High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 592: How to Talk More Powerfully to Yourself

Episode Date: January 10, 2024

Today we talk about the importance of talking to yourself powerful and Dr. Cindra shared several mental strategies to allow you to remain optimistic and see life with a clear lens. Channeling your inner coach allows you to see different solutions and opportunities than if were letting your inner critic run the show. The future of your career and life is directly tied to see an opportunity in the difficulty.  This Week’s Power Phrase: “I talk powerfully to myself each and every day.”  Quote of the Week: “Watch what you tell yourself, you’re likely to believe it.” — Russ Kyle 

Hi friends, my name is Dr. Sindra Kampoff, a national leader in the field of sport and performance psychology. Every week I'm on the local radio sharing my top tips on exactly how to develop the mindset of the world's best, so you can accomplish all your dreams. Get ready for a jammed, packed episode focused on practical tips to help you get after your goals and step out of your comfort zone. Let's go. It's time to check in with Cinder Kampoff. Get a little positivity going for your day. Cinder, we talk about how to talk more powerfully to yourself and start us off with one of your quotes. I like this one from Russ Kyle. He said, watch what you tell yourself. You're likely to believe

it. I use that a lot, or a version of what inspired the topic today? Well I was reading the study in the Journal of Organizational Behavior and the study found that the authors found that employees who receive mindset training like what we're talking about today experienced increased mental performance, self-efficacy or belief in self, enthusiasm, job satisfaction, optimism. And so the point of today is really that we need strategies in our mental toolbox to really combat stress and overwhelm that we can all experience every day. So we're talking about our own self-talk, the way we talk to ourselves, and what's so important to know about the thoughts that we have? Well, we've

developed our thought patterns early in our life. And so think about our negative inner critic. We're going to talk about it as today, you know, was developed to protect ourselves from harm. And by the time you're adults, you really don't need these same thought patterns in the same way. And many times, you know, they instead of protecting us from harm, they sabotage our success or limit our potential or lead to us playing small. So today what we're going to talk about is really being intentional about both thought patterns. And even though they might be habitual or automatic, we can retrain our mind to think more powerfully and to develop new neural pathways so that our thought patterns really change.

And so what is the first strategy that you would have us use to put in our mental toolbox? And why is this mental toolbox so important? Yeah, that's a great question, Lisa. I would say, you know, we all need strategies in our mental toolbox to really combat this inner critic. And we want to channel our inner coach instead. And what a mental toolbox can do is just help us develop multiple tools so that when we're struggling, we have, you know, different tools that we can use to really help us be our best more often. And the first one we're going to talk about today is just this idea of reframing.

And reframing means reframing stressful events as learning opportunities. You know, we all know that negative events and obstacles, we experience them every day, right? But they can really be ways that we can learn about ourselves and what's important to us, and even our desire to reach our goals. And so the first tool we can put in our toolkit is reframing, which just means that when we're experiencing a difficulty or setback, we ask ourselves, what's the opportunity? Okay, what's the opportunity here? And then what's the second strategy that we can use? A second strategy would just be to be mindful of what are triggering our negative emotions or thoughts. And, you know, the first step, even before we reframe, is just to notice our thoughts and feelings more from an observer perspective. And this just allows us to

see what's really going on with us and ask ourselves, you know, really what's activating my negativity or my frustration or my anger. And awareness is always the first step in really thinking more powerfully about yourself. So what's the last tool that we will put in our mental toolkit today? Well, this one's my favorite. And, you know, we do need awareness of our thoughts and our emotions. But this one is called the truth meter and I wrote about it in my new book beyond grit for business and it involves just asking ourselves three questions when we notice a limiting thought the first question

is this thought true and what it allows us to do is just take a step back and say you know really is this thought true or not the second thought second thought or the second question we ask ourselves on that thought is, is this thought serving me? And by serving me just means like, is it really helping me? Is it helping me step into my best? And the last one is, what's a more empowering thought that I could choose right now? And when I do this with my clients, usually they say, you know, the answers to question one and two are no, you know, that's not true, it's not serving me. And this is really allows us to take a step back and also use reframing and be aware. And just choose it, you know, it's likely that you can always choose a more empowering thought when you're stuck.

Cinder, how would you summarize today for us? Well, I'd say these mental strategies allow you to just remain optimistic and see life with more of a clear lens. And today we've been talking about channeling our inner coach, right? That coach we have inside of us to allow ourselves to see a different perspective and solution and opportunity instead of just letting our inner critic run the show. And so I think, you know, the future of your career and your life is directly tied to seeing an opportunity in the difficulty. And this is a few of the tools that can help you do so. And what is our power phrase today? I talk to myself powerfully each and every day. Now, Cinder, if people want to learn more about this or anything else that we talk about

during our time together, what's the best place for them to go? You can head over to Dr. Sindra, so drcindra.com, and you can find out more information about our speaking and coaching and the Beyond Grip books over there. Way to go for finishing another episode of the High Performance Mindset. I'm giving you a virtual fist pump. Holy cow, did that go by way too fast for anyone else? If you want more, remember to subscribe and you can head over to Dr. Sindra for show notes and to join my exclusive community for high performers where you get access to videos about mindset each week.

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