Good Life Project - How Homesteading Can Change Your Life | Jill Winger

Episode Date: September 21, 2023

Ever wonder what living a truly grounded, meaningful life looks like in our fast-paced world? My guest Jill Winger did too. Her journey into modern homesteading not only changed her life, it sparked a... movement guiding thousands back to their roots. Jill shares why old-fashioned traditions like growing your own food and working with your hands reconnect us to what humans need. In her new book, Old-Fashioned on Purpose: Cultivating a Slower, More Joyful Life she offers honest wisdom on seeking balance between rural living and reality, pushing through struggles to find beauty, and taking small steps to cultivate a slower, more joyful life - no matter where you live.You can find Jill at: Website | Instagram | Old Fashioned On Purpose podcast | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Natalie Baszile on the history and contribution of Black farmers in America. Check out our offerings & partners: My New Book SparkedMy New Podcast SPARKED. To submit your “moment & question” for consideration to be on the show go to sparketype.com/submit. Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 One of the questions I get most often is like, how do I start this homestead thing? I'm not going to move to Wyoming like you did. So what do I do? And I always start with the food. I especially love growing something. It could be a tiny garden in your backyard. It could be a garden on the windowsill. If you live in an apartment, you could put some stuff on your balcony if you have one. Because just the mere act of growing something, of creating a deeper relationship with nature, of getting your hands in soil, it does something for us as humans. It changes us. And I feel like if I can just get people to take that first step, then I know nature does the rest. This collection of skills and just this way of moving through life is really important. It carries a lot of the pieces that
Starting point is 00:00:39 keep us human, that keep us content, that keep us mentally healthy. We got to have a way to weave these pieces back into everyone's life, regardless of if they live on Anchorage or not. So have you ever wondered about just kind of running away from a lot of the madness and the complexity and the pace and the grind and the hyper-connectedness of quote modern life and finding a simpler, more ease-filled option. Or wonder what living a truly connected, grounded, meaningful life in this modern high-speed world really looks like. Or how to buck convention and expectations and find true contentment outside of society's
Starting point is 00:01:19 prescribed paths. Well, my guest today, Jill Winger, did exactly that. And her unplanned journey into the world of what she calls modern homesteading, it not only changed her life, it touched a nerve when she started sharing it and sparked a movement guiding thousands back to their roots. Jill has become a leading voice in modern homesteading. She describes what that is in our conversation, bringing together the wisdom of rural farm life and old-fashioned approaches to work and life with a modern context and tools and applications to really help us see things differently, reclaim a sense, not just a rural lifestyle, which is something that you can port to any situation. We explore pillars like growing your own food, working with your hands, and building real community, and what she really means by these things and how it's truly accessible to anyone, anywhere. And she shares why these and other traditions reconnect us to what humans inherently need. And for Jill, her experience buying a farm and
Starting point is 00:02:32 raising a family on it, it wasn't exactly a matter of tradition. In fact, her family, at least at first, didn't understand the choice because it was so different than both what they'd done and what they'd expected her to do. Jill opens up about navigating this decision, seeking balance from raising kids on the homestead to the harsh realities behind fulfilling dreams like opening a restaurant. She offers really honest wisdom on pushing through a lot of the messy struggles to find beauty waiting on the other side. No sugar coating, just truth. I walked away really fascinated by Jill's world, and I think you'll find inspiration and takeaways
Starting point is 00:03:10 from her lens on modern homesteading. Whether you live on a farm in a suburban neighborhood or an apartment in a high-rise in a major city, her invitation to really take small steps back to our roots stuck with me, as did her reminder that how we choose to live each day matters more than where. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project. Mayday, mayday, we've been compromised. The pilot's a hitman. I knew you were going to be fun.
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Starting point is 00:04:21 Charge time and actual results will vary. I'm fascinated by your story. And clearly, I'm not the only one who's fascinated by the decisions that you have made and what you've created around it. Because the homesteading or the modern homesteading movement has really become a movement. I mean, this is not just sort of like a couple of people saying, let's take an alternative approach to life. This has become huge. I mean, there's a giant, giant community.
Starting point is 00:04:49 So I'm so curious about it. I'm fascinated by what's behind it. I'm fascinated by your decision and your own journey. So why don't we start there, actually? Because as we're having this conversation, you're in Wyoming, not surrounded by a whole lot of people within a whole lot of miles, but this was not sort of like the early path that you were on. No, it wasn't. Yeah. It's kind of an interesting story because as you said, the homesteading movement has become a movement, especially in the last three years or so.
Starting point is 00:05:14 The pandemic really increased all the interest surrounding these old fashioned skills. But prior to that, you know, we were still very much immersed in a lifestyle. I ended up accidentally kind of starting one of the first homesteading blogs back in 2010. When I first started my own homesteading journey, I didn't even know it was called homesteading. I just had this strange pull. My intuition just told me I needed to reconnect to the land to get back to my roots. I didn't know what that meant. I didn't know what that would look like.
Starting point is 00:05:41 But I just started following those little sparks of interest. And it became this roaring flame that is now consumed my life in the very best of ways. But it's been fascinating. You know, when I first started, I didn't know anyone else, especially my age, keeping chickens, wanting to learn how to can, trying to figure out how to make cheese. Like I was such a weirdo and little did I know 10 years later, 15 years later, I'd be joined by a whole bunch of people. So a very interesting twist, but fun nonetheless. So this was 2010 when your journey into homesteading kicked off. Paint a picture of life before this. Yeah. So I was raised very conventionally, typical nineties kid, you know, just all the normal things, normal food,
Starting point is 00:06:19 lived in a little subdivision. I'd always had something in me that was a little bit abnormal in the sense that I wanted to live in the country. Like all my friends were into like the typical little girl things. And I was like, I just want land. I don't want to have party dresses and Barbie dolls. I want land. My parents were kind of like, okay, honey, that's nice. But it never left me like that. That desire always was at the forefront. You know, I got a little older and I got closer to graduation and 18 years old and everyone's like, what are you going to do with your life, Jill? And I'm going, the normal paths didn't feel right to me. They just didn't feel interesting. And so I decided to kind of get people off my back on the college discussion basically, and also take
Starting point is 00:06:59 that next step into adulthood by attending a little college in Wyoming that had an equine, like a horse training program. So I'm like, this will kind of check the boxes and I can at least be doing something I love while saying I'm going to college. So I moved to Wyoming, ended up meeting my husband, got married, you know, fast forward through all the details. And we were looking for that first starter home. And again, I didn't want to take the normal path. I've always had this desire to kind of go a little unconventional, a little off the beaten path. And we said, okay, we don't want to take the normal path. I've always had this desire to kind of go a little unconventional, a little off the beaten path. And we said, okay, we don't want the house in town with a white picket fence.
Starting point is 00:07:29 What else is there? And we ended up buying a rundown fixer-upper long before fixer-uppers were cool and long before buying a farm was cool. It was very much eyebrow-raising situation among friends and family. And that land was what prompted this next step. Yeah. I mean, I would imagine that the family is kind of feeling like, okay, so she's kind of going along the prescribed path. And then like this becomes a move, which, you know, I would imagine everyone around you started really questioning you in a really major way and the decision that you wanted to make. Absolutely. I remember one time in particular,
Starting point is 00:08:03 I was eight and a half months pregnant with our first child. We had a family barbecue down in Colorado that we were supposed to go to. And simultaneously, coincidentally, the goats that I was trying to buy were also in Colorado. So we picked up the goats, the dairy goats, drug them to the family barbecue in a very nice neighborhood in Fort Collins, Colorado. And they're like sitting in the trailer screaming because goats are loud. And we're sitting there like eating hamburgers and everyone's looking at us like, you guys have officially lost your minds. Congratulations. Like, I don't know. It was funny and it was awkward, but it just, we knew we kind of had to push back against what was normal and endure those raised eyebrows to get to where we wanted
Starting point is 00:08:41 to be. Yeah. Do you have a sense for, you know, because this was a through line, as you described from the time that you were a little kid, do you have a sense for like, what was really happening underneath that? Like what was the yearning or what was actually, what was the drive for space, for land, for something different? Like a lot of young children, I had a love for horses and it manifested for that. But I think what was actually happening, I think I was feeling at a really young age, what all humans ultimately feel, but it gets easy to ignore and buried under just the trappings of modern life. And I think we all have a yearning to be more connected to nature, to return to our roots, to become more of an active participant in our life. And for some reason, I was really tuned into that as a kid. I'm not exactly sure why, because say this is like nicely as I can, my family is not in that
Starting point is 00:09:30 same vein. My parents aren't that way, you know, necessarily my extended relatives aren't that way. So I just had that strange little spark, but I think now it's been interesting because I felt that so early, but now to see so many other humans feeling it now, it's a really neat phenomenon to watch. I just, I just had it's a really neat phenomenon to watch. I just had it maybe a little earlier than the rest. Yeah. So when you make this decision, young, married, about to have kids, did you have any skills? I mean, I'm imagining you show up, you're like, okay, so there's a farm.
Starting point is 00:09:58 It's far away from a whole bunch of people. And you show up and you're like, we just bought this. When you wake up the next morning, do you actually know what to do to make a farm run? No, not really. Definitely didn't have the perfect collection of skills. We had, both my husband and I were still in our early twenties, you know, young and kind of clueless, but we had somehow, maybe it was subconsciously, we just kind of knew we had knew we had a few random skills. So I had experience with horses, which would later serve me well dealing with large animals
Starting point is 00:10:29 like milk cows and such. I'd also been a vet tech for a while. So that gave me some just confidence with dealing with animals and medical things. My husband, he was an electrician at the time. So he was well-versed in construction, which did help us a lot in terms of, you know, this fixer-upper needed a lot of work. So we were able to build the fence ourselves and start figuring out all of that. Sorry, there's a fly. So I'm waving. So we had those random skills, but the rest we really had to fill in. And so when it came to figuring out how to milk a goat or making compost
Starting point is 00:10:58 or putting in a garden, like that was all stuff we learned on our own as we went. How do you learn that? My mind is like, do you just go to YouTube and like had to milk a cow? I think the very best way in the ideal situation is you have a mentor. You know, a lot of people in previous generations had grandparents or parents who that was the family skills. That was just part of being human was knowing how to do those food preparation things or growing food or building things. As we sit now, of course, we've lost a lot of those skills. And so I honestly didn't have mentors like people might've had in previous years. And so, like you said, it was, I didn't have YouTube, but I had books. So I would go to
Starting point is 00:11:34 the library. There was a lot of books I found from the 1970s back to the land movement, which is kind of the precursor of modern homesteading. And so they didn't have all the trendy, cute books that we have now for homesteaders. So I'd go back to those dusty 1970s volumes. And that's where I learned a ton. With things like milking the cow, I realized the best practice was to get the information from books here and there, read as much as I could, and then put the book away and go try it. And then I'd go outside and I'd realize, okay, this isn't working. I don't know why this is happening. And then I'd go back to the bookstore. I'd try to figure out who I could call. And it was that mixture of book learning, but also actually applying that knowledge immediately,
Starting point is 00:12:11 which was kind of the magic formula for me. Yeah. It's sort of like trial and error. So you've used the phrase modern homesteading a couple of times now, and we should probably just define that. So when we're talking about modern homesteading, what are we actually talking about? That's a great question. And it's a really popular one. There's a lot of definitions that float around. I use the term modern or specifically the word modern in front of homesteading just to denote that this isn't the old time homesteading movement where you got free land from the United States government. That officially is no longer in place. I think it went away in the 70s. To a lot of
Starting point is 00:12:45 people, homesteading is, oh, okay, you're getting the chickens. You're going to grow the garden. You're learning how to can. Maybe you're wearing an apron. You're looking, you know, you're trying to take on these old-fashioned skills. And I think that's a decent enough definition. I prefer a little bit deeper. And I just think of it as a way to move through the world with a higher sense of awareness and how to consciously choose a more intentional life versus the default industrial setting of our modern lives. And so that's how I define it because I don't think it's as much about how much land you own or how many farm animals you have as much as your mindset. It's interesting that you phrase it that way because I'm thinking to myself, and we'll
Starting point is 00:13:23 dive a lot deeper into some of the elements. But right away, I'm also thinking, well, if somebody's thinking, like, I'd love to bring more simplicity in my life, but I'm not going to go buy a farm. I'm not going to move out. The notion that this can be as much a mindset that you bring to a lot of what you do, in addition to the fact that you don't necessarily have to make these really big extreme moves to experience a lot of the benefits of it, that there are subtle shifts. There is more local environmental shifts and mindset shifts that can really get you to the place, or at least close to it. Yeah. And I think that's one of the most important pieces that I've seen, especially as the movement gets bigger, just acknowledging the fact that not everybody can move to the country or even wants to. But I still believe wholeheartedly that this collection of skills and just this way of moving
Starting point is 00:14:09 through life is really important. I think it carries a lot of the pieces that keep us human, that keep us content, that keep us mentally healthy. So I'm like, you know, we got to have a way to weave these pieces back into everyone's life, regardless of, you know, if they live on Anchorage or not. And that's really important to me as a homestead mentor and teacher. Let's talk about how that actually, that journey touches down because you start out on your own. This is basically like when you first make this decision with your husband, this is not about, Hey, let's like create this thing. And then we'll become a, I'll become a teacher and a mentor and start a movement. This is just your choice. It's a personal choice. This is the way you want to live your life and raise a family. But somewhere along the way, this goes from your personal choice
Starting point is 00:14:49 to, I wonder if there's something bigger that's going on here or something bigger that we could share, or maybe it's not just us. I'm curious about that evolution. Yeah. So let's see, we initially bought the farm in 2008 and then we had our first child in early 2010. And at that point I quit my job as a vet tech and I came home with her and I quickly realized I love being a mom. I loved having a newborn. I also was going stir crazy a little bit because I'm super high energy. I'm pretty type A, however you want to define that. And I just need a lot to do. And so I loved being a mother, but I'm like, okay, I did all the baby things. I did all the dishes. I washed the laundry, the diapers were changed. Like now what? And so I was in this little house out in the middle of nowhere, like
Starting point is 00:15:33 just losing my mind. And so late 2010, I started the blog, the Prairie Homestead, and it truly was just an outlet for me, just a way to express creativity. We had started, We're really diving into this homestead journey now that I was home full-time. And I wanted to talk about it. And nobody around me really cared. They thought it was still pretty weird. So I would just blabber on my blog posts about the grain meal I got, and how I was making pumpkin cream puffs, and why I bought these chickens. And so it was really just an outlet for me. I don't remember the exact timeframe, but it was maybe a year or so into that, that blogging. I had an old friend from
Starting point is 00:16:09 college message me on Facebook and she's my age. And she's like, oh my gosh, Jill, I love what you're writing about. I want to do that someday too. And I still remember where I was standing in the kitchen when I read her message. And I was like, what? Someone else would do this? Oh my gosh, I'm not the only one. And it was just this little shift in my mind of like, what if I start to help people down the same path? I'm not an expert, but I'm at least a few steps farther than someone who's just starting out. And then that idea of being able to provide value and coaching for people so they could get that same satisfaction that I was feeling just felt like it was so exciting. So I started to shift the blog post a little bit
Starting point is 00:16:48 more into like, how can this serve someone else versus just talking about my day? And that's when I really started to see that traction. Yeah. It's like, it becomes a little bit more prescriptive. So the people, you're like planting seeds. It's like, here's a little bit more of like how this can happen and inviting people in. I mean, it must've been interesting. Once you sort of like had that moment, it's funny that you literally say like, I can remember I was standing when that happened, because probably to the, like the friend that sent you a message, it was just kind of like a,
Starting point is 00:17:18 like a quick offhanded message and no big deal. Like how cool would it be? Maybe someday I could do this. And for you, it was like, it was a lightning bolt moment that just changed a lot of things. So I'm curious, I'm fascinated by the concept of sliding doors. Do you ever wonder what would have happened if like that one message never arrived? Do you think you would have still found your way to the same path? I think ultimately I would have, because I was already on that. I was already on that path. I can, I can see how it was just like this snowball of momentum. But I often do wonder, take it back a couple steps. I don't think if I would have made that initial leap to move from my childhood home that was
Starting point is 00:17:54 comfortable and safe to Wyoming, that first unorthodox choice, I think if I would have stayed put, I don't think my life would be on the same path now. And I don't think I would be near as fulfilled just knowing the sequences that took place after that choice. So yeah, it's funny when you think about like, it's like those choose your own adventure books. Do you remember those? You know, you pick this one, you pick this one. Yeah. It's fascinating to dissect that. Yeah. It's amazing. So you start to basically build out the Perry Homestead. At what point in your mind does this start to become, oh wait, there are more people and then more people and
Starting point is 00:18:26 more people. And there's something actually really substantial going on here that I want to become even more intentional about. Like this is a legitimate movement. And now maybe there's even some sort of business and impact plus business opportunity that we can build around this. I think a couple of years into, maybe two years into the blogging, two to three years, I wrote my first ebook. Ebooks were like all the rage, super cutting edge back then. And I wrote my first ebook called Your Custom Homestead. And it was like this multi-step process to do what I did. And that was my first big business move because I was charging like seven bucks for it or something.
Starting point is 00:19:08 And I had the sales page and I was promoting it and I was learning how to market. And I hit launch day and I wasn't sure it was going to happen. And that morning, the dings on my email, every single time I get a sale, I would get a ding. And it just was nonstop for hours and hours and hours. And it was so exciting. And also like, oh my gosh, like this is actually a thing. Like this is actually something that not only that people are wanting, like they actually are craving this information, but maybe this could be something that's more than just a cute little hobby I have that I do during nap time when the baby's sleeping.
Starting point is 00:19:39 So I think it was in that 2012, 2013 mark where I realized there was potential. And I also realized I really liked business. I love the homestead side of things. But there's something about entrepreneurship I had never considered before. I don't come from an entrepreneurial family. But I'm like, this is amazing. I love everything about it. And so it started these two parallel journeys, which sometimes I think people look at it
Starting point is 00:20:00 and they're like, these don't go together. You're an entrepreneur. You're a social media girl. And then you're homestead, but they just fit for some reason. And that's when I kind of started to realize I had two parts of my personality there. And I really liked both. I love that because on the surface, it does look like it's like, wait a minute, isn't supposed to be back to land simplicity, doing everything by hand. And now you're building like this mini digital empire and building a company and building a
Starting point is 00:20:23 business and building brands, which would eventually become multiple different things. The question is, I guess for you, it's just like you're a multifaceted human being. We all contain multitudes, right? And it just works for you. And I would imagine this is a choice where people would ask you, and it's like, look, this is the thing that works for me. I'm not saying this would work for anybody else, but this is the way I'm wired and I'm good with it. Yeah. And learning how to be comfortable with that. But I don't fit. It's funny because when I hang out with the hardcore homestead crowd, sometimes I don't really fully fit into that box because a lot of them are like, no phones, no technology.
Starting point is 00:21:03 And I get it. Like there's days I wish I could just ditch all of it and like, goodbye phone. I'm going off grid. But you know, so I don't really fit into that crowd. And then I go hang out with like the super successful entrepreneur mastermind crowd. And then I love it, but they're like, wait, you're going home to milk the cow. That's like really quaint. Like, oh, you're wearing cowboy boots to the, to the gathering. Like, it's just so funny because I don't fully fit into them either. I love both groups. I love that. I don't, I'm just really content being kind of a mesh of both. Yeah. I love that. You make this really interesting distinction also between, I guess what you call cottagecore versus hardcore.
Starting point is 00:21:37 Yes. That's a little bit controversial on social media sometimes. Yeah. I, I have to be careful what I say as I don't want to be like the gatekeeper or anything like that with the rise of the homestead movement, which has been wonderful in so many ways. There's also this cottage core movement. And if people aren't familiar with that, it's this idea you've probably seen the accounts or the websites or the Instagram profiles. It's they're so aesthetically pleasing and it's usually women, sometimes men, but they're wearing these, these period appropriate gowns and clothing and aprons and their hair is flying in the wind and they're out gathering eggs or they have goats frolicking along the field with them in wild flowers. And it's just beautiful. Very curated, right? Very much staged, but very curated and
Starting point is 00:22:19 very appealing. And I found that I love those accounts for their inspirational appeal, but I, when I look at my life and the homestead life I've lived now for, you know, 13 years, I'm like, there's a disconnect when I've actually lived it. So I know that those photos are beautiful and awe inspiring, but they're rarely real life. And so I try what I'm teaching and coaching. You know, I like a pretty photo just as much as the next person. And there are absolutely days here on our homestead that are just picture perfect. But I'd say there's more days when an animal dies or there's mud. We've had so much mud this year.
Starting point is 00:22:52 Or right now, I mean, there's flies. There's flies literally trying to land on my face as we talk because that's farm. Like farm and flies go together. And so I think it's important as people start to embark on a homestead journey, whether that's big or small, that they don't feel discouraged when their life doesn't look cottagecore 24-7. And I just want people to know it's okay for there to be weeds and for there to be manure and for there to be
Starting point is 00:23:13 flies sometimes. And that's just kind of part of the normal progress of the journey. Yeah. I almost feel like there's been a bit of a shift in social media over the last few years also, not just in this domain, but more generally away from the shiny, happy, perfect imagery and videos because everyone realizes that like for the most part, it's just posed, you know, like it's a moment that you set up for the camera, but also there's such a yearning for human connection and like how do we connect most through vulnerability,
Starting point is 00:23:44 through actually sharing the hardships we're going through, like our flaws, our struggles and things like that, rather than the shiny, happy, perfect life. And when you invite people into the reality, I have to imagine that that's actually more enticing and appealing because you're letting people know, you know, like this is actually real life and I'm going to be honest with you and also share like the hard side of this. And somebody else may not be living a modern homestead life, but they're going to have a hard side of their life. And that feels more relatable. Yeah. I think we humans are definitely hungry for that vulnerability. And I think, especially like you said, with, you know, we had that period of social media,
Starting point is 00:24:23 which I do feel it is shifting as well, where it was all about the perfection and the curation and the aesthetics. I know for me personally, when I create content, when I am just vulnerable and real, that is absolutely what resonates the most with people. I did a podcast a couple of weeks ago. We own a little restaurant and we had a really rough early summer with staff. Like it was just, just impossibly difficult. Yeah. Like so many restaurants. Like soibly difficult. Yeah. Like so many restaurants.
Starting point is 00:24:46 Like so many restaurants. Yeah. It's a hard time to be a restaurant owner. I had done so much speaking to this idea of building community and it's fun and it's amazing and everyone should build community, which I still believe, but I'm like, you know what? I spent so many days crying over this restaurant situation. I also need to let them see that side because I don't want them to feel blindsided if they get into a community and then it's hard. And so the episode I did was just like, hey guys, here's what happened. It was brutal. We're surviving. Here's how we're overcoming it. That silly episode got more downloads than anything I've published in months, but people are just hungry for that. And I think for anyone listening, who's a content creator,
Starting point is 00:25:21 I think that's a really important thing to remember. Yeah. I also wonder if this goes through your mind. As you're sharing that, what's coming back to me is actually a conversation that I had on the podcast a couple of years ago with this wonderful author who wrote a memoir. And a lot of it was about her mom. And when she was a young mom, her mother had set the example and told the stories of, I didn't need any help. Everything was perfect. I handled it all. I built a career and I like raised a family. And this person that I was talking to was sharing how she was really, really struggling and she needed help and she couldn't figure out how to manage it. And she came to learn later in life that her mom actually had
Starting point is 00:25:55 like full-time help. And it's almost like when you set the expectation that you can do this thing and in a very particular way, and you don't need this and that, are you maybe even causing harm or setting up a tone where, or at least you're creating an expectation that people, quote, should be able to actually do this in a particular way without help, with individualism and figure out their way through. And it's just not the reality. And it's almost like you're participating and setting others up for failure and suffering out their way through. And it's just not the reality. And it's almost like you're participating and setting others up for failure and suffering along the way. If you don't just own the fact that this is hard and we all need help along the way. Absolutely. And I think about
Starting point is 00:26:35 that a lot as I create content. And I think it often happens inadvertently. I think a lot of the creators out there don't necessarily mean for that to be the portrayal because you can't always control what people think or how they perceive you. But yeah, that's one of my biggest reasons to continue to just put it all out there, the good and the bad. I love talking about when we have brand new babies on the farm, I also will share when something dies. Because if you don't, if you only share the good, it is so isolating when you're the person,
Starting point is 00:27:01 you're watching all the influencers and you're like, oh, their lives are so amazing. And then when your stuff dies dies or your garden gets ruined, or you have bugs eating your potatoes and you're like, I'm obviously there's something wrong with me. And I think one of the most powerful messages we can tell other people is that you're not alone. You're not alone in the hard stuff. You're not alone in the mess ups and the failures. And I think that's what people really need to hear right now. Yeah, I so agree. And I think it's so powerful when you're actually willing to share that. And it's not even like you have to say you're not alone. If you just show your life, people will be like, oh, wait, I had my version of that last week.
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Starting point is 00:28:37 is all about. And I'd love to dive into some of the elements of that. One of the sort of like the opening ideas is the notion of growing your own stuff, which like, as I sit here having this conversation for the first time ever, we have like a tiny little vegetable garden in our backyard. It has been magical. You know, like every day I'm out there with my daughter and we're like checking it out and like, tell me more about like what this is about and why you think it's so important. Yeah. So one of the questions I get most often is like, how do I start this homestead thing? How do
Starting point is 00:29:08 I do the old fashioned stuff? I don't, I'm not going to move to Wyoming like you did. So what do I do? And I always start with the food and I think, you know, the food can be kitchen and that's a huge part of it. Just learning how to cook. But I especially love, like you said, growing something. It could be a tiny garden in your backyard. It could be an herb garden on the windowsill. If you live in an apartment, you could put some stuff on your balcony if you have one. Because even if you're not growing a huge percentage of your groceries, right? You're not going to offset the grocery budget that much or anything like that. Just the mere act of growing something, of creating a deeper relationship with nature, of getting your
Starting point is 00:29:45 hands in soil, it does something for us as humans. It changes us. And I feel like if I can just get people to take that first step, then I know nature does the rest. And I know the domino effect that will happen. It's a little bit sneaky on my part. I'm like, just grow the lettuce and I know what's going to happen next. You're going to love it. You're going to feel good and you're going to feel less anxiety and the soil is going to feel healing to you. And then you're going to be outside more. And then I know what's going to happen. And so there's so much there. And that's what I love to speak to is yeah, lettuce is fun. Homegrown lettuce is a blast. But the other benefits you get, the other things you harvest are even better. I'm just thinking about our experience and we
Starting point is 00:30:20 go out there every day now. And there are days where we're like, wow, this has grown so much. And there are these baby little cucumbers that are starting to emerge. And then there are other days where it's like, this is dying. What do we do about it? I have no idea. And where do we go? And it's remarkable to me how quickly we start to care about these plant things, almost like they're animate beings and they're in our care.
Starting point is 00:30:45 And it caught me by surprise. It caught me by surprise too early on. And what caught me even more by surprise in more recent years, the last two, three, four years, is it went from just having a relationship with the plants to now having a relationship with the soil. And when you start to really understand the inner workings of soil, as Americans, it's just dirt under our feet, dirt under our fingernails. We have a very denigrating view of it. But as I got deeper into my relationship with the natural world,
Starting point is 00:31:12 I started to realize that, you know, soil is really the foundation of everything. And that has taken me on this amazing journey just towards more ecological stewardship about being more aware of the impact I'm making good and bad. And so it's this amazing domino effect that happens. But yeah, I think that, like you said, we as humans, what you're feeling there, I think is so natural and so healthy. And I think we all need that. I think we are wired to be in that close communication with nature, whether that is a worm or a beetle or a lettuce plant or a flower or a squirrel in the city park. I think we need more connection than we have, you know, than at least our modern society sets us up for.
Starting point is 00:31:51 Yeah, I so agree. And it's interesting also, and I'm curious whether like how you experience this also, you know, the land that we have is an itty bitty little thing, but there's this sense of responsibility to the land, even though for me, it's this itty bitty little thing. I would imagine for you, it's vastest acres large. But the sense that you're beholden to it to keep it healthy in some way. And also, it's the weirdest thing. We have a garden box, but there is this knowing that I don't actually own this.
Starting point is 00:32:22 Yes. This is not mine. And that took me by surprise too. Isn't it interesting how you just start to feel more connected to all the things, just the nature of the plants and even more other humans, because you realize this is mine just for now. It's mine to steward for now, but it's not mine like in that sense. And so it's, I think that's why I say it's that domino where I'm just innocently growing some lettuce, but now you're starting to rethink your philosophy of everything. And I feel it so deeply, the sense of responsibility, which is sometimes heavy.
Starting point is 00:32:52 Especially we run cattle. We run a large group of cattle that we sell beef. We ship beef nationwide. And knowing the difference between good cattle management and bad cattle management, there's a big gap. You can either restore soil or you can damage soil. And so just always thinking about those things. And the more I learn, I'm always like, oh, we need to do this better. And I think there's a lot of forgiveness in nature for
Starting point is 00:33:14 us learning and us fumbling. But when you start to see yourselves as partnering with nature, instead of just like lording over it, I think it's really exciting. Yeah, no, completely. It kind of seems flows naturally into one of the other things you talk about, which is the notion of working with your hands. And actually when you write about this, you referenced a book, which is a book that really changed me a number of years ago, which is shop class as soul craft by like Matthew Crawford. And it really speaks to like your ethos also, which is this notion of not just the value, but the pleasure, the joy of working with your hands, like manually, physically, which
Starting point is 00:33:51 so many of us have left behind because it's sort of like devalued in modern culture in a lot of different ways. Yes. I was so fascinated when I got to that part of my book research to dive into not only books like shop classes, because it's such a brilliant work, but why do we devalue manual labor? Like we do, like, why is it looked down upon even today? And as I kind of dove into it, I lay a lot of that responsibility on the threshold of the industrial revolution and the factory mindset
Starting point is 00:34:21 that came as a result of that. And I mean, there's a lot of nuance there. So we can't get into all the ins and outs, but you know, it was really this idea of trying to sell the populace on their old quaint rural ways were inferior. So you need to move this city and you need to get in a factory job and buy, buy, buy, buy to keep the big engine of economy going and lots of factors there, of course. But I think that's where we're still kind of feeling that like, oh, you just work with your hands, you're a blue collar. Oh, okay. Well, you know, we automatically look down on that. Whereas when we take that modern mindset, we kind of shoot ourselves in the foot and we miss out on so much joy. Crawford talks about
Starting point is 00:34:59 in his book, like there's so much pleasure to be found in using our hands beyond tapping a screen or pressing a remote. I even, I had a wonderful woman named Dr. Kelly Lambert on my podcast a while back. We talked about this thing in our brain called the effort-driven rewards circuit. And in essence, we are literally wired. When we move our hands and we're creating, whether that's kneading bread dough or needle work, we're fixing a car, we're repairing something, it sets off happy chemicals in our brain. The dopamines, those chemicals that we know make us feel better. And so she's such a proponent of weaving these
Starting point is 00:35:37 meaningful handiworks into our normal everyday existence. Because she's like, if people are feeling down or a little bit anxious, she's like, it's one of the very best ways to kind of kickstart some of those good brain chemicals. And so I'm just fascinated about how far we've moved away from that and how we can get back. Yeah. And same, same on this side. I know I'm a maker, just that is my wiring. And I've felt over a period of years that a lot of my creation process had moved into
Starting point is 00:36:03 the digital realm. And I start to feel this underlying discontent almost on the level of like a low grade suffering. And I'm like, what's going on here? Like in theory, I'm making stuff. Like that's what I'm all about. And what I realized was that I had moved away from the physical process of creation, like working with my hands with raw materials and I was missing it. There was a real chasm. There was a gap. And as soon as I started to move back to that and be more intentional about it, it's like the gap closed and I got happier and more satisfied. But it is interesting culturally, as you described, how there was sort of like a whole generation or a few generations where
Starting point is 00:36:40 it was sort of like, oh, that's what you do when you in some way can't do knowledge work. That's the default when you can't make it on this other thing, rather than there's so much power and grace and fulfillment and also need for all of these different, for working with your hands, it is incredibly valuable and useful as a human being. And yet culturally, I feel like still so many of us don't see it that way. Yeah. What I'm curious to observe over the coming years is with this advent of AI, I think it looks like the first thing that AI will replace is the knowledge work, right? So I'm like, oh, what a twist, plot twist, where that could be more easily replaced. And then the plumbers and the electricians and the carpenters potentially could become more valuable. I suppose you could outsource
Starting point is 00:37:30 some of that in manufacturing and factories and such, but it's really hard to have a robot come in and fix the toilet when it's not working, right? You still need a smart human to be able to do that. So I'm curious if there will be a pendulum swing back. I just think those forces of society and culture are so interesting on how they shape us. But yeah, I hope it does swing back. I just think those forces of society and culture are so interesting on how they shape us. But yeah, I hope it does come back. And I do see, honestly, social media, I have a love-hate relationship with it, right? You know, there's times where I'm like, I'm on the computer too much, or it's influencing me in ways I don't love. But I do love that it is spreading awareness of these things so people can listen to this
Starting point is 00:38:00 podcast and go, oh, what if I weave some handicrafts into my week next week? So I'm curious as we bring these subjects to light, what will happen? A hundred percent. And I think it's not an either or proposition. It's a yes, you know, it's like, well, this is exactly the example that you're setting, right? You know, on the one hand, you've got physical businesses, you've also got digital and remote businesses, and you're like out there on the farm, like working with animals. You don't necessarily have to choose between. In fact, there are ways to figure out how to make them all work in harmony. I mean, I know plenty of craftspeople now or illustrators who are friends and artists who love the work that they do, but the way that they actually earn their living is by also spending time building
Starting point is 00:38:39 their profile in the digital realm. And it works harmoniously. And they're really thankful for the fact that they can support themselves now doing this because of that. I think there's definitely a way to figure out how to dance with it, depending on who you are and where your motivations and your impulses and your pleasures lie just as a human being. I couldn't agree more. And I think, at least for me, as my life has become more complex than it was in 2010 with one baby and just sitting in the house all day, right? I have more businesses. I have more irons in the fire. I have more responsibilities. It would be very easy for me to just go, you know what? Homesteading was a good
Starting point is 00:39:14 phase in those early years. And I need to step away from it now. I don't have time to grow things or can tomatoes. Yet I have chosen to consciously continue even in the midst of the chaos. Because just exactly like you said, I do spend a lot of time on the computer now. Like today, I had three interviews. I'm preparing for a book launch. I have websites to build. I have emails to answer. So I was on the computer a lot today.
Starting point is 00:39:35 But I literally scheduled it in an hour and a half to go ride my horse this morning and work on my roping skills. Because that is tactile. It's in the physical world. It makes me so happy. It's using my hands. It's connecting with tactile. It's in the physical world. It makes me so happy. It's using my hands. It's connecting with nature. And I have to have both. I find that if I don't have both and I'm just sitting in this chair on the computer, my creativity tanks, my motivation tanks, I don't produce as high quality work. And so I find that I need to have both. And I think
Starting point is 00:39:59 that most people would benefit from both. Maybe it's just like I do the office work, then I go walk through the garden barefoot and just commune with nature or, you know, just those sort of mixing of old and new past and present, I think is, I think it's really going to carry us forward, hopefully as a more balanced culture. Yeah. I couldn't agree more. And I think also as somebody who is creative or looking to make things in a weird way, you know, like people talk about getting stuck, you know, I'm trying to figure this thing out. I'm trying to figure this thing out. I'm trying to make something. I'm just kind of stuck. And the ability to have
Starting point is 00:40:29 these two realms to kind of move seamlessly between, I think sometimes the release valve for stuckness in one realm happens when you're in the other. And the ability to move between them rather than just stay in one and try and grind your way through it. Say, well, let me just let that sit and go over to this other place. And like, all of a sudden, like the resolution comes to you. It's actually really helpful to be able to move between these two different things or three or four different realms, whatever it is for you in your life. Absolutely. I could not agree more.
Starting point is 00:40:58 I think that's really the magic piece for me creatively. Apple Watch Series X is here. It has the biggest display ever. It's also the thinnest Apple Watch ever, making it even more comfortable on your wrist, whether you're running, swimming, or sleeping. And it's the fastest-charging Apple Watch, getting you 8 hours of charge in just 15 minutes. The Apple Watch Series X. Available for the first time in glossy jet black aluminum. Compared to previous generations,
Starting point is 00:41:43 iPhone Xs are later required. Charge time and actual jet black aluminum. Compared to previous generations, iPhone XS or later required, charge time and actual results will vary. One of the ideas that you share also is the idea of escaping the human zoo. Yeah. So the language is like wonderful around that, but take me deeper into what you're actually saying here. There is definitely more awareness about this kind of coming. I see it more on social media here and there. But it's just this idea that modern culture, especially if you live in a big city, which is unavoidable for many, right? It's one of the most unnatural
Starting point is 00:42:13 human habitats we can imagine. If we think about where humans are really designed or wired to be, and then we contrast that with city life with, you know, it's asphalt and concrete. Most of the time it's a ton of artificial lights. We're surrounded in structures that are completely man-made versus anything that nature made. And it's not to say that you should never be in those environments because that'd be pretty hard to avoid. But rather, you know, how can we be aware of that and then start to be a little more conscious of like, okay, my body needs this because I am a biological being. I am not a robot. And so I'm going to need to be mindful of the artificial light that's coming in. I need to make sure I'm not being exposed to just human environments or human-made environments 24-7. I'm going to be in there for a while. And then I'm going to go out and put my feet in the
Starting point is 00:42:59 grass. I'm going to go breathe fresh air. I'm going to go stand under a tree. I'm going to go interact with nature. And so I think about that a lot, even here on my homestead. There's those influences that seep in. When I'm sitting in this office chair, humans are not designed to be sedentary. We're designed to be moving constantly. And it's okay to be sitting here for eight hours and then go work out for 30 minutes. That's better than nothing. But really, we're kind of wired to be in that constant movement. So it's not that I'm trying to achieve perfection, but it's just being really
Starting point is 00:43:29 mindful. And I think even those little baby steps of watching the light that we're exposed to and can paying attention to how we move our bodies, how long we're sitting, those sorts of things can be a really big shift. Again, you don't have to have a farm to do any of that. Yeah. And just the notion of being aware of your environment and how it affects you. I feel like so many of us actually are really just tuned that out. We just kind of say, like, we're in the city. It is what it is. There are certain things that have to accept.
Starting point is 00:43:53 And we don't even realize how much all the little different things are affecting us and our ability to thrive, our mood, our happiness, our health, our well-being, our relationships. I mean, the thing is as simple as one of the things you write about under this context, like staying in the dark. There's value in actually not having light at certain times of day or like at night in particular. Yet so many of us don't do anything to sort of manipulate the environment that we're in in a positive way to affect us so that we feel the way we want to feel more regularly. Yeah. And I think, you know, we're also,
Starting point is 00:44:30 we're just kind of, we all get out of tune with our bodies, me included. So where you just kind of get into that feeling, oh, I just don't feel right. I just feel sluggish. I feel a little depressed. I feel a little off. And then it's really hard sometimes because we're bombarded with so much unnatural environment that to really go, okay, wait, this is maybe why I was on my phone till midnight last night, all that blue light. And I wasn't getting good sleep. And I was in a bedroom with lights all over in it. And so, you know, maybe that's why.
Starting point is 00:44:54 And maybe I need to just go outside. And, you know, if I'm feeling stressed, it's my body is not designed to sit in a chair for 10 hours a day and just be bombarded with a ton of crazy tasks. Maybe I need to put it away and just walk outside and get fresh air and move my body. And so I think, like you said, just awareness, not perfection, but just those little steps add up in a big way. Yeah. I mean, part of what you've built here is like a movement, but also a community, you know, where people can interact and find each other and support each other and say,
Starting point is 00:45:22 hey, like share ideas and share experiences. And this is, in fact, one of the other pillars. One of the things that you speak to is the notion of the role of community. And I wonder if so many of us have been reacquainted with that over the last three years when we spent so much time in isolation. And granted, we had digital connections still, but I feel like the pendulum for in-person community also, like being physically in person with community, with people that we really connect with is swinging back also. Yes. Take me deeper into sort of like your exploration of community and why, especially in the context
Starting point is 00:45:59 of the modern homesteading movement, you feel like it's so central. So this is actually one of my pillars that I am more of a newbie to. And in that I've only been really embracing this the last four years or so. When we first started homesteading, we were isolated. I'm so focused on having young children and building my homestead along with my husband that we were very much just focused on this property and that was everything. And perhaps at that phase in our life, that was just what we needed to do. And then, I don't know, four years ago-ish, we started to just have this feeling like, you know what? Our homestead's doing pretty good. Our businesses are in a good place. And we feel like we're missing something.
Starting point is 00:46:36 Like we knew people around us, but we were not like actively contributing to the community structure. Now we live about 40 minutes from a big town, but we're about nine miles from a tiny town of 175 people. And I just kept feeling like, oh man, you know, I talk with my friends. If someone would just do this for this town, it would be better. If someone would just start this, someone would just, you know, oh, somebody needs to do that. And that'll fix this problem. And I heard myself say that. I'm like, Jill, you can't just say that and not do something. We all prescribe it for other people. But I'm like, okay, it's time. Put your money where your mouth is and go take some action.
Starting point is 00:47:11 And so we tried a few little things. We ended up buying a restaurant, which is a whole other story, which has been a roller coaster in and of itself. We've helped start a charter school now. We've been involved more. But those steps, even though it's taken us a little bit away from the homestead, I think have been one of the most fulfilling aspects of our old-fashioned journey thus far. Just because, like you said, screens are fine. I'm thankful for screens. I've made some really good connections and friends via the internet. But nothing can ever replace that face-to-face human interaction. And I think what the pandemic did show us, I think after we all were so isolated for so long
Starting point is 00:47:48 and we all got real burned out on Zoom calls, I'm hoping that it reminded us that we need human eyeball-to-eyeball, face-to-face contact more than ever. That's just when we feel most connected and whole. And so I just found that to be such a gratifying experience. Also messy, also frustrating sometimes. Also like days where I'm just like pulling my hair out, but you can't have the good parts without that struggle. I think they have to go together when we're talking about
Starting point is 00:48:14 human interactions and communities. So I'm really passionate about that. Yeah. I mean, it's so great. I think it's just like we were talking about with social media, like the way that humans connect is when you're open and honest and vulnerable. And that involves a certain amount of mess because at any given time, we are all moving through a certain amount of mess in our own lives. And when you share that, sometimes it meshes in positive ways with others
Starting point is 00:48:36 and sometimes it doesn't, but that's the nature of it. So you brought up along the way, you also ended up with a restaurant and like, which is a great way to be at the center of community also. But having some experience, about a decade, my wife was actually in a large restaurant group in New York City before we headed out. So I know that industry really well. It is brutally, brutally hard in the best of circumstances. So I'm fascinated by the fact of like, okay,
Starting point is 00:49:05 so here's you, and you're trying to build a restaurant and also kind of a restaurant that it has a feel and really is there to support the community and be a center, a hub of conversation and connection and sharing meals together, like genuinely. And yet at the same time, like behind the scenes, running a business that is often just extraordinarily difficult, like does that change the way that you feel about a desire to be a social hub for connection within the community? It depends on the day. There are days where I'm like, oh, I just want to be a hermit again.
Starting point is 00:49:41 Oh my gosh. I will preface that by saying we do have a team that runs a restaurant. Like we were talking about like not doing it all yourself. I physically cannot do it myself. So we have a great manager right now. We have a full staff of employees. We didn't at the beginning of the summer,
Starting point is 00:49:54 we had some turnover and that's why I was so stressed out. But we have a great team now. They're running it smoothly. I go in and I'll work there a couple of times a month just because I like to feel the heartbeat of the staff
Starting point is 00:50:04 and be there and hang out with the locals. I'm in and out, but not there all the time. But yeah, your question was, does it change? One of the biggest desires that people have is to write a book. One of the other ones is to own a restaurant. Everyone wants to write a book and everyone wants to own a restaurant. And the dream when somebody says, I want to own a restaurant is you walk into the space and you see it filled with people and there's like conversation and amazingness happening and connection. And you're walking from table to table. This is my restaurant.
Starting point is 00:50:31 Oh, how do you like? Yes. And like, and that's the fantasy that we all have. And it's like, there's a beautiful community that, and we're kind of like the shepherd of that community to a certain extent. And there's this noble intent behind it and a little bit of ego often too. But then the reality, the lived reality of that is often the exact opposite. Does that change the way that you feel about really getting behind bringing community together?
Starting point is 00:50:55 I think it would have surprised me more. It would have changed the way I feel more if I hadn't experienced an element of that same dynamic elsewhere in my life prior. I have found like having now written books and having now owned restaurants and having done other big things and fulfilled other big goals and dreams. There's always the glamorous side. And there are totally days where I walk into the restaurant and it's exactly like you said, the tables are full. Hi, Jill. Hi, Jill. How are you? It's just like, oh, it's so fun. It's just this fantasy. But of course, there are days
Starting point is 00:51:23 where I'm pulling my hair out. Everything's out of stock. I can't get french fries. The grill's broken. Somebody called in sick. But I think I can't... I don't know. At this point in my life, I realized I can't have the fantasy moments without the hard part too. I realized they come together. And same with the book. I had the moment this week where I got my upcoming book in the box for the first time. So I held the copy. And it's like what everyone dreams of, the moment of holding your work in your hand and it's real. I know it was two years of blood, sweat, and literal tears to get to that point. So I'm like, I get this mountaintop moment because of the valleys. And I think it's the same with a restaurant. I get the mountaintop of the restaurant because I am willing to go through the valleys. And honestly, I don't know
Starting point is 00:52:03 if a lot of people are willing to go through valleys. And that's one of the things I really encourage, whether you're homesteading or you're an entrepreneur, you have to be willing to power through the hard times, the valleys in order to get to the parts that are social media worthy or the moments that you've been craving. So I think it was less of a surprise in the restaurant world just because I've experienced before. Yeah, no, that makes a lot of sense. And I love the notion of like, you've got to say yes to all of it. You can't cherry pick the highlights and then just ignore all the other stuff. It's part of one big basket of experience. When you think about what you have been building over the years now, the state of the sort of modern homesteading movement and your role in it. Like you're somebody who has really become front
Starting point is 00:52:45 and center in this movement. And you think about the next 10 years, do you have a sense for what you would love to see happen? Yeah, my vision, my dream would be, I would love just to see more people who are on the outskirts of the movement now. Like there's always the early adopters, right? Who are willing to do a little more crazy thing, take a little more risk. I think they're
Starting point is 00:53:09 already in the movement. My goal is to get the people who are right now in the cities, in the suburbs, in the apartments, and they're maybe not even aware that the homesteading world exists or they've seen it from afar on social media and they're like, cool, but that's not for me. I can't have that because I'm not going to move and live on a farm. I want them to understand that just through day-to-day choices, through growing some lettuce, through working with their hands, from engaging in the community around them, that they can actually have a piece of it. Not just so they can say, I'm a homesteader, but just so they can start feeling that human experience to its fullest and really start to
Starting point is 00:53:45 engage. And so that's what I am hopeful that we'll continue to branch out. We'll continue to find ways to apply these principles for folks who live in more urban areas and get more creative with community gardens and community outreach and things like that. So I hope that's where it's headed. Yeah. So as we have this conversation, as you've shared, like you're a mom raising kids in a homestead environment. And often, as you know, as a parent, every parent knows this. It's never about what you say. It's always about what you do and what you model for your kids.
Starting point is 00:54:16 And oftentimes the choices that you make as a parent, kids look at that once they have a growing sense of agency and identity. And some kids are like, I am so excited to continue along with similar choices and values. And other kids are like, I outright reject this. You're really invested as a parent also and in the family. Do you have a sense for what you hope for with your kids in the values and the traditions that they might continue? Do you look at it and say,
Starting point is 00:54:45 I really hope that they continue along with this same way? Or do you hold it lightly and just say, they need to be who they need to be? I think it would be easy for me to say, oh, I hope they continue farming and homesteading and ranching and doing all the things. And I do. If they want to stay close and as adults, their families are a mile down the road and we share tomatoes and milk cows together. I'm definitely not opposed to that. I think it's more about the principles for me than anything. You know, my parents gave me a gift of when I moved away to do that. And so I want to be able to give that same gift to my kids. If they want to go do something, if they want to go to New York City and be on Broadway, if that's your passion, I'm going to give you that gift to allow you to exercise that. But what I do hope, and what I'm pretty confident, as it stands right now, could be wrong, of what they'll continue forward with is just that awareness. I hope that
Starting point is 00:55:42 if they are living in New York City, they're aware of what they're eating. They're aware of their impact on the environment. They're making good choices in terms of moving their body and making sure they're working with their hands. They're mindful of the world around us. And so that's what I hope most of all that they'll continue forward with no matter where they end up. Yeah, that makes so much sense to me. For those listening in right now, and they're kind of nodding along and saying, it sounds really cool, but maybe they're living in New York City or they're living in somewhere where it also sounds really foreign to them in a lot of ways. Yes.
Starting point is 00:56:12 What's an invitation for sort of like a simple first step in? I would say start in your kitchen. Maybe you can't grow something in a pot yet. That's okay. Just start with cooking a little bit more. I think we're in such a culture where ready-made and fast food and convenience is so put on a pedestal. And that's okay. I still eat convenience fast food sometimes. But maybe instead of eating out three or four times a week, you take one night a week and you guys,
Starting point is 00:56:39 you as a family or you on your own, commit to cooking something from scratch that you haven't made before. And if you've never cooked, that can be something extremely simple. But you can kind of tailor that to your comfort level. I'd say find something that's interesting or invokes curiosity in you. Because when it's something you're curious about, it's going to be more gratifying once you try it. And it's that same domino we've been talking about. I think if people can just try something new, they're going to get a little bit of dopamine in the kitchen.
Starting point is 00:57:05 Then they're going to try the next thing. I'm going to try the next thing. And what happens is we have this amazing snowball effect. And food's a big deal. What we eat affects how we feel, how we sleep, our mental health. It starts to affect our local community and our economy. If we're starting to buy more local, it affects the environment. And if we're buying food from 1,200 miles away versus our backyard.
Starting point is 00:57:28 So it can make a really big impact in a really simple way. And we're all eating anyway. So I think it's a really easy place to start. Yeah, I love that. It feels like a good place for us to come full circle as well. So in this container of good life project, if I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up? When I think of that, I just think of connection. Connection to the soil, to our food,
Starting point is 00:57:50 and to our communities and ourselves. And I think that can look a lot of different ways for a lot of people, but that's the beauty of it, is I think we can live in a lot of different forms as long as we're connected. Thank you. in your favorite listening app. And if you found this conversation interesting or inspiring or valuable, and chances are you did since you're still listening here, would you do me a personal favor, a seven second favor and share it? Maybe on social or by text or by email, even just with one person.
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