High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 326: We Are In This Together

Episode Date: April 7, 2020

“Alone we are strong…together we are stronger.” Anonymous   We are all in this together. Everyone in the world is impacted by COVID-19. The key is to remember to be compassionate with others. We are all doing the best we can. To be more patient, we can put space between the stimulus and how we respond. We can do this by using the Power Pause by taking a deep breath and then saying a Power Phrase such as “I can handle anything that comes my way” or “I stay mentally strong.” Today’s Power Phrase:  “I choose to respond with purpose and intention. I can handle anything that comes my way.”

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. How you doing, Cydra? I'm doing great. How are you doing? Well, we're back at work and

here in the studio together, but separate. Yes. And Cydra's on the phone with us. How's it going at your house? It's pretty good. We're adjusting and my kids are liking the online school. You know, they're working at it, so I'm proud of them. Yeah, this first week of distance learning, it seemed to go pretty good at my house. I finally figured out that the kids are usually up not as early as I expected. It's just a bit of an adjustment. I have found myself having to be patient with them, but that's kind of what we're talking about today, right?

Absolutely. Yeah, we are. We're talking about how we're really in this together. And I like this quote that I found. It said, alone we are strong, but together we are stronger. Oh, I like that one. Yeah. Together we are stronger.

What inspired the topic? Well, I think people are adjusting, like you said, and people, you know, maybe just like everyone around the world, life is changing. You're safe at home, not stuck at home, but maybe you're still going to work. Maybe you're working from home. But, you know, for me, I am not hanging out with my friends, which makes me a little sad. And maybe your family is getting a little more frustrated with each other because they're alone or they're with each other. But there's so many things that we're getting used to and adjusting to. And I think it can be really

difficult to remember that we're in this together, that everybody around the world is experiencing this right now. So, Cinder, as far as all of us kind of taking the we're all in this together approach and really maintaining our patience throughout this experience, how do we go about actually implementing all this? I think there are two things, Logan. First, I think it's remembering that everyone is absolutely working to do their best and to keep that in mind, that we're just have more compassion with each other and to be kind to each other. And then I think it's also about really working to control your response. And I'm going to talk about not just reacting to things around you, but responding to them. And I think that's really important to respond, not react.

And remember that you have the power to do that, even if it's frustrating you or if, you know, there's things that are really kind of getting under your skin right now. I've seen some of this and I've heard, you know, stories of people needing to go to stores and maybe being frustrated because stores are out of things and kind of taking that out on clerks or people that are working there. And it's really not their fault. So it's misplaced. But, you know, so how do we how do we do this?

I think let's take the idea of of responding, not reacting a little further. And this psychologist and neurologist named Viktor Frankl wrote a book called Man's Search for Meaning. And it's one of the most read self-development books. And he described his experience at a concentration camp. So he was actually an inmate. And he was able to survive it because what he described is he said between stimulus and response there is space and that space is our freedom and power to choose our response and our response lies our growth and freedom and basically what he's saying is that the stimulus is the thing that

that happens outside of us but our response is something that we can control and we have to put space in between that so when we when we put space in between that. So when we put space in there that we're able to really choose our response, we can grow during this time and we can really respond with purpose and intention, even though there's all these things that we can't control, right? So we can really be intentional with what our intentions are right now. So now that we kind of have an idea to work out from, Sandra, how do we have a strategy to kind of bring this into our everyday life? So in my book, Beyond the Grid, I talk about the power pause.

And what it is, it's like a deep breath or a power breath plus a power phrase. And you could use both of these or you could use them together and call it the power pause or do both of them. And what it is, it's like the power breath. It's just a deep breath. Maybe you count with it. You breathe in, count and hold and breathe out because then you're not thinking about the thing that's frustrating you. And the power breath is just something to say to yourself inside your mind to really help you be more calm and realize you can get through this. So some of my favorite ones that I've been using are like, I can stay calm despite things I can't control,

or I can handle anything that comes my way, or I stay mentally strong. And those are the phrases I've been really using the last couple of weeks to make sure that I respond not to free act. Let's talk about applying it. So maybe we're frustrated because our kids are bored at home. Absolutely. That would be the example of the stimulus or the thing that we can't necessarily control. Or maybe, like you said, Lisa,

you're waiting longer than you want in the grocery store line. Or maybe you're a doctor or a nurse on the front lines. All of these are examples of external events like stimulus. But we can remember that we're all in this together, that people are absolutely doing their best and be grateful that we're here and that we're alive. And we can put space between the stimulus and response. We can take a deep breath. Remember that you can handle anything that comes your way and remember that we are in this together. And so how would you summarize today for us, Cendra? I'd say that remembering that we are all in this together, that everyone in the world has been impacted.

And the key is to remember to be compassionate with others, that people are doing absolutely the best they can. And we can really put space between the stimulus, like what makes us frustrated, and how we respond. And we can do this by a power pause, take a deep breath breath and then say a power phrase such as, I can handle anything that comes my way or I can stay mentally strong. So what's today's power phrase? I choose to respond with purpose and intention. I can handle anything that comes my way. Dr. Cinder Kampoff, how do we get in touch with you?

Learn more about Beyond Grit. You can head over to drCindra.com. So that's D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. All right, Sandra, thank you so much. It's good advice. Way to go for finishing another episode of the high performance mindset.

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