High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 250: Finding Your Motivation From Within

Episode Date: May 14, 2019

Finding Your Motivation from Within “The biggest source of motivation are your own thoughts, so think big and motivate yourself from within.” Anonymous High performers staying intrinsically motivated. They focus on the progress they make. They consider how they are part of something bigger and how they touch others. They consider what they do and how it is connected to others. Power Phrase this Week: “I stay motivated from within. Each day I focus what fuels me and why my work matters.”

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. Dr. Sindra Kampoff with us today. High Performance Mindset on the Country Club. Good morning, Sindra. Good morning. It's great to be here. Awesome to have you here. We're talking today about finding your motivation from within. Let's start with that quote, as we always do. Anonymous quote. This person said,

The biggest source of motivation are your own thoughts. So think big and motivate yourself from within. Ooh, that's good right there, because I don't know if people realize that, that their own motivation is the biggest source. So what's the example we're going to start with today? So when I think about my life and when I've really

stuck with something big and stuck with it long term, I find that I can do that when I'm doing it for myself. I can sustain effort over the long term. When I'm doing it for like external reasons, like in high school, it might have been to win or in college, it might have been to help, you know, make my parents proud or sometimes just to get a medal or a shirt, my motivation doesn't last as long. And a specific example I can think of was when I was writing my book. It was really difficult. About when I got halfway through,

when I was writing Beyond Grit, and I wanted to quit. I really did. I'm just being truthful. And so I had to really think about within why was I doing this. And I had to remind myself that I'm a writer and that I wanted to leave a legacy and help other people. That's awesome. And you got it done.

I got it done. It eventually happened, didn't it? Yep. So what are we talking about today when it comes to finding your motivation from within? So psychologist Edward Deasy and Richard Ryan developed a concept called self-determination that changed how we see motivation. And it's the opposite of what you might think. When we pursue interests and activities, it's not just reliant on external rewards like fame or money or recognition. It really comes from three needs. So I'd encourage you to think about these three needs and how can you use them today. All right. What's the first one?

Competence. And that means that you're competent at something, that you feel like you're making progress over time. And we all want to get something out of what we're doing. Maybe it's better performance or more enjoyment. So consider, you know, how are you making progress today to stick with it? And what are the next needs? You have two more needs? The next two needs, and we're doing an acronym CAR, competence. The next one is autonomy.

And that means that we connect ourselves to our work and what we do or our sport or activity. And it reflects who we are. And this is really critical in terms of long lasting passion and happiness. So that's autonomy. And the last one is relatedness, where we feel like we're connected with something bigger than ourselves. It's part of our DNA to connect with other people. So competence, autonomy, relatedness, car. All right. Well, how do you think that we can apply this to us? I think the way that we can apply it to us is whatever you're going to do today,

think about the internal reasons that you're doing it. And you're more likely to stick with something and enjoy it if it's part of something greater. And so satisfying all of these needs is really important to lasting passion. And if you think of something that you do and it satisfies all of them, then I is really important to lasting passion. And if you think of something that you do and it satisfies all of them, then I'd encourage you to dive in. So, again, the way to think about this is focus today on how are you making progress, which is your competence. How are what you do? How does that express who you are and yourself?

That's the autonomy. And then the last one is how what you do connects with others and helps other people. All right. This is a good time. Do you have any of this in your book? I do. You do? It's under purpose practice number two. I feel like there's a lot more conversation that could have than we have time for in this today, but can you summarize it? Yes. I'd say that high performers stay motivated. They focus on the progress they make. They consider how they're part of something bigger and how they touch others. And they consider what they do and how it's connected to other people. And our power phrase for this week. I stay motivated from within. Each day I focus on what fuels me and I follow that. That's good stuff on a Monday morning from

Dr. Sindra Kampoff today. If we want to get a hold of the book or the workbook or listen to the podcasts or see where you're going to be speaking or any of that stuff how do we keep in touch you can head over to dr cindra so dr c-i-n-d-r-a.com and that's where you can find the book beyond grit and the podcast always good stuff thank you for being here thanks for having me dr cindra camp off with us on mondays for high performance mindset thank you for listening to high performance mindset if you like today's podcast make a comment share it a friend, and join the conversation on Twitter at Mentally Underscore Strong. For more inspiration and to receive Sindra's free weekly videos, check out DrSindra.com.