High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 533: Quieting Your Inner Critic

Episode Date: February 8, 2023

Your inner critic is your disempowering inner voice that can sound scared, angry, or judgmental. We want to be aware of our inner critic to reduce it. We all have an inner critic inside of us. Remember our inner critic tends to lie to us. We want to respond to our inner critic by challenging it, and choose a more empowering and truthful statement to tell ourselves instead.  This Week's Power Phrase: “I talk to myself powerful instead of listening to my inner critic.”  This Week's Quote of the Week: “It is not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it is what you whisper to yourself that has the most power.” Robert Kiyosoki    

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. Time to check in with Cinder Kampoff. Today, we talk about quieting our inner critic. And Cinder,

this is a big one. You're going to start us off with a quote. I like this quote by Robert Kawasaki. He said, it's not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life. It is what you whisper to yourself that has the most power. What you whisper to yourself that has the most power. What inspired the topic today? Well, as an executive and performance coach, I work a lot with people one-on-one, and I hear all the ways that we get in our own way. And one way today we're going to talk about is through our own inner critic. So we can create these barriers without even realizing it. And our inner critic, we all each have one. It's just things like, you know, I'm such an idiot. I could have done better. We're very hard on ourselves.

And so will you tell us a little bit more about what you mean by that inner critic? I know that voice that we all hear. Exactly. Yeah. It's that disempowering inner voice that can be angry or judgmental, maybe even show up as a procrastinator. And when we believe our inner critic, which we all have, it impacts our self-confidence, our self-worth, which then leads to shame. And we don't connect with our own purpose when we believe it. And so, you know, as you're listening, just ask yourself, how does your inner critic show up? And it's likely that your inner critic shows up through your thoughts, your emotions, and your behaviors. And so it leads to us, you know, wanting to give up, maybe being afraid to fail, or, you know, not being open to taking chances.

So what's the first step that you would take to silence that? I think the first step is always awareness. Awareness of, you know, what your inner critic might say. And I think what's helpful to know is that all of our inner critic messages are actually just lies. And we want to really uncover those lies just by listening and paying attention and then asking ourselves really what the truth is. What's helpful to know is that our inner critic is just a habit. It's just been the way of us thinking for a while. And sometimes we believe those thoughts, you know, we think that we are those thoughts. For example, if think that we are those thoughts.

For example, if our inner critic says, like, I'm just an average student, you know, we believe that thought. And so what's helpful to know is that we can create a new message and we can transform and quiet that inner critic. So how do we go about transforming that inner critic? Well, think about it as, you know, our thoughts are just like habits. Think about it like plants, right? If you stop watering them, they don't grow. And so we want to stop watering them first and then work to create a more empowering belief and thought. And so just ask yourself, what do you really want to believe and believe? And what would be, you know, a new thought that's more realistic? A great place to start there would

be with an I am phrase and thinking and reminding yourself of all the ways that you are good enough. And so, you know, the key really is that we want to practice that new belief once we've decided that and that we take commitment and change, but it is something that we can all do. So what else do you suggest that we do when we experience that inner critic that pops up? I would say just be curious with it, you know, and asking yourself, when does your inner critic really go into overdrive and what triggers it? You know, what happens to your mind and your body when you feel that inner critic? And just know that you can challenge those messages to really

step into your best and telling yourself what the truth really is. So, Cinder, how would you summarize today for us? I would say, you know, your inner critic is your disempowering inner voice that can sound judgmental or scared, and we just want to be aware of that inner critic to reduce it. We all have it. And it tends to tell us lies, so we want to respond to it and challenge more of those beliefs with a more truthful statement about ourselves instead. What is the power phrase to it and challenge more of those beliefs with a more

truthful statement about ourselves instead. What is the power phrase that you're going to send us forward with? I like this one today, Lisa. I talk to myself powerfully instead of listening to my inner critic. I like that. Let's all practice that this week. If we want to check in with you, find out what you're doing, maybe check out one of your two books that you've written where do we go sure you can head over to dr cindra so d-r-c-i-n-d-r-a.com is from one of my books i have two books beyond britain beyond britain for business so you can check it out over there way to go for finishing another episode of the high performance mindset i'm giving you a virtual fist pump holy cow did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindra for show notes and to join my

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