High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 33: How to Find Your Desire or Hunger for Your Goals

Episode Date: March 8, 2016

In this interview with radio hosts, TJ and Lisa, Dr. Kamphoff talks about how to have desire, passion and hunger for your goals and dreams. She talks about how if you don’t have desire, you won’t work towards your goals and dreams. Getting clear on our desire is the one of the factors that leads us to success and reaching our potential. She provides 3 strategies for us to use to connect with our desire. You can connect with Cindra at [e-mail] or at Mentally_Strong.

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. Welcome to the High Performance Mindset Podcast. This is your host, Sindra Kampoff, and I would like to thank you so much for joining me. It means the world to me that you're here listening to this podcast, and I'd like to welcome you if this is the first time you're joining us. If you're returning, thank you so much for coming back. In today's episode, we talk about desire and having hunger for your goals and your dreams.

And I'm going to include an interview that I did recently with the radio host TJ and Lisa. And one of the reasons I'm including this interview as the episode today is because I absolutely love our discussion about what each of us are fighting for. Now what you're fighting for gives you some clues about your desires and really what motivates you and I love our discussion here about what each of us are fighting for and as you're listening I would encourage you to think about what are you fighting for because Because my friends, high performers are willing to go where they need to go to get what matters to them most. And your desire can be measured by three things. It can be measured by your attention and how much attention you're putting on things. It can be measured by your actions, what you do. And third, it can be measured by your emotions. So as you're listening to this

interview, I'd encourage you to think, are you putting your attention, your actions, and your emotions focused on where you want to go, focused on your desires? Because my friend, you are way too important to be just be going through your day and going through this life without intention and focus. So I'd encourage you to consider what your desires are so you are fulfilled. You can reach me at cindra at cindracampoff.com. I'd love to hear from you. Or as always, I'm on Twitter at Mentally Underscore Strong. I look forward to hearing from you,

and let's turn to the radio interview with TJ and Lisa. Monday morning at this time means High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff, and Sindra is right here in studio with us today. Good morning, Sindra. Great. It's great to be here. Thank you for having me. Yes, ma'am. Thanks for being here.

I've wrapped up now. I don't know what I'm going to do. I actually downloaded an audio book because I've listened to every single one of your podcasts now. That's awesome. What a problem to have. Yeah. And they're great. I love listening to them while I run because, A, it gets me just thinking about something besides running when you're out for a longer distance.

And nuggets, as they were called in one of your interviews, you know, you take some things out of it. And I was feeling bad because I thought, man, I took this from that one and that one and that one. And I can't remember who she interviewed at which one and who I took it from. But there's always something. I try to make sure to go online and, like and tweet when I listen to one that I really enjoyed. And the one that you recently did with Coach Keene, who spent a couple of years as the interim head coach at MSU here and was very successful and is now in eastern Michigan. Yep.

I really enjoyed that one because it was from a coach's perspective, which you hadn't had yet in your podcast. Absolutely, yeah. He was the first coach that I interviewed. I'm going to interview more. And I loved his Find the Pony story at the end. Find the Pony story was fantastic. It's worth listening just for that story. But what I took from it as well was he said, you know, you have the ability to win, but do you have the belief?

And I thought, oh, that's good. From a team aspect, every coach should listen to fully listen to that podcast so it was good and today we're moving on and talking about how maybe this refers to me i'm passionate about listening to the podcasts while i run and now i'm out until the next one gets uploaded and i'm hungry for another one so staying hungry is what we're talking about today that desire and what do you mean by that what what i really mean is you know desire is what you want to do or your passion or your hunger or your motivation for your goals and your dreams. Desire is the foundation for our will to live. So we need desire to be fully alive. And we get really clear on our desire, then we're more likely to reach our potential. And we know

the difference between, you know, people who are successful versus those that aren't. It's not necessarily their ability, but their desire or their hunger. Who wants it more? Who wants it more? And you hear people and athletes talk about this and coaches talk about it in sport, but it doesn't necessarily just apply to sport. It applies to our lives in general. Careers and just everyday things that you desire. Yes, exactly. And when I think of hungry, I think of Les Brown. If you've watched any of his videos online, he talks about how, you know, are you hungry? That's something I hear a lot in football, actually. I hear athletes

talk about, you know, being hungry. Okay, so obviously they know what they're after. That's what they're going for. So that's one of the reasons why desire is important. You should have that in your life, right? One quote that I really love is this quote by Winston Churchill. And he said, you know, success is going from failure to failure without a lack of enthusiasm. And I love that quote because, you know, I think kind of the average person, their desire diminishes when they fail. And, you know, they might give up or they, you know, their desire isn't as strong when they fail. But we know that high achievers, their desire doesn't diminish.

And in fact, you know, high performers really amp up their desire after they fail. It's important to get clear on what you want, what your desire is, because if you don't know what you want, you're not going to work towards it. I was thinking of you on Wednesday. I was up at the X for the Mankato West hockey game. They opened up the state tournament. And Minnesota State High School League ran a video right before the game started, and it was about success and failure. And it was about 50-50 that, yeah, someone's coming out of this a champion, but others will come through this tournament,

and their failures will make them stronger. And it was a very, very solid message from the state high school league, I thought, to talk about that and address that with those kids of that age instead of making it all about win, win, win. Look, enjoy the experience. You're here at the state tournament. And it's difficult for us, I think, in the moment to think about what we're learning from the failure or what we could have learned or what we are learning. But, you know, we can't be successful all the time. And obviously our failures can really teach us something about our desires as well. Right. So some strategies to connect with those desires of ours. We're going to go through a few of those. What's your first

one? My first one is to ask yourself what you're fighting for. So really what keeps you going and you need something worth fighting for. So I want you to think about what you're fighting for. What keeps you motivated? What keeps you going? So as an athlete, you might be fighting for that championship maybe your team has never had. As a parent, you might be fighting for the life that you didn't have so your kids can have a better life. As a teacher, you might be fighting for innovative education. Sure.

And what's interesting is we were just talking about, you know, what each of us are fighting for before we went on the air. Lisa, what would you say you're fighting for? Well, we talked about that away from radio. I'm a racial justice facilitator in town here. So that's important to me to educate people. What do you want to educate them about? What are you fighting for?

Equality and fair treatment and just different mindset. about? What are you fighting for? Equality and fair treatment and just different mindset. TJ, what are you fighting for? The discussion we had off the air, which was good because you put someone on the spot and they go, I don't know. But then you're standing there face to face with people that can say, well, this is something I know you're passionate about. And it doesn't have to do with radio, but it has to do with public address work. If I'm picking one thing I'm passionate about, it's about getting everybody's name right, you know, and delivering the information properly and doing it hopefully in an entertaining but not overbearing sort of way. And I laugh because a lot of the things I think I'm passionate about, a lot of people point out as being anal retentive, you know, or you're very picky or you're very, you know, particular about this or that. And I'm like, well, yeah, I'm passionate about that.

And you want to do a good job. That's what I hear when I'm thinking about the football games I've heard you do or hockey games. Yeah. So I would say that. I mean, I'm the same here in the studio, but it's a little bit more casual as far as the presentation goes. We just sit here and chat, drink our coffee and get people to work, I guess. But I'm also passionate about doing that the right way, at least hopefully in an entertaining way.

So what about you? I am fighting for the field of sport and performance psychology and its usefulness and its relevance and its growth. It's one of the reasons I do this. And I am also passionate and fighting for kind of a woman in the place of sport and working in sports ecology and working at the highest level. So that's really what I'm passionate about is showing other people in my field, women in my field, that they can get to the NFL or whoever they want to and be relevant even in a male-dominated space. We're seeing it happen.

I mean, you've got the females in coaching positions in the NBA, in the NFL now, and officiating positions as well. So keep fighting. Yeah, there we go. We all have to keep fighting. But you know, if you're thinking to yourself, like, what am I fighting for? Just pay attention to what you're passionate about. And I think that will give you some clues. All right. Another strategy. Another strategy is to think about how can you put that kind of fight into a goal? So, you know, thinking about what you're fighting for is really important, but then can you align your goals with that? And so I think the key is, is to make sure that you pick the right goal for you. Because if you aren't focused on something you're passionate about,

it's really going to be difficult to keep on going. Right. If you're choosing the wrong goal, you're not going to necessarily have the kind of the burning desire, the hunger that we're talking about. So one question that I'm going to ask people who are listening is, you know, how do you know if you're focused on the right goal? If I asked you this question, if I gave you $10 million tomorrow, so basically, if money didn't matter, right? What would be in your plans? And is, you know, what you're doing right now? Is that what you'd be doing then, if money didn't matter? If money didn't matter? Okay. Well, I can think of a lot of things

I'd be doing if money didn't matter, but I don't know if getting up at 4 a.m. would be something I would do. Even though I'm passionate about this and I love to do this, we always joke about winning the lottery and saying the country club with TJ and Lisa in the morning is now from 1 to 3 weekday afternoons. Broadcast from my living room.

But you'd still probably be doing it, right? On some level, maybe. Exactly. And then the third strategy is really to take command of your ship. And what I mean by that is your ship is your life, and you need to be the commander of your ship. So when you think about your desires and your goals, you have to say no to things that don't fit with that desire

and that you don't necessarily really want to do, but maybe you feel like you have to do. So the key is to really take discipline with your decisions, uh, command of your mind. Last week we talked about command of your fears so that you can really stay passionate, keep on going with that desire. All right. So staying hungry is the phrase for the week today and chasing after those desires, taking command of your ship, so to speak. And speaking of that, you're writing a book. We've been talking about that. And over the summer, you've been plugging away at that.

How are things going? It's going great. Last week, I got a publisher. Nice. So it's one step further. Right? Yes. And one step closer to being there. But it's awesome. She's got me on. Nice. So it's one step further. Right. Yes, and one step closer to

being there, but it's awesome. She's got me on some deadlines. Oh, yes. Holding you accountable now. She's going to hold me accountable. So we have a good date that I hope to have everything done by, and it's just, it feels really, really good.

Awesome. Well, congratulations to you on that. I can't wait to get hands on a hard copy. Me either. That's what I'm fighting for. A hard copy. Join, join Sindra at Barnes and Noble for a book signing. So, you know, that, that could happen somewhere down the road here. That'll be fantastic. All right. So if we want to connect with you in the meantime, what's the best way to do that? You can go to my website, sindracampoff.com. Our podcast is on iTunes and Stitcher Radio if you have an Android. This week we had a note from someone in Australia.

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