High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 430 "Train Your Trust"

Episode Date: May 12, 2021

Trusting yourself is an essential part of building your self-confidence. Your trust is a trait that can be trained, and should be trained. First, when training your trust, it is important to not wait for confidence – instead, act confidently. Second, we need to doubt our doubts! Most of what we say to ourselves when we doubt ourselves is a lie. The third strategy to train your trust is to be kind to yourself. Make sure your inner dialogue supports trusting yourself.    Power Phrase this Week: “I train my trust. I act confidently and my belief follows.”  Quote of the Week: “If you’re going to trust one person, let it be yourself.” Robert Tew 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. Time to check in with Dr. Cendra Kampoff this morning. And today's topic is all about training

your trust. Cendra, usually start us off with a quote. This is by Robert Tu. He said, if you're going to trust one person, let it be yourself. All right. So you've got an example to start us off today. Lisa, I've been working with a lot of elite track and field athletes who are training for the Olympics and specifically the Olympic trials at the end of June. And obviously you have to qualify through the trials to get to the Olympics, which happens only every four years. So it can feel like a lot of pressure and there's less opportunities even to compete before the trials. So they're really needing to train their trust right now. A trust that they'll be ready by the end of June. And I think we all need to train our trust as well, that sometimes we can question if we really put in the work. And sometimes we can

doubt ourselves, even though that we have worked really hard. We need to trust ourselves that the good things will happen and the end results will come the way we want them to. So how does that exactly connect with our topic for the day? Well, today we're talking about training our trust. And trust is something we can train and we should train. And when I think about what do I mean by trust, it's this belief in yourself, belief in your ability to do something. And it's helpful in a lot of different ways in our life. Many times it can be life-changing because it builds our confidence.

Higher trust kind of paves the way for other people to trust us and for us to trust other people. And it makes the decision-making just much easier when we trust ourselves. So today we're going to talk about three ways that we can trust ourselves more. It was interesting that you are talking about that. I just did a chat with somebody about imposter syndrome, and a lot of imposter syndrome, which is like doubting yourself, sounds like it has a lot to do with training your trust.

Absolutely. And, you know, we all can experience imposter syndrome. So just like all of us can kind of doubt ourselves from time to time, too. So what is the first way that we can train our trust, trust ourselves, like our trust in ourselves? I'd say first, don't wait for confidence. And what I mean by that is, you know, confidence is really this belief in ourselves and it's connected to our trust. But the thing we need to remember is that confidence can come from action. And sometimes even the world's best question their confidence. And it's actually something we need to nurture.

So first thing is we can act confidently and then the thoughts of confidence will follow. You know, sometimes, Lisa, people might say, fake it till you become it. And that's true. So first thing is don't wait for confidence. Act confidently instead. All right. What's another way we can train our trust? Another way we can train our trust is doubt our doubts. And what I mean by that is, you know, most of the thoughts that we have that limit us are actually not true at all. They're really false. And we tend to believe them even when they limit us. So we need to doubt our doubts. You know, ask ourselves if this thought is even true and then replace it with a more empowering thought. Maybe something like, you know, everything will come

together in perfect timing. Or I put in the work and the reward will pay off. Or, you know, my hard work will show in the end. And you said that there were three ways to trust yourself. What's the last way that we can work on this? I think the last way, Lisa, is to really be kind to ourselves. You know, when it comes to our inner dialogue that we have in our own mind, we don't often kind of filter our tone and we're our own worst critics. So really pay attention to that inner dialogue. Is it empowering and compassionate and patient? Or is it destructive and critical? And then communicate through kind of more of a filter that you would communicate to other people with kindness and compassion.

And that's one of the best ways to improve the trust in yourself. Yeah, that's difficult because you speak to yourself in so much of a more harsh tone than you would ever speak to anybody else generally. Absolutely. Yeah. Can you summarize today for us, Cindra? Yeah, Lisa, I'd say, you know, training your trust is actually, you know,

part of building your confidence. And it's important not just to wait for confidence and instead act confidently. And we need to doubt our doubts. You know, when we're limiting ourselves and not trusting our ability, we can easily doubt ourselves. So remember that likely what you're saying is not true and is a lie. And the last one is just to be kind to yourself. Make sure your inner dialogue supports trusting yourself and being kind to yourself. What is the power phrase for this week?

I train my trust, I act confidently, and my thoughts follow. Train your trust with Dr. Sindra Kampoff today. If we want to learn more about what it is that you do, where do we find you? Lisa, you can head over to DrSindra, so D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com, and I have a book called Beyond Grit, and do a lot of speaking and coaching. If anyone would like to learn more, you can find more information there. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump.

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