High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 50: Think Like a Creator with Responsibility 101

Episode Date: June 7, 2016

John Maxwell said: “Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.” Most of us are conditioned to blame someone else for our suffering. We blame our parents. We blame the weather. We blame our spouse. We blame our boss. We blame our teammates. We blame our genetics. We blame our education. We blame ownership. We blame our kids. Every time we blame someone or something, we dwindle our chance of success. In this interview with TJ and Lisa, Cindra talks about how high performers create the life and performance they desire. They think and act like a victim. To connect with Cindra, you can email her at [e-mail] or send her a tweet @Mentally_Strong.  

Hello, high performers and those who are working to reach their greater potential. This is your host, Cindra Campoff, and I'm delighted that you're here today, ready to listen to a message about registering for Responsibility 101. We're going to start with an iTunes review. The iTunes review that I'm going to pull out today is by Shapiro3. Shapiro3 says, great practical tips for getting your head in the game. Thanks so much, Shapiro3, for your comments. And if you are a regular listener to this podcast, really help us if you could post an iTunes review or comment.

That just allows us to reach more and more people with a positive message each week. All right, so today what we're talking about is that we're talking about taking responsibility for your past and your future and your circumstances. And we're going to start with a radio interview I did actually this morning with radio hosts TJ and Lisa. And we start in this interview, we talk about George Clooney. And I share a story about George Clooney and how his shifting his mindset made all the difference. As you're listening to the interview, listen to that story and listen to the distinction we make between victim and creator language. And just think about yourself. Think about how you could use

a creator language more often. And as always, I'd love to hear from you. I do this podcast for you. And so I'd love to hear what you think, what's it out to you, just your feedback in general. And so you can go on my website, drcindra.com, click on the podcast link right up there, and you can make a comment on the podcast and on the show notes, or by the show notes. And you can always reach out to me at cindra at cindracampoff.com. Love hearing from you. It fuels my soul to hear about how the podcast might have helped you. And as always, I'm always on Twitter at mentally underscore strong.

All right, let's do it. Let's turn to the interview this morning with TJ and Lisa. Good morning, Cindra. Good morning. It's great to be here. Good to have you in. High Performance Mindset on a Monday. Get us going in the right direction here to start the week off.

Maybe learn something about ourselves. Sindra, we're talking about Register for Responsibility 101. This is just getting us in the door with responsibility, basically. Just getting started. What do you mean by Responsibility 101? Well, we're going to start with a quote today. It's a John Maxwell quote. He said, life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react. It's one of my favorite quotes. I love that one. I use it with the kids. I use it with the athletes

that I coach. It's like, hey, it's all up to you how you respond to what happens, really. I mean, you decide. Exactly. And it's hard to do. It is hard to do. That's what we're talking about today is accepting responsibility. I was reading this weekend about George Clooney, the actor who was on ER, Superman. He first arrived in Hollywood. He was rejected by most of his auditions. And he really blamed the system. He blamed the decision makers for not really seeing

who he was and who he could become. And then he realized that he really had to change his perspective. And he started taking responsibility for his own actions. And he stood in the producer's shoes and really started seeing the auditions as like a chance to solve their problems. I see this as he shifted from a victim perspective to a creator perspective, and he went from kind of blaming to taking responsibility. And so he started studying and understanding what the casting director and the producer was really looking for. Yeah, what do they want? What do they want? And he really saw, you know, he was the person who could offer them something.

He was the man for the job. He could solve their problems. So he took a different perspective. And that was the difference that made all the difference. It is so easy for us to point a finger at somebody else and say, this is why it didn't go the way it should have gone. So easy. Yes. And so most of us go that route because it's easy. It is easier.

It is easier. It's more difficult to take responsibility and really own what's happening and own your response. And I think most of us are conditioned to blame someone else for our suffering and for us not reaching our goals. You know, if you just pay really close attention to what we hear all day long on the TV, you know, we hear people blaming the president or the economy. We blame our parents. We blame our genetics. We blame our boss. We blame our teammates, we blame our education.

Sometimes we blame our kids, right? It is the easier route to take is that when we blame others, we weaken our power. And every time we blame somebody else, we dwindle our chances of success. And I see it as like your grit tank gets smaller. Your grit and your confidence tank gets smaller every time you blame somebody else. You have less passionate energy to go after your goals and make the impact that you were designed to make. That's a good way to put it.

So high performers that are out there and successfully tackling Responsibility 101 are able to work through this and have specific ways that they think and act. If we want to be like those people, what do we need to do? Yeah, and you know, the way I define high performer is that those who are really working to reach their greater potential. And I think deep down, all of us want to reach our greater potential. So a high performer knows that they're the only person responsible for their quality of life. And they really look inside and they create the life and the performance every single day that they want. And instead of saying like, oh, why me? They say, well, why not me?

Of course I can handle that. And, you know, I see my problems as opportunities. And they think like a creator and not like a victim. Awesome. All right. What do you mean by creator? You know, when I was working on my PhD, I taught this class for students on academic probation. And it's kind of cool because we used to teach it as really kind of a study skills class. But then

we started seeing that that wasn't the reason that they were on academic probation was because they didn't have the smarts or they didn't have the skills. It was because they were blaming other people. So they were blaming the education or the university or they were blaming their parents, the system. And so the first thing that we did is we taught them the difference between victim and creator language. So victim language is when we create excuses and blame others. We feel like we have to do something instead of get to do something. We pretend our problems belong to others. But as a creator, we take action and we solve problems and we take responsibility and we choose to do things and own our problems and we commit and follow through. All right. So what should we do this week to work on that? This week, we should choose

to think and act like a creator. What I would encourage everyone to do is notice when you engage in the blame game this week. Take responsibility for your perspective and decide to act and to think like a creator. I like it. It's a good idea. It's a great way to start the week. So to summarize today's message, if we put it all in a nice little package with a bow on top. High performers are those who work to reach their greater potential.

They give up excuses and victim language, and they take 100% responsibility for their past and their future. They avoid the blame game, and they act and think like a creator. Awesome. All right. Well, we always wrap up with an affirmation. Cindra has one of those every week. We start the week off. She puts it out there on social media, so if you follow along with her, you'll find it there. But we also like to pass it along

on the radio. So what do you have for us this week? I say no to excuses and victim language. I own my power. Own it. Own it. Good stuff.

If we're going to follow along with you, I know there's several podcasts that have popped up recently. I just finished my book, so I got to go back and get caught up on all the podcasts that have piled up on me now,

which is the way I like to do things. Then I get a bunch of them in a row nice uh but then I do that and then of course there's the emails and uh follow along on twitter and on facebook all of that stuff but we can get all the info through your website right yeah you can go to drcinder.com um I send uh often videos on high performance and just mindset and you can sign up for those there and then you can get the podcast there as well as on iTunes. Last week, I interviewed Nicole Detling, who is a sports psychologist with multiple U.S. Olympic teams. And you don't have to be interested in sport.

She provides a ton of value in terms of just like life and how you can apply mindset to your life. And then this week, we're launching an interview with a sports psychologist from the Cleveland Cavaliers. Nice. Dr. Cinder camp off with us today for high performance mindset.

Thank you very much. Thanks for having me. I really appreciate it. You bet. Thank you for listening to high performance mindset. If you like today's podcast, make a comment, share it with a friend and join the conversation on Twitter at mentally

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