High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 518: 3 Ways to Multiply Your Confidence

Episode Date: October 21, 2022

“You have to believe you’re good enough to excel at the highest level if you ever expect to get there.” —Pat Summit  In this episode, Dr. Cindra talks about research-backed ways to build confidence. Confidence is a choice you make daily. Your belief and trust in your ability is your choice. Intentionally decide today to take control of your confidence. Believe and trust that you can!  Power Phrase this Week: “I choose confidence. I choose to believe and trust in my ability.” 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. Time to check in with Cindra Kampoff to find out three ways to multiply your confidence. That's

what we're talking about today. Cindra, start us with your quote. I love this quote by Pat Summitt. And she said, you have to believe that you're good enough to excel at the highest levels if you ever expect yourself to get there. So you have to believe you're good enough. Tell us exactly what we're talking about today. Well, today we're talking about confidence and how confidence is this belief and trust in your ability. And it's your certainty that you're going to be successful. So having the skills and talent really isn't enough.

You have to believe in those skills. And I think to cultivate our grit, to think like the world's best, we need the confidence to do so. So we actually know confidence is one of the strongest predictors of our daily performance and really is essential for our own career and development. Well, Cinder, what do confident people do? So I'd say confident people and athletes and leaders and entrepreneurs, they have the trust that they have what it takes to be

successful. And they don't let, you know, mistakes or bad games or less than stellar performances impact their confidence. They know they're not perfect. And know, mistakes or bad games or less than stellar performances impact their confidence. They know they're not perfect and they see mistakes as a way that they can continue to learn. They also don't believe if they have like a bad performance that they're in a slump, right? So they're able to not accept negative labels on themselves and turn things around. So tell us what confidence isn't because I know a lot of people think, are you confident or

are you arrogant? Yeah, that's a great question, Lisa. And I think that's really important because that's one thing I want to make clear that confidence isn't about acting cocky or arrogant. And so when I work with, you know, athletes and entrepreneurs and leaders, I'm really clear that being mentally strong is not about outer arrogance. It's more about inner arrogance and confident people actually don't brag. They don't feel like they need to shout, you know, their greatness from the rooftops. I think that mentally strong people are really confidently humble. And I love this quote by Norman Vincent Peale. And he said, people with humility don't think less of themselves. They just think about themselves less. I love that. Yeah. What's the first step

then to building confidence if we need it? So I would say in my book, Beyond Grit, I talk about 10 decisions to be confident. And the first decision is really that we have to make a decision that it does take constant nurturing. And even the best athletes and leaders will say that their confidence can be fragile. There's this great quote by Joe Montana, who was the quarterback for the San Francisco 49ers, and I think four-time Super Bowl champion. And he talked about how confidence is a very fragile thing. So we can make a decision to let mistakes and failures and negative people impact our confidence, or we can choose confidence on

a daily basis. And what's the second decision that we can make in order to be confident? I think the second decision is really to remind ourselves of our accomplishments. And this is actually one of the most powerful sources of confidence, is just being able to remember your past performances and your past experiences and achievements. And so when we think about the good things that have happened in the past, we're more likely to believe that we can do it in the future because it's really like tangible evidence that we've done it, right? So I think one thing we can

do is just remind ourselves of how we've improved our skills over time. What is another decision that we can make to help us? This is one of my favorite and most impactful. And this one is about putting on your confidence armor. And what I mean by confidence armor is this mindset of, you know, not taking things personally. And when we have our confidence armor on, think about it as like an armor, like Iron Man, you know, around you. And, you know, when you have your confidence armor, you can process feedback, kind of like a text message, applying the technical things, but not taking it personally. And so, you know, I'd say really confident people don't allow other people to kind of sear their confidence. Cinder, what's your final point for today?

My final point is confidence is a choice that we can make every day. And it's your belief and trust in your ability. And we can intentionally decide today to even take more control of our confidence. And even if we feel like we're confident today, it does take constant nurturing. So what is the power phrase that we go forward with this week? I like this one. I choose confidence. I choose to believe and trust in my ability. We should all do that and strive to do that every day. Cindra, if people are interested in following along with your work or learning more about this particular topic, what's the best strive to do that every day. Cindra, if people are interested in following along with your work or learning more about this particular topic, what's the best thing to do?

Best thing would be to head over to DrCindra, so D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A dot com. And you can find my book Beyond Grit over there. I also have a Beyond Grit Breakthrough Program. It's a group program coming up next month. So if you want to learn more about that, you can send me an email by checking out my website and my emails on there. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump.

Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindra for show notes and to join my exclusive community for high performers, where you get access to videos about mindset each week. So again, you can head over to Dr. Sindhra. That's D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. See you next week.