Mark Bell's Power Project - Should Men in a Relationship Still Have Female Friends? || MBPP Ep. 859

Episode Date: December 27, 2022

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Bill Maeda. Uh-oh. All right. You're going right in right now? Yeah, I'm just going to start it because I don't know what the fuck's going to happen. I don't know if it's going to be too hot. Be careful. All right, guys.

So Bill Maeda sent us some chips. Snack addicted stuff. They're like meat chips. They taste really good. We had it when he podcasted with us. But this one has literally one chip. Do you want to go halfsies, Mark? No.

Come on, dog. I can't just be me. Come on. Half. Half and half. So this one's apparently super spicy. Bill says, I dare you to eat this on the podcast. Mark, that means you too.

It is called the Mark Bell's Power Project. How am I going to be eating a chip on my own? And you're just right there. You'll have to figure that out for yourself. Andrew, do you want to go with me? Nope. No? No, I told you before we started that out.

And I didn't even know that that one was in there. I said I was good. Spicy ain't no joke. This is called the Phoenix Feather. I'm African, though. So I should be able to kind of handle this pretty well. Oh, boy. Okay.

So much discomfort if something's really, really spicy. I missed the whole day of school one time. It does taste good. But let's just get on with the topic because I feel like it's hot. It's more tingly than hot. Do you guys have a lot of female friends? That's it's hot. It's more tingly than hot. Do you guys have a lot of female friends? That's today's topic. Can men and women have friends?

You trying to get us divorced over here? You're in trouble. No, I ain't got a lot of female friends. And actually, I remember telling my wife early on. I said, if I got some female friends hanging around, then something ain't right. When did you say that, Sarah? 20-something years ago. Yeah, a long-ass time ago.

Before we got married. I just, yeah, I mean, I don't know. I don't know about you guys, but I'm not talking to a chick unless I'm... Uh-oh. You okay? No, keep going. i'm not talking to a chick unless i'm oh you okay no keep going you're not talking to chick unless i was getting warm got it uh he's gonna need the cold plunge right here for those listening and sema had to derobe no i guess i guess uh How did D-Roam get going? No, I guess there's different things that you get from different types of people, different kind of people. You get different conversation when you talk to a woman versus when you talk to a man.

woman versus when you talk to a man. However, it's my belief that if you're married, or this is the way that I try to live my life, I guess, being married, I try to get all of my needs met from my wife, not just sexually, but relationship-wise'm gonna have to have relationships with other people um regular friends and so forth and stuff like that but uh i think you guys know what i mean you can hang out with somebody and they can make it feel good but that's not necessarily a great path to go down because the person that should be making you feel good should be your significant other again in my experience and the way that i'm trying to live my life can you play the steve harvey clip are you okay yeah quick he needs mouth to mouth oh oh and that's all you oh he's crying all of my friends are men i don't have female friends. I don't. I'm incapable of that.

Why? What do you mean? Well, because, you know, come on. Because you have a wife. Well, I have a wife, and I don't really have female friends because, look, okay, let's get rid of this myth right here. I want to know why. Okay, I'm going to tell you this. Let's get rid of this right here.

You're an attractive woman. There are some guys somewhere saying, yeah, we're friends. No, that's not true. He's your friend only because you have made it absolutely clear that nothing else is happening except this friendship we have. We remain your friends in hopes that one day there will be a crack in the door, a cheek in the armor. And trust and believe that guy that you think is just your buddy, he will slide in that crack the moment he hits the arm. Because we're guys. And you think most men think this way? 99.9% of us think that.

That's a testosterone talking. And you tell this to a woman and it just blows her back. No, I have male friends. You have male friends because they know it can be nothing else right now. I'll tell you what. All your male friends – You think all women are naive to this? Friendly way.

If I wanted to date you, would you be okay with that? And watch the fireworks. Watch. That's great. Andrew, how do you feel about this i'm curious how do you feel right now looks like he feels great i'm really hot oh my gosh i'm really fucking hot right now i'm going to do my best to just stay chill on this mic my mouth is fucking on fire if you need to i wish i had some milk dog like this is have you ever watched hot ones i think i had some i got a protein shake in my little fridge that might work can you can you grab that for me

i can't unless you want to just run and go get it so that way you could it's okay you know i got coffee i'm good okay well how do you feel about this uh yeah i'm in agreement i um i don't have any female friends i have females in my life that i'll like say they're my friends but like if i didn't have let's say uh like they're not an acquaintance of like they're not my wife's friends they wouldn't be my friends yeah uh if like um i'm thinking like uh for example like mark's wife is like my friend but without mark like we wouldn't be friends you know what i mean like they're more like acquaintances than they are like actual friends but if these acquaintances called on me for anything like yeah i'd be there just like a friend but i wouldn't you know i mean like i

just not going out of your way to like, Oh, we're going to go correct coffee. We're going to have dinner. Yeah. Not going to their house to talk about specific things. Right. Yeah. Um,

so like in my opinion, yeah, like a married man shouldn't have friends. Um, female friends should not have female friends. A married man should not have female friends. Yeah. Yeah.

Because it's like, kind of like what Mark was saying. It's like, well, like what do you, what are you really doing here? All your needs are definitely met by your wife, and that encompasses everything. I guess I could just flat out say my feelings would be hurt if I knew my wife was hanging out with a guy and like having a good time with them like forget about like sexual stuff and all that kind of stuff but like maybe she shared stuff with the guy that

she wouldn't share with me and stuff like that i i that wouldn't be yeah that wouldn't be cool with me so i guess we're all in situations where our partners because i just have a girlfriend i don't have a wife yet but haven't had a childhood male friend because i know a few women who have had a guy friend from childhood that's a different type of situation you know you can't totally cast that off but andy and stephanie don't well andrew's gonna go grab something so like andy doesn't have any male friends from childhood that she's been friends with for years or decades or whatever? Not really, no. She did grow up in the area, though.

So she has, like, ex-boyfriends and, you know. But, like, I know them and we know each other and stuff. And so there's really nothing there. She does have male friends. She swims with a bunch of guys and she's gone quite a bit. I bought her a swim cap one year for Christmas

and she didn't know. Aren't these guys that she swims with also in like Speedos? Yes, she bought her a swim cap and she didn't even know what it was. She was like, what is this for? So I guess it's bringing up a lot of questions um

that are really painful to answer i love you so much you are the man you see he saves this still good this fair life is it's pretty old but you'll be fine yeah it should be okay it's like best if used by that's gonna help a lot soothe the tongue yeah just yeah even if it is a little curled i think you made it through the roughest part, though. Oh, yeah. I'm on the other side of it. I'm on the other side of it. That was, you know, that.

Okay, so it's, oh, that Fair Life. That was clutch. Thank you, Andrew. This actually did taste really good, but it was also very hot. Immediately, I started sweating. Oh, my God. Immediately, I started sweating. You know, this, okay. So this whole thing is really interesting. This male and female friendships thing, because I have like all my really close

homies, guys, all the people that I've talked to about like progression and life, all that type of shit have been guys. And as I've started, as I got older, especially when I was single, I was meeting a lot of women, going on dates and stuff. And some of those women I met and they just were cool. And it was weird because it wasn't until this point and it's primarily because of the circles I put myself in. I always put myself in male circles. I never really went out clubbing bars or parties. It wasn't never really my thing. That majority of my friends were male. But when I did, when I was single and I was dating or whatever, I met a lot of women that were really cool who I still don't go out of my way

because I'm in a relationship now. I still don't go out of my way to do things alone with these women. I'm not going to be like, Hey, let's go go on a hike together or whatever um but i try to make sure that those my my girlfriend knows about those women you know what i mean because you never know you know you never know if someone's gonna start having a crush on you and then they'll try to get into and you don't know what that'll cost but then on the other side of things i do find it interesting guys because you've heard of the guys who have like a lot of female friends right like you like i i know a few guys who like i have a lot of female friends there's one that comes to mind um but when i when i've talked to some of these guys, they seem to be kind of orbiting. So it's almost like they're helicoptering.

It seems like they're just kind of lurking around, just like, you need me? I got your back, babe. I got your back, friend. And they seem to be just waiting. Got your back and your front. Right? and they seem to be just waiting Got your back and your front. Right?

They seem to be just kind of waiting for some of these women to be single or to open up, you know, like find a moment of a moment of weakness so that they can maybe pounce. So like an interesting thing is like Sam does have friends that are

some friends that are guys. I've talked to her about this. I'm like, you think he has a crush on you? And she's like, ah, I'm, I'm, I don't think so.

Like I let it be clearly known. I'm like, but I'm like, this guy probably has a bit of a crush on you. And it's like, just be careful because she's an attractive woman. You know what I mean? And you probably noticed that you have a great body.

Probably knows you have a great body. Why wouldn't he notice that? I'm sorry. As men, we're animals. i'm not saying that we will i'm not saying that we will fuck anything i'm not saying that we have we have decision making skills but at the end of the day it's like if you ask most guys all right women or ladies if you ask the guy friend of yours right or if you're like hey i'll come come over here come to my house tonight or whatever your guy friends can be out okay 90 of your guy friends are going to be immediately they'll come to the house or immediately they'll they'll try to do something you know what i mean it's just

interesting because i don't think those friendships are as uh let's say innocent as some people 2 a.m i need help in my shower you're like wait're like you're already pulling out of the driveway right right crashed into the car i find it so funny sometimes though because like my ex yo like i find it so funny when sometimes um some of these ages like no he's he's like a brother it's like a that's incest he's like a brother he was a boner all the time don't think i didn't see that shit like he's been my friend for years i love him it's like wait a second and this is the thing i i don't think it's impossible for men and women to be friends like that especially within the structure of like if i'm in a relationship you

guys in relation i don't think it's. I just think that there needs to be parameters. Like I set parameters with the female friends I have with my girlfriend. It's like, yeah, you know, you'll probably be able to meet her. She'll maybe come to open gym here at super training or whatever. Like I set those parameters because I want her to feel comfortable.

You know, I don't want her to be like, what are you doing with this girl? I don't ever want that question. I want everything open. So there's never any of that. And she's also super open on her end because there are guys that are her friend,

but she's super open with it too. There's open communication. But when there starts to be like a secret guy friend or a secret female friend that for some reason is just hot and young, that's risky business. Know what I mean? Yeah.

And it's like, well, what'd you do today? It's like, oh, you know, I was just at the gym. You know, I'm just there. Like, oh, who was there? Yeah, you know, so and so. Like, oh, I didn't know so and so was going to be there. Huh. Okay.

Like when shit starts popping up like that, you're just like, your natural instinct of that like setting an alarm off like your natural instinct of that like setting an alarm off in your body yeah it's there for a fucking reason and if you feel that then it's like hey you're not being totally open with me right now yeah i even know some people that have they do real well business wise and then like the women that work for them or like their secretaries and stuff i'm always like man like i i i would not be able to have that set up that you got going on. Like whatever you're doing over there, maybe that works for you. But I'm thinking like I don't think I could pull that off.

Mark, I don't know if I was just like way too engulfed in the heat, but what spurred that conversation with you and Andy where you're like, if you see me with a bunch of female friends,'s a problem i don't know if that's how you said it but did we did you already talk about that and was i someone else i didn't really talk about that much i i basically just i think when we first met i just told her like i don't have i don't have girls that i'm like friends with. I'm like, I like my cousin, Stacy, like I'm friends with her. And like, that's about it. Like I don't have, um, I mean, yeah, even nowadays, like I don't really have, if they are, if there are women that are friends,

um, they're kind of more in the category of what Andrew was saying. It's like, uh, somebody else's wife or someone that like family friend that we know that kind of stuff. And so, yeah, I don't, I don't feel like I said, I feel like I get everything that I need from my wife, uh,

in terms of an interaction with a, with a female. Uh, and I don't feel like i need to uh go anywhere else to feel special from someone else uh although that's really easy to get caught up in you know with like social media and people telling you that you're cool and people telling you this and that and going to must be something interesting going to trade shows and dms and like all these things over the years.

But these are things that like you learn to navigate and you learn to like there's like a vibe, I guess, you could put out, right? You can kind of have a vibe that you're available. You can have a vibe that you're not available. not available and at least from at least from my side i never really felt like uh never felt like there was like a door open you know and social media does cause an interesting little wrinkle when it does come to relationships and stuff these days because it's like some people are like oh you're following these people on social media. Oh, who you – all those little things can cause so much complication. But a little uncomfortable truth I think that is odd is you're a super successful dude at this point. You're a multimillionaire, right?

You're in extremely good shape, right? There's an aspect where you are desired by probably many people who you wouldn't expect and with that it would be very easy right for you to it would be very easy for you to kind of get kind of what you want so there's an extra thing where you have to be super careful of the people you keep around you because there's a much higher risk for mistakes to be made in that type of situation than if you didn't, if you weren't a successful, you didn't have a lot of stuff going on.

Right. Right. So I think, I really think like as, I don't know, these friendships are possible, but as, as,

as guys, as you do more and more and as you make more money or whatever and you become more desired or whatever, if you are trying to have a relationship with somebody, with one woman, if that's your thing, I'm in an amalgamous relationship and I enjoy it, you need to guard the type of, not just guys, but you really need to guard the type of ladies that you do keep around you because that shit can get muddy real quick. Yeah. You gotta be, you gotta be careful. And I think,

uh, you know, the way that you set relationships up, uh, in the beginning is the way that they're probably going to continue onward. And so you have to be, uh, you know, conscious of your communication. You have to be conscious of, you know, so if when my wife met me, if I had, um, if I had a few friends that were girls and I continued to have friends that were girls, then I don't see like, uh, this is, uh, the person that you, yeah, this is, uh, you know, Andy, this is, you, you met me this way. This is the way that I am and this is the way that I've been. And you then that makes sense. Right.

And so that's kind of why I brought that's kind of why I said that to her was like that would be new and different. And that's also when you want her to be comfortable, too. Yeah, that'd be new and different. Like you're not going to really deal with that for me. I don't I don't have friends that are girls. I usually hang out at the gym. I'm usually lifting. Most of the shit that I do is kind of like in this like guy category.

And yeah, I'm just – that's the kind of stuff that I do. That's the kind of stuff that I enjoy. Those are the people I like to be around and just try to – have tried to make her as comfortable with that stuff as I can. And honestly, in this modern age, too, like when me and my girl started dating, just so I can make her comfortable, she didn't ask for this. But I was just like, if you ever want to see my phone, here's my password. She didn't ask for that. I gave her that because I want I wanted her to feel comfortable. I didn't even ask for hers.

But when I gave that to her, she's like, do you want mine? I'm like, if you want to, you can. But I did that so that, because Instagram's Instagram. Social media's social media. Messages come in all the time. I wanted her to feel as comfortable to understand that, hey, I ain't doing no shit out here. Here you go. Take a look. You're

good. But also, the way I've structured those female friendships, it's like, again, I want my woman to feel comfortable so you'll know who these women are, right? And she does the same thing on her end because she is very aware that men will find her attractive. And guys, like, I find it interesting where some women think like again that like these guys are harmless. They are harmless if you keep them harmless. But once you choose to open the door for more things, these guys are going to try to fuck. Straight up, right?

So it's just – it's an interesting thing, this whole male-female friendship dynamics. I don't think it's impossible. But like you just just gotta be so careful i think it just made like a lot of people uncomfortable though like explaining how like you know your girl has your your password and stuff because i know like a lot of people write like they guard that so much um i know i did in the past and it wasn't don't read our text thread with andrew so it was for things like that where it's like you know like you know um how we talk about like our instagram feed yeah like yeah my shit was full of like chicks or whatever just because

i'm like oh that's just that's what instagram is yeah but then when it's like oh wait you can actually tell instagram you don't want to see that so i'm like all right cool like so now my instagram is cool like even people that every once in a while you you're like, away beast. Away, sea devil. Yeah, get away from me, devil pussy. There you go. A little reminder. But like, you know, we are putting in some effort.

I know a lot of dudes might not even want to do that much but it's like again like happy wife happy life but like little things like um like i got this from mark actually like this morning i happened to text my wife's friend who is a female yeah and i text her and stephanie like i didn't text her just by herself directly oh she put them in a group i? I made sure that, like, they both saw this, you know, message, right? And then, like, Mark had mentioned,

like, if he's going to text a female friend, he'll text her and her husband in one thread just to be like, hey, ain't shit going on here. Like, I literally just need to, like, get in touch with you

for X, Y, and Z reasons. Those are the safest ones when they have a partner, too. Yeah. It's just like, we all know what's going on yeah definitely oh god susan brand's been talking about like having a like a sex party and stuff not with me but i'm just saying like on her like social and like her newsletter and shit and i'm just like i don't know i think that's a good idea but what i was

getting is like little small efforts like that they're gonna go very long way you know they'll keep you out of trouble and they will show your partner like hey like i'm not trying to do anything weird here yeah and then i mean like you know there's a sect of guys especially younger guys who are going to be listening to this conversation i'll be like y'all are simps know, there's a sect of guys, especially younger guys, who are going to be listening to this conversation. Y'all are simps. Straight up. You're nice to a female, you simp. What?

Because, you know, you said happy wife, happy life, right? And there's a danger zone to that because then there's the type of person who like cowers to everything his wife says because he wants to be happy. But that's not what we're talking about here we're talking about two people that are trying to uh you know look out for the best of each other in a relationship so that's why i didn't care she saw this and she didn't care if i saw that because neither of us were doing tell me shit you know what i mean but there's another side to it where I've seen people say, well, that just means you're insecure if you need his phone password or his – that means you're just insecure. And I wonder about that though. In this modern age, is that – would you guys think it's necessary for the partner you're with?

Like let's say this is your life. This is the person you're married to or a person you plan on having a long-term relationship with do you think it's necessary for them to be able to have access to your stuff or is it should they just trust that uh everything's cool on that little device of yours do uh you guys believe that every man is fallible sorry every man can make mistakes yeah absolutely i can too yeah every man can make mistakes uh do you believe that men or women can be driven by their hormones pretty far like to make decisions right yes from a guy's perspective you know for any women that might be listening to this even though we don't have any lady listeners, but if you're out there, hello, hello.

Got like four, I think. If you put yourself into a guy's shoes and the attraction to somebody is amplified when you have testosterone in your body. When you're a male, it's amplified. I mean, this is not something that's being made up. Men are more violent. Men are more aggressive. It's not bro science. Yeah, it's not bro science.

This is like, and I'm sure that there's women that can be more aggressive than other women and stuff like that. I'm sure there's women that can be more aggressive than other women and stuff like that i'm sure there's women that could have more of a sex drive than some men and stuff like that so i'm not saying that that's not a possibility but just think about if you had really really high sex drive and think about if you were in a relationship and something was going like not so good, that might be a crack, you know, that might be. So you sometimes will hear some women, especially women that have been around for a long time in terms of being maybe married for a long time or having a lot of, you know, maybe they have experience where they've had several

relationships over the years and they'll talk about how to kind of like keep your man, you know, and it sounds weird. It might sound kind of funny, but if they're not satisfied, not satiated, if they're not getting it from you, they're going to get it from somewhere else you know and that's uh probably doesn't sound very nice but if if if you're if a guy is making kind of uh remarks about like not getting blow jobs if a guy is making remarks about how hard it is to get pussy and he's like with he's like married with somebody i i think i don't think that i don't think that's good i don't think it's funny about how hard it is to get pussy and he's married with somebody. I don't think that's good.

I don't think it's funny. I think it's like a major bump in the road. Like a guy will say that repeatedly. I actually just saw a clip the other day about some girl was just saying, why don't you just like like rather than like hint have rather than give the guy hints that you like want him to fuck you why not just tell him like just tell him like i fucking desire you and i just want this right now or just however you word it you know because no one wants you to be smooth and they want you to do the whole thing 100 i totally

get it i totally get it but may you know maybe once in a while if you told them how much you cared or how attracted you are to them or whatever the thing is um you know maybe they wouldn't start to fantasize outside of that and i think there's a lot of discussion to have around like pornography and i don't think like a woman needs like track everything the guy does and be like, you know, snooping around his phone and stuff. Yeah. However, like we know that the testosterone levels are high. We know that especially if you're a younger guy, we know that there's probably some women circling, you know. And I think that it's just good to be open about these things.

It's good to have communication about these things. If you know that your guy is into porn, be a great thing to ask him. Like, hey, you know, I don't know what you watch on there, but I could make some of your dreams come true. And I don't know, maybe you're ruining his dreams by saying that. But it could be, hey, I could dress up and do that for you too or whatever. One of the greatest things that my girl has done. Oh, yeah. I just like I told her, hey, let me know any costume you want.

I will purchase it. So we have this shared notes app. A what? A shared note on our phone. Oh, notes app. Shared notes app, right? You know that you sent that to me and Andrew back. Sorry, guys.

Sorry, guys. It's all on the way, by the way. Wow, that's bizarre. It'll be here tomorrow. Yeah, but I got here like 10, 11 different. It's just fun. It's so fun. That's fucking great.

Yeah. Yeah. It comes out of my pocket, but I don't give a fuck. That's a gift for me. A lot of men like lingerie. I mean, that's what I was going to say. You can't shop for lingerie when you haven't gotten some because you end up spending way too much money. $300 later, I'm like, it's worth it.

Let's go. Like, you can only wear one, you know, at a time, but. Yeah. I think a lot of times women are thinking like, this is pointless. I'm just going to take it off. And it's like, I don't know. That's why you buy the stuff that you can leave on. Yeah.

That's the hack. Right? Don't buy the shit that like, yeah.'t know. That's why you buy the stuff that you can leave on. Yeah. That's the hack. Right? Don't buy the shit that like, yeah. No, no. You got to buy the stuff that you take off. Or that you don't have to take off. Sorry. I don't know why stockings and high heels always works, but it always works.

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Like no sex is like a punishment because you did something wrong. That's a tough thing. But on the other side of things, ways like men, like there's a lot of ways we can improve so that like, this is a two sided thing. You know what I mean? You can't be a slob. You got to communicate better.

You can't be a slob on that. And you got to work on your weaknesses and ideally on her. And she's also somebody who is about self-improvement about like, I'm not perfect. I can improve because it's not – it's tough to see a guy who's like, yeah, she doesn't want to have sex anymore. I don't know what to do, blah, blah, blah. But maybe there's something that's going on that y'all got to work on and communicate about. I mean I'm not a fucking therapist, but there's got to be more to it.

Yeah, you might have to think about it from their end. there's got to be more to it. Yeah. You might have to think about it from their end. Like what, what, what changed, what may be changed in you that has maybe left them to not desire you as much anymore? Like,

did you become their friend? Did you turn your wife into your mom? Like, you know what I mean? Like there's a lot of, did you turn your wife into, uh, you know,

someone that kind of just like waits on you all the time and they're overly stressed. And then, you know, they're talking to you about the dishes all the time and they're overly stressed and then they're talking to you about the dishes and the laundry and you're like I don't care about dishes and laundry I just want some fucking pussy and it's like there's a big disconnect there and it's like well if I didn't have to worry

about that all the time then maybe I'd have more time to just chill for a minute and be like oh yeah you're fucking hot let's go do this you know so you're right it's a two way street you gotta communicate a minute and be like, oh yeah, you're fucking hot. Let's go do this. You know? So you're right. It's a two way street. You got to communicate a lot. And we're also not saying that like men and women can't be friends. Um, it's just, so I'm just sharing some of my experiences and some of the ways that things have been for me. One thing I have seen and one thing I have noticed is that it's usually not a great sign when the female doesn't have other female friends. Yes!

I think that is a huge red flag. And again, I'm not saying always. I'm not saying for everybody. But man, like that's usually not good you hit the money brother no no you are so fucking right on that dude that is fucking huge all right let's think about this let's quickly just think about the male side of things if we you got male friends we are each other's friend also but we also got guy friends outside that we've known for a while that we we can like talk to right um if we do have an issue sometimes we could talk to our homies about it that's healthy for us now man like i i i one of

my an ex of mine she was just like you know girls just hate me like i just i can't ever have any female friends she has guy friends guys liked her guys liked her a little bit too much but they did like that was a red flag and i actually after that another thing i learned is like the next girl i find i want her to have strong female friendships. Because there is something going on with us. I want her to be able to turn to maybe other women or maybe even turn to like, hopefully she has a good relationship with her mother or whatever. Because those strong female friendships can actually be helpful. And they're beneficial for life.

Really helpful. So they can work through whatever situations or problems they have, whether it's with you or with anything else they got going on. And we've had issues, but she has good female friends, like girls with great heads on their shoulders that are smart and that are improving, et cetera. And that has made our life super easy. No, they're just like, listen, he seems a big guy. He eats a lot of protein, eats a lot of food. He's going to fart a lot. He's going to blow the bathroom up a ton.

So, you know, please don't get rid of him just yet. Like give him a couple more weeks, you know. But, you know, I'm sure they worked it out. Dude, that's a huge thing. It's like both sides. You got to, like, hopefully both sides, as a hopefully both sides as a guy you got friends as one that like have good friends that you can turn to but if she doesn't have female friends it's like first off why why can't you make friends sometimes it's hard to make friends

as an adult truly because are you sucking the dicks of all your is that how you keep them coming back shit i can't figure out how to be uh friends with some of these females they can't suck their cocks i don't know why but guys just like me so much more than girls it's just so much easier to relate to other guys why is that so much easier to please they just they like me too much they're so much easier than girls girls are such bitches that's what she would say well because you're probably fucking those guys oh hey man it's real you go through shit you deal with shit you you get those red flags you know what not to go towards so i look back at that i'm like hey you live and you learn. Some lessons are harder than others, but. Hey, man, at least there's no baby.

Fuck. Yo. You have a baby with the wrong person, male or woman, that is just a, that's tough. That's a whole nother conversation. That's a whole nother conversation. But so did Andy have a lot of female friends that you guys met? Or good female friends? Yeah, she's always had, yeah, she's always had.

Her sister's her best friend her mom um it's kind of nice to have like those built-in friends you know and then also uh yeah she's got a bunch of other friends she has guy friends i mean she swims with guys you know every morning um i know them they know me you know i there's, there's a lot of sides to all this stuff. There's gotta be like a trusting side. Um, you know, uh, I would just say that, I would just say that like, uh, being like of similar age to people and being someone that, uh, could be attracted to somebody, that the possibility and the thought of sex is like it's always kind of circulating.

It's like always kind of there. And so I think that's important just to not to be fearful of it, not to think that like some shit's going to go down all the time. But I think it's really common, whether it's your wife's friend or whoever it might be. You're going to recognize that they look a certain way and you probably have gone and threw it in your head like, well, I wonder if I could, you know, you probably think about it. And I don't know what it's like to be a female, but maybe they think similar stuff. I guess they don't have to think the same way because it's like maybe just like, yeah, he wants to fuck me. Like, if I really just sit here and think about it for a couple of minutes, I'm pretty sure he does because he's a dude. But I think it's like important to kind of like, I don't know, just to know stuff and and to be yeah to be just open to that

like it's a it's always it's always there it's like it's uh natural it is natural you know i mean the the thing is though you don't all you don't have to act on it right it's there right you could see somebody's attractive but that doesn't mean you gotta fuck them right um so it's it's it's complicated but i think again i just the easiest thing is if you're with someone that you truly love and care about you can just be as open with them as possible and and if you're open with them ideally that cements trust that was the whole goal that i had with you know with my girl this is like i'm gonna be open with her i'm gonna let her see like it doesn't bother me because i'm not doing shit i have nothing to be worried about and i want her to feel super comfortable too because she's like

she's in a situation where at least on social media there's a substantial following on social media it's risky business on her end actually with me right because i have i have more ability to be a fuck boy so i want to assure i ain't being a fuck boy out here you know so it is yeah and a simple thing too is like uh to kind of pull uh pull some of this away from people that are you know growing on social media media, just the more known you are, the more seen you are, the more opportunity there is for people to end up thinking you're attractive in some way. Whether you are attractive or not, it's almost like whether you're actually attractive or not is actually almost obsolete.

And so you might buy into the fact that you think you're this like handsome thing or this special thing. And, and really what all you did was, is you made yourself popular through whatever vehicle it was that you made yourself popular. You're not necessarily a sex symbol though. It's Kevin Hart. You see, you see it a lot with, uh, yeah, uh, famous people, um, musicians, you know, sometimes a girl will say, oh, my God, that guy is so hot. And you're like, really? You really find that guy to be? And you're like, well, yeah, he's a fucking rock star, so I understand.

For some reason, my girl thinks Ari Shaffir is, like, so attractive. Yeah, see? Really? Yeah. She's loved him as a comedian when she was younger. So she's like, he's so attractive. I'm like, huh. He looks like he has a huge dick.

Makes sense. Yeah. He definitely does. He definitely does. Yeah. Yeah. So, I mean, try not to allow any of that to really, you know, move you one way or the other.

It's the nose. Make you have a big head. You can tell. Some people, you just look at them and you're like dog i know what you got and we don't need to talk about it but why are you getting so serious i just i'm laughing i'm trying to hold it in yeah and then i started coughing oh my god know, one thing too, that is kind of a factor is like lifestyle. You know, the, I made sure just to try not to find somebody that like partied or drank really. Right. Because that leads to mistakes. Right. When first off a lot of partying and then with alcohol that fucks with inhibitions can just lead to people just making stupid mistakes. and then with alcohol that fucks with inhibitions can just lead to people just making stupid mistakes. So I'm not saying that you can't party or drink. That's all I'm saying. But it's just like these are things that are probably just other factors

to pay attention to if you're in a relationship. They're just other potential complications. Yeah, healthy habits, right? The going to bed early because you're going to go lift in the morning or whatever it may be. Less chances that you're going to go lift in the morning or whatever less chances that you're going to go and fucking do that night if a girl dancing with somebody is a big issue find a girl that can't dance shit like that you know and i think yeah the clubbing or whatever it might be

uh you don't want to have to go down that same road with somebody and there's really no reason to i don't think yeah it's it's it's it's yeah it's very interesting though those those uh red the red pill shows like fresh and fit or whatever right um a lot of those people that they kind of talk to are people that are in the party scene and it's like if you're and i don't want to generalize but generally if you're someone who does party a lot and you're or you're looking for somebody in that scene then you got to understand that that in and of itself comes with complications if you're doing something if you work a job and you have certain things and you are very structured, it would probably not be the best idea to try to have to deal with somebody who a lot of drinking and a lot of partying is part of their lifestyle because that just doesn't seem to mesh well.

It could. There are many people who have done it. But when I look at that, I just look at extra risk. It's like it doesn't mean that's not a good person, but that's just an extra risk that I am now willing to take. You're just insecure. I'm just insecure. I guess. That is such a weird comeback though. That's what people say. I guess.

When it comes to all this phone stuff and whatever we're talking about, people would look at that as their partner being insecure because they need to see things. But again, we're in a day and age now where everybody has so much close access to everybody and it would be weird to think that we if we are needing to be in a if we're looking to be in a monogamous relationship that that wouldn't be something that we're comfortable with our partner because it's it this is weird the phone is weird social media is weird right and

it's like it's very new it's very new so trying to work with old rules in a new system i mean it's not something you have to do but i just found that it was something beneficial to do just for that extra layer of trust because there could be a lot of shit hidden in that little phone imagine uh if some of it was like in real life you know uh you see a girl walking down the side of the walking down the street and you walk up to them and you zoom you zoom in into one specific spot you put your you put your head like right in their ass you know you're like oh my god i mean that's what it would be that's the equivalent of like zooming in right yeah so oh my god you know and since you know a while back uh you know i mentioned previously that i stopped watching porn and it's been a long time since i looked at it but then i I started just looking at social media as a form of pornography too,

and I'm like, what am I doing? Why the fuck am I? I don't need any of this, so just keep looking at the shit that you want to look at or that you're entertained by. Let's try to scroll through some of this pussy every once in a while. Scroll past it, rather. But yo, dude, clean up the feeds.

That men are fallible thing, that's huge like that's a big deal like i'm there there's who's messed up you know who has messed up like i know i could easily mess look at every person that we've put up on a pedestal they've everyone has messed up and if we don't know about your mistake then it just hasn't probably risen to the top quite yet dude yeah like even even for myself like there are situations that i know like like i could make a bad decision here easily i could make a really bad decision here um but i've like so far i've been okay but i know in the the back of my head, there are, there are sides of me that's just like, man, you could fuck up.

You could do that, but you just constantly try to make the decision not to. So I think understanding that you can mess up and knowing that that's a possibility, but trying to stray away from it is good. Cause no, we are not a hundred percent. We're just trying to be on a daily basis.

You know, I've even like, I've put myself in that scenario, like in my head, no, we are not 100%. We're just trying to be on a daily basis. Yeah. I've even, like, I've put myself in that scenario, like, in my head, like, what it looks like if I were to be, you know, a total piece of shit. And then, you know, my wife finds out and it's just like, wow, okay, a lot of shit that we built together, like, now that's all on, you know, shaky ice

or thin ice, I mean. And then it's like, okay, well, what if we, like, try to work it out? It's like, well, would she ever be able to trust me again like I wouldn't trust me again you know so it's like yeah I don't want that to happen you know so like you know kind of playing that out in my head it's just like like that's a terrible that's a nightmare so like let's go ahead and wake up and like make sure that we you know we're doing everything correct because that would fucking suck yeah want to take us on out of

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through it. So, what do you guys think? And we're not even saying that we know shit about shit. We just are given some of our perspective. Yeah, it's just our perspective. We don't know shit about shit. Yeah, none of it's, like, definitive or anything like that. What I'd like to share with people today for Smiley's tip, I think oftentimes we're trying too hard,

and I would love to see people. There's a, oh, shit, I'm forgetting the name of the book, but there's a famous book where this guy who was a former tennis instructor talks about how you can be really playful in learning something new. I want to say it's like tennis within tennis or something like that. me a tennis serve, how I would most likely mess it up unless I had previous skill of serving something in volleyball or doing previous serves in tennis. And what he wants people to do is just kind of like hum while they have the ball in their hand and be like, you know, and just really freely play and just hit the ball with a lot less thought. So we say think less all the time.

I think think less along with like try less. Like don't necessarily try to mimic or try to do something that someone's showing you. Do your best to just do your own interpretation of what that is and try to let your body be free and not so in tune with trying to do it right. Because if you do it wrong, the human body is designed, the mind of the human body too, is designed for error correction. That's how we learn everything is through a process of correcting errors. We learn how to walk. We learn how to talk. No one really shows us how to do it.

We learn it over a period of time and you end up becoming good at it over a period of time. So just see if you can, whether you're running or doing jujitsu, see if you can just like pull back on the trying because I think that it's going to take you X amount of time anyway. There's only so much learning you can do in one day, and there's only so much learning you can do within the confines of one class. So you can't learn harder. But you can't go to jiu-jitsu and just grip the mat and be like, I'm going to absorb everything today. It's not going to happen.

It's going to take years. And so whether you're dieting or lifting or any of these things, just realize it's going to take time. Take your time. Don't try so hard. The only thing that you might be really trying to do is just ingrain a pattern of a habit so that you do it so that you can do it for a long time. Strength is never weakness. Weakness is never strength. Catch you guys later. Bye.