High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 257: How to Embrace Change

Episode Date: June 11, 2019

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” Jim Rohn High performers embrace change and give up victim language. They take 100% responsibility for their past and future. They avoid the blame game. They act and think like a creator.   Power Phrase this Week: “I think and act like a creator. I give up victim language and create the life I image.”  

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. It's time for High Performance Mindset on The Country Club today with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Good morning, Sindra. Good morning. It's great to be here. Good to have you in. It's a nice morning too, isn't it? Beautiful. Nice. How do we embrace change is the topic for today. Let's start with that quote. This is a good quote by Jim Rohn. He said, Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.

Ooh, that's pretty good. All right, so an example to start with. I want you to reflect to yourself, when have you experienced the most change? You know, for me, it's when I got married, when I had my two boys. And especially when I had a baby, it was pretty difficult at the time to adjust to it. But they both have brought me so much joy and happiness. And you just think to yourself, when have you experienced the most change? One study found that one in three people would avoid change if they could. But they say that change is good.

So, I mean, in some ways, I guess. So what are we talking about today? Well, we're talking about how change and what change is about and how our world is constantly changing, but it's really inevitable. And there are some great things that can happen from change. But when we hear that word, we kind of fight it, maybe get really anxious. I interviewed Kit Welchelin, who's a speaker in Minnesota, and he talks about change. And he said change is happening 50 times quicker than it was 50 years ago. Yeah.

You just look at technology and you can see that, you know. Absolutely. So he said technology, information, and people are changing. But we can really take change personally, but it's really not personal. So how do many people react to change when it becomes really hard for us because we kind of resist change? Absolutely. I think most of us can blame and we're conditioned to blame something else or someone else for our suffering. So we can blame our boss or our parents or the weather or coaches or education. We can blame others.

But when we blame others, we weaken our power and we don't change our situation or get any information that we need to better understand the change. So we can be a victim and they create excuses and blame others. So what do we do instead? We want to be a creator. And, you know, when we think about change in our work or in our family, we want to really create the life that we want. And high performers know that they are the only person responsible for the quality of their life. They look inside and create the life and the performance that they want. And they think like a creator, not a victim. So they choose to own their problems. They choose to embrace change and they take control of their energy and perspective.

So you have a specific strategy from your book that helps us deal with change. What is it? It's from practice number three in Beyond Grit. And, you know, I think the key is we got to notice ourselves when we engage in the blame game and we have to stop and take responsibility for our perspective. Instead, you know, think and act like your creator. And one of the ways that we can really think

and act like a creator is when we're dealing with difficulties or change, just ask ourself, what's the opportunity here? And ask ourselves that three times because there's always an opportunity from change. There's always an opportunity to learn something or better ourselves or control what we can control to embrace the change. I like that. It's good to keep in mind. It's also hard to keep in mind. It's super hard. As change is coming at you.

Yeah. So I know that the anxiety level may go up or the frustration or whatever it is that has a little bit of change that maybe knocks you off just a little, but it's still going to make you a bigger, better, stronger person. Don't you ever think back to when you had change and adversity and you went through it and you were like, okay, this is what I learned from that. Yeah. And oftentimes you're not thinking of it as it's happening, you know, until later. And this is how my life got better because of the change. Remember the hindsight the next time something happens. Maybe that will help.

Absolutely. All right. Let's summarize today. So high performers embrace change and they give up the victim language. They take 100% responsibility and they avoid the blame game. They act and think like a creator. And our power phrase for this week. I think and act like a creator. I give up victim for this week? I think and act like a creator.

I give up victim language and I create the life I imagine. Great stuff. If we want to get in touch with you or follow along and hit up the podcasts or grab the book from you and the workbook that goes with it, how do we do that? You can head over to Dr. Sindra, so D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com and the book and the podcast and workbook is there. Awesome. Thank you, Sindra.

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