KGCI: Real Estate on Air - Return on Love How Underdogs Fight, Heal, and Rice Through Love

Episode Date: July 17, 2025

Welcome back to the Return on Life podcast where we, of course, are always looking for things that give us a return on life rather than the ROI. And I'm going to change it up a little bit today. I'm going to call it Return on Love. Love. Yes, return on love. And I want to tie it in with the underdog DNA book that I'm writing. And I'm just working on a concept of ideal order of love, which would fit really well in with, what the return on love versus the return on life and so today i want to talk a little bit about the ideal order of love and weave that into the concept of the underdog DNA and the underdog order of love you might think oh gosh you know when does love fit an underdog well underdogs of course are just like you and me. We're vulnerable individuals. We fall into love. We fall out of love.

There's different stages of love for an underdog. And so I just want to, you know, go a little bit deeper today into some topics that may not always be there when we talk about business. But gosh, business and love and relationships are all part of that same package. So let's dive into the concept of ideal love and what I want to do is kind of break down what the ideal order of love is and those pieces and then weave it into what that is like for an underdog so we'll look at it from the perspective of an average you know person and how they might see the order of love and maybe maybe it's not even the average person but it was we're going to do that and then we're going to dive into what it means for an underdog to find the ideal order of love

So let's dig into this, the concept of the ideal order of love. And it can be interpreted in various philosophical, physiological, and interpersonal context. And we're going to explore some of these perspectives on how love might be understood in a progressive or idealized sequence. So we're going to walk through a sequence of how we see this and how it is seen in the world. So number one, of course, is self-love. The foundation of all healthy love is self-love. You got to love yourself. I always say this.

You don't love yourself. How can you love anybody else? And it's not a narcissism, but a genuine acceptance of who you are, the care that you give yourself, the respect that you have for yourself. It involves understanding your own worth. Do you know what you're worth? Come on. Treat yourself with kindness and develop and,

and compassionate relationship with yourself. This is so important. Without self-love, other forms of love just can't become healthy. They're unhealthy. They're not even codependent on who you are. So it's so important to self-love yourself. And I just can't emphasize this enough.

Number one, you've got to love who you are. You've got to be comfortable in your skin. And if you're not comfortable in your skin, gosh, you're going to be sabotaging yourself all the time. And part of that is even be able to forgive yourself. So I really encourage you work on yourself love if you haven't found that. That's first and foremost. Number two would be familial love.

And this is the next stage that we typically fall into. It's the love within one's family. And of course, often this is that unconditional love between a parent and a child. and I can say that, gosh, I know what that is because I've got my own children. I've got a grandchild, and I know how my parents treated me with unconditional love. And this bond is incredible. It's also between siblings, brothers, sisters. And so it's really an incredible bond.

And I would say, you know, this is the first experience of love that we often have, providing a basic template for that emotional connection with this thing called love, trust and of course support. And so it's very fundamental to our understanding. And if that familiar love wasn't there, oh man, that makes it really, really tough to kind of build on some of these others. And that's, I think, where a lot of underdogs find themselves. They haven't had that familiar love, which helps build on other loves. Okay, well, the next one is Plutonic Love Friendships.

And this love is that next phase, its relationships built on mutual respect, shared values, a genuine care without any romance or sexual expectations. And a lot of these were formed in elementary, junior high, high school, college, or in that work environment. And we build these relationships often through, you know, either connecting in some common environment or something common that we choose to do together. and so it's on compatibility, shared interests, and also an emotional understanding. So that one's pretty common.

We all are very familiar with that one. And then, of course, what is next? Romance. And by the way, Valentine's Day is coming around the corner. So this is perfect timing for that. And that's that romantic love. And romantic love, I mean, this is what we all live for. You know, we hold ourselves dearly.

love those, you know, rom-com movies, whatever it may be, but romantic love builds upon the foundation of our self-love. Very important. Gosh, if we don't have self-love, how can we love others? So it's on that foundation of self-love and any other previous relationship that we've experienced. It's more complex, of course, as we know. Breakups are hard. And this complex forms a love that combines emotional intimacy, physical attraction, and then a deep commitment to understanding and supporting the other person. So it gets deep here. And this is where a lot of us always think, well, this is love, this is love, but there's those other loves. It's self-love, familiar love. Then there's romantic love. And then the next one is the bigger love in some ways that I would say.

It's that compassionate, universal love. And it's the most expansive form of love that transcends personal relationships. It's universal in compassion. It extends to all humanity. There's no borders. There's no race. There's no colors. It embraces empathy, understanding, a sense of interconnectedness.

And it goes way, way beyond immediate personal connections. It is just, well, love for the world, so to speak. And this progression suggests that love is not just an emotion, but a skill and an understanding that develops through experience, self-reflection, very important self-refaction, and personal growth. Where are you on this growth path? Each stage builds upon, of course, enriching the previous one. Can have one without building on it. Use it or lose it, so to speak. And it creates more maturity and holistic approach to the couple.

of love, the capacity of love. So how does the underdog fit into this? Well, let's dive into this and let's find that intersection of ideal order of love with the concept of the underdog DNA. And it's a fascinating perspective that adds a lot of depth to our understanding of love and the personal growth. So let's break this baby down. Let's break down love and the the underdog and the ideal order. And let's see if we can't make some sense of this crazy thing that we call the order of love when it comes to the underdog. So the underdog, the underdog DNA typically represents characteristics like resilience.

Of course, resilience, facing adversity. How do we get through that? Well, it's through resilience. And so resilience is a superpower or a prima power that we have. It's the perseverance against any and all challenges. Think about that. It's the perseverance against challenges. And of course, the ability to rise from difficult circumstances.

See, adversity doesn't define who we are, but how we rise. That's the underdog mentality. It's not how it makes us, but how we rise. And it gives us a fighting spirit. emerges from being overlooked or underestimated. Who of you have been overlooked or underestimated besides me? When we map out this with the underdog spirit onto the order of love, gosh, it transforms the progression extremely dramatically.

Bring in the big music. This is where it gets dramatic. So self-love as a survival for someone with the underdog DNA, well self-love isn't just about acceptance at this point it's that fierce act of survival nobody is going to beat me i'm going to win at all odds i believe in myself i bet on myself it's about building that internal strength within i'm sorry it's it's about building that internal strength when the external support may have been lacking it's the underdog that learns to love themselves not just through the comfort, but through overcoming, overcoming things and seeing their own worth through

the battles that they fight and the challenges that they conquer. That is self-love when it comes to the underdog DNA, knowing your worth through the battles. So what about familiar love? Well, familiar love is the healing underdog love in the family context, which often means healing through generational wounds. It's about breaking cycles of pain and choosing to love differently than perhaps you were loved. The underdog doesn't just accept family love, but actively reconstructs it, reconstructs what love can mean within the family system. Can't emphasize this enough. You know, the Bible talks about seven generations of sin.

This is where the underdog can reconstruct that and break that chain of sin, that break that chain of breakage within the family. And so I just can't underestimate and under deliver this familial love. And then, of course, we go to Plutonic Love as a chosen family for the underdog. This is your chosen family. friendships become a form of chosen family these relationships are deep with intent they're selected not just for the companionship but for mutual growth and support for them to understand you and you to understand them see when you hear you see you understand somebody and they see and hear

and understand you oh my goodness that is an incredible chosen relationship and each friendship is like a strategic alliance in this case, built on trust earned through the shared struggles that you have. Plutonic love in the underdog. And of course, we can't leave without going into the romantic love of things. So here's the romantic love as a radical underdog. It's the radical vulnerability. Radical vulnerability.

Romantic love for the underdog is not a fairy tale, but it's courageous. It's a courageous act of vulnerability. Having learned to protect yourself, of course, falling love becomes the intentional lowering of these defenses. And there's no gift like vulnerability. I'm telling you, you've got to be vulnerable in your life because when you open yourself up to others that you can trust and be vulnerable, oh my goodness.

My goodness. Beautiful things happen. So it's about choosing connections despite the past hurts. You've got to let go in order to open up and reach new heights of romantic love. Seeing love through another arena. And that's the personal transformation. Really important. I just can't emphasize how vulnerability is so important for the underdog.

You know, you want to be strong. You want to be tough. You want to be resilient, but you still have to open up and be soft and vulnerable. Because that's where the true compassion happens. And speaking of compassion, that compassionate universal love becomes a revolutionary act. The underdog's universal love is revolutionary. It's not just passive. It's not just compassion.

but an active commitment to lifting others up, having intimately understood anybody that's marginalized, anybody in a tough situation. And the underdog has a compassion that is powerful when they see the marginalized, the people that are hurting, the people that need the compassion. and it's a powerful force for a systematic change, turning personal resilience into a collective empowerment. The collective empowerment, we're all better together. That's what the underdog thinks and sees. And this version of love isn't just linear. It is cyclical and is interconnected. The underdog doesn't just experience love. They reimagine it, turning each stage of this

love of order into an opportunity for a personal and collective liberation. There's that word of collaboration and collectiveness again. The key difference is that the underdog love is never passive. It's always a creative, resistant transformation act. Think about it. It is always working in trying to transform or be a transformation act. Would you like me to elaborate a little bit more on this? and how this perspective might challenge or expand traditional solutions of love?

What do you think? Hey, DM me and ask me some questions about the order of love in the DNA of an underdog. I'd love to share these with you. And maybe you should write into the comics what your transformational moment was. What is your transformational moment when it came to love and the underdog DNA order of love? What was it? I'd love to see it. Right in the comments what it is. If you like this and you'd like to learn more about return on life, return on love,

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