High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 368: Be Impeccable with Your Word

Episode Date: September 8, 2020

Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.”   In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff talks about the first agreement, “Be Impeccable with Your Word” of Don Miguel Ruiz’s book “The Four Agreements.” Cindra talks about how a key to be impeccable with our word is to be a silent listener to the voice in your own mind. We all have some degree of negativity. You have a choice to believe the thoughts or not when your thoughts are critical or negative about yourself. A key is to build yourself up to protect your confidence, energy and leadership.   This Week’s Power Phrase: “I will talk to myself powerfully. I will avoid using my words to speak against myself or others.”   

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindhra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. Good morning. It's great to be here, Lisa. Well, thanks for coming on. We're going to be talking

about being impeccable with your word. I saw the title of this and I was like, oh, I get where we're going today. Let's talk about the, you have a quote to start us off with. Yes, this is by Don Miguel Ritz. He said, speak with integrity, only say what you mean and avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Uh-huh. What inspired this? Well, I was rereading this book called The Four Agreements, and it's really an incredible book about wisdom and the truth. And The Four Agreements that Don talks about is be impeccable with your words. Second one is don't take things personally. A third is don't make assumptions.

And the last one is always do your best. And I thought we'd talk about the first one today, which is really what he describes as the most important. So what does it mean when we say be impeccable with your word? It means not to go against yourself. It also means not to gossip and use the words about, you know, negatively about other people. But I think when it means,

you know, what does it mean not to go against yourself? It means to take responsibility for your actions and don't put yourself down or judge yourself or blame yourself. And it means using your energy kind of in this direction of truth and love for yourself. And I think this can be so difficult right now, Lisa, because in this world of comparison and blame, there's a lot of attacking each other. So much so, you have to be careful what you're listening to and consuming. Exactly. Yeah, why is this so important? Well, let's talk about the first part, not going against yourself.

And I think, you know, we're the rudest to ourselves. We have, all of us have some degree of negative self-talk. But when we listen to our own voice inside our head, you know, we would never say the same thing to a best friend or family member. So the question is, like, why do we tolerate that type of self-talk in our own mind? And I think sometimes we don't know the power of actually changing our self-talk or really how to change that inner critic. But these words can really destroy your life and make yourself miserable. So if we want to speak to that and change that, what do we start by doing?

I think the first step is always awareness and just listening to your own mind. And the second step is really to know that you do have a choice. You have a choice if you believe the thoughts and the voice inside your own mind. And the second step is really to know that you do have a choice. You have a choice if you believe the thoughts and the voice, you know, inside your own mind. You have a choice to believe it or not. And we shouldn't believe everything we think, Lisa. And instead, we really need to talk to ourselves powerfully, you know, tell ourselves what our strengths are

and our great qualities to build our confidence and energy and leadership and really focus on the great things about ourselves. Maybe even tell ourselves what we love about ourselves. Can you give us a little insight on maybe how you've applied it to your life? Sure. You know, I read this book about six or seven years ago, and I'm pretty good at like focusing on my own strengths and telling myself, you know, what I'm good at to build my confidence. But when I just said that part, like love yourself, oh gosh, I need some improvement on that, right? Because that's where my personal journey is. And that really does come from your inner voice and just working to keep improving that. It's a good thing to keep in mind

as we head through this week. How do you summarize the topic for us today? I'd say, you know, be impeccable with your words. That means paying attention to what you say to yourself and others and be a silent listener to your own voice and your own mind. And just know that you have a choice to believe those thoughts or not when they're critical. And then remember to build yourself up to protect your confidence and your energy and your leadership. All right. So what's our power phrase that we should be repeating to ourselves? I will talk to myself powerfully. I will avoid using my words to speak against myself or others. And if people want more information about this, once again, what's the book that you

were referring to called? And then how can we get in touch with you and find more information about what it is you do? Yeah, you bet. You can go over to Dr. Sindra, so D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. And I do coaching and speaking with keynote speaker. And this book is called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ritz. It's one of my favorite books of all time. So check it out. Really easy to read, short. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual

fist pump. Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindra for show notes and to join my exclusive community for high performers where you get access to videos about mindset each week. So again, you can head over to Dr. Sindra. That's D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. See you next week.