High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 451: Respond with Intention

Episode Date: August 27, 2021

This week on the podcast we discuss the importance of responding with intention and how the PCR Strategy (Pause, Consider, Respond) can help us do that.   Power Phrase this Week: “I choose to respond with purpose and intention.”   “When you react, you are giving away your power. When you respond, you are staying in control of yourself.” Bob Proctor 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. We check in with Sindra Kampoff today, and it is a good day to respond with intention,

which is what we are talking about. Sindra, you have a quote for us. This is a quote by Bob Proctor. He said, when you react, you are giving away your power. When you respond, you are staying in control of yourself. So how do you want to start off today? So there's this powerful concept by a guy named Viktor Frankl. He wrote a book called Man's Search for Meaning, where he describes he was in a concentration camp as an inmate. And he talked about this idea that this is how he was able to survive. And he said, between stimulus and response, there is space. And that space is our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom. And so basically what he's saying there, Lisa,

is that whatever happens to us that makes us angry or frustrated, we can put space between that and our response. So how and why is responding with purpose really important for us? Well, that's how we grow. That's how we can get control over our own reactions, which then leads to more fulfillment and actually more happiness for ourselves. And I use this process, three-step process. It's called PCR, and it just stands for pause, consider, and respond. To help us really give us time to respond, especially when we get our buttons pushed or feel like we're, you know, triggered by something that's outside of our

control. So we can take control of ourselves and really lead the hardest person to lead, which is our own self. Absolutely. Can you tell us a little bit more about the strategy though? Sure. Yeah. So the first step is just pause. And that means just take a moment to pause. Maybe you take a breath. Just ask yourself, you know, what's involved and what's the situation here? Maybe even count with your breath to kind of slow down your frustration. And then consider next, you know, how can you put space between this thing that's frustrating you, the stimulus, and your response? So you might ask yourself, you know, how do I want to respond right now? What kind of personal values do I want guiding me right now? Maybe even something like, how can I grow through this, not just get through this? And then the last part is that you respond,

you choose your response with purpose and intention. And you decide, you know, exactly how you want to respond, given your values and what's important to you. And then can you give us an example? Sure. So let's say you work in sales and you've been working on closing a really big deal for, like, let's say the last six months. And you've presented to the decision makers a lot of different times and you think it's going to go through, but the president overrules the decision. And so, again, you can either respond or react. And maybe your reaction is where you get really frustrated, angry, you beat yourself up for the failure. And let's say you go home and you lash out at your family because you just had a bad day.

So that's an example of a reaction. And the response is, you know, you use the PCR strategy, you pause, you take some breaths, you consider, you know, what went well and, you know, you gave your best. And then you decide to respond. You know that you can learn from this and you can grow. And you avoid beating yourself up. So you're really responding with more purpose and intention. And, Lisa, you know, even if we're not in sales, we all experience disappointments like this where you can take a step back and decide how do you want to respond instead of just with heightened anxiety or frustration because we all experience disappointments. Absolutely.

It's one of my favorite things that you talk about is that choosing your response versus a reaction. Do you have a final point for us? Yeah, I would just say for us to all think about what pushes our buttons and when do we really need to use this PCR strategy, you know, and when do we really want to respond, not just react. So we always end with a power phrase. Do you have one for us this week? I choose to respond with purpose and intention. Respond with intention. Cinder Kampoff, how do we get in touch with you?

Follow along on your social media, things like that. I know you have another book that you're writing. Yes, it's coming out. We're working on it right now, just the final parts of it. So you can head over to Dr. Sindra, the D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A, and I speak to groups and work with teams and individuals to help them be their best and grow their mindset. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump. Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else?

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