Mark Bell's Power Project - S3xless Relationship: 7 Reasons You're Getting Denied || MBPP Ep. 864

Episode Date: January 4, 2023

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It's like, get away from me chasing me down trying to make me drink that chocolate water but he's fucking right it's delicious i know fuck it let me get it right into this podcast then um because what we're gonna talk to you guys about wasn't just this it's actually you know what that's really good but we want to talk about why you guys aren't having sex oh wow yeah okay yeah there are a lot of things that are probably to hit our minds about like what can fuck up a guy's sex life because there are certain guys relationships you're like uh you don't have sex anymore and then certain young guys just can't get laid i saw a post by by uh jason poston uh recently where he was talking about he's like i'm married so i only have sex like once a month and i was like what doesn't he have like 20 kids he might have a hey you know what a marriage is a really long thing right a long time so

uh there are you know there are situations where different things happen and so you know but that's never been the case for me yeah hey okay yeah we've never been that inactive come on no no but that that's a really cool thing because one thing that a lot of people and you you'll see complaints about this on the internet is when guys get married for a while it's like like oh yeah sex just kind of went down the drain that's what happens when you get married i'm not married but i hear that a lot so it is kind of refreshing hearing you a man who's been married for how many years i don't even know 20 something you'd be fucking yeah and that's that's cool yeah we got married in 2000 so 23 years yeah that's sick all right that's really easy to track then

good job all right let me ask you this then what do you think is one of the first things like what's a big thing that maybe you see a lot of other people who are married or lacking or maybe not paying attention to that has kept the spice in your six life i think you got to be attractive you know um don't be don't be gross you know uh i don't mean attractive like your looks or whatever but that's important to keep that shit in check like whatever whatever the significant other signed up for you should be some sort of representation of that it can continue men and women yeah both y'all take notes i don't think anyone's expecting you to look exactly the same as you did 30 years ago. But there's got to be something reasonable.

Yeah. Right? There's got to be, you know, maybe when you were, I don't know, 19, maybe you played sports and stuff and maybe you looked a certain way. But now when you're 49 or whatever, you know, you don't have to be 100 pounds overweight. Maybe you did put on like 20 pounds, but that's reasonable. That sounds fine. That actually should be kind of attractive too, I think. I think people aging,

I think we have got weird interpretations of people aging, like with lines and stuff like that and not having lines and Botox and all these things. I mean, on my wife, I think, not that she has any of that, but I think all that is fucking good. All of that is sexy. Be like that safe.

You know, but the interesting thing is we have this weird thing where people are like, oh yeah, looks fade. And even though maybe get a little bit wrinkly here, whatever, if you take care of yourself, I have seen some hot looking older people like just like like women in their 50s and 60s are just like there's hope like just taking care of yourself and when you find out how old you are it's like hotter yeah hey you're like damn score that's amazing i told you how i used to like nina hartley when i was when i was an avid porn watcher i'm not gonna lie when you were an addict when i was a porn addict really old though okay wait all right i don't know if i can save this

but in some of the nina hartley stuff i used to watch i think she might have been in her 50s or 60s but she was still thick and she stayed in shape she was one of those ones that stayed in shape and i'm not advocating for porn but i'm just saying you can be hot and older yeah right yeah and i think you know a big thing in in uh relationships is don't pull up a bad picture you motherfucker it's a it's a very good picture but it just it shows it shows the era that she comes from hey nina all right let me okay real quick i i feel like i need to i gotta justify to stay here i need to justify this when you are a young 11 year old and lime wires on your shit and you're getting all these fucking videos sometimes you run across shit and you're like oh i like that for some reason she didn't nina hey did you pull better pictures man like you gotta pull better pictures because this this hair right here this ain't doing it man all right this isn't this isn't it like there's

way better stuff in nina hartley she was jacked mark you're about to say i can't say half the things i want to say but i'm so fucked yeah we're screwed i'm gonna get so roasted it's all good but you're gonna be okay i'm good it goes the same for guys though like you know like obviously if you're with someone you want them to take care of themselves but as as as a guy if you're in the relationship you need to take care of yourself you can't i've seen so many dudes who like get in a relationship, you get a bit too comfortable, you kind of let yourself go. And if for some reason within your marriage, let's say you're married, right? Things go down the drain. If you haven't been taking care of yourself and taking the care of the way you look like your lady was with you because she was attracted to an aspect

of you and taking care of yourself doesn't just mean like, you know, taking care of your health and being in shape will make it easier for the person you want to be attracted to. You know what's really unattractive? What? Anger. Oh, dude. Somebody being really, really, like every once in a while,

like you got to let your partner have their space and maybe they're actually mad at you, so that's fine. But like somebody being like really really mad and it's like getting to a point where it's like unreasonable you know that is a very unattractive thing and i think these are all things that we all can work on we can all get better at um i think everyone has stuff that makes them mad from time to time throws them off from time to time um but if you take the tv remote and fucking smash it on the ground and curse and say,

motherfucker this, motherfucker that, you're mad because the, I don't know, dishwasher's not working or whatever and you flip out and you get all pissed about it

and then you spill your protein shake and you're just in a shitty mood or whatever like that. Those are very unattractive things and I think they're all things that we easily have control over. Yeah. That's actually one of the reasons why I got divorced. She was always angry at something.

And I'm like, Jesus, like what happened? You used to smile like back in the day. Now that's all gone. And then for myself, I am working on that because like I'll, you know, something will happen with the dogs and it's just like, it'll really upset me. And I'm like, God dang it. Now I got to do this when I want to go do that. But something that Mark had said in the past that I tell myself every time I'm starting to get upset at something, I say, I ask, how mad are you going to be? Like, how mad are you going to get over this? And I think about it and I'm like, all right, in my head, let's see, I get really, really mad and I throw a chair through the window. That's one, it's embarrassing. But two, it's like, really dude, like that's how mad you're going to get? Like, no, obviously I'm not, I'm never going to do that. But you know, in my head,

I'll play out the scenario where it's like, that's embarrassing. And then I'll think like, well, what you're doing right now is really embarrassing as well. Get your shit together. Okay. And then I'm like, all right right i'm not that mad at whatever the you know thing that is that happened because yeah i will find myself like i'm still grumpy over the thing that happened you know an hour ago or whatever it's like it's not worth it how long has dana white been married though do you think he's been married for a few days too soon no man that shit was wild that was oof yeah and then his like little interview with TMZ

was um I don't mean to make light of it but yeah dog that's that's

bad yeah how mad are you gonna get Dana right that's too much way too much yep I think um

things that you can do uh that are kind of within your reach to uh you know keep your sex life going um you'll hear people uh you know mention all kinds of things like um i don't know maybe you just if you just think about your other person like if you literally just think about them and you think about something that they would really like um you think about something that they would uh really appreciate maybe i don't know maybe you never wrote them a letter before fucking write them a letter maybe write them a poem you know maybe you uh stop off at the store and go old school and buy some flowers there's a lot of things that you can do that are just

little things um i don't really do it much anymore but i should probably do it again i used to just like draw my wife like a little smiley face and just i would write i love you every once in a while just on like a notepad we just i don't we don't have a pen in my house i don't know i can't find a fucking pen and then when you do it that shit does not work it's always dry never works. We used to have a pen and paper all the time. But anyway, I should figure that out because those are like, you know, little cutesy things that you can do with each other. Back Project family, how's it going now? We like to look good in the gym and out of the gym.

That's why you always see Mark and I and Andrew is stepping up on the short, short game, wearing shorts from Viore and clothes from Viore. stepping up on the short, short game, wearing shorts from Viore and clothes from Viore. And honestly, the number one compliment that I've seen, that I've gotten, and even Mark's gotten is, damn, your butt looks good. And that's because, well, the clothes we wear make our booties look delicious. Andrew, how can they get it?

Yeah, you guys both have pretty big wagons. You guys can head over to viore.com slash powerproject. That's V-U-O-r-i.com slash power project to receive 20 off the most amazing apparel that looks so good inside and outside it's gonna make your ass look fat and your ass will look fat links to them down in the description as well as the podcast show notes uh god damn it that's a good one make your ass look back you know something that my girl likes a lot that i need to also try to do more she likes if ever she's like uh get me a gift i'm like what do you want she's like just write me a card because because and and like she wants the effort and

the time yeah she just likes cards that let me let her know how i feel about her when i write her a card she's like oh my god this is the best thing ever take me it's like so what i'm saying there is just like you at this point if you've been with someone for a while or if you're new to being with someone like you kind of know some of the things that they like so one thing that tends to happen and i've i've been in two four-year relationships and current relationship, I've been in for a year and a half. But what tends to happen is when you're with someone for a long time, you get kind of comfortable. And it's good to be comfortable with the person you're with. That's not a bad thing. But you don't want to get so comfortable that you stop doing some of the things you were doing when things were newer.

When you were trying to woo them and get them to like you like don't just turn all that shit off i need to get better at that too but that'll help that person know that you do care and it'll you know get the waters flowing for you again yeah what waters all of them all of the all the liquids yeah but along the lines of like what you're saying like when you're early on right like you're super excited to be around her and what are you more than likely gonna grab and or spank her ass like if there if my wife's ass isn't anywhere around me it's getting spanked every time and it always gets a really cool response and so like i've never

stopped doing that yeah just a ton of sexual harassment all the time yeah and i'm like oh i gotta hire you so that way i could sexually harass you but like that like that sort of stuff yeah in the kitchen and stuff walking past each other just always touching each other yeah always looking at each other sticking your thumb up her ass a little bit here and there. Just to check the temperature. You know the cool thing about... It's like playful though, right? It's like you're having fun. Yeah.

You know, but you, every single year, Andrew, as we've been doing this podcast, you've gotten bigger, you've gotten stronger, you've gotten more attractive. And that's got to be kind of cool for Stephanie because she was with you like when you came. She was with you when you weren't focusing on all that and now you're

fucking like zaddy drew and she's like oh my man's getting even more attractive the older we get like that's a cool fucking thing yeah um yeah she was with me before she knew me before i was even into fitness at all and she was the reason why I got into it. But she was with me when I was, you know, six feet tall, 160 pounds. So, you know, we talk about skinny fat. Oh, skinny fat. But the cool thing is like as I've gotten in better shape, she definitely has gotten in better shape. And the one thing that other couples fail at is like supporting each other because usually one will start to get in shape and the other one's like not bought in.

And then they kind of get a little bit like they feel resentment towards their mate because they're like, well, fuck, why are you getting in such good shape? You know, so not supporting your other half is like really, really bad. They want to like sabotage each other a little bit, right? Yeah. Instead of like, hey, let me get sexy for you as well you know since you're doing it let's do it together to do it together i think it's important that you uh you know another thing that could kind of derail your uh your sex life if you're if you're someone that's married or you have kids it's just not making enough time for each other, not getting enough time together.

There's like sometimes you'll have time together, but it's like kind of interrupted time or it's time where you have to like do work together, like dishes or take out the garbage or I don't know, like just like chores. You need to like you don't necessarily need to go out to eat or anything like that, but you need to spend some time together. My wife and I will occasionally just have wine and we'll just sit at the table and just talk. Sometimes when the weather's nicer, we'll just go outside and we'll kind of hang out there. And it's just her and I, we don't have our phones. Our kids are home, but our kids are older, so they don't care. And they're not like, um, you know, they're not crying or screaming or anything crazy like that. So, um, but yeah, just finding good, good time to each other. And, um, again, if you're trying to, you know, spice it up a little bit, maybe you stop off somewhere on your way home from work and you pick up, uh, a both of you. You know, you call ahead, you

call your favorite restaurant and you pick up two of whatever the hell it is that you guys both like. And on your way home, you say, yeah, I'm bringing home, you know, dinner. We're going to have a date, you know, get ready. And then maybe you can dress up for that even. It doesn't matter that you're home. Maybe you can put something nice on, you know, and take a shower so you don't smell like shit. We'll get to that. But that's something that we are actively working on. My son's going to be two this month. Holy shit, just realized that.

So the toddler running around, there's not a lot of us time at all. But we actually mapped out, you know, 2023, some of the goals that we have set. And on there is date night. To get rid of your son. At least two nights a month, you know, right now. Because we're going to figure it out to get rid of our son for two nights a month. At least just for a little bit. Just for ourselves because we recognize like, hey, yeah, we haven't been spending time with each other.

And we both feel that. Not that it feels like there's a disconnect or anything like that between us, but we feel there's maybe a disconnect in that like romantic setting. Like we haven't had that in a very long time. And so like that's something that we're going to work on this year. The cool thing about what both of you guys are saying is like both of you guys with your ladies, you guys are functioning as a team. You know, sometimes you'll see like whether it's just the woman who's really trying to work on this and the guy's not caring or just the guy who's really trying to work on it and the woman's not caring.

Like what's making this work and what reason why it has worked for you guys is because you guys look at your partnership as a partnership. Both of you and Andy, you and Stephanie are both getting better together. It's not one person on this trajectory and the other person is staying right here. So that's just a key concept that I'm like, I learned from you guys with a lot of this stuff, because I'm in my relationship and I love this girl. So hopefully everything goes the way it should go. But these are very important things that both of you guys are saying. I think another thing too, is to make sure that you're really compatible with the person that you're

with. So, you know, if, if you love to have sex every day and you feel like you literally need that every day and the other person doesn't care about it that much, they're like, maybe like more like a once a week kind of thing.

That might not work great. Like those are, these are all things that you got to kind of like work through and think about like, cause that matters a lot. And I hear, I've heard more people talk about it more recently. Like there's people that are kind of sensitive to the fact that like it really matters for men. Like we're hardwired this way. This is what we're working with. We have testosterone levels that are high, and it just kind of controls the ship a little bit.

Not that we're not in control of our actions, but we want to fuck pretty often, or at least a lot of men do, right? And there's probably a lot of men do. Right. And so, and there's probably a lot of women. So anyway, the main point there is just to make sure that you kind of line up at least a little bit with sex. And one, you know, one thing that I think would be pretty interesting though, along with that is as a guy, yeah, sex is like always on our minds. Like, yeah, sex is always on on our minds but if you're not a guy who's active like and you're not a person who's utilizing energy like like sex in itself is an is an energetic act like it takes energy but if you're not doing shit like if you're not going out working out like you do jujitsu you run we all lift we still have a good sex drive but there are some guys who let's say you're not doing anything and you're like i want sex all the time

dog go fucking work out go use your body a bit and you'll understand like yeah you still want to have sex but it's not something that is like your primary mode of being and you're not getting it every single day so now you're angry there are some people who are like that but i mean use your body more because then it might even out that libido of yours or that what you think is your libido might just be you not using your body as much as you should be. I agree. Yeah. And it could be energy. Yeah.

And then if you have the opposite of like a low libido, like if the urges aren't there within the couple, it could be because you're just not as healthy as you should be. Because a pretty good marker of health, in my opinion, is like, yeah yeah your libido should be a little bit higher and well not higher it should be high enough to where you do want to have sex with your mate and if it's not then maybe you might just be a little bit unhealthy you know what i mean like there maybe there's something a little bit off to where your body's like hey you gotta address this before we even start getting horny over here like you know what address this before we even start getting horny over here like you know what i mean sleep we talk about that all the time but i'm gonna get deep into that right now but we got tons of podcasts on sleep so just search sleep on the channel yeah

i think uh you know i think a big a big thing is to figure out ways to stay attractive to your significant other so So keeping yourself physically fit is obviously a big part of it. Having like an even mind and being able to withstand some of the stressors of life and being able to be someone who's strong, not just for yourself, but strong for your partner. You're somebody that, you know, you can, that they can relate to, they can communicate with, and you're not, you're not getting like all depressed and anxious and shit when they, when someone gives you news, you know um these are all things that i think are kind of side things from like actual sex but i think that uh you know if you're slouchy and like when you hear bad news or you get news that you interpret as bad um that that that can i don't know that can just lead them to maybe not be as attracted to you as maybe they once were one thing to like maybe do a little bit of a deep dive on is just the idea of a bit of

stoic philosophy. I hate to be that guy, but like it's not about not feeling anything or whatever because we will feel everything, but it's also just purely not reacting to everything in a volatile way. You brought up anger, right? There are many things that I've talked about with my girl or even exes that have maybe brought up a bit of anger. But I'm not someone who acts on anger. I can feel it there. But then a conversation can happen because it's no use of showing how angry you are.

That doesn't show strength. That actually shows quite a bit of weakness in most situations, being outwardly angry. So, I mean, there's – who's that author who you love? Which one? There's a couple. The one that was just here? No, no, no, no, no. He wrote the book The Daily Stoic.

Oh, Ryan Holiday. He was on a podcast. Ryan Holiday. On our podcast, I mean. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. So he has multiple books on understanding that. But if you're a guy, it's not attractive to be emotionally volatile.

And it's not safe, as we learned from dana white and other people it's not a good idea to be emotionally volatile not have control over your emotions the thing is you can feel all those emotions it's it's healthy to understand those emotions because there are some people on the internet who like men cannot show emotion and all that shit that's bullshit it. It's okay to feel those things, but you do not always need to act based off of how you feel. I think that's one of the differences between most men and some women is that when it comes to our emotions, we can feel them and we can maybe express them, but we need to be careful with how we express them. We can't yell and scream and do that. That's not the way we need to be careful with how we express them. We can't yell and scream and do that. That's not the way we need to be operating. And that is more attractive to a woman than being the emotionally volatile man that maybe gets way too sad or way too anxious or way too angry.

Got to learn how to control that shit. Yeah. Since we were talking about like becoming more attractive to our partner kind of along those lines but it's it it definitely fits is um you know people are on their phones a lot they're on their phones too much and on pretty much every app you can find some version of like soft core porn basically so guarding your inputs on what you are seeing because right like if we open up instagram especially like the explore page or something we're gonna see ass a lot and a lot of modified you know we got the ai shit now uh stuff's gonna be photoshopped but what you're seeing is i'm not gonna say it's not real because i mean you know they they are actual people

but you know and then there's that and then there is porn there's a lot of things that are gonna um and see me you can talk more about this but they're gonna mess with what we assume is actually attractive even you know and so that way if you're living there where you're seeing um i don't want to use a rating system but let's just say tens every time you swipe and then you see a real person real person that you did fall in love with but now you're all of a sudden being like oh well there's these tens over here and now you might not find your mate as attractive on something that's not even real yeah so guarding your inputs and cleaning up your feed can definitely help you out because if not

it's gonna fuck everything up because especially if it's porn right if you're watching a lot of porn and you're jerking off to that now now you're not going to really be as ambitious about having sex. The phone is a huge factor. A lot of times you just sit down and you go to even try to watch something as a couple, and then one of you starts scrolling through your phone. It's really easy. It's just kind of a dumb thing like you're already sitting in front of a screen you know but if you're agreeing to try to sit there and watch a movie with somebody try to the easiest thing is just to kind of put

your phone away like put it out of reach you know hopefully you're not going to get up and like still want to get on it but there's little things like that i think they add up a lot where or even if the person goes to talk to you and they're, you're just like on your, you know, you're like trying to communicate with you, but every time they kind of turn around, you're, you're always on your phone. So whatever way you got to figure out how to negotiate that. Um, even though I do use my phone quite a bit, I try to use it when I'm really not around my wife. Yeah.

No, I agree with you guys on the phone thing. And Andrew, dude, the porn and the feed thing, I think it's a silent – it's like a silent influencer. It's a silent influencer on the mind of men especially. I can speak for myself and a few homies that we've had this conversation with because we're millennials. But as a millennial, when you are used to, first off, watching a lot of porn, beating your shit to a lot of different women, right? There's this thing within this whole Red Pill community where they believe that men are wired to have more than one mate and it's not natural for men to be monogamous. I can understand the idea that it may not be natural like because if i'm being perfectly honest there is an innate want to fuck somebody else that doesn't necessarily mean that i need to act on that want or that want

cannot be satiated by my partner so within these red pill spheres guys are like oh yeah you know it's it does make sense for a guy to be with one a woman that wants a guy that's going to be with one one woman is dreaming is delusional right but no i think what's partially happening is young men are too used to novelty novelty that comes from avid porn use because you're beating your meat to all these different women so when you try to be in a monogamous relationship, you get bored quickly because your novelty isn't satiated. And now you're like, you can't be with one woman. Monogamy isn't for everyone. I'm not saying that everyone needs to subscribe to monogamy, but I do think there are a lot of things that are fucking up a

man's ability to be monogamous outside of the genetic need to fuck a different woman, which I think is honestly overstated within that community and just comes down to a lack of sexual self-control upon the man. People that subscribe to the red pill stuff, what do they talk about as far as kids? Do they talk about having a lot of kids or no?

When it comes to the red pill, when it comes to having kids, the big thing about the red pill is they think that marriage is kind of a scam um and it's a scam in the way that the government gets involved because in some ways there are a lot of ways men can be fucked when it comes to a bad marriage you know if they have kids and she just decides to leave out of the blue kind of fucked as a guy so there's a lot of really good education there but when it does come to having kids they do believe that if a high value man which is a man

that is you know he makes good money but he's also wanted by many women if he does choose to have kids with one woman well they can have that family but he also should be able to have different partners to that he could just fuck because just because you're fucking somebody doesn't mean you love them you've had children and a life with this woman. You love her, but she should be okay with you fucking outside because men don't put – in their eyes, men do not put emotion into sex. Women put emotion into sex, which is why, again, in their eyes, it is not okay for a woman to fuck a guy outside because she doesn't actually want to do that. She only does that when she's in love with somebody else. She can't separate emotion from sex and for the red pill men can separate emotion from sex so they should be able to

exercise their sexual options even within a relationship with a woman with children that's how they look at it and my eyes i just think that's a lack of self-control i mean it's on the surface it sounds, very good for a man that wants to just fucking but also still have a family. And it sounds like a headache, but, you know, like. Doesn't it? It sounds terrible. I think it's a cope. Yeah.

But, like, yeah, yeah. Okay. Well, so. That was an aside. Sorry, guys. Yeah, yeah, no. So, I guess moving on. Something else.

It's kind of fucked up but like if you're if this will definitely kill sex 100 is if you're just not good at it um if if you know you finally do get in the bedroom and you know you're either you're busting quick or you're not paying attention to her needs she's not busting at all like you're probably not going to get invited back to the party you know what i mean what are you shooting me he's giving you points like okay got it okay cool sounds good um you know it's you know guys like we i mean build up a lot of anxiety for that thing and then finally when it happens you blow it um thankfully our homegirl susan bratton is here to help we had an amazing episode with sex sexpert susan bratton um she talks about a thrust in time technique that i

use that works incredible and that's just like how to last like basically you can last forever in bed um but yeah dude i mean doing a little bit of research and i'm not talking about like porn i'm talking like actually seeking out a sexpert like susan bratton on how to like actually make a woman come like that shit's very very important because if you want to get more of that be good at it keep them coming back literally here's here's one thing here's a secret oh you see what i'm using to speak into the mic uh your mouth use it more use it more like a juicy oh yeah use it use this use this more dog this this this is what yeah this is why i'm this is why i have a great sex life this right

here yep this use your mouth more fucking eat right not like dj khaled i don't eat box you eat other things you don't eat box bro it's a box of pizza susan talks about that too like hey it makes a big difference because your mouth can do way more things than your dick can yeah dick isn't the only weapon you have. You got a mouth. Yeah, you got to let them catch up to you. I think it's important to be able to take some cues. Sometimes things you're doing aren't working great.

I don't know. You're just off. But you can take those hints and you can kind of feel around, right? And you can start to get better and you can learn. You can also communicate a lot. You can communicate during, but it'd probably be best to communicate just randomly like at some other time and talk about what you like or didn't like from last night or from a couple days ago or whatever. But you can get into talks about all this stuff and it's not easy.

Like if you've been married for a long time, it's not easy to say, hey, I don't really like that. Or, you know, it kind of sucks, you know, in some ways, but it's going to lead to a way better result. All right. So this is going to be TMI about my sex life. But this has been something that has been said that I'm like, huh, interesting. So you mentioned the

communication thing that is clutch because if she woman don't get don't let it hurt you don't let it hurt you if they don't like the way you're kissing them or whatever the fuck don't don't let it really it's not meant to hurt you it's just uh to help you get better yeah down there there's a bunch of buttons and they know the buttons that need to be pressed so like literally like one of the shit going on down there, one of the first, like probably the first time that me and my girl hooked up at the time because we weren't in a relationship.

She was, I was, I was eating. I was just like, how's that for you? She was like, wait, what?

How, how, how is this right now? She was like, well, I mean, if you did this, I was like,

gotcha. And then I, and then I went and then she's like, but mean if you did this i was like gotcha and then i went then i went and then she's like but i've done that with other people before where i'm just like how's that for you because because like they know like if something's not working i'm not gonna be like i know it all because i fucking don't you know how am i doing not bad wait i don't want to be doing not bad right help me be excellent yeah help me you remember that kevin hart skin no you don't not at this moment ah there's this great kevin hart skin from one of his old stand-ups where he's like help me yeah it's a really good one but i caught you off guard with that one but yeah communicate Mark yeah yeah yeah not speaking

and telling each other what you like is definitely going to kill your sex game yeah I think people are too stubborn you know you got to talk about it and you uh I don't know you might just need to like do something silly where you might have to say hey look

let's be really open about this. I have some things. I got some things that I like, and you might find them to be weird. You might have some things that you like that I may find weird, but let's just talk about it and let's just figure it out. And then someone might be like, that ain't weird. I'm down for that. And you might be like, what?

I have no idea. Like this whole time. Yeah, exactly. You don't know what's open to you. Sometimes what happens, I heard this from somebody else, but like there's a lot of like odd, there's a lot of weirdness around when it comes to communicating about sex, whether it's like when you're a kid, it's like looked at as like, ooh, sex, blah, blah, blah. So when you become an adult, you're kind of uncomfortable about talking with that

with the person you're with but it's perfect sex is great and it's even better if you can just talk openly about it so if you can build the habit of like talking to your partner openly about that and it just becomes something that you guys both want to get better at I hear a lot of people they'll be like I could never

talk to my spouse about that. That sucks. And I'm always like, really? Like, you can't. That's crazy. You can't, like, just, can't have an honest conversation with them about it. Like, that sounds, that just sounds really, that sounds really bad to me. That doesn't sound like that there's good communication going on.

Seriously, guys, you hear that from? I um i hear uh both yeah both ways actually um it's really interesting like i think there's so much joking about it and so much awkwardness around it i think that's what why people think they can't talk about stuff yeah so they just think like i can't ever mention that to her but you should be able to tell your wife or girlfriend that you like blowjobs and that you want more of them. You should be able to tell them. The girl should be able to tell you that whatever the fuck it is that they like, they should be able to tell you,

hey, I want three or four dudes in here at one time. Not just you. I'm just kidding. It's just not enough. You're just sitting there like, wait a second. You sit on that chair in the corner and you don't look away and you just start crying oh poor guy oh but i mean it does go

you know the street goes both ways right like i always i get lingerie for my wife and i'm like hey i want you in this i'm like but do let me know if there's some shit you want me to wear. Like, I'm down. Like, I'm just letting you know right now. I basically won't say no to almost anything. So, like, whatever it is, like, yeah, I'm down. You're like, I'm a fireman tonight? Okay.

Fuck it. How's about that? What if she asks you to wear a sombrero? I'm wearing a sombrero, man. Yeah. I'll be on top lighting and swinging that shit around. stephanie's also ex-kid so like yeah yeah it could potentially work you know if sam asked me to wear like a fucking do-rag and like i'd be like girl what kind of weird race bait shit we getting into right now like get the fuck out of here or a do rag and a cigarette with some malt liquor she's like in semen

she's like this is a really weird fantasy, but just stay with me. Oh, fuck. I think one of the biggest things, the easiest things, it's kind of going back to be more attracted to your partner, is get some clothes that fit you well. I think this is something I see within a lot of, with lifters especially, sometimes they don't wear the best, the clothes that make them look attractive. And I think if you can get some clothing that makes you look good, you're going to be more attractive to your partner because women think about that a lot.

Women think about style a lot. And for men, style hasn't always been my biggest thing, but I find clothes that fit good and that fit my frame well. And that helps. That helps me look more attracted to my partner helps me even feel better about myself so get get clothes that fit you well yeah you don't want to look like you're slumming it all the time you know um i know that that's a little bit of a pandemic look you know people have in the pajamas everywhere and stuff like that. I don't know. I think like if you have the option to just like look a little better, you're not any,

like for me, it's not a comfort thing. Like I'm not, I'm not less comfortable by wearing something that's just a little nicer. Some of the stuff that I buy is expensive. So I understand like from an expense standpoint, but there's cheaper, but there's like,

you know, you can find alternatives for, or you can just have not have as much. I got like closets full of clothes. I got like an issue going on over here, but yeah, you can figure it out. No, it's just that even something as simple as just like understanding like certain how good, how colors go well with other colors, you know, using a color wheel or whatever. I know that's like, oh, my God, you're going to have to do a little bit of work here.

Yeah. But like a little bit will go a long way. Yeah. Over time, I started to wear more colors and shit like this fucking orange beanie. Yeah. But it works. But one thing is like, like, especially when you have more muscle in certain areas, certain clothes don't look the greatest on you. But I found that Viore and Lulu lemon even though i know lulu is a bit expensive and viore is maybe a little bit too um but those brands when you're built you look

better they fit really well and that's been something that i've i've put money into making sure that my clothes not just fit well but they'll last a long time and both those brands even though they're a little bit pricier they will last last you longer than a Target or Walmart brown shirt. I'm just saying. Power Project family, how's it going? I want to talk to you guys about within you hydration specifically. They have This Is The Way, which is an amazing protein that tastes really good. There's a fasting gum, but the hydration is very interesting because there's no other electrolyte supplement like it out on the market. It has 60 milligrams of magnesium, 320 potassium, 1,000 milligrams of sodium, but it also has 500 milligrams of aminos, essential amino acids, and then 2 milligrams of zinc. Two amazing flavors,

blueberry lemon and a salted caramel. That's you, Andrew. That is me. So guys, you know how important electrolytes are. They help you perform better. You don't get cramps during workouts. And I mean, with the diets, you need good electrolytes. So Andrew, how can they check it out? Yes, that's over at markbellslingshot.com and at checkout, enter promo code POWERPROJECT10 to save 10% off your entire order. Links to them down in the description, as well as the podcast show notes. Compliments, I think are really important. Not just giving them out randomly, Compliments, I think, are really important. Not just giving them out randomly, but also, you know, accepting compliments. Like when you are complimented, take a note that what you're being complimented on by your partner.

And, you know, if they say, hey, I really like that shirt on you. You look great. Fucking wear it out the next time that you go on a date. You know, like make a little note of that. Be like, okay, check. I'll wear this, you know, when wear it out the next time that you go on a date yeah you know like pay like make a little note of that be like okay check i'll wear this you know uh when we go out on friday night or something like that so and then also yeah um you know be complimentary but try try not to just to randomly throw stuff out that's like not really anything you know like hey you look pretty today like that those are cool i think that people probably enjoy that.

But when you actually notice something, you know, like try to actually pay attention. And if you actually notice something, oh, wow, I've never seen those earrings before. Those are great. Oh, yeah, my mother gave them to me. Thanks. You know, they look beautiful. Boom, it's done. I think it's just the fact that you're paying attention to your significant other and then this is when you mentioned the shirt and you whip your dick out

and you just whip it out and it just goes up but one one thing when you when you mentioned this wearing the shirt it reminded me like one thing i've i'm not like a big cologne guy or whatever but one thing i have noticed that women tend to just be more sensitive towards smell some don't care about it as much but a lot do so sam luckily she loves smells so there's a specific cologne that i know i wear certain times i know i'm gonna be around her and when i was dating around i'd wear it too and the first thing that women would notice when i was single and dating was oh my god you smell so good so now it's not like, oh, you like the way I look, but you like the way I smell. Now it's just like, one, two, punch. Smell good.

Deodorant hits, but then if you can get some good cologne, might help. Yeah, someone's just showing some effort, right? Yeah. A little extra effort here and there I think goes a long way. And I think that no one's really fooled by the fact that it's not you that smells that way. Whether it's deodorant or cologne or perfume. You know that the girl's wearing perfume. I mean, maybe somewhere in the back of your head you're like, maybe she just really smells that way.

Hey, can't control that animal brain, man. That's right. It smells good. you're like maybe she just really smells that way hey can't control that animal brain man that's right smells good it smells good uh but it's just showing like it's showing extra effort you know and i think it's really hot and really attractive when uh girls have their like fingernails and toenails matching and sometimes that shit matches with like their underwear and stuff i'm just like my fucking brain explodes yeah your brain definitely goes there a lot of court yeah a lot of coordination going on yeah how about okay babbing the babbing you take the ball sweat you put it on oh yeah your ears well as long as the balls smell good and to smell good you got to keep them clean like you got to worship everyone

you got to worship i was joking just because females out here be babbing we talked about that before v-a-b-b-i-n-g go urban dictionary it if you want to have some fun just check out the channel we did a fucking podcast on it yeah but yeah keeping everything tight downstairs you know whether it be you know fucking trimming but like how are you gonna get a bj if your balls are fucking gross like no you got to make it very inviting yeah trim trim her up down trim it up yeah get yourself a little fade you know what i mean get creative with it yeah you could cut a heart into your little landing strip you know or an arrow an arrow that points right to your dick yeah good directions yeah yeah you don't want the pubes flying everywhere. No, definitely not.

Guys, if there are things that you think we missed in this one, I want you all to chime in and let us know. Because we gave you a lot of shit. We gave you a good general thing to boost you up. But give us your tips. Mushroom tips. Yeah. I would also add like not being very assertive for men. You know, like, oh, what do you want to eat?

I don't know. Whatever you want. It's like, well, what do you want? This do you want to eat? I don't know, whatever you want. It's like, well, what do you want this? Do you want that? I don't know, whatever you want. Like, I hear a lot of dudes being lazy like that instead of like, what do you want to eat? Like, I'm bringing In-N-Out on the way home. Oh, okay, good.

Yeah, what would you like, honey? Yeah, it's like, I don't know. She's looking at you to make this decision like to be a man. And I understand like, you know, there's always the times where it's like asking a chick be a man and i understand like you know there's always the times where it's like asking a chick what she wants and it's like she doesn't know there's a happy medium yeah yeah you know what i mean but like also like just being like no this

is what we're doing like or this is like you know chicks i mean sorry i could be wrong here but i think they definitely like an assertive man that way say i was thinking about going to sushi tonight like when they ask you where do you want to go eat? And then they might be like, nah. Like they might still like not want to go there, but at least you fucking pointed you and whoever else you're with in the right direction. Yeah, exactly. There is a happy medium to it. Instead of like having things be up in the air, what do you want?

Like let's have some options and then let's pick an option because sometimes it's like we're going to have this. But I don't want that, motherfucker. You know what I mean? So like understand like assertiveness is good. But, you know, happy medium. Happy medium. So just be careful with that. Yeah.

So just be careful with that. Yeah. But, I mean, again, I still think that leaning more towards at least attempting that is better because there's also like whatever she tries on. Like, oh, what do you think of this outfit? What if you were to say, oh, I like that one with the red or whatever, da, da, da, da. And then she'll be like, oh, shit, I'm going to go put that one on then. You know, like absolutely. Maybe that will help them feel sexier.

Maybe they'll feel better because they're thinking like, oh, well, he likes that. Yeah. I love when you wear that dress. It'd be great if you threw that on tonight. They're like, oh shit, okay. I agree with you. I do agree with you. This is the thing that I'm saying.

Have you ever seen the show White Lotus? Yeah. Yeah, you saw White Lotus? Did you see season two with that? Okay, so you remember the young guy who like he started to like the teenage girl um he was the italian one then he was at the table he's like we're gonna have this this and this then she started looking at him weird oh yeah yeah so what i'm saying here is like it is better to be i agree with you more on the assertive side because there are many guys who are super passive we're like oh i want you

want oh you know it just screams lazy to me screams lazy exactly but there's also the other side where you are the assertive asshole who doesn't care about what your partner cares about i see what you see what i'm saying that's that's why i'm saying that guy's a dickhead that guy's a dickhead yeah so that's why it's like you you gotta have awareness like you're saying to be like yeah you put in what you like but like be aware of what your partner may also want because the reason why you'll you'll suggest in and out is because you know stephanie likes in and out you're not just you're not picking something that your girl doesn't like you're saying we're gonna have this tonight yeah right that's true great point yeah yeah i dig it oh yeah anything else i think we i want to know what y'all think yeah down below let

us know hit up the discord all that good stuff yeah i think i mean i think we, I want to know what y'all think. Comment down below. Let us know. Hit up the Discord. All that good stuff. Yeah, I think, I mean, I think we're touching upon a bunch of stuff where it's just, a lot of it's about self-improvement, right? It's an attractive feature to want to be better. And so whether you're male or female, I think it's attractive that my wife wakes up every morning and goes swimming. I think that's cool. She's got like drive. It's nice to see that the person has drive. There's going to be ups and downs that everyone's going to go through in life.

And if you're married long enough, you'll probably see some of those ups and downs. You'll probably see someone with a job that's very driven. You'll probably see someone lose a job who's not so driven. And you'll see ups and downs. People get, they're happier at certain points in their life. They're sadder at certain points in their life. There's death. There's all kinds of things that happen in our lives that we don't have control over, all those things.

But we do have control over trying to improve ourselves. control over trying to improve ourselves. So it's kind of neat if you're with somebody who in their spare time is like reading a book about how to be better at whatever the hell it is. Maybe you're reading a book about how to be better at sex. Maybe you're reading a book about how to be better romantically or how to be a better husband or how to be a better father. There's so many things that you can work on and work towards. And I think it's a very attractive feature of someone. So I think that is something else that you could do. Andrew, want to take us out of here, buddy? Sure thing. Comment, comment, comment. Let us know what you guys think about today's conversation. And then also like, hey,

maybe send this to somebody that you might want to, you know, spark that flame back up with just, you know, casually. And yeah, so again, comment and then make sure you guys hit that like button, subscribe if you guys are not subscribed already. For everything podcast related, we were just talking about like great fitting shirts. Our Think Less shirt fits extremely well. Our Microdose shirt fits extremely well. We did that shit on purpose because we want you guys to look jacked in those shirts. That's going to be all at powerproject.live. Links down in the description and podcast show notes. Find the podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter at mbpowerproject.

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Weakness is never strength. Catch you guys later.