High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 41: Positivity is a Choice Not an Event

Episode Date: April 14, 2016

Nothing needs to happen for us to be positive. In fact, research indicates that only 10% of our happiness is determined things outside ourselves. 10%!!! That means 90% of our happiness is up to us. Our positivity is determined by our focus and how we choose to feel each day. Dr. Kamphoff shares with us three strategies to improve our positivity percentage. You can find Dr. Kamphoff on Twitter @Mentally_Strong or at cindrakamphoff.com. You can also reach out to her at [e-mail].

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. Welcome to the High Performance Mindset Podcast. This is your host, Sindra Kampoff, and I'm stoked today that you are ready to listen to a message about positivity and how it is a choice, not an event. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for being here every single week to listen to messages about mindset and performance. I found out earlier this week that the podcast has been downloaded in over

70 countries, blew me away, and I'm just so appreciative for all of the comments and emails that I get from you every single day about how this podcast has made a difference in your life. Thank you so much for coming and coming back every single week. If you listen to this podcast has made a difference in your life. Thank you so much for coming and coming back every single week. If you listen to this podcast regularly, or if you just listen once and you find something useful, what would be amazing is if you could go to iTunes. And even if you don't listen on iTunes, if you listen somewhere else or on the website,

going back to iTunes and submitting a review would be incredible because it gets us into more ears of people and they can hear about mental strategies and mindset and performance. So if you could go over there on iTunes and submit a review and a comment, that would be incredible. And I want to read one from Kent Julian, who posted this yesterday. He said, I really enjoy the show. Tons of in-depth and insight regarding mindset and performance. Thanks for pushing us. You bet, Kent. So today I am ready to deliver an important message for you about how positivity is a choice and not an event.

And this is what I mean. Nothing needs to happen for us to be positive. Although a comment or flowers or a hug definitely makes us feel good, we don't have to have those things to be positive. And what I mean by that is that research indicates that only 10%, 10% of our happiness is determined by things outside of ourselves. That means, my friends, 90% of our happiness is determined by our mindset, by our perspective of what's happening in our lives. 90% of our happiness is really decided by us. And we can create more positivity by choosing positive emotions and choosing a positive focus. And positivity is so incredibly important. Research study after research study shows the importance of positivity. For example, many research studies have found that

for us to thrive, we need about a 75% positivity percentage. What that means, my friends, is that about 75% of our emotions need to be positive for us to feel like we are thriving. Believe it or not, but only about 20% of the population has a 75% positivity percentage. So what that means today, my friends, is that today's message is incredibly important. And positivity is just as important on your team, your athletic team or your business team. We know research shows that high-performing teams

have an 85% positivity percentage. What that means is that 85% of their interactions are positive. And in our marriages, that percentage is about the same. John Gottman's research has shown that for us to feel like we are thriving in our marriages, the positivity percentage is about 82%. And guess what? John Gottman can predict if people are going to be married within six years by their positivity percentage. What his research shows is that marriages that ended in divorce have only a 42% positivity percentage. So positivity has real implications on our team, on our athletic team, on our business, on our happiness, in our relationships, and our marriages. And I shared this stat with my husband on Easter Sunday, and we both just looked

at each other, and it was like we made this connection, and we both decided we were going to make a stronger dedication to being more positive with each other and with our family. And I can already see the impact. So perhaps that means you can share this with someone that you love to show them that positivity is essential. So today I'm going to share with you three strategies for you to improve your percentage, your positivity percentage. The first one is can you make it a daily decision to choose to be more positive? When you wake up in the morning, can you choose to have a positive day? Can you choose moment to moment to see the positive in a situation? Because the positive is always going to be there as well as the negative. It's really up to us. And I think sometimes choosing

positivity can feel like a daily battle because there's so much negativity around us at school or at work or in the news. But my friends, the best of the best, the most successful, they choose to be positive every single day. So can you make it a choice? Number two, if you feel like you are negative, change the questions that you're asking. Change your focus. Because what I've found is that when we are negative, we're asking ourselves things like, what's wrong with the situation? Gosh, what's bothering me today? Or what's bothering me about my family? Or what's bothering me today? What's bothering you about my family? What's bothering me about my team? Or gosh, if this just was different or this was different. Ask different questions. How about asking yourself in your head or maybe out loud, what's right about my situation? What's right

about my current circumstances? What makes me lucky to be here? What can I treasure about my family or about my job or about my work? So when you want to change your positivity percentage, change the questions you're asking in your head. And then the third strategy I'm going to share with you today is focus on being an energy giver and not an energy drainer. And what I mean by that is looking at how you can bring energy to your family, to your work, or to your team. Can you bring more energy? I know I can, my friends. So will you make a commitment with me to bring more positive, more positive energy to situations on your team or at work or with your family? And you can do this by noticing what's right about the situation, noticing what's right about people,

noticing what's right about your family, and then telling them what you notice. You could also do this by deciding to share and spread positive news with others instead of gossip or negative news. So my friends, will you make a commitment along with me to choose more positivity on a daily basis? Because the most successful have a daily commitment to be positive. They notice the great in their lives, on their team, and in their family. So will you make it a daily choice to choose positivity? If you do, your life's going

to start to change for the better and you'll have more energy each day and in each situation. We are going to end with an affirmation this week and you can find it on my Twitter page at at mentally underscore strong if you want to download it or retweet it. And that's this. I choose positivity. I choose to bring positive energy it, and that's this. I choose positivity. I choose to bring positive energy each day and in each situation. I choose to focus on what is great in my life, on my team, and in my business. Thank you so much for joining me this week, my friends. As always, I'd love to hear what you think by providing a comment on iTunes or shooting me

an email at syndra at syndracampoff.com or always on Twitter at mentally underscore strong. Make it an outstanding week, my friends, and be mentally strong. Thank you for listening to High Performance Mindset. Are you signed up for Syndra's weekly email with free mental tools and strategies for high performance