High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 519: More Ways to Multiply Your Confidence

Episode Date: October 25, 2022

“Experience tells you what to do. Confidence allows you to do it.” —Stan Smith    Confidence is belief and trust in your ability. It is your certainty that you will be successful. Having skills and talent is not enough; we have to believe in our skills in order to use them to the best of our ability. In our last episode, we talked about 3 ways to build confidence: 1. Make a Decision, 2. Remind Yourself of Your Accomplishments, and 3: Put on Your Confidence Armor. We are talking about 4 more ways to build confidence today.   Power Phrase this Week: “I choose confidence. I choose to nurture my confidence to be my best for myself and my team.”

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. It's time we check in with Sindra Kampoff. And we had a conversation about confidence,

Sindra. So we're going to talk about more ways to multiply your confidence. And you usually start us off with a quote. What do you have for us today? I thought this quote by Stan Smith was really good. And he said, experience tells you what to do, but confidence allows you to do it. So tell us exactly what we're talking about today. Well, confidence is really like a belief and trust in your ability. And it's your certainty that you're going to be successful. And we know that having skills and talent really isn't enough. You have to believe in your skills to the best of your ability. And we talked last time about how confidence isn't about being arrogant or cocky, but instead it's really about having this internal arrogance.

And we talked about three ways to build confidence, and today we're going to add more to that. But last time we talked about making a decision to be confident, reminding yourself of your accomplishments, and putting on your confidence armor. And so we're going to build on that today. All right. Why is confidence so important for us to be building? Well, research within performance psychology really shows that confident people work harder. They set more challenging goals and they persist towards their goals in a stronger degree. And so they're grittier and then they go after their goals kind of over the long term. And there's some research even within athletics that confident

people perform better than less confident people. And today we're really talking about how your confidence is shaped by your focus, how you think, and your beliefs and actions. So what is another way that we can help build our confidence? Well, I think one way we can build our confidence is making a decision to be fully prepared. And we actually know that preparation is the second most powerful source of confidence. And the cool thing is it's really fully under our control. And so we can deliberately put in the daily work. And then, you know, when it's time, kind of review the preparation that we have done so that we feel confident. So we can remind ourselves, for example, of the hours that

you've practiced or the extra work that you've put in or maybe the miles that you've put in to run your race. And what's a way that we can imagine success? Tell us about that. Well, imagining success, which you just kind of mentioned, Lisa, is another way to build confidence. And we talk a lot about imagery in my field of performance psychology, and that means where you imagine kind of past successes or future successes. And we know that confident people create the future in their mind and then they live it. And so one way we can improve our confidence is to really develop our own kind of highlight reel, whether we think about, you know, past successes in that highlight reel

or future performances where we want to do really well at and we want to rise to the occasion, that actually directly improves confidence. And tell us about another decision that we can make in order to be confident. One of the other decisions we can make is really being your own best friend. And what I mean by that is your self-talk has a direct impact on your confidence and your daily performance. And so kind of what you're saying to yourself about yourself and about your experiences. And it's likely, you know, just because we're human that we're telling ourselves the reasons we can't be successful. And so we want to instead notice that voice inside our head and be willing to change that.

And we want to think like our best friend would, right? What would our best friend tell us? And our best friend would likely tell us the reasons we can experience success and be successful. So a best friend wouldn't say, oh, I can't do that or I'm not going to be able to do that. I won't do that. That's not how you talk to yourself. Exactly. So being really mindful of that

and talking to yourself like a really good friend would. So what's the next way or the last way that we're going to talk about today in order to build confidence? Last way we can build confidence is really letting go of mistakes in the past. And I think this is powerful because, you know, your past has led you to where you are today. And I think everything has been perfect so far because it's led you to here. And so we can look back at our past or mistakes and we can feel regret or anger, or we can see these difficulties as an opportunity for us to get stronger and more confident. I like this quote by LeBron James, the NBA champion and, you know, NBA's most valuable player at least four times. And he said, I think the reason that I'm the person I am today is because of the tough times I went through when I was younger.

So just this idea that our past can actually help us build confidence and help us grow in it if we're thinking about it in a really powerful way. Sure. Cinder, what's your final point for today? My final point is confidence is really a choice that we make every day. And it's our belief and our trust and our ability and reminding ourselves that that really is a choice. So we can intentionally work to build our confidence and not let other people impact our confidence, but decide to take control of it ourselves.

What is the power phrase for this particular segment this week? Yes, it's I choose confidence. I choose to nurture my confidence to be my best for myself and my team. All right, nurture your confidence. And Sindra, if people are interested in following along with your work, or maybe grabbing a hold of one of your books, or any of your other teachings, where can we go? You can head over to Dr. Sindra, so drcindra.com. And what we talked about today is from my book, Beyond Grit, and you can find it over there, free shipping today.

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