KGCI: Real Estate on Air - The Power of Progression

Episode Date: May 24, 2024

What is going on and welcome to the Power of Progression podcast. I'm your host, John Marone. Thank you very much for joining us on today's episode. And please do not forget to like, subscribe, follow the podcast, write a review, and then share it out to anybody who can take the value from today's episode and put it into their life. But now it is time to help you design the life you've always wanted to live, creating the ultimate version of yourself and jump into the episode. So let's get it.

The reason why I recorded this podcast and wanted you guys to hear is because I think a lot of times we think that the mistakes that we made make us this bad person. It doesn't make you a bad person. You know, you're a good person. It's just you made a bad decision due to the lack of character and strength of your values in that moment. The bad decision that you made was due to a fuzzy and foggy filter that you saw through or a thought that you thought. in that current moment due to certain events or circumstances that were going on. When you make the same bad decision for multiple times, then you must go back and actually look at your character.

And that's where you need to work on. The character. It's not about making a better decision. It's about working on your character so that you make a better decision. You know, and I think that's what you need to look. That's why I recorded this whole entire podcast episode is so that you could realize, I know you've made some bad mistakes. It doesn't make you a bad person.

So instead, let's work on our character. And then good decisions are going to be the side effect once you start making yourself into a stronger individual and start working on those core values in the culture. So it's not vice versa, right? You don't start making better decisions and then have a stronger character. You actually create a stronger character and the side effect is making better decisions. So hopefully enjoy today's episode and let's jump right into it. What is going on and welcome back to another episode of the Power of Progression.

podcast. Today's episode, I'm going to dive deep into something that I didn't realize I wasn't doing enough of. And once I was able to uncover that and put a process around it, I've been able to live with a lot more freedom, with a lot more weight off my chest, and most importantly, with a lot more love. You know, recently, you know, I've been really trying to figure out what's going on with me as far as am I truly, truly giving all of my love to the people that need it, right? And I'm giving a ton of love to the people that came to my retreat and my wife and my daughter, you know, and everybody around me. But is that really all the love I can give? Is that what they deserve or is there more inside of me?

And when I kind of sat back and looked at it, I realized I wasn't able to. See, that's the difference. It wasn't that I wasn't trying to. I wasn't able to give them to love and affection that they truly deserve. And not only that, true fulfillment comes with being loved and being able to love in some capacity, some way, some form, some shape. And I realized I was not doing that. I was not even being able to love the way I wanted to love. therefore I wasn't able to give my wife, my daughter, and everything that they truly deserve.

Now, on a surface, it may not really show, right? They may not realize that. But I know that deep down inside, there's more I can give. And so I had to really take a step back. And when I took that step back, I had a huge breakthrough and had a realization that it's not just me. A lot of us forget this one thing, guys. This is what this whole podcast is about. please listen up because I don't think you love yourself enough.

I don't think that you truly have forgiven yourself for the mistakes you've made. Don't think you loved yourself, you know, through those mistakes, that's for sure. And now that those mistakes have happened and you hurt some people, you hurt yourself and you hear a lot of people along the way possibly, you have not gone back to that mistake because it hurts too much. It hurts too much. I'm here to tell you if we do not confront these mistakes, and I'll give you the process here in a minute, but if we do not confront these mistakes, we're never going to be able to truly love ourselves.

Therefore, we can never truly love the others around us. No matter what you say, you are not going to be able to give 100% of you if you are not 100% of yourself. It's funny because they say God forgives us, right? I'm not going to get into a huge spiritual thing here, but they were talking about God forgives us. God forgives us no matter what mistakes we make, right? You guys heard it before. So God forgives us, but the funny thing is our nervous system won't.

Our nervous system won't forgive us. Once that mistake happens, it goes into our nervous system, this thought, this belief, this feeling, and it comes out at the most random times it comes out, when a trigger happens, a song happens, a smell happens, an event happens, a day of the month, day of the year happens. And I think that we need to realize that we need to give ourselves permission, right? So I want you right now, give yourself permission to start forgiving yourself. People always say we can't change who you are.

I don't believe in that, right? I don't believe that. I think we definitely can change who we become. But you can't do that without accepting responsibility. and going back to the mistakes that you've made and just really praise them. And when I thought about this, I realized there may be some things on why I stopped loving myself because that's the thing, right? Like, I think there's times that we fully love ourselves and there's times where maybe an event

happened to where we stop loving ourselves. And my wife is probably the most legendary superhero of mom I've ever seen. Sorry, any other wives out there and her mom's out there. she's a phenomenal mother. You know, I inspire to be a parent like her. And she's a phenomenal, phenomenal leader in the household with my daughter. And so I looked at that. I realized she was giving a lot of love and attention to her,

which by all means is justified. She should be given her massive amount of attention that she does. But as a human and unconscious consciousness, I was not realizing that it was affecting me to where I was thinking my past. Past mistakes have not allowed her to love me. Therefore, she's directing her love, all her love, to our daughter. Now, that's not necessarily true, but there is some kind of context behind it that does make that a reality.

And some of that context is just that, yeah, she's giving all her love to our daughter because, yes, her daughter deserves it, but also I haven't yet forgiven myself for the mistakes I've made in my past. And this just goes before I've even started dating her. So therefore, if I'm not loving myself, I can't truly love her. Therefore, she's not going to give me to love back. Hopefully that makes sense to you. And now, if you have a husband, a wife, or a significant other that maybe you guys are struggling somewhere,

first look into yourself and see, have you truly forgiven yourself for the f***ed up shit that you've done? We've done it, man. I'm telling you, we've all done some shitty things in life because that's what happens. We're humans. We make mistakes. right and through those mistakes lessons are learned and we tend to forget the lesson learned but remember the mistake we tend to forget the lesson learned but remember the mistake therefore it just puts us into this whole of depression and comparing ourselves to others and saying we're

not good enough and this is the big thing we all have limited beliefs the problem comes down to when you try to make that leap into greatness and that limited belief comes in your mind and says you're not good enough, right? It comes in your mind and says, you know, you're not smart enough. You're too old. You're too young. Whatever it might be. What happens is as soon as that limited belief comes in your mind, that mistake or those

mistakes that you've made in your life create this justification that that limited belief is right. So it creates this justification that that limited belief is right because you haven't truly confronted your mistake. You haven't truly gone back and confronted it. And until you do so, you're not going to be able to crush that limited belief. And here are some things I want you to pay attention to because maybe you think you do love yourself. But here are the 11, 11, write these down 11 things that you need to take notice of for you or your partner because your partner may not be fully in love with themselves right now like they need to be.

And we need to help. So number one is that you're not feeling free to be you. You're not feeling to be authentically you or express your true ideas and feelings. That's number one. So you may not love yourself the way you need to love yourself if you are not doing that. If you're not okay with speaking freely or just authentically being you. Number two is that you're unclear and it's hard. for you to be honest about your core values.

You're unclear of your core values or it's hard for you to be honest about them. Number three is you're not giving yourself enough positive internal feedback. You're always criticizing yourself to a level of almost depression. You're criticizing yourself to a level of really lack of action. So that internal positive feedback is needed. And because you're not so much in love with the, yourself like you should be you don't love yourself you're giving yourself this negative feedback and not allowing a positive feedback which is not allowing you to take the risk because you don't have

confidence because you just keep having this negative internal battle not positive internal battle next number four is this a big one you have no pride in your physical physical being you have no pride you know Julian Rosen said it a fun like I can't believe when he said a surgery it said it's like this phenomenal little quote that just blew my mind. And it was, eat like you matter. Eat like you matter. Are you eating like you matter? Are you working out like you matter? And if you don't have pride and your physical appearance, there's a huge, huge breakthrough for you right there because it's a good chance you don't love yourself like you should and like you need to. Next number five is you hard, hardly open up. Because you, you

have a hard time truly opening up, right? So you have a hard time opening up truly and deeply with the loved ones around you. Next, number six, this is, this is one that I would love to be a fly on the wall and seeing what you do alone because you don't have fun when you're alone. You don't have true fun when you're alone. When you're driving in the car, are you dancing, singing? No matter of everybody's looking or nobody's looking, are you truly having fun alone? if you're not and you're having this interior battle of negative emotions, you're not having fun while you're alone. There's a good chance you don't love yourself.

Therefore, you're not allowing yourself to love others. Number seven is you keep taking negative thoughts into a positive situation. Let me give you an example. If you're in traffic and you're in your car and you're going to work or you're going to the movies or you're going somewhere that you're going to have an experience, but you're in traffic and you sit there and you say, man, this traffic. Can't be sitting in this traffic.

Well, you just take a negative thought and put it into a positive experience. Right? Versus I'm in a car. I'm going to have a great experience. Okay, there's traffic. But damn, I'm in a car. Some people don't even have a car. How about when you're sitting there

and you're waiting for a plane or maybe even on a plane, you're sitting on a tarmac and you're delayed? You're like, this is bullshit. I can't believe I'm delayed. Oh, this is. So annoying, so annoying, came on delayed. Well, you're on an airplane.

You're about to fly like a third through the air to get where you need to go that's thousands of miles away in less than three hours. And you're about to have a hell of a time and build memories. But yet you're bringing a negative thought into it because that is just the way you are doing things right now. You're bringing negative thoughts into positive. And the reason why you're doing things like that right now is because you don't love yourself. Right? So are you bringing negative thoughts into positive situations?

Next, number eight is gratitude. Look, this is a huge one. And I just did a podcast on this, but do you truly have gratitude? I'm talking about like extreme gratitude when you wake up in a morning. Do you have that intentional process of gratitude? And do you feel it throughout the day? If you don't have real gratitude, you probably don't love yourself. Number nine is affirmations. Like if you don't wake up every morning and speak into existence of what you truly want or what you are going to become or get or whatever the case might be, if you have a hard time doing that, it's because you don't love yourself. Maybe you're trying and it's just hard for you. You can't visualize it because you haven't confronted your mistakes yet.

You haven't forgiven yourself. You haven't fell back in love with yourself. So you can't visualize a great future because you're stuck in a next. negative past. Number 10, this is one that I think I struggled with probably one of the most few years back. That's judging. Judging. Are you judging others? You see them and you judge them. You have no idea who this person is, but you are judging McJudgersons. Are you looking at somebody and just judging them? Maybe you see them on Facebook or even you see them on Instagram and you're judging them. For good, bad, it doesn't make a difference. You see somebody walk into the bar or a restaurant or a party or whatever it is. And you immediately start to judge them. That's a clear sign that

you do not love yourself. That's a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. So take inventory. Are you judging people? And we can do a whole podcast on a reason why not. But are you judging people. And if you are, there's a good chance. You're really judging yourself. You don't love yourself. And then last but not least, I keep mentioning it. You haven't confronted them yet. You haven't confronted those demons, those mistakes. And I don't even like to call them demons, but I'm using it now because I think in the present mind that you're sitting in, you think they're demons because of the way they hurt you and others around you. But really, those mistakes are just revealing new layers of who you're going to become.

So there's a few things I'm going to give. So there's a few things I'm going to give you here in a few minutes on how to start to love yourself. I'm always about giving you those actionable tips, right? But stop one second, stop for one second, ask yourself, do any of those ring a bell? Do you feel like any of those 11 that I said resonate with you? I didn't want to believe it because what happens is when that resonates with you and you realize you don't love yourself and you realize not loving yourself doesn't allow you to love others, you realize the pain you're putting on everybody else. And you're probably delaying the inevitable,

which is you're going to break up or divorce or whatever it might be. Because the longer this goes on, the less you love and unless you love, the less you connect, the less you connect, probably the more likely you're going to split from your significant other. So you have to love yourself first,

but the only way to do that is to go back and forgive. Forgive yourself for the mistakes that you made. I get it. Look, they hurt people. They hurt people probably way more than they hurt you. But by you not going back and seeing those mistakes and truly confronting them, you're only continually hurting that person that that mistake hurt. You're only truly hurting yourself as well in this process.

And I want you to think about that. Do you truly love the person that that mistake hurt? and if you no longer have a relationship with the person that that mistake hurt, did you love that person at once? At one time. And maybe you did, maybe you didn't, maybe you don't even know. But it doesn't make a difference because you still need to go back and find that mistake you made. And honestly, pay respect to it.

Pay respect to the mistakes that we make. Those obstacles are the things that create you into the version that you need to become. Are you somebody that has everyone's back? And this is something I talked about on my coaching call with my clients this week. Do you have, like, are you that person? You're like, dude, I got your back. Right? Your brother, your sister, I got your back no matter what.

Your mother, your father. I got your back. Your friends, I got your back. Are you that person that has everyone's back but not your own? I'll repeat that. Are you the person that has everyone's back but not your own? was that person. Man, you go to a bar with me, I got your back. We go to a concert, I got your back. No matter what it is in high school, you want to meet somebody for a fight, guess what?

John Morone, he's got your back. There's an issue going on somewhere, I got your back. But I didn't have my own back. It took many, many years to realize that. So let's collapse the time of you trying to figure this out yourself. And first, raise your hand right now. Are you someone has everyone's back except your own. Because you're willing to forgive everybody else, right? Like even some of those people that you have their back, they might have screwed you over at one point. Right.

Like they might have totally, you know, screwed you over or talk shit behind your back, but you're willing to forgive them, but you won't go back and forgive you for the shit you've done. You're willing to forgive the husband and wife or the husband or the wife that did you wrong, but you're not willing to forgive yourself. You're willing to forgive your parents who maybe didn't give you the best situation,

but you're willing to forgive them, but you're not willing to forgive yourself. You're willing to forgive that partner that screws you over and stole money from you. Or your friend that went ahead and did you dirty. You're willing to forgive them, but you're not willing to forgive yourself. That goes back to do you have everyone's back but your own. We need to start loving ourselves in order to truly, truly feel the fulfillment. Life and happiness isn't about money.

It isn't about hitting that goal. It isn't about buying that thing. It's about truly feeling loved. Like that feeling you get that you feel loved and appreciated. And you can't truly get that feeling until you feel it for yourself. So please, it's time to start loving. loving yourself. And I did this, like I said, a few months back. I had to take ownership and some shit I've done in, you know, the way back. I mean, I'm talking about, you know, in high school

shit I've done, right? To the little mistakes I made, you know, and it comes down to small things like putting business before relationships. Have you done that before? That's a mistake. Right? Looking at income versus impact. I did that for so many years. But I still never went back to that. And you're going to live in this limited belief because that mistake will justify that limited belief every single time. Here's the process I want you to go through in order to start loving yourself, forgiving yourself, and being able to love others so you can live a life of true fulfillment

and love. Write it down. Let's go. The first thing is exactly that. You need to write down all those mistakes. Like write them all down. If you need a whole notebook, get the notebook out. But you need to start writing down all your mistakes.

So let's do this together right now. Write down one mistake that you made. One mistake that you made. It could be in any equity of life, your business, your relationships, finances. What's one mistake you've made? Now, right down next to that, what did you learn? What did you learn from that mistake? As I said earlier, we always,

remember the mistake, but we always forget what we learned and how it has helped us become who we are. Right. Like, we always remember the mistake, the thing that hurts us and drives us into a deeper hole, but we always forget the things that we learn. Like, we know it's there. We are the person we are today because of what we learned, but we forget about the actual context. We forget that we did learn something because that mistake hurts so bad. So what did you learn? From that mistake that you wrote down, right down next to it, I learned.

boom boom boom boom what'd you learn now that you have that got to stop playing the tape it's like when you got into like your old school car and the reason why i'm going to bring this up because this happened to me it's that one CD that's stuck in your car anybody ever have that look i mean i remember i when i got out of jail i had this this jeep Cherokee it was like an old school jeep Cherokee and I had four years strong this band that I used to love but I had four years strong in the CD player when I got put in jail and then it was in there obviously when I got out but the thing is is it would not come out I could put it on the radio but I want to listen to my CDs but that one CD would not come out right I had all these other CDs I wanted to listen to but the one CD

that was in there would not come out and even though I liked that band that CD just kept playing and playing and playing. And it just got old. And I couldn't stand it anymore. And so I'd suffer through it, though. I didn't even try to find a way to get the CD out. I just suffered through it throughout the car ride. What's happening is every time you wake up, you're in that Jeep Cherokee.

Right? That CD is stuck in there. And you keep playing it over and over and over again. The tools I'm giving you is giving you the. ability to go ahead and get that CD out and stop playing that same tape over and over and over again. Stop playing the tape. Next is your past is not your future, but your past is there to help your future. So the past is not your future, but the past is there to catapult you into the future, into what you want.

I talk about this a lot with vision. So when I talk about businesses and I'm helping them, you know, uncover their vision and even people uncover their mission and their why, lots of times your vision, which is your future, which is in front of you, actually comes from digging deep into the past. So your vision for your business and for your life, 99% of the time comes from the pain you had in your past. that pain in your past is a reason why you want to create a certain pleasure in your future.

So we have to realize that our past does not dictate our future, but our past must be there in order to help our future. For us not to make those same mistakes, for us to learn from them. So give yourself permission to forgive yourself from the past. But don't forget that that happened for a reason. and it was there, but now the tape is gone, and the only thing that's left are the good lyrics, right? Which is the lessons learned.

That's all that's left. It's those good lyrics that are the lessons learned. Not the bad songs, because that's what happens. I mean, not many CDs are out there that have, what, 12, 18, 8, whoever, however many songs are on CDs nowadays. I don't know how many people buy CDs, but, by the way, go support your local bands, buy their CDs.

But, you know, we listen to this whole CD and it's stuck in there and it's like, shit, this one song sucks. These three songs suck. Well, the songs that suck are basically relative to the memories that suck, to the mistakes that suck in your life. And you keep replaying it. So once you are able to write down what those songs are that suck, what memories or mistakes, I'm sorry, that you've made are and what you learn from them, now you've got to stop playing that tape. give yourself permission and realize that your past is not your future but is there to help our future and then last but not least get help like find help if you have trouble with this do not do not go another day without reaching out to somebody that maybe has made mistakes and they're

able to push through them and learn from them our mistakes have hurt people and the longer you wait to give yourself permission to go back and confront them and then push past them and move on, the harder it's going to be for you to love yourself and love others. And that's what's scary because fulfillment is love. So please go back, confront those mistakes, find them, learn from them, realize a mistake that you made was there for a reason. Take those lessons learned. Start loving yourself so you could love others. But the first thing is, is got to write them all down. You got to figure out

what they are. And last but not least, I kind of keep saying it, give yourself permission to let go. Give yourself permission to let go. I know it's hard. I know you feel like a bad person. I know. I know you feel like a horrible person for the things you've done, whether there are big things or little things, but

things you've said, right? You can't take them back. They're there. But for you to live the rest of your 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years of your life living in that mistake, it would be a mistake. It would be the ultimate mistake. So make sure you go back and confront them, had the discussion with the people that you need to have discussion with, and then push past them and just get better today than you were yesterday every single day, utilizing the lessons learned from those mistakes allowing you to truly love yourself. It's funny people ever, I mean, it might even

been you. He's saying, man, that dude loves himself way too much. Man, that girl's, she loves herself way too much. We should love ourselves so much. We should love ourselves fully and completely for everything of who we are and the mistakes we've made to the great things and, you know, our quirks and our flaws. We should love ourselves. We should love ourselves. fully. So if you've ever said or maybe you still say it, man, that person loves himself way too much. Maybe you should love yourself way too much. Maybe you should.

So this way you can give love to those who deserve it around you. So hopefully this episode helped you uncover some things in your life of realizing you need to love yourself more, give yourself permission to go back, find those mistakes. this way you could truly give the love that the people around you deserve, including you, and live a life of fulfillment, which is feeling and being loved. If you have any questions, please reach out to me.

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But hopefully today you got some good value. I'm excited to hear the feedback. So don't forget, shoot me a message, write the feedback into the comments or wherever you listen into this on. Just make sure that you're putting your a haas on there. It's time for us. start loving ourselves, guys.

Please start loving yourself so you could love others and live a life of abundance of love. It's really what we want. That's what our heart wants. And it can't happen until you go through this process. Have a phenomenal rest of your week.

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Until then, make sure you keep creating the ultimate version of you.