Motivation Daily by Motiversity - BE A MAN - Powerful Dry Creek Wrangler Motivation

Episode Date: October 8, 2025

The Dry Creek Wrangler delivers a raw reminder that manhood is about discipline, responsibility, and character, not comfort or excuses. Life will test you, but real men step up, face the struggle, and lead with honor. This is the call to rise above and be the man you were meant to be.Special thanks to Chris Williamson."If I pour my life into making money than that is for me, but if I pour my life into as many people as is fitting, their life is better having had me come through ."― Dry Creek WranglerSpeaker:Dry Creek Wrangler (Dewayne Noel)https://drycreekwranglers.com/https://www.youtube.com/@DryCreekWranglerSchoolMusic: Secession Studios - And the Sky Turned RedSecession Studios - Valor is DeadFables - DEX 1200 (Epidemic Sound)Tales of the Deep - Lama House (Epidemic Sound)The Lost Forest - DEX 1200 - (Epidemic Sound) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello listeners, Motivosity is excited to share that we have launched a new podcast called Morning Motivation by Motivore. If you are looking to start your day with positivity and the most uplifting motivational audio, this is the show for you. For today's episode of Motivation Daily by Motivority Podcast, we are sharing a recent episode from the Morning Motivation Podcasts. If you like it, go follow the show. New episodes are being released every week. The link is in the description. The average man, I believe, the average real man, does not need to go get therapy for the battles and the burdens he's carried inside. What he needs is for those that he's carrying them for to recognize that they're there.

and to respect it and to be grateful for it. They don't need therapy. They need gratitude. Let's take away vulnerability. Okay? Because a lot of times, men won't open up.

They won't respond because this looked at as becoming vulnerable. If I'm sitting here and if I'm one of these guys and my significant other is sitting there, I can communicate to her what I need to communicate without being vulnerable.

I can maintain my strength and communicate to her. I can say, look, I'm working 60 hours a week, and the environment that I'm working in is very, very difficult. And I come home and I only have eight hours here at the house, and this is the only place of peace I have in this entire world. And when I come home, you're angry all the time. You're not satisfied about anything. You know, whatever the situation is,

if you're not going to provide for me that little bit of peace that this is the only place I can get, what are we doing? Young men these days were never taught by another man how to treat a lady like a lady. And they go into a relationship, girlfriends, marriages, getting all their information from Hollywood. And it's a crash and burn. Because they don't understand relationships, they don't understand communication. They don't understand the balance between being a man and being a boer, being a buffoon.

How does he find that balance that fits him? I've heard you say that a good man is born to serve, not. on to make money. Absolutely. What's that mean to you? If I pour all my life into making money, that's for me. But if I pour my life into as many people as is fitting, their life is better for me having come through.

What means most to me is that when you leave here today, in some small way, your life is better for us having sat down and talk. I'm really bothered by these guys who are financial, gurus who will fire you if you don't have a six-pack. There's a problem. There's a main thing, staying the main thing, problem with that viewpoint on life. I want to see men that I want to see them find balance. I don't want to see them find money. I don't want to see them find six-packs. If that is part of the result of it, fine, okay? But I want them to find balance, and I want I want them to find that place inside where they're like,

my main thing is my main thing and it's enough. I think a real man is born to serve. And serve means provide for those that are in your sphere of you to provide for it. It means to protect. It means to encourage. It means to teach and to train. And sometimes it means to step back and let them hit the wall.

Sometimes the best service you can do for somebody is to when it's all done, walk up and look down and say, up and look down and say, did that hurt? You know, that's what they need it. But we won't do that because it makes us look bad, and even in our service to others, we do it for ulterior motives, you know. But yes, I believe that very strongly.

I believe if you spend your whole life to yourself for yourself, you have no purpose of being here. This planet is not in any way better for you having been here. Is that what a good man is? That's what a good man is to me. What do you think about the balance when it comes for men between strength and softness? You know, I'm still old enough, and I'm of the school. It's like, just deal with it.

Suck it up. Suck it up. I broke three ribs one time in a barn, saddling horses, horse to a fit, took eight aspirin, and got on that horse and did a four-hour ride because I had a job to do. It's my job. Let's go back to balance. I was about to mention that.

I understand. I'm with you 100%. But at the same time, your balance and my balance and his balance are different. And so I think a man has to find his own balance. I think it could be taken to the point that men just become weak. And brother, let me tell you in this day and age, we don't need more weak men. I think checking in with yourself and not treating your first response is always the correct one.

I think the immediate sort of reflex that we often have, especially as young men, young and men, is an issue because you haven't accumulated enough experience for you to be able to call it gut, instinct, wisdom. Don't believe everything you think. Yeah. Can we boil it down to a buoy base and say, look, when you have the thought, don't trust the thought, I need to do this or I need to do that, what if we start asking ourselves, why? Why do I need to run 300 miles with two broken legs? Because David Goggins said so, you know, why do I need to do that? What is the purpose? Not why for me. But why do I need to do that to make myself the man I need to be for those around me?

Why do I need to say, you know what, I need to spend more time in the backyard with a cigar? Why do I need to do that? And if the answer is because I'm becoming an overwound, overtight, losing my balance, losing my focus on what really matters in life, I'm becoming, hard to live with to those that I care the most about, to those who I am the most responsible for. So the why is this will make me a better person for those around me. How have you learned to have a better relationship with yourself, the voice inside of your head, to be kinder if things go badly? You're smiling.

I like me. I like me. I would buy me a drink. I look at me now and I see all the warts. Okay, I see all the negatives more than anybody else does. I see the positives. And over the whole balance of stuff, I like me. And I can give myself the same grace. If you and I were friends, I can give myself the same grace I can give you.

Because I like me. I like me in spite of my understanding and the reality of my weaknesses. and my warts and my scars and everything. But, you know, all in all, I'm a pretty good dude. And, man, you got to get to that point. Outside of arrogance. Arrogance is pride mixed with ignorance. All right, that's the definition of arrogance.

I'm not talking arrogance. I'm talking about, look, as a human being, I've failed at this, I've succeeded at that, I've wrecked this, but I've built that. And all in all, you know, I've tried. And, but I like me, so I'm going to give me some grace. Hence the simple as that. I would buy me a cigar.

I wonder how many men can say that? Not as many as should. There are guys out there that don't have someone like that in their life. Someone who's going to be that person that makes them feel good about themselves. But if we become the person that we like, I have come to the place in my life. life where when I meet somebody in there and they don't like me, and you can tell, I don't care. And when I meet somebody that, you know, they're like, they really like me, it's like, okay,

but it doesn't carry much weight either because I'm going to be leaving. I'm going to be leaving, you know, we're not staying. I like me. And it's enough. Arrogance is pride mixed with ignorance. All right. That's the definition of arrogance. I'm not talking arrogance.

I'm talking about, look, as a human being, I've failed at this, I've succeeded at that, I've wrecked this, but I've built that, and all in all, you know, I've tried, but I like me. So I'm going to give me some grace. And how many people can say that? How many people say I like me? They would give more grace, more care, more attention, more love to somebody else than themselves. There's a statistic around, I think, on average, the likelihood that you are going to complete a course of antibiotics yourself. It's about 50%.

Right. The likelihood of your dog completing it is 95%. Yes, yeah. So we're literally capable of caring for a pet. Right. Nearly double as well as we can for ourselves. Remembering that if you die, no one can look after the pet. Serving others from a cup which overflows around your own.

is important. Tell me, how do you like yourself? Find somebody that you like, that you genuinely like, and figure out what it is about them you like. I like that. That's something I like. That person is,

they're understanding, they're gentle, they're hardworking, they're honest. This is what I like about that, and incorporate that stuff into your own life. If that's the stuff you like, then incorporate that stuff. into who you are and then you like yourself. It's not rocket science.

But if we become the person that we like, I have come to the place in my life where when I meet somebody in there and they don't like me, and you can tell, I don't care, I like me. And it's enough. You know, this was a lesson that I realized toward the end of my 20s where I'd accumulated a lot of success and status in maybe the way that modern society tells a young man that he should with

freedom and and notoriety and and and and and stuff like that and and and to look back on fun uh but it was beginning to get to the stage where i didn't like me all that much you know what i didn't anything bad but i just felt like there was i was built for more i was built for different built for something else. And I realized that I wasn't keeping promises to myself. Right. That if I said I was going to wake up at a certain time, the snooze button would be hit three times. Right.

If I said that I was going to stick to my diet or go to the gym or do this thing, maybe it would happen, but it wouldn't happen quite the way that I'd meant it to. And there would be some negotiating and some cajoling and some falling short. you know, how can you have faith that you're going to go and do all of the things that you want in life when you can't not hit the snooze button? Right. Or you can't not cheat on your diet. You can't not do, you know, you are constructed by the tiny decisions that you make every single day.

Well, I'll just say I came to a place in life where I just didn't like me anymore. I wasn't a very nice person. And I was just very on edge, very angry. So I had to make some decisions. I can't continue to live like this. Angry, there's no benefit to it. You know, it doesn't fix anything. You know, anger, it just turned out.

I'm like, this is not profitable. And this is eating me up inside. And I'm making stupid decisions. And this has just got it in. So I had to make some decisions. What was making me like this? I need to get it out. out of my life.

And slowly, over time, got a handle on stuff. And kind of got some of my perspective back. So imagine that you had a friend. And every time that you invited this friend out for lunch, they showed up an hour late or they didn't show up at all. After a while, you'd stop trusting them and stop inviting them out at all. You are that friend to yourself.

Yeah. And I think this is such an important lesson for people who want to be liked, who want to, struggle socially, uh, I want to become better. People like people that make them feel good. Right. They don't care that much about how impressive the person is. So I was riding for an outfit in Alaska guiding and they brought in a mayor and the best I could understand, she was a retired barrel racing horse from here in Texas. And so when I signed on, they assigned her to me because nobody else.

We couldn't put guest on her. None of the other wranglers wanted to ride her because her go-to was run. If something disturbed her, her head came up and it's run. Just run. That's my answer to escape to just run. And it wasn't something

that I could physically fight and stop. And so that horse really made me me step outside of the thought process of physically controlling something that has a mental emotional issue and getting in her head and figuring out what can I do if the problem is mentally or emotionally what can I do to get into her head and get into her emotions and fix that for her. And so what I did and it's so simple it probably wouldn't even make sense to a lot of folks But while we were sitting there and while she was calm, sitting there at the ranch,

waiting for others to get on the horses, I would just come in with the lightest low pressure and get her to tip her nose. Not pull her nose in, just give a signal, hey, tip your nose. So she'd tip her nose. And we'd just do that and just do that. And then when we get out on the trail and she started getting anxious about something and her head would come up, I would just default to that. And so she would find something that she was secure the signal.

and she would calm down and she would calm down. And working with that mare for the summer, I made huge strides of myself in stepping outside of the norm of trying to physically control something that isn't ideal. Yeah, I mentioned that I had ridden a horse for the first time in Texas and they gave me whatever the leader of the group is

for the horse, whatever that's called. and I was right far at the back and this horse was eating and the lady that was guiding the group said just give him a little pole and he'll come along and give him a little pole and he didn't move I mean it is absurd to explain how strong these things necks are

and I'm like I don't think he doesn't want doesn't want to come she's like no no just a little bit more a little bit more I'm like I'm a pretty strong guy so I was like right okay I'll give it a big pole didn't move I'm like and by this time they're 100 yards away. Yeah. Like, still, it doesn't seem like you want,

like a really big pole. So I went mixed grip like you do on a deadlift. Yeah. Set my feet into the stirrups and like, like one rep maxed this horse's head up. And finally he got up. And that was absolutely not the most efficient way to get him to do that thing. There would have been a much better way than me.

Right. Now, what I teach folks is I don't want his body. Okay, I want his mind. Now, if I physically, like you just went through, if I physically get his body to do what I want, but I don't have his mind, soon as he gets a chance, he's going to go back again. But if I ignore the body and I get the mind,

if I have the mind, I have the body. So in a situation like that, what I do is I don't pull his head up. Okay, I take the reins and I bounce that bit that's in its mouth. I bounce it pretty sharp. And he decides in his mind, I don't like that. I think I will pick my head up. I'm going to suggest to you that you decide it's in your best interest for you to pick your head up. And we go for the mind.

And how much in life, you know, you've got all these folks working for you here. And you have to, you can't physically browbeat and nag and threaten. You've tried, does it work? No, no, no. They're belligerent. Yeah, I've already heard stories. Yeah, it's just, yeah. But you want to make things so that they decide that if this is what Chris wants done,

it's in my best interest. I want to go do that. And again, it's communication, you know, and again, it's getting in the horse's mind and working with a horse in that manner. I'll give you an illustration if I can, all right? one of the cardinal sins in my book is when I go to get on a horse and the horse walks off when I'm part way up you know I'm stepping up I swinging my leg over and he's he's walking he's leaving okay that's a cardinal sin so we have a difference of opinion here me and the horse it's like

I want you to plant your feet and I want you to be still while I get on and then I'll tell you when I want you to go he says well I want to go so I'm not going to sit there and take pull back and say, whoa, and do that one-legged hop-along, Cassidy down while I'm trying to get in the side. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to physically hold him back. I'm going to put my toe on the stirp, and I'm going to go to step up, and when he walks off, I'm going to step back out, and I'm going to make him keep walking in a circle around me eight or ten times. I'm like, I wanted you to stand still, but you want to walk. I'll tell you what, I'm a nice guy. I'm going to let you walk. I'm going to let you do what you want in a controlled manner. You picked a tune.

and I'll pick the dance. And I'll make him walk around. He's like, I don't want to walk anymore. But you said that's what you wanted. So I'm letting you do what you want. He's like, I don't want to walk anymore. Okay, stop. Whoa.

And won't you stand here while I get in the saddle? And he says, and it may take a couple of times. He says, you know what? I think what I want to do is I want to stand here while he gets in the saddle. You know? So we communicate. And when I got his mind, when I changed his want to, I didn't have to fight with his body.

And so that's just, that's how, that's how you approach it. You understand and you communicate.