High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 130: How You Can Become a Tide Turner with Cardiff D. Hall, Author, Speaker and Coach

Episode Date: August 31, 2017

Cardiff D. Hall has a passion for life and helps individuals transform their self being so they reach and sustain achievement. He is a relentless optimist and has over 25 yaers of experience in marketing and sales. Cardiff’s book Tide Turners - The Practical Guide To Help You Feel In Control, Experience More Joy and Sustain Achievement In Life earned a #1 new release on Amazon in January 2017. He coaches individuals who seek to achieve and delivers weekly inspiration and practical advice in his Tide Turners newsletter. Get a description and summary at cindrakamphoff.com/Cardiff High Performance Mindset listeners can get a FREE copy of his #1 New Release at cardiffdhall.com/hpmindset

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. Welcome to the High Performance Mindset Podcast. This is your host, Sindra Kampoff, and I'm grateful that you're here, ready to listen to episode 129 with Cardiff D. Hall. Now, the goal of these interviews is to learn from the world's best leaders, athletes, coaches, and consultants, all about the topic of mindset to help us reach our potential or be high performers in our field or sport. Now today's interview is with Cardiff D. Hall,

and you can tell from just the way he shows up in this interview that he is passionate about life. He talks about how to transform yourself and reach new levels of achievement. He's also a relentless optimist, which you can tell is from his energy in this podcast. He has 25 years of experience in marketing and sales. And his book, Tie Turners, The Practical Guide to Help You Feel in Control, Experience More Joy, and Sustain Achievement in Life, earned a number one new release on Amazon in January. So he coaches individuals, he speaks, and he also delivers weekly inspiration and practical advice in his Ty Turner's newsletter. So in this interview, Cardiff and I talk about why you need to become a Ty Turner, how Ty

Turner's approach of failure and massive adversity, the six ports we live in, we talk about the one day syndrome, how fear can actually give you strength, and the four C's of confidence. Now my favorite quotes from this interview with Cardiff is this one, only you stops you. And my second favorite is the understanding of yourself can change the trajectory of where you are and where you want to go. I know you're going to love this interview. We'd love to hear from you.

You can head over to Twitter or Facebook and find both Cardiff and I. On Twitter, I'm mentally underscore strong and Cardiff is Cardiff D. Hall. And he also is giving the high performance listeners a copy of his number one new release. What? So you get a copy of this book that he's talking about today by going to cardiffdhall.com slash hpmindset. That's cardiffdhall.com slash hpmindset for high performance mindset. Now before we get started, we're going to read a review over on iTunes. This is ML Woodward. ML Woodward said, Cinder is creating a great show that has challenged me to think differently.

I hear about mindset all the time. And I find these episodes incredibly helpful. She has found amazing guests from various corners, from sports to business. I highly recommend the show. And I think today's episode won't disappoint you. If you enjoyed today's episode, head over to Twitter or social media and if you could share this episode, that'd be amazing. Or tell a friend about the podcast. Or one other option is to head over to iTunes and provide a comment and a rating like ML Woodward did. All right, awesome. Without further ado, here is Cardiff D. Hall.

Welcome to the High Performance Mindset, Cardiff D. Hall. I am pumped to have you on. Welcome. It is a blast, and I can't believe I'm sharing the stage with a local Minneapolis podcaster, but not only podcaster, author, and speaker. It's amazing to be connected with you. And it's just, I'm just honored to be here with you, Sindra. Well, I am honored to have you. You can tell by our energy that I think today's podcast interview is going to be off the charts, positive energy. And so I'm looking forward to talking to you more and I can't wait to dive

into your book and also to talk more about your speaking, your coaching. So Cardiff, tell us a little bit about your passion and what you do. Yeah, so I have this energy that emits consistently. And I was always told that, is Cardiff ever not happy? He's always positive. I had this smile on my face and people joke about it. But seriously, that's my gift. My gift is this radiance positivity. And I didn't, put it this way, Sidra, I wasn't aware of it until I had this incident on an airplane.

And so I'm in corporate America and travel a lot for my job. I usually get upgraded to another section and I happen to upgrade the first class syndrome. And I was sitting, I was in, I was in, it was in many, I was in Baltimore on my way back to Minneapolis on of course, Delta. And then as we're taking off, it's kind of gloomy and rainy. And as we jet up over the clouds, you know, the system goes off, the bell goes off, right, to turn your laptop on. And I fire my laptop on, and I'm literally going just, I need to focus on the email and get down to, you know, past 100 or something like that.

And all of a sudden, I hear this voice, and it says literally, Sindra, write a book. Now I completely ignore it because I just like, I've never had that experience or I'm like, maybe that's just my intuition talking to me. I've never had a thought about writing a book. I've never expressed to my wife or to my close friends, like this is what I'm going to do one day.

This is, I'm going to be a speaker. I'm going to be a coach. I'm going to be this. And I've never had that inside me. And then I go back to writing and doing my email. And this time, Sandra, the voice is louder. Write the book. I sit back in my chair and I begin to think now. And now I'm having this conversation with this voice and basically I'm arguing with it. I am stating my case to this so-called voice. I don't have time.

I travel for a living. Just one thing after another. And I stated my case. The case is closed now because I said my case. So I go back to my email. For the third time, this voice says, write a book. This voice is being persistent. Yes, yes.

And this time I reached down inside my bag and I get out a tab, a piece of paper, and I start to sketch out titles for this book that I don't know how to write. And I'm like, what am I going to say? But I'm just drumming up titles. I'm thinking up titles. I come home. I tell my wife about the experience. And she says, are you serious? You're going to write a book? Yeah. I said, I'm serious. I'm going to write this book and it's going to start tomorrow. And that's when I began to sit down and craft out this manuscript, which happens to be a number one new release or it was a new release on Amazon.

And it's taken me to places I didn't know existed because I wasn't aware of this within myself. And it's been amazing. So what I do right now with my clients, Indra, I help them gain clarity on where they want to go and how to get there and how they can navigate what they already have and raise their level of awareness and the ability to see more than they can see themselves where they are today. So I get them through this fog, and then once we understand where they want to go, then we create the plan and create the system to help them achieve.

And it's been a remarkable seeing my clients move forward and achieve, and it's been great because I've been part of that journey with them. So in a long answer, that's why I'm here. I mean, it's amazing the journey that we can take and where we can go, Sindra, if we're willing to let go, if we're willing to say, I don't know how this is going to go, but I trust and I'm going to take the first steps forward. Well, what I think about, you know, that is,

it's amazing Cardiff that you had this intuition on the airplane and then you actually acted on it. I think so many times people maybe have this intuition or have this thought of a goal, and then, you know, they keep pushing it away, or they say, well, you know, that's not me. I can't do that. You know, that's not something that I could accomplish. Whereas, like, the next day, you started writing it. So, tell us about what your journey has been like since, you know, the book hit number one, new release in January. And by the way, the book is called Tide Turners, the practical guide to help you feel in control, experience more joy and sustain achievement in life. So tell us what your journey has been like since January. It has been amazing. When I look

back at where I've come from and what I've been able to accomplish, and this is not on my own, Sindra, so as you're listening out there, listener, I would highly recommend, you don't have to work with myself or Sindra, but highly recommend if you want to go to point A to point B, you find someone that can bring you along in this journey. Absolutely. And that's what I did, Sandra. I found someone that had already published six books. He was well on his way and he's an unbelievable author, but he led me along the way. He led me along the journey. And honestly, when I started out to write, I just wanted to write the book and kind of go back to my life. Okay. You see, I was one, and I have a new term that I'll share with your listeners. I was a beachcomber. And a beachcomber is someone who is in the island of comfort.

And I know we'll touch a little bit about a doc that is part of a chapter in the book. But I was in this comfort phase. You see, life was good. I was working in corporate America, family. I mean, I was, I was comfortable. I wasn't going to stretch myself because I, you know what, that that's too much work, Sandra. And I was a beachcomber. And so I began to transition from this beachcomber from this person who now is reading a book every single month who invests in anything I can to work on my mindset

to put things into my mental state of capacity so when those things happen that are going to take me off my course, it reflects and I keep moving forward. And so it has been amazing because again, I just wanted to write this book and I just, I just, I heard the voice, write the book. I took the action and wrote the book, but then all of a sudden things are coming. I'm like, okay, can I i do you coach uh not i guess i guess i coach people are asking me central do you coach uh no yes i do i got you know so i'm developing all these things that people want and here it was i didn't understand i even had a business yeah that's cool you know so what i like about it cardiff is like you followed you followed your gut you followed what you what was what was pulling at you. And I agree, Cardiff, that having a coach or a mentor is absolutely essential.

I'm a coach myself. You're a coach. I have somebody who's my coach because I know that I can get stuck in my comfort zone. I can get stuck in patterns that aren't helpful in terms of mental patterns or behavioral patterns. So I like what you're saying there. So Cardiff, let's jump into your book. And again, Tide Turners is the title. Tell us about what is a Tide Turner?

Yeah. So a Tide Turner is an individual or it's a group that has this unrelenting will to achieve. Unrelenting. That means that when obstacles come their way, they embrace them, they want them, and it uses them to grow and to get better. And in the front of the book, what I do is I share a number of people who I deem are high turners, but then I also share, you're a sports person, you know this, I share teams who I think are in that elite class of tight turners. And I went to Ohio State. I do share about the Ohio State football team that won the national championship and was faced with massive adversity. I share the Connecticut women's basketball team. Until recently, they had won consecutive national championships.

And so I share all the – and there's some individuals in there as well. But the very last place that I have on that is for you, is for the listener, you to put your name in there and to deem yourself a tie turner. And so that's what tie turners are all about. Tie turners are taking control of their boat called Y-O-U, stepping in there and saying, you know what? No more. I take control. I direct where I want to go and bring those people along with me who choose to be with me. So that's the premise and the definition of a tie turner. Love it. So the boat of you, I owe you. And in the book, you actually talk, Cardiff, about many of the same characteristics that tie turners have. They have a steadfast belief in themselves, an optimistic

in midst of fear. They're courageous in the face of adversity, are committed to growth. They push for greatness within themselves and they have a passion to win and they understand where they want to go or achieve. And I think so much about the high performance mindset and what we do on this podcast is help people reach their potential or reach greatness. So let's dive into some of these concepts. I'm just pumped to talk to you about them and to learn more about your perspective. So which one of them would you like to dive into first? Well, let's talk about failure because failure has this deep root within all of us, Sindra. And so failure, when I think of failure, you know, that word right now, when

I say that word failure, what emotions are coming across right now? Right. Yeah. They're probably like, oh my gosh, you know, or it takes you back to a moment that you failed or you begin this downward cycle of the word failure, right, Sindra? And so when you think about failure, think about grade school. Think about getting the A, B, C, and they skipped F, E, I'm not sure why, they went to F, and your parents said, don't get an F. Whatever you do, you do not get an F. And then as you go through college, you don't want to get an F because you don't want to fail. For 18 to 19 to 20 years, Sandra, we are ingrained with failure. Failure is bad. Failure is bad.

Failure is bad. And then as we transition to this adult, for 18 plus years, 20 plus years, that's all we've known. It's like failure is bad. I don't want to do failure. I don't want to fail failure. I don't, I don't fail because failure is bad. And now in the high performance mindset to look at failure is needed to move forward. And we, we need to use failure as a mechanism to understand one. Okay. What can we learn from this? Who can help me get through this failure? And what growth can come from that? And that's where we need to really grasp failure and embrace it instead of running away from it.

And, you know, in my own life, I can tell you when I was writing this book that I did not back up consistently, Sindra and one morning backup, meaning saving my files for the chapters. Okay. So one morning came, came down, opened up my, fired up the laptop. The blue screen of death had appear. Yes. But here's the thing. I had seen the blue screen and everything was fine. I just popped out the battery, popped it back in.

I still had the blue screen. I had to get it fixed. So I took it to the Geek Squad folks. Mr. Hall, we can fix your computer. Yes. And so I kept writing. But here's what they said. They called me back in about a week, Sandra.

And they said, well, we actually have to send your computer to a special lab. This is where, you know, fires happen to computers and we get information off that. So I said, well, how long is that going to take? Well, about four months. Oh, four months. Okay. Well, I kept writing and I finally got the call four months later, like they said on time and it was recording. And they said, uh, basic your, your computer's ready for pickup. I'm like, fantastic. I call them and I asked the kid or whoever's working there. Did you, did you recover the file called manuscript? There was a file on that called manuscript. They're like, Mr. Hall, we recovered no files from your computer. Oh, wow. You talk about a failure. Now that was on me,

you see, I wasn't doing the consistent work to back it up. All of my work was gone. One and a half years of my life was gone. I could have blamed people. There was somebody put the attack on my, I don't, I don't know who did it, but the very next day I started over. Wow. How much did you already have written before that happened? Yeah. So I had about 75% of it done, Cintra. Oh. And as you know, you got this book coming out, and you know that if that happened to you, right, you just like, you got to, I mean, I couldn't believe it. But here's one thing I have.

A very good friend reached out to me, said, Cardiff, you've grown in the one and a half years since I started this. It's going to be better. And that charged me up. And see, if we aren't surrounding ourselves with individuals that fuel us with energy instead of take our energy away, if someone would have said, your first thing you go to, well, come on, man, didn't you back that up? Come on, you're smarter than that. You see, it's who we go to and who we surround ourselves that will project us forward or can really stop us in our tracks. And I chose to, and I put people around me, Sindra, that are just like this guy, Chris, or who are going to say, it's okay, it's going to be better.

Absolutely. And, Cardiff, that's what I hear too, you know, that I think that high performers and really what I mean by high performance is those people who are working to reach their best, their potential. They see these difficulties as opportunities, right? That maybe actually this problem is a gift and it's here for me to make even a better book or to learn something about myself. And I think sometimes when we reach these moments of time where we could easily give up and throw in the towel,

that's not what high performers do. So what do you think the benefit of that happening to you? What's the good that actually came from that? You know, it really challenged me to, one, take action, make sure I was backing up consistently. But it also, I got, as I began to write, my writing began to get better. I was able to clearly articulate thoughts, put them on paper. And so the writing process was enhanced by that. And I began to bring, I call it more substance, more facts, more content into the mix of this melting pot to come out at the end called the manuscript. So it helped me there, but it also, I was also putting more things into the input called the brain and to help with all of the things that were going to happen that I

didn't, what I didn't know. Right. So I'm in this arena that I've never played in before. I don't know what's going to happen, right? But whatever does happen, I'm preparing myself before it happens. And so I did visualization, meditation. I did all of these practices that we hear in terms of high performance to help me get there, even though I wasn't there today. And it makes sense now, Cardiff, why your book took you three years to write. Because you had to start over when you were 75% done. Oh, man. So let's talk a little bit more about tide turners. And, you know, you were talking about failure. And I'd love to hear your perspective on how does a tide turner,

how do they embrace failure and how do they approach it when, you know, something like this happens where we are faced with an adversity or maybe even a massive adversity. Yeah. Well, the very first thing that they do is instead of why me, it's why not me?

Why, why not? It's like, why me? Why's why not me? Why, why not? It's like, why me? Why me? Because anything, sometimes when things happen to us that we didn't expect the, I call it an unplanned event, or something happens that we just did not expect. It's why me?

Why am I going through this? And it's woe is me. A tie turner says, okay. First off, they take a deep breath. Like, okay, this is meant to happen. What can I learn from this? And how can I prevent it or where do I need to go from here? So it's a stop. It's a pause first, Sindra. It's a pause. It's like, okay, let's realize where am I?

A hurricane just happened. What happened? They take inventory of themselves and then they begin to write a plan to prepare, to move forward, to get over that obstacle. And they work diligently and consistently on themselves. And I think that's the mental mindset one has to have to go through failure. Because we all want this perfect trajectory, right? We want that 45 degree angle towards the summit. And that's not success. Success is the pits, the valleys. It's like this roller coaster, right? Darren Hardy talks about entrepreneur roller coaster.

He has this book out and it's the entrepreneur roller coaster. And even if you're not an entrepreneur, but you want to go to point that point, it's in the summer. You've not been there before, but you just, you know that it's going to be a 45 degree angle and you're, it's going to be a straight, straight shot. And that's not reality. And we need to understand, okay, I'm on this journey for a reason. I know why I want to go there. And I understand there's going to be these hills. There's going to be these, these valleys that I may not expect that. How do I get out of those valleys? And it's, again, putting that mental energy into the mind, surrounding yourself with the right people. I think that's your, I call it the wave, it's the wave of your pod. It's a chapter in the book, Sindro.

And it's your five people that you spend the most time with. And before, you know, writing the manuscript and hearing about your five, I really kind of didn't give it any thought syndrome. Because, you know, I was in this lane of comfort and, you know, it was good. You know, like, don't need that. I'm okay. And I wasn't paying attention to my five. These are the five people that you spend the most time with. Why? You're going to talk like them. You're averaging your income is going to be around the average of their income, everything. And I'm like, when I first heard that syndrome, I'm like, no, that can't be true. That, you know, that maybe that's high school, you know, birds of a feather flock together. That was, my dad said that in high

school. Right. But it's so true who you surround yourself with, I think is more critical than, you know, the, the, how to, the how tos, right. Like I didn't know how to write this manuscript, but I had a group of people that believed in myself, who knew me, who were supportive of me, and the how-to came along. Cardiff, I'm hearing a few things, like your friend Chris, when you lost your manuscript, you called Chris, and Chris would say, hey, no problem, man. This book's even going to be better, right? And I think, Cardiff, and correct me if I'm wrong, but I think the five people you surround yourself with is a Jim Rohn quote. One of my quotes as well, because it just shows you that the people that you lean on can either help you

or hinder you. You also said a few other things that, you know, tide turners, they consistently work on themselves and their mindset or their behaviors. And I like what you said about, you know, not why me, but why not me? And when you think about why not me, then it's like, wow, look inside myself and let's see all the skills and all of the mental skills that I have to get through this. And what do I have inside myself that actually like I know I can rely on to rise above this and to deal with this? And what do I have inside myself that actually like, I know I can rely on to rise above this and to deal with this like the best that I can. Yeah, you're absolutely. And it's, you know, the five, the wave of your five is critical.

And I didn't, again, I didn't give much thought because I was in this comfort stage. But the one thing that I want to say that's part of this whole, how do I handle failure, was the ability to look at failure as part of the journey and not the resting point. It's like, it's just like you're traveling on the highway and you're like, I'm a little tired. I'm just going to take a little pit stop. Right. And if we have that, if we have that mindset, like, okay, failure is just a pit stop for me to reassess, take inventory. It's kind of like, you know, kind of like, you know, I, the chapters are set up in the book, you know, you're lost at sea, you know, not chapters, but the parts of the book, you're lost at sea. You come back, You dock. You take inventory of the situation, Sindra.

And then you prepare to leave the dock. And then how do you stay on course? And so failure is really about getting back to the dock, reassessing, and just being true to who you are. And don't look at your current situation to be the future. And I think so many people are like, well, this happened in the past. This is happening now. And they sabotage themselves for the future. And tight-turners don't do that.

You know, one of the things that you talk about, Cardiff, in your book is the wave of ports. And you talk about the course that you drive on. Tell us about that and what you mean by wave of ports. Yeah. So in the stages of life, we all go through these. And I can tell you the very first stage is the learning port, right? This is the learning point.

We're just taking information in. We're just learning, learning how to be an adult, learning how to be this. And that's the stage everyone is in. Everyone goes through the stage. Now, the second stage is about the me, myself, and I stage. And I can tell you, I was there, Sandra. This is all about you. This is all about me, me looking good, me with this car, me, me, me, me, me. And for myself, I'm not sure where you are, listener, but for me, this stage that I was in, this docking stage, that was around, I would say 20, you know, 25 to 30, 35. That was for me. Now, this is where stages are not identified by age. You are probably listening,

you probably know someone who is in this, me, myself, and I. It's my money. I made it. I don't need to share it, right? I don't need to give to organizations. It's their problem. I don't need to do this because they're not fortunate enough

to earn the income that I do. Everything is mine, right? And so there's adults out there that are in this stage right there. That's where they're docked. That's not where true high performance happens and the ability for growth. And the next stage I call the comfort stage. So this is, this is the comfort dock rather. So that comfort dock is where I was in myself. I was a beachcomber in terms of my, how I looked at myself, everything was comfortable. You know, it's like you get in, everything was just like, come home from work, walk in, talk to your parents, maybe give the dog a walk or not parents, but your children give the dog a walk. And then like, okay, what, what, what time's my show come on? Okay, great.

Right. It was, it was, it was comfortable, right? Life was comfortable. And this is not where high performers choose to be in. They're not in that stage of comfort. You know, it feels good, but they're like, okay, what can I be doing differently? And then the next stage, it's called the growth stage, growth stage or growth doc. This is the doc where true growth happens, where perhaps one works with a coach, perhaps one is investing in online content to help with whatever that they need to do in their own personal life. And it's all about moving from your current baseline to your next baseline. I heard this once, Sandra, and they said, everything in your life that you've accomplished right now, I want you to just kind of jot it down.

Just write it down, right? You know, anything that's've accomplished right now. I want you to just kind of jot it down. Just write it down, right? Anything that's big, right? So listener, as you're listening to this, if you're driving, don't do this right now. But I want you to hit stop and I want you to just write down anything that's big, all the big things that have happened to you. Now, after you spent some time writing, don't write down everything, but after you spend that time writing, draw a line and everything that you've done in your life up until now has been, that's your baseline. Now, if you aspire to go above that baseline, you have to develop yourself. You have to grow and elevate your new baseline. And within that elevation becomes growth, becomes more. And you can do that. So

that's what that doc is all about. And the fifth doc is all about contribution. See, this is where I believe mastery comes in with high performance is contribution. Contribution to one, be givers rather than takers. Contribution in terms of, I could help someone. Every one of us that are walking around this planet, Sandra, we're all good at something. And I hear, well, I'm not good at anything. Well, no, okay, let's take a step back. Maybe you're good at, you know, painting or whatever it is. We're all skilled in some way. We all have a gift. Now, do we choose to give that to others? See, that's contribution. And people think contribution financially, right? Well, I'm not wealthy. I'm not this. I'm not that. And they put these stigmas on themselves.

Well, I can't do that because I don't have that type of money. So, we're not talking about financial contribution. That's part of it. But true mastery and being aligned to your vision comes when you can take your skills and abilities and you help others in whatever capacity that you can. And that's the port of contribution. Awesome. And, you know, Cardiff, I'm thinking that as I'm listening to you, to me, Ty Turner and high performer is pretty synonymous, meaning like this, you know, when I think of Ty Turner, the way you're describing it, that's what I think about a high performer. Somebody is pushing past, you know, their comfort zone. Who's really like trying to be at their best every single day. And you think that, you know, Ty Turner, do they live in growth? Do they live

in contribution? Where do they, you know, cause I could see like maybe they're both. What do you think? Yeah, I think they're a mix or both. both and matter of fact i was going to put a six port and it's the kind of a combination of both right they're they're in the they're in this continuous growth mode and their contribution and it's in their in the cycle of contribution so they're always i mean the guests that you've had on, every one of them is this contribution stage, right? Just getting better, contributing to others, growing. And so that's where high performance lies for those that choose to get through those ports. And I think that's the big thing, Sandra.

It's a choice. And there are some people who, you know what, say, you know what, this port of comfort, Sandra, is good. Don't want to go. And you know what? That's fine. That's fine for those. But if you're listening to this podcast, you're listening because you desire to be that high

performer within yourself. Absolutely. So that's where you need to grow. Like, okay, it's time to get out of my comfort, time to face the fear that I've always had or my negative self-limiting beliefs about X, Y, and Z. And I need to move forward. I'm not sure how much I'm going to do there, but I'm just going to take the first step and begin. And that's what I did with the manuscript. I just began. I didn't know we were going to connect, Sandra. and begin. And that's what I did with the manuscript. I just began. I didn't know we were going to connect, Sandra. I didn't know that, right? I had no idea,

but I took the first steps and you listening right now, you can take the first steps as well, but it's a choice. It's a choice we'll have. I'm listening, Cardiff, about growth and contribution. And you're right that everyone who's been on the podcast is they're interested in contributing. They wouldn't provide value to the listeners if they weren't interested in contribution. What do you think about those people who might in their mind say, well, you know, either like, I don't have anything to contribute or maybe they say, well, actually, I'm just going to kind of keep all my secrets to myself. Like maybe I'm into the growth, but you know, like maybe someone's going to steal what I say or maybe, I don't know, or maybe they're just in their comfort zone and,

and you know, they, they don't want to get out there with a, with a message. What would you say to those people who are listening? Yeah, I would say for those that are listening that are like that, that I don't have anything to contribute. Now, when I first started writing this manuscript, Cintra, I actually thought the same thing. What do I have to share? And that was one of the things I was going back between the voice and myself, right? And say, what am I going to talk about? I'm not your guy. I'm not an author. I'm not this. And I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, right? I had all these I'm nots. And so I'm here to tell you, wherever you are in your journey of life, that stop putting those shackles of I'm not or someday or one day.

But if you truly desire, and this is where intention meets desire. If intention and desire is like, gosh, you know what? I'm listening to Sky Cardiff and I want to do that. Well, then what's stopping you? Only you. Only you. And you could say, well, I don't have. No, don't say I don't have.

How can I? It's how we frame that up. I don't have the finances. I don't that up. I don't have the finances. I don't have this. I don't have anyone to support me. Okay, then how can I find someone to support me? I don't have the five people that you just talked about, Cardiff. I have a bunch of negative people around me.

Well, you're listening to this podcast. It's positive. That's a start, right? And then there's a bunch of free content all over social media. Get around those people that you can feel their fire. And once you do, you'll begin like, oh, my gosh. Maybe you'll begin to believe within yourself. And so those people that are like saying, oh, I don't think I can do that.

Or I don't know how. do that. Or I, I, I don't know how to, I'm just going to challenge you. I want you to get around someone's fire enough. And once the, the, the fire is strong enough and this podcast for me, I love it every single way because I'm learning new information. I'm taking what I'm hearing like, oh, that's good. Let's try to implement that. Implement one thing from this podcast, and I guarantee it's going to shape your mindset. You're going to begin to like, maybe I can do this. You see, that transformation has to happen within,

and it starts with the input in the mind. And I, you know, I've come a long way. I was not like, I wasn't a comfort state, Cintra. So I'm here telling people about my journey, right? So I'm just a regular guy, right? Corporate America, I love corporate America. And here I am giving the things that I found to elevate where I wanted to go. I heard this quote by Grant Cardone in his book called The 10X Rule. And he said, as long as you live, you will either accomplish your own goals and dreams or you will be a resource to accomplish the goals and dreams of others. And that hurt.

Sandra, I was like, I got to hit replay. What did he say? Because I'm like, man, maybe you're doing the same thing. That quote stung. It hurt me. And here I was. I had these goals, but I just never acted on them. Because, well, one day.

I fell into the one day now syndrome, someday now syndrome. Maybe, I don't know. And I fell into the syndrome cycle and that's where the port of comfort, that's where I was in for a long time. And then I did, I began to read a book a month. I began to shape the people around me, get around wise counselors, mentors, anyone who like, how do they do that? Okay, let me learn. I don't even know if I'm going to do that, but I just want to learn to see how they did it. Yeah, there's two things I'm thinking about, Cardiff. I myself have also been in each one of these stages at one part of my life, even the me, myself, and I stage and the comfort stage for a long time, but I was not happy in that stage. And that was before I started the podcast. That was before I started doing a lot of

work in pro sport. It was, you know, just like total comfort. And I would say I'm in the growth and contribution phase now. And what I really try to do is like keep contribution front and center, keep service front and center. Like I wouldn't be doing this podcast if I wasn't, right? Like how can I serve with the gifts that I have? Yes. Yes. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. We all have gifts. And I think that's where people don't believe in themselves that they have a gift. Well, you may not have my gift. You may not have Sandra's gift,

but you do have a gift and don't fall into this comparison trap. And that's what I talk about in all these tie turners that I list in the opening of the book, that there are people that you've heard of. Well, like, well, I'm not them or I'm not this person. Don't get yourself caught into the web of comparison because that'll keep you where you are. Absolutely. And you can't be someone else, so why try to be, right? Right.

So what do you think about those people who are saying, yeah, that's totally me? You know, I have this one-day syndrome or maybe I am comparing myself to somebody else. Instead of just kind of being the best version of myself. What advice do you have? Like, how do you think that we get unstuck from doing that? Yeah. I think one of the things that helped me get unstuck was really to take self, a self-awareness of one. And I talk about true understanding of self can change your trajectory of where you want to go. And if you're honest with yourself, like, okay, am I happy in my life? Where am I at with my health, my finances, my spiritual being, my relationships? And you begin to do these assessments on yourself. These assessments that you're, Ooh, on a scale of one

to 10, uh, extremely, you know, happy or not happy. And you do these self-assessments on one and you come up with like, Oh my, you know what I, if I want to change, then I think that's the first thing. Once you do this, okay, now you've got this baseline. Now, do I want to change or do I want to stay the way I am? And that's where people can get stuck. Like, well, I don't want to change. And then it's going to be hard to say. And these are the complainers too. You know, these are people who complain about everything because they don't want to change.

Like you can't fix the traffic here in Minnesota. I mean, it's summertime, as you know, these are people who complain about everything because they don't want to change. Like you can't fix the traffic here in Minnesota. You can't, I mean, it's summertime, as you know, there's, there's the orange, the orange built, you know, the orange blocks everywhere. And they complain about the traffic. Well, it's summer here in Minnesota. It's not control the traffic. Control. Right. And so, and so look at what you can control. You can control what time you leave. You can control how you travel around the city. Look at what is in your control and just take ownership of that and say, you know what? Yeah, there's going to be orange barrels around the city for, yeah, through Labor Day and

beyond that. But it's how we approach it. And it really starts with that mental shift that needs to occur. So you can kind of move and get forward in your journey, but it does require choice. It does require saying, you know what? I pick up my anchor in my boat and I move forward. I like what you said, Cardiff, you know, that self-awareness is really the understanding of yourself and that can change the directory of your life. You know, one thing I know we wanted to talk a little bit about was fear. And as people are listening, they might say, well, you know, like, I just can't do some of those things. And they can easily let fear get in the

way of doing that. Tell us about a story, Cardiff, of a time maybe that you let fear get in the way of doing that. Tell us about a story, Carter, of a time maybe that you let fear get in the way or maybe how, you know, just as an entrepreneur, you experience fear now, you know, in terms of moving forward with your own business. Yeah, absolutely. So one of the things I was fearful of, if you have a full-time job, part-time job, but you want to do something else. So you're listening and you just had this desire to do something else. So, Sindra, I started this journey three years ago and I've been doing things and I'm like, I need to let my company know about what I'm doing. And I was so fearful that they would say, no, this book is not coming out. You're not going to do this. And I got myself around some wonderful people, wonderful mentors.

I was part of a mastermind group. And we talked through that. And they're like, no, go to the top. Talk to the vice president. And that's what I did. I talked to the vice president, kind of had some bullet points out. And he said, how can we use this as part of our training program? What can we take from Cardiff? Can you do? And I developed a program from my book to help our company get better. And so when we allow fear to say, well, I'm not going to release the book, I could have allowed fear to say, well, I'm not going to release the book, I could have allowed fear to say, well, I'm not going to release the book because my company's

going to find out, or I'm not going to do this. That isn't serving anyone. And if you have a gift, if you have a desire to do something that's going to serve someone, help someone, maybe you have this idea of starting a nonprofit that you've always had, but you don't want to, but it's going to help someone, help in a community, an organization. All I'm going to say is just get started. Talk to people around you. Talk to your employer.

Like, hey, I'm going to start this foundation on this, you know, outside of my business and see what they think. If they're a champion for you, they're going to say, hey, how can we help? How can we use this? And what do you need from us? And so I would say, look at fear as something to give you strength versus kind of take strength away from you. And then, you know, as I look about where I've been, it's been a fantastic year for me, Sindhra. And now there's a concern of, can I continue this?

Right? Can I continue? I call myself like, I feel like I'm Superman sometimes. Like, okay, I got my corporate job. Then I got this. And then I go back to my corporate job and I'm doing, and I'm a father and you know, and I got an active eight-year-old and it's like, can I do all of this? Can I maintain this stamina? I'm a positive guy. Can I continue this? Or is it going to fail? And, and it's going to say, well, I'm glad I did. You know, but I look at everything I've gone through and I'm so, so proud of myself and my wife for her support and my daughter who wants to be an aspiring author now. She wants to write a book with me. And so I look at all this, you know what, to me, if it doesn't take off like I want,

or if it doesn't, you know, I'm impacting, I'm changing people's lives. And that to me is the most important thing. Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, you said a few things there that I, I want to follow up on Cardiff, you know, as a sales executive, which, you know, your corporate job, tell us about how you apply all of these things to your own business. Because I actually think, you know, like everything that we've talked about is about ways that we get in our own way and whether for an athlete or for a coach or an executive or a parent or, you know, like we're all human. So tell us about how you use some of these principles you've been talking about. Well, the very first thing is I'm extremely focused. I'm extremely focused when I get into the office.

I was actually just banning, you know, let's get together to meet kind of meetings. So if you're listening to this and like you have those, hey, can I pick your brain? Can we just get together and just chat and have coffee and catch up? No, you probably will say no thanks or not respond. Yeah. I will say no, not right now. Um, when I'm done with this product launch or I'm done with my manuscript, we can get together. And so I was always, I was very diligent at my schedule and it had to be congruent to where I was going. Family, my job, my company, Inspiration Insight, my clients. And if it didn't fit into one of those pieces, you know, Darren Hardy calls this like the vortex. And we all have those kind of like,

oh, maybe I should meet up with this person because I haven't seen them in a long time. Right. Just to kind of get together with them. Those get togethers can happen in another time. If it's not. And I began to be very focused with my time because time is the only resource, the only resource that everyone, everyone listening to this. We all have the same amount of resources called time. And how do you use it called time and how to use it and how do you use it to you? And I began to limit social media. I began to, um, I began to put more things in my mind. I began to, uh, uh, purchase some online courses to help with me from,

from building up my skills. And so I began to put myself in a different place where I just could not interact socially after work anymore. Sure. And I had this regimented plan to follow. And it's not to say that something, sometimes something would get in, get in the way and, and it would kind of take me off my journey, but I quickly got, got right back. And so it's helped me in my corporate job,

me more focused when challenges do happen in the corporate corporate environment. I'm like, okay, let's kind of, let's do some self-analyzation. Let's take a look at the problem. You know, how can we do this? Who can I help bring into the circle? How can we, you know, get through this faster versus slower? And so it's helped me be persistent.

It's helped me stay on top of the important projects that matter in my corporate job. Absolutely. So you're smart with your time and you limit the distractions like social media. You're focused on your goals and what you want to do. Wow, we could keep on talking forever. I know we could.

I have a few other questions for you just to kind of one part of your chapter and then we can close up. You talk about the wave of confidence in your book. Tell us about that. And I know you talked about the four C's. We'd love to dive into that. It's kind of the last kind of topic we cover. Yeah, absolutely. So, boy, confidence is something that we all need to have to get to that next baseline for us. It's the confidence to not know exactly how you're going to do it, but you move forward anyway.

So we talk about compatibility or talk about, yeah, compatibilities is one of those things. So looking at putting yourselves around those people, tools, the things, the resources that you need that are going to move you forward along in the journey, which will improve your confidence. Because anytime you are gaining more information, you're learning, that's improving your confidence as well. So capabilities are part of that. And then along with confidence, it really talks about, it's really about courage as well.

So your courage and courage, we all have courage, but the level of courage that we do have really stems from our backing, from who we, how we grew up, right? What did we hear in the household? Did you hear, you know, you can never do that, you can't do that, or where does that all come from? And so courage is steep, is deeply rooted in our past, but it's not to say we can't shape and change the level of courage within us. And so again, it's putting things into mind, putting yourselves around the right people, taking the action. I don't know how, how can I learn, who can help me along the journey? So that's another C about courage with that. So we've got courage, we've got compatibility, commitment. So as you're on this journey, you want to increase your level of confidence. And you really have to look at your commitment level.

And I like to look at commitment as something that is going to, that I'm tethered to, that when the winds come, that I stay firm in my belief. And I like to associate an emotion to that commitment. One of the things I did, Cindra, is I wrote a letter from a future reader of my manuscript called Ty Turner's. And so my commitment was to Gary. I don't know Gary, right? But I chose to pick. It's like you had someone, a guest talk

about that focal point in the stadium. Absolutely. Yeah. That's to me, that was my focal point. My focal point was this letter. And then when the hard times came around, like, let me, oh, I, I have to get this done for Gary. Gary is looking for this to come out. Mary, I don't know Mary. Mary is going to read tight turns, and it's going to shape the course of her life. So that kept me going. So always draw an emotional connection to your commitment. We talked about capabilities.

It's audio books. Think about tools and resources, anything that's going to help you. And then it's all about confidence, right? It's all about that engine, which is going to propel you forward in the event you get stalled out, but it's going to keep you going. So it's a courage capabilities, confidence, and commitment. Awesome. So the four again are courage, commitment, capabilities, and commitment. Awesome. So the four again are courage, commitment, capabilities, and confidence. And you know, Cardiff, did you actually write the like letter that Gary wrote or you have somebody else write it? Because I think that's really powerful. No, I wrote it. You wrote it. Nice. Yeah. Nice. Yeah. I wrote it. So it's a letter to myself from Gary. Yeah, that's awesome. When I was writing,

I had to think a lot about who I was writing to. And if I didn't, I got stuck. And there was a couple months where I got stuck because I kind of forgot who I was writing to, or I forgot that front and center. So, so Cardiff, you have provided so much value today. So tell us, you know, as we wrap up, do you have any kind of final advice for us? Boy, you know, I asked you to take the challenge about kind of writing down everything, everything you kind of, you're proud of, right? Everything you've done and creating your own baseline, right? So you just took, if you did this, and I hope you did, you just took inventory of where you are. And now I said, okay, think about where you want to go. And so here's the

next challenge for you, listener. I want you to start thinking about your 2018 goals today. Today, whenever this is released today, it's going to be released before the end of this year. So I want you to think about your 2018 goals. What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? I want you to set that vision of where are you going to go in your journey of life today. And now let's talk about the capabilities. How are you going to get there?

It's about a system. It's about a process. Do I have the right skills? Do I have the right tools in my toolbox to get me there? If I don't, let me find the right tool. So it's about setting intention, setting the course for that lighthouse that you can't see in the fog. But 2018 is around the corner and three out of 100 adults, I believe that's the stat that's correct, around three, three out of 100 adults send you right down their goals. Yeah, it's not easy. Isn't that crazy? That's crazy. And let me

tell you, listener, that was me. I was one that did not have goals. I didn't. Why? Because I was in the comfort stage. I was in the land of comfort. Everything was good. Why do I need goals, Sandra? I'm in comfort. But there was something within me, something that said, you know what? There's more. And I know you right now listening to this, you can sense the more. You know there's more. And it's time.

So two challenges, again, write everything you've done. Then draw a line. That's your baseline. Now write where you aspire to go. That's that, that gap, right? Where you aspire to go. That's the growth. That's where you want to look towards 2018 and say, okay, in 2018, I'm setting the plan. I'm turning my course today to get me there. And then step three is, okay, what are the resources? What do I need to help me get me where I want to go? And it's only August or September. So you put yourself in an elite group of people that are doing this today and not waiting until January the 1st. Nice. You have one step ahead, four months ahead.

Yes. So Cardiff, tell us how we can reach out to you, not just chat. And I know you have an amazing gift for the listeners today. So tell us about how we can reach out to you and then tell us about the gift. Yeah, absolutely. So on social media, on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Cardiff D Hall, Cardiff D Hall, two Fs, like the city in Wales or city in San Diego, Cardiff D Hall, all across social media, those three and LinkedIn as well. But here's what I want to do for you. It took me three years to write this book. I want to get as many people. I want people to take command of their boat. I want people to say, you know what? I have more within me. I want to do this. And I want you all to be

tie turners. So here's what I'm doing. I'm going to give you the book for free. It's not going to be a hard copy. It's going to be the PDF version. So to get the PDF version of Tire Turners, I want you to head over to cardiffdhall.com forward slash HP mindset. HP mindset. And you will be sent a, the full thing. That's phenomenal.

That's phenomenal. So not only do you get like this amazing interview with tons of value, you get the book for free. That's amazing. Yes. Thank you. Yeah. So definitely take, take me on,

take me up on my offer. This is a, I probably won't do this very long, but, but I, I seriously, I do want people to, to get this. I want people to start sharing this concept of tie turners and being in command. And instead of drifting in life and

saying, well, one day you just wake up and say, well, how did I get here? Right. And that's what I'm helping my clients do. Sandra, one thing like, well, what do you do? I get, I get clients, I get them clear on where they want to go. And so many times in life where we're sitting behind our boat and we're just drifting along and all of a sudden we just happen to miss the place we're supposed to stop at. And that's okay because we're in comfort. But so many of my clients are saying, no, I'm moving to the growth stage. I want to get to the next stage and I'm helping people do that. So my gift for you listener is to grab this copy of the PDF version, cardiffdhall.com forward slash

HP mindset. Boom. So cardiffdhall.com slash HP mindset. You know, Cardiff, here were some of my favorite things that we talked about today. I love how you talk about the boat called Y-O-U, that you're really in control of that, and how Tide Turners, and I love the description you give of Tide Turners, that really they embrace failure, and they think about what they can learn, how this can help me, and how I can grow. And then you talked about when tide turners face massive adversity, they don't ask themselves, why me? They say, why not me? And then we talked about how tide turners consistently work on themselves. They surround themselves with the five closest people to them that give them energy, that are going to help support them.

And I loved how you talked about these different ports, that we can be in these, this learning port, the me, myself, and I, the comfort zone, or the comfort dock, or this growth and contribution. And really, tie turners are in the growth and contribution dock, right? Right? So, whoa, you brought it today. Love it, my friend. I love your positive energy. Oh, thank you. I know people are going to be tweeting about this and posting about this. And what I'd encourage everyone to do is head over to Twitter, Facebook, you know, Instagram, wherever you spend the most time on. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram at cindracampoff or on Twitter at mentally underscore strong.

And tell us what, you know, was the most important thing you got from today. Cardiff provided a lot of value bombs. So I just appreciate your energy and your positivity and you bringing this onto the podcast. And again, you can head over to cardiffdhall.com slash HP mindset to get a free copy of Ty Turner's, the practical guide to help you feel in control, experience more joy and sustain achievement in life. Love it. It's been,

it's been awesome. It's been awesome. You covered everything. You hit all those nuggets so profoundly. And you know, this just came to mind because this happened to me. I would always look at an. And, you know, this just came to mind because this happened to me. I would always look at an investment, like, you know, well, you should buy this course or you should, you know, get a coach. And I looked at that as, um, as an expense, right? You could be

listening right now, listener. First off, there's no expense for you. You just, your time to go get this book, um, an email address. But I challenge you because I set three things for you to do, you know, develop your baseline. Where do you want to go for 2018? What tools or capabilities do not limit yourself to say, you know what? I am looking at all of these things at expense. You are more than that. You are not an expense. I believe in you. That's why I wrote this. And I want you to just, wherever you are in your journey, get to that growth stage, get

to that port of contribution because you have contribution within you. There we go. That's perfect ending. Thank you so much for coming on the podcast, Cardiff D Hall. Again, you can head over to cardiffdhall.com slash HP mindset. Awesome. Thanks, Cindra. It's wonderful to be here with you. It was awesome having you. Thank you for listening to High Performance Mindset. If you liked today's podcast, make a comment, share it with a friend and join the conversation on Twitter at

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