High Performance Mindset | Learn from World-Class Leaders, Consultants, Athletes & Coaches about Mindset - 77: Be Careful with the Company You Keep

Episode Date: November 4, 2016

High performers surround themselves with people that help them be great. They know that attitude and energy is contiguous. They surround themselves with the right people who support and encourage their vision. Because the people around you can either elevate your game or bring you down. Affirmation this Week: I choose carefully the people I spend time with. I surround myself with optimistic, confident people that are jazzed about their future. I choose people who elevate my game and life.

Welcome to High Performance Mindset with Dr. Sindra Kampoff. Do you want to reach your full potential, live a life of passion, go after your dreams? Each week we bring you strategies and interviews to help you ignite your mindset. Let's bring on Sindra. And today we're talking about being careful. This is going to get... I know you brought up the topic and all three of us in here laughed because we're together like all the time. This is going to be a sketchy conversation.

Be careful with the company you keep. We can't help it. We're stuck in here. We have to be here. So you have a story to start us off with. I do. In his book, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Guy Kawasaki describes his experience having two dads. So his biological government employee dad was how he described kind of stuck in the middle class mindset with limiting beliefs and viewpoints about money. And he called this his poor dad.

His poor dad had a habit of saying, like, I can't afford it. Where his rich dad forbid those words and insisted always on saying, how can I afford it? So Guy's rich dad was his best friend's entrepreneurial dad, who was one of the wealthiest men in Hawaii. And so that's where Guy grew up. And so he chose to spend his time with his rich dad so he could learn from him. And sure enough, his rich dad taught him about the importance of mindset that leads to wealth, taught him just the importance of hard work, committing to your goals. And he also taught him just over the course of growing up, the importance of investing.

So spending time with his rich dad eventually led him to his success as an investor and a businessman. And now he has written 18 books, sold over 26 million copies. Wow. Wow. That's a good story. So there's usually a quote that goes along with this, too. Something that can kind of help point us in the right direction. Quick, easy to remember. Yeah, this is one of my favorite quotes. And it's a Jim Rohn quote.

He says, you're the average of five people you spend the most time with. I knew that was going to come up. I knew that was going to come up. And, you know, I think this example of Guy Kawasaki is just how he decided to spend his time, right? He obviously spent time with his biological dad, but he spent also a lot of time with somebody who could help him kind of grow and learn and improve. And I think what I like about this quote is it catches your attention, but it also kind of forces you to really think about who you spend time with and to reflect on your friends and your colleagues and how your teammates, maybe even your family members, impact you.

And why this is important is because research shows that people you spend time with can either limit your future or expand your future. Okay. So I can imagine there's several reasons why this is important. And a lot of people are doing some inventory of the top five right now. Who do I need to call from my file here? The number two pencil eraser today and start filling in some new blanks perhaps. But this is important.

Why? Yeah, it is important because i think we tend to underestimate the importance of the company that we keep and when i share this the quick research that i shared with you or this quote with some of my clients you know who are some pro athletes or successful entrepreneurs many of them are surprised but you know it's really true that the people that you spend time with influence is the person that you become you conform to the others around you and the values of others influence your values. So the people around you can either elevate your game or bring you down. Okay. So you work with a lot of really successful people, like you said, the pro athletes and successful entrepreneurs. How do you see this affecting? How do you see this in them? Yeah. I think if you watch any successful person, however you define success,

you're going to notice that they are surrounding themselves with people that help them be great. And so they're hanging around with people who are optimistic and confident, who talk about projects they have going on or opportunities in the future. And they talk about it like it's already happened. And so they don't blame others or kind of get stuck in kind of what we've described on the radio or the podcast about having a victim mindset. So is this kind of like hanging out with people with a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset? That would be awesome if you did that more often. All of us did that more often.

You've got kind of an exercise for us to think about. I do. I call it the five people exercise. Okay. Okay. So the first thing that I want you to do is just think about two or three goals that you have for maybe the upcoming year or two. Okay. Two or three goals and think about what are some attributes that you need to reach those goals. And then I'd encourage you to write down five people, or maybe it's organizations or groups that you could get involved in, but five people or organizations that could help you get there. And think about how they might support you in doing that. How are those five people going to

really help you? Maybe there's something you can learn from them. And then write down how you plan to reach out to them. So maybe that's an email or a phone call or a text message or, gosh, reaching out to them on social media. And I've done this several times just to kind of think about where I'm going and do I have the right people around me, right? So I'll give you an example of how I did this. Two of my goals are I want to do more public speaking. I love it, especially if it's in the right audience. You know, man, it just, like like energizes my soul. So, okay. And then another goal is, you know, the book I have coming out, obviously you want to get that out there, but I have a goal of writing a few more.

Okay. So the things that I need are, I need a little bit more understanding of the mechanics of public speaking. And I also need to make sure I keep my knowledge in the field and performance psychology cutting edge. Okay, so two people I'm going to reach out to are my friend Angie, and I'm going to see if I can connect with her maybe every other week for a phone call, make sure that you know, we're sharing ideas. But I'm going to connect with my my friend Russ, who is the kind of public speaker that I want to become. I'm gonna see if I can take him out for lunch cool okay okay so that's kind of what I'm saying is like think about the five people that you could spend your you know that really could help you elevate your game help you reach your goals and dreams and think about you know how could they help you do that

how do we put a bow on this then how do we summarize this whole conversation today because I like the topic it's a real good idea uh even listening to your podcast as I at the front end, there's a lot of people that I noticed that you interview that are in the same field that have their own coaches, their own little group of people. I was just listening to one where the guy gets together with like five of his buddies once a year and they spend like four, five days just talking about each other and where they're going in the direction of their careers and it helps keep them on track. I thought, man, that is really a real smart kind of retreat idea. Yeah. So how do we summarize this whole thing with the five people we hang out with the most

and hanging out really with the right people? It's funny that even when we were a kid, our parents worried about us hanging out with the right people. And as an adult, nobody pays attention to whether or not we're hanging out with the right people. Yeah, absolutely. Not that the people we're hanging out with are bad people, but they might not be getting us in the direction we want to go. Exactly.

And this applies to us no matter how old we are. So how do you summarize today? Okay, so I'd say high performers are those who are looking to reach their greater potential. They surround themselves with people that help them be great, and they know that attitude and energy is contagious. So they surround themselves with the right people who support and encourage their vision

because the people around you can either elevate your game or bring you down. All right. And I saw the affirmation on Twitter. The affirmation for this week is? I choose carefully the people I spend time with. I surround myself with optimistic, confident people that are jazzed about their future. And I choose to elevate my game. Awesome.

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and you can get it if you have an iPhone you can get it on your podcast app but I definitely encourage you to check out Jonathan Ziertz it's excellent so good it's very powerful stuff too and just the kind of mindset you want to have for everything let alone going through the battle of cancer so that's a good

one look Cindra, up on iTunes. Get the podcast going. DrCindra.com. Thank you very much, Cindra. Thanks for having me. And a happy Halloween to you. We'll see you again in a week. Cindra Kemp off with us today.

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