Mark Bell's Power Project - Anger Is Expensive, Calm Is Power | #SaturdaySchool

Episode Date: December 27, 2025

Anger feels powerful, but it’s usually expensive. In this episode, we break down why rage pulls people in the wrong direction, how “comment anger” and road rage sneak into everyday life, and why staying at baseline is a real skill you can train.We talk about how anger becomes a habit, how it quietly eats away at your focus and relationships, and why trying to reason with irrational behavior often makes things worse instead of better. We also explore equanimity, the idea of staying at baseline, and why real strength isn’t about domination or reaction, but about control.If you’ve ever wanted to throw your phone into the ocean, explode over a small inconvenience, or get pulled into internet arguments, this is a reminder that you always have a choice. You can react, or you can respond.Calm isn’t weakness. It’s power.Subscribe for more on strength, mindset, and building a sharper life. Drop a comment with the one thing that triggers your anger the fastest.Special perks for our listeners below!🥩 HIGH QUALITY PROTEIN! 🍖 ➢ https://goodlifeproteins.com/ Code POWER to save 20% off site wide, or code POWERPROJECT to save an additional 5% off your Build a Box Subscription!🩸 Get your BLOODWORK/TRT/PEPTIDES! 🩸 ➢ https://marekhealth.com and use code "POWERPROJECT" for 10% off Self-Service Labs and Guided Optimization®.🧠 Methylene Blue: Better Focus, Sleep and Mood 🧠 Use Code POWER10 for 10% off!➢https://troscriptions.com?utm_source=affiliate&ut-m_medium=podcast&ut-m_campaign=MarkBel-I_podcastBest 5 Finger Barefoot Shoes! 👟 ➢ https://Peluva.com/PowerProject Code POWERPROJECT15 to save 15% off Peluva Shoes!Self Explanatory 🍆 ➢ Enlarging Pumps (This really works): https://bit.ly/powerproject1Pumps explained: https://youtu.be/qPG9JXjlhpM?si=JZN09-FakTjoJuaW🚨 The Best Red Light Therapy Devices and Blue Blocking Glasses On The Market! 😎➢https://emr-tek.com/Use code: POWERPROJECT to save 20% off your order!👟 BEST LOOKING AND FUNCTIONING BAREFOOT SHOES 🦶➢https://vivobarefoot.com/powerproject🥶 The Best Cold Plunge Money Can Buy 🥶 ➢ https://thecoldplunge.com/ Code POWERPROJECT to save $150!!➢ https://withinyoubrand.com/ Code POWERPROJECT to save 15% off supplements!➢ https://markbellslingshot.com/ Code POWERPROJECT to save 15% off all gear and apparel!Follow Mark Bell's Power Project Podcast➢ https://www.PowerProject.live➢ https://lnk.to/PowerProjectPodcast➢ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/markbellspowerproject➢ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/markbellspowerproject

I think that anger is one of the dumbest things that exists. I have zero road rage. Nothing makes you angry. Your choices make you angry. You can take a pause on just about anything. That anger, it's almost like a blow torch. And it's cool if it burns certain things down, but you don't want it to burn up everything around you.

As a man, you have a lot of power and a lot of strength, but the power and strength is for protection. I think that anger is one of the dumbest things that exists. And I want to talk about anger in some different ways, and I want to expose it because I think that anger is an emotion that can really, it can pull us in the wrong direction. I do think that sometimes maybe a little bit of anger can help with some motivation. But oftentimes, I think the anger that we may show when we're, you know, making a comment on Instagram making a comment on YouTube I think some of those things are not really good

opportunities to help change or improve much of anything and it's just you know maybe it's just like venting but this all came about because I saw somebody talking about their spouse and they were like oh he's got a lot of road rage you know and I thought how how interesting that is because I have zero road rage. I have experienced before, especially when my children were like little and they were in the car and stuff like that, I have experienced people cutting me off doing very dangerous things in the car where I'm thinking like, hey, I got my kids in here, you know, like this sucks, you know, and I have been frustrated with that before, beeped the horn before, late on the horn before.

But typically, I have basically zero road rage. And it just kind of got me to think like, is a fool's game. It's something where you end up having resentment or you end up having this anger or this rage for or against somebody or something that they did. And really, I think it kind of eats away at us. It eats away at you ultimately. And even there's even there's so many thoughts that we have throughout a day. How many of them are how many of them are related to jealousy, anger, hatred, you might think to yourself, oh, I don't have any of those. And I would like to think that I don't have any of those, but I do. And they sometimes happen, boom, they sometimes happen real quick. But then they kind of dissipate because there's like a logical side of

you that talks yourself out of that. No, I shouldn't be thinking that way. Why don't I think a little bit more this way? You ever do this with anybody? I know I have. You ever see somebody's post and you think, oh, that's kind of stupid. And then you're like, you know what? I'll just give it a like because I like the person and I like their message overall. And maybe you don't agree with that particular message that they have at that moment. But anger can really burn you up and it can really be a nasty thing. And I've saw it firsthand with my oldest brother. Keep in mind, my oldest brother, Mike, he was also mentally ill. And this time of year, I usually shoot a video and talk about him, but I haven't done that, haven't had the opportunity to quite do that this year yet.

But my oldest brother, he died very young. I think he was about 37 years old when he passed. And he was bipolar. And so I saw these like fits of rage that just didn't make any sense to me. And they were, it had a powerful impact on me. It was, it was scary. It was downright frightening the reactions that he could have. They didn't always result in like violence and stuff like that. Sometimes they did, but for the most part, he was able to curtail that side of himself, but man, it just got to be, it got to be pretty nasty. So when I think of anger, I sometimes think of what I saw from him. But at the same time, a flaw that I recognized in myself was that sometimes with my oldest brother,

I was trying to apply, and some of you might understand this, if you have someone in your family that's bipolar or you have somebody that has a lot of anger or if you have somebody that is addicted to drugs, you can't apply rational thought to somebody who is typically irrational. It seems rational to you and it makes sense to you because of the way your brain operates and the way that things work for you. But it doesn't work the same way for them. Again, they may be addicted to drugs. They may also be by bipolar. Or they may also just be angry for whatever reason. They might have a little bit more piss and vinegar in them than you do. So when it comes to that, you're not going to be able to

really, you can't tell someone like that to calm down. It doesn't work that way. They, they could possess the ability to calm down, but it's going to take a long time. It would be a skill set for them to learn how to calm themselves down. For myself over the years, the way that I was able to develop a very calm demeanor is something I've worked on for many years. I think as a kid, I think I was naturally maybe a little bit calmer than some others, not real excitable one way or the other, whether it be positive or negative. I was never really high. I was never like, you know, someone gave me a Christmas present.

I'm not going to like break out in some sort of dance. I wasn't going to like open up a gift or something on my birthday and like run sprints around the house. and like, you know, just be super exuberant. I just don't express myself that way. So I had some advantages probably coming into this whole thing when it comes to trying to figure out how to balance the mind and how to have some equanimity.

But equanimity was something that I studied over the last several years. And that has really helped me because one of the definitions of equanimity is to have a balanced mind at a time where somebody else's emotions may be thrown off. And so with equanimity, you have like this, you have this bandwidth. You have this bandwidth of equanimity to be within these kind of normal ranges of emotions. And you could still go up and you could still go down,

but you're still within here. And this is something that was taught to me by my buddy James Smith. if you say how you're doing he says I'm at baseline rather than saying he's doing great or rather than saying he's doing amazing or rather saying he's doing shitty or rather than saying oh man I didn't tell you about you know this tragic thing that happened he just says I'm at baseline because when you're when you're at baseline you're able to control your emotions a little easier and you're not trying to control them so you suppress them you're not trying to stuff them down. I'm not saying that you can't be reactionary. I'm not saying that you can't be who you

are. Some people watch a football game and they love, I love football, but I'm not the guy who watches the football game and like spice something on the ground because I'm pissed because my team threw an interception or something like that. I'm just like, ah, crap. I wish that they played better. I wish they didn't suck today. Those are my kind of reactions. And being a long time Jets fan, imagine how mad I would actually be since they haven't won a Super Bowl since. 1969, which is many years before I was born, many years before, probably all of you listening were born. So I just kind of have recognized anger to be, it's an ugly thing. I think if you were to think about you're having some sort of fit of anger about your dishwasher not working or something

like that, and you went to place something in there and something broke and now you're super pissed, or you went to make your protein shake for the morning, you meant to make your steak shake, got it all prepared. You mixed the coffee and the steak shake and you threw all these different supplements and ingredients in there. And then you went to, you know, finally shake it up and the cup exploded and just went everywhere. You just dropped everything all over the floor. And it had creatine. It had glutamine. It had all the stuff that you want in there. And you spent 10 minutes putting it all together. Now it just exploded all over the ground or even worse. How many of you had that happen where it explodes all over your car? That's the worst.

You know, you drop it or he didn't have the lid on all the way and it just goes everywhere. Well, in those moments, of course, it's going to make sense to be mad. But how mad do you get? And for how long? So imagine, you know, I, you know, I, you know, spill my protein shake all over my car, which is disgusting, right? Say it's the middle of summer. That's going to be a really bad mess. The stuff's going to get everywhere.

Maybe I don't have time to clean it. Maybe I have to go to work and podcasts and so on. it's, you know, super hot out and it's going to get all disgusting, you know, while I'm podcasting, all these different things, right? And you think about that could make you angry, but imagine if I'm angry for the whole day because of that, or imagine if I'm angry for a handful of days because of that, or for the week. Like, when does, when does that time pass when you can still have that emotion?

Maybe you're angry that someone that's close to you died. Okay, well, that's some serious shit, right? I've had my brother die. I've had my mother die. I've had really close friends of mine die. And yes, I've gotten sad about it. And yes, I've sometimes even gotten mad about it. But how long am I going to be, you know, how long do I hang on to that for? Do I hang on? Some people hang on to it for the whole life. My dad died when I was 10 and they're just going to, they're going to anchor that. They're going to hang on to that with everything they got. And maybe, you know, for that person, maybe it would be

helpful to go to therapy or maybe it's helpful for them. they obviously feel it's helpful for them to hang on to that, otherwise they probably wouldn't. So there's some sort of strategy that they've learned from that where that is actually assisting them in their life in some way, whether it's to be more guarded and not let people get too close or whether it's to be, you know, like a type A personality, like an alpha male or something like that, somebody that is just going to make sure they take care of so much stuff. that they don't have to rely on anybody else because they dealt with their chat that tragedy from when they're young sometimes I think anger you've

hear people talk about a chip on your shoulder I think a chip on your shoulder is a little bit different than just straight up anger but I guess they can be considered to be similar having a little bit of a chip on your shoulder this idea that people don't think you're gonna make it or this idea that somebody thinks you're too short too slow too fat too dumb, too whatever, insert, they think that you're not good enough to make it in whatever thing that you're trying to make it in, whether it's filmmaking or becoming a marathon runner or jiu-jitsu practitioner, whatever it is that you're trying to do, somebody thinks that

you ain't shit in trying to do that. Well, yeah, you can, I think that's like a chip on the shoulder. Oh, I'm going to show them. I'm going to throw in an extra couple sets because my training partner, he thinks he's going to beat me, you know. And he might beat me for now, and he might beat me over the next couple weeks. And maybe it's possible that he beats me for the next couple of years,

but he's not going to be able to beat me overall. I had a training partner years ago that trained with a lot of anger in him. And he ended up squatting 1160, 1160 pounds. He squatted 1160 pounds, completely ridiculous. That's unbelievable, right? And so that strategy for that kind of worked for him. But he had trouble shutting that anger off when it came to other stuff.

And so it can sort of make you, it can end up being a little dysfunctional. You can have that chip on your shoulder. But be careful how long you wear that chip. And are you going to wear it for everything against everybody? Because that, that anger, you know, it's like, it's almost like a, it's almost like a, like a blow torch, you know, they have aimed in like a particular direction and it's cool if it burns certain things down, but you don't want it to burn up everything around you and you don't want it to burn everybody around you, right?

You want it to be able to burn this particular task so you can be more successful so you can be better at something rather than just being pissed or just being angry. But at a young age, seeing my oldest brother, you know, have these first. frustrations and have this anger, even though for him it was maybe a little bit more uncontrollable because he was diagnosed as being bipolar, as I mentioned earlier. To me, I still thought in my head, because I was young at the time, I still thought to myself, like, there's just no reason to react that way. Like, that is so, that is so over the top. You know, you play a video game and you say F and maybe you throw the controller down or something, right? That's pretty normal. That's

pretty normal somebody playing a video game somebody else beats you right but is it normal to like you know slam the controller as hard as you can and then like try to break the controller and smash it and get up and like stomp on it and take a hammer to it like there's a point where it just gets to be like you're like whoa whoa whoa wait a second here uh you're thinking you know that at some point it gets to be over the top at some point it gets to be a waste of energy So how do you become somebody that maybe doesn't have these knee-jerk reactions where you just have a fit of rage or fit of anger so quickly? Well, for the most part, it might not seem like it, but you can take a pause on just about anything. Now, if you're, you know, walking down the street and someone tries to rob you or something like that,

you don't have the same amount of options available to you as you would in normal situations. When somebody's trying to harm you or hurt you or hurt a family member, specifically, especially through like physical force, those situations are a little bit different than what I'm describing here because you'd have to react quickly to that, right? Most things in life, though, somebody cuts you. off on the road, okay, maybe you're, maybe you're mad. Maybe you're, you know, maybe that bandwidth of equanimity. Maybe you just bumped up towards the top, right? But you're still not going over. And then from there, you can actually think about it a little bit more and say, I don't

know, maybe that person didn't see me. Or maybe you can leave your house a little bit earlier so that you're not in a rush in the first place. Because I think a lot of times when we get mad, and this is one reason why I don't like being mad. And this is one reason why I don't like being mad. And this This is one reason why I've worked hard on not getting mad because I think that we all know who you're actually mad at. You're mad at yourself. And that enrages you even more because you're not doing the things that you're supposed to be doing. You're not doing the things you're supposed to be doing on time. You're maybe slightly behind on some of these things and you kind of know that.

And so then you feel this like extra pressure that you have to get shit done. And now this guy is in your way. way, but he's not really in your way, this car that just swerved in your way, they're only in your way because you left a little bit too late. So when I try to think about these moments, I always realize I have time. You know, my wife tells me something, my wife gives me an input about the situation that's happening with some family and some family members and so forth. I don't immediately, I might not even say anything, which sometimes my wife doesn't really love.

She'll be like, what do you think? I'm like, you just gave me, you gave me a bunch really to think about. And I, I might not be able to get back to you for a day or two. Sometimes things are a little bit more urgent than that, but that's what I, that's what I do. Time to me is something that allows me, to start to think, oh my God, I have so many choices on the way that I deal with this particular scenario. It's hard sometimes for me to give you real life, real life particular situations because

I don't want to out people that are like close to me. I don't want to out people that I love and care about. I also don't want to out my children and stuff like that. But I did have a situation as a parent where we were just in a tough spot and in that moment I told my wife I said hey let me deal with this situation and I would love it if you didn't think about this situation any further because your mind's going to be raced in this direction that direction and so forth I said let me just panelists with our kid one-on-one. I'm to discuss everything with them and go over the different options. And she didn't want to do it, but she did it. And I communicated to my kid about exactly, you know, what I think should be done and actually ask them, what do you think should

happen and they had a great response and then we talked openly about options and again i i wish i could be more specific but i don't i don't want to be too specific with some of the some of the details but you kind of you kind of catch my drift uh there was a particular situation that happened it was serious and my wife and i were going to talk to our child about it and we were going to you know discuss it and try to go over the different things and that's a real easy situation as a parents just get mad and say you're grounded this is happening that's happening we're there's no conversation you know this stuff's not going to happen you know when you live under my roof and all that and i can't believe you did this and this is you know we didn't we didn't get in all that

because i recognize i don't think that's going to be an effective strategy and so for some of you that maybe have dealt with anger and maybe have had bouts of anger, hopefully you can realize that I'm not saying that you can't be angry, I'm just saying maybe you can do a better job of trying to calm yourself down and say, you know what, I think I have some time to think this through and think this over before I go speeding up next to that guy who just cut me off and flipping him the finger because who knows what the result of that could be. When you're making a comment on the internet, when you're, normally it doesn't turn into anything,

but I've heard of these things turning into things before. I've heard of people getting like knocked out in gyms and stuff like that before because someone made a comment about them. Somebody knew somebody else that knew this person. They followed him to the gym and they punched a guy out. Normally there's not any consequences of these things and I think that we feel that we're going to get away with it. But there are consequences to being negative.

There's consequences to be in an asshole. There's consequences to having these little fits of rage that we don't think there's a consequence for. It's also in like our heart. It's in our body. It's in our body, mind, and our spirit that we're just starting to become that kind of a person. Or maybe we're that kind of a person with certain things. as I've over the years have combed over the different things that sometimes can make me angry, make me angry. Let's talk about that for a second. Nothing can make you anything, right?

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Nothing makes you fat. Your choices make you fat. Nothing makes you angry. Your choices make you angry. You don't have to be angry. Again, yes, I understand there are some situation in life that happen where, of course, you can be a little bit more angrier than other times. There's going to be times where you're not going to be happy.

I mentioned many times that I've never had a bad day. That doesn't mean that all my days are good or great. It just means that I have viewed things from my perspective and I've gone through all my previous years of life on this earth, even on the day that my brother died or the day that my mother died, I could see a lot of good in it. My mother and my brother were both basically very serious. sick. They were designed to be here, at least this is my belief. They were designed to be here

only a certain amount of time. My mom died at 69. My brother died at 37. And my mom died of heart disease. So when I think about that, I think, okay, well, you have a family member that died of heart disease. Maybe you should pay attention to your own health, right? And so that's been helpful for me to start to pay attention to a little bit more of those things. But also, my mother's life was very compromised and my brother's life was very compromised. So even just thinking about them being alive, it would be great to give them one more hug, big kiss on a cheek. It'd be great to have them here for the holidays and all these different things. But when I think about that, I just think, man, that's super selfish because they, they were having a rough time. My brother was really having a

rough time from a mental health perspective. And my mother from a physical health perspective was just having such a rough time. So one of the reasons why it's easy for me to talk about without getting super emotional is because of that. Like I'm grateful that they don't have to suffer through what they were suffering through any further. And also, as many of you know, the real the realistic perspective of this is that's a lot of weight on a family when you have when you have a man down you have a family member that's hurting you have a family member that is you might say all kinds of crazy stuff about these family members sometimes because you're so broken up about what's going on with them they're just in such a rough they're just in such a rough space that you wish they would do a

be or C to get themselves out of it. But a lot of times they're not going to. And that's your wish and you're placing your your wish on them that they're probably not going to ever do because they don't feel the same way that you do. They don't feel healthy and strong and they don't feel vibrant. And that's why I'm always talking about health and nutrition and talking about trying to, I don't always make the healthiest choices, but I try to make choices that allow me to wake up each day and feel as vibrant and as strong as I can be each and every day so I can attack each and every day with everything that I got. But I think, you know, as I'm kind of thinking through some of this and thinking over the things

over the years that, again, made me angry, I start to realize that only you yourself can put yourself in that situation to make yourself mad in the first place. But in addition to that, I can think of things that still like bug me, right? For example, one of the things that can bug me sometimes is this little device right here. Anybody ever felt like throwing this off a bridge or just driving yourself right off a bridge with this thing because this thing can drive you crazy sometimes or just technology in general. that is an area for me because I don't I'm not great with it that can sometimes drive me kind of crazy it can you know quote unquote make me mad but then if you just think about a situation from a logical

perspective okay I'm having trouble downloading this thing on my phone okay I'm having a hard time with this app right and think about what do you blame you blame the app you blame the phone This thing's a real piece of shit. Who the hell designed this thing? This thing's so stupid. But it's all just, it's like, I also just put a mirror in front of you, just bounce it all back towards you.

You don't have an understanding of how to use this, how to utilize this technology. This is one reason why, see, I don't have a problem with like getting rid of certain things. Getting rid of a phone would be a very difficult task. But I got rid of a computer years ago for this very reason. I'm like, you know what the hell is this thing? I'm just going to get rid of it.

Then I also got rid of communicating with anyone via email. I'm like, let's just get rid of it. And it's not even that email that's that complicated, but it just added one more component to things, and it made me hold on to my either laptop or computer. And I was like, you know what, if I just get rid of that, that'll just get rid of all this other stuff, right? So those might be things that you might have to do for yourself.

But yeah, I can think about it like technology. Even while I was driving here today, I have a new car. I should be very grateful that I have a new car. How awesome is that? But I'm like pushing these buttons on the car. I'm trying to get my Bluetooth to sync up. And for some reason today, it just wasn't syncing up. Now, I can either, I can be really pissed about that.

I can say how dumb it is. I can call my wife and complain to her and then put all that on her for no apparent reason. Those don't seem like great options, right? I can either say to myself, okay, why don't I look at this at some other time? while I'm not on the freeway while I'm not on my way to an appointment and I can deal with this at some other time could that be dealt with at some other time of course it could very easy very easy to do so the thing that I wanted to listen to I just put it on pause I put my phone down I was like I'll just I'll just

get its opportunity to listen to that later today so I think one thing that can help combat anger is a little bit of patience. But I think, you know, what I'm mentioning about technology for me, maybe you guys can start to think about what are the things that really, what are things that really that bug you. And sometimes you might have, this might mean you might have to communicate with a loved one, with a friend. I tend to be late for everything almost all the time. Let me rephrase that. I tend to be late for everything all the time. And so my wife, she'll say, hey, we got to go do this thing at like 11.30.

And that usually means that we have to do it at 12 because she wants me there, like on time. I still manage to be late to stuff. And so those are some areas that might make her mad, right? But then we just have to communicate and say, hey, no, I'm serious. This thing that we're going to is super important. And then I can, you know, assist me with Megan. sure that I'm not making her mad. But you can kind of see how this can, I've had situations in life where people sometimes will say, man, I can't believe you're so calm with that.

And I sometimes think to myself, well, what are the other options that I have? Like when this YouTube channel was taken down, a lot of people was like, I think you handled that with a lot of class. That was really cool. Well, what are the way I'm going to, I'm going to handle? I don't own Google. I don't own YouTube. I'm happy to beyond YouTube, I think it's amazing. And I'm grateful that there's a platform where I can make videos to share with people and I can get paid for it. That's unbelievable. But it also sounds like to me that if I'm going to be on a platform like that and I'm going to be kind of employed by somebody, well, I got to play by some of their rules at least. I can't just go rogue and just do whatever

I want. And people like, what a lot of freedom of speech? And I hear people say this all the time. like you can't say that anymore you can't say this anymore you can't say this racist thing you can't say this thing about homosexuality or can't say this about trans or you can say all of it and you can say all of it as much as you want you just might not be able to do it on a public platform like this because there's rules to some of this stuff right even those things are things that even me just mentioning some of the even just some of the words that I just said might stir some of you up sometimes. Even if somebody says something about the Republican Party or even somebody he says something about politics in general, it can have a tendency to like quote unquote make somebody

man. Somebody could say something about a particular party. You could be listening to this person for 10 years. You could really love this person's content. And then they make a political comment and you're like, I'm done. I'm out. And you know, that might be the best bet for you because you recognize, you know what, that this happened recently with Eminem. A lot of stuff that Eminem has said in the last couple years, I'm like, ah, I don't really, I don't really vibe with that. But at the same time, I love Eminem's music. I'm never going to leave that music. And I'm never going to not love what he's done as an artist, right? But I understand why some people are like, you know what, I'm just done with this whole thing like I did with my laptop.

like I've done with my PC. So sometimes you might have to make almost an irrational move to get rid of or to completely discard a particular person. But think about that for a second. Like if you get really charged up and get these super negative thoughts from following the Liver King or from following Elaine Norton or any of these social media people that have just, they've executed really well,

done really well. They're viewed by millions of people. And you are like, I hate this guy. Well, I guess the next question is like, okay, well, why are you following them for? You know, why are you consuming their content? Are you consuming it? Because you like doing that. You like, you know, you like that side of yourself. You like getting mad. And I think I'm not saying that you have to necessarily unfollow everybody that you don't like and that you have to like, you know, live in this cave, but it just might be something to think about. Why do I hate this person? Why do I hate Thomas DeLauer? Thomas is a good friend of mine. Why do I hate Thomas to Lauer?

Is it because he's good looking, he's got a chiseled jaw and he's ripped and he's rich? Well, that's a great thing for you to communicate with yourself about. Why do you hate that? Is that something that you find super valuable that you want to have that you're not there yet with, and it's not necessarily even making you mad or angry, but it's just making you jealous. I think the sooner that you can recognize that nothing is making you any which way,

you are making yourself a particular way, and you have a choice within that. Anger is an ugly thing, and many of you saw what D.K. Metcalfe did to the Detroit Lions fan, D.K. Metcalfe playing for the Pittsburgh Steelers. He's on the team there with Aaron Rogers. And obviously something happened with a fan, or the fan said something or did something. It pissed D.K. Metcalf off, and he went over to the fan, he grabbed him, and then it looked like he threw like an upward punch at the guy.

Luckily, it didn't even look like the punch really landed. But just imagine, you know, what would the consequences be for D.K. Metcalf if something greater happened, you know, if the guy, if he pulled the guy out of the stands and the guy landed on the ground, the guy could have been seriously injured or hurt, or who knows, even, maybe. maybe even worse. As a fan of football and as a fan of sports over the years, I just kind of think that the players need to not allow whatever words were said to hurt them or to bother them in any particular way. I think about like sort of how ridiculous that is. Like D.K. Metcalf is playing a professional football game and his feelings were hurt.

And so he went over to like inflict. pain on the guy because what the guy was saying hurt his feelings. It sounds completely ridiculous. Professional athletes should be held to a higher standard of having temperance, equanimity, having the ability to have a balanced mind in the face of something that would otherwise throw somebody else's temperament off. You know, your average person doesn't have to deal with a heckler, but they shouldn't have to deal with a heckler. A professional athlete, that's part of being a professional athlete. People are going to heckle you.

They're going to talk trash and they're going to try to throw you off your game, which obviously that guy did to DK Metcalf. Now, you know, I think if someone's being really loose-lipped and they're running their mouth, they kind of do in general deserve to have consequences for those actions. You can't really just say whatever you want to somebody else. However, this is in the context of like a football game. And even if the guy had like a racial slur or said something about D.K. Metcalfe that was personal.

I still don't view. I can't view any scenario. Now, I guess I can view one scenario. One scenario would be if D.K. Metcalf is not playing the game and he's out, you know, he's out just with his family and somebody's tackling him. That is a little different. That's a little different. You know, if you feel like you're, you know, somebody's like, you know, not only really being rude, but also maybe a little threatening, then maybe that person deserves to be checked.

That sounds to me more reasonable and more understandable. But what I didn't understand about the game is that this happened a little bit before halftime. And I know the refs didn't see it and so forth, but I know the entire NFL saw it and everybody else saw it. But I don't understand why it wasn't kicked out of the game immediately. because if he was to punch a ref, if he was to grab a ref by the shirt and jab him like that, he'd be done.

If he did that to an opposing player, he would be done. If he did that to a coach, he would be done. The only person he can probably punch and maybe continue to play the game would be maybe another one of his own teammates, because I've seen that happen before, and that usually gets sort of resolved amongst the team and stuff like that, and the NFL usually finds them and stuff like that. To me, this particular action, you know, it just, it just demonstrates, you know, what I'm talking about, when I'm talking about anger and how anger can be an ugly thing.

When you view it as an outsider and you see it happening, you remember that game years ago with the Detroit, oh, wait, was it the Detroit Pistons? Yeah, yeah, was, oh, Detroit Pistons, I think, and the Pacers. So Detroit involved, once again. but yeah and the and the pacer's players a couple other players went into the crowd and started you know getting to fight with a fan that was a little bit different because the ball went out of bounds and the players ended up in the stands and I think the player kind of got frustrated he got frustrated with somebody I don't remember if somebody threw a drink on him or something like that see that's physical like it man if you're if you're going to do something physical to somebody it's hard it's hard especially these pro athletes these guys are they're they're

they're taught to be aggressive like that's you know and we're expecting them to act like like a regular person all the time they're not going to all the time especially if you try to throw something at somebody or do something like that there's also the case where like dennis rodman he hits into the cameraman and he gets frustrated and he kicks the cameraman pretty good to me it's like that's sort of understandable too because it's kind of like dude get the F out of the way like you know I'm diving for these balls like this is my job and I don't know why these cameramen are allowed to be so close like some stuff is just stupid and I don't think that guy deserved to be kicked it's probably an older gentleman he probably had he probably had nothing to do with nothing he's just there like every other

cameraman is. And so he definitely didn't deserve that. But it's a little bit more understandable because there's like physical contact at least and the person is frustrated for, you know, a split second. But for D.K. Metcalf to get like tangled up with that guy at all doesn't make any sense. I mean, these athletes, they get paid a lot of money because they are extraordinary. There's just no other way to put it. They're extraordinary. They have extraordinary work ethic. They have extraordinary genetics. They have, and D.K. Metcalf is the ultimate example of the extraordinary. I mean, he is, um, he's literally like out of this world. There's nobody else that looks like him.

There's no one else that can run as fast as him as him, be as big as him. And so it would be great if he was able to, you know, take that back and notch. But I guess, you know, what's done is done. I just think anger is an ugly thing. And I think that as a man, I think one of the cool things about being a man is that you have a lot of power and a lot of strength, but the power and strength is for protection. It's not to go and inflict and impose yourself on other people. It's not to go around and beat up other people. It's not to go around and be angry and to want to get into a fight with everybody. I think one of the almost like definitions of a man is that you do have this power, you do have this skill set, you do have, you have all these

things, but you're not going to use them. You're not going to use them. You're going to have, you're going to be manly enough to turn the other cheek. You're being manly enough to walk the other way. You'd be manly enough to understand, yes, it's nice to be able to turn it on if I have to protect somebody, if I have to do something, but do I really need to do something? But do I really need to do something right now did like what d k metcalf did like what's he protecting he's just looking dumb i mean to me it just looks foolish uh and most of the time when you see these athletes acting out like that it it's not a good look but even for your average everyday person you know that it uh ends up with like uh road rage and some of these other things that you that uh we experience where you get really

mad for a little bit. I think you're better off taking a second and taking a little bit of pause and maybe trying to apply a different, trying to select a different emotion to it so that you're not angry and that you don't do something foolish over something stupid because a lot of times our emotions can negatively impact. That's the main thing is you don't want your emotions. I mean, it's okay to say oh f here here and there it's oh shit here and there or whatever it's okay to do some of that but you don't want your emotions to override your thoughts on what you're actually going to do you don't want your emotions to have such a big impact on the actions that you take and that's the biggest thing because i mean dk metcalf i mean he still might have got fine he could have flipped

the guy off or he could have grabbed one of his buddies and been like you hear what that guy's saying That guy's an idiot. He's talking so much trash. It's ridiculous. I remember one time Shaquille O'Neal talking about a fan that was heckling him. And Shaq is just dunking on this guy left and right. It's just, you know, Shaq's unstoppable. He's just dunking on him, dunking on him, dunking on him. And this fan is yelling at Shaq and he's like, my boy, blah-da-da, he's kicking your ass. Look at him. He's kicking your ass.

And Shaq is literally dunking on this guy every play. And so Shaq just thought it was funny. And so he told the guy's on the bench, And everyone just starts like dying laughing. They're like, this guy, he's still talking trash, even though I'm completely dominating this entire team. So you get the opportunity to look at things from whatever point of view you actually want.

I think sometimes we don't really realize that we have the ability to change our point of view very easily just by moving our emotions into a different framework. I remember my daughter, she's probably like, eight or nine years old. And we got into this discussion in the car. By the way, parents, drive your kids a bunch of places. Just trust me, drive your kids a bunch of places.

There's going to be times when your kid is 13, 14 and stuff like that where they don't say a word the whole time you're driving them. But driving places because you're going to have some of the best conversations with your children probably in the car. It's not about them going to hockey practice or whatever practice you're dropping them off for. It's not about their performance at football or in that stuff. Whenever my wife was like, hey, can you pick up, Clint? I'm like, yep, count me in.

Even though it might be 30 minutes one way, 30 minutes the other, even though it might be traffic and blah, da, da, da, da, da. Get great conversations with your children when you're in the car. Parents, you know what's up already. Some of you're shaking your heads probably going, oh yeah. My daughter and I were talking about emotions. We were talking about certain things. And she goes, oh, yeah, she goes, I learned that in school.

She made it seem like it was no big deal. She's like, I learned that in school last year. You know, keep in mind, she's a little girl. She's like seven years old. Or maybe she was like eight or nine. She's like, yeah, I learned that last year. And because I was telling her about emotions. And I was telling her how you get to pick and choose your reactions to certain things.

You know, if you were to think about your emotions as a drop-down, you know, it's like you click on it and has a little drop-down thing. Well, you get to pick, you know, angry, mad, sad, glad, happy, exuberant, just all these different emotions. Once you click on emotion that you want to apply to your mother telling you that she loves you. Or your mother telling you that she's sick and tired, your room, you know, looking the way it's looking and that your ass is going to be kicked out of the house if you don't start picking up your room. You get to select the emotion.

You get to select your reaction to that. it might be difficult it might be difficult to uh not be frustrated um but you know you get this idea that you you can select those things and when i was telling my daughter about some of that she was like yeah she's like we learned that last year in school i was like what i was like you learn that last year in school and she goes yeah our teacher just uh randomly started talking about uh because one of the kids got real emotional in class and um she said you know hey you know sometimes I think the kid just had like the kid was reacting to like a food they were eating or something they were eating snacks or something in the class and the kid was like oh that

tastes like crap or something and had a reaction like that and then they all started talking about emotions and so the teacher just said hey you know you know I want to point out that sometimes saying something like that might be insulting to somebody You know, if you were to say that at someone's home, it might be insulting. And then they started kind of talking about emotions from there, which is kind of a super interesting thing that they talked about that in school. But I think that's kind of neat. If they mentioned, you have the opportunity to attach whatever emotion to this particular

thing that you want. So in conclusion, try to find a way to be less angry, try to find a way to be more positive, realize that the information that I'm spitting out, I'm just trying to be as positive as it can be. And yes, I do throw some punches here and there and do say some things here and there that might not be viewed as being super positive, but I'm always just trying to arm you guys with the best possible stuff that I can arm you with. And when I think about fitness and strength and some of the stuff that I've been working on and building on for a long time it's really just to build build a skill set and protect yourself from this world because

there can be things that can beat you down there can be things that are tough you're going to go through some rough times and if you can go through some rough times and some tough times with thicker skin if you can go through some rough times with a good mindset if you can go through some rougher times with a little bit more muscle masks maybe a little bit less body fat if you can go into something a little bit healthier, you're going to be way better off. Now, what if we just apply that to the mind too, and your mind is a little sharper, your mind is a little bit stronger, and you have this balanced mind that understands that you can learn and do nearly anything. There might be some limits on what you can do, but there's definitely

no limits on what you can learn. There's no limits on what you can learn. You can learn physics. Now, it might be hard for you to learn physics on a level of somebody that has been studying it for years and years and years. You also may know and understand that if you have dove into health and fitness and you start listening to people talking about motor units and muscle fibers, like, man, it's a lot sometimes. The central nervous system, how to build a strength, rest intervals, sets, reps. Like, how easy is it for you to understand sets and reps right now? For some of you that have been following for a long time, you're like, oh my God, sets and reps, yeah.

Well, sets and reps is new to somebody else. So you could be the same thing if you were trying to study physics. You were trying to study something that's really hard. And I think that if we just understand that we can be better at anything, maybe you have a little bit more anger than some other people. people. And maybe you have your reasons for it. Maybe you feel that your reasons are validated. But it still doesn't mean that you can't work on these things. It still doesn't mean that you can't be better at it. So it might be challenging. It might be difficult. But you'll be

able to find a way if you are willing to work on it. Strength is never weakness. This week, this is never strength. Catch you guys later.