Just As Well, The Women's Health Podcast - Jessie J on Breast Cancer, ADHD, and the Fight to Stay Here
Episode Date: December 30, 2025Jessie J joins Gemma Atkinson and Claire Sanderson on Just As Well for a raw, funny, and deeply moving conversation about the year that changed everything. In this episode, Jessie opens up about he...r 2025 breast cancer diagnosis — from finding the lump and getting the call, to surgery, recovery, and what it means to keep showing up while raising her son. She also reflects on early fame, lifelong health challenges, grief, and her adult diagnosis of ADHD and OCD, sharing the coping tools that help her stay grounded when life gets loud. Honest, unfiltered, and full of Jessie’s trademark humour, this is a powerful story about resilience, perspective, and choosing to live — out loud.If you’ve been affected by anything discussed in this episode, please consider reaching out to someone you trust or a professional support service in your country. Hosts: https://www.instagram.com/glouiseatkinson/ https://www.instagram.com/clairesanderson/ Wellness video producer: https://www.instagram.com/chelia.batkin/ #JessieJ #JustAsWell #Podcast #BreastCancer #WomensHealth #ADHD #MentalHealth #Motherhood Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Hello and welcome to another episode of Jess as well. I'm Claire Sanderson. I don't have Gemma with me today in the studio, but I do have a really, really great episode for you to enjoy. I met Jesse Jay, globally recognised star Jesse Jay. It was a funny, moving, entertaining, interesting, all of the above episode. Jesse has had a really tough year in 2025 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. We discussed. We discussed.
how she coped in those first few frightening days and weeks
and what she's doing now to help herself recover physically and emotionally.
She told me about her early career when she was at the Brits School
right up until now where she's launching her new album
and she's a mum and all the challenges that that brings.
We're teared up in the studio.
She sang for me.
It's a really, really lovely episode and I hope you enjoy.
She's one of the most distinctive voices of her generation, a global hitmaker,
whose songs have top charts in 20 countries from Do It Like a Dude, Price Tag and Bang Bang and Domino.
But behind the superstardom is a woman who has lived through dizzy and success, industry pressure, personal loss,
and most recently, a breast cancer diagnosis.
2025 was supposed to be Jessie's big musical return.
Instead, it became the year she confronted the most intense challenge of her life.
all while raising her son, rebuilding her health and redefining what it means to heal publicly.
Jessie J joins us here in London today to talk about her journey so far.
The highs, the heartbreaks, the hopes and what comes next?
Oh, that was lovely.
Oh, well.
The first few lines I was looking around to see if it was.
I thought it this can't be very.
But yes, that was lovely.
And thank you so much for coming in to see us today.
Thanks for having me.
Hot off the heels off your woman's health cover.
So we've seen it and I haven't.
Yeah, I have. It's a goodie.
You like it?
I do like it.
It's one of my favourite shoots, I think.
It's so cool.
Yeah, because it's so cool.
But so you, I thought, as well.
I love the location and the vibe.
And it's an honour that you chose to speak to women's health
because you really have been through such a tough year this year with your cancer diagnosis.
And we will come on to that, but let's not start there.
I want to take you right back to the Brits School.
You're at the Brits School.
with Adele because I was I with respect I feel like you've been around a long time
oh for sure yeah yeah you and but you were famous really quite young so take us back to those
very early days when you're at the Brits school with Adele in a in you got your first record deal
there what was it like well I wasn't when I say at Brits school with Adel I wasn't like me
and Adele weren't like best mates or in the same class we basically would like we probably
sang together twice about 10 minutes on two occasion over like two years it wasn't like we
her best friend.
Obviously, she's just become hugely massively successful.
And I got nominated for a Brit Award 15 years ago.
But I loved the Brit school.
It was such a, like, it was just a really unique time to discover who I was as an artist.
And obviously, I went there from the age of 16 to 18.
While I was there, I auditioned for the girl band that inevitably a few years later got me
my first ever record deal, kind of with the jumping pads.
but like it was just I did musical theatre
I wasn't in music
Adele was in music
and I just loved it
but yeah I was so young
because you were actually on the West End stage
much younger
yeah so my first every professional job
was I was think I was eight or nine
and I did inherit the wind with Larry Lamb
at the King's Head
theatre in Islington
and then my first big big
role was playing brat in Whistle Down the Wind
that Angelaudweber show at the Aldrich Theatre in Holborn
and I did that for two years
goodness me and how old are you then
from 9 to 11
9 to 11 yeah is that every night
no no no they have three teams
yeah so they alternate because obviously
you can't do that much work when you're that young
so I would go and do like Thursday Friday
and then have Saturday Sunday and then some weeks I'd do more
and then less it was I can't remember
but the first time round I was in purple team I think
and the second time I was in chickpea
so funny isn't I remember
there was like the three groups it was like green blue
and purple and the second time I did it was like chickpea lentil
and like, I don't know, green bean.
I can't even remember, but I was a chickpea.
I get why they called them colours.
I don't get why they called them grey.
I think they just ran out of like,
and then people would get offended if they were reused.
So I think they just had to come up with different names.
But it was the best time ever.
I made some of my closest friends there.
So you knew from a really young age, this is what you wanted to do.
Oh, yeah.
I love to sing.
I love to dance.
I love to make up shows.
You know, you put like the name tags on the sofa.
Like, everyone sit down.
Me and my sisters were like,
like put on shows.
I just,
I loved making people feel happy.
It's one of the clearest memories I have of being a kid.
I just loved making people laugh,
making people cry,
but like through something entertaining.
Like I really remember that vividly.
But do you come from a stage school family then?
Or you're the only performer?
No, not necessarily.
Both my sisters did drama.
Yeah.
They wanted to be actresses.
And they both did like uni.
They did acting and like English.
but my mum was a nursery nurse
and my dad's a mentor of social worker
so he's my dad's definitely the more
extrovert of the family
like he's very funny and like
very much uses comedy in his therapy
but we're a very loud
like comical family
but I wouldn't say that anyone else
wanted to sing
my granddad well my dad's dad was a professional
jazz drummer so we had like music and
like entertainment like in the energy of our family
but we're not a stage family now.
So Do It Like a Dude was your first big hit.
Was it your debut hit or your first big hit?
Yeah, so it was the first, no,
I actually think Casualty of Love was the first song ever released,
but that was in the US.
But Do It Like A Do It was the first global single.
Yeah.
And that was the first digital release ever.
Isn't that mad?
So I was like the little digital guinea pig.
You were the first digital release artist ever?
Yeah, I don't know if it's worldwide or UK.
It might have been worldwide.
Don't fact check, maybe fact check that.
But yeah, it was.
like one of the first ones
especially in the UK
and yeah
like a dude was the one
obviously I'd put loads of stuff on YouTube
and big people had heard
Mama knows best and Big White Room and Rainbow
and all those songs that actually ended up
being on my album but yeah
that was the first song
So when was that what year was that? Oh we put that in 2010
So how did it feel to go from being
relatively unknown to one of the biggest
female pop stars in the UK
It was an experience that you can never prepare for
and honestly recently having a baby
I said to my mum it reminds me of that feeling
of like something completely new
that you can kind of read about
like I would read about other people
like becoming famous whatever
but until you experience it
it's so unique to you
even though other people have gone through it
so I remember just I remember
very clearly when Price Tay came out
and obviously that was the song that just went
everywhere. And I remember
coming out of my house and I was on
the billboard next to my house.
I got in the car and I was on the video on the
back of the screen. I was on the front of the
newspaper. I was it and I was just
like oh my gosh
like I'm never going to be able to like
do the things that I did
that got me to be the person I am now
so that was when I had a bit
of a freak out but I loved it
but like being chased by paparacta it's not really a thing
anymore but back then it was
that was mental. But I also love
it. I loved
connecting with people as I do now
but yeah going from
being like I remember
walking around Westfield and me
my friends would be like let's
count how many people we think will recognise
you and it went from like three people
to like a hundred people in a matter of weeks
and how did the novelty
were off quite quickly or did you
I've always been quite grounded
so I feel like I've always kind of tried to like
my anxiety like
as in my personality, and obviously I was not long ago
diagnosed ADHD, I definitely think that that kind of spiraled,
but I definitely tried to constantly communicate with myself,
the people around me, to make sure that I could consistently live
somewhat of a normal life, even though other people treated me so differently.
That's the key.
Because you mentioned you compared it to the feeling of when you had your baby
and it's the unknown.
I do remember myself when I was pregnant with my eldest
at about eight months pregnant
thinking what have I done?
My life is never going to be the same again.
You don't understand like how it is.
I remember when I first gave birth
I just went this is like relentless magic
because it's like as much as it's everyone wants a good thing
and everyone like wants to eat a bit of cake
but it's like you don't want to eat cake 24 hours a day
and that's kind of what having a baby is
It's like this beautiful thing that you love,
but you're like, can I just have a glass of war and a break?
Yeah.
You know, and it's that feeling of going,
it's the most incredible thing.
I remember someone said to me, like, what's it like having a baby?
And I was like, honestly, it's the most incredible thing,
but you've got a sore throat.
You know, like, when you're having the best day of your life,
but you've got a sore throat.
It's amazing, but you're just a bit like, can I just sit down?
And unless you experience that,
I do think it's really hard to, like, understand, like, that direct feeling.
Yeah, the reality of your life.
If I take you back to price tag, that was number one in numerous countries.
Yeah, loads of places.
Yeah.
20-odd countries.
Oh, I don't ever remember things like that.
It's a bit cringe to me.
Not that you can know, but I just, I don't ever hold on stuff like that.
But I know it went number one in a lot of places.
Where was the most random?
Who knows?
I remember just being like, I mean, at the time I was like, I didn't even know half the countries existed.
You know, I was just like, where's that and where's that?
And it's number one there and number one here and da-da-da.
I remember just being so proud, though, like, thinking, like, places like Taiwan that I'd only ever, like, seen on TV.
And I didn't even think that I'd ever visit there.
It was number one there.
And I was just like, that's so cool.
Because you wrote it?
I was 21, yeah.
I did with Claude Kelly and Dr. Luke.
So it really is the product of your mind.
I mean, I've pretty much written everything apart from Bang Bang Masterpiece.
That third album I didn't write much of, but everything else.
Like the Rose album, this most recent, the first one, alive.
that that's all me.
And where did that school come from?
Is there something you learned at the British school
or were you writing songs when you...
I always loved writing poems.
When I was younger, like everyone else
would be playing like Tamagocchi's
and conquers and marbles and like Furbys
and I was in the back like, what is beautiful?
Why is there war?
Like I was that kid.
Like the emo kid in the back, you know?
I was a bit of a tomboy.
Yeah.
Didn't really know where to fit in.
I was always ill.
I think it's really changed.
You know, I was just always in the back
writing poems and I think those just
when I discovered I could sing when I was about 10
I was like I'm going to start writing songs
and I wrote this song on the piano
I can't remember that goes now
I notice it's not always best
I'm just not so happy
I just need a rest
you may not understand
why I am leaving
but I will understand why you're not grieving
I wrote that when I was 10 about leaving my dance school
how intense is that
I was quite deep for, yeah, my daughter's 10.
I can't imagine that.
No, yeah, I was a bit, I was, I was, I was the class clown,
but I was a big empath and that is literally me now.
Like, I am so down for a deep, meaningful, really serious,
connected conversation, but, like, take me to a comedy club any day.
So you've got this sort of contradiction in your personality?
That is my dad.
That's how we were all raised.
So you mentioned that you're always ill when you were a child.
You have had serious major health challenges,
intertwined with the success, which makes it all the more remarkable, in my opinion.
So you may can explain what some of these are, Wolf Parkinson White Syndrome.
So my dad and my granddad both have it.
And when I was nine, we were in Epping Forest.
And my dad said, right, everyone raced to the car.
And we all started running.
And I just went, and I couldn't breathe.
I literally felt like my heart stopped.
And I went, my dad and my sisters both said I went completely white, white and pale, even more white than I am now.
I believe that.
Florescent beige.
And I just fell to the floor and I had a seizure and I was taken into hospital.
And that's when it all started when I was nine of like the ablation.
I was in and out of Great Woman Street a lot.
I'd have like heart monitors attached to my chest for weeks on end.
I'd be in and out of hospital with like an IV drip and then I'd go into rehearsals for playing blousey and buggsy Malone.
But it was my normal.
I think that for some reason I do feel that people think that people that are successful and famous that don't have stuff like that.
It's almost that makes it more like, can you believe it?
And I think that's why even most recently getting diagnosed of breast cancer,
like it didn't scare me.
And also I am used to facing like difficult health challenges alongside living
what is a very unnormal, incredible, blessed life.
So, but yeah, I got diagnosed with morphed Parkinson's white and I was nine.
Oh my goodness me.
And then I had a stroke when I was 17.
but I never get like diarrhea
It's major
No it's always like
How can I get attention this week
No I remember I had a minor stroke
When I was working in Hamleys
I did nail jazz
So if you ever need a snowman or leopard print
On your pinky girl I am the person to call
Oh so you weren't one of the ones
You stand up the front door of Hamleys
No doing like the magic drawing board
That's how my sister and her husband met
When she was 19 and they're still married now
Isn't that quite cool
So I was working in Hamleys
And I was like something felt weird
and I got pins and needles on my hand and yeah and my face dropped and I went to the
I got all the way home on the train I don't know how I did but I did and I went to the doctor
and she said I think you've had a minor stroke I'm going to call an ambulance and I was in
hospitals for weeks and I was in a girl band at the time and then I got my first record deal
a year later you know and then I started writing songs and then I flew to America and I kind
of had a good stint for a while and then I got diagnosed of endometriosis and adanamosis
And I went through the whole fertility, being told I needed a hysterectomy.
That was when I was 26 or 25.
Many ears disease?
Mine ears.
That was 2021 or 2020.
So Meneas is where salt builds up in your ear.
Tank also has Meneer's disease.
And so I have to have a low salt diet now.
And I've lost 25% in my hearing in this ear.
So, yeah, it was awful.
That was at Christmas.
And it was the most trippy thing because it gives you severe vertigo.
so I get really bad vertical on airplanes.
Goodness.
So if anyone ever sees me on a flight
and I've got a blanket over my head,
it's not because I'm rude.
It's because I'm terrified.
I don't want to have a panic attack.
It's a credit to your appearance
for not wrapping you up in cotton wool
when you were young and a teenager
going through these really serious health challenges
allowing you to go off and live your dreams.
Honestly, I talk about it to my mum all the time.
So I had a health scare with Sky when I was pregnant.
So in America they do this like gene test with bloods
when you, obviously, it's all private health care there.
And so I lived there when I was pregnant for the first five months,
and it was 800 genes they checked for,
and albeit, even though we do have a lot of other things in common,
me and my partner, I had the same gene.
So we were told that my son could possibly have this gene,
which was actually really severe,
and that he would be severely disabled,
he may not live that long.
It turned out that it wasn't that gene in the end,
but we went through this big ordeal and had to go and do,
I can't remember what it's called now,
but they put a needle into the...
Amnacetosis.
Yeah, so it was.
We were going to do that.
And I phoned my mum and I just said, I know that I don't,
because some people were saying that we should have bought,
and this was about 10 weeks.
I've never spoken about this.
And it wasn't that big a deal at the time,
but in the sense of I never thought I would never do that.
And I spoke to my mum and she said,
if someone sent me a list of all the things that you've had,
never in my wildest dreams would I think that you would have achieved what you had.
No.
If someone said to me, you're going to have a baby that has a heart disease, a stroke
by 17, Meneas disease, endometriosis, adenamiosis, gets breast cancer.
She's like, I would never have gone, I would have probably have gone, should I put this child
through this life?
And she was like, you're the most joyful person throughout all of it.
And I would never have it any other way.
And I was like, oh my goodness me.
And even though I knew I was never, it wasn't even in question.
I was never, I would have had that, I was going to have Sky or whatever.
and obviously he's perfect.
But that just put everything in perspective to me.
It's like, you just never know, do you?
You just never know.
I feel quite emotional listening to that.
Your mother's incredible, isn't she?
And you know what I say all the time?
Like, I truly believe that all this health,
I get upset and emotional about it now
because I'm like, I relive what I went through as a child
with my mum sitting next to my bed.
And I would always be like, she's still here.
I'd wake up after having like a seizure
with my heart disease
because I was on very strong medication
that used to make me pass out
and have seizures and it was just
and I ended up coming off of all of it
because of the side effects
and she'd be in the chair asleep
and I'd be like mom
go home and she'd be like
I'm not leaving you
and now I'm like oh my goodness
I can't even imagine if that was sky
so like I relive all of it now
and I'm just like oh she's the best
and even now the day I got diagnosed of breast cancer
my mom moved into my house
yeah your
it's clear where your resilience comes from yeah my parents are another level they've been
married for 46 years I get upset um they're just like best friends they just like they just enjoy
life like my dad's been sick my mum's been sick like we've just but they just show up they're just
and their communication and humor and like Essex man you know what I mean it's all in there
I'm just so grateful like they're always looking on the
silver lining. So that's how me and my sisters are. Because your mum's very hands-on with
Sky, your stand as well, isn't it? Well, it's just me and my partner and my mum. We don't have
a nanny or any extra kind of additional help beyond that, but my mum doesn't live with us or
she pops down every now and again, like she's with us now because I'm busy. But usually it's just
me and my partner, but she's just the best. And she was a nursery nurse for many, many years. So
she's like, oh, I just made some Play-Doh. And I'm like, sure. Like, she's like, he wanted to
make biscuits so I made him some sweet potato
rosemary biscuits and I'm like
okay like she's I'm like
has Santa Claus called you yet to come back
like she's literally Mrs Claus
she's the best man like
my mum's the quiet little my dad's the Labrador
my mom's the black cat
but my mum's the most sweetest like
you'll be like oh I really fancy like a
I don't know I'm really craving
a jacky potato and I'll get home from work
and I smell jacked potatoes
goodness she's just that
she's just so so thoughtful
and kind.
Do you rent her out?
No, honestly, everyone that I know
that, like, maybe doesn't have the best relationship
with their mom or whatever,
like, everyone calls her mom that's, like, close to her.
She's just, like, the baby whisperer.
She's just the sweetish.
She's just like a little, she's just, I love her so much.
My mom's no longer with us and listening to that.
Yeah, she passed away last year with Alzheimer's.
And she was, when she was ill,
because the final few years were quite awful with Alzheimer's.
But for she to,
who was so hands-on with the grandkids and so cherish your mum.
Oh, I do. Trust me, I do. And time is precious.
Time is so precious, man. And I really don't take it for granted. It's one of the things
that I'm actually probably the most anxious about. And I remember me and my mum, crazy, we had a
conversation in my kitchen. We talk about it all the time. And I said to her, we're so lucky
as a family. We've had no cancer in the family. And she was like, you know, it's one in two
people now. And she went, so either I've got it or you've got it. And I found my lump the
next day. Isn't that crazy
and she got so upset she said
I wish it was me. It shouldn't be
you and I was like mum
I can get through this
I'm glad it's not you like you're nearly 70
let's... If anyone can
you bloody can I mean no who knew I didn't know
if I was going to but I won't go down without some
laughs and some fun
but we had Leanne Haynesby from Peloton
on this podcast and she had breast cancer
and she said that when she went for her initial
appointment the cancer nurse took her took her to one side and said this is a mental game she said yes
the doctors can do physically what they can to help you through this but you need to get your
mental game no it is definitely a mental game and also because you can't I'm a control freak right
I don't deny it and when you like if something's going wrong at work I can fix it if a light bulb
needs changing I can do it if dinner needs making in five minutes I'm there but when you've got
something in your body that could be eat like literally eating you alive and you can't
do anything about it and you have to go to someone else that you've just met at speed and
go can you try and get this out my body and they just put you just like that's the bit that
you're just like oh my god but like a trust needed there and oh my good but honestly also like
like I had to laugh I have to laugh and I'm that person that will try and make light of the
darkest situations and I never forget my mammogram honestly because I've got tiny like little
sandbag boobs especially after sky and she was like can you put it in the machine and I was like
girl she was like just a bit more
I've got nothing else
yeah because they literally just
sound like just like that yeah
it was like a yogurt covered apricot
being shut in a fridge door
and she was like a bit more and I was like
I literally and we were crying laughing
I was actually holding onto the machine
like this and she was like hold still and I was like
girl this boom is about to slip out
but I just had to laugh you know
and also like believe that
I do believe that if you believe
that it's going to go bad
your body will create
more negativity inside of it
So if it was going to go bad, I was going to be positive about that.
And if it wasn't going to be bad, I was going to be positive about that.
I just wanted to be positive.
Take me to the moment where you found the lump.
Were you checking yourself?
Or did you literally just brush and thought there's something there?
No. And it's now I was actually talking to some girls in my team about it earlier
that I feel like I had some changes on my nipple.
And I'd actually shown it to my GP.
And she's like, no, it looks fine.
And it was fine.
It wasn't that bad.
But I remember it always, it was quite itchy.
And again, you don't know if that's like,
I'd just been on holiday and I was like, did I get sunburn or whatever?
But no, I was asleep with my hand like this and I was asleep like this.
And I woke up and I was like, what's that?
Because I've got very small boobs.
So I was like, what's that?
And I was feeling it.
And I woke up my partner and I said, I've just found this lump.
And it was literally, I want to say, it was like the 17th of March or like mid-March.
And I was just like...
Was it hard?
It was hard and it was probably about that big.
So it wasn't...
Depends piece.
Yeah, and I was just like, oh, okay, let me go and have a letter.
And he said, go and see someone, but I just moved back to England after 10 years in L.A.
So I just hadn't built, like I've got my GP here that I've had for years, but I haven't,
and I literally just went online and went boob doctor on Harley Street just to get an appointment quickly.
Managed to get an appointment for the Monday, that was the Friday.
Went to see somebody and like, obviously they were like, we can feel the lump, but we can't see it in an ultrasound and everything looks,
normal and I was like okay well
what do I do now and they're like
well we'll send you for a mammogram and I said yeah my
I've got pins and needles in my hand when I wake up every day
like my chest I always had to do this
because it was achy and again that might not have nothing to do
of it and they're like well we can do a biopsy if you want to
and I was just like I just feel like I should
and I am someone that has to act
on my instinct because I've got this weird
energy thing where it's like if I think it or feel it
it's quite likely to happen and I just knew I'm terrified of needles and I will avoid anything to like not have to do stuff but I was like no I think I need to do a biopsy and they were like okay well we can put you one in but it will be fine there won't be anything there so then they send me for the um biopsy and that came in on the 28 so it was the day after my birthday so I turned 37 on the 27th the next morning I went and had it done and I documented it I've actually got loads of videos that I want to put together and put out so I think it would just be interesting for people that
to see. So I went and had, I think it was, they did two or three biopsies and obviously it's
quite a big needle and they numb the area, they put it in and they kind of snatch a bit of
skin. And then she said to me, if it's not good news, I'll phone you on Monday and that was on
the Friday. And she texts me saying, can I zoom with you at 6pm? This was at half four and I was
like, yeah, yeah, thinking it won't be anything because she's not going to tell me on Zoom. Yeah, and she said,
I'm really sorry, but you've got breast cancer. Yeah. What was, we got? We got.
It was from your mind in that moment.
Well, the first thing I thought, I literally phoned my mum and I went,
okay, well, I'm really busy.
And when you're in work mode as well, like Jessie J,
I'd switched back on from being in pyjamas for a long time with my son.
And I was just in a bit like stealth mode.
And I was like, right, okay, life, this is our next thing.
And I said to my mom, I cannot die because Sky needs me.
That's not an option.
So let's do this.
Like, that was literally how I kind of took it on.
And obviously I was upset and I cried and I had a nerve.
normal human reaction but I was laughing either I've filmed the face times you can't hear him but
I can see myself laughing and my mum just going on for God's sake really making a joke but I was like
that's how I get through it um and I meant the only thing that I remember that was difficult
mentally as well is that you don't know how bad it is and then you learn all this stuff about how
many breast cancer types there are and you have to do the genetic testing and this and whether
I needed a double mastectomy or just one and then I went for the mammogram after my biopsy
had told me that I had cancer and that was clear.
So if I'd have gone for the mammogram, who knows?
So it would have been in you.
If you hadn't then insist on a lot of an opposite.
If they would have just said, actually no, it's all clear.
And then I went for an MRI.
Yeah.
And that was, I mean, anyone that's had a breast MRI, I don't know if you've had one.
But you lay on your front with your arms up and you have to be really still.
And you put your boobs into like a little hole and they inject you have died.
Your boobs are hanging down.
I mean, mine weren't really.
Let's be honest.
Mine would be swinging.
Mine would not swinging at all.
They barely reached the bucket, really, at this point.
Yeah, I say a bucket.
It was more like a, I don't know, like a Wagamama's edamame pot.
Random.
And so, yeah, I picked Bob Marley to play while I was doing that.
That was a mistake.
Bob Marley and the sort of sound of an MRI are not mates.
And I didn't know which one to tap into.
It was like, nah, yeah, yeah.
Like, everything's going to be all right.
And I was like, no, no.
um so then when they did that my MRI showed that i had cancer at the bottom yeah the side and the top
so i then decided to change doctors because i then had done my research and was like okay
this is a real thing and i'd just gone to the first person i googled so then i kind of did
my rounds of going who's the best doctor found my doctor and then he wanted to rerun some of the
test to make sure that the cancer the DCIS that they'd found at the bottom was the same at the side
and and the top because this if this was invasive then it was a whole different
thing I would have needed chemo so that was literally I had that those biopsies done the day the
night before I did like my Ronnie Scott's social what's it called um industry event so it was like
obviously knowing I had cancer not knowing how bad it was whilst trying to relaunch my career
I mean it was a lot but also kind of just like it made me actually like can I say fuck
yes like not give a fuck as much because I was just like this this thing over here is
more important than anything else.
So I couldn't care.
It was a distraction.
Yeah, no, it wasn't even a distraction.
It was just a bit like, let's have it.
Yeah.
Let's go for it.
If this is it, let's go for it.
So yeah.
And then you found out that it hadn't spread?
So I didn't know it hadn't spread until the surgery.
Okay.
So the biopsy showed that it was all the same kind of cancer.
Yeah.
But between the time that that happened and the surgery happening,
the cells can mature very quickly and just go.
You don't know.
So that's basically the evolution of breast cancer.
cancer cells is that they
overnight can go
we've figured out how to get out of here
and we're going to be in your body now
and then you can't stop us without
radiotherapy or chemotherapy or medication
so I then had
a mastectomy, a full mastectomy on my right side
and that was right after
summertime ball and that was on the 21st of June I think
you delayed the surgery to do
the summertime ball
I did much to my mum's anger
I can imagine but I just
yeah I mean even looking back at it now I understand why
upset her and some other people, especially my partner, but I just felt my doctor said to me
it's very highly unlikely that it would have progressed and realistically that's the time
I wanted to do it and I really wanted to do summertime of all. I just felt really proud
of myself and I wanted to celebrate it. I wanted to have that moment and it was only like 10 or 12
days. It wasn't like months. So yeah. So then I had the surgery.
You had a full mastectomy.
Full mastectomy on the right side, yeah.
With a direct implant.
So now I've got like a rock hard mountain.
Nice.
She's standing strong, my girl, my new girl.
She's like, yes, I'm strong.
The other one's going, are you all right?
She's like, are you all right?
Down there.
So yeah, so I had the mastectomy.
And then it's only been five months since my surgery.
So I'm still much in recovery.
I have, you know, physio.
But you have done something.
You did BBC 2 in the park.
Yeah.
You've done it.
You've done a lot this summer.
Yeah, I mean, I haven't stopped working.
I haven't said no to anything.
There might be one or two things that I've just said I can't.
But yeah, I've just been going ham.
And there's no need to go down the radiotherapy chemotherapy route.
No.
But I'm assuming they'll keep keeping me monitored.
Again, again, I'm very aware that these conversations can trigger people
because so many people choose to do this differently and everybody has their own thing.
But I was offered to take the medication.
for five years to, like, reduce the risk by like 1%.
Is that tamoxifen?
I don't know what it's called.
I don't remember, but I said no because of the side effects and it stunts you from having
babies and I will be 43 or 4 by the time I would stop taking that and I just was like,
you know what?
I don't want to lose that opportunity if I do want to have a second child.
It also brings on early menopause and, you know, I just felt for that tiny percentage,
considering I had a mastectomy, I don't carry any genes, I felt it was.
right I might regret it but now in this very moment I don't and that was the right
decision for me. Do you still trust your body? Oh yeah she's been with oh my my girl has
been there holding me up through the stroke through the amount of times that my body has
been told no you can't do this or no you can't do that and I've with together like I do
my body as like another person inside of me that we've just been like no we can handle this
we're good thank you so much and you chose to go public with your breast cancer and
your other illnesses, but especially your breast cancer,
do you feel any responsibility to do that?
Because you are in a position of privilege
and people are inspired by you,
so maybe we'll then go off and check their breasts for instance when they hear.
It was a tough one because obviously at the timing that I got diagnosed,
I felt as if I didn't share it that I just,
I'm such an honest person.
And for the first time in years,
I've been put into interviews and podcasts and TV shows.
And I was like, there's no way that I can go through breast cancer.
and not talk about it
even just for myself
like I wasn't talking about it
and it was really strange
it was like I was living
this double life
like I'd be in the
I'd be in like the BAFTA's
performing and doing interviews
and then I'd be going to the hospital
straight after to like
and it was just weird
and I was like
yeah this doesn't feel right
and I'm very much like
I don't become Jesse Jay
it's just a name for the brand
that's me in the kitchen at home
with my son and me on stage
so I just felt like it was a weird one
not to talk about
but obviously then I know that
along with that comes the responsibility when you're famous
and you've got and you've got you know people will listen to you
but I think I've really tried to do my best this time to like
not do that before I had processed that I'd even had it or have it and still going
for even now people are like so you good and I'm like well I'm good but I'm still
I've got to do the other side at some point and I need to do something else on this side
because the implant isn't sitting right and I need liposuction but
I'll get to that but like it's not finished yet you know and even the amount of
people that I meet that go I had a mastectomy and it came back in my breast tissue
you know and you're like okay that's a reality but it's also a reality that I could
have something else happen what do you mean you have to do the other side so I want to even
it out okay they're not the same size at the moment no no this one's all Amazon padding right
yeah God bless my mom she's also so in padding into every I've got about 20 bras now and I
don't know how to act honestly I've in my drawing I'm like scada da da da um oh I get so your natural
boob is smaller than the implant.
Oh yeah. My nipples are doing two different things, babe.
I've got one that's like a little sandbag that's like
and the other one's like a grapefruit under a tight bed sheet.
Right. Does that feel weird or are you used to it?
No, I've got used to it now. I mean, it's only been five months but I don't,
I've never defined. I mean, I've never been a boob girl.
I've always been a bit of a butt girl.
But yeah, it's, it is what it is. I'm here.
Do you know what I mean? Like, it ain't that deep. Like, I'm so grateful to
like not have breast cancer.
but yeah so this one's all like that's an implant yeah and that one's padding so you get the
boob job then basically i've got i've got to do some uh that's why i was supposed to have
surgery the middle of october and it got postponed because my surgeon that is purely just a cancer
reconstructive doctor said this is a cancer reconstructive job but also cosmetic yeah and so i need
some stuff done on this side that's more cancer reconstructive but also want cosmetic so he's like
I don't feel I'm right for the job, so then I, yeah.
So it's a whole process, and they don't care what I do for work.
They're not thinking, oh, okay, you've got to go on tour.
Let's not, they don't care.
Their goal is to get the cancer out, and that's what it should be.
What one thing would you hope women listening today would know about early stage breast cancer and checking themselves?
We could give them one piece of advice.
Honestly, my advice to anyone isn't just about checking yourself.
It's literally about looking at what you're putting into your body all the time.
The cancer that I had, one of the main reasons that you can get it is from going on the contraception young, which I did.
I was 16.
It was having a baby late, which I did.
I was 36.
I got my getting your period early, which obviously you can't control, but I got mine when I was 10 or 11.
Yeah.
God, you're describing me at the moment.
right yeah they're all the reasons it's all about your um lymphatic drainage system so it's where it gets
blocked and that can get blocked with toxins so toxic deodorant with candles with i mean i
so when i got diagnosed so many of my friends were like what if you're going to get cancer i'm i am very
healthy like obviously not like i'm not like trust me i'll steal eat a family bag size of mini buttons but
I am pretty healthy
but you can always do more
and it's like
I just think that it's so important
to like where you can
make the change from plastic
to stainless steel to glass
to trying to cut down on junk food
to if you can get a lymphatic
drainage massage once every
a year or six months
you know save up for it
let it be a birthday gift or whatever if you can
like you know get outside more exercise
like I feel like that would be
advice now like all my candles in my house gone i don't put perfume on my skin all my products
are super clean you know i don't have any plastic in my house neither does my son does not drink or
eat from plastic it's all stainless steel it's all glass that's hard to do that we've had another
guest on here actually and speaking about the toxins and how to sort of detox your life yeah it's hard
in the sense that there's so many things you can't control like you're breathing in thousands of
toxins that weren't around 70 years ago, you know, but also there are ones that you can.
But the plastic when it's in particularly hard because products in supermarket just come in
plastic.
Yeah.
You buy blueberries.
They're in plastic.
Yeah.
You know, everything.
But it's also about eating hot food out of plastic.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Even if it's BPA or whatever, it's just better to eat stuff out of stainless still.
Yeah.
It's obviously, again, you can't do it completely 100%.
But the things that you can try.
So have you, you say you've always been healthy.
Have you made a much more concerted effort since March?
So these processes that you've just described,
are they something that you've implemented since then?
Yes, so my diet, I've got, again, got even cleaner.
Like, I love food, but, like, I'm, I was vegan for six years,
so I definitely, and I went through the whole no sugar, no gluten thing.
I've always been, like, I do believe that food is a healer, it's medicine.
And I can even go even more.
Like, I'm learning so much, we're missing accounts that I follow on Instagram.
I'm just like, oh, my God, that's such a good idea, and that's so true.
and it's really just like
lifestyle like what you've been raised on
you know what I mean if you've been raised on the 50 shades
of beige diet do you know what I mean
it's like it's hard to break away from
the squashy bread and the chicken nuggets
but you but you can do
it and you can also do it on a budget
you can and I just think it just takes a little bit more
understanding and research
to do it but you know I definitely have
changed the way I live more
even now since the cancer
for sure and you can as you mentioned
you can make those changes for sky
and for the next generation
because I was brought up on the 50 shades of beige diet
I definitely ate a mushroom chicken pot noodle every day for at least three years
well I just remember having chips with everything when I was growing up
but you know it would be literally beans to be sure I have to say
I don't want to say that because my mum was amazing with our food
and obviously it was once I got to an age where I could leave the house
and eat what I wanted and I got addicted to sugar like ADHD I know you have a fiend for sugar
and it's like you crave the dopamine here
and it got so bad
that you had to go to see a doctor
to clear out my colon
because I was so addicted to sugar
that it was the only thing
my body was absorbing
and then obviously
you get candinda
and you take loads of antibiotics
and then you get the like
overgrown of yeast in your body
and it comes out in like
your skin and like your gut health
and it's so bad
which is why I'm so anti-antibiotics
you know obviously if they're necessary
and it's the only thing that you can
do to get rid of whatever it is
then great but like
sky's never had
and even though we've been given them 16 times
from the doctors every time he goes with something.
Yeah, we give him vitamins every day.
He has his humidifier every night.
He doesn't eat it of plastic.
He eats every vegetable, everything.
Everything I make is from scratch.
I bulk cook at 5am.
I'm a bit crazy, but like if I can do his life
just that little bit more knowledgeable than, say, mine was
or just with the things that people have learned
with health and life and lifestyle,
then I'll try my best.
God, he's hit the jackpot with you, isn't he?
Oh, I mean, he's lucky.
Everyone around him is just the best.
He's hit the jackpot with many people in his life,
but I am glad that I'm his mum.
So your partner is the Danish-Israeli basketball player?
Yeah, he was a basketball player for a long time.
So his name is Khanan, and he is the most incredible father.
Like, stand-up man, like he has been incredible to Sky.
And I just watching him flourish as a dad.
has been so magical for me, yeah.
And you don't have child care, so it's your partner and then your mum stepping in.
She's me and him.
So I do a lot of the stuff, you know what I'm saying?
The preparing, the organising, the booking, the food shop, the cooking, the updating the clothes and the toys.
And obviously when I'm at work, he does a lot of the actual childcare.
And we mix between the two, obviously, I do it a lot too when I can.
But yeah, he's been great.
Because it would have been hard here for him.
Oh, for sure.
Watching your most, almost more difficult when you're watching your loved one go through it.
But I actually think it's been amazing because in that time that I have been going through that difficult time,
it's been lovely that we've had plans and I've had summertime ball and Sky's come to see me sing it the first time at Radio 2.
And we've had all these beautiful opportunities to get out the house and there'd be another focus that's fun alongside.
I never wanted, one thing I will always say is like my worst days will never define my days.
God, I feel like I want to write that on the back of my hand
Do you know what I mean?
Like I feel like a lot of people
Introduce themselves are the worst part of their life
Yeah
And I'm like, that's not me
Like this was part of it
Inspired this
But it ain't me
You know
And it offers a different lens to move forward
Different perspective
Yeah different perspective
A resolved resilience
I suppose
Yeah
And yeah you've been through
So much
With your health
In a very severe manner
yet you seem to come out stronger the other end
I believe that I go through it
so I connect with other people
I do believe that
I believe that whatever my purpose is
in this world, in this life
I believe that I go through it
so that I can write songs about it
and talk about it
because I know that that's my strength
because you do bring a lot
of your personal life into your songs
especially your most recent
I don't mean to you know
but I just can't help it
I can't
imagine
I can stop talking about my titty
no I literally just can't help it
but you write all your own song
so you write about personal experience
and even this album
The Don't Tees Me For Good Time
Obviously I wrote
I started writing this in 2019
So that's seven years ago
Mad
Seven years ago is a different life to now
But I'm putting them out
So people are reacting to things
That I went through seven years ago
And I'm like oh
Then it's completely changed now
Like the relationships
The experience, my health
Like how I even felt about stuff
Like you write songs in a moment
where you've had an argument
with someone on the phone, you go in the studio and you write it and then you forget about it
the next week and then seven years later people are reacting to it and you're going, oh, that doesn't
really matter anymore. So you were diagnosed with ADHD in 20, 23. Yes, five minutes ago.
The way you describe yourself, I'm not surprised you have ADHD. Someone very close to me has ADHD
and I can see similar personality traits. But you, yeah, you can hyper-focus on things
and super determined, but equally have an awful lot.
of energy and maybe quite easily distracted.
I hope I'm not offending you.
There's nothing you could say that could offend me, honestly.
How did that change, how you understand yourself, sense of self?
I haven't really spoken about it a lot, to be honest, because I feel like since I was
diagnosed, it was when I had a baby, I just could not hide it anymore.
I mean, I think everyone that knows me, obviously I think there's a lot of undiagnosed
people, and I know that it, I think a lot of people think that it's almost like this, like,
craze you know what I mean where everyone's like everyone has it and I do believe that
everybody's got a little something we're all a bit fruity you know what I mean but I could not hide
it when I got the responsibility of Sky and just the the way my brain runs when you're
a new mom and you're like the burnout days were insane and just like all the negative traits of
ADHD came to the forefront and I couldn't hide it anymore and me and my partner were like I need
to get some support and to get support I needed to be diagnosed so I got diagnosed and then
I've really just been like working on it having some therapy learning about what it feels like
when it gets worse what makes it better and I also have OCD off the back of my ADHD because I
know that if I I feel as though if I if some one little thing undoes or I don't stay on top
of something I feel like my whole world might fall apart and that again is a healthy
but it's what I'm working on it to improve it
and to like be the best version of myself
but also celebrate that that's how my brain works
and that's okay
but yeah I get super easily distracted
again I got some backlash from this
when I said it the first time
but I do believe that if ADHD is in the right environment
it's a superpower
and if it's in the wrong environment
then it is not it is heartbreaking
but also I know how hard it is for parents
that have children with ADHD that can't get diagnosed
and that must be awful
or they don't know how to support them
and like there is in a lot of offering of support
just in general
because people kind of poo-poo it a bit
so yeah anytime I meet
I've met a lot of my fans recently
and a lot of them will talk about the ADHD
or their children have it or they have it
and their kids don't and just that
the offer of advice and support that I can give
you know is nice to share
you know what the first person has come on here
and said, describe her as a superpower.
We had Lucy Bronze, the England footballer,
and she was diagnosed with autism and ADHD
in adulthood a couple of years ago.
And she described her as a superpower.
Yeah, I do, but I don't think,
I don't, the way my brain works
and things that I can get done in a day
is not normal for most people.
And I love that about myself.
Like, my time management,
because my OCDs come off the back of my ADHD
of, like, organisation.
Like, I have lists and I'm very, like,
I have my structure of my day
and my house runs a certain way
and that is the reason I can do what I do
with no assistant, no nanny
I style myself
I do so much myself
because I am organised
and I love that about myself
some days I can fall off the
fall off the ladder
and land in a pile of shit
and it's what it is
and everyone everyone goes
okay now it's time to slow it down
and I listen
I never used to when I was younger
but I listen now
but I've definitely built
I feel like I'm building a world around me
that means that I can flourish in made HD
and not feel like I'm hiding.
Because organisation is not a trait synonymous with ADHD.
Is that a skill that you've had to?
No, it's become an obsession and compulsive thing
because of the ADHD that I feel like,
and I've also grew up in hospitals and hotels.
So that also played a big part
in me needing things to look like they're not being used
or like, I can't even explain.
It's so hard to explain, but I know what my brain thinks.
Like even when I come in here, as I'm talking to you,
I'm lining up that table into the middle of that chair
and I'm cleaning up those wires.
And this is what I had to talk about to the person to get diagnosed.
She was like, tell me what your brain's thinking right now.
And I'm like, I've turned that plant around about four times.
But it's not even a conscious thought.
Like, that that sofa is not even to those two lines on the wall.
And I'm constantly putting it in the, it's like, and that's what it is.
So my brain doesn't ever go to sleep.
But do you give in to those components?
Everyone's like, what the hell?
I know, I need to sort the plant out.
No, it's fine.
That's the thing.
It's absolutely fine.
It's the way my brain is.
I want to tell you those wires in a bit.
But do you give in to those compulsive thoughts then?
Because that must be quite exhausting.
If you're sat at home just so, you're just watching Netflix
and suddenly reorganising the house around you.
If I'm stressed, like when I'm high, my stress is heightened.
When I first gave birth, I couldn't turn it off.
And my partner, it was difficult for him.
He would, like, I'd literally.
literally put the baby down, I'd hardly slept, and I'm reorganising the living room.
Not because the living room needed reorganising, but I was trying to calm my brain down.
And every little intrusive thought of like, you need to reorganise the spice things.
They need to be neater and this needs to be...
And I'd be like, yeah, but if I do that, then I need to do this and this needs tidying up.
And now the germs are in the house and they need to do it.
Like, it got insane.
Like to a point where...
And also, I had nothing else to focus on.
And I'm so proud of how...
I mean, Alicia, who's behind the camera, has been working for me 15 years.
We talk about it all the time and just...
how I used to be obsessive over my suitcases on tour
and that I would spend my day off reorganising them instead of going out
because I just felt like I needed to be in control
and everything to be organised.
I think it was that constant thing of needing to be prepared
for everything and anything because I have such high standards.
So I've definitely like relaxed, oh my goodness, in the last,
I mean, I now go on tour with one or two suitcases.
It's like unheard of and my makeup bag's like the size of my hand.
like it's crazy how much I've like mellowed
and I'm not as like
and I don't put it on to other people as much
because parenting in that state of mind
or the toddler
he's rough
yeah who would like flight risks
yeah yeah yeah he's two isn't he
he's two and a half so I remember my son
at two and a half a flight risk
a danger to himself and others
you know always stinking I remember going into the garden
one day and he picked up a slug
and he had the slugglety in his mouth
I'm just whacking this slug out of his out.
I'm done, not the slug.
And, you know, all the slime dripping down his face.
Oh, gosh.
I know.
Boys are gross.
Woof.
But dealing with the realities of parents and a two and a half year old boy
with what you've described must be really tough.
Yeah, it's definitely tough.
And because I am so hands-on and obviously at the moment I'm working really hard
and I get home at, say, midnight, I get home and do like an hour of like going through
the house and resitting stuff like because that's what calms me down i don't drink i've never done
drugs i like to organize you know that's what calms me down and um so yeah so i've definitely got
better and i know that hasn't been in an easy environment for my my partner either you know to share
with me um because he's the total opposite he's the most laid back like untidy person so it's like
there's one of the reasons that like you know we've got along to some extent because he's made me
relax and I've had to go right let me do less you know and he needs to step up and do more so like
we've kind of tried to meet in the middle but sometimes it just doesn't work and sometimes it's
amazing um but no it is a lot I'm not going to pretend it isn't you know it is tough but at the
moment I'm in a really good stride and I've created a really really good healthy structure
where I can really switch off and not have guilt either side where I'm at work I'm at work and
when I'm with my son, I'm with my son,
and I'm not going, if I'm here, then I feel bad,
then I'm not there, and if I'm there,
and now I'm just like, let me just be present in the moment
and give the best in whatever I'm doing.
Do you utilise any mindfulness strategies to calm your mind?
Yes, so I do, I don't know what it's called,
but I've done it for absolutely years,
and I've got my word that I can't tell anyone,
but you make up a word, you can use real words,
and sometimes I do, but I meditate by repeating that word in my head,
and I see it written out,
and if I distract like if I close my eyes now and go to my word and I I write it out in my brain
like being written with a pencil or in sparklers sometimes it changes like I'll see it in different
ways if I go off where I'm thinking I like her suit what am I going to have for dinner tonight
then I go back to the word and I just keep repeating and over the time over that practice
your brain will train itself to calm down if you think of that word so if I'm on a plane that's
turbulent i'll close my eyes i see the word and instantly my brain goes okay we're shutting down and
that helps me like i have to do it like award ceremonies and stuff when it's really loud and there's
lots of people i don't like it's why i don't see it that's why i'm overstimulated by noise and
i can't be in crowds of people i'm really claustphobic like i hate like you know the clinking
of cutlery oh my god the people chewing loudly absolutely not so like i'll sit there and i'll be
like and someone will be talking to me and all of a sudden it feels like the floor's gone from
underneath me and I have to close my eyes and I have to go and I think of my word and it
just brings me back to like the room and in my core that really helps me I'm going to the person
in my family who has ADHD who gets very overstimulated by crowds and theme parks anything
like that it really struggles I've got a fidget thing as well I've got one in my bag I'm going
to tell him the um the word trick but yeah no but it really is a lot and sometimes tell him that
the first time he does it'll do it 10 seconds and then be like it's too much yeah
Then the next day, 15 seconds, next day, 20 seconds,
then you'll get to a minute.
And then you reach like five minutes
and you literally just go, oh my gosh.
The whole world feels still.
I think we could all benefit from doing that though.
I've also got better at like just chilling out
like in the sense of like I now imagine my day in slow motion
and I don't let things stress me out like I used to.
Like I used to just be constantly a bit more uptight with my ADHD.
I'd be a bit like,
everything was like
and now I'm just like
I try and actively
imagine the days in slow motion
and I also enjoying it
I think ADHD can really steal the joy
you know
so I really try and do that
but yeah the the meditation trick
will definitely help and a fidget
in his pocket
yeah he's got one of those
well all sorts of them
yeah just to
my mum bought me one and I broke it
and I was like I was so intense of it
I literally just split it in half
and she was like
okay so that one didn't work let's get you a different one but it's so funny now and i say to my
mum like didn't you know that i had like oCD and ADHD and she was like well you used to clean
your trainers with a toothbrush signs were there then the signs were there but also she was like
I knew that when you were stressed because you'd rearrange your room that was what I did I
organized and rearranged I needed change like I'm a big impulsive that's ADHD the dopamine
I need big and sometimes especially when I have a baby and every day is the same
it almost can help but also heightens the fact that you're like
but I just want to jump on a plane or I want to go and do this
or I want to go and do that or I want to
I'm going to pick up psych like I remember I'd be like
I want to play tennis and I'd go and buy everything to play tennis
and I'd play it twice and then the racket's still in my cup
like I'm that that's that is that you know
personal debt is a big issue people with ADHD
because they are they can be compulsive shoppers
shoppers yeah I'm not like that so much
I like I think I'm a compulsive giving to other people
I get a real kick out of like buying gifts and giving things to other people and like
you know and like even other people around charities and that I get obsessed with that
yeah that's not a bad thing though so let's look forward you have just bought your new album out
don't tease me with the good time don't tease me with a good time girl it's already flying high
it's doing its things you know the most important thing to me people always say
like you know what do you want from this album and I'm like I just want people to want
take from it what they need what they want there's so many different songs in the album
it was such a big like spectrum of time that I wrote this record again the first
song I wrote on it thought that that made it was complicated which I wrote in 2019 or
2018 and all the way to Forgis Love which is the last song I wrote in 2022 or 23
So like, it's a real spectrum of like joy, grief, pop, silliness, honesty, anger, heartache, is all of it.
And that is what being a human is.
I personally don't wake up and go, I want to listen to the same song over and over and over again.
So I write, I make albums like I'm a song right out because that is what ultimately I am.
And that's what this album feels like.
Do you a favourite song on it?
I love California.
I think the song that
The song that hits me the hardest is I'll never know why
Yeah
And what's that based on?
So I never know why I wrote about
My Security Guard, Dave
Who took his life seven years ago
And I wrote this song five years ago
And I wrote it with Ryan Tedder
And I remember the day
Because he was like playing all these beats
And they were uptempo and I was just like
I need to write this song
I need to write a song about Dave
And it's a song
there's my perspective and my obviously viewpoint from it
was how I felt about him leaving the world and not saying goodbye
and not knowing ever really why
the lyric that gets me is how could you say goodbye without saying goodbye
and even now I just get so frustrated
and almost a bit trippy that I'm never going to talk to him ever again
because he was so, so close to me
but I think that more importantly
in a bigger scale is that everyone's grieving
and people kind of suppress it
because it's something that you can't
a lot of the time
if you need to go through everyday normal life
carry around with you
so you kind of stuff it into the bottom of your bag
or put it under your bed
and this song forces you to open the box
that you stuffed under your bed and get it out
and that's what I love about music
is that it connects people
that are all just struggling
that just need a hug
and also to remind people that
might be feeling suicidal
or feeling like they don't want to be here
that there are so many people that loved them
that would be heartbroken if they were left behind.
It must be really tough to sing songs like that
on stage. You're about to go on tour.
You're going to be in various countries
but then you have to really dig deep
to do justice to songs such as that.
I have to like, I've only sung it four times.
I did it at the Royal Variety.
I did it a few times at Banquet.
Then I actually went to Waterloo Station
and King's Cross Station yesterday randomly and just sang it
because I wanted to go into an environment where I know that people are just going about their normal day
and going to work and going shopping or picking up their kids or whatever
and they're carrying their grief around especially this time of year
this time of year reminds us of all the people that we wish were still here
you know and so I wanted to go to them and be like I'm with you
I see you and I feel you and also the people that are walking around with a smile on their face
that are thinking I don't want to be here anymore and no one loves me
and I just want to remind you that you are loved and that we do want you here
So yeah, it's difficult to sing
But as I said, I know that I have a purpose
And I believe that purpose is bigger than
How I feel about it sometimes
And I know that if I can just save
One person from feeling that loneliness
That's all I care about
So we're chatting at the very tail end of 2025
Yes
It's been a tough year
But also an exciting year
It's actually not been that tough you know
Like again,
I don't define this year like when you said in there you were like it was this year
was supposed to be a comeback and it ended up being it was my comeback and that was part of it
do you know what I mean see for comeback see for cancer see for Cornish it all kind of goes
together you know like it's just part of it I feel like I feel like I've enjoyed this comeback
more because I had breast cancer so like I'm not I don't feel like it took anything away if
anything it added a deeper meaning so I'm really proud of this year and I'm so proud of how I've
dealt with it, how my son has dealt with it, my family, my friends, my team, you know,
we've shown up.
So what are your hopes for next year and beyond 2020?
Next year, I'd like to bake a bag of cash, no joke, imagine.
No, next year, I'd love to go into stand-up.
I would love to do comedy more.
I'd love to do film.
I'm obviously touring a lot next year.
I want to like, I definitely want to make more music.
That's just, I mean, I've got seven, I mean, I haven't written a song for four years, three
years very very bad but I know it's all there ready to come out and then in six years time
when I release it now I imagine I'm joking I just want to be happy happy sane enjoying what I do
calm healthy being as present as a mum as I am at work with some decent tunes out and maybe
doing something that challenges me whether it's a book or a children's album or comedy or
Broadway or
film whatever's going to come will come.
I'm going to come and watch you if you do stander.
Come, yeah.
That would be amazing.
Imagine it was awful.
It won't be.
Just a silent crowd
and me just making really inappropriate jokes.
Yeah.
Well, thank you so much
for coming into House of Hearst today
and being on Just as well.
Before I leave you, we do have some quickfire questions.
Hit me. I thought you said Jess is well.
Oh, Jess is well.
Jess is well.
Just as well.
I'll match the men's shape properly.
So Jemma and I are inviting ourselves to our guests' homes for dinner.
But what are you going to cook us?
Oh, don't tease me for a good time.
Okay, start our, we're having either carrot and coriander soup.
With probably some like yogurt flatbreads on the side.
Yeah.
All homemade ofs.
Or a hulumi salad with spinach and like a honey mustard dressing on peppers.
Lovely.
So that's the intro.
And then for the main course, hmm.
I would usually do some sort of like
I don't know
the main course has changed so much over the years
of what I would usually do
sometimes I make meat pies
from scratch but vegan ones
and they're really nice
I'd always do some sort of potato or rice
I like wet food
there's always got to be a sauce
or some sort of gravy
but maybe like a chicken also
lemon parmesan situation
and then dessert
I mean my strawberry cheesecake is good
but I don't make it as much as I used to
Could make an exception for us.
I'll make an exception.
Lovely.
But I do love a roasted peach with just like some cream or ice cream.
Well, that sounds nice as well.
Simple things.
Lovely.
You're going to a desert island for 12 months, but you can only take one thing.
What would you take?
I can't.
And a charger.
That's the best answer we've had.
I was right to say you can't take your son, but I didn't need to say it.
No, no, no.
he's not coming
okay so I can't take my son
I would take
I think you've answered it
oh yeah my vibrator yeah
I don't think you can top that
what's the last thing that made you belly laugh
oh last thing that made me belly laugh
you know what I'm going to expose him here
just because I think it's so funny
but we went to the Rolling Stones Awards recently
and my manager I was talking to Ria Aura's sister
and he thought it was Ria Aura
because they looked so alike
and he came over to me and went
it's just because he's funny as well
so it might not seem funny now
and he just went
what's that real aura
and it just the way he said it
because I was literally just thinking
you've been standing there
for talking to her for legit 35 minutes
and I just thought it was so funny
and she must have styled it out
because I bet it's like
no she's beautiful
they both of them are so hot
and I was just like no that's Eleanor
and it just made me laugh
coffee or wine
oh neither but wine
probably
you're not a coffee drinker either
no I like a coffee flavour
milk but a decaf like a child have you never drunk coffee was that a no it's my heart
problem i'm not a caffeine girl oh you're not caffeine girl what's one thing people listening today
could do to make themselves feel a little bit better slow down breathe take a second zoom out
don't react leave it for 24 hours that has helped me a lot anytime you're triggered
anytime you're mad anytime you're sad anytime you're angry just park it for
24 hours and come back to it and i guarantee your reaction will be more level-headed be calmer be
wiser and you might not have even need to you might not even need to react so sensible
that's another thing i'm going to take away from this chat i'm terrible for reacting oh i've got
some angry thumbs me do you know right well jess thank you so much for coming in
thanks for having you i've thoroughly enjoyed your chat really exposed myself didn't i so
I have.
I'm really, really grateful
and for your honesty
and good luck with the album.
Thank you so much.
If you do stand up,
I'm going to come along
and I would love to come and see you on tour as well.
Yeah, come at any time.
Exciting 2026 for you.
Let's go.
Thanks for coming in.
Next year will be my year.
