High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 497: Doing Hard Things

Episode Date: June 17, 2022

In this episode, we talk about how you can do hard things. You are more capable than you realize.  You have a reserve tank that you haven’t even tapped. You can move to the next level whatever that next level is for you. And you can do difficult things 😊 This Week’s Power Phrase: “I have a reserve tank that hasn’t even been tapped. I work hard, stay the course, and remain gritty.  This Week's Quote of the Week: “Success is never owned it is only rented, and the rent is due every day.” —Rory Vaden, Bestselling Author, Take the Stairs 

Time to check in with Cinder Kampoff today. We're talking about doing hard things today. Cinder, you usually start us off with a quote. I like this quote by Roy Vaden, and he said, success is never owned, it is only rented, and rent is due every day. Ooh, I like that one. Yeah. Do you have an example for us from your own life? I do. You know, when I wrote my first book, Beyond Grit, it was really overwhelming, and I think it's very common for first-time authors to feel like that. There was a point where about halfway through, I stopped writing for six months

and I definitely felt stuck. But the thing that actually got me back was my own coach. And she suggested that I print pictures of the people that I was writing to. And I put them right by my computer. And so I printed out pictures of my parents and my two boys and the pro athletes that I was working with at the time and salespeople that I was coaching and other people who I wanted to read it. And it worked. It worked because I had a clear vision of the end result and why I was writing the book. And so why is today's topic important to us? Well, today we're talking about this topic of self-discipline, and self-discipline really is our ability to take action even when we don't feel like it. And this topic is really important

because we can procrastinate, right? And that can cripple us. Many times we don't finish things that start, you know, that we start unless we're really, really interested in them. And so when we can do hard things, we can accomplish our goals sooner, and we can do whatever we really want in our own life. So I'm just going to suggest that people imagine what would happen if you consistently followed through more often. And what's the first thing that we need to consider about doing things that we don't want to do? Well, I love this Navy SEAL phrase, and it's called embrace the suck. And I like it because it's really a mindset of doing hard things, right? And I think to accomplish our goals and dreams, we have to do things that we

don't always feel like doing. We can't avoid these things that, you know, if we don't feel happy about them. And so when we embrace everything in our lives or our business or our sport, we can really decide to do difficult things. And I think what's helpful is that, you know, when we think of the most successful people in your discipline or your area, you know, they don't distract themselves or numb themselves from discomfort. They really embrace the uncomfortable, and that's what embrace the suck really means. What else should we consider about doing difficult things? Well, a vision really helps you. So just like it helped me finish Beyond the Grid,

and really a vision is like a mental picture that helps you take action. And we all need a vision for our own future. And once we get clear on it, you know, we can make intentional decisions, we can decide to do difficult things, we know what to say yes to and what to say no to. And we get it gives us really this inspiration to keep going even when it's not easy. And so when we're clear on this vision, we know really what opportunities to pursue. And so I'm just going to encourage people to really get some clarity on what is it that you want and how could getting clarity on that really help you do difficult things. And, Sandra, are there any other things we should consider? So the quote I gave you at the beginning by Roy Vaden, he wrote a book called Take the Stairs.

And it's all about self-discipline. And he talks about this concept of how instead of should. And I really like it. And so he says the significant difference between choosing an attitude, you know, like I'm not sure yet, versus one that says let's go, is the difference between in our mind we say, should I or how will I? And so the next time that you're wondering and you're, you know, maybe you want to give up and you don't want to do the difficult thing, ask yourself, how can I do this instead of should I do this?

And, Cinder, how would you like to finish today? I would just say, you know, everyone listening, you're more capable than you realize, and you have a reserve tank that hasn't even been tapped. You can do difficult things, and you can move to the next level by doing those difficult things. What is this week's power phrase that we can use to move forward with? It goes like this. I have a reserve tank that hasn't even been tapped. I work hard, stay the course, and do difficult things. And, Cinder, if we want to follow along with you and see your work, or maybe, you know, get keep in touch with when the next book comes out, what do we need to do? Where do we go? You can head over to Dr. Cinder, so drcindra.com. Way to go for finishing another

episode of the high performance mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump. Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindhra for show notes and to join my exclusive community for high performers where you get access to videos about mindset each week. So again, you can head over to Dr. Sindhra. That's D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. See you next week.