High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 566: Choose Your Friends Wisely

Episode Date: September 21, 2023

In this episode, Cindra talks about how you can’t be exceptional on your own. You need support and a crew of like-minded superstars who believe in your vision and push you to be the very best version of yourself.  In this episode, we talk about how the world’s best know that their friends can either elevate their game, or not. Choose your friends wisely!   Power Phrase this Week: “I choose people to be around who bring me energy.”  Quote of the Week: “You are the average of five people you spend the most time with.” —Jim Rohn, author and motivational speaker 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Campoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. It's time to check in with Cinder Campoff. Today, we are talking a little bit about how to choose your friends wisely. Cinder, start us off with a quote. This is one of my favorite quotes by Jim Rowe. He said,

you're the average of five people that you spend the most time with. And do you have an example that we're going to start with today? I've heard that saying before, and I love it. The example I want to share is actually from a book called Rich Dad, Poor Dad. And the author Dai Kawasaki describes his experience having two dads. So his biological dad was stuck in kind of this middle class mindset with what he would describe as limiting viewpoints about money. He described this as his poor dad. And his poor dad had the habit of always saying like, I can't afford it. But his rich dad didn't allow those words and he would use instead, like, how can I afford it?

And Guy's rich dad was his best friend's dad, who's an entrepreneur, one of the wealthiest men in Hawaii. And so I think this is a great example of Robert just spending more time learning from his rich dad and his rich dad told him the importance of mindset and hard work. And this really set the foundation for Guy to write 18 books that have sold over 26 million copies, which is incredible. Wow, mindset. Now, how does this relate to the quote you started with? Well, I do love Jim Rohn's quote, you know, the average of the five people that you spend time with. And these words really just force us to think about who we're spending time with. You know, it helps us kind of reflect on how our friends or our family or our teammates might impact us.

And the idea is also supported by research. There's, you know, countless of studies that show the people that you choose to spend time with will either limit your future or expand it. But how does this relate to us? I think we probably underestimate kind of the importance of the company we keep. And when I discussed this topic with the people that I worked with, you know, they might be professional athletes or successful entrepreneurs. Just many people are really described and surprised how to learn when they learn how much time you spend talking to people and how that influences who you become.

And the reason is, you know, you conform to others around you. The values of others kind of influence your own values and the people around you can really elevate your game or bring it down. And if you just watch high performers, you'll notice that they really surround themselves with people that help them be great. They are optimistic and confident people who also design their future. Well, you always share with us the how of things. So what's the exercise that you want to share with us today about how? Well, we're going to talk about the five people exercise. That's what I call it. It helps you identify and helps you really think about who you're spending time with.

And you can do all three parts of this exercise or just one. Well, the first part is to consider, you know, the five people that you already spend time with and write that down. And then write down three qualities that stand out to you about each of those people. And just ask yourself, do these qualities help you get to where you want to go? And you can decide if you want to spend more time or less time with each person. The second step is to write down five attributes that you really need to embody to help you reach your goals and dreams. These could be the attributes that you already have,

but you want to fully develop them more, or they're attributes that you don't really have. And then you could think about friends, colleagues, teammates, you know, that have those qualities, and think about how can you spend more time with those people. The third step is you could write down five people who are not currently on your list, and that who could support you to get to where you want to go. And then think about how can you reach out to them. Maybe you want to email them or call them or message them on social media or approach them face-to-face. And it helps you think about and reflect on who are you spending time with and how can you elevate that.

Ascender, do you have a final point for us today? I think the final point is remember that you can't be exceptional on your own and you need support. You need a crew of like-minded people who believe in your vision and push you to be the very best, you know, version of yourself and, you know, we can't choose our family members, Lisa, especially in the end, so we can love them regardless of their energy, but you can choose your friends and you can, you know, really think about this exercise and, and, uh, how it helps

you see friends that you spend time with and how you can make your decisions around that. So the wolves best really know that their friends can either elevate their game or not. And so the message for today is choose your friends wisely. Choose your friends wisely. And what's the power phrase this week? I choose people to be around who bring me energy. I like that one. This is a great one, Cinder, to think about. And a lot of people will probably be making those lists. If they want to follow along with your work or get more information on what it is that you do, your teachings, what's the best place to visit?

The best place is to head over to DrCindra, so D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A dot com. And you can find more about my books and speaking and coaching over there. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump. Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindhra for show notes and to join my exclusive community for high performers

where you get access to videos about mindset each week. So again, you can head over to Dr. Sindhra. That's D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A dot com. See you next week.