Makes Sense - with Dr. JC Doornick - One From The Vault - Not This Not That - Episode 64

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to the Make Sense with Dr. J.C. Dornick podcast. This podcast covers topics that expand human consciousness and performance. On the Make Sense podcast, we acknowledge that it's who you are that determines how well what you do works, and that perception is a subjective and acquired taste. What we know is that when you change the way you look at things, the things that you look at begin to change. Welcome to the uprising of the sleepwalking masses. Welcome to the Make Sense with Dr. J.C. Dornick podcast.

Starting point is 00:00:37 Make sense. All right, folks. Ready, set, grow. This is not this, not that. But I love about that is the space between. We'll get to that in just a second. So let's do some dragon thoughts to kind of warm things up. I said it just once before,

Starting point is 00:00:55 but I just want to give a shout out to all the unicorns out there, the people that take radical responsibility for their lives, the people that follow through, say they're going to do something and then they show up, the people that you are trustworthy, the people that wake up in the morning and the shit has hit the fan and success is more inconvenient than it's normally inconvenient and they go anyway. Big shout out to the unicorns out there. The world would be completely out of balance without you. So let's lead the way and bring other people with us unicorns. We need you. One of the things I was thinking about this morning,

Starting point is 00:01:28 I don't know if there's any indigo girl fans out there. Any indigo girl fans? I I used to be a huge Indigo girl fan. They sang this song, one of their popular song, was called Closer to Fine, and the lyric was, Closer I Am to Fine. And I was listening to it, loved the song, but not such a big fan with the idea of being fine. So I love the song, but I realized today in my warm up that I've evolved and grown into this person that is less and less interested.

Starting point is 00:01:56 I don't know if you're like that. Less and less interested with being fine. So the concept of being fine, I just love that. I'm fine. And I like when you like bump into somebody or you like have that awkward moment where you're walking through the door and somebody goes, oh, no, you're fine. It's like, that sucks. You know what I mean? So I'm less and less interested with being fine, although I love that song. So fine to me, I was just thinking about this. This will be a rise up some other time. Fine to me means stable and or neutral, which also means not moving forward. So fine is the way that you,

Starting point is 00:02:30 interpret or act when you think that you've been given a spare day that you can just waste. If you're fine and you're not in motion and you're staying neutral and you're not taking risks for whatever reason, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of overwhelm, whatever it is, read Gay Hendricks book, The Big Leap. It means that you think that this day is a spare and you can have another one. You'll do whatever you need to do tomorrow. So yeah, fine sucks. And then the other one was this concept of being unreasonable. And I was talking to a bunch of powerful people the other day. And we have a tendency of getting very analytical about things and analyzing things.

Starting point is 00:03:10 But if you think about it, you know, it's like that whole story, here's to the crazy ones, like that YouTube video, success is on the other side of being unreasonable. Because if you're reasonable, if you act within reason, well, you're playing by the rules. So whatever it is that you desire is probably not going to be a question. required by being in the rules, being a reality bender. That's what I'm talking about. So I just realized today that I'm a very unreasonable person. So how does that sound to you in this current reality that you're living in your life? Are you living it within reason? Guess what happens if you're living your life within reason? You're wearing a shirt that says, I'm fine. So to be reasonable, don't like it. Where do the parameters of that definition come from? Somebody told you how to become

Starting point is 00:03:56 reasonable. If you're living a reasonable life, you're living a life that somebody told you to live. Why do I tell you these things? Just so you know about them. You could always say, I like it. And then I say, that's cool. I like that you like it. Let you're crazy out. Nobody ever told you today when you woke up that you weren't allowed to let your freak out, right? Let you freak out. That's what you're like, I'm giving you a permission if you needed it. Not this, not that. So there's a really cool term in the show notes. You'll see, I'll put a link. And there's a cool website that you can go to. This could be part of your morning routine called Awaken the Worlds.com. But there's a specific series that you'll watch that you'll see a lot of

Starting point is 00:04:36 dragon stuff comes from. It's one of the best documentaries, three parts documentary called Sumadi. So this term in Buddhism called Sumadi, which is a state of profound and utterly absorbative contemplation of the absolute that is undisturbed by desire, anger, undisturbed by anger, desire, or any ego-generated thought or emotion. That's what Sumadi is. Unfuck-with-able, right? So it's a state of joyful calm. Who wants to be in a state of joyful calm? Or even of rapture and attitude in which one maintains one's full mental alertness and acuity. That's called having your shit together and not being affected from the outside in. Because when you're affected by the outside in, your body's allowing the outside to interpret the inside.

Starting point is 00:05:29 Samadhi is the highest state in Buddhism of consciousness that one can achieve through meditation. Watch that video series. It consists of a practitioner, yoga practitioner, plant medicine person, practitioner reaching spiritual enlightenment where the self, the mind, and the object of meditation merge together into one. What am I building up? Samadhi's awesome, and it's something that we probably would all like to experience.

Starting point is 00:05:57 So in some of the Buddhist teachings, here it is. Remember, this is not this, not that. There's this concept in some of the Buddhist teachings called NETI-N-E-T-I, N-E-T-I. Look this stuff up, which translates to not this, not that. This reminds us of another concept that we've discussed where Buddhists take what's called the middle way,

Starting point is 00:06:20 not that way, not that way, the middle way. All I talk about here and in my interface response system in my book is this idea of just pausing your automatic perception and response and just realizing you have time, pause, sit in the space between where you can gain a more logical and rational observation and response. So I love this concept of living the middle way. Sometimes they even refer to it as living in no man's land where no one else, nothing else exists. So they look inward and acknowledge that they are not as well as what they are and embrace the two. Interesting to be able to sit in between what you are and what you are not. Never thought of that. You want to talk about a cool identity exercise? Sit in between what you are in between it. and what you are not without getting caught up identifying yourself as one of the others. That's the ego. The ego needs to label and validate something to feel safe. So this would require a complete death of your ego construct. That's what I love about plant medicine. That's what I love about meditation. That's what I love about breathing techniques.

Starting point is 00:07:36 That's what I love about not giving a crap about things that don't matter. It's about killing, not you, but your ego, ego death. I did a podcast on that. So the idea and path to samadhi is to drop anything in your life that's not permanent. Think about that. Think about dropping anything in your life that's not permanent. Anything that can change, which is pretty much anything, right? I think many of us struggle with the perception that things are permanent, right? When you get caught up into something and you start that thought thunderstorms, start, starts to support it and your emotions supported and your actions supported and you start being a mean person, blame and shame and justification and all that stuff, typically you're trying to control

Starting point is 00:08:22 something out of your control because you've created the perception that it is permanent. This is why I love to practice saying, this too shall pass. And my family obviously gets crazy when I say that, but I say it a lot. This two shall pass. And you know what? It's true. It will. If you allow it, it'll pass, just like a wave that builds up. You see it coming, it builds up, and it builds up to its climax, and then it dissipates onto the shore and passes. And guess what happens next? Another one comes.

Starting point is 00:08:49 But you start to learn that this two shall pass, just like everything else. There is a great power in the undefinable future, meaning not needing to know, right? You don't need to be Nostradamus. Release yourself from that. That's typical. Or the recognition that anything is possible. So the trick to achieving samadhi or this concept of netty-nettie, which is kind of one of the same, is to allow yourself to exist in that indefinite space.

Starting point is 00:09:18 I want you to practice today, or I give you permission to, I shouldn't say I want you to. I want you to practice today saying, I don't know. Or just say, huh, I'll think about it. Or I won't. You understand? That's why I have to wear this shirt saying, did my sarcasm hurt your feelings? Because I don't want to. So that's the idea is practice spending time in that indefinite space between never and always.

Starting point is 00:09:43 That's what I love about Buddhism. Not attached to either side and therefore not attached to either perceived outcome. I achieve this by sharing a response to all perceptions that is a big part of my book, right? So that's the concept. I achieve this by sharing a response, right? Or controlling my response. That's what I'm sharing with you to all perceptions, right? That's what I have to do is I have to control my response.

Starting point is 00:10:10 And you know how you control your response to perceptions? Because your perception is something that leads to your response. So hold off on your perception of your program mind just by pausing. It's called cognitive distancing. And that's what, huh, means. That's the word. It's, hmm. It says maybe so, maybe not.

Starting point is 00:10:27 Not this, not that. Maybe so, maybe not. And I see both sides as possible in that space. I can see it. I can see both. I'd be say both sides as possible and perhaps see your perspective on it. That's okay to say, I understand your perspective, but I haven't decided what mine is yet. I haven't even decided if I have one about it. All I'm saying is I see it. I'm in the space. Yet, I'll sit in between a definite yes and a definite no. Make sense? So I will actually see you next week, because we have the weekend right now, and I'm going to go with family.

Starting point is 00:11:02 and the South Africa heat right now and hang out in my daughter's room and teach her about podcasting and stuff. But I just want to say, I love you. I love human beings. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of all that you're accomplishing. Even the mean ones, even the people that are sucking their thumbs today, or maybe the people that are not being nice to other people or being nice. I love them all. You know, why? Because we're all doing what we think is right. But the people that I really, really get inspired by are the ones that take radical responsibility for themselves and stop judging others, right? You, you unicorns, I love and appreciate you the most. So have an amazing day, have an amazing weekend, and I will see you on Monday. And we'll just do another week.

Starting point is 00:11:49 Bye-bye. Love you.

Makes Sense - with Dr. JC Doornick - One From The Vault - Not This Not That - Episode 64

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