Mark Bell's Power Project - MBPP EP. 623 - Modern Dating Poses New Challenges For Men and Women

Episode Date: November 15, 2021

Recorded just before Mark embarked on a vacation with his wife overseas, we asked him how he and his wife have had a successful marriage, Nsima and Andrew share what went wrong in the past for them and some huge red flags we ignore when we're in the middle of a relationship. Special perks for our listeners below! ➢Vertical Diet Meals: https://verticaldiet.com/ Use code POWERPROJECT for free shipping and two free meals + a Kooler Sport when you order 16 meals or more! ➢Vuori Performance Apparel: Visit https://vuoriclothing.com/powerproject to automatically save 20% off your first order! ➢Magic Spoon Cereal: Visit https://www.magicspoon.com/powerproject to automatically save $5 off a variety pack! ➢8 Sleep: Visit https://www.eightsleep.com/powerproject to automatically save $150 off the Pod Pro! ➢Marek Health: https://marekhealth.com Use code POWERPROJECT15 for 15% off ALL LABS! Also check out the Power Project Panel: https://marekhealth.com/powerproject Use code POWERPROJECT for $101 off! ➢LMNT Electrolytes: http://drinklmnt.com/powerproject ➢Piedmontese Beef: https://www.piedmontese.com/ Use Code "POWERPROJECT" at checkout for 25% off your order plus FREE 2-Day Shipping on orders of $150 Subscribe to the Podcast on on Platforms! ➢ https://lnk.to/PowerProjectPodcast Subscribe to the Power Project Newsletter! ➢ https://bit.ly/2JvmXMb Follow Mark Bell's Power Project Podcast ➢ Insta: https://www.instagram.com/markbellspowerproject ➢ https://www.facebook.com/markbellspowerproject ➢ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mbpowerproject ➢ LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/powerproject/ ➢ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/markbellspowerproject ➢TikTok: http://bit.ly/pptiktok FOLLOW Mark Bell ➢ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marksmellybell ➢ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarkBellSuperTraining ➢ Twitter: https://twitter.com/marksmellybell ➢ Snapchat: marksmellybell ➢Mark Bell's Daily Workouts, Nutrition and More: https://www.markbell.com/ Follow Nsima Inyang ➢ https://www.breakthebar.com/learn-more ➢YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/NsimaInyang ➢Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nsimainyang/?hl=en ➢TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nsimayinyang?lang=en Follow Andrew Zaragoza on all platforms ➢ https://direct.me/iamandrewz #PowerProject #Podcast #MarkBell

October's over. Upon release date, yeah. A little bong rip. It's going to start the show. Man, have you ever smoked weed before? No, I have not. No? Interesting.

Okay, okay, okay. I'm going to turn off this air. I did give a guy a blow job one time though. Mark. You see with Mark, we can't necessarily know if he's joking or not. Cause he's really good at dead panning this shit. I would never joke about something like that.

You know? Okay. Fair. All right.rew just wrote something down i wish i could well i guess i think he wants to know how skillful you are okay i guess i have very judgmental friends hey man if you did it that's fine i know you seem in support but he like he like noted it andrew was like i literally i wrote the date. It looked like you drew a line. It looks like you're like, you know, it was like my name there and you went... It crossed you out. Or you drew a heart next to it, maybe.

Star. Starfish. Wait, what? Hello? Oh, Starfish. We haven't been recording, right? Yeah, we definitely have been this whole time. We're recording. We're recording.

We've recorded many shows today, so please forgive us if this one's not quite as worthless as previous episodes. We're trying our best. But it's going to be great. Also, what's great is, if you guys don't know, we've been working with this new company called Viore. Oh, jeez. Yeah. Viore's amazing.

They're fucking amazing. I can't believe it. I can't believe we got a Viore scholarship. It feels good. Yeah. I've been loving their clothes before we ever even got in contact with them. But yeah, they have amazing stuff. It feels good.

It's great for workouts. And you're also going to look good there's nothing worse than like being in the gym training you're working so hard to get these shoulders popping and to get lean and to get jacked and to get strong and then your outfit's like you know and it looks like it's a five cent outfit like you want something that looks a little nicer um that's gonna feel good even while you're training so you gotta check out some of this fiori stuff and one thing because um i did a bit like these joggers these are called the rip stop joggers so i've gone on hikes in these i've also worked out in these and people have been like messaging me what are those joggers that you're wearing well if you guys go to their website these are the rip stop joggers on their website but they also have a lot of other

just like really dope comfortable joggers shorts you really can't go wrong and i think one of our favorites is the strato tech team i love that one but also you're underselling the just like the regular pants oh like they have like the like they're stretchy right they're four-way stretch but they look really good like you could definitely you could totally get a workout in you did that the other day when you were doing that's right um you can definitely get in a workout they're gonna be squat proof i know chicks are like always concerned about that i don't know i don't know about the uh the women's line but you could definitely wear them to like a wedding you could wear them to a dinner you could just wear them around the house oh absolutely with the woman's line yes Yeah. I'm sorry.

I'm not – I don't have any experience on that side. So – but – You don't have any experience with women? There was this one time. There's at least proof somewhere. Yeah. Who's worn female underwear? Waves your hand.

Let's go. I'm trying to watch this to see. Well, yeah. I haven't like put them on, I guess. Traditionally, I haven't put them on in a traditional sense. Like wear them on my face? Give them a quick sniff? Yeah, how do you not wear them on your head?

I don't know where else they're supposed to go. Yeah. God damn it. But guys, check out Viore. Yeah, sorry about that viore uh yeah so to save 20 off your first order head over to viore.com slash power project that's v-u-o-r-i.com slash power project and sema's showing off the uh these are the ripstop joggers i think this color is um chocolate something no literally the color is like um

it's like a i don't know but it's like a it's it's weird it almost looks like a grayish yeah it's like not it's like a yeah i love olive ish but yeah i've worn this like four times this week wow yeah all right uh so again viore.com slash power project v-u-o-r-i.com slash power project you'll receive 20 off automatically when you hit to that uh web address so links to them down in the description as well as the podcast show notes can't recommend them enough i want to warn people because you know sometimes you're gonna see like a guy like in sema and you're gonna look at these viore clothes and be like wow that's really dope look Look at that shirt. Look at those pants.

Now, Viore is going to help you to look better than maybe some other types of clothes, but you are not going to look like Encima. So don't – I just want people to not be just – That's a good disclaimer. I'm trying to manage their expectations because they're going to get these pants and they're going to not see a quad sweep. Like the pants don't have an inserted quad sweep on them. So just want to make everybody aware of that.

Thanks for that. I'm on my way out of town, everybody. Aww. I'm getting out of here. You're going to see a bunch of dicks again. I hope so. Where are you going, Mark? Where are you headed, man?

Oh, yeah. There was dicks drawn all over the place. That's what you were telling us last time. Yeah. What's the world like? What's the world like? It's the same everywhere you go. They draw penises everywhere.

Dicks everywhere. There's penises all throughout Davis like? It's the same everywhere you go. They draw penises everywhere. Dicks everywhere. There's penises all throughout Davis, and there's penises all throughout France. Never gets old. Yeah, I know. I love it. I am going to Italy and England, and what was the other place I'm going to? I can't remember at the moment.

Any place you haven't been to? Because you've been to Italy and England, right? Yeah, yeah, but I'm going to. I can't remember at the moment. Any place you haven't been to? Because you've been to Italy and England, right? Yeah, yeah, but I'm going to some different spots. Nice. Yeah, I'm excited. London? I'm just throwing countries out there. London, yes.

London is one of them. And then is it Rome? No, I've been to Rome before. I don't know what the other place is in Italy that's famous, but whatever. I don't know what the other places in Italy that's famous, but whatever. I'm going. I leave tomorrow, so I'll figure it out once I'm in the air, I guess. Well, I hope you travel safe, and I hope that nothing gets you stuck in any country.

I know, right? Yeah. I don't have the cold flu thingy. I had to get checked to get on the flight and everything, and then the then the wifey and i were like well what would happen if we did like how do you what do we do because we yeah you know got these tickets and it's uh everything's all planned out and it's two week a two-week gig um i don't think my wife and i have had two weeks like by ourselves and I guess since before we had kids. Wait, is this you two? Yeah, it's just us two.

Oh. So I don't know, 17 years ago or something, whenever, before Jake was around. I know we've had a day, you know, a day or two or three or four, you know, with parents watching the kids and stuff like that. But, yeah, we have not had that amount of time. So I think I'm going to come back unmarried. She's going to be like, man, he sucks. Yeah. I don't think me and my wife have had that much time, period, with without kids.

So when you said it's been like 17 years, I was like, oh, fuck. But then it's like, well, we haven't had that much time period with without kids but so this one when you said like it's been like 17 years i'm just like oh fuck but then it's like well we haven't had that much time anyways with that though how how the heck yeah how did you guys make it this far without having like full time to yourselves like i know you just said a couple days here and there is that what you kind of did just sprinkle those in throughout the year uh i think wine helps you know my wife my wife uh being able to drink a little bit here and there helps uh us having like i think just a good family structure in general like we have um april and andy uh my my in-laws uh and then we have sherry andy's mother and my dad um and and my brother.

We just have a lot of good people around us, and we have a lot of support. And even when the kids were young, April, my brother, my dad, my mom, Sherry, whenever we needed anyone to be watched for any period of time, it wasn't always easy, but we were able to get the support um because you know it's it's a it's not easy watching two small children so it's not like it's not like you can just super like you can't just depend on it just because you can't just be like oh it's just my it's my mom or it's my dad, and they automatically watch your three-year-old kid. It's a big responsibility.

And I think a lot of people just think, they take it for granted that that's automatically going to happen. And I think it's important to walk yourself through, hey, this person's 70 years old. They really want to watch a three-year-old and a six-year-old. And for how long? Like, I'm sure they love their grandkids, but damn, that's a lot. So if you have any opportunity to hand your kids over to somebody else and you get to get away for a while, it's absolutely amazing. It can really help a lot. And people that don't have that, I think that that makes things more difficult. I think it's a good idea for parents to look into that in some fashion, in some way.

We've never turned our kids over to anybody that we really didn't truly know. They were immediate family. So we were very fortunate and lucky that we were able to do things that way. But it's helped our marriage a ton. I mean, I don't know. It's just really important. You gotta have, there's gotta, you don't have to, I shouldn't say that. It's been my experience,

it's been really helpful to have that one-on-one time to be able to check in and talk. And the more time you have with each other, the more real shit gets because there's not always like something super cool going on and so um if you have an opportunity to go out every week uh for like a date night type thing it's huge and andy and i have been able to keep that um we don't really i would say that we don't really need it as much anymore because my kids are older so we can can just leave the house whenever we want

kind of thing. But when they were younger, it was really, really important. And I would imagine some people, like once the kids do get older, it's like, oh, since we can't go whenever, we'll figure it out later and just kind of keep letting it, leaving it off the table. Oh, we'll do it next week, we'll do it out later and just kind of keep letting it uh leaving it off the table we'll do it next week we'll do it next week but i think having that scheduled thing that scheduled date night would be huge my mom would text me every thursday and she would she would text me good morning honey or whatever you know and then she would uh uh because my grandmother used to

say this all the time so it said my family a lot my grandmother used to say this all the time, so it's said in my family a lot. My grandmother used to say, hi, Andrew. How's Andrew? Super happy, super cheery. So my mom would always say, hi, Mark. How's Mark? And I had to tell her how I was doing, and I couldn't – my mom wouldn't let me off the hook with telling her how I was doing. She – I couldn't say, oh, Jake's doing good and the business is going well.

And she would be like, no, how are you doing? She would force that. And when she did it to you in person, it was like she was putting more – a little more pressure on you because she's looking into your eyes too and you're like, oh, shit. She might catch me like noticing that I'm maybe not doing great and I just want to tell her I'm doing great so that way I could just avoid any of these hard questions and get cruising along with this. But yeah, it's great to have people like that in your life. I do think that parents leave their kids alone way too much, and parents sometimes will leave their kids amongst themselves, like maybe it's too early. I think you've got to kind of have your kids be a certain age,

like run to the grocery store or something, like little quick shit like that here or there is probably not a huge deal. But I don't know. It's just all these little things that I've kind of observed as being a parent. Again, for me personally, I've always liked to try to be around my kids as much as we can handle. But you can only handle so much of that, too. And you have other relationships in your life to try to manage.

Real quick, did you ever have a point where, like, maybe you were working really hard or you were just working for a phase, but you didn't feel like you deserved a vacation. Like, for example, like I don't – I'll sometimes just like take a day and go hike or whatever. But I'm not under the belief that I deserve any type of vacation. I don't feel like I deserve it yet. Has that ever happened to you while you guys were like – like you guys are still really working right now. But I know it's different with kids too because like the kids need to go and see things. ever happened to you while you guys were like, like you guys are still really working right now, but how, I know it's different with kids too. Cause like the kids need to go and see things,

but did that ever come across your mind or, or were you just like, yeah. What do you think about that? The stuff that Andy and I did when we were young, like in terms of, you know, going on like dates and stuff,

they were such a big deal. Like we didn't have 80 bucks to go on a date, know we didn't have like we didn't have we had enough to pay for that you know what i mean but it was like should we even go you know what i mean but we always thought it was important to celebrate it was always important for us to be together and so we would do it um vacation is a much larger thing because it costs a lot more money but we would figure out ways of doing stuff on much smaller scale and staying more local like going out to like bodega bay or um and those were things that at those times we couldn't really afford either but um we were able to um sometimes uh we were able to share we were able to share in cost with other family members and things like

that. And so just whatever ways we could make it work. And the kind of feeling of like not deserving it, I don't think was ever in question because, because we have kids, you know, it's like, this is this like whole, this whole family structure thing is much larger than me or Andy or Andy and I together. The kids need to be around other kids, and the kids need to be around their aunts and their uncles and their grandparents. And God damn it, we're going to figure out a way to get over to this thing to go do this family event. Even if we don't really want to see Uncle so-and-so or like you know how that family stuff is you don't it's not always super pumped about uh you know i don't know just it's it's always somehow it's always awkward when it shouldn't be because it's your family it should

be great but for some reason it's a little weird but uh as you get older and more mature and when you have kids you're like well i don't really care how awkward i feel i'm just going like i don't even really like i don't necessarily even like being on a plane but sometimes it's just uh it's just necessary or needed so yeah that's it's it's funny and see me you you use those words because i was actually just talking to my brother-in-law about this because they were planning a trip to dis and, uh, they, they went and they had a blast. Um, they ended up taking our daughter. And so like, we kind of, we, anyways, I was explaining to him how like, like, yeah, dude, I feel like I don't deserve to go on vacation. And he's like, you know, whatever. He's like,

look at the podcast. You guys are crushing it right now. And I'm just like, well, well yeah we have to keep doing that i was like and i was like to be honest like i haven't done shit like i i have barely scratched the surface about like like in a year or two like i'll be able i'll have the ability to start working really really hard and he just like he kind of was a little confused by it i was was like, yeah, I feel like I have not accomplished a goddamn thing. Like, so I have a lot more work to do before I can celebrate and go on vacation. But, you know, I've had this conversation with Mark in the past and,

you know, he really kind of opened my eyes by saying like, it's not even about you anymore. It's like, it's about your kids and making, having them make their memories and stuff. Yeah. You better go somewhere.

Like if their cousins are going somewhere, you better go somewhere just for, and your kid is is like he's basically zero at the yeah yeah so that was my like that's you know again my dad's super cheap i'm i'm super cheap too so i'm like he's not even gonna remember this like yes thank you sir i'm frugal i'm like he's not gonna remember this let's wait a little bit and then go so that that way he can be like, yeah, I went to Disneyland. And then with our 13 year old, so, you know, she was obviously,

she wants to go. And so my brother-in-law was like, Hey, like, how about we take her? And I was, I was kind of against that for a while. And then I was just like,

dude, you're right. Like, I can't take that away from her. So she ended up going, she had a blast, but yeah, you know,

during that time, like we accomplished a lot here inside the studio. And I would not have wanted to not be here for that. And I'm not saying I'd rather be here instead of being with the family. But that's what I mean. I'm just like, dude, we're just getting going. I can't go on vacation right now.

But with you guys being out of town, I'll probably take a couple days off. I'm only out of town for a tournament for like two or three days. I have a confession. It's about Disneyland. It fucking sucks. Are you going to Disneyland? No.

Okay. I, my wife and I. I know this. Have never told our kids anything about Disneyland. It wasn't like we, it wasn't like if it was brought up or anything, or if they asked a question about it, that we claimed it didn't exist, but it basically didn't exist.

We never talked about it. We didn't really watch hardly any Disney movies, especially like not the old, not the older ones and stuff like that. And so the kids, we were able to swerve away from it somehow i don't even know how but it was amazing i do know that andy at one time when they got older she uh she like went with a friend or went with maybe april or something and they went uh and she took like quinn or something to to Disneyland. But we were able to swerve that whole thing as like one of those nightmarish family vacations.

It was not talking about it. It was a conspiracy theory in your household. It wasn't real. Exactly. That's great. I was joking around, but I think this would be an awesome thing for someone like me because I'm like, do they sell like a party pooper pass? And I was like, what do you mean? It's like, it's like well like i'm not gonna get on any rides i'm not gonna take any pictures with these people pretending to be cinderella and shit because it's in it's weird

it's not real it's weird and then i'll go spend money on food i'll like buy some shit and i'll do whatever for the kids want to do but like i personally am not going to waste any space or time because i'm not going to really do anything like so i don't think i should pay full price that these super fans want to pay you just invented an entire new business i know but well i don't know that that's pretty sick but i'm saying is like i would have gone if i could pay less because i'm not gonna do what everyone else is gonna do the amount of people who would do that though a lot of people would pay for that well a lot of people party pooper pass and andrew like gets picked up like in a little golf cart and he ends up going to like a strip club or something like that he's like doing lines and watching

strippers and fucking making it rain and shit oh my gosh meanwhile your wife's getting like ketchup all over herself and fucking mustard. Hopefully it's just ketchup. Walking all over the fucking place and getting the kids on the rides and sweating their butt off all day. Yeah, so that's why I'm like, if I could just get into the park and pay for everything but not pay for my ticket because I'm not going to do all the same shit you guys are. Have you been to Disneyland? I've never been. Party Pooper Pass.

Okay, so this is the thing about the Party Po guys are. Have you been to Disneyland? I've never been. Party Pooper Pass. Okay, so this is the thing about the Party Pooper Pass. Have you been to Disneyland, Mark? No. My God. Okay, so both of y'all. Y'all don't understand how magical Disneyland is. I'm being perfectly real. I went to Disneyland. Andrew's over here

breaking stuff in the back. What happened, bro? The first time I went to Disneyland, I was an adult. I didn i went to disneyland i was an adult i didn't go as a kid i was an adult you know uh went with my uh girl at the time and um it was the most magical experience ever the the rides are cool they're kind of slow blah blah blah but like i don't know if it's me because i'm a 90s kid and i watched a lot of disney channel but man when i saw star wars land when i went and uh yeah but you're talking about going like willingly going on your own not having a bunch of pain in the ass kids with you going oh you're

right but still that's way different and i shed a tear at the end of the night when the disney parade was going man they had that music and latin was out and it was just like mickey mouse you're very in tune with your emotions. Oh, bro. I mean, I'm getting goosebumps thinking about it. I want to go back. Man, it is magical. So this is the thing. This is the thing.

I think that if you actually go, you'll have a magical time. Oh, yeah. I'm sure I'll have fun watching the kids have fun and stuff. But I will not give up. So there's a couple of dads that I will go to for advice you know mark's one of them the other one's jesse burdick and i'm like explaining the whole thing and i'm like jesse am i a dick and he was like no and yes he's like no because yes it is really weird when you're like standing in line for this dumb picture with this person pretending to be cinderella and there's

this he broke it down perfectly he's like there's this like 40 year old goth chick in front of you that has like a book that she wants her to sign and then she said let's take a silly picture let's take a serious picture okay now one picture with everybody in the family he's like and they're like trembling he's like it's so stupid he's like but yes you're being a dick because you should be there for the family. I'm like, all right, I get you. Oh, man. Oh, God. Yeah.

Jesse's awesome. So in terms of deserving a vacation, I would have to kind of and have like more fun or have something be better because you traveled. They would say it's kind of a mistake and kind of thinking that like things are going to be better when I go and do this thing, right? when I go and do this thing, right? Because you should be able to travel within your own mind and you should be able to travel through your own house and you should be able to be cool with a lot of the shit that you already have. You shouldn't have to necessarily feel like you need to have a traditional vacation, maybe the way other people think about it,

like I really need a break from everything. I'm going to work this hard and then I get this break period where i don't do anything that's not the way i've ever viewed it and not the way i've ever ever looked at it i don't feel like i need a break from anything i feel like i actually need to do a lot more and i'm excited to do a lot more um however it is cool to experience stuff so i want to go and experience some things that maybe are just different that I haven't experienced before in different cultures I don't know anything about the world you know so like I I need to fucking get out a little bit you know I need to experience some different stuff and uh run into some different types of people and I'm really excited

to do that with my wife so I kind of look at it more maybe from that perspective. I don't really feel like I need a bunch of time off from something. On the flip side of that, it is massively important just to relax. We talk often about sleep and rest and we've talked about meditation and things like that. I mean, it's important just to try to find some time to like chill. So on this vacation, I may have a little bit more time to do or to explore some of that because it won't be as tied to lifting. It won't be as tied to the exact same regimen that I'm always following. That's a big deal though right there. regimen that I'm always following. That's a big deal though right there. The whole idea, because I know so many people who are like, they're constantly trying to

find the next thing, the next thing to travel to, the next event, the next whatever. And in the lull times between the concerts, the vacation, the whatever, they're not enjoying much of anything that they have right here in front of them. Their throwback Thursday is them at the concert or whatever it is take me back i don't like that yeah and it's important to be able to find like a joy in literally what is in front of you at the time rather than seeking it you know what i mean so like not that i need it but something something simple that like i guess allows me to recharge is just going on a hike somewhere, just going and taking a walk in nature. Right.

Or literally also even just taking a walk. When I go on a walk and I come back home, even if it's a spot, a part of Sacramento that I haven't been to or part of downtown, just take a walk. And I feel so good afterwards. Because you like went somewhere in your mind. Exactly. Exactly. Reading a book can do that. There's a lot of examples of like you can drift off and kind of go somewhere else via a podcast or hearing a really cool quote from somebody or listening to music.

I mean these things can – there's a reason why people say, hey, when I heard that, I was really moved. It feels like you moved. It feels like you went somewhere else for a little bit and maybe from a technical standpoint, maybe you kind of did. Just make sure that book isn't erotica. That's you. Party Pooper Pass.

I don't know if you can see it. Oh, yeah. I like that. Let me zoom in on this one bam from right here i have like a like a hairdo that kind of look like a lucas owen party pooper uh ticket party pooper party pooper pass that's you yeah party pooper pants pass yeah that's me too you had said that you guys definitely celebrated a lot or something along those lines. You guys would celebrate. When we achieved 100,000 subscribers on this YouTube channel, thank you everybody who has

subscribed. Yes. That happened? Yeah, it did happen. We're at 111 now, baby. I know. And probably by the time this episode comes out, we're at 113, baby. Dude, you guys are exaggerating.

No. Really? Proof. Yeah, science. There's no way out, we're at 113, baby. Dude, you guys are exaggerating. Really? Proof. Yeah, science. There's no way. Just because the audience is so fucking dope. They are great. See all the comments going wild. What video pushed us over the edge?

Was it Ocho Cinco? It was the dick. Yeah, it's all penis. The dick video? All penis. Wow. Yeah, that's definitely the one. When we got that 100 thousand subscribers i was telling

stephanie about it like it's so dope we got it like we'll celebrate at a million though and she just knew right away it's like dude come on like celebrate this you know this milestone and i was like no i was like we haven't done shit yet so what what would you guys celebrate or was it just celebrating each other yeah just celebrating each other? Yeah, just celebrating each other, spending time with each other. I think we also, we didn't really, maybe at the time, just didn't know any other way to show love for each other other than to go do something together. We were either, because we were young, we were either having sex

or we were at a restaurant or we're at a movie or we're thinking about going somewhere. We didn't – maybe we just didn't know a lot of other ways. But that's what I complimented you on, Andrew, is when you were saying that you kind of didn't feel like you deserved it. But I did talk, I talked to you about people are always kind of chasing the next thing and you hear people about, you know, they're moving or they're getting a dog or they're waiting to get their, you know, new this or new that or things are going to be different when we go and do this other thing. And it's very rare for couples just to kind of like sit in the pocket and just kind of chill sit in the pocket and just

kind of chill and just enjoy each other. And I think a wonderful thing about you is that, and I can just tell, you haven't really necessarily said this to me, but I can tell that you love to go home every day. There's a lot of people that their home environment isn't that great. And I think for the three of us like this environment is fucking sick yeah then we have an awesome opportunity to go home and that environment is sick and then it's like well where do you want to go we can go anywhere you want it's like i don't really care to go anywhere yeah i'm kind of cool with sitting here but for me personally at this time as i'm getting older you know i'm literally halfway through my life, depending on how long this thing lasts or whatever.

So you start to kind of think about those things and you're like, well, I would like to keep experiencing more. I have the finances to go and do it. It's not going to hurt anything. So why not have fun and why not take some of the money that I have piled up over the years and put some of that into maybe setting up some experiences that I think will be enjoyable for me, my family, my wife, my kids, whatever. Yeah, full agreement there. I definitely – I like getting outside. We do – it's been a while, but we do like camping. It's like we don't sit inside it's been a while, but we do like camping and it's like, we,

we don't sit inside the tent the whole time. Right. We're, we're hiking. We're sometimes fishing. We're definitely catching the sunset. I'll catch the sunrise. Like,

so I do really, really, yeah. I subscribe to that as well. Like I do want to, at some point experience a lot of things like that. It's just, I don't know.

I, something like Something like a theme park just isn't going to be it for me. I like what you just said right there. I mean, how hard is that to do? Camping? I can go out. No, just walk. Well, you might have to drive somewhere for it, but go and see the sunrise. Go watch the sunrise.

Or get out away from the city to see the stars at night. Yeah, man. That shit will change you. You ever just lay down on the ground and fucking look up and see the stars? I mean, I know that's kind of a thing you do when you're a little kid. But I've done that a bunch of times on walks before. I just start looking up. I'm like, holy fuck.

I'm like, there's a lot of stars out there. And I'm like, I'm just going to lay down on the ground, just flat on the ground. I'm not high or nothing. I can just lay down and just sit there and look at that shit for a while. You're like, whoa, this is fucking awesome. It's so cool how the longer you stare, the more stars come out. I don't know if you ever want to pay attention to that, but yeah. Yeah.

No, this is all. I do this stuff. I have no kids. I'm not going to have any kids for a minute. But I appreciate learning about this stuff from you guys. I appreciate people like you in my life. And for all the guys listening that don't have kids that are single that are also in the same boat as me, yo, this is important shit to understand so that when you do have a lady or some of you guys a guy whatever um

y'all know how to you know treat the other in a healthy relationship like these two have so i dig it and it's also just prepares you for just having that conversation and not sounding so like caught off guard the way i was you know I'm just like I never have my kids and then it's like now it's like oh my gosh like yeah no that's that was the kind of I don't want to say it's immature to say things like that but I know I was immature when I was saying things like that there was a point that you didn't want to have kids absolutely no I did not want kids no uh my nephew he my nephew, I don't know how old he is. I don't know how old anybody is in my family.

He's at least 18-ish. So he lived with us when I was in high school. So I had a baby around me when I was young. And babies are babies. They're loud and they're a lot of work and i was like i'm never having one of those damn yeah i was just like that's it i'm done yeah and um it definitely was a it was a wedge between me and you know my my previous relationship um i had told her right out the gate like yeah i'm not having any kids she was on board with it but then she really wasn't but she didn't tell

me yeah so that was one of the issues and then with stephanie same thing i was just like i don't think i want kids and she already had jasmine and i was like like okay and then i hang out with jasmine like all right she's not bad like all this is one of the good ones yeah yeah exactly i got the one good one and then yeah sure enough i'm just like no it's definitely time and now it's like dude i can't imagine not having him. Yeah. And it's to the point where I'm like, this is one and done. Like, we're done, done, done.

And then like, but no, we're definitely done. But at least the door's definitely closed and locked. But it's not like, you know, like. Yeah, I think so. Yeah. But that key's going to be impossible to find. It's just it's not going to happen again. But man, yeah, it's really cool having him.

Power Project Familia. How's it going? This episode is brought to you by our sponsor, Merrick Health. Now, Merrick Health is owned by somebody, you know, Derek from More Plates, More Dates. But Merrick Health is the premium telehealth TRT and HRT clinic where we have something called the Power Project Panel that has 26 different labs that give you all the things you need for men and women.

But also if you guys are interested in TRT or HRT, you can actually work with a doctor from Merrick Health and they'll go ahead and they'll tell you which tests you need to get along with giving you the treatment that you need. You need to check them out. Andrew, can you tell the people how to get? Yeah, absolutely. So we have links down in the YouTube description as well as the podcast show notes, but you need to head over to MerrickHealth.com. That's M-A-R-R-E-K-Health.com. And yeah, if you are interested

in TRT, you can actually contact them. You'll hop on the phone with them. And when it comes time to actually start paying for some of these panels, just let them know that you've heard it through us and you want to use promo code PowerProject15. And that's going to save you 15% off all the recommended labs that they give you. Again, links to them down in the description, as well as the podcast show notes. Highly recommend it. They are the premium telehealth HRT clinic, TRT clinic. They're really, they're second to none. So head over there right now. So a lot's changed. Sima, you mentioned this is

the best year of your life. Yeah, man. What do you mean by that? Yeah, man. It's because of me and Andrew. Just tell us, man. Hey, man. Number one, I'm happy that I've known you guys

for as long as I've known you because being around y'all has made my life better. That's real. It's like, number one, I'm happy that I've known you guys for as long as I've known you because being around y'all has made my life better. That's real. It's important having good people, good friends in your life like that that keep you moving forward. But in essence, like you said, or like I just said, it's important having good friends that continue keeping you moving forward. I was in a four-year relationship, man, the one I just got out of. And, yo, that was like, it was a lot of stress. It was very apparent to me that me and that individual were not compatible

because we had very different types of lifestyles. We had very different outlooks. You couldn't see that earlier? Like earlier, I could. Like earlier, there were differences. But as the relationship continued going on, the differences became very stark and apparent. And I guess I tried to make things work when obviously it couldn't. If you're someone who's focused on –

Isn't that weird how obvious it is now versus when you were in it, right? You know, the funny thing is, it's like a lot of my homies, if they have issues, they'll ask me and I'll give them pretty good advice. And the advice works pretty well. Like you can see it, right? If I look back at my ass, I'd be like, bro, what are you doing? You should be gone.

Like, dude, get out of here, right? Because that relationship brought me nothing but, but stress. That was one of the first times in my life that I literally had anxiety. Like I never had anxiety at any other point in my life than in that relationship because of, because of stuff that one, I was like, oh, this is what anxiety feels like. Holy shit. So when I say this was the most, this is the best year of my life. I really do mean it. And it's important that people think about this.

When you have someone in your life and they all, they bring you a lack of peace. They only bring you stress. There's no benefit. It's going to be very hard. Even though I was doing the things I needed to do, I was moving forward, inching forward. This year I blasted forward because there's the only thing that holds you back as yourself. I was holding myself back because I was staying in a relationship that I knew I shouldn't

be in. So I'm not blaming that person. That's not their fault. It's my fault because I knew at a certain point, dude, this dude, this isn't a good idea. I knew that. So it's, it's my fault. And when I chose to finally just let that go, this has quite literally been the best year of my life,

best year of my life, you know? And it's, it's important to realize guys like men, women, the person you're with, they play a very big role into what you can do and where you can go. Either they're going to be somebody that like they add on and you may be add on to them in a way, like what you have with Andy and what you have with Steph, like y'all are compiling on each other and helping each other grow. Or it's an individual that, you know, I don't can't say that anyone ever pulls you back, but it's just your energy is taken.

You're trying to make something work that's not working. Yeah. You know, it's – and you're just fighting an uphill battle. I mean I know some friends that have had relationships where there's like severe jealousy issues. I have one friend that his girl always thinks that he's cheating. I got other friends that are guys that think their girl is always cheating. And that kind of stuff is – so of course, I mean there's going to be – to have some sort of alert system on something like that like makes some sense in general. Like, oh, wow, like they kind of hang out a lot. system on something like that makes some sense in general.

Like, oh, wow, they hang out a lot. But there should never be – it should never be weird. You should never say – you should never feel like you can't ask a question about it. You should never feel like there's any you should if you feel that there's something weird going on uh that is a sign that there there's a crack probably somewhere in the relationship doesn't necessarily have to mean that it's over over but it could mean that something happened somewhere along the way where this thing is uh getting in that probably shouldn't be able to get in um and those things happen.

But it's, you know, when you have people in these situations, they want to make them work so badly that they'll kind of do anything. They'll even like just be super stressed out all the time. And yes, when you are on the outside looking in, you could say, oh, well, you guys just need to break it off and just be apart from each other because it doesn't seem like it's working out great yeah you know one actually maybe there's two things something that that's pretty important to understand too is like i mean i put time into that that relationship so there there there's an aspect of like wow there's been so much time

that's been spent here but that's a mistake you know because there's there's two there's an aspect of like, wow, there's been so much time that's been spent here. But that's a mistake, you know, because there's two flips. One, it's not healthy to have a scarcity mindset when it comes to relationships. Scarcity mindset means there's billions of people on this planet. You could probably find someone that you're going to. It doesn't have. This is not the one. If things are not working out, this is not the one. You do not need to keep working on things that are continuing to just not work.

Although there are certain situations where you actually need to continue to work on things and you don't just quit when something goes wrong. You don't just do that. But there's a certain point where it's like, you don't have to continue dealing with this. And there's a, there's a second aspect. I was having a conversation with a few homies about this. We got to talk more about this stuff as time goes by. there's a second aspect. I was having a conversation with a few homies about this.

We got to talk more about this stuff as time goes by. But, um, as a man, we're very visually, uh, we're very visually attuned. We, we like hot woman,

right? So number one, I think within that relationship, I did have a slight scarcity mindset because I was like, I've put so much time in, you know, I've, I've,

I've grown with this person so much. I, I, I gotta stick, I gotta stick this.'ve put so much time in, you know, I've grown with this person so much. I got to stick. I got to stick this. We got so much history. We have so much all the time. History. Right.

They know so much about me. I know so much about them. How can I just stop this when it's been this many years, even though all of this has happened? Right. So that's one thing like, no, there's so many other people out here that would probably be so much better. Get the fuck out. Right. And number two, as men, I think we get blinded by beauty because I'm going to be real within that relationship. At a certain point, I was like, such a beautiful woman.

Like, I don't want to lose this. Right. And I've put in so much time. And you make stupid decisions because of that. I made stupid decisions because of that. I made stupid decisions because of that. Absolutely. 100% I did. Right.

So this is the thing I'll say this cause I was having a conversation with some friends last night. Like as a dude, a woman can be beautiful, absolutely stunning. Right. But there's such thing as a beautiful headache. Doesn't matter how beautiful she is. It doesn't matter. Right. But there's such thing as a beautiful headache.

Doesn't matter how beautiful she is. It doesn't matter. Because one interesting thing. And still a headache. And when you have a headache, it's harder to do certain things. Yeah. Harder to concentrate on other things. Yeah.

Like that doesn't matter how, how like the, the, the term these days is like, oh, they're a bad bitch or whatever. Right. Or, or, or baddie. Like, I don't care a bad bitch or whatever. Or a baddie. Like, I don't care about baddies anymore. I could care less. I need an individual that has good principles, you know, that lives a healthy lifestyle. Right? And if they take care of themselves mentally and physically, I know we're in a good place.

Right? But I was in a situation. Chick's taking notes like crazy right now no no straight up straight up like straight up like my ex was a beautiful person beautiful person but there's a point where like you could tell somebody just like does not take care of their mind and and it's it's rough i'm i don't i don't want to like i don't want to talk too much about that but guys guys especially i want this to be said because we like especially with social media and, you know, following all the like all this, all the stuff we talk about with like porn and whatever. Get yourself out of the mindset of just seeking beauty.

Start looking for a whole person who's got it up here. And maybe they're they maybe they're great looking or what. But who knows? Who cares? Like that's somewhat important. But that's not the whole thing. I think a lot of guys, especially younger guys, that's the thing they seek. Is she hot?

Oh, yeah, let's go. Like, nah. There's a whole thing associated with all that. It's not just you thinking that she's hot. It's do your friends think she's hot? I mean that all plays into it too. And, you know, like you maybe like being seen with that person. It makes you feel good.

It's like a status thing. Like, oh, everybody thinks she's hot. It makes you feel good. But the time thing is an interesting one because when you put your time in something, you're like, yeah, I did invest a lot in this. But if you kind of think about it like a business, I mean if a business is really bleeding money, then you have to really investigate like what's going on with that business. You have to look into it a lot further. You don't give up on it right away. Like you said, you don't just say, all right, well, fuck this.

I'm going on to some other business. You have to still put some more time in it. But there's kind of this concept of like double or quit. You double your efforts or you get the fuck out. And when you do double your efforts and you kind of recognize you can't get the result you're looking for, then that's a great sign. So if you are having some sort of issue in a relationship, you kind of double down on it and say, I need to like maybe communicate with this person more like things aren't going well. I have a lot of anxiety. I have a lot of concern about what they're doing when we're not together, or they seem to have a lot of concern about what I'm doing when we're

not together. And I need to figure out a way to be maybe more inclusive or, I mean, in my own relationship, I have done – maybe not my best is not the right word. I have worked on being inclusive so that my wife and then my kids know pretty much every single person that I interact with. So there's no surprises. My wife is not like coming to super training on like a saturday and i'm not like training with three like supermodels you know what i mean like if there was girl if there was women that were coming in from say like wwe which we've had people like that lift here before and things like that i'll just tell her i'll say hey there's some wwe diva girls that are coming and i'll say you remember so and so she's friends with my other friend and she might not remember or whatever, but at least it's something I did bring up at

some other point. Back years ago, if I was in Idaho doing something with bodybuilding.com or my wife usually knew who my contact was, who the person was I communicated with, and just same thing with her, with swimming and her friends and most of the people she swims with are guys. I know them all. That doesn't mean that I'm assured that like nothing, you know, nothing going on or whatever. But I do know these people.

They know me. Everything's like up front. My wife swims from this time to this time. Like, you know what I mean so there's it's the communication is such that it's not even anything I ever even my mind just has never even gone there at all it just has never even really never even thought about it before so I think that's ultimately what you want to be able to have because if you are having an issue with trusting the other person which is probably like one of the main one of the main uh issues um it's usually like an issue that you have

personally and or the person is doing shit or has done shit and you need to make a decision on on how you're going to navigate that moving forward. Man. Yep. Yeah. I'm not even going to go farther with that because let me just say, yo, that right there, once trust is lost, try to get that back. Bro, I'm not even going to go deeper, but we got to talk more about this stuff. I think, guys, let us know.

I'm not even going to go deeper, but we got to talk more about this stuff. I think, guys, let us know. Men, women, if you guys want us to maybe chime in on relationship-type topics, right? Because I think, number one, I think we have a really cool spectrum here. You've been married successfully for how many years? 21 years. 21 years with two kids. You've been married. Yeah, so I was previously married to a person that I knew for 10 years.

We didn't get out of that first year of marriage though. It was just like, it came to like a crazy, like this explosion towards the end. Yeah. But then now with my wife, Stephanie, we're, we're getting close to 10 years. If not already there. With your first wife, did you argue a lot? Oh dude. It was more like, uh, if not already there. With your first wife, did you argue a lot? Oh, dude, it was more like I got argued at.

You guys know me. I'm a chill dude. I'm not going to raise my voice or anything. But yeah, no, she was pissed off at me all the time. So yeah, there was definitely that, yeah. And I am a currently single dude who is making it a point because I was in one four- year relationship with a great girl. Actually,

I look back on that. That was, that was good. Like we, we just, we parted ways. Well, um,

it was a great relationship. Yeah. It was four years. And then another four year relationship that was like my, my energy just comes down thinking about it. But honestly, this is one interesting thing. I'm very thankful for that. Like I, like I tell people this all the time. I'm very thankful for the last

relationship I came out of because I was able to experience a lot of things that I only hear about that. I like, why is someone do, why is someone in that? Like, why is someone's, I experienced a lot of that. And I'm like, now i understand how it can be possible for someone to stay in such a chaotic situation when they really do care about somebody like and now i'm single right but um i think we have a pretty good spectrum here to to to talk about this stuff and this this conversation of itself was pretty cool yeah it's not too bad huh so chime yeah chime in the comments guys let us know let us ask some questions or let us know your thoughts on what we talked about

what's the biggest hurdle in trying to get out of that relationship because I know a lot of people are like oh it's all I know it's I'm comfortable here and when it comes down to it's just like I don't know man like sex is undefeated it's like that's where they're getting it so it's like

I'll deal with the crazy shit because Cause she's hot. And every once in a while I get laid and it's like, dude, it's slowing you down so much though. Yeah. Or, or you go, I have a question for some of you guys. What do you think are some of your most, like, what are your biggest relationship struggles or struggles in finding somebody to be in a relationship with? Because one thing that I'm seeing nowadays too, a lot of people are talking about like people are having a hard time committing these days. Is it really just these days or is that how things have always been? But there seems to be a trend of that's happening a lot these days. And part of the reason, I think Jordan Peterson had a podcast with a guy talking about this,

online dating has made everyone be like, there's a lot of options. So remember when I mentioned the scarcity mindset thing earlier, it's not good to have a scarcity mindset, but it's also not good if you got yourself in a situation where one thing goes wrong, you have like, like there's always options now. Like there's, there's, there's a crazy amount of options, right? I think there's some weird shit going on these days. I think that there's been a huge shift. This is a weird way to put it, but a huge shift in like power or like leverage.

I think that dudes used to have like pretty good leverage on kind of like what they could do and how they can act and how they could be. I think the leverage has shifted a lot and I think men are intimidated by it and i think uh i think men are like uh anxious because they hear females and you know all females are different right but like you hear females on podcasts and stuff being more open about their sex and about um what they like and what they do and yeah you're just like fuck man you know i i guess like from a guy's perspective you only think about like oh it's just a dude who's like swiping right or whatever or on these apps, right? But you're not really thinking like, oh, well, there's a recipient on the other end. There's a girl thinking the exact same way that the dude is thinking.

I heard a girl on Joe Rogan recently. She was a comedian and she talked about how she was using sex to empower her and to like feel good about herself because she had a weird home life. She was drinking at a young age. She basically kind of raised herself. What I mentioned earlier, she was left alone at a really young age. Didn't seem like her parents were horrible people, but they just weren't like really up to date on everything that she was, everything that she was doing. And I don't think, you know, she's the only one. I think there's a lot of, a lot of people out there kind of doing those things, but, you know, go back 20 years, 30 years, there was so much shaming surrounding a woman talking that way. Even just like when I was a kid, like you just, you might hear a girl

or two talk that way, but they were considered to be a particular thing. And people would really lean into that. And the girl that, you know, kind of gave it up in sixth grade, seventh grade, she was kind of labeled as being a certain type of girl, which is, you know, just, it does, it's, it seems like more, more and more people are more open about these things. And I think guys are kind of like almost half scared because they're like, fuck man, I'm not used to, it's like women lifting and stuff and women doing CrossFit and powerlifting. These women are fucking strong. They look great. And I think a lot of people are intimidated by that. And I think kind of there's been like a real shift in power going on.

So I don't even know. I don't know what I would do with that. But I know that I would probably be, I would probably have some anxiety and be anxious, especially if I was trying to date and I was young. And I just didn't know if the person was really going to ever commit to me or whatever. I would probably be halfway flipping out, which I'm pretty fucking calm. So that would be weird for me.

It's hilarious because I was having – we had a four-hour conversation, me and a couple of my friends. We were having a conversation about this kind of topic last night. I'm not going to go into the depths of the conversation, but it is true. There is a power shift. I think it's honestly a good, confusing power shift because women like – Yeah, and it will balance itself out the way it's supposed to be. Yeah, it will balance itself out. But this is the thing.

It's like one guy was talking about like, you know, I think I want to just maybe get a woman from like maybe a third world country because this and that. And I'm like, pause, brother. The reason why you're saying that is because – like because – OK. I'm going to keep it 100 right here. My granddaddy had three wives. Granddaddy had three wives, right? One of the guys I always talk to is like, you know, like he was bringing up that like back in the day, you know, men were able to have multiple women, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, my guy.

It's because they didn't have rights. Like, like these women didn't have rights. They couldn't go to school. They couldn't get themselves educated. So now that women have agency and they're getting educated, you're intimidated that you're going to find a woman that thinks for herself. It wasn't too long ago that showing your ankle was seductive. Yeah, right? Floozy. Dude, this is a good power shift is what does it cause us to do as

men i think that we should instead of focusing on what women are doing level up put the put the responsibility and agency on yourself and level up so that now you become an individual who is desired by whatever rather than worrying about all these women are whores and whatever no level up so you can find a good woman who's interested in you rather than worrying about what all these other women are doing that's what you do that's what you do yeah i don't know if there's any connection to it but it just seems like you know people aren't marrying their high school sweethearts anymore and like they're like i focus on my career. So it's pushing marriage back a little bit further. But it was funny.

A friend of mine that I used to work with a long time ago now, like probably 10 years ago now, he got divorced. And then so he got back in the game and he was, yeah, so he was probably at that time, probably in his mid thirties. He was a little bit older than me. And he was just like, dude's like it's crazy he's like chicks are like like they don't care i was like what do you mean he's like dude they will like hook up with me and then i'll be like trying to have a conversation they're like all right i gotta

go i'm out and i was like just read a book on this yeah and then so you know and so i was like that sounds awesome it was actually way more than eight years now that i think about it it was like i don't know it's a long time ago i was like that sounds awesome he's like yeah you think he's like but shit man i'm like i don't want to be out here like some piece of meat and so i thought it was pretty funny and then oh and then this just came up too on twitter somebody was uh just somebody liked it so i don't even know how the fuck i read it but they were talking about how women once they hit like their thirties, like their sex drive actually goes up.

And I was like, Oh, okay, that's cool. And then like, I just read in the comments and people were like, Oh shit. Like,

I don't know if it's hit me yet. And then other people were like, if you think you're horny now, wait till you get in your forties. And so I'm like, Holy shit. So again, people were being more open about it.

But then also because the marriages are getting pushed back further, maybe they are hitting their 30s and then being like, you know what? I don't know. Maybe I don't want to settle down just yet. Dude. Don't know if there's any truth to that. I'm a dude. Sorry, ladies, if I offended anybody with that. But that's just what I read.

And I'm going to just reciprocate what I've been reading. Dude, there's this book called A Hunter Gatherer's Guide to the 21st Century. I literally just finished it a few days ago. It's by Brett Weinstein and his wife, Heather Hying. And Heather Hying said something so interesting in that book. And this is going to be something that's going to annoy people a little bit, especially the woman. But she was in an interview and she was saying that, okay, if we're being, if we're just taking things at the base level, um,

women hold the key to sex. And a lot of times hypergamy is a thing. Hypergamy is, is if you look at statistics, women will typically date men that are either on their financial level or higher. And men will typically date women that are on their financial level or higher and men will typically date women that are on their financial level or lower so a guy will totally go to mcdonald's and find he could find a hot girl and he'd marry her right there because he doesn't mind but a woman won't if she's making a certain amount of money she would not go date the guy this is includes already men that are married like yo she's fucking hot i don't care leonardo dicaprio i think he doesn't date anybody who's like under 25 like once they get 25 they're too old or over 25 over 25 yeah yeah yeah so um

like now if you look at it like this is another thing men be men will a lot of men will just like kind of fuck anything if like if you're like hey if a woman's like hey let's have sex men's like oh yeah let's go let's get it right but but one aren't that way right so heather haying put it this way because of how easy it is with the online dating to be able to find anybody anywhere who's interested in swipe right um she said that women have some like a woman have become this is heather haying's words women have become cheaper men because now what what tends to happen is they're everyone's more sexually promiscuous hookup culture right but men would want to be doing that anyway but now women are taking on that trait where they're like, I'm going to be misused, too.

But the thing is, it's easy for women to do that because for a woman who wants to find sex, there's going to be a line of dudes who are down. But if a guy wants to find sex, there is not a line of women who are like knocking at their door. They have to put in work to get it at their door they have to put in work to get it women don't have to put in work to get sex so they can get massive amounts of sexual partners without even trying you know what i mean and that's why heather haying said modern some of my some modern i'm not saying all modern women and these are not my words but this is what i've read i need to clarify this Modern women have just become cheaper men. Not all.

Okay. By the way, this is, I don't think all of that, but there's a, there's a correlation there. What do you think of what's going on here? I'm trying to remember the comedian and I'm going to butcher it, but he was just like, like women will scratch and claw and fight for love. You know, like he, he used the reference of like going to a like a rock concert it's like a woman will do everything it takes to try to get backstage to meet like the

lead singer or whatever he's like a dude you know he'll like see a chick working like the concession center like hey what's up like you want to hang out he's like they'll find love there it's like so that's funny dude like that Like that's wild. I never, we have to be very careful with this conversation though, guys, because again, like this is, this is something where I wish we had, I wish we had a woman that could chime in on some of this stuff.

Because again, I'm not saying this is our message here is that guys need to level up. We can't put, we can't be focused on like, cause you see a lot of channels and they're like, Oh woman, this woman,, blah, blah, blah. No, no, no, no. Focus on men.

Focus on getting us men to do better and level up and become stronger men. Yeah, level yourself up. Yeah. Yeah, I think there's a couple things that are just missing because of the internet. There's a couple of things that are missing, I think, from some people's lives. One is you have to be – there has to be some sort of communal something or other. You have to like hang out with people. You have to like do shit with people.

You have to like do shit with people. And men – I don't know what it's like to be a woman. But from a guy's perspective, guys want to fuck so much that they – the things that we do are particularly like out of the way exclusive of having women around. Like hunting and fucking – I don't't know like shit that guys do like guy but guys need that time and women need that time too women need to hang out with women and men need to hang out with men especially in the development years of when you're a horny ass teenager but some of the stuff that we see now like there's not really if i had if i had the option of throwing a football around with my buddies in the backyard or getting some pussy when i was a teenager i would be getting some pussy like i'd be addicted to that shit and i would be figuring out ways of trying to get as

much of that as i could hey this is fucking dope i can't believe I didn't discover this a little earlier. This is great. This is fucking awesome. So without restriction, like without not being – without – at a certain age, not being a virgin, I guess I'd say, I was still hungry to play football. I was still hungry. Okay, I liked football. And because I liked football enough, I went into the weight room. And that whole process made me everything that I am today. I needed that time period.

I wouldn't have been able to think straight because you're literally kind of thinking with your dick. Because you're a young kid you're not mature you're i mean there's there's a like scientific evidence that your brain is not fully developed yet your shit's not fully developed yet and you are just kind of looking for the first thing that shows you attention and we've seen this with friends of ours that have relationships when they're really young. Like I'm grateful that like my son and daughter so far, like no relationship with anybody,

which I think is really powerful because I think for them, especially in these times, they need to spend time with their friends and then figure out at least somewhat of who they are, start to lean into some of that, and then they become attractive to other people. And rather than them trying to figure out like, I wonder about this person, that person, somebody is going to be knocking on their door. Somebody is going to be chasing after them.

And how much easier is it to have a relationship with somebody that pursued you versus trying to have a relationship with somebody that you pursued i mean both can work out like either way it could work out but if somebody pursued you because they recognized that you had a bunch of intangibles other than just the way that you looked you had a bunch of intangibles that were attractive you're like oh my god this guy is great like he works really hard or this girl's awesome like it seems like she's okay she's hot that's kind of what enticed me to look at her in the first place but holy shit she plays the piano and she does all these she's into a bunch of shit that i like too those things aren't going to be created if you're out fucking each other all the time you you don't have you you just don't have the time to develop yourself as a person so that's some of the shit that i'm kind of noticing and seeing yeah yeah

like again you know that hookup culture is a real thing and when i when i've had conversations with homies and actually other women about this no one most people that are within hookup culture don't enjoy hookup culture like just randomly sleeping with just just ran people from tinder or whatever right because it's empty like the sex is empty it's it's not like this isn't someone that you're planning on doing anything with it just someone you're having sex with sex is a little bit like candy and pizza and shit like that, right? Yeah.

It fucking sounds awesome. It actually works when you have it. It does make you feel good for a while. But do you want to fucking live with pizza the rest of your life? That's crazy. You know what I mean? You want to live with pizza the rest of your life? That's a tough decision.

Let me say this too. This is, this is an important thing because I think a lot of guys, right? A lot of guys, the, as you get older, you're like,

yeah, I want to, I want to, I want to have sex with as many girls as possible or whatever. Like it's like sex is great. Nothing's wrong with sex, but like that, the initial thing is like you want to hook up as many chicks as possible.

But when you talk to older people who have done that or like, yeah, they've experienced it, what do a majority of them say the same thing? Looking back on it, like maybe I was seeing that, but it's after you do it for a bit, it's not that great. It actually you probably just shouldn't waste your time with that. It's not going to be fulfilling at all. And I'm also not saying not everybody needs to find a relationship and marry up and have kids. That's not what I'm saying here. What I'm saying here is, let's say if your goal is to find a person, right, that you actually like, that you actually care for, hooking up with a hell of people all the time might not yield that result. And also, I just don't think it's really that fruitful just to be as a man to be just

randomly chasing closely. You're wasting your time. You're literally wasting your time because you could be spending that time where you're trying to find a new girl to fuck or whatever, doing some shit that's going to actually bring you fulfillment, bring your life meaning. And by actually going deeper on the things that you want to do, the woman that you're actually trying to get, they will see that

and you become more desirable. It'd be great to talk to our boy, Mike Ryan, about this. Oh, yes. Yes. Mike Ryan would be the great guy to talk to. Yeah. That'd be awesome. He's pretty awesome with this stuff.

But I think a lot of people, and not everybody, but a lot of people, they would like to have somebody by their side if they get sick. Yeah. They would like to have someone there for holidays. That you can grow old with. Yeah. Certain things that you're – but there's just so many different versions of all that stuff now. And I think that you could just communicate with somebody. Like I have a couple of friends actually that have,

they have girlfriends that they're not even like boyfriend, girlfriend. They just like hang out here and there. And this is kind of like have this like agreement, like that they're going to, it's like half committed, but they're but they'll be there for each other. And they both are like – the two friends I'm thinking of, they're both in situations where they're like, yeah, like if I get like – if we get like into our 50s or something, maybe we'll just bite the bullet and like be together with each other. And both of these friends, they're totally happy and they claim that their girl is totally happy and they're not – they don't even live like near each other and stuff like that. So I suppose any kind of scenario can like work out, but I would say that that's not going to be the norm. It's probably going to be pretty rare.

Most people I think would like to have somebody there if they could potentially figure that out. And it doesn't always have to be marriage, but something that looks similar to marriage, probably. Man. Living with pizza, though. That's great. And because I think the Island Boys are hilarious. Oh, no. Oh, yeah.

Well, but this kind of falls in line with kind of what we're talking about. Fucking talented. Wow, look at his hair. That's the only thing I'm noticing in this picture. That's some crazy hair that guy has, and the tats on his body. And the grill. What kind of phone is she holding? Is that an iPhone 13 Pro Max?

But this also is another thing, right? It's like what you were talking about earlier, Mark, like other people thinking that you're with a hot chick. And I'm pretty sure that's more pizza than steak, by the way. Why do rappers, that's the thing, rappers be trying to take pictures and they have all these different women. That's kind of, you know? I just think these guys are hilarious. They are.

The Island Boys are hilarious. Not even from the fucking islands. So many followers on TikTok and Instagram. Jesus.esus it's ridiculous awesome conversation take us out out of here andrew i will thank you everybody for checking out today's episode if you guys are vibing with it please uh hit that like button and subscribe if you are not subscribed already and please follow the podcast at mark bells power project on instagram at mb power project on tiktok and twitter my instagram and twitter is at IamAndrewZ. And shout out to Viore for sponsoring today's episode.

Viore.com slash PowerProject. V-U-O-R-I.com slash PowerProject for 20% off your first order. And Seema, where are you at? These are the Ripstop Joggers, just in case you guys are interested. At Seema Inyang on Instagram and YouTube. At Seema Yin Yang on TikTok and Twitter.

And yeah, guys, chime in. Let us know if you enjoyed this conversation because there's a lot of topics that have come to mind. I think we could have some good go back and forth with it. So let me know. Mark? I just want to kind of answer Andrew's question about how could someone sort of work their way out of it type thing. And I think just in general, like working your way out of anything, you want to try to learn as fast as you can. When you're dealing with people, you can only go so fast. So you might have to kind of like actually take your time with it, but you want to ask the hard questions upfront and don't have them lingering in your head. I'm going to say this to this person and then you never do like, just, just figure out a way to like blurt it out.

It's almost always like, I mean, it seems like trust and sex. You said sex is undefeated. I think that that's great. And if you're not getting something that you really want, you've got to communicate it. You've got to talk to the person and maybe that's not anything they ever want to be into. Maybe that's something they don't ever want to mess with

or I don't know, maybe they're nervous. Maybe they think what you like is weird or whatever. But you need to learn all that. You need to know all that, especially if it's going to be somebody you're going to try to live the rest of your life with. I'm at Mark Smelly Bell. Strength is never weakness. Weakness is never strength. Catch you guys later.