Good Life Project - John Rzeznik | Beyond the Goo Goo Dolls

Episode Date: April 1, 2021

Born and raised in Buffalo, NY, John Rzeznik is the founding-member, frontman and guitarist for iconic band, the Goo Goo Dolls. He's a legend in the world of music, with 19 top-ten singles, including ...mega-hits like Iris (which spent 12-months on the Billboard charts), Name, Black Balloon and countless others. And, like so many who turned to music at a young age as both a way to cope with discord and a form of expression, he’s lived a life of extraordinary artistry and contribution, and along with that, a certain amount of darkness and struggle that for many years found him turning to alcohol as a way to get through each day. Until it all fell apart, and he had to make a decision. One he keeps making every day. Now, sober, a devoted dad and husband, he's telling a new story with his life and music, and taking the giant, global community of Goo Goo Doll fans along for the journey. And, as you’ll hear, he’s headed into the studio to create something that is truly representative not just of this moment in time, but also of how his lens on life, music, and creativity have evolved.You can find John at:Website : https://www.googoodolls.com/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/johnrzeznikggd/-------------Have you discovered your Sparketype yet? Take the Sparketype Assessmentâ„¢ now. IT’S FREE (https://sparketype.com/) and takes about 7-minutes to complete. At a minimum, it’ll open your eyes in a big way. It also just might change your life.If you enjoyed the show, please share it with a friend. Thank you to our super cool brand partners. If you like the show, please support them - they help make the podcast possible. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 So born and raised in Buffalo, New York, John Resnick is the founding member, frontman, and guitarist for iconic band, the Goo Goo Dolls. He's kind of a legend in the world of music with 19 top 10 singles, including mega hits like Iris, which spent 12 months on the Billboard charts, Name, Black Balloon, and countless others. And like so many who turn to music at a young age as both a way to cope with discord and a form of expression, he has lived a life of extraordinary artistry and contribution. And along with that, a certain amount of darkness and struggle that for many years found him turning to alcohol as a way to get through each day until it all fell apart and he had to make a decision, one he keeps making every single day.
Starting point is 00:00:50 Now sober, a devoted dad and husband, he's telling a really new story with his life and music and taking the giant global community of Goo Goo Dolls fans along for the journey. And as you'll hear in our conversation, as we spoke, he was heading into the studio to create something new, something that is truly representative, not just of this moment in time, but also of how his own personal lens on life and music and creativity have evolved in really major and profound ways. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project. The Apple Watch Series 10 is here.
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Starting point is 00:02:12 Tell me how to fly this thing. Mark Wahlberg. You know what the difference between me and you is? You're going to die. Don't shoot him, we need him. Y'all need a pilot. Flight Risk. It was fun reading that little bit that you shared just in info with us before that you've been geeking out a bit on Dalton Trumbo and sort of like the Blacklist era stuff.
Starting point is 00:02:35 Yeah. It was funny because when I read that, Dalton Trumbo's, his book, Johnny Got His Gun, I read, I think I read in high school. Yeah. And it blew my mind. It absolutely sort of like shattered me in these really weird ways and it's never left me. Yeah. No, it's really, it's, yeah, that's a heavy, heavy book. And the film too is strange.
Starting point is 00:03:01 Yeah. To me, I was like, I saw the film and I'm like, why do I feel so uneasy? This is really strange. But my favorite thing about Dalton Trumbo is just how beautifully he uses words. And I have a book by him. It's out of print, but you can still find them online, of course. It's called Additional Dialogue. And it's this big book of letters that he wrote to all kinds of people.
Starting point is 00:03:34 And whenever I'm trying to find something, if I have to write a quote or something for whatever, or somebody wants a blurb for this, I always go to that book and I'll just read a few of his letters because the way he uses language and you steal little bits of what Trumbo said. Yeah. It's very cool. Such an eloquent character. Yeah. And I mean, what he went through, the whole, the blacklist era, we had Ellen Harper on, on the podcast a little while back, Ben Harper's mom, but she's also this kind of icon in the folk music space. And, and her parents started out the Claremont Folk Music Center, which became like, you know, this hub where everyone was hanging out. But originally they started out in New England and her dad was a school teacher, but early in his life, he was very public about being a member of the communist party and it caught up with them. And like Trumbo and so many of that day, he got blacklisted and he couldn't find a job teaching anywhere. So he started working
Starting point is 00:04:39 on old instruments. And that was like the gateway into that whole world for them. Cause he just, he couldn't find work, you know, for a long time doing what he wanted to do it's really a crazy window in our country i think i mean it's really it was just so bizarre because it was such a it was just like taking democracy and just smashing its face against the wall, you know, just to gain some political power. And like, but I was so, I, he's, Trump was an inspiration to me because he took a bad situation. And he, I mean, he did what he had to do to feed his kids. And he, you know, he came out on top.
Starting point is 00:05:21 And what really amazed me too, because'm a kirk douglas fan but i never i i have so much more respect for him because he was like no you put trumbo's name on the movie and on um spartacus yeah and uh wow i mean can you imagine having to face all that persecution and still generate so many scripts and stories and just write these, this, these brilliant letters to people. People should read letters. There's gotta be more great books. I'm sure there's a million great books of letters that people have collected. Yeah. There's, I actually want to say the name of the book is called The Book of Letters. It's written by Maria Popova, who has this longstanding website called Brain Pickens. And she created this massive digest of all of these letters written by all these amazing writers
Starting point is 00:06:19 over the years. But I agree. I think there's something about letters that we've moved away from. Email, text, everything is sort of like short form, not deep. There's something also about, I'm curious how you feel about this, about the physical act of writing. Not typing on a keyboard, but literally just sitting there. I never do that. Oh, no kidding. So tell me more about that. I mean, I write emails and all that nonsense on the search for things on the internet.
Starting point is 00:06:46 But when I'm writing songs or if I really, I make lists, I'm a big list maker and I can't do it in my phone because it's just not tangible. Like if I have a to-do list, you know, I have to go buy salt for the driveway and, you know, make sure you get milk. Oh, yeah. Finish the bridge to that song. You know, just things like that. I need them on paper because I can, because I just fold up. It has to be yellow legal paper. Now I'm getting into how like neurotic I am, which is kind of strange.
Starting point is 00:07:25 But my yellow legal pad and pencil on the paper, fold it, put it in my pocket, and I'm so much more efficient with that than I am with having a little bell ring on my phone. I just, it's not for me. I think that has something to do with my age you know because because i mean i was around when you could buy a mac book 150 i think it was called the 150 and i had one it was like i mean it's just it's like i don't it almost looks like a
Starting point is 00:08:03 like a piece of steampunk right now you know compared to everything else yeah it's like i don't it almost looks like a like a piece of steampunk right now you know compared to everything else yeah it's pretty amazing i mean when you're when you're working on um songs too is it is it all um by hand on paper as well yeah yeah yeah gotta be gotta be and you know uh big stacks of uh books of quotations and and uh thesauruses rhyming dictionaries you know just just stuff like that i there's this one online rhyming dictionary that i that i love but you know just going going to places like that but yeah it's got to be on paper and every album all the lyrics and all the potential lyrics and everything wind up in one of those art folios, you know, this big fake leather things, you know, and it's just stuffed with scraps of paper and napkins and post-it notes and legal pads. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:08:59 And that's the home for every album, you know, once it's done. Yeah, that's amazing. I feel like the output is just different. And actually there's research that shows that when you're in a creative state, that what comes out when you write it physically by hand, it's different than if you type. It sort of activates your brain differently.
Starting point is 00:09:19 You go to different places. Well, because you're creating, I mean, you have these built-in neural pathways between your brain, your thought, then the part of your brain that physically can make it come out your hand and put it down on a piece of paper. And I think it does. I think I always find, I always find myself getting more inspiration and good stuff out of physically doing it the old way. I mean, once again, I'm so old. I went to Catholic school for nine years and we took penmanship classes. We had to do penmanship. So it's like when I see somebody who has beautiful handwriting, I'm just blown away by it. College destroyed my handwriting.
Starting point is 00:10:13 You know, I mean, I kind of joke around about here, let me sign that prescription for you and see if you can get anything for it. You know, because my handwriting, it looks like a seismograph during an earthquake. Yeah, somehow I ended up in the same place as you. We're the same age, so I had like that same training, you know, and it all kind of went away over the years. But I'm a writer also, and I've really been itching to get back to actually more of a physical process of creation. There was, I was talking to actually two writers,
Starting point is 00:10:43 Suleika Jawad and Neil Gaiman. They both write longhand and they use fountain pens. Wow. And one of the reasons is because if you stop writing with a fountain pen for too long, it starts to clog. So it forces you to keep writing. Like you can't just pause. It's like you have to channel whatever's in your head out onto the page or else it gets all gunky yeah so and and because of that like that really gentle time pressure it's almost like they feel
Starting point is 00:11:12 like it changes the creative process and the outfit for them yeah wow that's really cool yeah let's get a fountain i have to get a fountain pen because if i had my way it'd take me nine years to make one album. But it's interesting that you say that because this new album that I'm working on, it's very loose. I'm locking out a recording studio for about five months. So I'm going to actually do a lot of the writing in the studio. Oh, No kidding. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:11:53 And I think that that kind of, you know, I got the budget for the album and I'm like, let's blow it all. You know? And so I don't want to be overly prepared when I go in because I'm interested to see what the interaction between the musicians is going to be like and i'm just going to produce this myself you know or you know i'll probably co-produce with a couple other guys in the band and that but there are ways to make records there's different methodology one is you go in and get your drums all perfect that's when you don't have a lot of money you got to go in and you do drums for like three days you got all the drums for your album but then it becomes this very sort of assembly line type thing you know and a lot of a lot of producers and engineers are very very they're
Starting point is 00:12:39 addicted to editing now now because everything has to be so precisely on the grid yeah it's like everything it's syncopation boom boom boom boom boom just and i'm like no no we'll start with a click and we're gonna play like a band because i was i was listening to a lot of live recordings of us and then i was listening to our studio albums and I was just like, the energy on the live stuff is way better. It's more aggressive and it's just got more teeth and it's really visceral. So I want to try to capture what the band is actually performing. And I don't want a producer coming in and chopping it to bits and you know trying to like make it radio friendly yeah i'm just i'm just not interested in it anymore you know it's interesting i feel like
Starting point is 00:13:33 everything has been so engineered these days and you know every voice is auto-tuned every beat is is you know like dropped into a perfect syncopation that um but i feel like the as human beings there's something in us that yearns for like we want to hear when you're slightly ahead of the beat and slightly behind yeah you want to hear when somebody's voice is cracking or slightly off because like oh so there's a human being there and and we want to hear when people are just going into their own vibe. And I feel like when that's edited out, which it is a lot these days. It is very much.
Starting point is 00:14:12 Okay, so you get, quote, perfection, but you lose what music is about fundamentally. It loses its humanity. And I'm guilty of it too. I'm guilty of it too. We all fell victim to when everything went digital, we were like, wow, the sky's the limit. And then all of a sudden the other thing, the other thing, just jumping back to doing the album. What I want to do with this album is limit the amount of tracks that we have
Starting point is 00:14:40 because now it's not uncommon to have a digital audio session that's like 130 tracks and it's like that's absurd right i remember the old task m4 track in the bedroom it's like yeah there was something to that bounce it down and there was a vibe to that you know but you know kind of kind of limiting your track count, limiting your options. I just think that the digital production thing, it had to happen. And in the good side, the upside to it is it's like,
Starting point is 00:15:17 now you can get programs that are free or practically free. I mean, people are making records on Logic and GarageBand and Cubase or whatever. And you don't need the $20,000 Pro Tools rig with the six computers chained together. But I think that the technology is leading the creation of the art rather than the creation of the art pushing technology forward. I think it flipped when we went digital. And it's like you almost get caught up in the tyranny of choice.
Starting point is 00:15:56 It's just like, there's so many options. What do I do? So in a sort of, I don't know what it would be, a contrary sort of way of looking at it, I'm just like, yeah, you got three or four different compressors there. It's all wonky studio stuff. But what I'm trying older and, and I just, I just, you know, when you're a musician and you do this, I've been doing this since I was 19. Right. And it's weird, or this could be the last time you ever get up in front of the camera. So don't say no. This might be the last dollar you ever earned doing this. So I don't say no very much, but now I've started to a little bit. Not say no, but be a little more selective about what I want to do. And this whole anxiety about, I had to change my metrics of what success is because it was always like, okay, did we hit the top 20 on the chart? That was one of those things. And I admit it, you know, I mean, cause I've had hits and I have not had hits and it's really nice
Starting point is 00:17:16 to have hits, you know, it's like, it's really nice to have a hit song. It's fun, but it's interesting. But so we're going to, we're going to sort of limit it. And there's one example that I would like to tell everybody about. If you want to hear the most amazing song that is so out of time and so out of key, go back and listen to the Rolling Stones' Street Fighter. Oh my God, I can't believe you said that because I was just going to say, I mean, not necessarily that song, but I remember hearing some old live studio sessions from the Stones when they were putting songs together.
Starting point is 00:17:52 Oh yeah. And it was, I mean, massively collaborative. And I mean, at the end of the day, they were really working to create amazing stuff, but also they were less concerned about perfection. They were more concerned about like feel. It was all about the feel and the sway and like humans, when they move, they sway, you know, and you're really feeling it. You see that, you know, in people who are having religious experiences or in flow at a concert or something, you know, it's just, and it's
Starting point is 00:18:24 interesting to see that because you're trying to get into this. You're trying to tap into some sort of primal part of people, you know? Yeah. I mean, it's interesting that the idea of sway, because when you're, you know, so part of the aspiration is like, okay, so let's create something where we can try and bring that energy to everybody who listens to this. But at the same time, you're creating originally in the studio. And so it's almost like you and the musicians who you're in session with, you feeling that, like you feeling this way becomes the signal that, oh, like, I think we're getting it. I think we're going there. Yeah. And what it's going to entail is, you know, me and Robbie,
Starting point is 00:19:09 the bass player and, you know, a drummer, just hanging out in the studio and just jamming and just making noise and trying to capture it on some kind of a recorder and sort of building of building it from there you know because that's something that we used to do when we were kids because it was all really very very diy like our whole scene was so you know and um you know we would just play for hours i would come in with an idea and we would play it and play it and play it and then i would go oh wait a second i just thought of something let's go up to the minor here and then down there and then and then it starts to build and then
Starting point is 00:19:51 the drum patterns evolve and everything evolves and then you actually learn the song you know and that feel is just i think it's just it sounds fresh again because it is p i just believe that people are fatigued from technology yeah um i'm right there with you um i i believe that also i'm really excited to see what comes out of those sessions five months is it five months is a luxurious time also i mean it's a great way to put, I got a luxury problem. You gotta love that. Are you going to, are you recording to a tape or to digital? Cause that's another really interesting creative constraint right there.
Starting point is 00:20:34 Yeah. Well, it was interesting was we did that Christmas record, which I know it's a Christmas record and people are like, yeah, it's cheesy. And I'm like, duh, like Pat Monahan is a friend. And he said, it's supposed to be cheesy. It's a Christmas record, you know? And he's such a light, man. That guy is just, he's just his outlook on life and his ability to just make people feel great, you know?
Starting point is 00:21:01 So I wanted to make that Christmas record. I wanted to do it, you it. And part of it is because I have a four-year-old daughter and it doesn't look cool to do it, but I don't care. And I wanted to, but see then, because I'm obsessed with vintage recording equipment and I'm obsessed with vintage microphones like every musician and so i've gotten this really bad habit and collection of um i can basically roll up anywhere with you know half a dozen road cases and make a record anywhere i want you know and i've mixing i've small mixing consoles i chain them together uh lots of old compressors and microphones and reverbs and things like that.
Starting point is 00:21:48 But anyway, I didn't want to be one of those guys, you know, because it's been so long since I recorded to tape. And when we recorded to tape and then mixed it through a very, very, it's probably one of the rarest mixing consoles in the world. And it's at a studio called East West in Los Angeles. And it's a thing called a Trident A-Range. It's just this big purple thing. It's amazing.
Starting point is 00:22:17 And it's just all this ancient technology that's just based on, I mean, it's crazy. It's crazy. And then we mixed it's crazy. It's crazy. And then we mixed it to tape and it was just, but we simultaneously put the, the two track onto the digital as well as the analog. And I was just like, Oh, I hate this. I'm one of those guys now. Oh, the tape does sound better. It does sound better. And then we got the vinyl, the pressing of the vinyl and the CD, and we were going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, listening. I'm just like, the vinyl does sound better. I
Starting point is 00:22:54 can't believe this. You know, it's coming. You know, like at some point, at some point in the next couple of months, you're going to open your back door and be like, Hey, you kids get out of my yard. I know, man. I'm like, I know, I know. You know? Yeah, pretty much. I turned, every once in a while, I will catch myself being an old man, you know? Like really being an old man. I'll get out of a chair and I'll hike my pants back up,
Starting point is 00:23:20 you know, with my thumbs. And I go on and I'm like, oh my God. That's not a bad thing though, you know, with my thumbs, you know, and I go on and I'm like, oh my God, you know. That's not a bad thing though, you know? I mean, it's, cause you've lived, you've had this interesting story, right? You know, and you're in a moment right now where it feels like, I want to touch back down into that in a really good place, you know, and the journey that got you there brought you through some really turbulent times. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:23:48 I mean, I know you came up in Buffalo. Four older sisters from what I know. Yeah. Yeah. It's just me and the dog. We're the only guys in the house and we're both sitting there going, what the hell is going on? But yeah, it was rowdy. I think, I mean, I'm, I still feel more comfortable with women than men just like in general, because I grew up in that situation. And I, you know, I still talk to most of my sisters almost every day, you know, I mean,
Starting point is 00:24:21 I'll talk to one of them almost every day, you know, because over the last 10 years, I mean, they've been such a big help to me, you know, like emotionally in that settling a lot of old business and that I had didn't have a lot of recollection of, you know, I was lucky that I had people who were older than me to talk to me about those things. Yeah. I mean, it's nice to be that close also. I know you lost your mom and your dad when you're sort of like in your mid-teens. Yeah, my dad when I was 15, my mom when I was 16. Yeah. Did they effectively sort of like become surrogate parents for you in a lot of ways? Or were you at an age where you're kind of on your own at that point? I kind of was, I kind of, I was pretty disenchanted with the neighborhood that I grew up in, you know?
Starting point is 00:25:09 I got a lot of crap from people. How so? Well, it was just very, it was just really strange. It was strange. It was like my family, my sisters are incredibly strong women, always were, you know, and they still are now. And, you know, we weren't part of the neighborhood. Like we weren't part of that culture anymore.
Starting point is 00:25:36 You know, my sister had an African-American boyfriend, you know, and in 1981, that was, oh my God, that's crazy. You know, so we got a lot of crap from people about that. And it's just like, that's so weird, but it did. It was weird. And like, you know, so my life was made a little difficult by some of the neighborhood thugs. And I was anxious to get out of there. It was like, it was October and it's just really rainy, cold Buffalo fall, you know? And then I just remember feeling like I couldn't get warm when my mom died, no matter how many blankets I put on myself, I couldn't get warm. But then I said, no, man, you have no choice. You have to move on. I mean, I was 16.
Starting point is 00:26:33 I was like, what am I going to do? So my sisters helped me out and I got my own place. And I didn't have a lot of money. And I did some things that I'm not exactly proud of, you know, but now it's legal in 35 states. They put kids like me out of business, but, you know, it was an adventure. And I moved into the neighborhood near one of the universities in Buffalo. I just started meeting all these characters, you know, they were older than me and I met them and I had a small group of musician friends, you know, and we would just play and play and play. And we're constantly, it was very incestuous. Everybody was sort of, he played with him that night and we all went to this way and it was just, you know, we were all experimenting
Starting point is 00:27:21 with different kinds of music and stuff. None of them went to the school that I went to. I went to a vocational training school to be a plumber. And I really should have went to art school, but I didn't. And I'm happy that I got my diploma in plumbing. I really am. I'm very proud of that. It's an amazing... I would have to go back to school from the beginning again, but just the fact that I can fix little things around the house is awesome to me. And I think it's therapeutic. look at plumbing as like, well, it's a particular profession that does a particular type of thing. But it's actually, it's a trade. It's a craft.
Starting point is 00:28:07 It is a true, I mean, especially I remember spending summers and like building houses and renovating and stuff like that. And it is a true, I mean, some of the plumbers who were on location were true artists. Oh, yeah. It would blow my mind. It's like complex problem solving. Oh, yeah. It's gravity. It's all just gravity. And it's like, that amazes me. Like, yes, of course, there's a ton of technology involved now and everything's computerized in that, but a basic plumbing system is just based on gravity and pressure and it's beautiful in its simplicity. But the mathematics that you have to sit and study is crazy. I mean, you can't be stupid and be a plumber. That's, you know.
Starting point is 00:29:08 Yeah. It's amazing. And it is amazing. But, you know, our society went through this, like, you know, this 30 or 40 year period where it was just like, oh, you got to go to college, got to go to college, got to go to college. And a lot of my friends who wound up in the building trades have done better than people who, you know who went and got master's degrees. No offense to anybody who wants to go to college, but I think that the building trades, that guy Mike Rowe, the dirty jobs guy, he's very into that. It's a way for someone with a high school diploma and some training and some smarts to get into an upper middle class position. And that's not easy these days. Yeah. I mean, we've definitely gone through this window where knowledge work was sort of like elevated to say like, well, the only legitimate work is knowledge work.
Starting point is 00:30:03 And the only reason somebody wouldn't be doing that is because they don't have it in them. So they have to default to these other things. It's like, no, actually, if you read this book, you'd probably love it called Shop Classes Soulcraft. This guy who was like, I think he went to MIT from what I remember. He was doing a think tank type of thing. And he's like, this isn't doing it for me. He ends up going to some small town. I think it was New Hampshire or something like that. Finds this grizzled old guy who could listen to vintage motorcycles.
Starting point is 00:30:34 And just by listening, know exactly what was wrong with them. And starts to study and like becomes his student effectively. And then just gives up this whole complex high flying knowledge, you know, type of world to just hunker down and work on these old bikes. And it's like the happiest person on the planet. You know, and I think we definitely, we devalue that in a way. But when we do, I think we really, we, not only do we label people as not good enough when they're extraordinary people, but also we stop ourselves from going back to that physical interaction and physical creation space that I think so many of us miss. I agree. I mean, there's so much creative
Starting point is 00:31:17 power that goes into designing a home, building a home, putting a plumbing system into a building, just a solar panel. I mean, putting solar panels up. And just, it's amazing because they're beautiful pieces of art. At some stage of its creation, it's on a drawing table and it's beautiful i i studied mechanical drawing you know drafting and that kind of thing and uh it's beautiful just getting having the tools to get the perspective on things correctly and following a formula for this many inches equals. It's just, it's crazy. And you have to do doing cutaway views of like the inside of a wall. And like, and it was very technical drawing.
Starting point is 00:32:14 It's just, it's exciting. Like when I just remember this one drawing that we had of an oil refinery and it was a cutaway view and just staring at it and just being blown away. Like they took so much creativity. I mean, maybe from a different part of the brain, but as much creativity, you know, as writing, you know, a symphony or whatever. I mean, and that's what I was thinking as you're just sharing that is, you know a symphony yeah whatever i mean and and that's what i was thinking as you're just sharing that is you know i wonder if you have any sense that the fact that you actually went and you study plumbing and and you study mechanical drawing has any influence in the way that you
Starting point is 00:32:58 view the process the structure the the expressive side of of music of songwriting of putting together yeah things and vice versa. Like does the songwriting, does the musicality actually then affect the way you think about form and structure and sort of like physical spaces? Yeah. I mean, it's all interrelated. In my mind, I work off on tangents all the time, which is a bit of a handicap. But yeah, you know, I mean, growing up and learning those skills, you know, it definitely, it has an influence in a way because I allow myself to, you know, get on my artist's chair, you know, and like play and wait for the muse and you know, and it's great when she comes but she doesn't always come you know
Starting point is 00:33:47 then you got to get down and and and you got to roll up your sleeves and start start swinging with a hammer and there are different points i mean i did i did a song for a disney movie i think it was like 20 years ago already it It was a movie called Treasure Planet. I wrote two songs for the film. So I learned, they brought me into the project when it was still like in pencil sketches. And they started talking about these characters. This is huge team of people, dozens of people. And I've never seen people work so harmoniously in my life.
Starting point is 00:34:25 And there's a certain period of time where you don't judge, don't judge. and I've never seen people work so harmoniously in my life, you know? And there's a certain period of time where you don't judge, don't judge, let it all just come out. Dare to suck, dare to suck. You know, it's like, you gotta go there, but at some point in time, it's like, you gotta, you know, somebody has got to like tap you on the shoulder and wake you up. And then you, and then you gotta. And then you got to start tightening screws and actually crafting something. So it's like you have this sort of nebulous artistic process
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Starting point is 00:36:10 I knew you were going to be fun. On January 24th. Tell me how to fly this thing. Mark Wahlberg. You know what the difference between me and you is? You're going to die. Don't shoot him, we need him. Y'all need a pilot.
Starting point is 00:36:20 Flight risk. You know, it's interesting also that part of what you become known for is really experimenting with alternative tunings in your work. You know, guitar is your primary jam. And it sounds like from the earliest days, you know, for you, which kind of ties into this, it's sort of like, okay, so let me think differently even about this one thing. You know, okay, so I have a differently even about this one thing. Okay, so I have a guitar in my hands. I have this one instrument. And there's a standard way that 99.9% of people play it. But something in your brain is saying, but that's not necessarily the constraints that I feel I have. And let me just completely mess around with them. Yeah. It's fun. It really is fun. Do you play the guitar? I them. Yeah. It's fun. It really is fun.
Starting point is 00:37:05 Do you play the guitar? I do, yeah. Yeah. It's just, one night, I don't know if you, what you indulge in, but, you know,
Starting point is 00:37:14 just indulge in a little of something that you enjoy and then just sit on your sofa and just start unwinding and winding strings up and you'll break one. And just strum and see what feels good at that moment. And it's almost like you got to relearn how to play the instrument, every tuning you use.
Starting point is 00:37:38 There's some musical term for it, but there's... I thought it, you know, i did it out of necessity because i was in a three-piece band and i always hated when a guitar player would go into a solo or something like that and then everything dropped out yeah except the bass and the drums and i'm like you know and when you go in the studio you play the rhythm guitar behind it and then you put the solo on top. But, but it didn't really, I didn't want to really do that either,
Starting point is 00:38:10 but I just started to see things. It's, it was basically there to fill space so that I could create these droning kind of things that would go through the whole song. And that's something that I, I, I really got from Bob mold, you know, from who's could do. Yeah. And'm like man listen to that and you create these overtones and harmonics
Starting point is 00:38:33 it's just insane like what am i hearing that is that is that's what's really going on there and even bob mold i love his guitar playing he's such an underrated guitar player, but man, he creates this sonic landscape and it's jagged on the edges, but there's so much beauty. Like if you just listen a little deeper, there's so much harmonic complexity and beauty in what he's doing. Yeah. And that's like, it almost sounds like there's more than one person playing sometimes. Yeah. You know, which I guess is part of what you're talking about. Like when you got a power trio and, you know, the one guitar drops into a lead, if there isn't something else to like, to give it some spaciousness, you know, like it's sort of like, okay, so everything kind of, it gets thin. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:39:23 But then you look at guys like, you know, like people have been doing this for a long time. Like Robert Johnson, right? Zepp. Oh, everybody. When I learned that. Right. When I learned about Joni Mitchell and Jimmy Page and, you know, Robert Johnson and, you know, all these people. Steven Stills, another guy.
Starting point is 00:39:46 I felt vindicated because I felt like I was cheating, you know? Yeah. And you're like, but I was just trying to fill space. Yeah. Yeah. You know? And I'm like, that's really cool. And so necessity is the mother of invention. And, um, I only had one guitar. I couldn't afford another one. So what I did was I was hanging out in a music store and I saw banjo tuners and a thing called a hip shot. This is so wonky. Nobody's going to care. But I put banjo tuners and a hip shot on my guitar so I could lower the E string to a D. I could tune the B string up to a C could tune the b string up to a c and tune the e string up to an f sharp so i could do all these other tunings while i was playing i just wham and
Starting point is 00:40:31 then drop it down to a d and drone that out and play a little solo on the top you know but things like that yeah yeah which simultaneously makes for an amazing sonic experience and drives anyone who wants to try and figure out how to play what you're playing completely bad at you. Yeah, I know. You know what's amazing to me? And I don't do this a lot, but occasionally someone will send me a video of like a 12-year-old girl playing one of my songs in a standard tuning better than I can play it. And I'm like, oh, I got to get ahold of this kid. I got to, she's got to show me how to play the song the right way. Yeah, that's amazing.
Starting point is 00:41:15 You build on that. You start to build with Robbie. I mean, Goo Goo Dolls sounds like it starts out really more like a punk vibe. Eventually evolves to your sound sound becomes more melodic interesting also that in the beginning i've heard you share how robbie was really more the front man and it took a number of years for you to sort of you know like write more and then also like be more front and center and i've also heard you describe yourself as kind of like quieter more like in a personal in a private setting you know, like not that person, but there's something that happens to you when you get on stage where
Starting point is 00:41:51 when you step out there, it's almost like you're stepping into a different persona. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. Definitely. You know? Yeah. It's crazy because there's a lot of fear. Still, I've been doing this for 30 years or whatever. And I stand on the side of that stage and I'm like, Robbie is a natural born entertainer. He's the guy that comes out and goes, ta-da. And I have to force myself to try and keep up with that because sometimes I just want to play my guitar and sing. But then I'm like, you know, I also truly, truly believe in the work ethic of what I'm doing. And I think growing up in Buffalo,
Starting point is 00:42:37 I had a lot to do that. And early on, you know, I had my mentors that were from the local music business and them saying to me, look, at the time it was like, And, you know, I had my mentors that were from the local music business. And them saying to me, look, at the time it was like, somebody spends 10 bucks to come and see you. You better give them a show, kid. And it's like, yeah, I get it. I get it. You know, and, you know, I always got sort of put off by, I'm not naming names, bands that I've been on tour with.
Starting point is 00:43:07 And sitting at a bar with one of them and just whining about having to play this massive multi-Grammy winning 10 million album sales song that bought you a house in the Hollywood Hills and you're going to bitch about playing that, you know? That's the Buffalo in you. I know it is. You can only be so pretentious when you're from Buffalo. But it just, it just, it struck me as being like, wow, you ungrateful son of a bitch. Like, like, you know, and like, I get, sometimes I get, I get the little bit of a sigh before I play Iris, just like, it's the only song anybody knows. And then, and then I'm like, shut up, quit feeling sorry for yourself. That's what they paid to see, go give it to them, you know? And, and that's the way it should be it's a contract it's like an unwritten contract between you and your audience and i it's interesting because robbie's very very comfortable
Starting point is 00:44:15 on stage and i like being on stage and i can i can i can switch into that personality or that persona, whatever. Yeah. But as soon as, as soon as I walk off the stage, it's like this, like it's like somebody letting the air out of a balloon, you know? And I don't, I don't party anymore. And it's, and you know, you know, so I'm, so I'm drinking my club soda and I call home, you know, the real world awaits, you know? Yeah. I mean, it sounds like it's the,
Starting point is 00:44:48 it's sort of like the sweet spot of, you know, you're brought up and, you know, like in a town that values hard work, that's kind of hard scrabble in a blue collar environment. But also, you know, having just acquired a sensibility, having like more towards the introverted side of the spectrum. I know that sort of, it was eyeopening to me when a friend of mine actually sort of explained, Hey, you know, the difference between extroverts and introverts, isn't that, you know, like one is a raging party animal and the other one isn't,
Starting point is 00:45:21 it's both are social and are not, are, you know know an introvert is not an anti-social person it's just being around large numbers of people um it can be really energizing in the moment but when you're done you're empty yeah whereas an extrovert yes goes to that exact same experience to fill up yeah kind of weird yeah you know it's it's sort of like one of the things that i always thought about was you know because we came up playing in front of like five people getting in a filthy van you know and just traveling around we did that for almost 10 years before we got a break and then all of a sudden you get this quote this quote unquote hit and you start selling records. And then all of a sudden, the world is changing around you. And it's terrifying.
Starting point is 00:46:16 Yeah, especially if you're a shy-ish person. Because I can be a very shy-ish person to people. And I don't get that close to too many people. That started more. It kicked into a higher gear after we had gotten a couple of hit songs. Because I started to feel like, well, where were all these pretty girls before I had a hit song? Wait a minute. Who are all these people that all of a sudden are inviting me to parties and stuff?
Starting point is 00:46:49 I have no idea who these people are. Whatever. So I declined every invitation. And I, you know, stuck with who I knew. Kind of circled the wagons. And that was at the point. I was like, and this is, I really, honest to God, man, honest to God, I feel like after you write your first hit song, everyone around you is applauding. Oh my God, that's amazing.
Starting point is 00:47:15 It's amazing. It's as if you won the lottery and everyone is going, oh my God, John, you won the lottery. Do it again. And I'm like, uh. The pressure of that is insane. Well, that's where the roots, aside from the genetic predisposition, that's where the roots of my own addiction
Starting point is 00:47:34 sort of started in fear, man. Just at that point, I was terrified because I didn't know who to trust because nobody tells you the truth when you're really successful in that situation. You hang on to the people who say, John, yeah, you look fat in those pants. You know, I'm here, like, whatever, you know? Because so many people wind up with these, I don't know what you call them.
Starting point is 00:48:03 What's a good word? Just like yes men around them. And some people thrive on it because they're narcissists. Although, I mean, I guess I'm a narcissist too, or somewhat of a narcissist because I want people to love my music. I have no shame about that. I'm not going to completely flip who I am. You know, I stopped playing punk rock music because I didn't feel it anymore because I was a 24-year-old man at that point, 25-year-old man.
Starting point is 00:48:32 And to me, punk rock is kid music. It's what you do. You know, it's like Joe Strummer said, you know, turning rebellion into money. You know, and it's like, and Bob Mould, there's a great Bob Mould quote. They asked him, is punk dead?
Starting point is 00:48:48 Well, I hate that question. You know, it's not dead as long as there's a 13 year old boy. Yeah. You know, wearing a pair of chucks. Totally. You got a funny haircut. And it's like, but Bob Mould said, Bob Mould said, no, punk's not dead.
Starting point is 00:49:03 You can buy it at Kmart. I was like, yeah, man, that was great. There suddenly became, well, when punk rock became arena rock and then ultimately stadium rock, you know, it was very formulaic. I think a lot of the, a lot of it, it's very formulaic. And it's pop music. I'm not shit talking any band. No, no, I totally get it. I love, I love all that stuff.
Starting point is 00:49:27 Right. But, but eventually, you know, I feel like anything that lasts long enough that starts as counterculture becomes the culture. It does. And that was a weird thing. Like when there was a guy named Kevin Weatherly who used to run K rock in Los Angeles and that was the most powerful radio station in the universe. You got a song played on K-Rock that became your single. And you went and made the video and you kissed everyone's ass you had to. And the trajectory was very straight. Then you started getting ads. After K-Rock added you, everybody was going to add you. And that radio game was how I defined my success for a lot of years. Did I crack the top 20 on that? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:50:10 What did we debut at? What is it? It's just, it's nerve wracking. And now because radio is so consolidated and the programming of radio, I mean, it's these like- Yeah, it's a different beast. That's a different beast. It's algorithm-based, right? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:50:29 Yeah. Yeah, and it's not- I don't- I mean, I know that my songs will always get played on the- I don't- It's not an oldie's issue, but like AC radio or hotty, whatever.
Starting point is 00:50:43 I'm in recurrent rotation, a lot of places. And I hear one of my songs every single day, you know, I'll be in the supermarket or the Home Depot or wherever I am. And I'll hear one and then I kind of cringe a little and then I'm just like, hey, hey, you're lucky. Okay. You're right. I am lucky. And, um, but you know, it does, it becomes the mainstream at some point. And a lot of times the people, especially, you know, writers and, you know, people who are in, but out, they, they shit on the bands. People feel like they have the right to shit on you if you have a little success, you know, and they think like you automatically did something wrong and different to get
Starting point is 00:51:26 that way. And I remember being that way myself, because I saw U2 when I was 14 or 15, I saw them play at a theater and I was just like, man, these guys are amazing. And then it was like, what? Wait a minute, hold on. Now they're on the radio. Now they they're now they're playing at the arena what what the hell's going on screw those guys they sold out you know and it's so easy to dismiss that but you know a lot of times artists are thrust into those positions through no fault of their own other than creating something that other people found appealing. You know?
Starting point is 00:52:09 Yeah. And I mean, once you land there, it's, I think some people are, you know, they're equipped to handle it, but it's almost like, it feels like that is the rarer person, especially if it happens earlier in life. Remember we had Frenton on a little bit back and he was sharing how when Frenton comes alive, comes out and then he's on the cover of Rolling Stone, that classic Scabullo shot, like topless.
Starting point is 00:52:34 And everyone's like, oh my, this is the biggest thing ever. And behind the scenes, he's kind of melting down because he's now become something he didn't want to be. And now he's got everyone telling him, this is where you got to keep being and this is what your next album has to be. And, Oh, and you have to now try and repeat what you just did, which was like make the biggest selling live album in history. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:52:59 And you're, you know, he's in his twenties. And so, I mean, you know, that's like, I don't imagine anyone who has, you know, I gotta imagine anyone who has, you know, like you guys eventually, you're gigging around for a long time, but then like mid 90s hit and you've got these series of things where you got huge things. And it's almost like,
Starting point is 00:53:15 how does any human being who's sentient and who's feeling and who's empathic deal with that? You know, and still come out like without going through some sort of trough of sorrow or window of darkness. Oh yeah. Yeah. I mean, all of a sudden, everything that I wanted, I had, and I was terrified, miserable, you know, uh, you know, so they say, go to therapy, go to therapy. So I go to therapy. And then they're like, here, take these.
Starting point is 00:53:50 You'll feel better. So you take those and you kind of feel better. And then it just becomes this slippery slope of, well, I can't sleep. Well, take these. And then you don't have those pills anymore and you can't sleep. So you go and get those pills and you start drinking more. And, you know, it's very strange because the question that I always asked myself was, well, who's going to be here when all the fun stops? Who's going to be here at the party when everybody else has left and they're actually going to help me clean up.
Starting point is 00:54:28 You know what I mean? And that was tough. And I had to, I mean, you know, I almost lost everyone in my life and, you know, damn near killed myself, you know, and it was, and it's such a cliched story but it was it's the fact that people people feel like they own a little piece of you or they know something about you it's like yeah it's cool it's it's nice to be appreciated but but you don't know me you know and uh you know people talk all kinds of smack all the time it's just easy to talk smack it's so easy to just make yourself feel better just by i mean i've done it we've all done it ah screw that guy i could have done that better you know it's yeah but but i think everyone's been through their version of that, but a lot of people, when it happens, it's not public.
Starting point is 00:55:29 You know, when it happens, there's not, you know, there's not the face that you have to then wear to a mass number of people on a brand you have to represent and these expectations you have to meet. And then, you know, my sense is it's different, you know, and it's harder when you fall. And at the same time, it's not to say that there's not a stunning gratitude and appreciation
Starting point is 00:55:48 for everything that comes along with it. Absolutely. You know, yes, like you can feel that coming from you. And at the same time, you know, I know you've shared very openly about you effectively reaching this moment where you dropped to your knees, I think it was 2014-ish. And you're like, all right,
Starting point is 00:56:05 so this is either going to kill me pretty soon or I need to finally figure this out. Yeah. You know what I realized? I mean, cause I, at that point, I mean, I was at that point, like around 2014, I've been trying to get sober for me, you know, 10 years and I get a month, you know, 10 years. And I get a month, three weeks, two days, a couple hours, you know, and it just kept going and going. And then finally I had to, I mean, I found myself in such a dangerous effed up situation in a blackout and waking up from a blackout in a really weird situation is it's okay. You'll just like my situation I think is hysterically funny in retrospect
Starting point is 00:56:57 where I woke up and from my blackout, but, and what was going on. And, but, but it terrified me. It terrified me. I'm like, this shit's getting dangerous. This is getting dangerous, dude. You know? And my wife was, was like ready to bail, you know? And she was like, I don't want to leave you because I love you, but I can't take this anymore. You know? And she said the sweetest thing to me when I had six years, she gave me my coin for six years and she said, you haven't made me cry in six years. And I was just like, oh, wow. And that's when you realize where you belong when you're home yeah yeah that was a nice moment yeah can't even imagine
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Starting point is 00:58:30 We've been compromised. The pilot's a hitman. I knew you were going to be fun. On January 24th. Tell me how to fly this thing. Mark Wahlberg. You know what the difference between me and you is? You're going to die. Don't shoot him, we need him.
Starting point is 00:58:40 Y'all need a pilot. Flight risk. I mean, along the way also, you know, six years in, almost seven now, I guess, for you at this point. But one day at a time, still, right? And married, you're dad now. Yeah. You know, and I got to imagine that the decision, like that decision and then being a dad has given you a different perspective on everything.
Starting point is 00:59:15 I think it has, you know, I mean, it definitely, it softens your heart and makes you worry less about your, you know, the way you are perceived by other people because you have this tiny little genius who just adores you. Do you have daughters? I have a daughter, yeah.
Starting point is 00:59:39 I'm looking at your face and I'm just like, I know that feeling. I know that smile that I know that smile. That's like full body. Yeah. And like, you know, he's got eyes full of tears and a Hot Wheels car with a wheel that fell off. And like, you just feel like so powerful when you go, come here, honey honey let me fix that for you pop the little wheel back on they just think you're the greatest guy in the world man you know i mean i love that i'm
Starting point is 01:00:12 gonna miss that but you know she's my silver lining from the pandemic you know because i've watched her grow i was literally away from her for half her life, you know, and to get to spend this much time with her. And by the way, I, once again, I don't know how this happened, but I wound up living in a house with five women again. And I'm just like, oh my God, I need some testosterone. I need to go shoot a gun or something. You can't fight it. It's your destiny. I can't fight it.
Starting point is 01:00:49 But I love it. I love them. I love that my daughter has a tribe of strong, smart women around her, including my sisters. And Nona lives here. Grandma lives lives here and her two cousins live here and you know and and uh with us and and she's learning from them you know and and i love that i love that you know but i try to balance it out throwing her around wrestling with her you know, but I try to balance it out, throwing her around, wrestling with her, you know, doing that whole thing. She's such a girl. God. I was with a little boy and her last weekend and they had like this ski resort, but they had an indoor pool and the whole thing. So we took them in the pool and then about 15 minutes into like letting the kids jump into the
Starting point is 01:01:41 pool. And then I grab them, put them back up and they jump back in. This little boy takes a swing at me. And then he asked me why I had long hair, like a woman. It's like, what is going on here, kid? He's like, he's, you know, it's like, he wants some, he's like challenging me. And I'm just like, I love you, Lilyly because she just loves me man there's no no no challenging the dominance you know i mean she'll manipulate the hell out of me but you know you you get really good at at sort of bobbing and weaving the manipulation you you know, with girls. I enjoy it. And I'm just like, so what if I spoil her a little bit? Yeah. When you think about, I mean, you know, over the last year,
Starting point is 01:02:35 just the time that you may want to have with her. And then you think about, you know, okay, so as we emerge from whatever this window is, you know, you start to head back into the studio and eventually back on the road for certain windows of time. Do you have any sense that you'll make decisions differently based on just this last year or so that you've had? Yeah. Yeah. It's very strange. It was like, I mean, I grew up insanely poor, like, you know, my parents work,
Starting point is 01:03:03 but we always had to have food stamps and sometimes a little help from the pantry. And they were good people. They were good people, but they were flawed. You know, like all of us, they were flawed, maybe more deeply than some. I will do everything in my power to make sure that I'm strong and healthy for that girl because I started so late. And I don't ever want her to feel the things that I felt when I became completely untethered and left to my own devices. As far as the touring situation goes, yeah, she's going to be coming with me a lot more. A, because she loves it. And B, you know, traveling is best education, right? Maybe not necessarily with a rock band, but I mean, you know, it's not like we're having wild parties on the bus anymore. And, you know, she loves it. And I love being with her because she's totally honest. She doesn't know how to lie yet.
Starting point is 01:04:07 Although she's learning. She's learning, you know, like just to cover her ass. She'll, no, you know, but I just adore her in every way. I see myself in her sometimes. So like personality, I'm like, really? Like, is this genetic? I'm like, Jesus. And I'm running down my list of character defects and I'm like, oh God, spare her that one. Please don't let that happen to her. Every parent has like those lists, like, ooh, that was a good one. Ooh, not that one. Not that one. No.
Starting point is 01:04:46 Yeah. It's, it's yeah. That's beautiful. It feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation as well. So hanging out here in this container of good life project, if I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up? To have the courage, to be honest with yourself and not worry about the outcome you know i mean i could elaborate a little more but i don't want to i'll just screw it up you know like but we got this thing hanging on the wall in the kitchen. This is a big poster. It's made out of newspaper that says work hard and be nice to people. Generally, it's not bad.
Starting point is 01:05:36 It's not bad. Sort of first step to leading a good life. You know, I mean, there's so much. I mean, you've been in this for so long and you're studying. You're a student of having a good life. What is that like? It's amazing. I mean, it's really, it's kind of breathtaking to be in this project for years now to have had the opportunity to speak to so many different people from so many walks of life. People who are a week away from hand to mouth and people who are at the top of industry, art, science, politics. And to see the shared humanity, to see sort of like the shared values when they
Starting point is 01:06:26 really just get down to it, you know, it's amazing, you know. It's, it's incredible because I mean, to me that you do this, but I, you know, I have to ask you the question, is your life better? What was the best takeaway from anyone? Like you just, you had a paradigm shift when someone said something to you in an interview. I mean, there must be hundreds of them. Yeah, there are. It's really hard to isolate one, but you know, there are moments that have stayed with me that either because it was something deeply personal to me that somebody gave language to, or just because it was a reminder that there but for God's grace go I, or it was a reframe on what success was. So like when I, producer Lindsay, who you've met,
Starting point is 01:07:16 reminds me that the person I tend to refer to the most in conversation is Milton Glaser, who was on the show years ago and passed away last year. And for so many different reasons, for the choices he made, he's this iconic designer, designed the I Heart NY logo and that classic Dylan poster with the rainbow hair. His work has touched so many different people and he kept designing and working um really like right up until the very end when it was 91 um so there were a lot of lessons in his life and the choices the things that he said no to you know he showed up and he kept a small but hyper prolific studio in new york city he didn't start a massive agency which could have. He said no to all of these things that would have taken him away from the work. He was very clear on the work that filled him up. And he
Starting point is 01:08:13 said no to what a lot of people would have been so tempted to say yes to in the name of being able to do the work and to be able to spend time with people. He just couldn't get enough of his wife being one of those people. And he said something to me also, which resonated, which was he knew why he was here from the time he was six years old. And he said, I make things that move people. And that was very personal to me
Starting point is 01:08:44 because that's not everybody. But when he said that, I was like, my DNA started vibrating because I was like, that's me. That's me. Really? You know? And what's interesting is like, I sense some of that in you too. You know, I sense a lot of that in you because there's like a maker instinct in you that crosses whether it's drawing, whether it's plumbing, whether it's music. Like there's something that is like a fierce creative impulse and something where you do it in part for yourself, but also because when it moves people, it adds to sort of like the experience of it. Yeah. Yeah. No, it does. It really, truly does. That's a beautiful story, by the way.
Starting point is 01:09:29 It's a really beautiful story. I mean, you know, I've been reflecting a lot about what, what is going on in our society and the frustration and the violence and the, I mean, where we are at. I mean, we were a hair's breadth away from a coup d'etat. And I'm not getting political. I'm not saying anything right or left, but at the same time, it's like, what are the forces that are deeply behind this discontent? Are we ever going to be back to, I don't know. And I'm on the fence. I blow with the wind now to see what's happening.
Starting point is 01:10:19 But I just feel like somehow a lot of people in this country, I think a lot of it is to do with the concentration of wealth in very few hands and people not being able to be part of trade unions, labor unions, whatever. I feel like people are losing their sense of purpose because I truly believe that work gives your life purpose. And sometimes you may not have your dream job and then you have to find the purpose in your work. I mean, I had a lot. I mean, I used to fry peanuts in a vat of oil for a living, you know? And I had to try to find the purpose in it, you know? There just seems to be a rush amongst certain people to just make humans obsolete. It's just like, just because we can do it technologically and we're that advanced.
Starting point is 01:11:21 I think technology has outpaced human evolution. I mean, it's just, how are we going to deal with it? Yeah, I think we're on the precipice of a lot of really tough issues right now. Tough issues. You think we're going to be okay? I do.
Starting point is 01:11:37 I'm oddly hopeful. Yeah. I'm like, you know, like at the end of the day, you know, like I'm a New York Jew who is not necessarily wired for optimism, like with all things. I'm a Polish Catholic from Buffalo and I'm the same way. You kind of get it, right?
Starting point is 01:11:55 Absolutely. Right. But there is something about me where I'm kind of like, you know what? I'm hopeful because all the things that are separating us and all the things that are challenging us right now, approach differently and use differently can become tools for rehumanizing, tools for advancement, tools for growth, tools for connection. So it's like, it's all there and it's all available to us. And one of my fascinations is like, what switches do we need to flip for us to start to use them, not for division and replacement, but for connection and elevation? Wow.
Starting point is 01:12:37 You got to write that down, bro. We got it on tape, so it's all good. Yeah, man. You got to write that down. That was... Anyway. I really appreciate you taking the time to talk. My pleasure.
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