Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi - 235. "Can we pay off this debt faster?" (Part 2)

Episode Date: November 18, 2025

Imani (52) and Michael (65) return for Part 2—and this time, Ramit pushes them to find out how fast they can turn things around. After years of miscommunication, mounting debt, and emotional exhaustion, they’ve finally started tackling their finances together. But when Facet’s retirement scenarios reveal how long their money will really last, they’re forced to confront new tradeoffs: spend less now, retire later, or change their lifestyle entirely. Can Michael step up and lead? Can Imani release control and start dreaming again? Or will their old habits slow their progress before it even begins? A special thanks to Facet for sponsoring this episode. Right now, Facet is waiving their $250 enrollment fee for new annual members. And if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days, they’ll add $300 to your brokerage account. Head to facet.com/ramit to see which membership—Core, Plus, or Complete—is right for you. (Ramit is not a member of Facet, and he has an incentive to endorse Facet as he has an ongoing fee based contract for cash compensation based on this endorsement. All opinions are his own and not a guarantee of a similar outcome.) In this episode we uncover: • Why Michael finally decides to take ownership after decades of financial avoidance • The moment Imani says she’s “tapping out” if things don’t change • How they discover Michael’s electronics obsession is more than clutter—it’s avoidance • The shocking realization that their debt payments eat up one-third of their take-home pay • How selling off $7,000 of electronics became the turning point for their marriage • What it felt like for Imani to finally let go of control and let Michael lead • Why teamwork and a clear plan helped them pay off $6,000 in just four weeks • How both partners confront what “enough” really means • The couple’s new shared dream: retiring abroad and living a simpler, freer life Chapters: (00:00:03) “I’m angry at Michael, I’m angry at myself” (00:18:03) “I’ve lost the ability to dream” (00:34:45) “It’s gotta work” (00:40:17) “I got the fever to start selling stuff” (00:51:47) “I could see the cloud starting to separate” (01:06:29) “I feel excited, inspired, energized” (01:22:39) Where are they now? Imani and Michael’s follow-ups This episode is brought to you by: Wispr Flow | Voice-to-text AI that turns speech into clear, polished writing in any app. Try it for free at https://wisprflow.ai/ramit Gelt | Book a tax consultation with Gelt at https://joingelt.com/ramit. As a member of my community, you can skip the waitlist MasterClass | For unlimited access to every class and up to 50% off an annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit ZocDoc | Download the ZocDoc app for FREE at https://zocdoc.com/ramit then find and book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored Shopify | Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at https://shopify.com/ramit Links mentioned in this episode • If you want help with your finances, join my Money Coaching program at https://iwt.com/moneycoaching Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

If you or your partner has fallen for a scam, I want to help, especially if you've recently fallen for an email or text scam, or you've gotten bad financial advice from someone who did not keep their promises, or maybe you just have not even told your partner because you are embarrassed. If this is you, I want to talk. Apply for free coaching with me by being on my podcast. Apply today at IWT.com slash apply. That's IWT.com slash apply. Let me share some of the coolest ways that my community has recently used money to live a rich life. One member did a month-long honeymoon in Europe after deciding she didn't want a big wedding. Another member bought a VW SUV that was their dream car that they've wanted for years.

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What the fuck? Twelve laptops? Yeah. He's at the point now where he should be able to retire, but he can't. This is my vision on my goal. Someone kind of manage the money and make sure that it goes in the right places. I don't have that knowledge to do with that. If this doesn't work, what does it mean for you? Be honest, I'm tapping out.

I can't keep doing this. It would be truthful. After our conversation, I got kind of f***ed off. I kind of got the fever to start. selling stuff. How do we wipe the debt out so that our net worth continues to rise? How much debt have you paid off since we last talked? $6,000. $6,000 since we last talked? If we had no debt, right? If we had just a mortgage, we'd be well over a million today. When couples have a lot of debt, one of the most common phrases they say is, we're just going to die with this debt. But virtually, none of them

has ever run a simple debt payoff calculation. They've basically just given up. When will their debts be paid off? What happens if they pay more or pay less? What levers can they pull to speed things up? They don't ask these questions because it's uncomfortable and people don't like to feel stupid about money. No wonder they feel so bad about debt.

They've never even taken five minutes to figure out a plan to get rid of it. But that's exactly what we do here on money for couples. Today we're back with Imani and Michael. They're 52 and 65 years old, and after 20 years of marriage, they finally combined their finances just four years ago and everything fell apart. Last week, we left off with Imani in tears because their rich life visions are so different. Imani dreams of a life full of travel and experiences. Meanwhile, Michael says he wants to just declutter and sit with a book.

She wants bigger. He wants smaller. And honestly, when your rich life vision is that small, it's no surprise that Michael has not thought about retirement. When the bar is set so low and you're carrying over $600,000 in debt, retirement just feels like a fantasy. That is why I called in our partners at Facet to help us today. Michael is 65 years old, but with high debt and a high income, their financial picture is fascinating and complex. Fassett has provided real scenarios today to show exactly what Michael needs to do to retire.

You can learn more about how FASIC can help you at Fassett.com slash remit. Can Imani and Michael bridge their worldviews and come around to a shared, rich life vision? Can they repair the wedge that has been driven into their relationship? I recommend you go back and watch or listen to part one

for all of the important background on this fascinating story. Now, let's do a quick recap of their conscious spending plan, the same tool that I use in every episode to go through their actual numbers. Assets, $603,000. Investments, $770,000.

Remember, Michael is 65 years old. Savings, $8,500. Debt, $601,000, including over $100K of high-interest consumer debt. Net worth, $780,000. Annual income, $268,000. Let's see if we can help Imani and Michael rewrite their story and their future. FACID is an RIA with the SEC. The FACID provided scenarios discussed are based on inputs provided by Imani and Michael and are based on industry standard assumptions.

This information is my opinion and is for illustrative and educational purposes only. Investing involves serious risks and past performance is not a guarantee of future performance or success. I'm not a member of FACET. I have an incentive to endorse FACET as I have an ongoing fee-based contract for cash compensation based on this endorsement. So your rich life is to declutter. Declutter. get rid of this debt. Okay.

And just have a, just simplify life. Just really have a simple life. I have more than I deserve. Okay. I'm going to help you come up with an even more powerful vision of a rich life. Okay. I see you nodding over there. How come?

Because I feel like everything that he says, I don't know if it's because he's looking at the effect of things on me. right, I want Michael to have a vision of his rich life. Like, you talked about I want to travel and all that, and he didn't say that, right? And so for me, it feels like he's like, oh, I've lived my life and I've traveled the world, you go do that by yourself. And I don't want to do life by myself. If I want to do life by myself, then I'll just go do life by myself.

I wouldn't have rode into this program. I would have just said, you know what? I'm over it. I had a cashed out. I heard of my 401K. paid off my net, take my children and just go. And then he'll say, he said he didn't, he has more stuff than he deserved. So what are you not deserving of, of a rich life?

Like, to me, that's an issue. I deserve the best of everything. And I mean, damn, if I won't go get it. Say more. I feel like I work hard. I give. I give, I give my family probably. wants to smack me, I'm always somewhere volunteering and giving and giving and giving. I feel like

that is my mission. Like I've been put on this earth to serve, but I also deserve to live that rich life, to travel, to do all the things that God put in my heart to do. And for him to say he doesn't deserve that, I'm like, there's a disconnect there. Are you too religious? Absolutely. Yes. Both are. Okay. I have more than I deserve familiar phrase.

Michael, where did you pick that phrase up? I just look around me when I'm in the house. I've got this piece of equivalent. I got this. It's just too much. Hold on. Finish the sentence. I have this.

I have that. And I just feel that. So if I have 10 computers and I have 15 computers, I can't only be on one computer at a time. Like, why do I need 14 other computers? But yet you just bought an SSD, another one. Yeah. And you had a very good reason to explain it to Imani.

Yeah. So in a way, you're saying I have more than I deserve and why do I have all this? But then you just buy another one. Explain it. Yeah, it's just a, I would say, a bad pattern of doing that. What do you feel when you go to the website or the store and you pick that thing up? What do you feel? The first thing I say is, okay, I'm looking at something that really don't need it, but I like to have it.

What do you feel? I just feel like, hey, I should not be on this website looking at this. Nope, that's not what you feel. You're lying to yourself right now and you're lying to me. I get lied to a lot. I love it. But I could tell. I think when you go to that website or that store, you see the little computer, the tech

gadget and you feel excited. I think you go, ooh, that's going to be good. I got a reason. I know I have this one, but like, I actually need this one because it has this feature. True or false? True. Okay. I don't think you're trying to lie to me on purpose.

I don't think that at all. Okay? I think we all, like, lie in different ways. Somebody say, do I look good in this shirt, whatever. Okay, I don't mind that stuff. but I'm wondering, do you have access to your own feelings inside? Do you know why you do certain things? Sometimes I don't.

Great, very honest answer. I appreciate that. Okay. Again, not that I think you are lying intentionally. Right. You're here. I know you're here out of good faith. You both want help.

I believe that. Right. But when I ask you, you know, what's your rich life? Your answer is I want to minimize. But like, there's no real evidence of minimizing. When I ask you, like, what would you want to do? I guess, I mean, she could travel and, like, Imani's crying, you know, over there saying, like, I don't want to do it alone. I want to do it together.

We're not in the same universe right now. Imani, what do you think it would take for you to get on the same page about money? I think it would take a real effort on Michael's part, right? A real concerted, consistent effort. Not a, yes, we got off the podcast and now we have this thing. And, you know, for two months, everything's great. and then all of a sudden we're back in the same pattern. But what if it doesn't work?

Like what if it's, you worked with this other money coach and you got the pack of budgets and this and that? Nothing really changes after a couple months. What happens then? Be honest, I'm tapping out. I want out. I want out. It's got to work.

I don't have the energy, the intestinal fortitude, the desire. Michael has got to show up because I'm tired. It's got a word. I mean, I don't have any more solutions. I don't.

It's got a word. I'm going to help you come up with an even more powerful vision of a rich life. And I think it will work because I don't think the proactivity has been there on my part.

Can you say that again, in a way that is, like, taking ownership? I don't think I've been proactive. And by me being proactive is me pushing the agenda as for its finances. Nice. Not always even money pushing the agenda to the point where she says, okay, I don't want to talk about the finances anymore. I want you to manage it. Whoa.

Right. I like that. Right. So then that will take some stress off of her. Yeah. And she can focus on some other things that will enhance what we're trying to do from a relationship standpoint. I believe everybody has a – you know who Doug Flutie is? No.

So Doug Flutie was a football player, and he played for Boston College. And the time was out in the game, and he had one pass to make to win the game. He threw the pass and a receiver caught the ball, and Boston College won the game. This is my Doofruity moment. Wow. What does it mean to you? A lot. Tell me.

Take your time. We got no rush. It's time to stop. Time to stop spending? Yes. Okay. And tell me what you want to start. As soon as I can.

What do you want to start doing instead? Just get rid of. stuff. Mm-hmm. Okay. And once you get rid of those things, we can make it happen. Mm-hmm. What then? Oh, have a plan, have the discipline and rigor to stick to the plan.

Yeah. I'm struck by the way Michael talks about his rich life. Do you notice how he keeps circling back to the same idea? Stop spending. Declutter. It's all just so small. I think Michael has truly lost the ability to dream. Maybe partially because of the generation he grew up in,

but I suspect the larger reason is that he's an avoider. He's avoided the issue of money for so long that dreaming simply feels foreign to him. And when you avoid money, you don't just avoid spreadsheets or debt, you actually avoid the bigger questions about what you want out of life. So instead of imagining a rich life filled with meaning and connection, Michael has shrunk his vision down to arbitrary commodity purchases,

a keyboard, a computer, because that feels manageable and safe. Guys, listen up. Your rich life is not buying random commodities. I can tell you that right now. Not a single person I have ever talked to has answered my question, what is your rich life with keyboards or detergent at Target, or even sweaters, which I personally love. Now, if you love those things and you can afford them, get them.

But we both know that is not the totality of, what matters to you in your rich life. When Imani talks about her dreams like traveling to Martha's vineyard, she's trying to create a more powerful vision. It's not really about Martha's Vineyard. The traveling represents new experiences, being expansive, seeing new places. It's about living bigger, not smaller. I can guarantee you that a keyboard or a freaking coffee mug is probably not your rich life in totality. I think he is finally starting to realize the severity of the situation now. So I want to keep pushing. Listen as I challenge Michael to stop retreating. I know that some of us think better when we write our thoughts out, but for a lot of us, including me, I'm better when I can

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it's about getting ahead. I think that when I ask, like, what's your rich life? What I'm looking for is the ability to dream, is the ability to think beyond a daily problem or a monthly problem or even a spreadsheet. I'm looking to see if one or both partners

have the ability to think bigger. And I typically find that most people have such a bad relationship with money that they've lost the ability to dream. And, you know, Michael, you got a lot of life left. What Imani is saying is like, hey, I'm young. I'm not even close to being done with this life. And I'm trying to do this with a partner. And that, I think, is part of what is upsetting when your answer is I went when I was in

the military. So like if she wants to do that, she should do that. Do you see how the two answers are not meeting? I see. Yeah. All right. Can we try it again, actually? Because I think this is so important. I think this is one of those moments that the two of you are going to remember for a long time. Okay. And I want to ask you, Michael specifically I'm going to ask you, what is your rich life in just a minute? So go ahead and just think about it. Think about it. You don't have to answer me yet. Just give it some thought. Before you answer, maybe we can set up like a North Star. I'll give you a couple of examples.

A North Star helps elevate us out of the day to day and all this debt that you have. Yeah, there's debt. There's a problem. We'll try to fix it. But like when my wife and I think about our North Stars,

we have a few. You know, like we both want to laugh a lot. We both put relationships first. So if we ever have the opportunity, if we can be at somebody's birthday party or something, we're going to be there. I mean, we'll use money to spend more time with relationship. We want to travel a lot.

We like, you know, fitness and stuff like that, so we'll pay money for that. What would be some examples of North Stars for you? Let's go back and forth, starting with Michael. What's important in your relationship? To be in a financial situation where I can take money, to see places that I've seen like the grandkids. Canyon. Great. All right. Imani. To be able to take huge family vacations, you know, with multiple sides of our family where we pay for it, right? Like go to Jamaica, run a house,

take 10 people with us. Great. Let's do it again. And this time, no money. No money. Just important to the two of you. Michael. I would say what's most important right now is that we keep each other in check that I take on, readily take on more responsibility for the finances. What? Didn't I just say no money? Oh, no money. I would say to be able to go to places like wine and sips.

She likes to go into wine and sips, to be able to go to wine and sips and just kind of hang out. Oh, I like that. All right. So like to be able to go there regularly, what do you say? How often is that? I would say to be in a situation where we can,

go say once a month and there's no big deal. Right. Okay, cool. Amani? To be able to go with Michael to try new foods. Thai food is one of our favorites to be able to try different Thai restaurants all over the, you know, all over the state where we live. Beautiful. Okay.

Now, Michael, can we come back? Sure. I want to ask you the same question again. What is your rich life? I would say to be the man. She married 24 years ago. Tell me what that mean. I think we were more connected.

I think we were more on the same page as far as in a family. We communicated more. Even though we both had careers going on, and it still was that bond there that, hey, we're in this together. Yeah. That's awesome. What do you say, Amani? I think that's great because I think a lot of life has happened, right? And we aren't those same people.

I think a lot of frustration, a lot of disappointment has happened in 24 years. And, you know, an erosion of the trust, right? To be honest, right? Because, you know, financially, if you can't trust someone, you feel like you're on your own. And that's how I feel sometimes. I feel like, you know, again, Like I said earlier, if I don't do it, it doesn't happen. And that's a huge burden to take on. And so I would love for Michael to be the man that I married 24 years ago because I went into this thinking that, you know, I know that, you know, we all carry baggage from our childhood. We all carry, you know, baggage from other relationships and marriages and things like that. So I get it.

But I think we all have to. take responsibility and accountability for where we are and our part in it. Can I ask you, Michael? Sure. I'm sorry to cut you off, Imani. Michael, I was really struck by what you said about reconnecting and getting that bond back that you had with Imani when you first met each other. What did it feel like when you had that bond?

It felt great. I know our lives were a lot less complicated then, even though we both had careers. years. And as we grew older, it kind of got more complicated with just life-lifing. How did it feel? You said, great. Tell me more. I mean, we went out a lot when we initially met when the kids came along.

I don't think we stopped going out. I mean, we found some way to go out. So I think the bond was stronger. So as we grew in our careers, or some of the now adults now. We're still in our careers, but I think what we're doing in our careers probably vibrates more than

what we do in our relationship, especially around finances. Yeah. Sometimes finances are just the surface level reflection of what's going on at a deeper level. Not always. Sometimes it's adjacent. orthogonal, whatever.

But yeah, sometimes it's easy to focus on work instead of a relationship. We all know that. Every one of us in a relationship has experienced that. I'm struck by the honesty, Michael, I feel like we're really, we're talking now, like about the real stuff. The computers is not the real stuff. We'll deal with that, but this is the real stuff. And to be able to talk about it in relation to money,

that's specifically what I do. So I want to try to get us to make some changes to the finances because I think it will influence the relationship and I think the relationship will influence the numbers. It's this kind of beautiful cycle. It feeds on itself. And it can be an upward spiral where things are going well and the money's going well

and like even if you have debt, it's still you've got a plan or it can be a negative spiral. We're disconnected. We're just going to spend a bunch of money, go into debt, not talk about it, get in a fight every so often, and then repeat. Okay. So I'd like to create a positive cycle. I would like to quickly reflect on what I see in your conscious spending plan.

Okay. In your 50s and 60s, if you two were earning far less, I would say this is, you know, at least from an assets and investment perspective, it's not bad. And if you were to tell me we have a pension as well, I would say, well, that actually makes things even better. But the fact that you earn $268,000 makes the numbers here not acceptable. The debt is unsustainable. Candidly, it's out of control. First of all, there's just like so many sources of debt. And for what? Like for what? What do you have to show for it? You know, we have, again, We have student loans.

Okay, that I totally understand, and that is what is responsible for the higher income. That's great. We have a home equity line of credit. We have a 401K loan. We have credit card debt, consumer debt, cars, and, you know, like, it's just a lot. It shows that it has not been organized, that there has not been care and attention paid towards this. If we go down to fixed costs, 83% is way too high. I'd like to see it lower, but it's hard to change that.

Look at these debt payments. $5,291 a month. Outrageous. Outrageous. You're basically spending a third of your take-home pay on debt. For what? All this hard work you've done and it's just going right into interest and a bunch of debt you racked up. Investments are at 1%.

There's basically nothing going there. Savings at 7%. But like really, it's okay. We'd like to get that number higher. And then we know that the guilt-free spending number is not accurate. You're spending much more than you have noted here, which means you're just going into more debt. Big changes need to be made. I think that's spot on.

I agree that we need to make big changes. I'm not going to say it's going to be drastic because I'm at the point now where they have to be made. Great. It has to happen. I agree. It has to happen. And I'm going to be honest with you, I'm not going to miss the things that I got to get rid of. I'm not.

That's the way to approach it. Your job is to bring your fixed costs to 60%. But I would like for each of you, and I would like for Michael to start, because from now on, Michael is taking a leadership role here. Play around. Tell me what you'd like me to do. Remember, I can always undo it. But we got the fixed costs are at 83% or $12,000 a month. And we need to bring that number down.

The two numbers that really stick out for me is the debt payments and groceries. Okay. In regards to the debt payments, getting rid of some things and just selling things, could put a big din in that. Great. Talk to me about that. Synthesizers, I'm going to say 7,000. How many of those do you have? About seven of those, but they vary in prices. Are you a hoarder?

Imani said that I am. Oh, shit. Like, all jokes aside, if you look in the... house, is it like difficult to walk in? Yes. In my electronics room, it is. Okay. Okay. Yes, Michael has, his stuff has to be in a certain place. It migrates out, but I put it back. It's like fighting the blob. Has anyone else in your life ever joked about you being a hoarder? I mean, my son, my son's will quip every now and then, but what will they say? My own son, I would say, you need to get rid of some of this stuff.

and do you ever amy amy saying no but I recently took a trip home and I took a couple of computers and gave me to my nieces and nephew I'm puzzled because these synthesizers appear to be quite large

you tell me you don't just have one two three you have seven and then like you tell me it's difficult to walk around it's certainly caused hardship financially we're in a lot of debt here but at the same time

you're like I'm ready to get rid of it all so I'm like okay, that's interesting. I take you at face value. I believe you are ready to get rid of them. We're going to make a plan for it. I would like to encourage you to see a mental health care specialist and just talk to them about it. Worst case, you spend an hour of your time. Best case, it might actually unlock some serious insights. Yeah. Would you be down for that? Yeah, a lot of what I get rid of. There's absolutely nothing that I have in my possession that I will I want you to notice the layers that we're uncovering.

It's like an onion. Every time we peel a layer, a new one is revealed. What strikes me about this collection of electronics, 15 laptops, 7 synthesizers, a room so cluttered that he has trouble moving around, is how unreasonable it all is. It's not just the sheer volume of stuff. It is the way he has fixated on these small things

while completely ignoring the bigger, more pressing financial issues in his life. His wife has said she might leave. How many synthesizers is that worth? I also find it interesting how proud he is of these gadgets. Yet there is no urgency or emotion, not even anger, when it comes to over $600,000 of debt. Instead, his focus has been what new toy he can purchase at Best Buy.

Remember, when your life feels out of control, you often shrink it down to the most controllable item there is. We've seen it many times on this show. We have a couple whose finances are totally out of control. And what do we see? Often, the wife, microfixated on a budget while their debt is simply snowballing out of control. We see the equivalent thing happening right here. Now, I told Michael, I'm not qualified to diagnose what's behind this behavior,

but I did suggest he speak to a professional. I admire that Michael wants to clean this room of gadgets, and getting help would make that a lot easier. Let's keep going. I think one of the best characteristics for people who actually end up living a rich life is being curious. Like lots of people will say their rich life is traveling more, but I think that's just a word. Where do you want to go?

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at roughly 800 bucks, we already like $5,000. So it seems to be a lot of to me with that plus 10 computers, we're at, I don't know, 10,000 bucks, ballpark? This could be at least 15 grand. Okay, great. Let's say 15. That will bring your payments down a little bit, not much.

So Michael, there's two numbers you said, debt payments and groceries. Why don't we talk about groceries? Who does the grocery shopping? Emani dogs. Oh. Let's ask her. We probably can take groceries from 1,500 down to like a thousand. I can make work.

Yeah, are you sure? I'm not pressuring you. You tell me you do the shopping. Yeah, I mean, I think we can because we don't eat the food that we bring in the house. We eat out a lot of it. If I were you, I would assign that to somebody else because why are you taking that on? You got three grown adults besides you in the house. Here's the number you need to hit every month.

Good luck. That's it. Okay. Are you prepared to do that? Look at that deep breath. Tell me if you're not. It's okay. This is a hard transition. You know what? If I don't, then it won't change. So I just have to. I am so happy you just said that. Damn. Well, let me just tell you, we just brought that number down by changing it from 1,500 to 1,000. We brought it down to 79%.

Phone at 3.46. Why? Michael, tell them why. Why is the phone that's 3.26? That's two additional lines that falls on there. Why? Does it even matter? No. Okay. What number should it be? So each one of everybody in the house has a separate line.

I would say that it should be $250. $250? $250? All right? Yeah. Moving along, subscriptions at $170. Can we just bring this down? Yes. What number?

Let's go to $100. Great. All right. We're down to 78%. We're moving in the right direction. It's really the debt that we need to talk about. Do you know when your debt will be paid off? Yes or no?

No. Okay. Imani? Some of it, not all of it, no. Everyone's just kind of like, this sucks and I've gotten used to it. And I'm going to instead focus on other things like Best Buy purchases instead of this thing, which is really the thing that matters. What I want to do is I'd like to speak to you again.

I think we need to breathe. I want to allow you both to have some time. So I will speak to you again if you will do the following. A true debt payoff plan. Selling your electronics and putting that money towards the debt. Ideally, the principle, but any of it will be good. And then sitting down together creating a rich life vision and redoing your CSP. On all of these things, I want Michael to take the lead.

But Imani will be right there. hand in hand. She'll just not be the first one mentioning it, scheduling it, leading it, but she'll be there. How's that sound? Sounds good. I got to wrote down. Okay. It makes total sense. And it's a rational way because I have a scientific rational brain. So that helps me to think about, you know, okay, I need to be thoughtful in how I approach it and put it back on him. Right. I am not his parent. I'd like to give you

four weeks to make these changes fast but doable that's it and that really forces like hey we got to sell this stuff we gotta get this thing paid off we gotta do this we gotta do that but I know you can move

I know you can I feel like we've talked to one another in a way today that has been a long time coming gives me hope I feel like I saw something change in Michael and so I'm hopeful.

I'm cautiously optimistic. Michael, anything I can answer for you? I know the work that I have to do. It's going to be painful. It is. Yeah. But I'm at that point in a word. I'm good.

I believe in money will be good. You know, I rarely invite guests back for a second session, but I wanted to. And I thought it was really important for a few reasons. Sometimes I can see the changes that they have to make are very large. And I can tell that if we end after one call, I don't have the confidence that those changes would be meaningful. I also want accountability.

Yes, Michael has a ton of work to do, especially as someone who, as he told me, hasn't ever had a plan in his life. Having a deadline is going to hold him accountable. But Imani also needs to be held accountable as well. She has a lot of work to do on her own money psychology and her spending habit. Next, Imani literally said she would consider leaving Michael if things don't change. The stakes are high. I want to give them the best chance at success,

and if you are in any sort of coaching, counseling, or therapy, you know that multiple sessions are very important to succeeding. And finally, we haven't even had the opportunity to talk about retirement yet. We have a lot more work to do, and I want to share their financial information with our partners at Fassett to get some real data in front of Imani and Michael on what is possible. Now I've given them a ton of work to do, and only four weeks to accomplish it all.

This change is not going to be easy, especially since they have spent 25 years cementing their roles. But let's get back into it with Imani and Michael. I'm so excited to see you again. I've been thinking about our conversation. So I was pumped when I saw that we get a chance to speak again today. First off, just in general, if you had to describe how you're feeling right now, before we get into all of it, what would you say? Imani, in one or two words, how do you feel right now? excited. Great. Michael?

Ecstatic. Ecstatic. Whoa. All right. I like it. I don't hear that word on this show too often. I'm excited to find out what's going on. During our last conversation, Michael, you told me that you wanted someone to tell you what your options are. So we're going to do some of that today. And I have some options from our friends at Facet. but before we get into that, did you complete the homework? Let's go through them line by line. Let's start with the debt payoff plan. Did you do a debt payoff plan?

Yes, we did. Who was the one who set up the conversation about the debt payoff plan? I understood the assignment that I was supposed to take lead. So I think maybe a couple of days after that I said, okay, I got to make sure that I'm taking the lead. But we were all in agreement what we had and what our goals were. the sheet, that reduction plan was good. Michael took the lead more. He was, you know, he brought the big chart with all of our numbers.

He brought it over to me and was like, okay, let's go, right? And so seeing him actually take the lead and the conversation was non-confrontational. I was so proud of him. Seeing him motivated, kept me motivated as opposed to me pulling him, right? I felt like we were kind of going the path together as opposed to me like getting upset and slamming stuff and sitting down and, you know, threatening him and I can't you do this. It was more of a conversation that we look forward to having because we have a plan, right, that gets him to retirement. Okay. Fantastic. I got to give a round of applause.

This is great. I love it. I love the progress. I love the attitude. The change in the conversational style and the intentionality. It's like two thumbs up from me. I love it. With your current amount of debt, how long will it take for you to pay off the debt? So it's projected to be paid off in 2030. I feel that we can accelerate that because some of the factors that we didn't include in the debt reduction plan was like annual bonuses. Uh-huh. So that's not included in the bonus. They can average anywhere from 6 to 8% of my salary, which is substantial.

Mm-hmm. So we didn't factor that in. And then other opportunities to bring cash in, i.e. sell electronics. Great. So I think that would, I think that will accelerate things a lot. I love this. I love your strategy with your conservative estimates. Out of curiosity, can I take a look at that debt payoff plan?

Sure. Here's what I'm looking at now. This is the actual plan. So at the top, they essentially had all the debts listed out. So we're now looking at how long it's going to take to pay. off the debt and we have four months to pay off this first amount of debt. Six months for the next one, all the way up to five years to pay off the $87,000 debt. Right.

Okay. All right. I'm down with this. Total interest paid $46,000. What does that feel like when you see that number? It's a lot. Yeah? We want to get that paid off fast.

I don't want to pay $46,000 in extra interest. Good. I like when people hate interest. You should. But it also, to me, it's kind of a reminder like, hey, we made some decisions. And we're going to have to pay, we're actually going to pay $46,000, maybe a little less if we accelerate things for our past decisions, but we can also get out of it. Guys, I am incredibly impressed at that debt payoff plan.

I got to give you a round of applause. That's very impressive. I mean, we actually had to buy a dryer the other day. And normally we would panic. And it was like, nope, dryer's not working. Let's go get a dryer, right? And we had money set aside to do that. Wow.

So we went and bought a dryer. And now, you know, we're getting back into the plan. To me, I look at it in the way I feel is every time you check one of those things off, you're winning. So instead of losing all day and feeling horrible, you now get to win month after month after month. That is amazing. Yeah. How much debt have you paid off since we last talked? It's definitely over.

It's about six. Six what? $6,000. $6,000 since we last talked? Yeah. Damn. We focused. Michael, how did it feel to be in charge of the debt payoff plan after years of

letting Imani take the lead on the family finances? It felt good. I can see the change in her attitude. It's kind of like, yeah, we got this big cloud over, but I can kind of see it separating and spreading out a little bit and see a path to the cloud. So that was very enlightening and enjoyable to see. Imani, what did it feel like for you to step back as Michael created the debt payoff plan? It's hard, right?

Because I'm of control for you. But it shows that I trust what he's doing and I trust the work that he's putting in. I appreciate it. So, you know, you have to let go and let people, right? They say let go and let people show you, right? And so that is his opportunity to show me. And so now I trust, okay, now we can do this. Now, I will say that there are sometimes when he's looking at the account, he's like, well, what's bad? I'm like, I don't ask me what I'm spent. What I'm like, I get it. What do you tell yourself? Like, what do you tell yourself at that moment? And what did you tell yourself when you were trying to give up a little bit of control in order for Michael

to take the lead? Let go. That's what you said. Yeah, I literally said, okay, he's got it. I got to let him have it. Michael's got to step up, right? That was the assignment, right? And if he's willing to do that, then I need to let him do that. I like that. I hope everybody listening can see and can hear from the two of you how quickly you can make life all changes. It doesn't have to take 10 years. It doesn't. It could be literally a week and you can change your life completely. Michael, what happened with the electronics? Where are you in the process of selling those things? Last week, I think I made $3,000 off of selling electronics. This week, as of yesterday, camera equipment, I got a quote for $4,000. What? Are you serious? Yeah.

Whoa. That's gonna ship on Saturday. Wait, this is awesome. You know, I don't think anyone in America has ever seen me smile before. This is the first time I've ever been publicly photographed smiling. I can't believe it. Yeah, he's paid off. That's how we got rid of the buy now, pay later debt.

It was over, it was almost 4,000. And we're going to the next biggest thing, right, that we need to get like some wiggle room in our CSP, so we're going to tackle that with that 4,000. That's going to wipe out something big on here. Honestly, phenomenal. What you just said, I really love, I especially love it, the way that you took what we talked about and you adapted it for your own needs. Michael, when we talked, you know, you dropped how many laptops you have and cameras and all this stuff. I'd never heard anybody have that much electronic stuff. What got you to look at those things in a different way and decide I'm going to sell them.

It would be truthful. After our conversation, I got kind of pissed off. Yeah? Yeah. Tell me. I was like, this is ridiculous. I kind of got the fever to start selling stuff, so now I can't stop. Wow.

It's amazing. Like, you, what was it, 10 laptops? Something like that? Yeah, it was 10 laptops. Yeah. I still got, I still got plenty of head room to sell more. So, how many do you have? I probably got about another 10 or 15,000. to sell. What? What are you going to do with the money? Yes. Oh, we're going to pay off debt. This is amazing. Yeah, I'm just super proud of Michael. This is one of my favorite parts of my job.

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So that's what I'm going to look at. You want me to tell you the answer? It's a yes or no. I'll tell you in five seconds. Tell me. Just show me the camera. camera, take it in the closet. We'll decide right now. Oh, God. The closet isn't a nut?

You mean, like, go in my bedroom in the closet? Yeah. Okay. Oh, okay. Whoa, we got a, is this a big old walk-in closet? Yeah. Yeah, it is. Oh. Let me describe what I'm looking at, please. Just, just very slowly, very slowly. So we have a, a large walk-in closet with two rows of clothes. We have, they are full, absolutely full. She just panned down and I'm seeing the number of shoes here. All right, we got damn near 35 pairs of shoes.

She was very careful not to go up. Oh. God, I love my life. Okay, I see some bags up there. Lots of color. I see blue, red. I see a green blazer on the rack. I see a leopard print.

I don't know if I want the answer. Well, my wife is a personal stylist, and she's done this for hundreds and hundreds of clients, including many successful women. So I'm not going to speak for her. I'll just speak for myself. I would say probably yes. What if,

what if, just as a thought experiment, and we can just hang here for just one more second. What if you got rid of 50% of your clothes? Oh, that would be so traumatic because I've done that before. I've done, I had a stylist come in and I got rid of. And then?

I got rid of 75% of my clothes. Okay, love it. What happened? Oh, you bought it back. All right. You could take us back to the other room. Thank you very much. And a big round of a place.

for showing us that closet. That was cool. It actually tells me so much, and I really appreciate it. All right. So, Imani, you said something interesting. You said, that would be traumatic if I had to sell 50% of my clothes. It's interesting because Michael has 10 laptops and he's probably going to end up selling. How many of them, Michael?

Well, we definitely would get down to two. I seriously did that. Like, I have pictures of my closet when we did that. So maybe, maybe I'll try again. What is off limits are the conversing. is not selling any of those. I saw quite a few of those. How many would you say you have?

20 pair. All right. Yeah, that's my thing. All right. This is a remarkable parallel between Michael's computers and Imani's shoes, although the price is a little different. Michael? Uh-huh.

You want to say anything right now or no? No, I'm giving her role. I'm sure she's going to make the right decision and where she can live up. And can't a little wit. All right. I respect it. Cool. Well, listen, you don't have to sell.

Nobody has to do anything. The other thing for me is looking around and how we did so much with less as we were growing up. And like, society will tell you and social media will tell you that you have to have the newest, brightest, shiniest thing. And through this process, I'm realizing that that's not the stuff that makes me happy. Last time that we spoke, we talked about your vision. of a rich life. And there were two different visions that emerged from our conversation. Michael, you wanted simplicity and decluttering. Imani, you wanted travel and shared expenses. So as part of the homework, I asked you to come up

each with a detailed vision of your rich life and then speak about them together. First, just checking in, did you complete the exercise? Imani first, then Michael. So we kind of did. We arrived at a shared vision of owning a place outside of America. Like Panama, we actually talked about Panama because Michael lived in Panama when he was in the military. So we have actively been, you know, talking to friends that live and that have condos in other places. And so that's a part of our rich life. It is decluttering, getting things sold like he's doing, getting things clean,

out and, you know, when he retires and I'm location independent, you know, we're going to look at putting that plan into action. So as we pay off debt, look at how do we get to the point where we can buy a place in a location, like a Panama or a Costa Rica or a

Carta Hena, you know, somewhere in that area of the world in order to live? It's a shared vision. Definitely decluttering and selling. And again, living abroad. And now I had to worry about, well, you know, I have a house full of stuff here that I got to worry about.

Great. Love it. Okay, wow. This is quite a bit of a shared vision different than when we talked last time, which I love. Decluttering fits in because you can't make it happen unless you declutter a bunch of stuff. Decluttering also helps get you there faster. I really think the last conversation after we had the conversation. kind of thinking about the time where I said, you know, I'm going to tap out.

I think that affected him a lot. I didn't mean to come off that way, but I think for Michael, he's one of those people that you have to find something that moves him emotionally. And for me, I was just exhausted, right? Like I felt like he wasn't hearing me. And I think after our conversation, I'm like, oh, he's starting to hear me, right? He understands what's at stake here because I don't want to do this. anymore. I'm tired of doing this, right? Because you ask what's going to change. And I see the change. And it's been sustainable. You know, he's like, can you mail this for me? Can you, can you get a box?

And I'm like, run around trying to find box, mail stuff. And, you know, as much as I'm like, I'm like, but it's good, right? Keep doing it. Let's keep, let's keep this up. Let's, let's keep this up. So I'm, I'm excited that we are moving toward a vision. Michael, what did you learn about Imani's dreams through this process and through our last conversation? She wants to explore. She wants to go out and see some more of the world. Michael, when we talked last, you had trouble coming up with your own dreams. If I were to ask you today, what are some of your dreams?

What would you say? My dream, stress-free life, not being surrounded by clutter. and to get into a position financially where I could reach out and help others. What does that mean? Well, I have nieces and nephews and other family members that haven't had some of the opportunities and money and myself I've had. So it would be pretty neat to pay for them to go on a trip to someone like the Grand Canyon or maybe take a trip to to Jamaica. Because financially, they're not in a position to do that.

So I think that would be pretty cool. My mind is turning right now. I love the vision between the two of you, starting to create a dream together, this vacation home that you may have, traveling abroad. It's just getting my wheels turning that, Michael, I love your vision. And what a beautiful cherry on top that when the debt is paid off. Perhaps after the two of you have gone on a couple of international trips, just the two of you, look at Imani's face. Look at that smile. Then, and only then, do you perhaps say,

we'd like to invite a couple of our nephews and nieces with us? I mean, you two could be the cool travel relatives. That'll be awesome. Yeah, but you all come first. Can we take a look at your revised conscious spending plan? All right. You sent this over. I've been very interested to take a look at this. This is the one that you changed based on our conversation. All right.

So I assume your net worth has not changed much. Maybe you dropped the debt a little bit, correct? It's actually changed quite a bit. Oh, tell me. Because our investments went up quite a bit. Okay, we've got to take it from the top then. Read me off the word in bold and the number in full next to it, please. Okay.

Assets, $603,315, which is car home property and business. Investments, $795,05, $5. Okay. Savings $85,23. That's a little low, but we're working on it. And our debts, $5.9.486. I think that's changed by about, because it was over $600 before. Whoa.

So with a total net, worth of $816,000. What does that feel like to you? Amazing. Look, we're going to be at a million. And once we pay this debt down, if we had no debt, right? If we had just the mortgage, we'd be well over a million today. Yeah.

Right? And what I'm looking at, like, I look at a lot of financial calculators and things like that. And they say the longest time is to make the first hundred thousand, right? And then after that, it compounds. So I'm like the compounding of the numbers is what I'm going after. I opened up a little raw thing on the side since our last conversation that I'm like putting a little bit money in, so I'm a little bit stocked. You know, I like to see like I'm excited seeing that those values change.

And so looking at how do we wipe the debt out so that our net worth continues to rise. Great. Right. Right. Your net worth since we last spoke four weeks ago has increased by $28,000. Wow. Can we give a round of applause here? That is amazing. So basically on the net worth side, investments went up, debt went down. Fantastic. All right. Well done. Let's continue moving along. Your fixed costs, 79%. It's down a little. Yeah. I believe it was 83% last time. Yeah, I think so. Yeah. So 79% still pretty high, but we're going in the right.

direction. Looking at your fixed cost changes, I notice a couple of other things. You're paying a little bit more towards your debt, which makes sense. You have cut your grocery spend by $500 a month. Exactly to your point, Imani, we're being more economical. We're actually using what we buy. Great. You cut your clothes spend by $200 bucks a month. So what is that? No more clothes for a while? Do I need them? Exactly. Well done. Love that. You cut your clothes. your subscriptions by 30. What'd you cut for 30 bucks? It was some podcast thing that I was subscribing to to learn how to be a reseller. I already learned enough that I need. I was like, wait, do we have a premium membership and my own guest just canceled our own membership?

It's going to happen one day. All right. So you brought your fixed cost down by $621 a month, which brought you from 83 to 79%. Not bad. Not bad. Going in the right direction. What is remarkable is how easy it is to reduce grocery spend. And again, most people don't shop to a number. When they finally do, they can cut it by often hundreds of dollars. Okay, great. Investments went up to 3%. From 1% to 3%.

Okay, not bad. Total investments went up by about 300 bucks a month. Okay, fine. Savings went up by $300 a month. How did you do that? We just reallocated some of the grocery money, and we said we need to be putting things aside for saving. So things like the dryer, right? Nice. So I don't have to put that on a credit

card so that the debt goes up. Right. Instead of me taking a hundred dollars, me taking only $60 or $70. That's a hundred 20 dollars a month right there. It really does add up, especially my favorite word of all that was we just reallocated. That's exactly what it is. Some of the stuff should be so simple. It's like flipping a switch. That's basically money. Once you set your infrastructure upright, I flip this, I flip that. Oh, I added a extra $675,000 to my net worth by the time I'm 72 years old. How? I flipped a switch. That's the approach we are getting to. Okay, great. You are paying a total of $5,400 a month towards debt. Pretty aggressive. And you've made your plan. You know you're debt free by 2030.

How do you feel about it? Great. I think it's great. There's some, again, that's the conservative, right. There's some levers in there. There's an investment that I have that it'll come back and it'll be like $30,000 and so that'll, you know, things like that plus the electronics plus the poshmark sale of clothes. Like that kind of stuff will start to to accelerate that 2030. I want to get that to like 2028. I think it's possible. I think it's very possible. When you really are both partners dialed in, it's like you're both rowing a boat together. You can go faster further than you ever thought possible. And things like bonuses, selling things, it becomes this upward spiral. It's just awesome. Okay. Love it. Michael, when we last spoke, you wanted somebody to tell you your options.

And I'd actually like to give you some options today. Okay, cool. These options are from our partners at FACET, and FASIT created three retirement scenarios for you. I want to jump in quickly, give a little context on the information that we shared with FACIT so you can understand how a financial advisor can craft these scenarios. Because I think it's helpful to understand what you are about to see. We asked Imani and Michael to provide a list of their investment accounts and balances, a breakdown of their debt by type of. amount and interest rate, their desired retirement ages, which is 62 for Amani, 67 for Michael,

and their expected pension and social security amounts. This is basically what any financial advisor would ask you to share if you are considering working with them. We also shared Imani and Michael's original CSP so that Facet could get an idea of their monthly spending. Now, let's check out these scenarios. To your credit, you have created a debt payoff plan. So you know that your fixed costs are already.

artificially high because you're paying so aggressively towards your debt. But I'd like to give you three scenarios now that facet prepared for you. Tell me which scenario sounds interesting to you. Sure. Scenario one. We'll call this the baseline scenario. Imani, in this scenario, you retire at age 62. Michael retires at age 67.

Your spending stays the same as it was on your original conscious spending plan. so far so good. The problem is your assets are depleted by 2009. When Imani is aged 85 and Michael is age 98. In other words, you run out of money in retirement. How do you all feel about that? Michael says like, what do I care? I'm gone. Meanwhile, Imani's over here shaking her head. Not for me. Yeah, I think he reads my eyes. I'm going to take that as a no. No, no. But I just want to point out that that's the baseline.

You would have been, you would have run out of money. And in fact, without changes, it's possible you could still run out of money. So I want you to be aware of this. Scenario 2. We delay Michael's retirement by one year and we reduce spending now. Let me walk you through the details. In scenario two, Imani retires at 62. Michael retires at age 68. He is delayed by one year for retirement. Your 401k contributions are reduced to the minimum just to get the match. And if a match is available,

take it for now. That spare cash is redirected to an emergency fund and then high interest debt. You reduce your guilt-free spending to $800 per month. You reduce your joint spending by $500 a month. You've actually already done that in the new CSP. Facet recommended something that I wanted to bring to your attention. They said, if the son's expenses like food utilities and subscriptions are included, they can and should start participating in household expenses as they are 21 and 25 years old.

If you followed these suggestions, your assets will last through Imani being 95 years old. How do you feel about this scenario? I like that scenario better. Definitely better. Yeah, because longevity is in my jeans. My grandma has 91. It's very good to know.

Yeah. My mom is 84. Michael, what do you think about this scenario too? Very doable. It's very doable. The thing I notice is you'd have to reduce your guilt-free spending to $800 a month total. Right now, you are at 1425. Yeah.

I think we definitely could do it. We can do that. We just have to do more free things, right? Like, go to the park, go to the museum. It's doable. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And that doesn't take an account that, you know, the selling thing, I only think we have another maybe $8,000, $9,000. I think that will help a lot. I think what that does is that allows you to pay off some of this high interest debt. Yeah. Quick, which actually saves you a lot of money downstream in interest payments. And so that's why I love that you're in a big hurry. Get this stuff sold. Get it out and pay that debt off quickly. I love that.

Michael, scenario two would require you to cut your personal spending pretty dramatically. How do you feel about that? I'm good with it. Okay. And Imani, how do you think this would change your day-to-day life? I think it'll change it too much. I'll just engage the boys and I think the conversation with them about participating in the household finances and contributing. I think it's fair.

It's a fair conversation. Would you be willing to ask them to contribute some amount? Yeah, I'm going to do. Yeah, definitely. I've said it to the oldest one several times and he just kind of gives me that goofy look. That doesn't work on me. If it doesn't work for you, give me a call. I love telling kids, no.

All right. Let's go on to scenario three. Delay retirement and add $15,000 for travel and experiences. Let's talk about this one. In this case, Imani retires at age 62. Michael retires at age 70. meaning he delays his retirement by three years. Michael and Imani each spend $400 monthly on guilt-free spending, personal needs, etc.

Joint spending would be reduced by $500, which you've already done in your new CSP. 401K contributions, reduce them to the minimum for the match if you have one available for now. Use that for an emergency fund and then high interest debt. What this would allow you to do is to spend an additional 15,000, thousand dollars every single year on travel starting at michael's age 70 until imani's age 80 that is 23 years in total oh and look at imani's face imani's saying what did you just say i'll read it back again this would allow you to spend an additional 15,000 dollars annually on travel, starting at Michael's age 70, until Imani's age 80, which is a total of 23 years.

And your assets would last until Imani turns 95 years old. What do you think? Wow. That's a lot of travel. That's a little first class travel in there. What's the tradeoff? How did you get to be able to do that? Did you catch it?

Yep. We had to cut our spending. Michael had to work. Work longer. Three years long. I didn't have to work any longer. Michael had to work three years longer. Yes.

We're really starting to think about mortality here. Quality of life. 70 years old. Traveling from 70 to 75, 76, 80 years old, et cetera, et cetera. There are tradeoffs to consider. People get injured. People get sick, et cetera. So we want to think about all these things.

But just off the cuff, how does it strike? you. Imani loves the idea of travel. I can tell that. Michael, how do you feel about working until age 70? I'm good with it. Probably not in the capacity that I'm doing it right now. I think it's viable as well. You know, I, me retiring at 62 when I look at the 4. Oh, not 4.K. Social Security, right? Like, that's the minimum amount I would get. It would behoove me to work a little longer. If I'm still doing a remote job, like I do now, that's great. If not, you know, I hope to be doing something that I truly love by that point.

And, you know, it won't be like work, right? You know, something like you do for me, like enjoy and help people and, you know, be able to make my own schedule. That's great. So I think it's doable. I honestly think it's doable. I don't know that I want him to have to work till 70, though. I don't think I want him to have to work to 70. I mean, you have cards to play.

You know, I have this philosophy in business, which is live to fight another day. And what it means is just always have a plan B, a plan C, a plan D. Live to fight another day. And I think that you have a lot of cards to play. You have bonuses. You have expense reduction. You have your sons who should definitely be contributing financially, which would dramatically change the contours of your financial situation.

especially if they were charged, you don't have to charge them full market rate, but you charge them something, you know, and put that towards debt, et cetera. You have cards to play,

a lot of them. It probably takes thinking about now that you've created your debt payoff plan and you see how quickly you can make progress, now it's time to go to the next

concentric circle, the next layer of making decisions. What kind of life do we want to lead? You know, as we get, get older as we get into this next chapter of life, what is our life going to look like? And that's when you start making these kind of tradeoffs. Is Michael going to work until 67, 68, 70?

How do we see our life going? Do we want to wait until 70 to travel? Or do we want to bake in a little trip here and a little trip there? And if so, let's actually map it out. That's how I would think about it. Right. Because I kind of want to travel now. I think one of the things that you money I have talked about is so in 2027 is my full retirement age year for Social Security. And in May I will be 67. So I'll be at four retirement age, whereas I could draw my full Social Security plus my military pension plus consult and not be penalized social security wise. So that's another factor that we have to factor into it too.

do we go with option B or do we go with option C, which is work longer? Hopefully the plan is get this debt paid off by selling and being a position where we can say, okay, option B is the best option. Got it. So, Michael, for you, option B is the one that you would choose if you could choose? Yes. Okay, great. And, Amani, what about you?

I think option B for the reason of, I don't know, want him to have to work till 70. I like the idea of travel, but there are levers, like you said, there are levers we can pull to get and bake in the travel. I want to bake in the travel before then, right? I want us to take, you know, it doesn't have to be a $15,000 trip. It could be, you know, one, $4,000, $5,000 a year, right? You know, go to the, take a cruise or take a driving trip, right? Like, do, but be intentional about planning the time, you know, with each other and our families to just connect. I love that.

I think you could do it. I think you can more than do it. Well, thanks all too. I mean, I agree. I think it'll be great for him to be able to retire and for us to have a good plan. So like you said, pay off high interest debt to put some away the emergency fund, like building that up. I like that. You know, everybody tells you max out your 401K, max out your 401K, max out your 401K, max out your 401k, max out your 401k.

max out your 401k. And I get it, right? I kind of wish I had done that when I was younger and didn't have a whole lot of debt. But the best time to start is now. And so backing that back down to stock some of that money aside for like and build up that $8,500 that we got like and save it. Like I want that to be like $100,000, right? Like set aside.

And then, you know, to be able to handle any type of things that come our way or emergencies or, you know, with that kind of money, you can help people. Like we talked about being able to take a vacation. We can, you know, scrim a little stumbling off of there and figure out, you know, what does it look like to take a family vacation and how do we plan that out and, you know, all of that. I like the idea of getting the boys involved and contributing to the household. You know, your boys are lucky to have you, that you can give them the room to be able to kickstart their lives and, you know, have a little bit of ease in getting into it. I think a lot of people would love to be able to have that.

So I totally appreciate whatever decision you make with your sons. Whether or not they financially contribute today or tomorrow to your family finances, you have many other levers to pull. Many. It's the bonuses. It's the work. It's the guilt-free spending, knocking one debt down after another, and effectively reallocating extra dollars when they become available.

I don't have any doubt you can do it, you're already doing it right now since we talked four weeks ago. So I'm loving it. I'm very confident in the tune. Imani, before we met, this is what you wrote on your application. Quote, I want to separate our finances. In fact, I am so upset that I suggested we combine them four years ago. How do you feel hearing that back now? I don't feel that way anymore. for the vast majority of our marriage, we had separate accounts and we paid the bills out of a joint account. I think combining them makes you accountable to one another in a different way. But now we still have a little separate things like based on our conversation with you.

Everybody has to have some separate money that they can do what they need to do with. But for me, again, it was the control thing. It was, you know, Michael's hiding something over here from me, right? I need to get my hands on everything to see what's coming in because I know. he's hiding something over there. You know? And I think that seeing the change and building that level of trust back, right? So yeah, I felt that way, four, five, six, whenever I put the applicant, I felt that way.

I was like this, like I told you, if this didn't work, it didn't change. I was tapping. And I felt that. Yeah. I felt that. But I don't feel that anymore. He stuck with me, brother. What do you feel now, Imani, if you had to describe it in a couple of words?

I feel excited. I feel inspired. I feel energized. I feel like, you know, Michael said something to the effect if he wanted to be the man that I'm married. I think he's getting back to that man. For a while there, I was like, I don't know who this Joker is over here. What about you, Michael? How do you feel now versus when we feel?

first started talking on our first conversation. What's exciting for me, a repeat, is I enjoy selling as much as I did buying it. That is interesting. That was scary. I was like I like doing this. When the money started coming in, I'm like, wow, this feels kind of good.

That's pretty interesting. Yeah. I think that next level is one you've already tapped into, putting together the plan and paying off debt and investing. And then the ultimate level is defining our rich life and actually starting to go down that list of things. Yeah. That's a beautiful transition. It was thinking back to childhood and kind of the reason why I approach things the way that I do was the dynamic between my parents.

My mom, you know, handled the money, did all the things, you know. but I know that in order to change our future, right, I've got to let him be a partner and not someone that I'm pulling along for the ride, right? Like, this is his life too. So the things that I wanted to see differently play out in my marriage, I can do that, right? We can have those conversations. And again, if he's willing to make the change, then I have to be supportive to allow him to do that. Now, if he wasn't willing to make the change, then I can make a decision based on that as well.

Fortunately for us, he decided to get with the program. Wow. What a transformation. This is what happens when two people come together with a shared vision for their rich life. Just a few weeks ago, Imani was feeling disconnected and actually unsure about her future with Michael. Today, she is smiling. She's connected. You can see how money goes far deeper than the numbers alone.

Guys, this is why talking about budgets misses the point. Yes, math is important. Numbers matter. But that's table stakes. Real transformations happen when you create a powerful vision for your life, whether it's traveling the world or retiring early or simply staying together and thriving as a couple. Do you remember that at first Michael didn't even see a path to retirement?

He wasn't sure if he could pay off his debt before he died. But once they saw their options laid out clearly, something amazing happened. They started working together to decide what the right path would be. This is how a tool like FACET can completely change the game for someone who feels stuck or unsure. Now, when you're younger, you can afford to be a little loose with your assumptions. Save 10%, invest 10%, you'll probably be fine. But as you get closer to retirement, precision becomes critical. And that's where facet comes in.

They helped Imani and Michael map out specific scenarios, how much they would need to save, what would happen if they retired early, how to balance their spending today with their future goals. It's kind of like walking into an empty house and suddenly seeing where everything fits. Suddenly the decisions they were making started to make sense. On a personal level, I am extremely impressed with the work that

they did. Sure, it's going to be a long road, but now they are doing it as a team. So a huge thank you to Imani and Michael for sharing their journey, not once, but twice, and most importantly, for putting in the work to get where they are today. If you are ready to take control of your financial future, head over to facet.com slash Ramit. Fassett is waiving their $250 enrollment fee for new annual members, and for my audience, they're offering $300 in your brokerage account if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days. Don't wait, start building your rich life today.

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as a recommendation or research regarding any investment or investment strategy, legal, or tax advice. Let's check out their follow-ups now. Hi, Rmani here. with our four-week post for meet update. Michael and I have been hard at work selling some of his electronics collection and paying off some of the debt. We have paid off over $10,000 using the funds from those sales. We've also stopped contributing to our kids' 529 accounts and actually use one of those

to pay down about $7,000 off of my student loan debt. But that's been great, getting some momentum there. We are meeting this weekend to have our money discussion led by Michael to talk about our plans for the rest of the year and starting off 2026, what we're going to pay off, how are we going to pay it off, generate some ideas of ways to bring in some extra income so that we can get things paid off faster. We're also going to plan a vacation with some friends next year and set aside money in a separate account to save for that. So, you know, overall, what I learned in our process is that we have the finances to be able to dig ourselves out of this hole. We just have to work together and come up with what our vision for rich life looks like. And also, I was affirmed through talking with me about the fact that I do know what I'm talking about. I've done the research. I read the books and that it is okay for us to learn how to work together to get back to a good,

financial place. I'm excited for the future and I'm so grateful for all the advice that Remit gave us. Thanks. Hello, Remit. This is Michael. Just giving you an update on progress. So so far, I think I've sold close to $4,500,000 dollar for camera equipment and old electronics. So I'm out in the garage today, sorting through the garage. So I'll get your overhead shot and kind of pan around. So as you can see, I got quite a bit to sort through. Just going through electronics to see what I could sell to generate more cash value to reduce the debt. We continue to work through our spend plan and our debt reduction plan. We'll keep you updated on the progress. And as you can see, I got to go because they had a lot of work to do. Thanks and have a good day.

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