at as my 20,
my 20-year window between like 60 plus, however long I'm fortunate enough to keep
contributing in a meaningful way. So I ask this critical question, what can I learn, do, or build over the next two years that would
allow me to center significance, simplicity, and joy in the next 20 years of contribution and also
of life? Now for me, the two by 20, two years of experimentation to set up the next 20,
that worked for me. It made sense for me. For you, it might be one year and
three years or one year and five years or 10 years, whatever feels good to you.
But the framework has been incredibly powerful because it allowed me to start running experiments.
In fact, I did an entire podcast a few months back about the two by 20 framework, how I
choose and evaluate experiments, how I structure it, how I think
about it.
So we'll include a link to that in the show notes if you want to listen in.
And if you're moving into a window that feels like a window of meaningful transition, especially
in the contribution bucket of your work, I absolutely implore you, I think it'll be
incredibly eye-opening and give you some structure around how to do this in a bigger picture
way.
So these are just some examples of ideas of how to potentially explore filling your contribution bucket, right? So let's kind of zoom the lens out a little bit here and bring it all together
into a bit more of a coherent, clear roadmap and vision for your year.
And this is where, you know,
you're going to do some thinking,
some feeling, and some writing.
And the exercise here, the invitation,
is to start to write out your roadmap.
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So think about this on a single page.
Now, if you have, if you're doing this online or if you're using a notes app, I'm not entirely
sure what the definition of a single page is going to be there, but it shouldn't be mad long. It should be detailed, but also not, you know,
this should not be a short story that is 20 pages, a couple of pages at the most.
So think about it as a single page, a couple of pages at the most. And you can start out by
writing your one sentence intention for each bucket.
Remember, we started out this conversation by doing that, right? So you start out with that
simple sentence. What is my single intention for the year to come for this bucket? Then
we're going to move into for each one of your three buckets, vitality, connection, contribution,
what is your Q1 or first quarter focus, right?
And we just walk through how to think about the focus on a sort of a quarterly basis for
each one of these.
Again, it's a small enough chunk of time so that it feels doable, but it's big enough
so that you can experience real change. You can really, You can move the needle in each one of these buckets. You can meaningfully
fill each one of them by committing to doing something, to taking action.
Now, here's what I want you to add to this when we're doing this writing exercise, right? I want you to then think about quarters two to four, right?
So we kind of started out with the January to March. Now go March to June and then go through
the third quarter and then go through the fourth quarter, all four seasons if that's easier for you,
more poetic, right? Less business aid, less Q1 to Q4 and more poetic. Think about the seasons of the
year, right? So for each season, think about,
okay, so what is my simple intention?
What is my first season or Q1 focus?
I think we're just for the next three months.
And now, if I can imagine out even farther,
I'm going out through the next three seasons
or Q2 to four.
What would be the focuses of those when I think about each one
of the three buckets, if I think about the context of a whole year? Still, I want you to keep it
simple and actionable because if you start to make it really complex, it's just not going to happen.
This we know from tons of research. So now we're going to take this writing
and we're going to turn it into some guided visioning for 2025.
So here's what I want you to do.
Once you've done this exercise,
and again, you can circle back to this
and then you can replay this part of this episode if you want.
Now, take a nice big breath in,
and exhale, settling into your seat again.
Take a few breaths and just let your body settle,
let your mind settle, close your eyes.
And now I want you to imagine it's December 31st, 2025.
Your vitality bucket is just brimming over.
It is fuller than full.
Your connection bucket is overflowing. It is just completely rich with abundance.
Your contribution bucket is absolutely topped off.
Right?
You feel alive.
You feel centered.
You feel at peace.
You feel strong.
You feel resilient.
You feel flexible and fluid.
You feel deeply connected to people, to cultures, to environments, to beings that genuinely
matter to you.
You feel like you're investing your energy, yourself, in a way that truly brings you to
life.
You feel alive and connected and aligned.
Picture now the details, not just the buckets, but the details.
In each context, who's with you?
What are you doing?
How do you feel?
Where are you?
The more detail, the better. How do you feel? Where are you?
The more detail, the better.
Bring movement to it.
Bring emotion to it.
Bring senses to it.
What does it smell like?
What does it sound like?
What does it look like?
What does it taste like?
What does it feel like? What does it look like? What does it taste like? What does it feel like? December 31st,
every bucket is just exploding with abundance. Detail it as much as you can.
And then just take a moment to savor that vision. Now open your eyes and write down as much of that as you can remember.
If it's easier for you to just take a voice memo and just speak it all, that's fine too.
Whatever mode is accessible to you, access that and record as much of this vision as you can.
Now, we're going to get a little bit more granular here.
For each bucket, write a short paragraph or speak a short paragraph,
again, whatever is accessible to you,
describing what full looks like in 2025.
For example, it could be really simple here. In my vitality bucket, right?
I wake up each day feeling strong and calm,
at peace, centered, focused, hopeful,
filled with possibility,
fueled by daily movement,
immersion in nature, and good food and good sleep.
In my connection bucket, I'm picturing myself with just deep, rich, strong relationships,
deep and joyful relationships with my wife, with my daughter, with my family,
with my chosen family, with my friends, with my environment around me. Build on time,
rich time, deeply present, exquisitely attentive time together.
Same thing for my connection bucket. I can envision myself just pouring myself into work each day for
me i happen to know that writing is something that i want to take an even bigger place in my
life in the year to come and moving into a different type of writing so i see myself doing
that a couple of hours every day and then making some of those shifts, moving through my two by 20, starting
some new things, which are starting to bubble up now. And I'm getting so excited about actually
breathing life into them in the year to come. And I'm picturing myself, you know, December
31st, 2025, and the state of those things in the context of my contribution bucket and how
amazing and gorgeous and rich and full
and abundant they feel to me.
And it feels good.
It feels good.
So we want to have this.
Now, final word as you're thinking about this here.
You may not have absolute clarity
on the details of these visions now.
In fact, you almost definitely won't.
And that is 100% okay.
If you don't know exactly what you're going to be working on,
who you're going to be deepening into,
or exactly what parts of your vitality you want to feel differently on,
simply get a vision around the qualities of those things.
I want to feel loved and deeply connected. And like, there are people where if I'm struggling or if I'm celebrating, I have people that I can pick up the phone, that I can hug, that I can reach out to just know the general qualities of what that feels like when that bucket is full. We don't have to have all the details now. That's okay.
But create a vision. Make it as visceral, as sensory as you can, both generally and then for
each individual bucket. And again, we'll have these instructions in a cheat sheet for you,
so you can go back to it after this particular episode. So as we wrap up this first episode, remember that
your roadmap, this new beginnings roadmap centered around the good life buckets,
it is not about perfection. It's about direction. It's about creating a life where your buckets are fuller, your days are more joyful,
and your actions align with what matters most to you. So take maybe 30 minutes this week.
If you want to go longer, that's totally fine. But set aside just a half hour out of your entire
week to complete the ideas, the invitations that we've shared today.
And then if you're inclined, if you feel good about it, share it with someone you trust
and revisit it regularly to stay aligned and inspired.
Now, in the next four parts of this five-part New Beginning series, we're going to dive into a lot more detail
on how to actually make these things happen. Big picture, big brand things, and little picture,
tiny day-to-day habit things. We'll explore a game-changing approach to choosing and achieving
big, meaningful goals and visions. We'll talk about building the confidence to take action and make them happen.
We'll talk about how to identify those habits
that'll actually help you fill each bucket
and make both every day feel better
and the bigger vision happen
and actually make those habits a regular part of your life.
And then we'll wrap this five-part new beginning series
with a deep dive on how to be present and intentional in all the tiny moments and the
hours and the days and how to savor them along the way rather than sacrificing them in the name
of something bigger and forgetting that all the touch points along the way are equally, if not more important.
So if you haven't already followed Good Life Project in your preferred place to listen or
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part New Beginnings series. The best version of 2025 is waiting for you. Together, we're going to craft it so that
it becomes your reality. Let's make it extraordinary. One step, one choice, one day at a time. Thanks.
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