Good Life Project - The Life-changing Power of Daily Walks | Libby DeLana
Episode Date: December 12, 2024Discover the transformative power of walking with Libby DeLana, co-founder of creative agency Mechanica and author of "Do Walk: Navigate earth, mind and body. Step by step." In this inspiring conversa...tion, Libby shares how her simple decision to take a daily morning walk ultimately led her to walk the circumference of the Earth - and how this practice became a moving meditation that unlocked presence, creativity, and a profound connection to herself and the natural world around her. Whether you're looking to inject more presence into your daily life, process emotions, or seeking tips for tapping into your innate creativity, Libby's first-hand walking wisdom will motivate you to lace up and head outdoors.You can find Libby at: Website | Instagram | This Morning Walk podcast | Episode TranscriptIf you LOVED this episode you’ll also love the conversations we had with Cyndie Spiegel about finding joy in life’s small moments.Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the WheelVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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I was more myself than I ever had been. I recognized myself. But for me, the walk was the tool to make sure that I was outdoors. It was this recognition that, ah, this is where I blossom, where I'm comfortable. It my best creative partner. My walk has become a place where I am so comfortable
in my own skin and my own body that I am more me. I often don't really know what I feel. If you say
to me, how are you feeling, Liv? I'll probably answer with a smile on my face. I feel good.
And it's kind of a non-answer. And it's not real. And that's in part because I'm not sure I know how
to articulate to you what I feel, but when I add motion to my emotions, I understand what I am
feeling more deeply. So I don't know about you, but I feel like sometimes we overlook the simplest
things, ways to reconnect with who we are and the life we want to live that have been
more or less hiding in plain view our whole lives. Walking is one of those things. And for my guest
today, Libby Delaina, who has now walked every day for 12 years, traversing more than 25,000 miles.
That's the circumference of planet Earth. This simple practice profoundly changed her life.
And it just might change yours, but in ways you also would never imagine.
So as you'll hear, that intentional act of lacing up her shoes and striding out into
the world, it reawakened parts of herself that had gone dormant.
Her creativity, her sense of who she really was, her sense of wonder and profound appreciation for the natural environment around her. And Libby's daily walking
practice became kind of a portal back to her most authentic self. In our conversation, she shares
how this ritual allowed her to honor the essence of who she really is, which had become obscured
by the demands of a very high-powered creative career.
And Libby is the creator and co-host of This Morning Walk with Alex L., author of the book Do Walk, Navigate Earth, Mind, and Body Step-by-Step, and a leading voice on the emotionally
transformative power of walking.
An award-winning creative director and founder who has worked with top brands for decades. She took this unexpected turn in her 50s to become a model and vocal advocate
for embracing new chapters and possibilities as we age.
So excited to share this conversation with you.
I'm Jonathan Fields, and this is Good Life Project.
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You have a notation on your LinkedIn profile and, and the job title is stunt man.
Right.
And that was last year. You got to take me into this.
Okay. Well, this is a little off the walking story, but believe it or not, about three years
ago, I was reached out to, I had Instagram DMs actually by Clinique and they said, hey, would you like to
be part of this campaign that we're doing? I'd never spent any time in front of the camera.
It wasn't something I was particularly thinking about, but there were some other really interesting
women. And I said, sure. As a result, I now spend quite a bit of time in front of the camera,
which for a number of reasons, I'm very happy about because I have
chosen to age naturally. However, anybody wants to do it is beautiful and appropriate for them.
But I never had a role model in the ecosystem of who to look to and how to do that. So that's why
I spend time, any time in front of the camera, actually. But the stuntman came from a campaign for Verizon,
where I had to jump off a, I happen to love to get in the cold water. So I was jumping off this
dock into the cold water over and over again. And when I finally got home, I really looked at the
contract actually, and I was listed as a stuntman. And I think that's simply because I wasn't simply standing
on a set and smiling. So yeah. That's too funny. I just love that, you know,
like you get to put stuntman on sort of like the, like the, the resume.
Yeah. Yeah. So I just found it completely hysterical and ridiculous as a 62-year-old to have that even be anywhere in my ecosystem.
Fantastic.
Yeah, thank you.
So bigger picture, you have a long and I'm going to use the word storied career in the creative world and the advertising world.
Spending a solid chunk of time at Mullen Lowe and currently in co-founding Mechanica, your own creative and branding agency, just doing incredible, incredible work, winning all the awards, all the yada yada,
all the amazing things. Then in 2011, you start taking a daily morning walk. And between that
time and now, you have effectively walked the circumference of our planet Earth. It's sort of
like the Forrest Gump of walking.
Right. Fair.
So the question that comes to my mind initially is why?
Well, first, thank you for having me on this beautiful podcast. It's really a go-to when I'm
walking, honestly. It's a place of calm. It's a beacon. So thank you for inviting me on. So yeah, 2011, I feel very, very fortunate. Life was grand.
I feel one of the most privileged people on the planet. I probably am. A healthy family,
lovely career that I was proud of, and dear friends close by, lived in a beautiful space. So there was absolutely nothing in my world that created, aside from the usual,
you know, ebb and flow of life, that was problematic. And yet, this one morning,
happened to be my dad's birthday, who passed away a long time ago, I woke up and was sort of reflective. And I think the best way I can
articulate it is I felt incredibly grateful and incredibly fortunate, and yet I didn't feel whole.
And what do I mean by that? I think I felt as if there was some key piece of who I was growing up
that I wasn't paying attention to, honoring, hadn't sort of
consciously woven into my day. And what was that? Well, growing up, I was, I'm 62 now,
this was a long time ago, the way we all grew up in backyards and slightly feral and running around.
And I, what I recognized at that moment was that the place where I was most me and most happiest,
just happy, was in the outdoors.
And my life, while really wonderful, was a lot of carpools and grocery store trips and
meetings and conference calls and all wonderful. And yet, I think that little key that made me me,
I wasn't consciously building into my day. And so literally one day I decided, you know what,
I'm just going to get up an hour early and go for a walk. And it wasn't about exercise. It wasn't
about 10,000 steps. It wasn't about my little, it was really, I'm just going to build into my day a conscious
act of being in the outdoors. And I'll just do it for 30 days and see how it feels. And
you know, what I've come to learn is that brought me closer to who I am and became an essential
part of my day, like brushing my teeth. It's a non-negotiable. And so I go every day and I have for 12 years, almost 13 actually at this point.
So when you wake up, what time of year was this when you said, okay, I need to do this?
It was November.
Okay. So this is November, New England. So probably it's starting to get kind of cold
outside. And if you're waking up first thing in the morning, probably in the 30s and 40s in the
morning.
Yes.
When you open your eyes that first morning, you're like, oh, I made this commitment.
Am I really going to do this?
Well, you know, I guess there was a strong enough recognition that that being in the
outdoors and seeing my breath and, you know, we're very blessed with good gear these days, right?
It's a matter of layering up and hats and pocket warmers and a headlamp.
And so initially it was sort of a playful thing, right?
I'd just go out for an hour.
But as time went on, I went out even in the rain and the snow storms and the ice storms. And I have some pictures of me where
my whole hood is covered in ice and my little goggles are covered in ice and I'm wearing
crampons around my neighborhood. And I think what happens on those days, I often say it's the day I
don't want to go or that little sort of persistent kind of sexy and really annoying voice shows up that says,
you know what? Stay in bed. Don't worry about it. You've walked for a whole month. Take a break.
I actually have given her a name. Her name is Ruby Dubina. And Ruby is just trying to keep
me protected. It's too cold. You need more sleep. But I found what I do is I simply say to Ruby,
I am grateful to you, Ruby. Thank you for
trying to keep me safe. You go back to bed. I'm going out for a walk. And it's often on those
days where I don't want to go is where there's a lesson or I see something that just makes it
magical. And it seems to happen all the time. Sometimes it's a snowy owl. Where
I live, there's snowy owls. Or there's this absolutely beautiful blistering silence. It'll
be snowing and nobody else is out. And there's very few places where I get that kind of silence.
And it's in that silence that I often hear myself clearest. So I often find that the
weather days bring some kind of special magic, honestly, to the walk.
It's so interesting that you have those days where that voice, Ruby, for you, is kind of
saying, stay, stay inside, stay inside. That almost invariably, those are the days where there's something special waiting for you. I think so many of
us have experienced that when we actually have pushed through and said, okay, so I really don't
feel like it, but I made this commitment. I'm going to do it. And then you go out and do it.
Maybe the first five minutes you're kind of dragging and then something seems to open up
and it's almost like, okay, this is, I'm meant to be here today. I don't know why. And, but there's something that unfolds. I'm in Boulder, Colorado, as we were talking earlier. And what I learned coming out here pretty quickly, after 30 years in New York City, when the weather is. It can be really hot. It can be absolute, you know, like just deep, deep, heavy snow.
Everyone's out.
Nobody, it's a completely, it's a mindset shift that is really powerful.
People are just like, no, like you said, get good clothes and get outside.
There's nothing that stops people from going out into the mountains here on a daily basis,
no matter what's going on.
And it's a habit that I started to pick up as well. It really does. Something shifts in you.
I'm curious about the 30 day window for you though, in the very beginning,
when, so the initial commitment was, let me do this. Let me wake up every morning,
go for a walk for 30 days. When you hit day 30 and you're like, okay, check, I've done this. What makes you then
extend it for another, you know, almost 13 years now? What makes you say more like this? I can't
actually stop now. Like this needs to be a part of my life forever. Yeah. I think it's that feeling
of I was more myself than I ever had been. I recognized myself. I was honoring the thing. I mean, I feel really
grateful that 30 days earlier, what I recognized was that there was an essential key that I wasn't
using to unlock who I am. And that just is me. You know, I happen to think going for a walk,
and we'll probably get into this, is great for a lot of people, maybe everybody. But for me, the walk
was the tool to make sure that I was outdoors. So I think it was this recognition that, ah,
this is where I blossom, where I'm comfortable. And then it became a beautiful tool. As you
mentioned earlier, I was fortunate to spend some time in the creative space and ad world, it became my creative time.
You know, it became a place to, I mean, my walks become my best therapist, my best creative
partner.
I actually just recently wrote a book that's coming out next September.
And the way I did it was actually on my walk.
I would speak the chapters into being, transcribe them, and then edit from there. So my walk has become
a place where I am so comfortable in my own skin, in my own body, that I am more me.
I've often said that, and this is probably too revealing about me, but I often don't really
know what I feel. If you say to me, how are you feeling, Liv? I'll probably answer with a smile
on my face. I feel good. And it's kind of a non you feeling, Liv? I'll probably answer with a smile on my face.
I feel good. And it's kind of a non-answer. And it's not real. And that's in part because I'm not sure I know how to articulate to you what I feel. But when I add motion to my emotions,
I understand what I am feeling more deeply. I might not be able to put language to it,
but when I'm out for a walk,
I'll often do sort of a little body scan. Do I have tightness in the back of my throat?
Am I struggling with a conversation I need to have? And therefore, the walk is a place to
practice or think it through, or sometimes I find myself speaking out loud. So it's a place where all those emotions are safe.
They're a place where I can begin to sort of pull them apart. As a visual person, one of the things
the way I sort of visualize it is that my emotions might be sort of a ball of string,
or, you know, as sort of knotted, beautiful, might be, you know, beautiful color threads.
And there's, it's sort of knotted up. Now, do you know that feeling when somebody hands you
a baby and you just naturally hold that baby and you start rocking without even thinking about it,
you start swaying and you just hold that little infant and you just naturally from hip to hip, from weight
shifts from one side to the other. So now take that ball of string and that swaying motion.
The way I visualize it is now that ball of knots begins to loosen and the threads become
individual threads that I can look at and identify. And so that feeling of understanding
what that ball of emotions is only happens when I add the motion to it. And so I think back to
your original question, why did I keep going? I think I understood myself better. Carving out
that time of the day was essential. You said that you, in those moments when you're out walking, you most recognize yourself.
You said, I'm most me.
Yes.
What is it that you were seeing that you weren't experiencing or recognizing or seeing before then that was maybe either new to you or you were being reacquainted with? I'm not sure I have precise language for it other than to say,
in order for me, Libby, to be Libby, I need to have the outside, the outdoors, the changing
leaves, the sound of the bumblebees, the beautiful flowers every season. I need them to be a vital
piece of my day. And if I am indoors all day, I don't have access to that.
It's this sort of, you know, the awe of the natural world. And that's a place where I am
most comfortable. So when I take that out of my day, I can do the tasks, I can do the work, but I am not as lit up. I'm not as grounded, undoubtedly. And I'm not as dialed
into what it is I'm thinking or feeling in a really true way. It's, you know, that time of
the walk in the morning, I can actually really begin to sort of acknowledge and understand what's
happening for me in my heart. And that, you know, sometimes you
just get out of bed and you start your day, you start the tasks and you jump to the to-do lists
and accomplish all the things that need to be done and make breakfast and don't allow that space for
a deep breath or a recognition of what you're really feeling. And so I think that's, I think
those were the key components. Yeah. I mean, it occurs to me also the way you're really feeling. And so I think that's, I think those were the key components.
Yeah.
I mean, it occurs to me also
the way you're describing it is,
and I think so many people
would relate to this notion of
you open your eyes,
the first thing you do
is you grab whatever device
is nearest to you
and you start to look through
like the litany of inboxes
and DMs and things
where everybody else,
like immediately within seconds
is starting to set the agenda of your day
like this is beautifully said this is like who am i going to react to when and why and how for the
rest of this day until i lay my head back down on the pillow what you're doing is saying kind of like
i want to start my day with a more intentional act does it make sense oh 100 it's so well said
and i think the language i use around my practice currently is, and everybody has their own practice, right? It might be seated meditation. It might be on a day because I view going every single day as a radical act
of fidelity to myself. That time in the morning, I don't think it's too far for me to call it a
sacred time, but to be faithful to who I am and what I need in order to flourish each day. And
to your point, take an intentional moment in time to catch my breath,
focus on the day, is to me this radical act of fidelity to me, which is often a hard thing to
take, time to take when you're parenting and working and living and it's a hard thing to do.
Yeah, just the practicalities, I think, everyday life.
Yeah, that's right.
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know is there a dark side to fidelity and what pops into my mind is I meditate every morning.
That's one of my early morning practices I have for about the same amount of time you've been walking, actually.
And I use an app just as a timer for me.
So I have little chimes that go off every five minutes, and I know kind of when it's over.
And the app also is gamified.
So for every 10 days in a meditating, a little gold star appears.
And then every 50 days I get a green star.
And I know the teaching around it.
Like you don't meditate with a goal in mind.
And I found myself recently, I'm like 572 days into meditating or something like that.
I have to wake up at 3 a.m. for an international flight.
I'll do it on the plane. I get on the plane. It just doesn't happen. It's a long, crazy travel
day with multiple flights and multiple countries. I finally get home late at night. I'm exhausted.
I crash. The next day I get up. I look at my app and I'm like, oh, damn. The streak is broken.
I'm not typically an obsessive person, but I'm thinking to myself, is there any way I can like rationalize any part of the last day and call it meditation? So I can
get my star. So, cause I'm like so, so committed, like I'm obsessing over fidelity to this one
practice. And I wonder if there's almost like an another side to that where it becomes obsessive.
Yeah. I think, I think it's a fair point. And I think, and maybe you found this
over the course of these 12 years that you've been doing it. I think there have been chapters
where maybe it's been obsessive. It isn't for me anymore. And I think I've become softer around
how I practice. So for example, on those travel days, you know, getting up at 3am and how do we, how do we do it? I now really call a walk.
I might get to the airport early and do a couple of laps, you know, in terms of number of steps,
I have no idea, but it's not nearly the mileage I do any other time. There might be a time when,
you know, it's very hard to do my usual loop or mileage.
And I just park as far away as I possibly can from the front door of the market.
It's the only time I can do it.
And as I step out of my car to walk to the market, I park as far away as possible.
I just try and get into that place and be very intentional about it and try not to be critical of, oh my gosh, you didn't go enough steps,
you didn't go enough miles. And so I think there's just a tenderness, a softness to it.
But I hear what you're saying. And there were certainly chapters in this practice where I think
I probably would have said, well, I didn't walk far enough today. I walked. And now I don't have
that same sort of, I don't know, mindset around it. I think there's maybe a little bit more generous understanding about it.
I think initially it was probably for me more about how long I did or how far I went.
And now it's about intention.
And that intention can come in a much more modest package.
That makes sense.
I like the language you use.
There's a softness about it now.
I wonder if part of the fidelity also is that over time, this fidelity to this practice shapes your identity.
You shift from somebody who says like, oh, I walk to somebody who says, oh, I am a walker.
It sounds like that's true for you.
It is.
But what else does that bring to you?
Like that shift in identity, how else have you experienced?
Like what does that change within you?
Well, it's interesting.
Think of runners or mountain climbers.
They will identify, I'm a runner, right?
And in general, I think those of us who walk or hike or wander or saunter probably don't identify as that. I think, well, number one,
as I mentioned, I'm 62. I got my first tattoo when I was 60 and it says this morning walk.
That's commitment right there.
It's on my left leg on the inside of my ankle, left on the side of my heart and on the inside
because it's just for me. And it's in a
beautiful typeface, Gotham. The poor tattoo artist was very patient with me because I really wanted
to make sure it was curved perfectly as someone who loves typography. Rule number one, no Helvetica.
No Helvetica, no Comic Sans. But yes, I do define myself as a walker now. So what does that look like? What does that
mean? It means even small things. I spend quite a bit of time in New York City and someone will
say, well, let's hop the subway. I'm like, no, no, no, we're walking. We're walking. We're going
to see life. And for me, if I'm traveling and I arrive someplace, one of the first things I do
after dropping off my luggage is walk the neighborhood of where I am. And I find that
just feet on the ground, it's a way to ground where you are. It is a defining attribute of
how I move through the world now. And so yes, I think I do identify and call myself a mom,
a walker, and a stuntman. Yeah. It would also make you the ultimate oddball in LA because
nobody walks as well as I do. Certainly. That's right.
Drive like two blocks away. It's like, oh, of course, you just drive everywhere.
That's right. I mean, it's interesting also, right? Because if your default mode of quote transportation or just like navigating the world, you know, within a certain
range, let's say if there's something, you know, you have to do and it's within, you know,
a 20 minute walk or like a five minute drive and your default is always going to be walking.
I would imagine you also, you start to experience your world profoundly differently.
Profoundly. It's much more intimate, I think. I also think the pace of walking is really beautiful. I think it's more in alignment with
the way humans move through the world. I see things very differently when I walk through a
neighborhood than when I ride a bike or drive. Here's one thing that I really realized early on, which was, I thought, quite interesting, was that my walking practice actually really taught me how to see things, not just look at things.
And as an art director, that was kind of a profound moment.
So, you know, I had this one walk that I do very often.
I walk past this beautiful neighborhood barn.
I think it's been there for probably 60, 70 years. And I used to drive past it all the time on my way to work. And I
knew it was over there. I, you know, the barn's over there, but I never really saw it. And as I
started to walk past it, you know, I'll anthropomorphize this barn to a she, but I began to see her shape and her impact on the
community. And this was a dairy barn. It's no longer operable, but undoubtedly this barn
nourished our community in a really meaningful way. And every time I would walk past,
she would look different. So in the snow, the snow falling, the sun hitting her differently, the fading placards or clabards. So it was this really beautiful lesson that this object
was important to within our community, but I barely even noticed that. And then how this one
singular barn would look absolutely different every single day.
And after realizing that, which probably feels and seems very obvious, what I realized is not only did it look different, I was different every single day.
I would bring to my walk something new. of different ecosystem, different weather pattern. And my own ecosystem and weather pattern meant
every single walk, despite the fact that I was walking exactly the same path, right next to the
same barn, time and time again, it was dynamically different. And I think probably seems very obvious
to your listeners, but for me, it was a sort of revelation that in walking,
I was going to see my neighborhood and my community differently, and that I was actually
different on each walk. So it was those little lessons became sort of very magnificent.
Yeah, I mean, it's what you're describing sounds a lot like what happens from meditation over time.
Also, it's,'s you know there's
a sense of presence and awareness that starts to develop it starts to drop into you where
you know you could meditate on the same breath the same body part the same mantra every morning
and yet over time you experience that exact same thing the exact same place exact same seat like
the differently you start to just using your language instead of just looking like
you're actually seeing.
It's interesting the way you describe walking.
If I think about walking compared to driving the same route, like every morning, we're
so autopilot when we drive these days, usually we're not even driving.
Like we don't even know what we're doing.
Like the act of driving is just completely automated.
You know, it's habit for us.
Our mind is completely somewhere else.
We're processing the to-do list, the meeting, whatever it is.
You may be on a call.
And the walk brings you the physicality of it and the practice of it and probably the
repetition of steps and you being actually exposed in nature rather than enclosed and
excluded from it changes just the way that you experience it and makes it a moving
meditation. This is part of what you write about. It really becomes, probably not every day,
but you get to drop into that mode on a regular basis. And I'm wondering if that sort of trains
your brain to start to be more present and to see more outside of the walk. As you move throughout
the rest of your day, are you like, oh, wow, I'm so much more, I see what's happening in this conversation with this person who I'm with now,
or I see the colors in the wall and the cubicle or the office differently.
Yeah, no, I think it does. I think, and maybe you feel this with your meditation practice,
I think there's much more comfort in the quiet, which, you know, in terms of a conversation, the ability to drop into deep listening.
That happens on my walk.
I'm sure it happens on your meditation.
So that happens then outside that practice and with others. ecosystem is, I believe you, because you see it more intimately, because I saw that barn,
because I saw this morning, the leaves changing, there's this one pathway that I walk and the
light was just sort of magnificent this morning. You can't help but fall in love with where you
are. And when you fall in love, even a walk in a new city, when you arrive someplace new,
even down the streets of New York City, being able to see a window box.
There's this one pine tree in Chelsea that I've fallen in love with.
And every time I walk past it, I sort of greet her every morning.
But you can't help but fall in love with the space that you walk through every single day.
Or I can't.
And when you love those spaces, you want to take care of them. You want to protect, care for them. The paths that I walk now,
I feel very tender about. I feel I see trash, I pick it up. I see a tree come down. I thank the
tree for its hundred years of shade. And I think that's
a beautiful impact that simply going for a walk potentially enables you to understand,
to ground, and to fall in love with the space where you are and therefore want to care for it.
You can't help but want to care for the things we love. And I love my walks.
So I guess in some ways it's an environmental practice as well.
And an act of gratitude to a certain extent as well.
It's sort of like it just drops all around you.
I think the timing also, I wonder about the timing.
And you shared how often when you drop into a new place, you just immediately go out and
walk regardless of what time it is.
There is something magical to me also about the early morning walk. Up until recently, I was going out and every
morning at 7am, I would just put on my shoes and I would go and hike. And I'd start to shift that
to later in the day because I sort of see the weather changing. You're inspiring me to say,
maybe I need to just gear up a little bit and stick to the 7am hike and see what comes my way.
Because there's something magical about being out there when you're still in the quiet moment of the
day before it feels like the rest of the world wakes up. There's just an energy that's qualitatively
different when you're out there that I think, at least for me, it really affects me differently.
And I hike all times of day,
but there's something that's a little bit more magical about sort of like that early morning,
just get up and go hike. There's like, I experience it very differently.
I agree. That's certainly true for me. I'm not sure it's true for everybody, but
I happen to be an early riser anyway. And so that the gap between waking and walking, I've now gotten to be very, very
narrow and very short, meaning I know all the gear I'm going to wear. I know what the temperature,
what I need to keep warm and safe and dry and often. And so I honestly, I just wake up and I
have a little cup of tea and I head out, which in my case is a little earlier than seven.
But there is something about watching the world
wake up that for me is really a pretty magical time. There's a beautiful, beautiful Mary Oliver
poem called Why I Wake Early. And, you know, the first few lines, hello, sun in my face,
hello, you who make the morning. It talks about the sunrise and she calls the sun, you know, the best preacher that ever was,
dear star that just happens to be where you are in the universe. There's something about
getting up before everybody else wakes up and watching the lights come on in the houses
before the traffic has picked up before, you know, too much energy has entered the space.
There is something that for me, and it sounds like for you as well, is a really beautiful
time of day.
And I think we were talking about how we wake up sometimes, we turn on our phone and the
to-do list moves in and everybody else's needs begin to enter into our space.
There's something about getting up and getting out before the rest of the
world has even woken up that begins to, I don't know, it carves out a bigger space. I don't know,
last night the comet Atlas was in the sky and I didn't see it in the morning, but that's the
kind of thing I do see when I'm up. And I do see a lot more wildlife because cars and people
haven't pushed the wildlife back. And the thing I also really love about it is there is a little
small community of us that get up at the same time. I'll see another runner, a hiker, a walker
out and we don't know each other's name, but we kind of have this secret, you know, I see you,
you see me, we know each other, but we've never had a cup of tea together, even really said anything other than just hello.
That's kind of like the, we get it way, way better than the morning.
As you're describing that, I had sort of this flashback many years back.
It was in Bali and Ubud, and this was like a chunk of years after Liz Gilbert wrote about her time there. And Ubud had really started to change and become like much, much, but it wasn't the
place of sort of like that a lot of people had read about many years ago, if you were there during
the day, but I was adjusting to the time zone. And I found myself up at about 4am. And so I'm
like, let me just get up and walk around the town. And, you know, the sun is just coming up over this town.
And as I'm walking through town, the only people out at that time were people who were laying out worship offerings for the gods and like incense and small offerings of flowers and small offerings of food being laid out in front of all the different homes in front of the storefronts and stuff like this.
And there was just this deeply meditative presence that was there as the sun was coming
up over the town.
And I knew, you know, like two hours later, this would be overrun by scooters and noise
and like pollution and madness and frenzy.
And it just, it allowed me to see the exact same space and the exact same
people and the exact same culture in a profoundly different and stiller way. And to see, it gave me
easier access to beauty that was there the whole time, but I felt was really obscured when I stepped
into it later in the day. I think that's right. I wonder if the same would be true if you took sort of a similar walk
later at night. I don't know the answer. I know for me, the morning is when I have, I don't know,
I feel very welcome in the mornings into the space. But going for a walk at really any time
of the day, I mean, we think about the Italians who go for, you know, the passeggiato, which is at the after dinner walk. And I think that has an equal sort of meditative sacred quality of going out with your family after a meal. And just, it's not long. It's just walking the community together has sort of the same kind of energy. So I think, you know, I think we can find it at many times a
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You also mentioned earlier, and this is something you write about as well,
which is this notion of the relationship between walking, especially walking outside,
especially in nature, and creativity.
And I have experienced that so many times, but take me a bit deeper into this relationship for you.
Yeah, I've looked into it over the course of time.
And, you know, we hear stories of Steve Jobs, Virginia Woolf, you know, Henry David Thoreau, who used walking really as their sort of primary tool for team would get together and we'd get sort of stuck on a question.
Nobody was coming up with particularly terrific ideas.
Or I'm like, okay, everybody go get your shoes.
We're going to walk around the community.
We're just going to talk about this.
And what often happens is there's all this new beautiful stimulus.
There might be the juxtaposition of some colors that provoke a response or provoke a new way of thinking about it, or a little snippet of an overheard conversation that might be like a little provoc often will inspire our brains to think differently.
That sitting at a desk, looking at a computer, stationary sort of, I'll call it static,
I don't know that we're bringing enough information or dynamic newness into what we're
seeing or thinking about to really be creative. So I've just found that
if I get stuck on something, I'll go for a walk. Or if I need to come up with a solve,
as I mentioned, I was just finished writing another book and the way I did it was completely
with walking. I would use my voice memo and I would talk a chapter into being, transcribe it,
then go back and edit it. And I found that to
be a much more comfortable place than sitting at my computer typing out words. I'm not sure I had
all that much confidence in my writing, but I had more confidence in my ability to sort of tell a
story and it was easy to do it then. But I think if we look back historically, some of the people I admire the
most definitely used walking as a tool and a place for, I think it's a very innovative tool
and accessible to all of us if we're able-bodied. And I'll just note that. I do not take for granted
my able body. It wasn't always the case. I actually was born with club feet and learned to
walk with two casts on. And so I often am reflecting on, gosh, it's such a privilege to be able to
experience this practice because it's been such a, as I said, it's a tool for innovation,
creativity. It's certainly been my best therapist ever.
It's interesting that you bring that up also, because my brain sort of translates what you're
talking about into just a practice.
Silly part of me just says, okay, so what is your version of this?
Like, what is your walking?
Whatever your abilities or your limitations are, like, what is your version of this that
gets you to that place,
to that feeling? Like, what is the thing, the practice in your life that will allow you to feel
more me, that will allow you access to greater problem solving, more creativity, to just seeing
the world differently and being more present in it? For many, it may be walking. I almost look at
it as more of like, well, you're almost using walking as a metaphor.
And everyone can swap in whatever it is for them into that metaphor.
I think that's very true.
It might be painting.
It might be singing.
It might be birdwatching.
That being said, I don't know.
I'd love to hear what you think about this.
I probably have rose-colored walking glasses on.
But I do think walking is a unique, so is the
practice in yoga. But I do think there's something about walking that is in particular,
a unique practice. And maybe part of it is, I like to think of it as a very democratic,
small d, democratic practice, meaning you don't need to buy anything for it. Really the only thing we need, and again, I don't
take my able body for granted, but is to make sure that we can walk in a place that's safe.
And that may be a unique thing. I don't want to say it's particular to women. I know I've
spoken with many women who feel like, you know, going for a walk is an interesting way to move through the world. And so safety is
certainly a key component of this. And yet, I do think going for a walk is a pretty unique thing,
and it doesn't have to be long. I mean, I sometimes think, gosh, you know what, the best
thing I can do right now is simply walk around the block, which might take me three or four minutes,
and it's going to change my whole outlook. It's going to change the energy of my body.
It's going to make me feel much more grounded. And perhaps painting or singing does for others.
But I think I've come to believe that walking can save the world.
Yeah, no, I think there is something magical to it. And also it's not just walking, it's walking outside.
I think that's really what, because I think, you know, can you walk inside on a treadmill?
Sure.
And if that is what is available to you and accessible to you, like that's your life situation,
great.
Yes.
And still there is something different being outside about actually moving your body at
a pace that's comfortable for you in a natural environment.
That I think is just really changes something about not just the experience, but about you
when you're in it.
I think that's right.
Yeah.
I think as you beautifully said, if what you have available to you is to walk indoors or
on a treadmill, that's fabulous. And yet, I have to agree with you that, you know,
the exposure to the outdoors, and again, for me, this all started because I wanted to be outside.
And in fact, quite honestly, Jonathan, it took me about two years to get over my own athletic ego.
I grew up as an athlete all through college. And so when I decided to go for a walk, it took me literally two years to get over the ego in my head, which is like, why aren't you going for a run? I mean, you're an athlete, go for a run. And the reason I was going outside, it was not the athletic component of it or the exercise
component.
It was the being in the outdoors component.
I would have to agree that the beauty that comes, the healing that comes from being in
the natural world is undeniable at this point.
And I love reading about, it's in perhaps in Norway where
physicians are now prescribing to people time in the outdoors. And yeah, I would have to agree with
you. Somebody on recently who wrote a book about, I guess, I think it's often called the social
prescribing. That doesn't mean being social with people. That means like engaging in the world,
like outside of you.
And like literally there were physicians starting to write scripts to go in nature, like, like
five days a week, like go be in nature for 20 minutes or whatever it is.
And there's early research that actually shows really profound benefits, like on the level
on par of a whole bunch of more traditional medical interventions, which I think is fascinating.
Fascinating. Well, and we perhaps have all heard of forest bathing, and it's undeniable what the
impact of that will do for all of us. So I think that's right.
What's been your experience with having a walking practice in hard times, challenging moments,
whether it's something's going on in the world around you,
whether it's a tough moment in a relationship in your life, maybe it's betrayal, maybe it's grief,
maybe it's loss, maybe it's just struggle, stress, anxiety. How has this practice
woven into those experiences for you and changed them in a meaningful way?
Yeah, I can say that, honestly, there have been times in this last 13 years that I don't know, without going into the details, I thought, well,
gee, I could go home and crawl into bed and pull the covers up over my head. This was after work.
Or I kept thinking, oh my gosh, well, at least I have my walk. I think I got home and I thought,
you know what, the best thing I can do is go for a walk. And I eventually ended up sort of realizing not only did I have my walk,
but my walk had me. My walk was, and so literally, Jonathan and I put on my walking shoes and I did
my usual loop, which is out my back door. I don't have to drive anywhere. I'd loop around. It's about
five miles or so. And I thought, okay, well, I'm just going to do one loop or maybe two loops.
I'll come back to my front door and I will just do a kind of a body scan. How am I feeling? What,
you know, what do I need now? Do I need to call a friend? Do I need big cry, a glass of bourbon?
I don't drink bourbon, but just a, you know, sort of a check-in. And what I realized each time when I finished the loop was I needed to keep walking.
And each loop ended up being almost a chapter of grief or a, you know, the first loop was
shock.
The second loop was pure anger.
And I put on some music, listened to the music and kind of stomped it out.
And I literally walked all night, literally all night. I got back
at 7.30 after one loop and took a quick shower, had a beautiful cup of chai and went back to work.
And that's not to say that it completely solved it, but I knew that actually I needed to move
that emotion through my body. I needed to express it. I needed to say it. I needed to get it out. I needed to
stomp it out. Luckily, I was in a place where I could holler if I needed to. I was angry. I felt
betrayed. All the emotions. And as I noted before, I don't know that I grew up really being able to
recognize what it was that I was feeling or how to even express it.
And the thing about walking and feeling all those things, I didn't need to label it. I didn't need
to explain it. I didn't need to try and understand it. I just knew what I felt and I just expressed
it the way that felt healing in the moment. And it was truly everything from stomping to crying to screaming. And I will
say that after those 12 hours of walking, I was in a much more, I'll call it stable,
a much healthier place because I had been able to not sort of squash down and tuck away all these emotions, but in fact, to hold them generously,
tenderly, and honor them. And I don't know how I would have done that otherwise. It would have
been a lot in my perspective, from where I sit, to express all of that to my dear friends. I mean,
that was just a lot. So I didn't happen to be in therapy at the time.
So my walk was my therapist and trusted and tender and loving. And I would just imagine some
of these emotions sort of bubbling up out and I would leave them on the side of the road and I'd
walk away from them. So it's been an exquisitely faithful practice back to me.
I mean, how powerful also, because I feel like so many people don't have easy access to language
when it comes to moments like this, or they may not have easy access to friends, to intimate
partners, to professionals, to sort of like, you know, to go back and forth and actually like do
this in a conversational way and to have a physical outlet to let what you're feeling move through you and then eventually out of you, out of into the world.
It's like it opens up a pathway of processing hard things for a lot of people who I think just they're not going to sit down and have a conversation about this.
Even if you do have the people in your life, you're just, you bottle it up. And that like only leads to festering and
you know, trauma eventually. And this is sort of like, you know, it's a, it's a release valve,
which can be really powerful. I'm not sure it replaces therapy. I think therapy is a,
you know, a beautiful option if you can, you know, it's an expensive, can be an expensive and a beautiful option.
And yet I think it's another tool. And I felt so safe with my, and so comfortable in that space with my walk that I could trust the space that showed up as I walked.
You write about, which I thought was really interesting, the notion of walking mantras. Take me into this a bit more. when I want to hold with me an intention about how I'm going to move through the world.
Say something's coming up that's going to be challenging or a hard conversation.
I will often take with me some language and walk with it tucked in my back pocket.
Sometimes I'll say it out loud and just kind of put that energy into the world, right? I just hold it with me. And I have felt that it has made whatever
is coming next easier and clearer often. And it can be whatever you want. And that's the thing
that's also really helpful, whatever's happening in your day, to be able to think about how you
want to move through the world or how you want to bring some kind of energy to a conversation or to an event, I find it helpful sometimes to just say those words out loud and carry
them with me.
Yeah.
I almost wonder whether it simultaneously works deeper into the essence of you, but
also moves out into the world.
I remember a chunk of years back sitting down with Sharon Salzberg, a wonderful meditation
teacher.
And we were in New York City then.
And she was telling me how on the walk over to her studio, as she's sort of like walking on the sidewalk behind the museum on the Upper West Side, lots of people coming by her.
And as she's looking at each person, in her mind, she sees them for a minute.
And in her mind, she's doing a loving kindness, a metta meditation.
One person walks by and she's thinking, may you be well.
The next person walks by, may you be healthy.
Next person, may you be happy.
Next person, may you live with ease.
And the classic line, she said a gazillion times in her loving kindness meditation.
And just as she's walking through the world and noticing other people,
and maybe it's
maybe you're in nature and you can offer these same things to animals to trees to the environment
whatever it is i thought it was and she said it just really changes the quality of just every day
and every day walk through the city for her yeah it made it almost like a moving prayer. Yeah. Well, this little book I wrote about walking in the last
page or so is this sort of mantra. And what I often say is, it's not unlike what Sharon just
said. May you find happiness in walking. May you find joy in walking. May you find energy in
walking. May you find beauty in the day. And just saying some of those
out loud and to myself are comforting tools.
Beautiful. It feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation as well. So
here in this container of good life project, if I offer up the phrase to live a good life,
what comes up?
Going for a walk and being grateful for it every single day.
Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you.
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