Habits and Hustle - Episode 266: Are You Limiting Your Own Potential?

Episode Date: August 11, 2023

Are you counting yourself out of success? In this solo episode of the Habits and Hustle podcast, I chat about how we may be getting in the way of our own success. Oftentimes, we look at other people and consider their success to be something only they can achieve. However, this is the wrong way to look at it. Instead, you should be asking yourself: why not me? What I discuss: 00:41: Are we getting in our own way? 02:21: Why do we do this to ourselves? 05:43: What do we need to understand about other people’s sucess Find more from Jen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/ Instagram: @therealjencohen Books: https://www.jennifercohen.com/books Speaking: https://www.jennifercohen.com/speaking-engagements Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I got this Tony Robbins you're listening to Habits in Hustle, Crescent. Welcome to solo episode with my foil, Shawnee, we saw, you know, we were talking about this before we started about this idea that we always underestimate our abilities and overestimate the abilities of the people that we put on pedestals, as oh wow, they were able to do this or that because of whatever reason, right? And I think that part of what we do is we limit ourselves to what our actual potential is because that is the mindset that we have so ingrained in our body. That like, it can't be us, but it could be someone else. And to me, that is why my entire philosophy is I kind of turn it on. I turn that whole philosophy on its head and I always go to everything with this idea of why not me.

You know, like, why not me? You know, I feel like that has made me, honestly, not to sound braggadocious, because that's not what this purpose is, but it's made me kind of unstoppable, because I've switched the idea from, well, it would never happen to me, to, well, why not me?

And once you do that, then you become unstoppable, because you don't let things stand in your way and you don't count yourself out and put other people on a pedestal that's usually a lot of times not even deserved. The only difference between somebody else in you is that they tried and they never gave up

and they believed in themselves. And this is not one of these like self help, rah, rah, you're amazing type of episodes. It's not, it really, it's like really not, because that's not really what I'm about. I'm about hard work, grit, you know, attempting over and over again, but I really feel like over time,

from all the people that's been spoken to and interviewed, the only difference separating them from somebody else was that they just, they believed in themselves and they just didn't give up and they just went for it, regardless of what they had going for them. Like, you gotta kind of have that mentality. And I just wanna really kind of talk about this idea of like, why do we do that to ourselves?

Like, why instead of us being our own best advocate or our own best promoter, we feel like I think that like part of it is that we tend to think that's frowned upon, that that's braggadocious. Like I said earlier about me, or that it's egotistical, or is it really the fact that we just truly in the heart

and our heart of heart just have so much Self-doubt that we just can't get out of our own ways Hmm boy, you're brilliant Well, I just think that I I don't know that I experienced this as much of I don't know that I underestimate myself I think I overestimate myself sometimes. I don't know that I'm not saying okay This is not about you. Okay. This is more than that, the person listening who really idolizes or puts certain people on this pedestal, like even with social media, like, wow,

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Yeah, I see what you're saying. I mean, give yourself the chance. Like, don't just like assume that you wouldn't be good or be able to get there. It's about not only giving yourself the chance, it's about changing your perspective on what it really takes. But I think that's why people underestimate themselves

because they know that it would take a lot of work and they don't want to do that work or they feel like it would be just too much. I think a lot of people kid themselves. I think the work part becomes, that's maybe one element. I think a lot of times, people are inherently sometimes lazy

and so they just don't wanna do the work. 100%. You were like, they think it's easier and when they get to doing the work and they realize a hard it is, they're like, well, why can't I handle it? That's different. It's like, at least then you don't to do the work. 100%. You were like, they think it's easier and then when they get to doing the work and they realize a hard is, they're like, well, why can't I handle it? That's different. It's like, at least then you don't want to do the work.

That doesn't mean that you don't think you can attempt it or do it. It's just that you just don't want to do it. I don't know. What I'm saying is that I think because things take a lot of work, they therefore underestimate the fact that they can do it without even trying. Do you know what I mean?

Right. Like I said, that's like a daunting task. Yeah, but I don't think it's not what it's about. This is not about being a daunting task. That's about like, you become overwhelmed with what it does take so you just count yourself out. I'm not even talking about that. I'm talking about these, I think, a lot of times. There are a lot of people who are not lazy, who really want to succeed at something and they have this idea of what they want, but they don't even try to do the work. Not because they are lazy, it's because they honestly,

and they don't believe that they are that special person. Like, it's like this ideology that you have to be special to achieve X, Y or Z. And what I'm saying is, I don't believe that has anything to do with being special at all, it just has to do with the mindset or a perspective of that individual thinking that they are special, that then makes them special.

Does that make sense? Like you think that you're special and then you make yourself special, versus this idea of like, oh, I'm not this, I'm not special, I'm not good enough. It's for that person. It's like turning that idea on its head and Understanding that the only reason why that person became specials because they thought they were special in the first place And you have to really come to something and really, you know, target and go for something

with this idea and in like with this for something with this idea and with this velocity or of why not me. I enter everything I do with this why not me mentality. If it can happen to that person, it can happen to me. If that person can do it, I can do it. And the only reason why that was able to now become so ingrained in my neuroplasticity is because I been saying it and doing it over and over and over again. And now it's just who I am. And I feel like if someone just starts today, it's never too late. You can do it today.

You can do it tomorrow. But you're not too old. You know, you're not an old dog that can't learn new tricks. All it takes is you making the choice and the decision that you are going to start thinking differently and just wake up every day with the idea of why not me. And I believe really wholeheartedly, if you start with the why not me, approach mentality, ideology,

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