Motivation Daily by Motiversity - MAKE THE COMEBACK PERSONAL - 2026 MOTIVATION

Episode Date: July 15, 2026

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Starting point is 00:00:42 do not wait. Search for Mindset Daily motivation on the App Store or Google Play right now. Your best self is one decision away. Start with mindset. When I rupture my Achilles, I knew the severity of the injury
Starting point is 00:00:59 and I didn't know if I was going to come back from it. Like, this is it. Like, my career could be over right now. You know, I went home and I was just really angry. I worked so hard for us to get to the playoffs and to have a chance to win another championship and then this happened. So I had a lot of anger.
Starting point is 00:01:12 Then from the anger, then I was sad. And then you say, what am I going to do now? I mean, it's just, it's an obsessiveness that comes along with it. You want things to be as perfect as they can be. Understanding that nothing is ever perfect. But the challenge is try to get them as perfect as they can be.
Starting point is 00:01:29 What can you do? It's in your control. So control what you can. You're not as good as Magic Johnson. You're not as good as Larry Bird. You're good, but you're not as good as those guys. You know, I had to listen to all this. And that put so much wool on that fire that it kept me each and every day.
Starting point is 00:01:46 I'm trying to become the best that I can. It became personal with me. Tough life. That's what life is. Life is going to always be tough. But just remember. It's up to you to carry on. Remember you owe you something.
Starting point is 00:02:05 Continue to believe that. We all have desires and dreams. Make your dream a reality. You look for any kind of messages that people may say or do to get you motivated to play the highest level. You have the power to lose the lead and still come back and win. Get back! Get back up.
Starting point is 00:02:31 If you don't get up, when a count is at nine, you're wanting to know. I've had many rejections. I had many doors slammed in my face, but I didn't give up. I didn't quit, and neither should you. I know you're bleeding, but get up. I know it hurt, but get up. I need you in this moment to get up and try again. Every word I say it, the sound of you.
Starting point is 00:02:58 of a comeback. You have this innate ability, this instinct on the inside that you can come back from anything. Good times create weak people. Weak people create bad times. Bad times create strong people. Strong people create good times. This comeback is personal because I owe it to myself. It's like Muhammad Ali once said he goes, it's hard to beat a guy when he's got his mind made up to win. And can't nobody stop me but me. That's how bad you got to want it. Tired don't mean nothing. Tired is only in the mind.
Starting point is 00:03:49 You tell yourself, you're going to be tired. I don't get tired. I'm going to beat you. I'm going to let you know I beat you. I'm going to want you to reconsider your professional life choice. My father who raised me, his thing was son, you may not be the best, but leave everything on the floor. You put 120%. I'm just asking you to 120. Like every day when you come in 120. You got to want it so bad. You got to give all of yourself to get it. You got to be obsessive.
Starting point is 00:04:19 Because I didn't grow up with things being handed to me. I had to work hard. I had to dedicate myself. And I had to be determined. And I was. The bottom line is that if you're talking about, talking about beating everybody else on the planet to a thing. What you're actually talking about is what are you prepared to sacrifice psychologically, physically, existentially, relationally, socially, in terms of your self-esteem, you're confident, everything, right? All of that. That pain you feel, that's a pain and success. You must be willing to shoulder to that pain to get success. Success is something that's a very lonely path in this world.
Starting point is 00:04:59 Because few are willing to make that down payment of pain, that futurement of success of better life. Very few are. So if you want to be the top, you've got to move different. There wasn't a lot of smiley faces with me out there. There wasn't a lot of smiley faces with Michael Jordan. There weren't a lot of smiley faces with Kobe Bryant. There weren't a lot of smiley faces with Tiger Woods. Even when I watch sports today and see these guys on the range, like, they're all buddies.
Starting point is 00:05:25 And I'm like, that's not the killer instinct. That's just not. I don't think Muhammad Ali or Mike Tyson were trying to be friends with anybody. I think they were going out there on a mission. And if there was someone in their way, they had to crush them. There's never any doubts in my mind because I'm the best in the world, even though a lot of you don't like to hear it. It's fast. I'm the best.
Starting point is 00:05:44 You know what I mean? Sometimes I don't want to believe in myself, but it's the truth. I'm the best. You can love me. You can hate me. I'm not here to make friends. I'm here to win. At the end of the day, even Alexander, one of his famous quotes is, I have met the enemy, it is I, right?
Starting point is 00:06:03 And although that is one element of an enemy, that's great, we need that. Michael had it, Brady had it, Kobe had it, but there's a crazy psychologically, you can call it, you know, psycho-competitor that they're constantly in the search of recruitment. their next enemy. It's like, you know, life is boring if I don't have my next target. You know, I'm almost, you know, bad for myself if I don't have the next target, the next enemy. And if I choose it the right way, then I'm able to bring God aside of me I've never seen before. Success is the only revenge. As you expand, they shrink into irrelevance. As you get louder, no one can hear them. You don't beat them. You cast a shadow so big, no one can see to begin with.
Starting point is 00:06:58 And that's what, it comes down to, like, what are you willing to sacrifice at the end of the day? You know, people don't understand the level of sacrifice is going to take. And there's been moments where I realize that I compete because I want to win. I love winning. I love being the best in the world. I've sat many times trying to find the balance of what I want within all this. If I was losing, I wouldn't be competing. I'm here to win.
Starting point is 00:07:17 It is hard. It's hard when you're young to wake up in the offseason at 6 a.m. to go train and work out. knowing that all your friends are sleeping in and eating pancakes. It's hard when you're on your way to practice, way down with all your gear, and it's 90 degrees out, and all the other kids are at the pool or at the beach. No matter who you are,
Starting point is 00:07:41 there are bumps and hits and bruises along the way. And my advice is to prepare yourself because success and achievement come from overcoming adversity. When the rest of the world says no to you, You, you say yes to yourself. You say yes, I believe. You say yes, I can do it. You say yes, nothing can stop me.
Starting point is 00:08:12 If you want to be a great player, if you play every single day, two, three hours, every single day or a course of a year, how much better you get? Most kids will play maybe, you know, an hour and a half, two days a week. it's not going to get it done. You have to be obsessive. You have to be obsessive. You have to be addicted. You have to be disciplined. The key there is you.
Starting point is 00:08:41 Everyone else is looking for other individuals to do stuff for you. Stop looking for fucking help from everybody else. Okay, it starts and it ends with you. Your identity starts and it ends with you. Every day it's an opportunity. Based on your choices on how you look at things, the choices you make every day. That is what you are in the mirror today. From the captain to the cashier, there is more in you.
Starting point is 00:09:14 Stay at home father, stay at home mother, lawyer, doctor, hygienist, author. I don't know who you are, where you're from, but there's more in you that becomes a part of who you are. That changes how you think. That changes how you move. That changes how you behave. If you could become an executor, if you can execute, I'm talking about learn it. I'm talking about putting deep within.
Starting point is 00:09:38 Not you hear it. You have to realize that there's always work to do and you want to be the hardest working person and whatever you do and you'll put yourself in position to be successful. Muhammad Ali said, suffer now and live the rest of your life a champion because he knew that the training wasn't killing him.
Starting point is 00:09:58 The training was making you. him. It was forging him in fire. I got to trust that nothing out there can stop who I am inside. You've got to stand on your faith. You got to stand on your strength. You got to stand on who you are. I will rise again and I will push. I will be the victorious one. I will conquer. Listen to me, if you work for it, if you're willing to put in that sweat, that blood and those tears, baby, I'm telling you, you can have what you won't, be what you won't, do what you won't, are you hear me, don't give up, don't give in, you hang in there, you hang in there, because if you quit right now, you ain't going to never see it, you ain't going to never get it, but if you hold on, baby, but if you hold on, if you hold on, if you hold on, everything you dreamed of, everything you envisioned, everything you work for, it's coming.
Starting point is 00:10:56 If you work hard, you can't have it. It ain't nothing you can't have. You deserve it. It ain't nothing you can't have if you're willing to work for it. Look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, how much more can you take? What tried to kill you only made you stronger. So what are you waiting for? You have greatness within you.
Starting point is 00:11:27 I was born David Gagons. David Gaggagons wasn't good enough. He was a scared, bullied, abused kid who struggled in life. And that kid, whenever something got tough, no matter how hard I trained, no matter how ready I was, whenever something got tough for me, David Gagons, the real David Gagons, would come out and he would quit.
Starting point is 00:11:52 So I realized this over a period of time. So I had to build Gagons. And in that process, that's where I get. get better. You get to face a lot of shit, young man. You got a long journey ahead of you because you're going to find out that while your dad did a lot of shit to you, you're going to have to make it on your own. Because this world we live in is tough. It's tough. It will beat you down. The world in the life that we live in is the ultimate competitor. The world's tough. The world's tough. It will try to take you out, it will find your weakness and it will just hammer you. So it's time to get back
Starting point is 00:12:35 to work. Get back to work. Stop hearing yourself talk. Get off the podcast. Don't be on social media too much. Cut out all the fucking noise. Get back to the fucking mental lab because that's where the knowledge came from. It is hard. It's hard when you're young to wake up in the offseason at 6 a.m. to go train and work out, knowing that all your friends are sleeping in and eating pancakes. It's hard when you're on your way to practice, way down with all your gear, and it's 90 degrees out, and all the other kids are at the pool or at the beach. It's hard to throw, catch, block, and tackle, and hit kids when they're way bigger and way more developed than you, only to go home that night bruised and battered and strained,
Starting point is 00:13:23 but knowing you have to show up again the next day for just the chance. to try again. But understand this, life is hard. No matter who you are, there are bumps and hits and bruises along the way. And my advice is to prepare yourself because football lessons teach us that success and achievement come from overcoming adversity. I remember being downstairs for like the fourth round and that came and gone. And the fifth round, you know, was coming and going and all these other guys were getting picked.
Starting point is 00:14:07 And it was hard. I remember taking a walk with my dad and mom around the block. Sorry about that. It was just a tough day, you know. You know, finally when the Patriots called, I was so excited. You know, I was like, I don't have to be an insurance salesman, you know. All those experiences that we think are the hardest things in our life. up being the best experiences in our life because if you approach it with humility and you look
Starting point is 00:14:40 inward, they become the best opportunities for growth and learning. Because I developed this work ethic in high school and I realize, man, if I want to be good, I got to wake up in the morning and I got to do the extra work. And I got to show up when other guys aren't. And I've got to learn. I've got to continue to be open to learning. To be successful at anything, the truth is you don't have to be special. You just have to be what most people aren't. Consistent, determined, and willing to work for it, integrity, purpose, determination, and discipline that it takes to be a champion in life. No shortcuts. It was a tough battle for me. It was a tough go. It was tough in high school. It was really tough in college. If I want to be the best, I got to beat the best. And this is where the best are.
Starting point is 00:15:32 that I wasn't the prodigy. I learned about work ethic. I learned about resilience. I learned about gaining the trust and the respect of my teammates and coaches. I learned about how to dig deep within myself, a long way from home without a ton of support to still try to find a way to succeed in this situation
Starting point is 00:15:50 that I really wanted to be in because it was the best for me anyway. Focused on what you can control. Focus on what you're getting, not what anyone else is getting. Go out there and treat practice like no one else does. And I did that every single day. I didn't care about going to all these different places and doing those things. I just wanted to be my best.
Starting point is 00:16:09 The team believed in me, I didn't want to let them down. What's the choice you get to make every day to wake up and say, all right, this is where I'm going to focus my time and energy. How discipline are you to maintain that routine over a period of time? And I think that will determine your level of success. Be proud of that man that wakes up every day and does the best that you could do with his priorities. Did you always have an absolute killer instinct where I'm going to show you, I'm going to prove the way to see what I'm going to do. I'm going to kill this guy when we face them.
Starting point is 00:16:44 Was it always like that when you were in high school or that kind of developed later on? Yeah, I think it developed over a period of time. And I think there was a work ethic that was in me. But I was never, I would say, like a prodigy. I didn't have the arm that could throw the ball 80 yards. I didn't have the speed that Michael Vick had. I didn't have the size that a lot of guys had, but I did have something inside of me
Starting point is 00:17:07 that no one could see from the outside, this level of discipline that I could accomplish something that was really important and really special. I wanted to be a great football player. If I was going to be a great football player, I wanted to compete against these other guys, and they were all better than me. Don't worry about all these things that are out of your control.
Starting point is 00:17:30 Focus on what you can do. focused on the two reps you got. Fuck your tired body. Fuck that unmotivated mind and get out there and do it anyway. And the mindset is, me versus me, it's no bullshit. It was all about not making excuses. It was about how do we go and get it done. I was so motivated to be the best I could be that it wasn't, I wasn't motivated to be the
Starting point is 00:17:55 starter. I wasn't motivated to win the Super Bowl. I just was motivated to give my best. do the best with the opportunity I got and to never let my teammates down. Those were my motivations. I think you wake up every day and hopefully you can look at yourself
Starting point is 00:18:14 and say, did I give it my best? I wanted to be the best I could be, period. That's all I wanted. I just think winning Super Bowls was the result of a lot of great process. Like my view is like you can't control the outcome all the time, right? Like the ball's going to bounce the other team's way. Like it shouldn't always go your way.
Starting point is 00:18:37 So you get motivated by the losses. You stay motivated through the winning. What you can control is your process. You can control those intangibles. You can control the work ethic, the consistent discipline, your attitude, your culture, how much you care. All those things are in you. They just need to be drawn out of you.
Starting point is 00:18:55 And really when you're in that position that you feel like you've got those pretty well under control, then you start passing those on to the other people that you're working with that are parts of your team. Because I don't care how good any one of you are sitting out there. It doesn't matter unless you got a great team around you. You could be great. You probably are great. You need a lot of other great people to support you. It takes so many people to get to where we get in our life. Yeah, I was there doing some of the work, but couldn't have done it if I didn't have them. when I was a quarterback, I was just playing quarterback. Yeah, it was me, the person. But it was me the quarterback that was out there because I was doing a job.
Starting point is 00:19:35 I wasn't the father. I wasn't the dad out there. I wasn't, you know, the husband out there. I was the quarterback out there on the field. I was the quarterback when I went to work. Nothing was going to get in the way of that. You've got to create a lot of different emotion to heighten your sense of awareness and focus. Like, for me, anger was good.
Starting point is 00:19:57 anger was good because it was motivating. The more I could create an enemy, the more I wanted to go on and kill those guys. Now, I knew I was going to kill them physically. But man, if I could just, what did they say? You know, and what did they look like? Do they disrespect me at all? Those are little, little things that can get me right in the emotional frame of mind that when I ran on the field and I said, let's fucking go.
Starting point is 00:20:25 It was really, let's go kick some ass. That's what we were doing. This is the moment right now. Let's get to work. The fundamental belief is I'm giving myself to something greater than myself. Something greater than me as an individual. If I look at that journey from where I was as a kid, I had my parents that were in my life to support me every step of the way.
Starting point is 00:20:52 I had my junior varsity football coaches. My throwing coach and mentor, I went to Michigan. I had coach Carr challenged me to say, those who stay will be champions. So I stayed. But don't think that you're going to have a lot of success. All you do is care about yourself. You don't work that hard.
Starting point is 00:21:10 No one's that accountable. But in the end, what does culture mean to me? Do we care about each other? And do we care about what we're trying to accomplish? Most people just care about themselves. Well, that's a lot. That's a lot of consistent discipline. It means that you've got to do a lot more right than wrong.
Starting point is 00:21:29 It means that you've got to make a lot more good choices than bad choices. It means you have to be more disciplined than not discipline. Physically, mentally, emotionally, all those little things add up. The man in the glass, that's the one that motivated me. He's the guy I was accountable to. Nothing that anyone did took away from me. The only person that could take away from me is me. Everyone believes in the American Dream and Tellcom's True.
Starting point is 00:21:56 And I remember because what had happened was everybody when I was sleeping on the gym floor, right? Like, you know, I was the underdog. You know, my clients were all like, oh, good for you. You know, you're going after your dream. They'd see my blanket and my pillow in the corner of the gym. And they knew I was sleeping there. And it was evident. You know, I lived there.
Starting point is 00:22:15 And that everybody was like pro me. And then people would come in, they sign up like, I'm going to support you, right? And then within nine months, I had hired people and I had a manager. And I pulled up. And I remember I walked in the lobby and all the same, the same people were like, ah, boss man's here. Oh, you're not too good for us now, right? And I remember being so jarred by the experience.
Starting point is 00:22:39 And I was like, you guys rooted for me. And I was like, and now I did what you said you were rooting for me to do. And that was when I realized that people want you to do well, but not better than them. The reason the goal isn't coming up. at you fast enough is because every person you've seen accomplish the goal, you only see it the moment they accomplish it. And the reason that it hurts so much when people are like, must be nice, oh, that happened overnight is because every time you fail, no one cares and no one sees. But when you finally win, people take notice. Disgraded it. But it's the only time they
Starting point is 00:23:22 notice is when you actually win. And so to even further reinforce the point. point, the fact that everyone looks like an overnight success means that the 10 years where they sucked no one saw. And so the fear that you have about people noticing the fact that you fail is ridiculous because they're barely going to notice when you succeed. The difficulty with personal development and entrepreneurship is that you don't know when the end is coming, but you still need to fight. And the only certainty that I can give you is that it's the same thing that every other person who, got through that period went through. But I think the thing that everyone who's listening lacks is the context on how hard,
Starting point is 00:24:06 hard work is, not in that it's complex, but just in that it's a continuous and unending focus on one thing and noticing the details that separate mediocrity from greatness. And if you're like, I don't know what the difference between those two things is, that is the opportunity that hard work reveals. And most people expect that is hard work because that's the hardest they've worked, not the amount of hard work that is required in order to get the level of outcome that they say they want or that they expect. And until you get great, because as soon as you get great at one thing, you realize just the tremendous amount of hours and work that it takes to be great at one thing.
Starting point is 00:24:51 and then there's this oh shit moment that I can express personally, which is you realize that there's so few things that you can be great at. And then the discipline comes down to saying, what are the two or three things that I can be really good at in my life? Because it will take me five to seven years to be exceptional at this one thing. I am okay being a beacon of relentless hard work. And that's the never-ending cycle of excellence. Oh, I just have to figure out what to do.
Starting point is 00:25:27 When I wake up every day, there's only one voice I have to listen to. And so then it's like, just do it for me. Yeah, we need to be reminded more than we need to be taught. It's one of my favorites. There been so many times in my life where I knew I needed to do something, and then I filled all this extra time not doing that thing. And then the moment I did it, I was like, wow, that took way less time. than I thought it was going to take.
Starting point is 00:25:59 And not only that, it took way less time than it took me to delay to actually get to this point. And if I had only started with just doing what I was supposed to do, I could have done four or five other things that I was also supposed to do by this exact same point. Waking up and then trying to shrink the time between when I wake up and when I start working
Starting point is 00:26:18 and shrinking the time between one task and the next task. Like you don't need to take 30 minutes of getting ready to start working. Like you can just start working because as soon as you get into it, you start pulling the thread and you're like, Oh, here it is. And all of the time that I was getting ready to work,
Starting point is 00:26:31 I was just using up my best brain power time on things that truly don't move the needle at all. The vast majority of business owners work a fair amount. They just work on the wrong stuff, and they do it the wrong way. And so they get so little for their effort that they wonder when they're at home empty-handed in bed, why is in this working when I am working? But if you define work, at least the way I do,
Starting point is 00:26:56 which is output. And in order to get output, it's volume times leverage. So how many times you do the thing times how much you get for each time you do it. And so that is the do you work smart or do you work hard. It's you do both. You do as many reps as you possibly get. And you do it with the most leveraged possible. So if I make 100 phone calls, the leverage that I can have there would be how skilled I am.
Starting point is 00:27:18 So if I make 100 calls, I might get 10 times more. And so I worked more. I had more output that somebody has less skill. But the only way you get skilled is by. working more. And so it's this virtuous cycle of doing more and getting better, and then you get more for what you do. I talk about the Rule of 100 on steroids, which is something that I learned from a guy who owned 13 or 14 really successful gyms, and he called it open to goal. And he said, yeah, yeah, yeah. He said, my managers work open to goal. And I was like, what does that mean? It's like, so they work open
Starting point is 00:27:48 until they hit their goal. And so sometimes that means they hit their goal by noon and they can cut out. Or that means that they have to go from 5 a.m. until midnight that night, because that's how long it took them to hit the goal. And so I've seen this across a lot of high achievers across domain. So like, I'll keep shooting free shots until I hit 100 free shots. I will run until this happens. I will practice my presentation until I do zero mess ups, right?
Starting point is 00:28:16 or whatever that output is that you want for quality or quantity. And the more times you do what is required to get what you want, the more times you get what you want. When no one's watching, I work harder than when they're watching. Thinking about it like that has given me this persistent and ever-present scorecard or third party that's like, no one's watching, which means now you have to work, because otherwise you're full of shit. And so it's this continuous reinforcing cycle of me and other me holding the whip behind me to see how much I can take.
Starting point is 00:28:55 But with each lash of the whip that I take, learning that I can take it and continue to trudge on, as long as you keep going, you bear witness to yourself of what you are capable of. And I find that incredibly satisfying in the trenches of misery when you have to go through it. it hard work is the goal. And so it's not like work hard, so that X. Because as soon as you have a so that, then the X is the thing. But if the goal is to work as hard as you possibly can, then the only real output we have is who we become along the way. Then it's something that I can win or measure myself against every day in real time throughout the day,
Starting point is 00:29:44 which is how hard am I working? because that is the goal, because I know that when I look back on my life, the days that I loved the most were days when I had nothing left in the tank. And so then the goal becomes to empty the tank, not where I drive, but just to drive the car as hard as I possibly can. And that means that in the beginning it's just straightaways and just seeing how high I can have the engine. But as it become more advanced, it's like, all right, well, now we've got turns, and then it's turns in elevation, and then it turns in elevation without guardrails,
Starting point is 00:30:13 because we have risk. and so when I think about how hard I want to work the interesting thing about that is that the only person who can judge you on your success is you because you're the only one who knows how much left in the tank you really had there's this huge time delay between when we start behaving in a way
Starting point is 00:30:31 that a winner behaves and when we start winning and the problem is that the bigger the mountain you're trying to climb the bigger the W you're trying to get typically the more delayed it is longer the lag. Yeah, between when you start behaving like a winner and when you start being a winner. And most people don't get the fast enough feedback loop to know that they're on the right path
Starting point is 00:30:54 when they are taking these first steps in the right direction because they have this really big goal, but they forget that with that really big goal comes to even longer delay that it takes to get there. Those times when you get up early and you work hard, Those times when you stay up late and you work hard. Those times when you don't feel like working, you're too tired, you don't want to push yourself, but you do it anyway. That is actually the dream. That's the dream.
Starting point is 00:31:29 It's not the destination. It's the journey. If you guys can understand that, then what you'll see happen is that you won't accomplish your dreams. Your dreams won't come true. Something greater will. It's an amazing thing about passion. If you love something, if you have a strong passion for something, you would go to the extreme to try to understand or try to get it.
Starting point is 00:32:04 Whatever you have a love for, if you have to walk, you would go get it. If you have to beg someone, you would go get it. I don't think you guys understand how present you guys were with me. You know, you guys were there with me at 5.30 in the morning when I was running the track and I was midway through my workout. and I didn't know if I could make it through and I thought about the expectations you guys have for me and you have for our team
Starting point is 00:32:27 and it pushed me through. It got me through those eight-hundreds and four-hundreds and one-hundredths at 5.30 in the morning, so I thank you. We're not on this stage just because of talent or ability. We're up here because of 4 a.m. We're up here because of 2 a day's. We're 5 a day.
Starting point is 00:32:45 We're up here because we had a dream and let nothing stand in our way. If anything tried to bring us down, We used it to make us stronger. We were never satisfied, never finished, will never be retired. My high school English teacher, Mr. Fisk, he had this beautiful quote, and it read, Rest at the End, not in the Middle. And I took that to heart.
Starting point is 00:33:09 I believe there's time for resting at the end, but for me, that time is not now. Thank you for this tremendous honor and acknowledging my basketball career, but I'm far from done. My next dream is to be honored one day for inspiring the next generation of athletes to have a dream, sacrifice for it, and never ever rest in the middle. Rest at the end, not in the middle. Be yourself. Be you. Be you.
Starting point is 00:33:40 There's no gimmick. There's no... You don't have to contrive anything. Who are you? Where are you today? What is your story? Where does that come from? And if you guys can understand that, and I'm doing my job as a father,
Starting point is 00:33:53 Thank you guys so much. I love you. Because if you play with the fear of failing, you'll have the pressure on yourself to play, you know, to capitulate to that fear. If you play with the sense of I want to win, I want to win, then you have the fear of what happens if you don't. But if you find common ground in the middle, in the center, then it doesn't matter. You're unfazed by either, right? And that enables you to really just stay in the moment, stay connected to it
Starting point is 00:34:34 and not feel anything other than what's in front of you. So I try to just be dead center. You start with what do you want your game to be, what would make your game most unstoppable or hard to deal with, and now you work backwards from there, and you start building it one piece at a time, one move at a time, one counter at a time. Who would Shack be if he had your work ethic?
Starting point is 00:35:05 He'd be the greatest of all time. If Shack had your work... He'd be the greatest of all time. Sure. He'd be the first. to tell you that for sure. I mean, this guy was a force. Like, I have never seen. It was crazy. You know, a guy at that size, generally guys at that size are a little timid and they don't want to be tall. They don't want to be big. Man, this dude was, he did not care. He was mean. He was nasty. He was
Starting point is 00:35:35 competitive. He was vindictive. I mean, he was, yeah, I wish he was in a gym. I would have 12 rings. You had to work at it. My God, yeah. Waiting to be close. If you're lazy, man, I don't want to talk to you. I'm going to deal with you. You don't make me feel dumber.
Starting point is 00:36:03 You know, you're going to lower my level. I don't think so. You can go over there. There's plenty of teams in here where you'll fit right in. I don't deal with people that don't commit at that level, but then act as if they do. I don't deal with that. I don't. It's real shit. I mean, listen. So, like, we used to getting this stuff all the time because it was like, you know, he would say, okay, Kobe's not throwing me the ball. Media would take it and run with it and all of the stuff. And I'm like, well, bro, if you were in shape, by the time I run down on a fast break and run back and then run down, you're still coming down the first time, bro. Like, what the hell do you want me to do?
Starting point is 00:36:50 right so a lot of our contention came from that came from that and even though he was older you were still confront him you didn't you didn't kill oh i didn't care man man listen from day one bro from day one i knew for sure rick fox my teammates they all thought i was absolutely crazy the day me and shak got in the fist fight after that day they were like okay Kobe you're certifiable uh Fist fight. Oh, yeah. Fist fight. I'm not backing down.
Starting point is 00:37:19 Listen, either you want to work my ass or we want to have a night. But, you know, there's a level of respect. And for Shack, too, by the way. I know he's told me that that day was a big turning point for him because it was like, you know, he's generally used to talking trash and saying what he wants and nobody really stuck. stepping up and challenging him on that. And when he saw me challenge him on that,
Starting point is 00:37:49 he was like, this kid's crazy. All right, I can win with that. You know, and so that's kind of the beginning of our relationship, I think. That's probably never happened to him. That's probably not something that's common to him. No, it's also. I mean, seven feet off since he was three years old or something, right?
Starting point is 00:38:05 There was all, this is all coming back to me right now. It was also a game in Phoenix. My first year, we were playing. And he kept posting up. but they kept fouling him so he kept going to the free throw him and so he threw the ball out to me I'm not throwing that back in there
Starting point is 00:38:24 so I kept shooting him right so we're getting the time out he's like hey hey hey I'm open I'm like okay and so we go out and same thing come hey hey I'm open okay come back in hey dude you got throwing me the ball I said man that get it off the rebound if I miss bro
Starting point is 00:38:42 you told them this Persian year. 18 years old, man. 18 years old. I must have been out of my damn mind. The story continues. The story continues. So if you fail on Monday, the only way it's a failure on Monday is if you decide to not progress from that, right?
Starting point is 00:39:04 So to me, that's why failure is not existing. Because, you know, if I fail today, okay, I'm going to learn something from that failure and I'm going to try again on Tuesday. Those times when you don't feel like what? You're too tired, you don't want to push yourself, but you do it anyway. That's the dream. It's not the destination. It's the journey. Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.
Starting point is 00:39:32 Like, success is getting what you want. Fulfillment is living what you're made for. Fulfilment and success, they're not even the same universe. People ask me all the time, what does it take to be happy? And I always tell them, it's really simple. One word, progress. Progress equals how much? Progress equals happiness.
Starting point is 00:39:55 If you keep growing, you're gonna feel alive. And if you keep growing, you're gonna have more to give. It doesn't matter how many statues, Oscars they give you or Emmys, or how much money you have in the bank. We've all seen people have all those things and I get the phone call because they're depressed or somebody commits suicide in that area.
Starting point is 00:40:17 It's really an inner game and I think that's what's missing for us today. Everybody's focusing on the outside world hell there's a lot of things in the outside world you'll never be able to control you can influence but you can't control it this your mind your motions your body you have a hundred percent control over what you do with these things and that's where the game is won when the inner game then you win the outer game but a lot of people spent their life trying to win the outer game they won and they're miserable someone can tell your whole life you're a piece of crap but you can say screw you read between the lines and
Starting point is 00:40:54 make your life work someone to your whole life you're beautiful, you're intelligent, you're the smartest person in the world, and you don't believe it. Because self-esteem doesn't come from what people say about you. Self-esteem is earned within yourself. It's esteem for yourself, which only comes by doing things that are incredibly difficult, and then your brain goes, this is who I am. You really got to figure out what you're made for, and nobody knows in the beginning.
Starting point is 00:41:18 So you start where you are and you do what's in front of you, do what's next. Then you keep growing until you start to discover, hey, this is my real passion. So identity is the number one thing I work to change with people, to expand it. Expand your own sense of who you really are and what you're capable of. And the mindset has to be destroy any limitation and move forward, move forward, move forward. I think passion is the genesis of genius. If you've got enough passion, you're going to find answers. Nobody else does.
Starting point is 00:41:49 But most people run out of fuel, meaning they get tired, they get exhausted, they get burnt out, they get, you know, the law of familiarity, they're around something. so much they take it a little bit for granted and I've managed to see something in myself that I found in every great leader that I've ever respected and that is I value intelligence immensely but I know really smart people can't fight their way out of a paper bag pragmatically right what I see is the one common nominator of people that are successful over a lifetime is the sustained hunger hunger is the number one factor you need to be good at pattern recognition And that's what gets somebody strong at anything.
Starting point is 00:42:30 I mean, look at, you know, why is Amazon doing so well? He realized one pattern was valued over anything else, convenience, right? If you look at Tom Brady, a friend of mine, he's got pattern recognition like nobody else at 43 years old. He's able to do things no one dream could be done. He's got more Super Bowl rings than any team. See, what do they see that none of us see? What's the pattern? Then you've got to learn pattern utilization.
Starting point is 00:42:53 It's one thing to see it. It's nothing to use it. And then if you're good after a while, you get to pattern. creation. It's like if you learn to play the piano, most people play other people's music, and there's a point you've learned so much that you're able to create. It really comes down to anyone can learn anything if it's important enough to you. So it's like my drive is not just for me. That wouldn't be enough because it's easy to meet your own needs. It's not that difficult, but if you can find something that you care about more than yourself, your daughter, your son,
Starting point is 00:43:21 your family, your business, your mission, your community, whatever it is, that's really the secret to energy and vitality and strength and really learning. One of the things I want to do with people during this challenge is take things that seem so complex and make them so simple so you do it. Get it really simple, things you do right now to change your life. You can go to experience it that day, and then you get momentum. Day one, day two, day three, day four. And all of a sudden, now what used to be hard to do is easy to do.
Starting point is 00:43:53 And I think for anyone, you've got to understand anyone can learn anything if you can just break it down to its simple core. And that's what I try to do most. And I'm just not willing to settle for a life without passion and aliveness. That's just like there's so much to learn, there's so much to grow, there's so much to give, and I'm wired to grow and give.
Starting point is 00:44:15 And I think anybody gets wired to grow and give is gonna have a really fulfilling life. It doesn't matter what you choose to do, you're gonna be alive. A year ago, people thought we were coming out of, you know, we got vaccines now, and we're coming out of COVID, and it's gonna be all over now,
Starting point is 00:44:29 and people are excited. But now after going through, two years of this. There's a lot of people now that no longer have a compelling future. Like, you know, people talking about New Year's resolutions, most people don't even have one because it's like they never followed through anyway, right? But at least they had something to look forward to. They're starting to get to learned helplessness. Learn helplessness is when something is so bad over and over again, you start thinking the problem's permanent. No problem is permanent. Or you start thinking the problem's pervasive because I haven't handled
Starting point is 00:44:57 my finances, my whole world's over, or because my relationship's bad, my whole world's over. Your life is bigger than that. My goal right now is to shake that up for people. People need a new perspective, and you can't do it by just sitting and thinking. You've got to move your body. You've got to change your energy and your focus. But if I get you into a higher state of being, mentally, emotionally, physically, then all of a sudden you start remembering who you are
Starting point is 00:45:20 and you start coming up with answers that you never even thought were possible before. The idea of remembering who you are is something incredibly powerful. there was a Batman cartoon where he gets amnesia and he gets put in like a camp basically, a work camp and he can't get out. And he feels stuck and weak and, you know, afraid. And then something happens, I don't remember what, triggers his memory.
Starting point is 00:45:47 And he remembers that he's Batman. Just in remembering that he's Batman, he then takes the actions to fight his way out. And look, I know it's a cartoon. But that has always been. resonated with me and whenever I'm feeling anxious about something I always tell myself remember who you are but you're really talking about the most important concept and lasting change identity we all define ourselves in certain
Starting point is 00:46:12 ways so you start where you are and you do what's in front of you do what's next then you keep growing until you start to discover hey this is my real passion and it can change people go for five six seven years and then they usually question their business their career their their body, their relationships. And then one of two things happens. They change direction and feel renewed. Or they go, no, I got a great deal here.
Starting point is 00:46:37 What the hell's wrong with me? And they recommit and they get stronger. But that's life. And if you don't grow, I don't get damn how much you got going for you're going to be miserable. I think it was early on I realized that, you know, one of the things you have to understand about life is everything changes and everything ends. And that kind of sounds heavy on the front end, but it's a truth. If everything changed and everything ends, number one, it should make you appreciate what
Starting point is 00:47:03 you have right now. And then my view is, what's next is always better. If I make it so, it's my job to make it so. And I think that's how we have to navigate. But most of us, most of us have been conditioned not to take a risk. People ask me all the time, what does it take to be happy? And I always tell them it's really simple. One word, progress.

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