Makes Sense - with Dr. JC Doornick - Why You Trust Fear More Than Your Own Potential - E204

Starting point is 00:00:00 So what if one of the biggest things holding you back isn't fear itself, but the fact that you trust your fear, your worries and concerns, more than you trust your own potential? Have you noticed that the world that we live in has been doing most of the thinking for you, that your beliefs, perceptions, reactions, fears, and doubts have been shaped by unsolicited outside noise? How easy it's been for you to slip into that default sleepwalk. walking mode and label it as life and reality. Yeah, that ends here. Welcome to the Make Sense with Dr. J.C. podcast. This is your opportunity to start thinking for yourself, reclaim control,

Starting point is 00:00:42 and step back into that role as the shock caller and dominant force of your own reality. It's when you change the way that you look at things, that the things that you look at begin to change. So let's wake up. Let's rise up. And let's make sense of why and how shift happens. Hmm, makes sense. Just quick little update on me, for those of you following along, I've gotten the hang of it. You know, what's interesting about cancer and the whole treatment protocol is the cancer is not tough. It's the treatment, right? So you really have to just go into it as healthy as possible.

Starting point is 00:01:25 So if you have not faced that adversity yet, there's a chance that everybody could, right? I would just recommend that you make that a high point and why you would get healthy. I've spent the last 20 years of my life really working on my health. In fact, it's part of my career. I'm a health coach. So I'm handling the adversities. They were really tough in the beginning. And they're still tough, but I've gotten used to it.

Starting point is 00:01:48 You know, the analogy is like I have a little thumb tack here. And, you know, if I put this thumbtack against my finger, it hurts. But if I leave it there after a while, it doesn't hurt anymore. So I think I'm still experiencing a lot of. the tough aspects, but my body is acclimated to it and I'm feeling much better. Greetings from London, Christian. That's awesome. So let's get started.

Starting point is 00:02:12 Hey, J.D. It says, good morning, J.C. It's a pleasure to join for my first session. Hey, J.D. That's awesome. J.D. is one of our new dragonflies in our podcast academy. We're teaching everybody how to create, launch, scale, grow, and monetize podcasts. If anybody's interested in that, my partner Julie Loken and I have done that.

Starting point is 00:02:34 I'm a full-time podcaster, and so is she. We're teaching other people how to do that. Okay, so let's get started. This is selective trust. Learning to trust your potential over your fears. Ooh, sounds good already, doesn't it? So what if one of the biggest things holding you back isn't fear itself? But the fact that you trust your fear, your worries and concerns,

Starting point is 00:02:56 more than you trust your own potential. We're going to explore a concept called selective trust, and that's the practice of becoming conscious and intentional about which thoughts, predictions, emotions, people, and possibilities are worthy of receiving the currency of us caring and trusting in them. So, great morning humans, great morning world. Welcome to another edition of the Make Sense with Dr. J.C. Dornick podcast, and welcome to the uprising of the sleepwalking masses.

Starting point is 00:03:28 The Mindful Deviant says, awesome. Podcasting is hard. I've recorded 85 episodes so far. I would love to be a guest. Well, you are a guest right now, Mindful Deviant, because I'm talking to you and you're on my show. But come check out the Dragonfly Podcast Academy. Tons and tons of people that are just growing extraordinary podcasts,

Starting point is 00:03:47 you know, so we'd love to help you. But you're on my show right now. So most of us would say that we have trust issues with other people. people. That's typically what we say about trust. But what if the more important question is this today? What have you been handing your trust over to inside of your own mind? What's going on in your mind, thoughts, feelings, and things like that? And you're just handing the keys of trust over to them. So think about the strange imbalance that takes place in our minds every day. A fearful thought appears. That's typically what happens. It's going to happen today. Probably already

Starting point is 00:04:21 happened for most of you. Sounds like this. What if it doesn't work out? What if I fail? What if I'm not good enough? What if things get worse? God, I've been thinking about that a lot lately with cancer, right? And then all of a sudden the brain has this tendency of just accepting it almost instantly, giving it credentials almost instantly. No evidence required, no background check, no authentication process.

Starting point is 00:04:45 There's no bouncer working the door at your nightclub. Fear just walks right through the front door, and it's carrying an all-access VIP pass. And then what it does is it goes in and it selects a seat, or probably like a private booth, that suits its needs and it sets up camp in your mind and it's just there. Take note of this. Our minds seem to roll out the red carpet when it comes to fear wanting to gain entrance into our nightclub. But then converse to that when possibility and potential appears might sound like this.

Starting point is 00:05:17 Well, what if I can do this? What if I'm stronger than I think? What if the future could be better than I currently imagine it to be? What if the seeds that I'm planting are actually growing and that just require time? Here's my favorite one lately and this comes personal to me. What if this cancer is actually happening for me? What an interesting and novel idea and is here to put the finishing touches on my transformation from caterpillar to butterfly.

Starting point is 00:05:46 So a lot of people hear me talk like that and that's a choice. but that's because I've rewired my brain using my systems. But what we're acknowledging right now is that fear seems to just automatically get authenticated and credentialed and come in. But when it comes to potential and possibilities, there's a little bit more of a filtering process. So in most cases, and this is unfortunate, these thoughts of potential and possibilities kind of have this tendency of getting stopped at the door or at least paused.

Starting point is 00:06:18 The bouncer doesn't notice them on his guest list and becomes a little bit skeptical. So we're just talking about this interface. Possibility and potential shows up. And we're just like, well, hold on a second. I'm going to need to see some idea. I don't see you on the list. And why is that? They're very rare in most people's lives.

Starting point is 00:06:37 And when things are rare and they don't happen all the time, it draws suspicion. A great analogy of this. And tell me if you've ever felt this. The mindful deviants says, I love this. topic. Yeah, of course we love this topic. I mean, like, this happens every day, you know? Here's an analogy that I draw. And this happened to me just the other day. So, you know, when you go out and you purchase something, like you spend more money or you purchase something in a place you've never done it, or maybe you're traveling and you make a purchase. And your bank kind of like throws

Starting point is 00:07:08 off a red flag and sends you, first of all, it denies the charge. And then it sends you a text saying, is this you? This is an abnormal thing. It's the same thing. If you're not a possibility, thinker. And you're typically running your lives in reaction and response to fear and things like that, which most people are doing, whether they admit it or not. It's going to send off a signal and create suspicion. So when potential shows up, your brain requires proof. It requires validation, guarantees, references. Make sense? But when fear shows up, we don't even ask for identification, because we're so used to it. So why does fear get an automatic authentication while potential requires two-factor authentication.

Starting point is 00:07:51 Isn't that two-factor authentication strange? It's like, would you like to apply two-factor authentication? The reason why we have to do that is because we live in a world where everybody's trying to scam and infiltrate things. I get that. My son works in that field in digital forensic. So why does fear get automatic authentication while potential requires two-factor authentication? Well, it's a matter of trust.

Starting point is 00:08:14 It reminds me of that song. End conditioning. Trust doesn't come from. free, does it? And neither does what we care about. It doesn't come free. They must be developed and conditioned over time. And fear just simply has more validation and more clout than potential because it's been around more. We've been trained to acknowledge and accept and react to things that we're afraid of, which in many cases comes in handy. If you jump out of the way of a car or not move forward in a very high-risk situation or something like that, not take too many risks, you know. So we live in a world that is

Starting point is 00:08:52 breeding fear. Look at social media. I mean, that's why we're so susceptible to distraction as well, because we want to get distracted from this icky feeling. But everywhere you look, fear, fear, fear. So that's why fear gets that VIP. They don't even need identification. You know, it's like they have global entry or something like that, you know. So in writing my new book, which is, by the way, I'm very excited to say that it's set to release in 2007. And the cornerstone, and launch pad of it is what I'm experiencing right now. I can't say the name of it because it's such a cool name that people will steal it. But my new book that is pretty much finished, I'm going through the second and third

Starting point is 00:09:29 renditions of it. But in it, I've been thinking a lot about our daily capacity to care for things in a form of currency. Now, I'll share one of the concepts that I came up with in the book, and that is called currency. Now, currency is a form of currency, but it's really just relating to the idea of what it is that we allow ourselves to care about because it costs us. If you care about something, it's a currency, we call it currency, because it costs us. So it's a novel concept.

Starting point is 00:10:01 It treats your life each day like a wallet or like a bank account. And it has a daily allotment of what we call currency inside of it, meaning you only have so much currency each day. So we wake up every morning with a finite amount of attention, emotional energy, focus, concern, and trust that we have to dole out through each day. So we have to be very careful where we put our trust and our care in a day, don't we? Because once it's spent, you have to wait until it's replenished the next day. We only get it replenished each day. And it's pretty rare that we have like a carryover.

Starting point is 00:10:40 Because if you're the kind of person that says, I don't care about anything. Like I'm wearing a shirt right now that says breaking news, I don't care. That doesn't mean that I don't care about anything. It means, in fact, that I care a lot, but only about specific things. Why? Because I have a selective caring process. We're talking about selective trust today. Selective trust is what prompts what we care about.

Starting point is 00:11:03 So I realized that our parents may have taught us to manage our finances, but most of us were never taught to manage our currency. Now, we may have been taught what to care about, because in our programming, in our conditioning from our mother, father, teacher, preacher, society, and evolution, we might have learned what to care about and what not to care about, but were we ever taught to manage it and identify that it's limited? So that's why I came up with a concept called currency. So as a result of this, never being taught how to manage it, we end up spending it automatically on things like worries, concerns, and things that we cannot control. That's why I gave the analogy of the VIP pass that fear comes in, because I want you to entertain the fact that you're entertaining and doling out your trust and your currency

Starting point is 00:11:54 to things that you don't control, like things that you're afraid of, right? So what happens is we spend this currency frivolously on imagine futures that haven't even happened in most cases, old narratives that we've inherited and opinions that don't matter of other people. Like who gives a shit about other people's opinions? It's such a funny thing to do. Like somebody comes up to you, very often people that don't even know you and then they give their opinion of you. And rather than saying like, huh, and not making your mind up about it yet. running the interface response system, you just take offense to it. Like I always say like, who the fuck is this?

Starting point is 00:12:35 You know, like, how did they come up with an opinion? I didn't ask them for an opinion and all that stuff, right? So I'm very, very protective, and that's what selective trust is, is I'm very, very protective over where I dole out, what I give a shit about. You know, so I very often find myself in my head saying, I'm not sure I give a shit about what you just said, because I didn't ask for it, and I don't even know who you are. So you follow me? So we spend it automatically on worries, concerns, and things that we cannot control.

Starting point is 00:13:03 We spend it frivolously on imagined futures that haven't even in many cases, old narratives that we inherited, we spend it on that, and opinions that don't matter, and fears that are masquerading as facts. How much attention are you giving towards fears that are masquerading as facts? And what happens is we leave behind the things that matter most. Think about that. You come home at the end of the day. We leave behind the things that matter most and the things that move the ball forward in our life, not backwards. So then we wonder why we feel so mentally exhausted and defeated at the end of each day.

Starting point is 00:13:42 Why don't we feel like we have the bandwidth at the end of a day to handle anything more, even if it's something or someone that matters most? It's because we've given all of our care and see out to stupid shit. That doesn't matter. So when you hear me talk about this idea of living my life around what matters most, it's being intentional about where I put my care and attention and my trust. So I always found it strange back in the old days, and this was before I woke up, and if you read my book, you'll see that process take place.

Starting point is 00:14:15 I always found it strange and incongruent how I would have come home after exhausting my myself at work and feel like a victim when I got home that my wife and kids just simply wanted my time. You know, be like, they don't understand what I've just been through. How do they expect me to spend time with them, right? And have a date and things like that. But they would like want my time, energy, and focus. But I would be like a victim to that. Why?

Starting point is 00:14:45 Because I was all out of currency. If you looked at my care wallet, it was empty. It would laugh at me. It was a laughing wallet. So selective trusts asks us to reconsider that entire architecture, and that's what we're going to do now. Now, interestingly, if you like the idea of selective trust, it's not new, right? I didn't just come up with it.

Starting point is 00:15:08 I read it or heard it somewhere the other day, and it inspired me because it fits very nice into my work. It's not a new thing. Developmental psychologist Melissa Conig, Fabrice Clement, Clement, and you. and Paul Harris, three developmental psychologists, that help pioneer research in the early 2000s, showing that even young, young children, which we all were, learn to selectively trust certain sources based on things like reliability and accuracy. In their studies, even at the ages of three and four, and this is all of us, children can evaluate adults, mistakes and accuracy. So they're in evaluation of

Starting point is 00:15:49 the mistakes and accuracy that adults make and build their trust around it. So what that's saying is, it's not saying that, you know, you're not allowed to make mistakes, but this stuff is happening on autopilot. But as we grow, trust becomes a little bit more complicated, less organic. We don't only learn to trust what has proven itself trustworthy. We move to this place where we learn to trust whether our mother, father, teacher, preacher, society and evolution, outside-in influences, in my book I call the programmers, we learned to take what they've done repeatedly and told us repeatedly is trustworthy and worthy

Starting point is 00:16:31 of our currency. So what that means is we care about things that don't really deserve our care. We trust things and people. This is how religion and politics fall into place. we trust things in people that haven't earned our trust. That's what that's saying is we've learned where to spend our currency, not how to manage it, but where to spend it. So family beliefs, cultural norms, authority figures,

Starting point is 00:16:58 political group consensus, religious beliefs, and repeated messages can all become part of the internal authentication system that we did not design. So what does this mean? It means that some of what you automatically trust and care about today may have not earned your care and trust at all. It may simply have been inherited. You just inherited it. And now that you know this, you can start saying, hmm, when you get those feelings, when you start to like automatically find yourself like

Starting point is 00:17:34 allowing fear to come into your nightclub or allowing a concept or allowing something someone says without even looking at the other side, remember we talked about holographic vision, now you realize that you have most likely inherited this. You think that you came up with it on your own and it's your opinion, but a lot of it is inherited. And perhaps becoming an adult isn't just deciding what you believe. It's going back and deciding what still deserves your belief, what still deserves your care, attention, focus, and trust.

Starting point is 00:18:08 So as we awaken and become more conscious that we have a choice in the matter. Oh my God, I have a choice in the matter. So as we awaken, what happens is we shift from making decisions to simply eliminating fear, which is the old model, to recognizing it without automatically believing it. Now, what do we have to do to recognize something? That's perceive, four steps of the interface response system.

Starting point is 00:18:37 And how do we stop ourselves from automatically believing it? we say, hmm, which means haven't made up my mind yet, pause and step into a place where we can go through the processing, which is what we talk about all the time here. Do people label these fears as imposter syndrome to make it easier to ignore them? Hmm. Do people label these fears as imposter syndrome? I guess you're saying is one tactic help make it easier to ignore them? Label it as imposter syndrome? Yeah, sure. I guess so.

Starting point is 00:19:14 That's an interesting take to look at it as imposter syndrome. But if you have a system of entertaining that this could be a form of imposter syndrome or guilt or even easier than that, Tina, label it as something that is just part of your outside in programming, if you can get to that place, it makes it easier not to ignore them, but to contemplate. contemplate whether or not they deserve your time. See, that's the interesting thing. I don't think we can ignore things. We can say that, oh, I don't even pay attention to those people when they talk like that. Of course you do. How would you even know that they're talking like that, right? So we can't really ignore things. And I don't think that running away from things or ignoring them really helps. I think it actually makes them bigger. What I prefer is say, hello, their fear. Hello, their things. that typically gets VIP access, and that's interface response system, I'm just going to say,

Starting point is 00:20:16 hold on a second, like, I'm not going to discount you, but I'm going to allow myself to look at this holographically and take a look around and ask myself what I actually think and what deserves my time. Now, you guys know what it's like when you only have a certain amount of money left in the bank account, right? You start to tighten your belt on what you'll spend it on. You'll say to your husband or your wife, we need to tighten things up. We can't go out to dinner, all these things. Why don't we do that with our currency as well? I'll tell you why, because you don't know,

Starting point is 00:20:48 because nobody taught you that you only have a certain amount of it. But remember, we brought up this idea that if you come home at the end of the night and feel like a victim, just because the people and things that matter most are requiring your attention, this is why people don't pay their bills, this is why people have relationship issues,

Starting point is 00:21:05 and they don't spend enough time with their kids. and I'm not blaming them for that, but it's because they've already just blew their load of care and trust in the day. They're exhausted. They have nothing else until tomorrow. And then they just rinse and repeat the same day. So I don't know if ignoring is a good strategy, Tina, but this is a great, that's a great topic, great insight.

Starting point is 00:21:28 Definitely be on the podcast. That's Jam Sessions with Tina, Tina Eliana. She's got a podcast. I was a guest on her show. But yeah, fascinating. Fascinating. So as we awaken and become more conscious that we have choices in the matter, we shift from making decisions to simply eliminating fear, which is kind of what we were just talking about. We're shifting to recognizing it, right? Recognizing it rather than ignoring it without

Starting point is 00:21:56 automatically believing it. You don't have to automatically care about thing. You don't have to automatically trust, but your programming will tell you because you've been taught to, but you don't have to. That's the choice. So rather than blindly trusting every thought that's generated by an operating system, which we know now, that has been shaped by past experiences, conditioning, survival instincts, and other people's beliefs that might not be truly aligned with where you're at, we learn to become the selective shock caller, and architect of our currency and trust, right? That's the opposite. So rather than just believing everything that pops into our brain, 40 to 70,000 thoughts, right? How do we even do that? Rather than that,

Starting point is 00:22:46 we learn to become the selective shot caller and architect of our currency and trust. So in essence, when you say, hmm, and you pause, you're basically saying, well, I don't know if I care about that. I don't know if I want to spend any of my currency on that. And then all of a sudden you're in this space where you say, me to give it to my kids. I'll give you an example. I'm very, very much working to building my career, right? So let's say I have a guest that wants to come on or an important call, and I'm doing air quotes for people that are just listening. I got an important call coming in, but I'm with my daughter, or my boys are home, or my wife needs my attention because she had a rough day, right? I'm at this place where I got an important call. There is value, but because I've stopped myself and I'm actually

Starting point is 00:23:34 consciously looking around holographically, I can easily identify that that important call doesn't mean shit compared to the things that matter most. So I spend my currency there. Now, where it gets a little bit sticky is when your priorities are out of shape, right? You don't understand. You haven't taken the time to prioritize your life. This is the blessing of cancer, right? When you lose the illusion of the aspect that you're not going to definitely have tomorrow, right? You sit in the present moment and it's very, very easy to see clearly what actually matters. So I'm sorry, that doesn't matter. People say, what are you going to do tomorrow? I mean, I don't know. I was hanging out with my buddy Jim quick yesterday, and he's got a lot on his plate because we've got his limitless live event in Greenwich.

Starting point is 00:24:21 I told you about that before. I'll be hosting and I'm seeing that. We're going to announce the live stream of that soon, which would be, but he was, you know, he's got a lot of things that are happening tomorrow and the next day and the next day. Or even that day, later that day. And he asked me, he goes, what are you doing the rest of the day? And I just gave him my three favorite words. I go, I don't know. Right? I don't know. All I know is I'm just here with you right now, right? Of course, I have plans and I have to pick up my daughter and things like that. But my point is, is that I was just sitting in the present moment because my priority in that moment was the time that I had dedicated to being there as a friend. So this is big, big stuff.

Starting point is 00:25:03 You know, you might only have 36 years. You know, I'm 55 right now. So if you compare my lifespan and my life experience to Hayden's, you know, like, I should feel blessed, right? So anyway, thank you for sharing that. So these are things that will be on the podcast, guys. This is great stuff because it's relevant. So this connects directly with the interface response system, as you can imagine. And that is perceive, pause, process, and proceed.

Starting point is 00:25:30 So just to run through it quickly, step one, perceive. We perceive the fearful thought without becoming it, right? We don't automatically become it. We perceive it, don't ignore it, right, Tina? And then we pause because we understand all of this down. We say, hmm, haven't made up my mind yet before granting it any authority. We don't automatically let fear or anything just pass right in, pass the bouncer into the nightclub. So step three, as a result of the pause,

Starting point is 00:26:00 is process. So we process using the selective trust tools that we've been talking about. We have the sorting filter, the bouncer concept, and we do those things to determine whether what we're experiencing is actual reality, first of all, or conditioning or prediction, all of those things. We can ask ourselves what this is or acknowledge this is just simply an old protective pattern that always rears up that I'm probably never going to get rid of, but now I can acknowledge. This is just an automatic knee-jerk reflex, the way I'm feeling. And that gives us the power to say, but it doesn't get my trust and my currency. I'm not going to spend it in my currency because I'm going to need it for other stuff.

Starting point is 00:26:46 And then we're in this beautiful place where we're not reacting to things anymore. And we can go to step four, proceed, and just consciously move towards what it is that deserves our currency and our currency and our. trust, right? That's the interface response system. If you're interested in that, read the book, make sense, how to rewire your mind and transform your life. This book is really, really powerful if you read it. And also once a month in a couple more weeks, I do a live Zoom that you guys were all welcome to. Reach out to me if you would like to be part of that. And we have a mastermind about all these concepts where you guys ask a lot of questions. So selective trust is not positive thinking, denial or pretending everything is.

Starting point is 00:27:27 going to work out exactly the way we want. That's not what selective trust is. It's about recognizing something far more rational than those things. Fear does not always deserve a higher burden of proof than possibility. It's just the acknowledgement and awareness that fear does not deserve a higher burden of proof than possibility. I love possibility and potential. It's my favorite metric to evaluate when I'm looking at how things are going. And I tell a story in my book about this little boy that was always optimistic.

Starting point is 00:28:07 So the scientist put him in a room full of just piled high horse shit, you know, just smelly poop. And the eternal optimist that he was, they observed him and he was just crawling around rummaging through the poop. And they came and they go, what are you doing? What the hell are you doing? And he says, with all this shit, there's got to be a pony somewhere. So possibility and potential is a very, very cool metric to

Starting point is 00:28:34 evaluate. So consider this. If you don't know what tomorrow holds, this is a good way to look at it. If you don't know what tomorrow holds, then the worst case scenario isn't inherently more truthful than the best case scenario. Think about that. If you don't know, and you don't, you might think, but if you don't know what tomorrow holds, including you don't even know if you're going to make it, it doesn't matter, right? The worst case scenario does not have more truth than the best case scenario. So why not choose the best case scenario? You don't know. So what we've just done, that's a pattern interrupt. If you're the kind of person that's constantly looking at the dark side of things, it's because you didn't know that there was a choice. And you also didn't know that you didn't

Starting point is 00:29:22 really know if those things were going to have. Uncertainty belongs equally in the equation. Uncertainty is a valuable superpower to adapt, to allow yourself to say, I don't know. Because if you don't know about tomorrow, you won't put so much currency into it and you'll be able to take your currency and spend it right in the present moment, unwrap the present moment. So there's actually science behind all of this. There's science behind why the past becomes such a convincing narrator of the future. And here's why. The brain is fundamentally a prediction-making machine, constantly using stored experiences, learn patterns, and emotional memories to anticipate what might happen next. That's how we predict what's going to happen next from the past. That's it. So that's

Starting point is 00:30:13 incredibly useful for things like survival, right, jumping out of the way of a speeding car. But there's a catch, the brain can only predict the future from what it already knows. So yesterday's failures, fears, conditioning, and our training and our programming from our mother father, teacher, preacher can quietly become tomorrow's forecast, but doesn't make it real. Even when your circumstances, abilities, awareness, and possibilities have completely changed. Your reality today can have completely changed, but you could still.

Starting point is 00:30:48 be using old data to predict the future. Why not use the new data? Why not even stop trying to predict the future and just leverage the future by acting in the now? So the past may contain some valuable data, but it's not necessarily reliable as a method of making a prophecy. So that's part of the awakening right there. I'm using poor data to predict my future. So a lot of people that are pessimists or a lot of people that don't believe in themselves. Well, that's why. You know, so sometimes we need people to believe in us before? Well, that's because people see something in you that you can't because you're only looking at yourself through the lenses of your past. Isn't this interesting? So this is why consciously distributing your trust, being conscious about selective trust and where you distribute

Starting point is 00:31:34 your care and your trust, maybe one of the most valuable skills that you could ever develop, instead of letting history automatically author the future. What we can do instead of that is we can pause, nice, process, and then decide which predictions have earned the right to be believed, including none of them. Why do we have to know everything? Often the real work is to prepare the terrain, plant the seed, like till the soil, plant the seed, nourish it, which is all things that you can do, all in your control, and then learn to trust that the roots are going to grow and manifest. Maybe the goal isn't to become more trusting, in fact. Maybe it's to become more selective in what we trust.

Starting point is 00:32:21 Hence the shirt. Breaking news, I don't care. It doesn't mean that I don't care. It just means that I'm very selective in what I care about. This shirt reminds people and myself that I actually care a lot, but just not about stupid shit, because I only have a certain amount of care to spend. So stop automatically trusting fear, demanding guarantees from your potential.

Starting point is 00:32:47 Stop it. Stop spending your currency on thoughts and possibilities that have not yet earned it. Trust the soil. Trust in the growth that you cannot see, but you can trust in it because you've done the work. Most of all, trust in the magic of time. I always ask myself, if I could teach the old version of myself, something that he didn't know yet.

Starting point is 00:33:10 I don't know if I would change anything, but I would just say, just give it time. Just give it time. Tina says, we choose what we run towards. What a great mindset to embrace. Yeah, of course. That we run towards the positive possibilities instead of the worst case scenario. Yeah, and remember something. That's a great insight to take home.

Starting point is 00:33:30 It's a choice, but both of them to run towards the possibilities versus doom and gloom. They both carry uncertainty. So you have to get comfortable with uncertainty. uncertainty because it's foolish to create this positive like I'm going to succeed. Nothing can stop me right now and be 100% certain in that. I know that that sounds weird for me to say, but it's important to understand the uncertainty of everything, to not get too excited about something and to not get too scared of something.

Starting point is 00:34:04 Because remember, all of that stuff, it happens quick, is in the future. and a lot of it's run by the past. And in that, you forget about living in the only space where life is taking place and that's the present. The most valuable thing you can do with your day right now is recognize that this right now, this moment that we're in right now, is as good as it gets. It's the best it's ever going to get right now. And right now.

Starting point is 00:34:32 And right now. That's the way to live your life. If you're living in the future, whether it's fear-based or foolishly positive, which is most people, you're forgetting about the now, which is the only place that life's actually taking place. And most of all, trust in the magic of time. So the question isn't simply, what do you believe? A better question might be this today. What have you been trusting and has it really earned your trust? What have you been trusting lately and caring about lately? and has it really earned your currency and your trust.

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Makes Sense - with Dr. JC Doornick - Why You Trust Fear More Than Your Own Potential - E204

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