High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 576: How to Respond Not React

Episode Date: November 2, 2023

When we decide to respond not react, we are less likely to have our buttons pressed. We take control over our self, creating choice. We are able to lead intentionally, and lead the hardest person to lead – ourselves. In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff shares the PCR Strategy from her new book, Beyond Grit for Business, to help us respond not react. Power Phrase this Week: “I choose to respond with purpose and intention.”  Quote of the Week: “When you react, you are giving away your power. When you respond, you are staying in control of yourself.” Bob Proctor 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. We're checking in with Cinder Kampoff this morning, and we're talking about how to respond

and not react. How to respond and not react. Cinder, start us off with a quote. This is a great quote by Bob Proctor. He said, when you react, you're giving away your power. When you respond, you're staying in control of yourself. So tell us a story to start us off today. Well, in the book, Man's Search for Meaning, an author named Viktor Frankl wrote about how he was at a concentration camp during the Holocaust and he lost his entire family. Yet he survived and developed this really powerful philosophy. And he said this in his book, between stimulus and response, there is space. And that

space is our freedom and power to choose our response. And our response lies our growth and freedom. And I think what the power of this quote is, is that in this space, that's really where we're able to choose our response. That's how we can grow, understand ourselves and really respond with purpose and intention. And why is responding and not reacting so important? Because we're less likely to get our buttons pushed. And responding allows us just to be more aware of our thoughts and our feelings and our actions in the moment. And we can really give ourselves control of our reactions and our response. And I think there's greater freedom and choice when we're just aware. And so again, we want to just choose our response instead of just reacting with heightened frustration or anxiety. And so how might we apply this to ourselves?

Well, I would encourage everyone to think about a reaction that you want to change within yourself. For example, maybe you'd be less likely to get frustrated and something is hard, or maybe you'd want to show more love with your family. And so just consider the ways that you see maybe your role models responding to adversity and challenge. And how would you like to respond in a more ideal version of yourself? For example, Lisa, I would like to just grow in my patience with my own family and continue to show them more love. That's the way I want to respond and not react. Yeah, I'm pretty much the same way there that and I think that goes everywhere though,

Sandra, like co-workers, people in life, just having a little bit more patience. Absolutely. People at the grocery store, traffic, all the ways that we can easily get frustrated. Absolutely. Do you have a strategy that can help us do that? I do. We have a three-step process that we're going to call Pause, Consider, Respond. And I wrote about it in my new book, Beyond Grit for Business. And so the idea is that when you respond, again, you can choose thoughtfulness. You're guided more by logic over emotion.

And you're just intentional with your intentions. All right. So can you talk us through a little bit of the pause, consider, respond strategy? Absolutely. So P stands for pause. And that means you should just take a moment to pause and take a breath. You know, this brings your energy to the front part of your brain and prevents an emotional reaction. C stands for consider. And this is where you just choose your focus and how you want to feel. You know, so you might ask yourself, how do I want to respond right now? You know, what personal

values do I want guiding me right now? And then R is respond. And this is the last choice where really you choose the response, not just the reaction. And, you know, with purpose and intention, how do you want to respond? And how do you want to steal in that response? And so you have the power to choose, which is powerful. And what's the final point for us that you have today? My final point would be when we increase that space, right, between stimulus and respond, we're less likely to get our buttons pushed and we can have control over ourselves, creating our choice. And we're able to lead really intentionally, which, you know, the hardest person to lead ourselves is us.

So, you know, as we, you know, just close, just encourage, I'm going to encourage you to ask yourself, you know, what pushes your button and how could you use the PCR strategy at work or at home? Absolutely. What is the power phrase that's going to help us this week? I choose to respond with purpose and intention. I like that one. Sindra, if people want to maybe get a copy of the book that you mentioned that you wrote that has this in it and go a little more in depth, where do we find you, follow you, get

the book? You bet. You can head over to Dr. Sindra. So D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A. And my two books are over there, Beyond Grit and Beyond Grit for Business. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. So D-R-C-I-N-D-R-A.com. See you next week.